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Gluten-Free Mom Life, Lunchbox Debates & Weekend Survival

• Emily + Kendall • Season 1 • Episode 2

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This week, we're talking about birthday confetti controversies, unexpected gluten-free revelations, the great lunchbox ice pack debate, and why having nothing planned with little kids isn't always as relaxing as it sounds.

We also get into workout personalities, being weirdly competitive in yoga, the emotional power of a good sound bath, and a listener story about a little boy who desperately wants Elsa hair.

Basically: motherhood, snacks, mental load, and the things that somehow become urgent at 9 p.m.

And yes, we need your opinion on the yogurt situation.

Here’s to more confetti in our lives.


Key Takeaways: 

  • Sometimes the thing that brings you the most joy is also the thing that creates the biggest mess.
  • "No plans" with young kids doesn't always mean relaxing—it often means managing chaos without a schedule.
  • Moms carry an invisible layer of planning that starts long before anyone gets in the car.
  • The snacks we buy for our kids somehow become our snacks too.
  • Every mom has spent an unreasonable amount of time trying to find something that suddenly became critically important to their child.


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Kendall Gavaret (00:00)
so we're sitting around the dinner table at my dad's 70th birthday dinner, and Layla, my niece, says something to the effect of

I can't imagine taking care of two kids. ⁓ I know how hard it was to like take care like help my mom take care of Dylan, ⁓ who's her little brother, and they're about like five years apart. And I go, Yeah, I know Layla, like the first year was really tough. And she goes, Yeah, I know, I I can tell by the bags under your eyes.

And it was just like it was so it was so perfect, like that like pure kid honesty. I didn't take any offense to it because it was just like hilarious. I just started laughing. It was so funny.

Emily Gorrie (01:11)
Kids,

Catch up. All right. Let's talk about our weeks. How are you? What's today?

Kendall Gavaret (01:47)
Well, okay, w ⁓ today's

your husband's birthday. Okay, what'd you do? What did what are you doing the rest of the day? I know your husband like likes his birthday.

Emily Gorrie (01:51)
It is.

Let me...

He does. And I actually did something today that was kind of selfish for me. And I knew it would kind of rile him up, but I did it anyway, because I knew it would bring me joy. Can I tell you about it?

Kendall Gavaret (02:11)
Please.

Would that lead in? Please.

Emily Gorrie (02:16)
Okay, so

yes, today is his birthday. He loves his birthday. He gave us zero indication of what it is he wanted to do for his birthday with us. I will say, give him credit. He planned some golf outings with his buddies. He planned pickleball outing with his buddies. So he's got like some fun activities for his birthday. Great. I'm so supportive. Well, you know, my daughter, she loves a good celebration. So

The whole week she's like, when are we gonna set up the decorations? I'm like.

wasn't going to do any decorations. We're going to get some balloons. We're going to like, you know, put them by the counter. The gift will be there when he comes down. Like we'll have cards for him. It'll be great. You can help me in the morning. We'll put it all out. She's like, okay, okay. So I surprised her and I, and I got her. I know, I know. I don't like to be surprised. I like to be in control of the surprise. So it works great, but I bought confetti.

Kendall Gavaret (03:18)
Facts, facts.

Is it bad that my initial reaction was horror?

Emily Gorrie (03:32)
No, because I knew.

Kendall Gavaret (03:35)
My initial reaction was your

kids, your dog, confetti, no.

Emily Gorrie (03:43)
tell you, it brought me so much joy today. So what we did was, surprised her, said, here is a box of confetti. And she goes, great, I need a bowl. I was like, okay, so we get her like, of course, like a real like porcelain bowl, which I was like, all right, we're going for it. She gets the bowl, dumps all the confetti in it.

So that's like, okay, I'm coming down. And we're like, okay. So she's hiding around the corner. As he comes downstairs, she goes, happy birthday and throws the confetti in the air. And like her timing was a little off, but like ultimately really perfect. She was so, yes. I mean, it didn't get to the top of his head, but like definitely like hit his, you know, vision there. And he looked horrified.

Kendall Gavaret (04:18)
That's so cute.

Could she throw high enough to get to him? He's very tall.

Yeah.

