Your observer phase has officially ENDED, here’s what comes next

You are not broken.
You are not behind.
You are between versions of yourself.

There is a phase in every real identity shift where the old you has started to die… but the new you has not fully formed yet. That space feels like chaos, confusion, emptiness, brain fog, and internal tension but according to this script, that is not failure. It is transition.

In this episode, I break down what actually happens when you feel stuck between the person you’ve been and the person you’re becoming.

Most people think identity is fixed.
They think personality is permanent.
They think feeling lost means something is wrong.

But identity is not fixed.

Identity is a dynamic operating system.
It updates. It evolves. It sheds old versions and builds new ones. And every real transformation moves through a process not instantly, but through stages.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why the middle between identities feels like chaos
Why emptiness is not a void, but a clearing
Why most people get trapped trying to live in two identities at once
The 3 stages of identity transition: Dissolution, Disorientation, Reformation
How to recognize when your old operating system is expiring
What to do when old habits, goals, and environments stop feeling aligned
Why confusion is often a sign that your identity is upgrading
How to move through transition without running back to the old version of you

One of the deepest ideas in this script is that the transition itself is not the problem, your response to it is. Most people panic in the middle. They interpret disorientation as failure. They retreat into the familiar. But the deeper truth is that the “void” is often your subconscious restructuring your operating system, recalibrating your emotional patterns, and expanding your perception of what’s possible.

This episode also walks through the key trap:

trying to live in both identities at once.

Old identity during the week.
New identity on the weekends.
Dreaming big… while still defending the past.

That internal tug-of-war creates exhaustion, self-doubt, and the feeling that nothing is changing. As the script says:

Two identities, one body = internal war.

This lecture is for anyone who feels like:

their old life no longer fits
their old goals feel hollow
success feels empty
their routines feel like a cage
they are restless, confused, or emotionally disoriented
they can sense a bigger version of themselves emerging, but can’t fully see it yet

The deeper message of this episode is simple:

You are not breaking down.
You are transitioning.

And once you understand the stages, you stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?”
You start asking, “What’s upgrading in me?”

