Why Your Circle Matters More Than You Think | The Winegards Ep. 7

In Episode 7 of The Winegards Podcast, Eric and Alexis Winegard dive into one of the most overlooked parts of building a successful life: the people you surround yourself with.

The conversation begins with a simple act of kindness from someone they barely knew and evolves into a deeper discussion about generosity, friendship, entrepreneurship, networking, and why your relationships naturally change as you grow.

Eric shares why he believes your circle should evolve every few years, while Alexis reflects on how marriage, business, and preparing for parenthood have changed the friendships she values most.

They also discuss:
• Why generosity creates opportunity
• The importance of surrounding yourself with high-quality people
• Why your friend group naturally changes over time
• Building meaningful business relationships
• The problem with traditional networking
• Launching the Gold Coast Community
• Entrepreneurship, leadership, and personal growth
• Why kindness still matters in today's world

Whether you're building a business, growing your family, or simply trying to become a better person, this episode is a reminder that success is rarely built alone.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Who's Stacey Taylor? She got me s uh stuff off our registry. That's so nice. She wrote, It's always very exciting to me when people like you decide to multiply. Baby girl picked a perfect pair for parents. Enjoy every minute. Are you kidding? Isn't that cool? I'm like, who's Stacey Taylor? I don't think she was coming to our shower. That's so nice. Wow.

SPEAKER_01 0:30

So just to give you guys That's really generous. So Alexis and I, with our marketing company that we own, we we have this incredible relationship with uh farmers insurance. We do help help them with their corporate recruiting, and now we're starting to work with a lot of their agents. And we went to an event in Albany where I got up and spoke for a half hour or so. And um, you know, we got to have dinner with a bunch of the agents in the evening, and uh this one woman just really stood out to me. She had a great energy, she really had like a she was warm and and bubbly, yeah. And you and I started talking with her. I go, Wow, you really give off great energy. And you know, she told me, she goes, you know, it's only been like this for about six months to a year. She goes, I've been through a lot, I'm just finally, yeah. She goes, I'm just finally over everything. Like I'm I'm really happy with my place in life. That was not not to talk her business. I don't even know what she really meant. She's just saying this is like a newfound kind of place for her to be in. Yeah. So we have this wonderful dinner, she's chatting, you know, she's very, very conversational. And um, so I talked to her this week to talk to her about running some of her marketing. She goes, Yeah, I'm gonna sign up, blah, blah, blah, blah. We have this great conversation. And Alexis just looked at her phone.

SPEAKER_00 1:50

Yeah, I got an email.

SPEAKER_01 1:51

This is a woman we we don't even know this woman intimately. And tell her what she did. Tell them what she did.

SPEAKER_00 1:57

Well, all of a sudden I got this email because my registry is on baby list, and it said, like, oh, someone got you something, and I like I'm nosy. So I click on it, but I was like, oh, cool, like what's what's getting checked off the registry. But I the name didn't ring a bell to me because I'm thinking of my like who I invited to the shower.

SPEAKER_03 2:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:16

Um, but so sweet. She got us a handful of gifts and just said it's always very exciting to me when people like you in caps decide to multiply. Baby girl picked a perfect pair for parents, enjoy every minute. So nice.

SPEAKER_01 2:29

Yeah, wow.

SPEAKER_00 2:30

It's like very generous.

SPEAKER_01 2:33

You know, I feel in a lot of ways the the world there's there's a lot of scummy people out there and there's a lot of difficult people, but there is a lot of slingshotting back to this.

SPEAKER_00 2:44

Yeah, I just unfortunately I think that like it's like the the bad review scenario on a restaurant. It's like you hear more about the negative things versus um the positive things. Even though there probably is pretty evenly distributed distribution between the two. I would hope that there's more positive, but like I think of it as like the the negative reviews on restaurants. You just hear more about it or people talk more about the negative things.

SPEAKER_01 3:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:11

That's just the world that we live in, though.

SPEAKER_01 3:13

Yeah. I don't know. I I've uh we're fortunate that like we really are surrounded by a lot of decent people. Like there's been a lot of nice acts of kindness to us over the past few years.

SPEAKER_00 3:27

More than living living down here more than I've ever experienced, actually. And like she's not even from down here, but I don't know if it's just like us and how'd she find that? I don't know. She probably just googled us and typed in like registry. She's a smart lady.

SPEAKER_01 3:42

Oh no, I bet she texted Phil Chow.

SPEAKER_00 3:45

You think so?

SPEAKER_01 3:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:46

Well, it's it's searchable on the web. Is it? You could find Well, you could type in like Alexis Eric Weingard, baby, and it would populate.

SPEAKER_01 3:56

Oh, okay. Yeah. Showing my age here.

SPEAKER_00 3:59

Well, you wouldn't know because you're not the mom that made the registry. Yeah, I don't even know what it was. And and you've never shopped on a registry. I I handle all that.

SPEAKER_01 4:07

No, it's really sweet.

SPEAKER_00 4:09

Very nice.

SPEAKER_01 4:10

Yeah. Wow. You know, it's nice when when you make a connection with somebody and just, you know, she's a female, I'm a male, nothing weird, just two people just genuinely connecting, and she's and I'm genuinely happy to help her business, and she's genuinely happy, happy for us. You know, I'm really good with women.

SPEAKER_00 4:32

Yeah. Do you want to share why you're you're really good?

SPEAKER_01 4:35

Well, yeah, yeah, like no, no, no. Relax.

SPEAKER_00 4:37

Context.