Emily Gorrie (04:38)
He's like, ⁓ confetti. And I knew he would hate the confetti, but I did it anyway. Yeah, he did. ⁓ But I cleaned it up. I mean, he mopped it up a little bit because he just could not stand walking in it. But I've cleaned it up. We're good to go. But it brought me a lot of joy. So I did do something for me today, which...

Kendall Gavaret (04:45)
He had the same reaction I did.

Emily Gorrie (05:04)
maybe a little bit selfish, but in the scheme of things, really just a blip in the radar of the day. So it was lovely. ⁓ my God. So happy. So happy. I just, you know, I felt like a win. And then, I'm on my new gluten-free journey. Did I tell you about this? my God. And I feel so good, which is the part about it that I hate the most is like actually feel good.

Kendall Gavaret (05:30)
How how did this come about?

Emily Gorrie (05:32)
I will definitely

fill you in, but we went to breakfast at a local place that is very gluten-free friendly. we got like, so I've got a French toast and egg, like a breakfast sandwich. I got a burrito, which was awesome, like breakfast burrito. So it was nice. We, we slowed into the morning today, which was good, which was, you know, much needed. And then I made some meatballs for dinner. They're on the stove.

gonna be nice. Yeah.

Kendall Gavaret (06:03)
Perfect. So what are you

doing this weekend? Or is that when all those like pickleball golf activities are?

Emily Gorrie (06:08)
That's

on Sunday. So, and his parents are coming over tonight, so we'll do dinner with everybody. ⁓ He'll get to celebrate himself all day long. Sunday will be his big pickleball day. ⁓ So it'll be good. There's been a lead up on it. He went golfing last week, so it's been like kind of like 10 days of Seth's birthday. So it's great. It's going to be good. ⁓

But yeah, my gluten-free journey has been about nine days now.

And I'm a little bit, ⁓ that's fair. I am working with that nutritionist that I mentioned. She's lovely. And we did like some, like a whole bunch of testing, but like we did like in particular, like a gut test. There was a whole bunch of like, you know, overgrowth, bacteria overgrowth, you know, too little bacteria in one, some, you know, she explained it all to me.

Kendall Gavaret (06:42)
But that doesn't answer where it came from.

Emily Gorrie (07:10)
It's completely lost my brain, but I have the whole thing. But she basically said to me, she said, from what I see, your symptoms, and my experience with a lot of other people with similar symptoms and readings, essentially, I don't know the right word for it. She's like, I would be very suspicious of a gluten intolerance for you. I'd recommend trying to cut it out for a week. It doesn't have to be forever.

cut it out for a week and see if there's any difference. Let's see if we can get a little bit clearer on what's causing some of these symptoms. When I tell you the dramatic change in my body, I do not feel remotely as horrible as I used to. Other symptoms have absolutely changed or subsided or like are no longer present. My energy is back.

And that's the only thing I've changed. haven't added in any like supplements or that like the diet literally was the only thing I've changed.

Kendall Gavaret (08:15)
Yeah. No, I mean, you know, I've dipped and dabbled with at like the ideal state for myself, which can be hard to sustain like longer term, is basically like no dairy, no gluten, no sugar, no like

Emily Gorrie (08:21)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Kendall Gavaret (08:42)
highly processed salt. 'Cause sodium's the other thing. Also soy. Soy really inflammates you, which is crazy. Yeah. But it's like sometimes hard to sustain that long term 'cause basically you just eat like protein and vegetables and fruit. Yeah. Yeah.

Emily Gorrie (08:45)
Yeah. Yeah.

Well, soy has gluten in it, which is also wild to me. Yeah.

But that's like everything you can potentially eat in the United States. You know, like it's everything.

Kendall Gavaret (09:09)
But that's great. Okay, so you're on day nine.

Emily Gorrie (09:10)
Yes, yeah.

I made meatballs with gluten-free breadcrumbs today. I feel like that's... I made a cake that I'm not going to eat, but then I made gluten-free cupcakes, which honestly I don't even crave it. I don't even want it because I know how horrible I felt when I ate it. That I really don't have the craving. The hardest part for me is the snacking. The kids' snacks. I used to be so guilty of like

Kendall Gavaret (09:24)
Okay.