Transcript

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If you clicked on this video, you already know that something has shifted. You've been in a phase, a long one, where all you've done is watch, learn, consume, analyze, sit with ideas, and journal about who you want to become. And somewhere along the way, a quiet frustration started growing. Because you know more than you've ever known, but your life hasn't caught up to your awareness yet. And that gap between what you know and what you're living, that's the observer phase. And today I'm gonna tell you why that observer phase was necessary and why most people get permanently stuck in this phase, and what comes next for those that are ready to cross over. Now, let me phrase this in a way that most people in this space won't. The observer phase is not a spiritual concept, it's not something that the universe assigned to you. It's a stage in your internal operating system upgrade. Think about it this way: when you upgrade your software on your phone, what typically happens? Well, your screen goes dark. It says installing updates. And for a while there, you can't use your phone. It looks like nothing's happening. But underneath the surface, the entire architecture is being rewritten. That's the observer phase. The old identity, the beliefs, the emotional patterns, the habits, the stories. It's all being uninstalled, and the new identity hasn't fully loaded yet. So you're in this in-between space. You can see the old patterns, you're aware of them, but you haven't yet built the new ones to replace them. You're conscious, but you're not yet creating. You're awake, but you're not yet moving. And so the observer phase is the old OS uninstalling. And your new OS loading. This is essentially the observer phase. You have your old operating system, internal operating system, that is loading up, is installing, right? We went over the example over your phone. Think about your computer, right? Your computer is always going to be upgrading, installing new updates to refresh the newest operating system. So this is the same thing here. Your new identity OS is being loaded into your system. And here's what nobody tells you this phase is not optional. You can't skip it. It's a required phase of identity evolution. The problem is in the phase itself. The problem is when people get stuck in it. Now, before I show you what comes next, I need you to understand why you were here in the first place. Because if you don't respect what the observer phase did for you, then you'll end up repeating it. So the observer phase was necessary for these three reasons. So number one, awareness before action. Okay, you need to know exactly what's going on and what's happening so that you can know what exactly you need to do to get your desired outcome. And then number two, pattern recognition. This is super important here. We're essentially just meaning-making machines running different patterns on reputation that are consistently showing up on our lives. And so when we can take a step back and realize what patterns are running, why they're running, and what type of outcomes that is getting us, if they're not the right type of outcomes that we want in our life, then we need to be able to become aware of this and create new patterns, right? So this allows us to see from the very top view what is going on with the patterns. What are they giving us? What are they getting us? And then we need to put in new patterns that are going to get us what we actually want because you're typically writing patterns right now that are not giving you what you want. So, and then number three identity, deconstruction. Okay, so all three of these reasons are why the observer effect was really necessary here, and we're gonna dive into these deeper. And before we do, I want to give you a story. Let's say we have somebody named Mike. Okay, so we'll put right here his name is a Mike, okay, and this is who we'll have in our example here. So Mike spent his 20s grinding, involved in the hustle culture, waking up at 4 a.m., cold showers, cold plunges, side hustles stacked on side hustles. In essence, he was doing constantly, doing a bunch of stuff. Action, action, action. And he made money, he was successful. But every time he hit a certain level, something would blow up. A business partner would betray him, he'd self-sabotage a deal right before it closed. He'd burn out and then crash for three months. Now, Mike wasn't lacking action, he was lacking awareness. He was running an old operating system, one that said, your worth equals your output. And if you stop moving, you die. You see, he was taking massive action from a broken identity, and the results reflected the identity, not the effort. Then Mike went through a period where everything slowed down for him. He started reading, watching videos like this one, journaling, and just sitting with his thoughts instead of running from them. And so for the first time in his life, he could see the patterns, the self-sabotage, the fear of success, and the belief that good things don't last. From the outside, it looked like Mike was stuck. But you see, Mike was in the observer phase. He was doing the most important work of his life. He was seeing the operating system that had been running him for 30 years. And for the first time, he wasn't being run by the program. He was reading the code. Because here's the thing: you can't rewrite the code. Okay. That you can't see, okay? Can't see or read, right? You have to be able to see that code to be able to rewrite it, right? It's just like receiving a box of furniture with no instructions, right? Like you don't know how you're going to put this together. And if you don't have the instructions, you can't read the code, the print, the manual, then you're going to have a really hard time, and you're probably just going to quit, right? So this is the biggest thing here. You have to be able to read, understand the code that's currently being running through all those different patterns so that you can rewrite it. And that's what this observer phase does. It shows you the code, your beliefs, your emotional triggers, your identity scripts, the stories that are running in the background that you never chose, but have been living inside your entire life. Without this phase, any action that you take is just a new identity wearing a new outfit. You'd be Mike grinding from a broken OS, wondering why the results keep crashing. And we talked