SPEAKER_01 4:38

I grew up with a single mom. And when when you grow up with a single mom, you end up learning how to talk to a female. And you know, more importantly, I know a female's sense of humor, and it's kind of like a more gentle sense of humor.

SPEAKER_03 4:56

Yeah, not raunchy.

SPEAKER_01 4:57

Not raunchy, yeah, yeah. It's very gentle.

SPEAKER_03 4:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:00

Um, and it's easier to make you know a woman gig a woman giggle, right? So you anyway, but but you just kind of learn how to communicate with a female, and I've always actually I've actually struggled to deal with men in my life. So because I never had a man that was told me what to do or was my boss or my father, I really struggled with male teachers, male coaches. I really struggled with them, and I didn't realize that when I was younger, but I did not like another man yelling at me when I was young.

SPEAKER_00 5:34

Yeah, I mean that makes sense, right?

SPEAKER_01 5:36

Yeah, because I wasn't used to it, and then so when guys today, you know, it's not healthy, but you can't come at me like that. You know, yeah, you can't, you can't daddy me, you know.

SPEAKER_00 5:50

Yeah, that's that's interesting.

SPEAKER_01 5:52

And and I think you know, you know what I always tell people when I want to make a suggestion? I never say I want to give you advice. Because I always say, can I give you my can I give you a perspective? Because I think advice is a is a pretty strong word. Like, no, I actually don't want your advice. I'll hear out your perspective though, but I think that's me, because I don't want somebody to go, can I give you some advice?

SPEAKER_00 6:22

I think it just depends on the person in the relationship. I think I showed you that TikTok video where it's like if you know that the person's dumb or like a low-grade human and they're venting to you about something, you just listen and you're like, yep, yep, yep. But if you really value the relationship, then they deserve like the the breath and air, the feedback or whatever too. Yeah. So I think that kind of plays in into it also. Like if you met some dude at the coffee shop and he was in like a really bad mood that day and he's like, Oh, my wife's leaving me, da da da da, you're not gonna like sit there and give him like perspective or advice. You're just gonna be like, damn man, I'm sorry. Because it's the relationship's not there either.

SPEAKER_01 7:01

Yeah, that's a good point. Yeah. What other nice acts of kindness have we seen? I feel like there's been a few recently.

SPEAKER_00 7:10

My memory is so shot right now. I mean, I have no idea.

SPEAKER_01 7:14

Oh, oh, we had some people get us really nice gifts.

SPEAKER_00 7:18

Oh my gosh, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:18

That's how about that?

SPEAKER_00 7:20

Yeah, no, the this whole registry thing. I mean, and I made the You kind of see who steps up. Yeah, you do.

SPEAKER_01 7:25

Because you know how we would be with our people.

SPEAKER_00 7:28

Yeah, I do.

SPEAKER_01 7:28

Like, boom, here you go. God bless you. Boom.

SPEAKER_00 7:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:33

I'm not gonna be known for being the cheap guy. Oh, hell no.

SPEAKER_00 7:36

No. No, I mean it's like the first baby, you know. I really just made the registry though, as like my more of my own to-do or checklist. Because like and and this isn't like to throw shade or anything, but when we got married, we didn't really get many gifts, right?

SPEAKER_01 7:57

Well, we had a destination wedding. A destination wedding. Sure, sure. But our friends have enough money to get gifts.

SPEAKER_00 8:03

Yeah, but but for like the most part, like like and I didn't expect anything either. I wasn't expecting to get anything even with the baby stuff, because I just was like, oh, like I think some people are just like, oh no, like they're good.

SPEAKER_01 8:16

Yeah, they got enough money, sort of thing.

SPEAKER_00 8:18

They'll get their stuff.

SPEAKER_01 8:19

But it's not even about that. It's about it's about taking participating in Sophia.

SPEAKER_00 8:29

Well, like how cute are our neighbors, for an example. Yeah. Like um they got us this really cute play gym, but then they have these two young cute girls, their daughters, and they got me, they like wrote in the card. I thought that was so cute.

SPEAKER_01 8:42

Well, it was funny. We went out to dinner with them a couple weeks ago. And it's so cool when you have nice neighbors. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like our dogs play with each other. Um, you know, we're always like they see how much Uber Eats we get. And it's so good.

SPEAKER_00 8:57

Yeah, like we know what the other person's up to.

SPEAKER_01 8:59

Yeah, we know what everybody's up to. Like, where's Anthony's car today? And uh, but it was funny because they went on vacation this week.

SPEAKER_00 9:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:07

And I don't think they're coming back. Or no, they have uh they can't make your shower down here.

SPEAKER_00 9:14

Yeah, Paula has something.

SPEAKER_01 9:15

And they admitted they got into a huge fight about it. They said it was a big I don't think it was huge.

SPEAKER_00 9:20

Oh no, no, no.

SPEAKER_01 9:21

He said it was a he said it was a thing.

SPEAKER_00 9:23

He just was like, You're doing both. And she's like, I can't swing it. And I was like, it's fine, like you're gonna see her more than anybody because you live across the street, don't worry. But it was just funny.

SPEAKER_01 9:33

They're a trip. Yeah, they're a trip.

SPEAKER_00 9:36

They're fun stuff.

SPEAKER_01 9:36

You know, I like hanging out with people where I don't have to be the the source of energy. Because I'm the source of energy a lot, you know, especially especially with work. Yeah, so it's so refreshing when I can hang out with people that don't need me to strike up the conversations.