Emily Gorrie (09:40)
I'd make them a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. And of course it had to be cut in like the cute little shapes in order for them to eat it. So then I would eat the crust around it. So can't do that anymore. And so I kept finding myself, do you know what I did? I put a goldfish in my mouth the other day and chewed it. And then I was like, spit it right out. It's like, no, no, no, this goldfish is not going in my body. I tested the pasta.

Kendall Gavaret (10:01)
Ha ha ha.

Emily Gorrie (10:08)
the other day by putting it in my mouth, chewing it and spitting it out. It feels aggressive and very comical like in the moment, but ultimately I think it's the right call. But that's the hard part for me. It's not like choosing to not cook with it because it's been actually fairly easy. Like potatoes and rice has been like the base for a lot of our meals and it's tend to be how I cook anyway, but it's the snacking that has been the really hard part for me.

Kendall Gavaret (10:34)
Yeah.

But you know what? Like it's such a great time to be gluten free compared to like even five years ago. There's so many more options. Even for the kids' snacks.

Emily Gorrie (10:43)
my gosh, yes.

Yeah, agreed. Yes,

agreed. But I also think, like, maybe we talk about kid snacks for a second, because I also think we have way too many packaged snacks in my house right now. Because they're easy for school.

Kendall Gavaret (11:02)
Yeah. The convenience factor

is so yeah.

Emily Gorrie (11:08)
Yes,

I know. need to like, so I feel like the hard part for me is not, is doing like a fresh snack, for lack of a better word, for school because there's no room in their lunchbox because those like, you know, what are they called? Planet boxes come with like a bag, like ⁓ their own like zip bag, but there's no room to put anything else in it unless it's in the planet box. Like,

the bag, like the lunchbox itself has a slot for ice packs, but then there's no room to put something on top of the lunchbox in the thing unless it's on the outside. So I have a qualm with Planet Boxes because then they don't also fit in the snack it or pack it big lunch boxes, because they're too big for those, but you the ones that have like the ice packs all around the side.

Kendall Gavaret (11:56)
Well I don't

I know what you're talking about. I ⁓ I may be too basic. Yeah, please. Cause I do the pl for me, ⁓ I do the Planet Box lunch boxes, but just the lunch box, and it goes in the backpack. No, but you put it like in a sleeve, you've got ice packs going on. We've got none we've got none of that.

Emily Gorrie (12:03)
We'll link it in the show notes so people know what I'm talking about for you.

Yes.

Do you pack perishable

foods?

Kendall Gavaret (12:29)
Yeah, we I pack cucumbers, fruits, carrots, rice, corn. Yeah, I pack a yogurt. No. He eats three hours after getting to school. It's fine. The yogurt's not gonna go bad in three hours.

Emily Gorrie (12:36)
Like if you were to pack a yogurt, no ice pack?

Whoa, this might've just like rocked my world for a second.

Kendall Gavaret (13:00)
I mean American, you know, consumerism has convinced you that you can't leave, you know, a yogurt out for an hour. It's gonna be fine. It's gonna be fine.

Emily Gorrie (13:13)
It has. It's convinced me I have to put it

in the freezer, freeze it and let it defrost over the day. I don't do that, but that's why I don't send, that's why I don't send yogurt.

Kendall Gavaret (13:20)
I mean, you're probably a better mom than I am. Okay,

well you're probably a better mom than I am, because I definitely don't do that. I throw that yogurt pouch right in there. And it's it's fine.

Emily Gorrie (13:32)
Hey,

we need a like a discussion forum, I think. Let's make sure we post this on Instagram, because I wanna hear what everyone listening has to say about this. Do you use an ice pack? Do you do a lunchbox with an ice pack? Do you do the built-in packet lunchboxes with the ice pack frozen right into it? Like.

Do you wanna risk food poisoning? I don't know.

Kendall Gavaret (14:00)
Understand that doing f

Okay. Food poisoning. But here's the you know what? I guess I would agree with you if it were free-flowing yogurt.

Emily Gorrie (14:06)
I don't know, I'm just being dramatic, but I'm curious.

Kendall Gavaret (14:17)
You know what I mean? Like if it was yogurt from the carton to a container or cottage cheese from the container to another container, sure I might be a little bit more apprehensive about that. But like it's a pouch. It's sealed. What's the worst that's gonna happen?