about why the observer phase was necessary with these three different components here. And when we look at it with full clarity, we see that all of these three things here were actually gifts. So let's actually go like this. Okay, put this like this, and let's give this here gifts. Okay. These were actually gifts that the observer phase gave you. And we go to number one here, the awareness before action. This is so critical, so important here, because now you're able to see things that you didn't see before. You can catch a limiting belief mid-sentence, and you can feel an emotional trigger happening in real time instead of reacting to it hours later. And that awareness is the foundation that everything else is built upon. And then number two, the pattern recognition. This is where you started to connect the dots. You're seeing how the narratives, the money stories, the I can't do this because I'm not good enough. And all of these different narratives that you have been telling yourself, these stories that have been going on, you're finally able to see that they were inherited patterns, codes from your parents, right? From the belief systems of your parents that they had from their parents, and so you're able to see all of these different loops running from the outside perspective, right? Instead of being inside the loops, you're now outside of them, okay, on the outside looking at how they're running and observing and seeing the patterns. Like, wow, this makes sense now. I see this. Now I see why I've been doing X, Y, and Z, or why I had certain beliefs or certain thoughts or certain narratives and stories that I kept telling myself. And through all of this, because you're able to see the patterns, you could now break the loop. And then number three, the identity deconstruction. This is where the old you has been taken apart, not destroyed, deconstructed, examined, held up to the light, and the pieces that don't serve you anymore have been identified. That's not stagnation, that's surgery. Okay, so now let's go over why most people stay stuck in the observer phase. So I'm gonna go ahead and erase the board here. And we'll talk about why most people unfortunately go through this phase and stay there and they don't even realize it. Okay. So why most people stay in observer phase. Okay? Okay, so I'm gonna draw a big circle here. Okay. So this is the observer trap. And this is the cycle. So you learn, then you analyze, then you understand, then you feel inspired. Okay, you feel that inspiration of like, man, I just learned this new information, this new stuff. You feel inspired, but often you do nothing. Okay, you just have this information, this knowledge, this awareness, this understanding. And you often get hit with paralysis by analysis because you know so much, and yet you will just want to make sure you know every single little thing. You want to know 100% of everything before you even make a move, which is not the right way to go. And then from here, you start to feel stuck because you're not doing anything, so you're staying the same, even though you know all of this new stuff, this new information, and so then you just learn more, right? And then it's just this loop you learn, you analyze, you understand. I get it. You get maybe even new neural pathways, and you get understandings and breakthroughs, and then you feel inspired to want to do something, but you end up doing nothing, unfortunately. Then you feel stuck. Like, why do I feel this way? Well, because you haven't physically executed in the real world, right? So you're continuing to learn more. Maybe I need to learn new stuff or different things or a different way to do this or this and that, and then it just continues all over, it's a trap, and this is why it's important to have the awareness and understanding of what you're going through. Most people are going through this process and they're not even consciously aware of it because awareness is super important, right? You have to be able to see the patterns, you gotta be able to walk into a dark room and turn on the light to see what's going on. But what ends up happening is you read a new book on mindset and you feel like you have done something, like I learned this new thing, and then you watch a video about identity shifting or identity evolution, and you feel like you're evolving, and you journal about your limiting beliefs, and you feel like you are doing something about them. But feeling aware is not the same as being transformed, because knowing the code isn't the same as rewriting the code. And here's where it gets dangerous: the more you learn, the more sophisticated your inaction becomes. Instead of just being stuck, now you're processing, and instead of procrastinating, you're integrating, and instead of avoiding risk, you're waiting for alignment. And so the observer phase has become a safe and secure and warm and cozy identity in itself. I want to give you another scenario because I see this constantly. There's a woman, let's call her Maya. So Maya has had a spiritual awakening three years ago. It was real, it was powerful, it was amazing. She was able to see right through the illusion that she had been living in. She started meditating, reading different books from Neville Goddard, The Law of Attraction, all various different types of spirituality, metaphysical books. She started to study the subconscious mind and learning all about the different universal laws. And so three years later, Maya has read 47 books, all on manifestation, law of attraction, metaphysics, all of it. She can easily explain the observer effect, the reticular activating system, the subconscious reprogramming process, all of those different things she could easily explain and even teach a class on it. But then we look at her life and her actual real life experience. It looks exactly the same as it did almost three years ago. Same apartment, same job that she doesn't really like or love, same relationships that often drain her, and same amount in her bank account. You see, Maya isn't lacking knowledge. She's been in the observer phase for so long that observing has actually become her identity. She's no longer someone in transition. She's someone who's made a permanent home in the in-between. And here's the painful part. Maya uses her awareness as a shield against her action. When somebody suggests that she take a risk, she says, I'm not aligned yet. And when an opportunity appears, she says, I need to