How to get MORE of anything

Imagine you fill your car up with gas, but then three months go by and you’ve still not driven it since. Would you drive it to the gas station to fill it up again? No. Why would you refill something you haven’t even used yet…. It’s the same with your desires.  

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Hello, gorgeous souls, and welcome back to the Beauty and Positivity Podcast. My name is Alyssa Skinner. Today's episode might help you understand why you've not gotten that million dollar idea yet, or why you haven't quite reached the level of self-love you desire to be at, or maybe you're just not feeling abundant yet, and you've been doing all the right practices to feel abundant. You're thinking positive, reading the books, listening to the podcasts, yet you feel like you're still barely making it or nothing's changing. Listen until the end, and I guarantee you will feel lit up like you just received a new code to unlocking your dream life. So, my advice today is if you want more, use more of what you already have right now. Your body does not give you things just because you need it or want it. It gives you things if you use it. Okay, so you don't get more motivation to go to the gym when you never worked yourself up to go to the gym before, right? So your body's not going to give you more motivation to go because you didn't use any motivation to go in the past. You don't get more ideas when you didn't act on the idea you had last week. You don't reach more self-love or self-worth when you criticize yourself every time you walk past a mirror or you overthink something that you said to someone over and over again, or you criticize yourself for a decision that you made. If you want more, use what you have now. That is how you expand. I'll explain more. If you want more motivation to go to the gym, go to the gym today, go tomorrow. When you do, you receive. So that is how you expand. That's how you expand the motivation, the excitement, the enjoyment to go to the gym, the enjoyment of feeling good, and that snowballs into self-love and self-worth. When you have an idea on how to make money, or a career idea, or a business opportunity, and you tell someone and you say, I'm gonna do it, I'm so excited, and then you never act on it, you don't do anything with it, you forget about it, you can't be surprised when you don't get another million-dollar idea. Your body and brain work to conserve energy. So, why would it use more energy to expand something you didn't use in the past? You're ignoring it or forgetting about it, you're just not using it. And so it's natural for your body to not produce more of it, right? So you won't receive more of whatever it is that you want because you didn't use what you had. So when it comes to money, when it comes to having more than enough, being in an overflow, having an abundance of money at all times to live the life you want to live, a life of comfort, freedom, and luxury. If you want to feel abundant, you have to feel abundant right now. Your body will expand the abundance you feel, even if it's just for a moment. You are choosing to use abundance. You're choosing to feel abundance, you're choosing to focus on abundance. And so naturally, your body, your brain, your nervous system works to expand what you're using, what you're thinking, what you're focusing on. People are always asking me, so I don't know, most of you probably know if you follow me on social media. I give away a free service every single month in the salon. I don't plan who I'm gonna give it to. I just work for that whole month until I have a conversation that lights me up and it sparks me to give their whole service that day for free. And I surprise them at checkout. It's not planned. The reason I don't choose anyone is because I want it to feel authentic and magical and exciting, so I leave it all to spontaneity. A ton of people were asking me, how long did you wait to feel secure enough financially in your business to give away free services every single month? Or people ask me, How much money did you start making before you decided to start leaving cash around the grocery stores? Um, I don't know if you've seen my videos I post sometimes that I go hide cash around the grocery store with little sticky notes on them. I got this idea from someone named Catherine Zankina, love her. And I just put little sticky notes on them that say money's always flowing to you, something inspirational, right? Just spreading abundance, which another story, another conversation actually makes you more abundant when you make others abundant, but I do it because it feels good. So I like to surprise my girlfriends when we go to lunch or brunch and I just pay the bill. I did not start doing these things after I became successful. I have been doing these things for almost a decade. Maybe longer, of course. I have only been successful, quote unquote, for about three years. So do you know how much mental practice it required from me to practice feeling abundant? I took inspired action when I was broke as shit to pay for the person in the Starbucks line behind me. I hid cash around the grocery store, five dollar bills, nothing big, but I was proving to myself, proving to the universe, focusing on abundance, focusing on the identity, the version of me who is rich, because every time we think about being rich or winning the lottery, we're like, dude, I would just throw cash at people. Like I would be lit up, right? I know you've had a thought like that. You would just give, give, give, give, give because I'm so abundant. I can afford it. Giving feels good. Giving feels good in our heart, in our soul. So if that's what you would do when the version of you who is abundant is throwing cash at people, paying for people, surprising people. I mean, we see those YouTube videos walking up to the grocery store saying, Can I pay for you today? I just feel like doing something nice. That is expanding abundance. Just giving away money to someone. So I have had people like ask to borrow money. I do not lend money. I give it or I choose not to. It's very simple for me. My