Emily Gorrie (14:18)
Mm-hmm.

Yes.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah, it was like sterilely processed.

yeah, yeah. There's no like bacteria growing in there. Yeah.

Kendall Gavaret (14:42)
Yeah, I mean

I'm sure somebody's g who's better informed than me is gonna come for me in the comments, but that's fine. Sh sure I'm not sure I'm not.

Emily Gorrie (14:48)
We're not here for educational content. We're learning right alongside you. So maybe

someone can teach us. We'll see. We'll find out. We'll know. Okay. What's next?

Kendall Gavaret (15:04)
Well, okay,

so I wanna hear how your memorial day was. You had a long weekend last weekend.

Emily Gorrie (15:12)
⁓ yes. Olivia was sick. Which but recovered quite nicely. Let's see. She has had so many illnesses in her life that I honestly feel like her immune system is like virus. ⁓ I know what to do with this. I got it, which I'm very grateful for. She ended up coming Thursday. She wasn't I could tell she wasn't feeling great. You know, you could start to tell.

She was adamant she had to go to school. I was like, okay, no fever, no cough, no runny nose. She just looked a little tired. I was like, okay. She was fine, woke up the next day, fever. But she only had it for 12 hours, woke up the next day completely fine, fever free. Then we didn't do anything Saturday. Sunday we didn't do anything until the afternoon.

And then Monday, we did some swimming. We went to the pool. Honestly, it was really nice. We got just some things done around the house. It was nice to have both of us there in the house with no other agendas. Our minds weren't elsewhere. We could do the things we wanted to accomplish, ⁓ give each other a little bit of time to decompress or get some things done or whatever. So was, I would say, productive, recharging. ⁓

I felt really good. What about you guys? What did you do?

Kendall Gavaret (16:44)
Well, we we had a nice weekend overall. ⁓ we started the weekend, we went to ⁓ a pool party in ⁓ at a friend's house and it was like so much fun and I think what was particularly fun about it was

We know these friends through a like happy play class for my daughter. And so we know them and we knew like one other f family at this party ahead of time. ⁓ our kids go to the same our like older sons go to the same school but different campuses.

Emily Gorrie (17:28)
⁓

okay.

Kendall Gavaret (17:29)
And so we don't like see each other at drop off or anything like that. But I really like love this family, love the other family who we knew, but I was a little apprehensive because we didn't really know a lot of the other people at the party. But it was just such a relief. I don't know if you ever feel this when you go somewhere and they're just like good people.

Emily Gorrie (17:42)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Kendall Gavaret (17:54)
Even though they're strangers, like the people who you're friends with are the peop the type of people who attract or keep good people around them. And it was just so I don't know, refreshing, nice, lovely. Yeah, it was really fun.

Emily Gorrie (18:05)
Yeah.

I love that. Yeah. Nice. That's a feel good. That's a win.

Kendall Gavaret (18:17)
It really was. And then I mean

Emily Gorrie (18:18)
Yeah.

Kendall Gavaret (18:18)
by the next night I was like football hold carrying my child out of a grocery store. So, you know, it's a mixed bag.

⁓ but you know what?

I don't know if you'll find this funny. So the other family who we know, or who we knew at this party, went to college. Like the mom went to college with us. But I didn't but we didn't know that until like three months into the girls going to this play class together and us becoming friends.

Emily Gorrie (18:38)
Yeah.

Cool.

That's

so funny. And what, you just...

Kendall Gavaret (18:58)
And we did not go to

a big college, Emily.

Emily Gorrie (19:02)
And what, you just were like, you look familiar or you just started talking about college and you were like, wait same, wait same. Yeah.

Kendall Gavaret (19:08)
You know what it was? Literally wait same.

What it was was I saw a picture of her daughter 'cause she was our year too.

Emily Gorrie (19:21)
that's even funnier. Okay.

Kendall Gavaret (19:23)
Even funnier,

so I saw a picture of her daughter on Instagram on a girl, they were in the same sorority. I saw a picture of her daughter on this woman's Instagram. And I was like, wait, I know that, I know that little girl. And so I brought it up to the I I like went down this rabbit hole and I was like, wait.

