The Feminine Medicine For Those Who Overproduce

005 - Your energy doesn’t disappear overnight. It leaks out in quiet ways: saying yes when you mean no, pushing through exhaustion, absorbing criticism, scrolling past your own needs, and calling it “just life.” I’m sharing a grounded, practical look at Shakti, the divine feminine energy that Hindu tradition names as the feminine principle of divine power, and how we can reclaim it as a daily way of living.

We talk about the biggest Shakti drains I see most often: self abandonment in relationships, people pleasing, suppressing emotions, and silencing your truth to keep the peace. I offer microacts of truth you can practice immediately, plus a simple receiving challenge that can feel small but creates a massive shift. When you learn to receive support, compliments, and care without rushing to earn it back, you start rebuilding safety in your nervous system and reconnecting with feminine magnetism.

You’ll also hear how toxic inputs and environments slowly dull radiance, why “energetic hygiene” matters as much as nutrition, and how unprocessed grief, rage, and shame can lodge in the body until we give emotions an outlet through movement, breathwork, journaling, and ritual. We close with embodied spiritual practice and a gentle return to pleasure and sensuality through the senses, warmth, and presence, including forest bathing inspired practices you can try today.

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Welcome And The Core Invitation

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Welcome to Flourishing Femme. Align, awaken, and thrive. This is your invitation to slow down, rise above the pressure to stay in the hustle, and return to your innate feminine truth and to what really matters. Hosted by Alignment Coach Marnay Bocette of Awakened Alignment Academy, each episode offers a focused practice you can apply daily. Marnay shares inspiring invitations to explore that help you let go of old patterns and create more space for flow, confidence, passion, and joy. Step into your divine feminine essence and watch your life and relationships begin to flourish.

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Hello and welcome back to another episode of Flourishing Fem.

What Shakti Means For Women

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Today we're going to talk about the Shakti, which is the actual Hindu definition of Shakti, is the female principle of divine energy, especially when personified as the supreme deity. So the way that I look at that is divine feminine energy is a power, a divine power. And when we can use it as a intention to live by, a value to embrace, a characteristic to embody, we can find a very divine power within us as women. So today we're going to talk a little bit about not only the definition, but um knowing and understanding that this power within us, innately within us, isn't something that you have to go out and earn. And there are some things that we do in our lives that can actually drain that energy or that power. And so we're gonna just address some of these things so that you can be aware of that, and at the end, we'll put together a little self-check list to just begin to get curious and notice perhaps ways that this power or energy could be slowly draining from you. So the moment you start tending to even one area in your life, whether it's speaking your truth, reclaiming your rest, curating what you let into your energy field, you'll feel a radiance rise again. When I just started focusing on the value or quality or characteristic of receiving, I could feel a big difference. And I started to feel like I was reclaiming my energy, my ability to experience a power that felt more spiritual, more from a spiritual foundation. And I don't mean religious, I'm talking a higher, more divine expression, very much like this definition, as it says the female principle of divine energy, especially when personified as the supreme deity. And we are, we are divine. Every person, every human being is divine. Women have a energy expression, if they choose into that, they can develop an energy expression that can personify that supreme deity. So um, as I'm working through so many of these changes that I'm making in my life, I thought I really want to reclaim my divine energy, my ability to know me as a supreme divine being. And so in order to notice when I am not doing that, I got to be aware of things that were not adding to that personification or was pulling from my divine energy.

Self Abandonment And Micro Truths

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And one of them is self-abandonment in relationships. Um, again, this is all going to be correlating. You're going to see how it just flows right along with receiving constantly people pleasing and suppressing my emotions or silencing my truth just to keep the peace, to keep the peace or you know, peace at all costs. That I would notice would cause me to like have energy leaks. My energy would feel depleted, and I could I would tend to feel exhausted, especially in some of my relationships, even if nothing really dramatic or traumatic was happening. So what I what you can these are suggestions and invitations for you that you could choose to do instead is practice microacts of truth by saying what you actually really want to. So let's, you know, if you were given a choice of perhaps what restaurant or fast food place to eat if you were with someone and they ask you, just practice speaking your truth. Oh, I really like tacos tonight. And where you would actually like to go to get those tacos, or in a relationship, how you would like to actually feel, or what you would like to actually receive. Each of those small microacts of honoring the energy of the divine feminine and that principal value and characteristic of receiving helps restore this power and this energy. So we are so good at receiving things that are not in alignment with us. Somebody says something bad about us or a critical or whatever, a lot of times we just let that pound us, we just let it go right straight to our worth and our value and our identity, and we believe it and we receive it. But when it comes to other things that are in alignment with our truth and with our divine feminine essence, we we shrink or we resist. And so that right there is self-abandonment. But these other things that we also do: people pleasing, suppressing our emotions, silencing our truth, keeping peace at all cost, um, that also can deplete that energy. Our voice is an extension of our expression of the divine feminine that we're wanting to develop or strengthen or remember. That's the big part right there is remember who we really are and the divine feminine supreme being that we truly are. Another

