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Welcome to Brewing Better Marriages from T South Dakota with Philip and Debbie Sanders. If these podcasts have been a help to you, pass it on to others and let us know with an email and also include any questions you might have on the subjects that we cover. A word that you will hear often is honorable, which means Honored, esteemed, precious, costly. And the reason we're so we're being so repetitive with this is we're trying to combat the spirit of our age, a non-committal attitude. We want you to make a commitment in your marriage. In past podcasts, we have discussed having a marriage God's way. That includes a responsibility. It also includes romance, and then if you'll do it God's way, it brings a reward.

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And then we talked about a relationship God's way. We talked about communicate, cultivate, and companionship.

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But today we want to talk about having a home God's way. And the first thing that we say where that's concerned is morality. Now, this isn't the opposite of immorality only. But morality involves many things. So what does 1 Timothy 4 and 12 say, Hun?

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Let no man despise thy youth. Be thou an example of the believers in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.

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So therefore, he gives us a directive on just keeping good principles in our home of morality. Morality must be first formed in the home. You know, hun, when we had the daycare center, we we had a training that told us that the frontal lobe of the brain is the last to develop. And that is the moral lobe. That is where all of your moral principles come through. Matter of fact, the world knows this. Go rent a car. Guys, gals, you have to be at least 25 to rent a car, or you did. I think it's still that way. Why? Because the world says that you have finally come to a place that you're grown up or you have become moral. Who is it that should teach these moral principles? It should be the parents, and personally, I believe even the pastor in the church. It should be the one that sets these boundaries for them. What are some of the boundaries that the women are to teach, hon?

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Titus 2, 3 to 5 says that they should teach the younger women to keep their husband and keep their children and keep their home.

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So do you want to define those any or keeping the husband?

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You want to keep them so he wants to come home.

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And the children.

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They're happy at home.

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Okay. What makes them happy? Keep 'em clean. Well, that's part of it. I mean, even after a rainy day outside in the mud. Sure. Okay. Keep 'em happy and fed.

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Taken care of properly. Uh you know, uh uh I think sometimes we feel like if we keep 'em going to every ball game that goes on and every extracurricular activity outside of the home.

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Youth camps, camp meetings, etc.

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That's what's important. But what's important is what are you teaching them at home? What kind of example are you setting for them at home?

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You can't just leave it up to the pastor. You can't just leave it up to the Sunday school superintendent. You have to be involved in your children. And we'll deal with that in another podcast in the future.

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Morality also consists of honesty, truth, protocol, which is your conduct. It can be church attendance. Um that teaches us uh to be consistent and the things that we need to learn in the house of God.

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Can I interrupt you here for just a minute and tell you that um protocol I use as a definition, uh, there's a young man that was in our church, and uh we took a a missions trip to the Philippines, and uh Brian Jones uh attended with us. Well, he'd get up in the morning and he'd iron his underwear and he'd iron his socks, and wasn't long until the Sanders clan kicked into their, you know, jabs with him. What does that have to do with he was in the Navy. And uh what does that have to do with winning a war? And he says, nothing, but that is protocol. They taught them to discipline themselves so that they would be ready at any moment. And that's protocol with morality. It's just defining these things so that at any given moment we're ready to do what's needed to be done.

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Whether it's opening the door for an elderly person or it's helping someone uh with a task that they're ha they have to do, or picking up trash laying on the ground. It's just things that are just part of good moral ethics.

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You know, since we've moved to T, um I'm an outdoorsy type guy, and sometimes to be cooped up in this apartment I'm not saying with you is a bothersome, but uh I get out and do some walking, and many times I'll make three or four laps around this whole block of this apartment, and sometimes I'll take my little grabber and a five-gallon bucket and I'll just pick up trash. I've had more than one person say, Why do you want to do that? You're not paid to do that. Well, it's because it's protocol in my life. It's because I I I don't like seeing uh where I live look trashy, and so I pick it up. I I capitalize on the playgrounds where the kids are. But that's what you need to develop in your children and in your life is have some protocol to just do the right things. Um Greg Tinsley, I heard him telling one time about his father that he'd come home and um his they were pastoring in Seabury, Kentucky, and uh Greg had been just slipping around smoking a little bit. And um but the greatest thing that he said was that his dad one day came home, I think it was a telecaster that he'd bought for him. He was wanting to play the guitar, and he is an accomplished guitarist. But Greg said he bought that, and the first thing they did was go into the church there at Seabury, lay it on the altar, and dedicate it to God. Well, he was playing in a large venue in Texas, and one of the owners of that venue, very popular man, came by and in a drunken stupor, the way I remember this story, had asked him to play uh When the Saints Go Marching In or Amazing Grace, one of those songs that are very popular in the church. And he said, No, I can't do that. And uh he said, I'm paying your bill. You will do that. And he said, I just reached around, started unplugging all of my instruments and and amplifier and took them out and put them in the in the bus. Why? Because he had a protocol that was placed in his life as a child. What kind of protocols are you placing in your children? Um, Deb, what kind of protocols did you place in your children?

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Well, I'd hope that I I've give left an example of this is Sunday and uh we're going to the house of God. Uh this is revival, and you know, they know there's not whether I'm am I going or not, they w they knew they were going. Um whether it was church attendance or what honesty, truth, telling the truth. You know, uh hey, you know, uh kids will be kids, and there's times when you're gonna you're gonna catch them, and but you need to deal with it. You need to uh set it straight and and we get into that when we talk about children, but we need to be an example and to establish it.

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When we go home to faith and it comes time for offerings and uh tithing offerings, who's the ones that are coming around begging us for offering? Our grandkids. Why? Because the protocol was put in their life that this is what we do when we come to church. When we sing, everybody sings. When we pray, everybody prays. And when the preacher's preaching, I this is age appropriate, of course, but everybody's listening. And there's some of the biggest ameners. We went to revival recently, brother Ben Benfield's son. I'm telling you what, he was one of the biggest backers and ameners, and I don't remember his age. Little one and six-year-old. Six-year-old was right up there almost to the platform with his dad while he's preaching. Why? Because parents had instilled a protocol in him that this is what we do when we come to church. We don't sit around, chew gum. Oh, did I just say that? Um You know, I really believe the devil invented gum, and the reason I believe that is what it makes you want to do when you step in it. Okay, that's enough. I veered off just there a little bit. But we don't just come to church to see buddies and to goof off and sit on the back seat. Did we sit them on did our kids sit on the back seat?

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Remember, they sat in front of us or beside us at all times. Why? I wanted to be able to see where they were at and what they were doing. And they can't get in if they're in the back row carrying on.

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So this is this is all part of protocol. This is all part of you instilling principles in your children, uh moral principles that are there. Hey, listen, it's about time again, so I just want to tell you that uh we appreciate you listening in and uh send us an email, will you? Sandersministries at gmail.com. Not only that, but check out our website. It's sanders ministries.org. Hey, thanks for listening in. Appreciate it greatly. God bless you.