Emily Gorrie (19:32)
Okay.

Hahaha

Don't you? I love that.

Kendall Gavaret (19:55)
I the next time I ran into her the next week I I told her, I said, You did we go to college together and we didn't put two and two together until like months after being friends? ⁓ it was really funny. And like we both ended up marrying Frenchmen and like having, you know, very similar lives.

Emily Gorrie (20:04)
Haha.

That is so funny.

What was what was her

major? Would we have run into her?

Kendall Gavaret (20:21)
I d I didn't ask what her major was. Is that like a thing you asked? I don't know.

Emily Gorrie (20:24)
Aww. You know, I'm just wondering like what building she like spent her time in. I don't actually care what she majored in. I'm just, I'm

just wondering like would she have been in the same buildings you and I would have been in?

Kendall Gavaret (20:37)
I mean, no, I don't think so, 'cause I feel like I would have known her more. So probably like business.

Emily Gorrie (20:40)
Recognized her, right? Maybe she must have been business.

Yeah. No, more about the people. Humanity. Yeah. Interesting. I love that.

Kendall Gavaret (20:51)
Yeah, not a not a so not a so sh person. ⁓ but yeah, it was so funny. So that was like

the one other family that we knew at this pool party. Such a small world.

Emily Gorrie (21:03)
Very cool.

⁓ my gosh, that is, I love that.

Kendall Gavaret (21:08)
It was really fun. But we had a good weekend. It's funny. I like I don't know if anyone else feels this way. It was it's nice to hear for you guys that like n having downtime is nice. I don't feel the opposite way, but I feel like I need a balance on the weekends. Like having nothing planned with two young kids.

Emily Gorrie (21:09)
That's cute.

Yeah.

Kendall Gavaret (21:37)
Is worse than having too much planned. Like halfway through the day, we're all going crazy. We want to pull our hair out. I'm like, okay, let's. I built a car wash on Sunday out of mega tiles, which then turned into like a huge battle between my two kids. But like, I'm throwing stuff. I'm

Emily Gorrie (21:44)
Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Who gets to knock

it down?

Kendall Gavaret (22:02)
Well, some of somebody wanted to knock it down and the other person wanted to play with it. So yeah. We we worked on our we worked on our skills on on Sunday night. But ⁓ yeah, like I I always like the idea of

Emily Gorrie (22:05)
Hmm.

You

Well, you know, mean, Seth's favorite thing is to do. He's a doer. He needs to be out of the house, especially when it's him and the two kids. He has to be like doing something. So for me, when I think about down days or like days with no plans, that does not mean we do not leave the house. We leave the house, but we don't have to be anywhere at any specific time.

That's the piece that I love, because for me to get myself out of the house is another exercise in how Emily's brain works. Okay, so we have to be here at this time, which means we need to pack these snacks, these things, these water bottles, get in the car. But then the piece that I didn't realize until recently was what mood are they in today? Is Henry in the, I am gonna reject.

Kendall Gavaret (23:22)
Right. The mental load of it all.

Emily Gorrie (23:37)
everything you say to me and defiantly do the opposite of what you ask of me. Like there's a mood, right? It's like, do I, am I helpful, Henry, today? Or am I defiant? I think this is funny, Henry, today. And that changes the game. If I have to manhandle the child to get him in the car by a certain time, add 20 minutes because I need him to go to the bathroom.

need him to put clothes on because we've been living in our pajamas most days. And do I have the right cars that he needs to bring with him? No, got to go back in. We've likely forgotten something. So I think the distinguishing piece here is not that we have nothing to do. We just have nowhere to be a certain time.

I'm like, okay, fine. You want to throw a tantrum for 20 minutes because you don't want to go pee? Okay. I can stay here and watch you do that when I don't have to be to, I don't have to be at Target right now. I can go in 20 minutes when you're ready.

Makes it a lot easier on my nervous system to get ourselves out of the house that way.

I don't know.

So guess needless to say, Seth and I are very different.

Yeah, I think so.

Okay.

Kendall Gavaret (25:00)
I wanted

to ask you this is so out of the blue, but I was thinking about it on Tuesday I was in a Pilates class and I was thinking about what's your workout vibe? Like what's your workout class preferred workout class vibe? Cause there's like

Emily Gorrie (25:27)
Give me an example.