SPEAKER_00 9:51

I'll tell you what's refreshing is that normally when we go out to eat and we're not with Anthony and Paula, I have to figure out what to order for the table. This dude takes control, and I love that because normally it's me. Um, but I'll tell you guys a funny story. So, like, you know, this is actually the first time that we went out to dinner with them. Um we've lived in this house now for almost three years, and it's been over three years, right? I don't I don't know, roughly something like that. But so it was the first time we went to dinner with them. We went to this Italian restaurant that we all love down here in Del Rey. And um You know, you never know what kind of a couple you're gonna go out to eat with. I feel like this is like a Larry David Kerber enthusiasm.

SPEAKER_02 10:33

Yeah, great story.

SPEAKER_00 10:34

But you never know, like, okay, is this person gonna want to split by item? Are they gonna split down the middle? What kind of tippers are they? Do they want to try a bunch of things? Do they want to try a bunch of things and still split down the middle? So I will never forget the first question that you get at the restaurants down here because water is the litmus test of how this dinner is gonna go.

SPEAKER_01 10:54

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 10:55

So the water for for people that don't know in in Florida, it's not as good as water in like upstate New York or maybe the Great Lakes area. So the first question that the waiter asked is still sparkling or tap. And um, like still and keep them coming because like we go through so much water. And Anthony goes, thank God. And I was like, what? He goes, we weren't sure like what kind of like dinner mates you guys were gonna be. Like, were you gonna, you know, be like cheap out on the water? And I'm like, you know what? That's actually a really great test. Like you can tell the kind of diner a person is down here based off of if they buy the bottled water or not. Cause I have friends that sometimes won't even order the bottle water, and I'm just like, fuck it. Like, I'll I'll b buy the bottle. I'm not drinking that shit. And they end up drinking the water. But I also don't split the water with them either. It's usually in instances I pick up like the I per item. But like, and that's the thing too. Like, I think him and aunt him and Pamela got like um a glass of wine at dinner most recently. He maybe had a few sips, but it's not like we're like, yeah, put the wine on their tab. Like it's just like it all comes out in the wash. And I think it's always interesting when you do first go out with a couple. He was like, I really wasn't, you know, you don't know if they're gonna be like a I don't want to use the word cheap, but like Yeah, cheap.

SPEAKER_01 12:18

Cheap. But we're talking about cheap people, like we're going out to eat, don't be cheap.

SPEAKER_00 12:22

I know, and then and he's like me though, he like wants to try things, and I so I I like I love it. He just takes control of the menu, he wants to try things because normally like I've had this experience when I go out with some of the friends that I have, I want to try things, and they're like, Well, they won't they don't want to, and then I'll have to say, Well, put that on mine because I want to try it, you know, yeah, and that's fine, but I'm a foodie. I think Anthony's a food a foodie, so it's like whatever.

SPEAKER_01 12:49

Well, you know me too. Like, if I just so you know, when I go out to eat, okay. When I was younger, finances were such a stressful thing for me. And my mom stressed over everything. My mom and I did not go out to dinner. That was not a thing. I had TV dinners, I made grilled cheese sandwiches. I did have steak'ems. You know about steak-ems? Yeah. You don't know nothing about steak-ems.

SPEAKER_00 13:15

I didn't eat them, but I didn't know. I was Chef Boyar.

SPEAKER_01 13:17

I was Chef Boyar steak'em. Uh-huh. But but it's such nasty meat.

SPEAKER_03 13:21

I know.

SPEAKER_01 13:22

And uh, but you know, one of my motivations financially, one of my reasons for going into sales and trying to be a high achiever was, dude, I don't want to look at the prices on the menu. You know what I'm saying? Whether it says 22 or 82 or 162, I don't want to give a fuck. I don't want to, I don't want to look at a woman across the table from me, some girl I'm dating at 25, 26 years old, and say, oh, just look on this side of the menu. No, no. You get what you want, girl. Get two pieces of cheese on that. Go ahead. Right? You know, so like it just sucks living like that. And I never wanted to live like that. And I don't try to spend money frivolously, but like, if I go out to eat, dude, no, I'm going out to eat. I'm gonna get whatever the hell I want. And don't you dare, if we're gonna drink a bottle of wine, bro, show me the expensive menu. Don't give me that cheap bullshit. Show me the expensive menu, you know, minimum couple hundred dollars. If it goes up to 400, 600, I'm good. 800, I don't give a damn. Give me that good wine. That's why I work so hard.

SPEAKER_00 14:31

That made me think of um when you first took me out a few times in the beginning. I actually think it was the first night that we went out. Um, we started with our tequila shot with um cinnamon and orange.

SPEAKER_01 14:43

You warmed up, girl.

SPEAKER_00 14:44

That was actually really good. But oh, that is a great shot. It is good. Like uh chilled tequila shot with orange and cinnamon. It's like I don't know, someone put me onto that and I can't remember, which is very good. I think Dorado on Park Avenue. That's like what they do there with their shots. They'll ask if you want orange or lime. But, anyways, when we moved on to our second drink, um, I wanted to get a glass of wine. And you said, Don't you said to me, and mind you, I was like, you know, entry level and not making a ton of money. He was like, Don't get the cheap stuff. And I was like, okay. And I think you actually picked out the wine for for me to get that night.

SPEAKER_01 15:19

Yeah, I just go by price. Yeah. I just go, what's the most expensive? Let me get that.

SPEAKER_00 15:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:24

So I do remember that. And you like good taste, you like good wine. Like, you're not a wine guy, but like you can you can appreciate the flavor of like a good bottle.

SPEAKER_01 15:34

For sure. I mean, it all tastes pretty similar to me, but but I do notice a big difference between cheap and the expensive wine. It does uh it is a little smoother.