dad always taught me to never lend money, especially to family and friends, because that can create tension in relationships, and I've seen it very much so. Just a side note, but I take that seriously. So I do not lend money. If someone's in a rough patch, I either say yes, I can help, or I can't help. But I can give my time or my energy or I'll share the link. You know, whatever it is. Help isn't just finances. So just a little side note. I give, give, give, give, give. I give money, I give services, compliments, smiles, hugs, right? Love for free. I love it. Whatever you want to expand, do that thing right now. When you have an idea, write it down. You don't have to act on it immediately if you're in the middle of something, but write it down because you will forget. So this is also how you act as if. In my previous episodes, or maybe you've heard manifestation coaches talk about this. Act as though you're already living the life you want to live. Act as the person that you want to be. Be her right now. So let's say your dream life is to be very wealthy, have a successful business, a loving marriage, a very comfortable home. Your space is just fulfilling. You love your life, you just want joy, right? You have to start acting as if and decide it's already done. Decide you're living that life right now. Pretend that you are literally in a movie and you are the main character because you are. People make fun of that, people call it conceited. I am so serious. You are the main character in your life because all you are responsible for is you and your happiness. As soon as you are happy and fulfilled, you can make others happy, you can offer way more with a full cup. The reason acting as if works is because reality matches you, it matches whatever you're doing, it expands whoever whoever you are being. The universe expands what you focus on, it expands what you're feeling. So the ideas that come to me are constant. My creativity is flowing only when I take action on them. And the action can be as simple as grabbing my phone and talk texting it into my notes app real quick. Our brain is focused on so much, it will forget. It is constantly taking in. We are very overstimulated, especially because of our phones. We need nature. So I do take pride in how much time I spend in nature. It is so important, especially as a content creator. I use my phone a lot as a cosmetologist. I use my phone to communicate with clients, let alone having a phone for my personal life, right? That's a lot. I spend lots and lots of time barefoot on the ground, sitting outside under the tree, staring at the sky, meditating, doing yoga, going to the gym. I refill my cup. That's how I receive. When you receive, you have more to give. So that's another great example. If you want more free time, set aside more free time for yourself. Wake up 30 minutes earlier. Just to sit quietly in the morning. I mean, you've watched my videos. I love getting my coffee and just having the morning to do whatever I want, even if that is doom scrolling. I don't care. That time is for me. Sometimes I just want to scroll my phone with my coffee in the morning on the couch. It's lovely. And I do it outside because I'm I like balance. This is just a simple reminder of how powerful you are. If you want the creative ideas to start flowing in on how to make more money, on how to or you want more free time, or you want to work for yourself, take action on the ideas you already have. Just try it. If that idea doesn't work, the next one will come because you took action. The law of cause and effect. You have probably heard my previous episodes talking about just like the SP 500 companies and how they are incredibly successful. A lot of times, whatever they're selling and doing now is not what they started as. They went through four, five, six different businesses until they became Amazon, until they became Colgate. Okay, there's a lot more, but I can't think right now. But your body doesn't bring you more of something you didn't use. Think of like a business budget, right? If you have money left over with the business budget, your corporate, your CEO, your funding is gonna be cut. That money was not used. Why would it give you a bigger budget? The universe is giving you a budget, it's matching you. If you're not using the ideas, if you're not expanding your self-love, if you're not feeling abundant, none of that will be expanded and amplified. Just do a little, just start with a little because that builds and builds and builds. So I hope you enjoyed today's episode, short and sweet. If you want more tangible practices on what to do, to rewire your brain, to step into an identity that's living the dream life that you desire to have on my social media, Gorgeous by Alyssa. You can click the link in my bio, Enlightened Babe Academy. This is how I'm teaching you all the practices that I did, every piece of knowledge I learned that got me my dream life. It got me where I am today. And I'm still using those exact practices to rewire any old limiting beliefs that come up because they still come up. It's never a destination, it's always the journey. And I know that's cliche, but until I got my dream life, then I really understood things aren't just perfect. I'm not just healed. Like I have to work on my self-love, I have to work on my abundance, I have to work on my spiritual hygiene. I read, I journal, I exercise regularly, daily for a lot of those things. And so I just want to normalize that just doing a little is sustainable. You don't have to be perfect every single day as long as you put effort into it. Sometimes I was looking at my old journals. Um, I went like three months without journaling last year, and I was like, wow, that is not like me. But, you know, I felt I honored myself in that moment, I guess, and I didn't make myself journal. Um, I did regret that because I really needed to look back on a certain month and I didn't journal that month. So lesson learned. But I hope you enjoyed today and just expand the life that you want. Expand the feelings that you want to feel every single day. I'm sending you so much love and success. Bye.