Burnout From Doing Without Receiving

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way that we can actually deplete our energy or our life force energy in the divine feminine expression is to do excessive masculine doing, the doing, doing, doing, doing without feminine receiving. Modern life rewards doing, achieving, the hustle, the performance, the results. And when you live only in that mode, you sever from the receptive, intuitive side of your feminine power. And this creates burnout, dread, deadness, even if you are successful. So here's something we can do instead. Schedule receiving into your calendar. Nature walks, massages, meditation, creative play. Receiving is not laziness, it's how you recharge your magnetism. And even I I give this challenge a lot, as you've probably heard in some of the other podcasts, to just when someone gives you a beautiful compliment, stop, open your hands in a receiving position, look into their eyes, and thank you, I'll receive that. Someone wants to buy you dinner, thank you, I'll receive that. Someone wants to make your bed for you or clean your house for you. Thank you, I'll receive that. You know, I've experienced a resistance in this when I've had people offer to help clean my house. I I own an Airbnb, and a lot of times even the guests will offer to, you know, do extra things over and above what is on the checkout list. And there's this part of me that's like, oh no, no, I've got that covered, I can do that, or the little gal I've hired, um, she can do that. And it's like, no, I'm gonna take a moment, pause, and I would appreciate that so much if you would empty all the garbages in each one of the rooms and and bathrooms. That would be great. I'll receive that. That gift of helping, you know, clean up a little more over and above what is asked on the checklist, on the checkout list. And if someone, a lot of times I would find myself, if someone did want to do something for me, I would feel like I had to pay them. Now, there's a beautiful divine law called reciprocity, which I do like to be in alignment with. And so sometimes it's just a matter of me checking in is this something that could honor the divine law of reciprocity? In other words, to you know, give a beautiful tip to someone who just served our table and be very generous with it. And or, you know, someone does something for me and we trade, I do a session for them, they trade and bring three or four days worth of macro meals to me. Meals that are, you know, macro balanced. That is reciprocity. However, if someone wants to just graciously give you something, especially um maybe without a plan or an agenda behind it, let's receive. Let's uh let's practice that foundational principle of tapping into that divine essence, divine feminine essence and presence that is available to us, which then becomes that beautiful power. So scheduling time to receive. That is that is a suggestion or an invitation I would like to offer. A lot of us feel like doing that kind of stuff a lot means we're lazy, we want to get past that kind of programming because we do, as women, generally overgive, and it's it is good for us to take an opportunity to recharge and receive, and then that increases our magnetism.

Energetic Hygiene And Toxic Inputs

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So another one that can deplete us is toxic environments and inputs. The divine feminine energy is actually sensitive, and what can deplete that energy is constant digital scrolling, gossip, violent media, cluttered spaces, or being around people who drain you. That can definitely slowly dull our radiance. So in adding or scheduling more time for receiving, maybe it would be a good idea to limit and put some boundaries on how much we scroll. Um, definitely, you know, gossip and being judgmental is there's really no payoff for that, and if you find yourself doing it, there's a little process that I challenge a lot of my clients to do, and that's just to stop for a moment and ask, so what is my payoff for participating in this gossipy conversation or in being so judgmental of this other person? So that's just a a question to get curious about when you find yourself in those situations, but those types of things can drain our radiance, and then be very aware of what to do instead. So literally curate your energetic diet as you would your food, and I call it your energetic hygiene, and we can ask ourselves does this conversation or space feed or nourish or deplete me? And then adjust accordingly. Is what's happening right now, does it nourish me? Does it feed me? Does it allow me to feel like I am a person that wants to add to somebody else's life in a positive way? Or add to my life in a positive way. So um just some ideas there for that actual thing that can deplete our energy, or as they say in the Hindu beliefs, our shakti.