sit with this. And when she feels the pull to create something, she says, I'm still integrating. And you see, all of that sounds spiritual. All of it makes sense, right? In terms of what she's doing. But the thing is, none of it is moving her forward. She's using the language of growth to stay exactly where she is. That's the observer trap. And so awareness without integration. Okay. Without integration is just sophisticated stagnation. Right? It's almost like she's just making up reasons as to why she is not taking action because she feels comfortable and very warm and cozy in the observer phase, right? Where she's just kind of seeing things happen and not necessarily making things happen. And I'm gonna be honest with you, I'm not going to judge Maya, like, shouldn't be judging anybody in the first place. But a big part of this is that I understand Maya because I have been there. I spent months and sometimes years, depending on the different phase of my life, in this exact loop, consuming, journaling, understanding, going deeper into various concepts, and then my life still was the same. And the hardest part was admitting to myself that my depth of learning and understanding had become my excuse. So the question is, how do you know when you've crossed the line from necessary observation into the trap? How do you know when the observer phase is done and you're just hiding inside of it? Now, before we go any further, if what I'm sharing with you is resonating with you and you want to work with me one-on-one to upgrade your internal operating system so you can become the next version of yourself, you can click the link below for more information. Okay, so now we're gonna go over the three signs that your observer phase has ended. So let's go ahead and erase the board here. We're gonna break down the three different signs that tell you, give you an understanding, an indication that your observer phase is done and over with. So the three signs observer phase has ended. And we're gonna go through each one of these individually. So number one, the knowledge stopped hitting the same. Okay, so in this first sign here, this is where you are continuing to gather information, you're learning, you're expanding your knowledge base, but a lot of this new stuff isn't really hitting the same, right? Like the breakthroughs that you used to get that used to blow your mind, like they're not really the same. It's all just kind of feeling like review for you. Like, I've been here, done that kind of deal. And so you watch a video on like limiting beliefs, and you're like, Yeah, I already know that. You read a chapter in a book about emotional reprogramming, and you don't get that same spark that you used to get when you're like, Wow, this is amazing! I never knew this. That lightning bolt spark is gone. All the podcasts, all the books, all the videos that you're watching, they're all saying things that you've already internalized and that you already know and understand. It's not because you're this grandiose person that knows everything or that you are arrogant about it. You're just understanding of it, you acknowledge it, you are aware of it. And so that's completion of your observer phase. Think about it like school. Learning to read and write was like mind-blowing. Every new word was like a revelation. You're like, wow, I didn't realize that I can put words together and that two plus two was four, like three times three is nine, and three plus three is six, all these little simple things, right, that would be groundbreaking and amazing things for you when you were in that first grade has all gone away. Because by like middle school, junior high, high school, reading was just something that you did normally, actively, right? Without even thinking about it twice. If the learning phase has started feeling flat, it's because you observed what you've already needed. Your OS already has the data. What it needs now is execution, not more input. And here's the test. When you hear a concept that you've already heard before, do you feel inspired or do you feel restless? Because inspiration means that you're still in that learning phase. And restlessness means that you're ready to move on. Your system is telling you that you already have enough information. And the second shift is the frustration. So your frustration, okay, has changed. And what does this mean? Well, in the early observer phase that you went through, the frustration was more so confusion because you didn't understand why your life was the way that it was. You didn't understand your own patterns, and your frustration was more of victim mentality, like, why is this happening to me? If the observer phase is ending, the frustration has changed. It's no longer confusion, it's impatience. It's no longer why. It's when. You're not lost anymore. You're clear. You can see exactly where you want to go. And the frustration isn't that you didn't know the path, it's that you haven't started walking it yet. And the impatience isn't a flaw, it's a signal. It's your new identity pushing against the wall against your old life. It's your upgraded OS trying to run programs that your current reality doesn't support yet. The confusion was the observer phase doing its job, and the impatience that you feel is the observer phase saying, You're done. Now is the time to move. And so confusion equals still observing. Okay? While impatience equals ready to move. Okay. So let's go to number three. You started seeing yourself from a third person perspective. Okay. And this sign here is very subtle, but it's the most powerful one here because it allows you to essentially step outside of yourself, observe yourself in terms of see the patterns, right? See what's going on, see what's happening. You're seeing your old self. You're seeing all of those old patterns, the old reactions, the old stories, and see them as if they belong to someone else because they do. They're no longer yours. It's almost like watching a character in a movie. You have someone that says something to you that used to trigger you, and instead of reacting, you immediately notice the trigger. You watch it happen inside of you almost like you're observing and watching, like a scientist who's doing an experiment, right? Like you're in a lab and you're seeing it in real time. And you think to yourself, hmm, that's interesting. That used to affect me, but now it doesn't. Not anymore. Then you have your old money story that pops up and