Kendall Gavaret (25:27)
bump in club

music, you know, there's like drowning out somebody like high high energy. There's somebody ver the opposite end of that, like super mellow, like an instructor I'm talking about. Super mellow. There's somebody who is cracking jokes. There's somebody who's

Emily Gorrie (25:42)
⁓

Kendall Gavaret (25:53)
little woo-y, there's somebody who's like yelling at you and trying to motivate you. Like there's like different flavors of exercise classes. What's your vibe?

Emily Gorrie (26:08)
never thought about it, but I think I'm on the mellow side. I need someone who's like a little...

Chill.

Kendall Gavaret (26:20)
disinterested in being there.

Emily Gorrie (26:22)
No, no, no, like maybe

a little woo, like no, somebody who's like regulating for my nervous system. It all comes back to the sheer fact that I am not here to shock my body anymore. So like, that's why I think I love Pilates so much because I feel the workout after like today, my legs, I woke up this morning and it felt like I had ran a marathon. I was like, oh my God, I just need to sit down. My legs hurt.

But I wasn't that tortured in class, if that makes sense. It's not high energy. They're not screaming at me. It's not bumping music. We're doing really slow, intentional movements that are effective. But I'm not walking out of there being like, I can't breathe. My heart rate's all the way up. And I need to recover immediately from this class. And I think that's my vibe, something that's like,

Kendall Gavaret (27:18)
Have you always

liked that kind of workout class?

Emily Gorrie (27:22)
I have always preferred that workout class. have not always allowed myself to just do that workout class. If you caught me before kids, like late twenties, I was in like the orange theory, red effect. Let's track your heart rate. Make sure you're getting into the optimal burn zone. Burpees, body weights, lifting weights, cardio, running crap that I just

I can't motivate myself to do anymore and I don't want to do. So in my heart rate, let me tell you, always above optimal. Okay. I could never get it in like the right zone. You want to be in yellow, maybe orange, never red, cut it back if it's, I'm like, I am in red most of the time. So, you know.

Kendall Gavaret (28:16)
You're just over optimized. You're over optimal.

That's you.

Emily Gorrie (28:20)
Must be

it. That must be it. So no, I think my vibe is definitely a little bit chiller. I would say if you want, if I had to like pick a playlist, I would want like not a crooner like old school crooner, but like I want like a song. No, I mean, I love a good Frank Sinatra. I do. I really do. But no, I want somebody that's a little like folk, like folky. That like there's a story and like an energy and emotion.

Kendall Gavaret (28:35)
You're working out to Frank Sinatra?

Emily Gorrie (28:50)
in their music, in the lyrics, because I find myself more motivated when I can like be in the song, do what I'm doing and like kind of like sing with the song, like move with the song. I don't know. That's me. Anyway, you're all learning so much about me. What's your vibe, Kendall? A part of me feels like Cold Plunge Kendall likes rave music in the In the gym club.

Kendall Gavaret (29:15)
I mean if I were in the club, that would be one thing. ⁓ in the

gym in the country club, ⁓ which I'm not a part of. no, you know, like I think similarly, I feel like mine has changed where like in my twenties, certainly before kids, like, find me in a soul cycle. Like, I never liked a trainer who was yelling at me, but like I liked the like

Emily Gorrie (29:20)
In the country club.

Mmm.

Yeah.

Kendall Gavaret (29:46)
You know, I could do some motivation. Now the idea of well I told you when I visited you and I went to a Pilates class, I don't think I read the fine print enough that it was like a it felt like a club. It felt like a house music. Like the music was so loud. And I don't know if it's that I'm old or if it's that I'm a mom or it's a combination of the both, but I was just like

Emily Gorrie (29:50)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Kendall Gavaret (30:15)
This is arresting. I don't know. I don't want this. I ended up leaving. Yeah, I like a 7 30 a.m. class was like a little aggressive, but for that kind of class. But there it was like a full class. There were tons of people there. But I I don't want to judge them. But they did seem younger than I was.

Emily Gorrie (30:19)
Yeah. Especially for the morning. Like maybe if it's like five o'clock and I'm like getting ready to like move my day. Yeah. Yeah.