SPEAKER_03 15:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:45

Yeah. No, that's that's a funny that would be a funny skit where like you know, the couples are looking at each other, the wait the waitress goes, Yeah, what kind of water do you guys want? And everybody's like looking at each other.

SPEAKER_00 15:57

Oh, it's just an interesting, it's a good way to test down here. Because if you're like cheap, you're not gonna spend money on water.

SPEAKER_01 16:02

I got a very cool invitation the other day. I was very pleasantly surprised. Yeah. Uh PBD and his crew invited me to a house in the Hamptons. With and, you know, I'm gonna hang out with them for a day there and go to a Yankees game. And apparently this property is one of a kind. So yeah, I think I think I think his motivation is really to get you know, a group of his like insider entrepreneurs to kind of dream big too. Literally to see that property and go, this is possible. I'd I would love a nice.

SPEAKER_00 16:45

Have you been to the Hamptons?

SPEAKER_01 16:46

I've never been to the Hamptons.

SPEAKER_00 16:48

Interesting. Do you know what part of the Hamptons you're going to?

SPEAKER_01 16:52

There's different parts?

SPEAKER_00 16:53

Yeah, there's like Zack Harbor. That's where my friend Charlie has his house.

SPEAKER_01 16:58

And one of your ex-boyfriends or something?

SPEAKER_00 16:59

No, no ex-boyfriends had a Hamptons house with friends in college growing up.

SPEAKER_01 17:04

No, I mean I'm I'm excited to I'm excited to see it. It's definitely has to be on someone's bucket list, right?

SPEAKER_00 17:09

It's charming. Yeah, I mean people love it. I'm curious too about like Nantucket or um what's the other Nantucket?

SPEAKER_01 17:18

I thought that's in Massachusetts.

SPEAKER_00 17:19

It is, but I'm saying I kind of associate them as like a a New England beach area. Like I kind of associate like Cape Cod, Nantucket, and the Hamptons kind of similar.

SPEAKER_01 17:29

Yeah, it is. It is? Yeah. Okay. So is it way far out on Long Island? Way east?

SPEAKER_00 17:33

Yeah. Oh sometimes it takes like really long time to get there.

SPEAKER_01 17:37

So do I take a car or a train? How does that work?

SPEAKER_00 17:40

Well, you probably helicopter? That's what That's what the ballers are. Yeah, that's probably what Patrick will be doing, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:47

Get the chopper.

SPEAKER_00 17:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:49

Um you think I can rent a chopper?

SPEAKER_00 17:52

I think they do have an Uber helicopter.

SPEAKER_01 17:55

Oh, I'm doing that.

SPEAKER_00 17:56

But you should talk with the the his people and see how like they're getting people there. Because I'm assuming they're all staying at the same hotel, but you need to rebook because Yeah, let me text Francois.

SPEAKER_01 18:07

We're gonna go we're hopping on the chopper. Yeah, that'll be dope. Yeah, that'll be cool. That'll be dope. Um, yeah, that's cool. I'm excited about that. You know, it's really cute. So, Alexis, so I'm I don't think I'm gonna travel much this next year of my life. We're supposed to have a baby here at the end of uh end of August. But if I have to go, obviously I will go. It's funny because you kind of didn't want me, you kind of don't even want me going on this 48-hour trip.

SPEAKER_00 18:36

Well, I just feel like it's kind of close personally, but it's fine.

SPEAKER_01 18:40

I mean, it's a there's a whole month left.

SPEAKER_00 18:43

You never know.

SPEAKER_01 18:44

You could bust out right now.

SPEAKER_00 18:45

You you looked it up on Chat GPT and it told you.

SPEAKER_01 18:48

Yeah, but we didn't tell the audience that I looked it up on Chat GPT.

SPEAKER_00 18:52

I just did.

SPEAKER_01 18:53

Yeah. Listen, I would feel terrible if you had to run to the hospital yourself. That's it's it's not about me missing the birth that I would feel bad about, like for my own selfish reasons. It's actually thinking about you being there alone.

SPEAKER_00 19:07

Oh, I'd be pissed. Just letting you know. I'd be fucking pissed.

SPEAKER_01 19:13

Don't have this baby then.

SPEAKER_00 19:14

I'm hopeful she cooks the whole time. I am.

SPEAKER_01 19:17

Dude, I'm going for 48 hours.

SPEAKER_00 19:19

You'd never know.

SPEAKER_01 19:19

And I've had this planned for Yeah, but that's the thing.

SPEAKER_00 19:22

So men, so men are very impulsive. You like impulsively purchased the Yankees ticket for that weekend, which it's fine. I think that she'll cook until 40 weeks because I was late and Paige was late, and I think Marcus was too. But I would be really upset.

SPEAKER_01 19:41

So this could be past August 19th?

SPEAKER_00 19:43

It could, it could be six days after a week. It just depends because they talk about like you know, inducing because eventually the baby's gotta come out, right? Like, um, I think Tara with her most recent baby, she they were saying if you don't go into labor, we're gonna have to induce you because she went past the 40 mark. Yeah, she almost hit 41.

SPEAKER_01 20:03

How do you how do you think how how are you evaluating your friendships during this pregnancy? Vague question, answer however you want.