says, I can't afford that. And instead of feeling it in your chest, you hear it, but it's almost like it's a recording playing in another room. You recognize it, you see it, but you realize it's not you anymore. You see, the detachment is the most important sign that the observer phase has ended. Because it means that you're no longer fused with the old identity. You've separated from it. You can see it, and anything that you can see, you can change. When you were the old identity, you couldn't change it because you didn't know that it was even running, and now you see it clearly, and that seeing has created space between who you were and who you're becoming. If you're experiencing these three signs, the diminishing returns on learning, frustration that has become impatience and detachment from your old self, your observer phase is done. Your system has what it needs, the data has been collected, the old OS has been seen. Okay, so now what I want to walk through is the act framework. This is what comes next. This is a framework that I've developed that helps you move to that next stage where you're going to be taking action. So let's go ahead and erase the board and walk through the act framework. Okay. Okay, so let's break down the act framework. So let's lay this out, and we're gonna walk through each one individually. So you have the A, the C, and the T. So what is the A? You need to align the identity. And with C, you collapse the gap. And then T, you test in reality. So this is the integrator phase, okay? For the A on the ACT framework. And the integrator phase is really important because what you do here is you take everything that you have observed and use it to deliberately design who you want to become. In the observer phase, you deconstructed your old identity, and in the integrator phase, you reconstruct the new one. And here's the key you don't reconstruct it by thinking about it more. What you're doing here is you are constructing it by declaring it. This is where you have identity statements such as we'll go down here. I am X. Okay, da da dot. I am someone who da da da. The version of me that has what I want is X, right? Or dot dot dot. Right? So you are affirming, you're declaring with statements that you are someone who does X, who does Y, who is A, B, or C or X, whatever that may be, right? You're declaring it. Super important here. And this is not an affirmation in the traditional sense, this is architectural declaration. You're not just repeating words hoping that they'll come true. You're defining the specifications of your new operating system. Let me show you the difference. Let's go a little bit deeper here. So you can go up here, we'll draw a little line there, and we'll have both sides. Okay, we'll go old way, new way. Okay. I am wealthy. Okay. And then the new way is I am someone who creates value and receives abundance. Notice the difference here in terms of the specificity, okay? That's really, really important here. And here's another example. I am confident, okay. This is the old way, and then the new way is I no longer negotiate with a voice that tells me I'm not enough. Okay. So the importance here is getting super clear, super specific, instead of having like general affirmation statements, you get super clear, super specific, and it makes a world of difference. And the biggest difference here is that one is kind of like a wish, a hope, a dream, and the other one is like an operational directive, like very specific instructions that need to be followed, right? Almost like a set of instructions that are outlined and laid out for something to run, a program to run, right? An operating system to run and perform efficiently, effectively. And so what you're doing here is you're essentially updating the code. And I'll give you a personal story on this. So when I was deep into my observer phase, I could see very clearly all the different belief systems that I had about not being able to build a business or that I needed to do this, I needed to do that, and I knew exactly what I needed to do, and then I knew all of the different thought patterns that I had in the narratives and the stories that I kept telling myself about why it could work, why it couldn't work, and just all this information and knowledge, right? But nothing changed until I made a declaration, not to the universe, not to a journal, but to myself. And I remember vividly looking at myself in the mirror and telling myself, you know what? I'm gonna do whatever it takes to become successful, right? That kind of mentality and directive of like, hey, we're gonna do whatever it takes. And then through that, I created like a mission statement, like an affirmation that served me as like a directive. So for me, it was I'm someone who creates value in the world, I'm someone who helps people get more customers, get more clients, and I'm compensated fairly for helping them do this, right? So this is where it was very early in my career when I was starting off with doing marketing services. All right, I had a marketing agency that I was just starting out with and helping local businesses, and so I changed my perspective and created a directive, and I wasn't even really aware of what I was doing. Um, but I did it anyways, right? I told myself that I'm someone who provides value, who helps businesses get more customers, get more leads, and then I'm compensated fairly for my services. And so that made a world of difference for me, right? I had the directive completely changed for me, where instead of telling myself these old stories, I created a mission statement, a directive for me that allowed me to step into that and change how I started to see things. Okay, so now let's go into C, which is collapse the gap. And right now there's a gap between who you declared yourself to be and what your life currently reflects. Your identity says, I'm an entrepreneur, but your bank account says you work for somebody else. Your identity says that I'm confident, I'm grounded, but your daily habits say that you scroll for three hours on social media and you avoid hard conversations. And the gap is normal, it's supposed to be there. The old life is a reflection of the old identity, it hasn't caught up yet to your new one. And the way that you're able to collapse the gap is by taking action and even just one little simple daily action itself that your new identity would take and that your old identity would avoid. And so it's really about one aligned