That's not a judgment, that is an observation.

Kendall Gavaret (30:43)
⁓

Emily Gorrie (30:44)
Fact, perhaps?

Kendall Gavaret (30:47)
but yeah, I mean I think now what I feel the most enjoyment from is

Well, obviously it depends on like what I'm doing too. But I I what made me think about this was I was at this Pilates class and well it is a Pilates build class, which I'm obsessed with. So you start in the reformer, then you do some free weights, and then you finish on the reformer. I love it. Yeah, like it it has some weight training elements to it, which I really like.

Emily Gorrie (31:17)
nice. Nice combo. Okay.

Kendall Gavaret (31:24)
But the woman, who I think is also like the owner of this studio, was kind of cracking jokes. Not all the time, like not a comedian, but like every now and again was like would like crack a joke and I enjoyed that 'cause it made me as I was like lifting a really heavy weight be like kind of chuckle and that made me ⁓ I don't know, it lightened lighten the mood for me. And then but I also do like a

Emily Gorrie (31:32)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah. And also like maybe how your kids are. Because I was just thinking like there's no way I would want anyone screaming at me because my kids scream at me because they are loud humans. Like their paternal side is loud. It is what it is. Like that is just like what they've always been accustomed to. So they are also loud. To participate you have to be loud. Okay.

I don't want to be screamed at any more than I have to be on a regular basis. So if you like that, I really, really, really hope your kids are calm and chill.

I don't know for your nervous system. Right? Who needs to be screaming? Mom! Who needs to be screaming? Nobody. Just look at me. Tap me. Put your hand on my leg. And if I'm talking to someone else, I'll put my hand there so you know I've hurt you. Like, we try the whole thing. I don't know.

Kendall Gavaret (33:11)
Do you like the adjustments? Like do you like when somebody does an adjustment on you? 'Cause my perfectionist side in a workout class, even if it's like this is part of why I've gotten into restorative yoga lately, but like yoga in general I'm not

It's not a great match for me because I get competitive in a yoga class, but I don't have a regular yoga practice, and therefore I'm nowhere nearly as good as the other people in the class who go all the time, but my perfectionist competitive side comes out and I'm like, Why can't I do a shoulder stand?

Emily Gorrie (33:36)
Hmm.

Yeah.

Because

you go once a month, Kendall.

Kendall Gavaret (33:56)
Or a crow pose. Exactly. And that

is therein lies the problem of me in yoga is like if somebody comes and adjusts does an adjustment for me or like a realignment, I'm like, I'm not doing it perfectly. Like I like it my perf my perfectionist side comes out. It's not good.

Emily Gorrie (34:15)
⁓ I kind of like it.

Interesting. Okay, so.

I'm going to counter you with something. I don't mind the adjustments. If I'm on, let's say, just in Pilates, and I'm on the reformer, and I'm doing something not optimal, I definitely want to know. I am prone to throwing my back out. We really don't need to mess things up here. However, the thing that irks me that I kind of get like you when you're in these classes is when an instructor is known to

praise people and doesn't praise me?

Like I'm doing great over here. And I'm pushing myself and I'm doing the, if you want it a little bit harder, do this. I'm doing that. Can I get praise?

Kendall Gavaret (35:17)
I'm laughing because it resonates so much. I am literally in my head being like, same. Like, yes, same.

Emily Gorrie (35:28)
It's like, yes, lady, I was gonna pull a name out of my head and I couldn't even get one. But like, she would, I have one woman, one instructor in particular, who is known to praise. Never once been praised. Maybe that's the motivation. She knows I need the motivation. That's how she motivates me. I don't know how she'd know that, but maybe she reads mine.

No, I only go back because it's the time that works. And she's a good instructor and I always walk out of there feeling good, but it's the times I'm able to go.

So I just get a little bit of punishment while I'm there. Or opportunity to heal something in me, if you want to go that route. I don't, but one day.

Kendall Gavaret (36:26)
Well, I yesterday I went to this yoga class that was restore it's it's become one of my favorites, but it's restorative yoga and then fifteen minutes of a sound bath at the end. It is incredible. And this woman, the instructor, her name is Emily. I'll I'll will add her handle in the show notes if you want to follow her, because she is incredible.