SPEAKER_00 20:15

Well, I'll tell you the people that do have kids I talk to more frequently because there's just like more of the commonality now. But there's like an additional thing that we have common, something in common, right? Like I talk to my cousin Tara a lot. Um and like I have a different appreciation for like being a mom and like all that stuff too. But then there's the people that like like a lot of the other people I know aren't even married, um, which that's fine. But and I talk about this with Shosh all the time, like it's just like you know, naturally there's less in common when you once you get the engagement, the marriage, the starting of the family. So I would say like the people that I used to kind of like do the fun stuff with, like go for wine or you know, whatever it might be, try a new restaurant, like it's not that it's fizzled out, it's just that I'm not focused on that right now. So it's not like I'm really I'm not doing those things. So there's less of a connection, I guess. But I I don't think anything of it.

SPEAKER_01 21:17

Yeah, that's that's how I look at a lot of my friendships too. Just just in general, you kind of help me compartmentalize it. It's not that I'm not as friendly with certain people or I care about them less. It's just no, no, no. I'm we're just we're doing things differently. I'm doing things differently, I'm behaving differently, I have different goals, different objectives, different habits. I'm just a different person doesn't mean we can't be friends, but yeah, I'm probably not gonna talk to you every day because you know what? I don't have that much to talk to you about.

SPEAKER_00 21:47

Right.

SPEAKER_01 21:47

I can only talk sports so much. I love sports and I even get burnt out talking about it.

SPEAKER_00 21:52

I know. Well, that's the thing that's interesting too. I think that the people that get offended if the relationship have changed, it's because They recognize that they're the ones that is maybe staying still. Like I don't feel anything or feel any different that I'm not like hanging out with those people as much that like I maybe would have when I'd like go have a glass of wine or try whatever I was saying. But they might be like thinking more like like because I know there's that like timeline thing too, like oh fuck, like this person's moving on. Like it's kind of hard not to like watch when other people are moving on and continuing with their life or making different progress. And then there's the people that just everything stays the same, same habits, same everything. So I don't I don't know. It doesn't make a difference to me. I'm you know pedaling along, but maybe for the people that have stayed in the same position, they feel more weird about it. Do you get what I'm trying to say?

SPEAKER_01 22:53

Um I remember I told you this, you probably don't remember this. But when I first met Alexis, she was 23 years old. And I was I just turned 40.

SPEAKER_02 23:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 23:08

That sounds a little crazy now that I look back at it, but but now 46 and 29 doesn't seem bad. No. But 40 and 23, I could get where people are like, what's going on there?

SPEAKER_00 23:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 23:21

If they didn't know you or me.

SPEAKER_00 23:24

Well, actually, your friends didn't know me and they were on very opinionated.

SPEAKER_01 23:29

Yeah, what's this what's this scallywag want? What does this hot little one want for me?

SPEAKER_00 23:34

I'm like, damn, I really gotta work that hard to get in here? Like, fuck. Like, really? They made me fucking work to like prove myself. None of my friends did that. But um, yeah, your friends were hard with me.

SPEAKER_01 23:48

Like, I remember we were getting tacos with one of one of our friends, and he was just not trying to have you there at all. Do you remember we were getting tacos in that place in Rochester? Somewhere in the city. Liberty, I can't remember the name of it.

SPEAKER_00 24:03

Tacos. You'd have to tell me which friend.

SPEAKER_01 24:08

It was Rich. And we were at Rich was mean to me in the beginning. I know he was. There was this place. Alright, I'm trying to Okay, if you're on Main Street and you're on I I vividly know what night you're talking about.

SPEAKER_00 24:22

I don't know if we got tacos.

SPEAKER_01 24:24

Yeah, we didn't. I remember we got tacos.

SPEAKER_00 24:27

Yeah, and he likes he like was giving me an attitude that night in your car while he was in the front seat and I was in the back seat. So I was giving it to him back, and I know that he said something along the lines of like, damn, she's kind of a bitch. I'm like, I am not. Like, you're being hard on me, and I have to like insert myself.

SPEAKER_01 24:44

Um, but I remember telling you, and it's hard to tell somebody something like this unless you've experienced it. But I go, you know, every six or seven years, your group of friends change.

SPEAKER_03 24:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 24:56

And when you're in high school, you have your high school friends, you're kind of just friends based on proximity. Let's be honest. You don't become friends because you have the same things in common. You become friends because you live near each other.

SPEAKER_02 25:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:10

Right? Now, don't get me wrong, if you play on the football team, yeah, you probably become buddies with the football guys, right? But but then you go to college, you didn't intentionally go hang out with Shosh.

SPEAKER_00 25:22

You two Yes, Ithaca College brought us together.

SPEAKER_01 25:25

Ithaca College brought you together. Right. Now you're still friends with her today, but you're not really friends with many of the other girls, right? It's not a bad thing. Every six or seven years, what I've observed over the years is your circle of friends change if you are a growing, expanding, developing person. Now I've known you six full years. Yours think about how vastly different your circle is now compared to six years ago. And what's hard for people to realize, it'll happen again in another six or seven years. It'll be vastly different.

SPEAKER_00 26:00

Well, I'm trying to think about what my circle was when I met you because honestly, I had already kind of like phased out from my like college friendships at that point. Um so I probably, if I had to guess, just based off of timelines and like the way that I know that my relationships have gone, I feel like I wasn't resistant to that. I probably think I've agreed to it because I I mean right after I graduated, like, you know, you have to make an effort when you're not in proximity to keep a friendship and there just wasn't effort.

SPEAKER_01 26:36

I I just feel if you don't change your friends every six or seven years, you're probably not growing.

SPEAKER_00 26:41

So let me ask you this, because this is interesting, because a lot of the girls that Shosh and I are still friends, we're they're all still friends. So what does that say about that?