action per day, okay, for the collapse. Very, very simple, small little micro action, okay, but you need to take the action very seriously, you need to execute so that it can manifest itself in the physical world, and it doesn't need to be five, ten different actions, just one little small micro action that your old identity would not be taking that shows that your new identity is starting to take over and starting to take form. If your new identity is someone who is a business owner, an entrepreneur, your one daily core action may be maybe setting up your business website or registering your LLC, right? Something that's small that's going to show that you are actually serious and that your new identity is actually taking the reins now. But don't just think about it, don't just plan it. Physically do it, execute on it. And think about it this way: every time that you take a small minor action that matches your new identity, you're sending a signal, not to the universe and not to some mystical force. You're sending it to your own subconscious, you're giving it evidence, and what you're saying is see, this is who we are, this is what we do. And the subconscious doesn't argue with evidence, it updates one action at a time. Then the gap collapses, and not because you forced it, but because you proved it. And so now let's go to the final one here, step three. This is where you're going to test in reality. This is where you become the architect. And what this really means in terms of testing in reality, it means that you stop treating your growth as an internal-only project. You start taking it into the real world and see what happens. You launch the thing, right? Whatever project you're working on, you have the conversation, you make the investment, you make the move, you set the boundary, you put yourself in a room where your new identity gets challenged and you hold it, you hold firm, you stay grounded. And this is where most people revert back to their observer phase. Because when you're taking action, the real world is actually giving you feedback in real time. And feedback is uncomfortable, right? Think about self-reflection. Whenever you're having to look at the results of something, and if they're not what you want, what you like, then it's very difficult to go through that, but it's all part of the process. And let me give you an example, a real kind of scenario that you can think about that really lays this out and illustrates this. So you have two different people that are building an online course, the same topic, the same market, the same quality. Person A launches the course and there's crickets. A week goes by and only three sales comes in. Then their old identity starts to create these narratives. See, I knew that this wasn't the right thing for you. I told you that this wouldn't work. Who are you to charge for this knowledge, this information? You should just go back to work. It's gonna be easier and safer for you. And then that person he listens to that voice. And so he closes the course down. And then he goes back to listening to content, watching videos, podcasts, YouTube videos about how to launch a successful course. And so he essentially re-enters the observer phase back in the loop. Now, person B launches the course and it gets the same results. He only gets three sales in a week. And the old voice says the same things like, Who are you to charge money for this? Like, I told you this wasn't gonna work. But person B has a completely different response. He sees the three sales and he says, Hmm, so looks like there's actually people who value this. The offer works, but looks like I didn't get in front of the right audience or I need more exposure. And he thinks to himself, hmm, what would the architect version of me do in this situation? How would they adjust this? How would they take this data and use it to make this better? You see, person B doesn't retreat into observation, right? Back into the observer face. They stay in reality, they adjust the marketing, they refine the positioning, and they launch again and again. And each time, the new identity gets stronger because it's being tested and held. That's the difference between the observer and the architect. The observer retreats to safety when it sees that reality is pushing back. The architect adjusts and holds the identity and then pushes forward. And so the observer, remember, the observer here retreats. The architect adjusts and holds position. Okay, like it sees the architect sees the challenges, the issues, the problems, the things that pop up, and it's like, okay, I see this. What do we need to do to get around this? Like, what is this data, this input, this information telling us? How do we make this better? How do we modify and adjust and continue on our mission? While the other one is just retreating. It's just going back because it's unsafe. There's uncertainty. It doesn't feel good. Because in this scenario, the architect doesn't need a perfect launch. They don't need external validation, they don't need everything to work the first time. They need one thing to stay into their declared identity when reality tests them. And so let me bring this full circle. The observer phase was not wasted time. It was the most important upgrade that your operating system has ever gone through. You now see what's invisible, you now know what was unconscious, you now understand the code that was running your life without your permission. And that's power, real power. But power unused is just potential. And potential without expression is the most painful place to live. Because you can feel what's possible, but you're not touching it yet. Your observer phase has ended. Not because I said so, but because you can feel it. The restlessness, the impatience, the knowing that something needs to move. And so here's what I want you to do. Not tomorrow, today. Write your identity declaration statement. And then number two, choose one aligned identity action to take. Doesn't need to be large, doesn't need to be a massive thing. One small aligned action. And then number three, do this before you go to bed tonight. Okay? Make sure you do this today. Small little minor action, right? Write out your identity declaration statement. You see, you were never meant to just watch. You were meant to act. You were meant to build, and now your new operating system is loaded. The code is written, the installation is complete, and now it's time to run the program.