Moving Unprocessed Emotions Out

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Another one is unprocessed emotional energy. So a lot of repressed grief, rage, shame sit like knots in our energy body. And our body keeps the score, and we hold energy in different different types of energy in different parts of our body. We hold a lot of grief and sadness right, you know, near our heart, our breasts, and we can hold a lot of overwhelm in our shoulders and guilt and shame in our stomach, a lot of anger in our stomach as well. And hanging on to that kind of emotion, which is energy and motion, so it's still about our energetic hygiene that can dim the fire in within us and block our heart. And and in our solar plexus, right there in our power center, that's where we do that breath of fire sometimes in yoga. That's that's our power center. We don't want that dimmed. And then our heart, where we hold all the the love and compassion both for others and for ourselves, we don't want that blocked or walled in. So what can we do instead? We give our emotions and our emotions an outlet, movement, dance, breath work, somatic experientials, somatic body movements. Sometimes we can just like shake our bodies and do really beautiful, big deep breaths where we just and on the out breath release, release, release, release, and let it go. Locate it, lift it and let it go. There's a lot of other ways to move emotion, and a lot of times we can do it through journaling as well. I have a specific one that works really well for me. If I have a certain emotion, I'll take a marker out to a big rock pile and I'll pick a rock that I feel like kind of holds the shape, or the energy could hold and contain this energy of anger that I have, and I'll just write anger on that rock, and I'll just throw that rock just as hard as I can out into a you know abandoned field or something. There's another one where we do a write and burn where you write all the emotions down that you're feeling, especially you know, a lot of grief and sadness and sorrow. And you write it, and what that does is it gets it out of your head and out of your body onto the paper. And then before you burn it, on another paper, write in some beautiful colors and maybe draw some beautiful pictures or put some beautiful pictures on it. Write what you would rather experience. Like joy, happiness, peace. And a lot of times a dove can represent peace and love can be represented by a heart, but pull you know, fill that page in your journal full of color, even if you write down what you would rather experience in different colors. But the Journal page that you wrote, what you the emotions that you were experiencing that you want to let go, rip that journal page out. You can rip it up and set it on fire and burn it. There's all kinds of different ways that you can move unprossed emotional energy. I am trained in a modality called rapid eye technology. And it's a technology that simulates what you do in your own re in your own REM sleep that releases trapped trauma and emotion. That's our body's own way of moving emotion, is in our sleep when we dream. Because your body doesn't know whether it's dream, rather you're dreaming or rather it's really happening. And so when you dream, you're able to actually move that energy through the body, through the neuropathways, up through the limbic system of the head and out through your optic nerve, out through your eyes. And it's been proven through Crylian photography and thermal imaging and other testing devices that you do actually move that emotion, energy in motion through little ionic bursts out your optic nerve. And boy, I find that that is a really powerful way to move emotion. And I have a full-time practice actually of doing that exact mo that exact modality for people to help them move emotion, trapped emotion within the body from trauma, and it works very effectively. So that's another one that can drain our energy, rob us of our energy, of our magnetism, of our light, of our essence.

Spiritual Practice With Real Embodiment

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Another one is the lack of spiritual, a spiritual practice or embodiment. Now I don't mean religious, I'm talking spiritual. A lack of a spiritual practice or embodiment. Rituals done only mechanically or devotion without embodiment equals temporary high but no lasting power. That's when you feel stagnant or unable to consciously channel your energy, letting it flow through you. So um again, a lack of those spiritual practices, but doing it like obligatory. I've I've watched people do this a lot actually, that when they sit down for dinner and they just pray, they they say a very recited, memorized prayer. And I've always wondered if they feel a connection to their higher source when they're offering that prayer, or if it's just a you know a routine, something that you just do before you eat. And so being aware of that, even just adding a few more gratitudes in you the way that you change the energy over your food. Um gratitude journals are a beautiful way to acknowledge miracles in your life, things that have that you're so grateful for. Um, I personally love drumming. I do a retreat once a year where I have an amazing couple come here and we do they help, and a co-facilitator of mine, we do an ancient way retreat, and the gal that helps assist everybody who chooses to join in in this retreat gets to make a raw hide drum, and then you get to use how to use you learn how to use it and how to use that drum to help regulate your nervous system. And I I love drumming because it really does just bring me into a very balanced, regulated nervous system, and then I love doing deep breathing with that, and then offering gratitude to the divine, to my higher source for whether it be a beautiful day or the meeting of a new friend, um, an experience that lifted me and brought me into a higher frequency and vibration. Um, I always love to give gratitude for the joy my grandkids bring me. So something like that is an idea. So make a daily micro practice, even if for five minutes where you breathe, experience a sound or movement that anchors you to your body while you pray, chant, meditate, sing, something like that. That helps us sustain that energy within us, that divine essence and deity within us. Now we're gonna talk again about the receiving and how receiving is a spiritual practice, and to receive is not passivity, it is participation. We're receiving. And each time you receive with grace a compliment, a payment, a moment of luck, you anchor a new vibration of safety into your body, and you tell your subconscious it is safe to expand. And that's how divine feminine energy moves through us and around us. And remembering that that energy is with within us and around us, and we want to amplify it. We want to always keep it awakened and alive.