SPEAKER_01 26:49

It that they're stuck in 2021.

SPEAKER_00 26:53

Well, actually 19.

SPEAKER_01 26:54

19, whatever.

SPEAKER_00 26:55

But yeah. No, that that's there's um I think it's so interesting because there is like so many groups of people that her and I went to school with that are still like very tight-knit. Like I'm sure they have other friends, but it's it's interesting. And I always say to Shosh, I'm like, no, you've just changed.

SPEAKER_01 27:14

There's there's this one guy. I had to stop talking to him. He's a sweetheart and everything, but but every time I would see him, he would come to me and tell me about like, bro, you remember when you did this thing, you know, in junior year?

SPEAKER_00 27:32

I know who you're talking about.

SPEAKER_01 27:33

And I was like, man, I don't remember, dude. No, I actually don't remember at all. I'm like, how are the kids? Like, how's your job going? What's going like, what do you what are you up to? Like how's the family? How's it like he would and and then like he would talk to somebody, yo, remember when E was in high school and he did this thing? And I'm just like, I'm like, man, this dude is this dude is stuck. Like, that's wild. And unfortunately, when people get addicted to drugs or people have big uh develop alcoholism, it's like their emotional maturity stops right then and there. And if you become an alcoholic at 15 years old or a drug addict at 16 years old, you remain that 16 years old because you don't emotionally develop and mature. So you will find some grown-ass men 42 years old talking like a 15-year-old because they've been smoking weed and drinking their whole life.

SPEAKER_00 28:24

Also, probably because too, like if they are taking a if they do have substance abuse issues, like when was the last time their brain was actually like fully present and cleaned out?

SPEAKER_01 28:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 28:33

When they were 15 or whatever age before.

SPEAKER_01 28:36

Your emotional maturity stops the second you become an addict. It happens. I'm telling you, I've witnessed it over and over and over. Yeah, you know how many guys I I've I look at in the eyes that are like that, and I'm just like, I'm like, dude, go look in the mirror. You have gray hair.

SPEAKER_00 28:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 28:52

Yeah, yeah. No, you have a gray beard. Yeah, like you're talking to me like a 15-year-old. Like, remember that conversation I had with that guy, and he was crying to me over the phone.

SPEAKER_00 29:05

Are we talking recent? Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 29:08

And I was like, hey, I'll take you to this party. I got a guy. I want to buy this room. He goes, He's crying. Really?

SPEAKER_00 29:16

No, no. Then he all of a sudden started laughing.

SPEAKER_01 29:18

He's like, okay. I was like, oh my God. It's it's sad. It's sad. It's sad. And listen, I don't listen, anybody listening to this right now, my intention is not to be Mr. Play It Safe, Mr. Mature, Mr. Don't Have Fun, Mr. Everything is Serious. But, you know, like there are like there are more important things in life than than some of the things that people hang on to. And if you want to be a role model and you want to be a model that you know your wife and your kids and your future grandchildren can look after, yeah, you probably should be a little bit more serious. But you know me, I'm the first one to be like, oh, what's up? You want that you want a bourbon? Let's go let's roll. But I'm gonna have one, maybe two. I can't remember the last time I had more than two. I don't know if I'd have this year. Maybe one.

SPEAKER_00 30:19

I think you did at something. I think it was actually the patio opening at the border room.

SPEAKER_01 30:25

Okay, yeah, might have.

SPEAKER_00 30:26

But that's fine.

SPEAKER_01 30:27

I mean I'm very infrequent, right?

SPEAKER_00 30:29

Yeah. Very much. No, it's um and that's not to say either that you think you're better than because I think sometimes people perceive that as oh, you think you're better than what you used to be. No, I'm just not the same person. So we touched on the community. Okay, so and in fact, I think that this a lot of people move down to South Florida from usually somewhere north or somewhere left wing or or wherever, right? And so it took you and I a good amount of time to like actually get engulfed and and meet people. And I think people, you know, there are those people down here in South Florida that are just kind of like South Florida people. Um and what I mean by that is like they're like they're kind of surface level, you know, uh like wealthy surface level. There are that like wealthy surface level people that live down here, right? Like there's there is a stigma around them. And um, it took you and I some time to meet people that we actually like meshed with and got along with, morals, values, the whole thing. But you know, we interact with a lot of business owners, and you know, a lot of the business owners that we interact with, they, you know, sometimes they do work with their wives, or at least the wives are in like a support role and they're involved and they're you know, they're up, they're up to date with like what's going on. But one of the things that a lot of the couples that we're friends with that have come here from other places is that they also agree. It was like hard to connect with people that like-minded, because there's that South Florida stigma. And I think it was actually um Jessie, Francois's wife. She was like, Oh my gosh, like you're so nice. Like, I'm so happy we met. Like um, she said that she had she was starting to feel homesick because she had a really hard time meeting people. And so there's two reasons why we're starting this community. It's number one for you know, people to do business with people that they like and and want to associate themselves with. Like when I say associate, like, you know, it's not there's a high standard, you know, there's not there's not infidelity in the relationship. They they have a strong business, they want to grow as people. Um, I don't think anybody that has joined so far really like has like substance abuse issues or anything like that. So the standard is pretty high. Jeremy Collins of the world. Yeah, they're the the standard's pretty high to like be in this group, but Eric has already kind of pre-vetted everybody because of his uh Gold Coast podcast. So like he's already pre-vetted business owners, you know, like doing X amount in revenue, what their goals are, you know, what kind of people they're around. And so we've we've created this, it's very early phases, but we've created this community. Um it's online where people can connect, but it's every it's for right now, it's South Florida based, you know, like Jupiter down to Miami, I would say. Um, and we're doing our first event tomorrow, which is cool. Um, I know you're very excited about that. So you probably should be the one to talk about it because I can't participate.