Emily Gorrie (36:38)
Ugh, sounds glorious.

Yes, let's do it.

Kendall Gavaret (36:56)
as all Emily's are. but she has the voice of a literal angel. Cause she sings, too.

Emily Gorrie (36:57)
Yes.

Ugh, I love that. ⁓

Kendall Gavaret (37:10)
So she does like a sound bath, she has, you know, the bowl bowls, the sound bowls. The sound bowls. She has like rain sticks, she has chimes, she has this thing that looks like a briefcase that is kind of like an accordion. I don't know. And then she sings. And it is she is the voice like I said, voice of an angel.

Emily Gorrie (37:15)
Yeah, bulls. Mm-hmm. Yeah, correct.

Hmm. Yeah. Yeah.

I love that.

⁓ so she's singing songs, not just like sounds.

Kendall Gavaret (37:53)
Well, the first the first couple classes that I've been to, she just sings more like kind of chant or, you know, ⁓ reverb kind of sounds. But yesterday she sang Landside and it was just like my god, this is Yes. Well the first class that I went to of hers I did cry. But I had some other stuff going on, so

Emily Gorrie (37:59)
Yeah, yeah.

Didn't make you want to cry. I...

And it was her voice. It was beautiful. You know what? There's something so powerful about sound that I really like in terms of moving an energy through you or moving just things that feel stuck that you don't want there. So I was curious if you were able to get emotional with it. Because there's a lot of ⁓

Kendall Gavaret (38:25)
Yes.

Emily Gorrie (38:48)
like research done and studies done and just like practices and you know, things like that that really focus on sound and healing and movement and processing. ⁓ I love that so much. Landslide. Now I want to just go play that on Spotify. Kind of feel it a bit.

Kendall Gavaret (39:02)
Yeah. I know. I know. I think

Yeah. It's it was incredible though. So yeah, if you're like in Marin or the Bay Area, please do check her out because she is amazing. And and next time you're up here, I'll we'll go to one of her we'll w go to one of her classes. Should we do a listener voice note? Me too.

Emily Gorrie (39:10)
I love that.

We're doing it.

Okay, I love that.

Yes, I cannot wait.

This is a surprise for both of us. So okay, here we go. Here is our very next submission. Let make sure I have the settings on correctly, everybody.

That's mom.

Hahaha

⁓ my God. First of all, if we haven't all been there, I don't know. That is so cute. First of all, best mom, we can grow your hair out, buddy. You got it. No problem, whatever you want. my God, so good.

Kendall Gavaret (40:59)
Uh-huh.

I just love

the relatability of spending the night driving around trying to find an Elsa wag to surprise him with the next morning is like we've all been there. I've been at Target at nine PM at night trying to find something because it suddenly became important. Yeah.

Emily Gorrie (41:22)
my gosh.

on Amazon, what comes between 4 and 8 a.m.? Yeah, yeah. I will

say anyone looking to add length to hair, you might want to consider extensions. We did that for Olivia for Halloween one year and it worked out great.

Kendall Gavaret (41:41)
Like clip-in extensions. wow. How old was she? Okay, so like a little older to not like pull them out. Okay.

Emily Gorrie (41:43)
Clip and extensions. Yeah. This is last year, so four and a half almost. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So maybe wait a little bit. Yeah, it was the October before she turned five in December, so almost five. So that worked out really well. But yes, we've all been there. ⁓ my gosh, so cute. I'm invested in this, so I need to know.

if he likes his wig or ⁓ if he grows out his hair, maybe we can get like a user submission photo to at least us so we can know. We'll report back.

Kendall Gavaret (42:21)
Yes! ⁓ my gosh! Yes, we need a photo,

we need photo evidence and we need an update on all of this.

Emily Gorrie (42:30)
We do. great. And for anyone listening, if

you have a moment like that, or if you have something totally wild and you feel like another mom would relate, please send us a submission. You can either email us at waitsamepodcast.gmail.com or send us a DM on Instagram. Both of those will be linked in the show notes. We want to hear from you. We just might play it.

All right, I think that's us for the week. See you next week. All right.

to more confetti.

Kendall Gavaret (43:05)
Cheers, bye.