Pleasure Sensuality And Nervous System

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Okay, here's another one that is very a very sometimes sensitive one to some women. It did used to be sensitive to me back over six to eight years ago, but it is a disconnection from pleasure and sensuality. When pleasure is shamed or ignored, your sacral center contracts and creativity and joy declines. Um, I was able to go and get trained in forest and nature therapy, and it was at this point when I realized that I didn't know how to tap into my senses, which is sensuality. And there's a process in the training, and uh we always start out with it with every invitation that we use in our forest and therapy or forest and nature therapy, or some people call it Shinrin Yinku or Forest Bathing, but it's called pleasures of pop, or pleasures of presence. They call it pop, P O P, pleasures of presence. Sorry about that, but it means the pleasures of presence, and when you can be present with your senses, that brings sensuality. So what we do is we ask the participants that are joining in to the invitations to experience this beautiful forest bathing adventure or experience, and we ask them to close their eyes and just notice the temperature that they feel on their skin where there's no clothing. And after they've done that for a little while, then we ask them to notice the temperature of their skin under their clothing. And then we ask them to notice what they hear. What do you hear up close and what do you hear far away? And sometimes in the forest or out in nature, it's pretty quiet. So a lot of times the only thing they hear is their breathing. But a lot of times in the forest and in nature you can hear all kinds of sounds. Birds or water going down a stream, that kind of thing. We invite them to take a moment with every one of their senses. Temperature, sight, smell, um, touch. And allow them to have a moment experiencing their senses. And in a retreat that I do that's specifically designed for the divine feminine, to reawaken that and have literal body somatic experientials with other women, learning about these values, characteristics, and and focuses that we learn from. Noticing the textures, the smells, the taste, the temperatures. And for most of the meal, we're eating this beautiful meal in just silence. In other words, not talking, but we're taking in the meal with all of our senses. And that's really a fun, a fun experience to have. So here's some ideas of what you can do instead if you feel disconnected from pleasure and sensuality. Reclaim every day your sensuality. So eat slowly. Smell the smells, taste what you're eating, notice the temperature of what you're eating, the textures, the smells, the everything about what you're eating. Dance barefoot. Notice what you feel on the bottom of your feet. Breathe into your hips. Breathing into your hips, moving your hips in a circle like you're in a barrel, and you're moving your hips around and notice what you feel in your body, in all parts of your body. In your heart center, in your pelvic floor, in your knees, and then change directions. Imagining that you are circling around this barrel, and you're wanting your hips to be able to always touch the barrel and go in a circle. This actually is a nervous system nourishment. And also to take a moment and practice the value and characteristic of warmth. I really love this invitation because this we're going to be talking more about this one in future podcasts. But when you wash your face, not feel the warmth of the water. Like really tap into it. And then as you get the washcloth all nice and warm, just feeling the warmth of that washcloth, and then when you wash your face, do it very slow. Very, very slow. And just notice the warmth on your face. Across your chin. Over your nose. Even across your eyelids. And down your neck, and maybe even down onto your déclichet. And just notice the warmth of the washcloth on your skin. This kind of thing isn't doesn't have to be sexual. It can turn into that. But really what it's doing is it's nourishing and regulating your nervous system. So this is really a fun way to start to tap into pleasure and sensuality. So I've given you some ideas in several different areas of things that you can do to shift and change up a little bit, ways that perhaps your energy, your shakti, your feminine magnetism, your feminine essence might be being drained.

Self Check Mindset And Closing Invites

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Oh, let's take a big deep breath. This was a really great podcast. I love presenting this kind of stuff because I loved learning about it and then putting it into practice. It was just so much fun. And I hope that you found this podcast inspirational, inviting, and full of some ideas that you can begin to incorporate in your life. Your feedback is always accepted, and I do ask for your support. It's greatly appreciated, and it does really help build a stronger community of women that are wanting to adopt and bring into their lives more of these kinds of practices to enhance and to strengthen the divine feminine. And so remember that you can also visit my website at awakenedacademy.io. Also, there at that website, you can set a time with me for an introductory personal alignment session. And I also invite you to check out my other website, which is mountainairretreats.com, shows just gives you a little idea of some of the retreats that I do hold. And I do want to invite you also to join me for my next episode. I'd love to have you join. Thank you again for joining me today, and I do look forward to connecting with you again. Right here with me, our nay bulkit on Flourishing Femme. Have a blessed day.

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