SPEAKER_01 33:33

Networking is broken. I can't tell you how many times my salespeople are like, hey, Eric, I can't find good networking groups to be a part of. Some of them you have to go every single week, and it's the same 25 people there giving their one-minute pitch to the same group every single time. Other groups are very dated in terms of their networking. Other groups are all focused on alcohol, cigars, bourbon. Other groups are very expensive to be a part of. You and I have been pitched, how many six-figure pitches have we had?

SPEAKER_03 34:06

Many.

SPEAKER_01 34:06

Hundred thousand, right? It's like, and and and there, there's value. I'm not saying there's not value there. I'm just saying rather than trying to find the best networking group, I'm making it. And I'm taking all of our clients, all of our podcast guests, inviting them all into a community. And I'm gonna bring my clients to all of you guys. You guys can bring all of your clients to us. Let's just get entrepreneurs, CEOs, and business people together, the Gold Coast community. And we're gonna do modern networking. So we're doing our first networking event tomorrow morning. It's called UFCO. We have three UFC fighters, three former UFC fighters, Gilbert Burns, Ian Heinish, and Charles Rosa. Like it's awesome.

SPEAKER_00 34:51

Oh, it's Charles Rosa. Yeah, he's coming too. Dave thought it was Oliveira. Oh he was like, my hero.

SPEAKER_01 34:57

Ah, wrong, Charles. Oh good. But it's still cool. Yeah. Um, and we're gonna be on the beach. I think like 25 or 30 people are gonna show up. They're gonna kick our butt on the beach, probably a 45-minute workout. They're gonna try to do some like Navy SEAL stuff. We're gonna fight on the beach and just get a bunch of entrepreneurs together. They're gonna have music playing, it's gonna be bumping. And then, you know, the UFC guys will probably give us like a little bit of mental toughness type speech. And then we're all gonna go to a cold plunge business. I think there's eight cold plunges in there. Hopefully, all 30 show up. We're all gonna cold plunge, drink coffee, network with each other, and we'll be done by 9:30. So you can even nine, you still still have your work day ahead of you, right? It's not eating into your day. That's cool. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Like that's fun, that's exciting. We're we're gonna do that once a month and we're gonna try to create really cool modern networking.

SPEAKER_00 35:52

I'll tell you why it works on a Wednesday because they're all business owners and they make their own schedules. But um yeah, we'll probably have to look on weekend events more so.

SPEAKER_01 36:03

You know, Morrow goes to bed at 8 p.m.

SPEAKER_00 36:06

There's a lot of people that are.

SPEAKER_01 36:07

He's up at four, he's at the gym by five, he's done with his workout by six, and he's so he can't make it because he's usually at the office by seven. But on the weekends he goes, dude, we can make this a huge.

SPEAKER_00 36:19

I know.

SPEAKER_01 36:19

Huge.

SPEAKER_00 36:21

I know. No, it's very exciting. It really is. I would like to get like a wives chapter.

unknown 36:27

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 36:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 36:29

Yeah, it's just like nobody's doing this. Like there's no like and listen, it's not gonna be for everybody and perfect for everybody, you know. Um listen, when I go to our my one community, the the boardroom, yeah, yeah, you you gotta sp I don't even know what the buy-in there is. It's it's not cheap, right? And you know it starts at 8,000. Yeah, whatever it is. You know what I pay, it's not cheap. Yeah, and and that's cool because I know I'm getting in a room with a bunch of other big dogs, right? So it is a nice filter, but you know, it is cigars and you know, the the women don't like going a lot of times because it's filled with cigar smoke. So, how cool is a wellness focused networking group? Like I want to do a wellness event. Yeah, you know, we can use Eric's business and we can all go there and have like, you know, a wellness type retreat and do fun, cool stuff like that. And um, you know, and don't get me wrong, we will have um, we will rent out a mansion and we will have it catered, and we will have live music and we will have some bourbon and a cigar outside, but that's not gonna be the antithesis of it, the focal point of it. You know, most business people that are hyper successful don't want to be hung over.

SPEAKER_00 37:54

Yeah, it's true, but I think that's why they opt for the cigar.

SPEAKER_01 37:57

For sure, yeah, for sure. And but some people don't like to smoke.

SPEAKER_00 38:01

Yeah, I mean, I haven't gone with you since I've been pregnant. I enjoy going to socialize, but I I I I mean it's a whole ordeal for me because the smell like sticks to my hair for multiple washes, everything has to be dry cleaned.

SPEAKER_01 38:14

So this is gonna be fun. I can't wait. We got four people filming tomorrow. It's gonna be fun. Right on the beach, on the pier. You should see how beautiful it is at 6 30 in the morning.

SPEAKER_00 38:23

Yeah, when I have this baby, we all I'll I'll go.

SPEAKER_01 38:26

And every time I get there and I start working out within five minutes, I'm like in heaven. Trust me, the wake-up's always a little tough. You're like, oh, I don't want to do this. But then you just get right into it. It's so fun. Yeah, what else? Um, what are we doing for July 4th?

SPEAKER_00 38:47

We are renting a boat and hopefully grilling.

SPEAKER_01 38:51

Yeah, we have to go grill.

SPEAKER_00 38:52

Yeah, and then going to fireworks on the beach.

SPEAKER_01 38:55

I want to play nothing but American music.

SPEAKER_00 38:58

I think you put my dad on officially, so it should be good. Or he can bring his uh his head back.

SPEAKER_01 39:04

I'm gonna make an American. I'm gonna Why don't you make a playlist?

SPEAKER_00 39:06

I am it can be like a nice mix of things. I mean, I bet there are some curated playlists already out there, but you could probably make one that's like more in tune for us. You know, we're going on the boat. Um it'll be very nice. Marcus's girlfriend's coming. Phil's parents will be coming.

SPEAKER_01 39:24

Phil Are they coming on the boat?

SPEAKER_00 39:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 39:26

I didn't even know that.

SPEAKER_00 39:27

Yeah, they're here.

SPEAKER_01 39:28

Oh, cool.

SPEAKER_00 39:29

Well, his dad comes in on uh Thursday, so he'll be here for Saturday.

SPEAKER_01 39:33

So Phil's mom and dad are coming on. Oh, Phil is too.

SPEAKER_00 39:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 39:36

Awesome. Yeah, it'll be nice. So me, you, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, your brother's girl, Phil, and his parents. And we have enough room for a couple more?

SPEAKER_00 39:44

I think a couple more, yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 39:46

I was gonna buy Ian and Joni.

SPEAKER_00 39:48

That's perfect.

SPEAKER_01 39:48

Okay, cool. Yeah, yeah, I'll I'll talk to him about it too.

SPEAKER_00 39:50

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 39:51

Yeah, it'll be fun.

SPEAKER_00 39:52

No, it'll be nice. I mean, I'm just like in like a in eating mood right now.

SPEAKER_01 39:57

Oh, you want to talk what let's talk about your Indian food experience.

SPEAKER_00 40:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 40:01

How good is Indian food?

SPEAKER_00 40:03

I know I've I've always enjoyed Indian food, but like we I hadn't found a place down here that I liked, so we went out to eat. Was it Saturday? We need to go tomorrow. They're closed today. Work out extra hard so we can go. It's not even like unhealthy food. No, but so we went and like it was like an earlier dinner, but also it's not we're not in season right now, so it's not super busy. We went in around like 5 45. And there was like a black cat right when you entered, and like incense burning. And I was like, huh. Like, what's going on here? There's only one other couple eating rooms.

SPEAKER_01 40:35

And I was hyping it up. I was like, babe.

SPEAKER_00 40:37

I wasn't like I wasn't like scared, I wasn't judging. I just was like, This is this is different than what we normally do. But oh my gosh, it was really good.

SPEAKER_01 40:48

When did you know? When did you know it was a 10 out of 10?

SPEAKER_00 40:52

Uh, when I had that first appetizer, the onion one.

SPEAKER_01 40:55

You didn't tell me that there. You weren't like, whoa.

SPEAKER_00 40:57

I thought it was really good. I would have actually taken those home as well. My bad. No, it's fine. Those are banging. Um, no, I I like and honestly, the owner was so nice. He was so nice.

SPEAKER_01 41:07

Rom Patel.

SPEAKER_00 41:09

I thought Rom.

SPEAKER_01 41:10

So I said Rom.

SPEAKER_00 41:11

Oh, Rom. But yeah, so what's crazy is that Eric went there with some um an acquaintance and left his sunglasses behind. This is months ago. This guy just randomly pulled out, like, Eric hasn't been back probably since January or whenever he went. The owner just pulled out Eric's sunglasses at this place. I'm like, oh my gosh. Wow.

SPEAKER_01 41:31

And these none of my sunglasses are less than 500 bucks either.

SPEAKER_00 41:34

No, you lose everything.

unknown 41:36

I know, I know.

SPEAKER_01 41:39

Yeah, but but it was 10 out of 10. Indian Indian, like, listen, white people food is a little bland.

SPEAKER_00 41:45

But what even is white people food?

SPEAKER_01 41:47

I don't know. Like, you know, macaroni and cheese.

SPEAKER_00 41:49

Yeah, but if it's like southern mac and cheese, it's good.

SPEAKER_01 41:52

Southern. Yeah, southern. Okay. I'm talking, you're not gonna find a whole lot of flavor in upstate New York.

SPEAKER_00 42:00

Well, I think all the spices are like harvested in India. Like, I think they have the climate for all the spices.

SPEAKER_01 42:07

Dude, the flavor's so crazy. I remember just eating it just like damn, every bite was.

SPEAKER_00 42:13

I want that saffron rice.

SPEAKER_01 42:15

With the raisins in it, boy. Yeah, just your like do you saw when he brought out the rice? It was just like perfectly fluffy. It did look fluffy. I you just knew it was gonna be.

SPEAKER_00 42:25

I love basmati rice too. So good. Yeah, yeah, we're going tomorrow. I've decided.

SPEAKER_01 42:30

All right, we'll do it. We'll do it tomorrow.

SPEAKER_00 42:32

Shout out to Harvest Indian and Boca Raton.

SPEAKER_01 42:34

Is that what it is?

SPEAKER_00 42:35

Yeah, it's broilbomb place, I think.

SPEAKER_01 42:37

Yeah, yeah. We're probably pretty good. Yeah, yeah. Um cool. Guys, thanks again for tuning into the wine guards. Just, you know, husband, wife here, just trying to navigate through life. Um, listen, comment below if there's any particular topics you want us to discuss. Alexis and I own a business. We're trying to build a family. We don't, like I said, we don't think we have it all figured out. We're trying to figure it all out on the fly, hopefully with a little bit of preparation. But uh make sure to like and subscribe. We'll see you again.