Update of the Phone Date | Episode 2

In Episode 2 of TubTalk with Jill & Tam, the girls are back in the tub with zero script, zero filter, and LOTS to unpack after Jill’s latest phone dates. 

From awkward first calls to unexpected FaceTimes, Jill gives the full update on TWO very different men — including one cowboy from the NFR in Vegas who may or may not be flying her to Texas someday. 👀

The conversation quickly turns into a hilarious and surprisingly insightful deep dive into the Color Code personalities and how personality types affect dating, relationships, attraction, and compatibility after 50.

Are you drawn to:
 ❤️ The driven “Red” personality?
 💛 The spontaneous, fun-loving “Yellow”?
 💙 The structured, family-oriented “Blue”?
 🤍 Or the calm, conservative “White”?

Jill and Tam break down what each personality type looks like on a date — from luxury cars and spontaneity… to coupons for sushi after 8 PM. 😂

This episode is full of laughter, honest dating conversations, friendship, healing journeys, and real talk about navigating relationships later in life.

If you’ve ever wondered what dating after divorce looks like, how personality affects compatibility, or just need a good laugh with two girlfriends in a bathtub… this episode is for you.

In This Episode:

•  Jill’s first official phone date recap 
•  The surprise second “nooner” phone date 👀 
•  FaceTime vs phone call debate 
•  Dating after 50 realities 
•  Color Code personality breakdowns 
•  Red vs Yellow vs Blue vs White personalities 
•  What personality type makes the best partner? 
•  Funny dating stories & dating red flags 
•  Finding humor through heartbreak and healing 

Favorite Quotes:

“No rehearsing. We don’t even know what’s gonna come.”
 “You have to find humor through every tragedy.”
 “Talk blonde to me.”

Connect With Us:

Follow along for more real, funny, unfiltered conversations about dating, life, relationships, healing, friendship, and figuring it all out after 50.

💋 Talk Blonde to Me

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:01

We're back. And we're sliding. This is so Oh no, we're here. I'm still alive. We're gonna do this. We're gonna do it. Okay. Do it. Do you want me to hold it or are you gonna hold it?

SPEAKER_01 0:14

You're probably more sturdy than I am. You know me.

SPEAKER_00 0:17

Because I'm 59. You are. She's 59. We gotta get Marilyn in there. So we're good. Let's just talk. We're ready. Here we go. Okay, guys.

SPEAKER_01 0:27

Welcome to update of the phone date. And if you followed us yesterday, this is the starting of um Jill and Tam Tub Talk. Tub Talk with Jill and Tam.

SPEAKER_00 0:39

Two versions in the top. No rehearsing. We don't even know what's gonna come.

SPEAKER_01 0:44

I have no idea. And I'm excited, you guys, because she had, if you followed us, she had the phone date last night. So Jill, let's just blurt into it. Have the phone date go.

SPEAKER_00 0:53

Well, the phone date was it was good. It was super good. Um, he was kind, kind, kind, um, family-oriented. Um, it it was it was good. He he's gone through a healing journey. So I kind of felt like a therapist a little bit, and but you know, it was good.

SPEAKER_01 1:13

Well, I hope he didn't listen to your advice. But guess what? Not being mean you've been married twice. You're not the person to listen to. But guess what? No, no, no. We don't want guess what? I'm interviewing you. Oh, did you go from phone to FaceTime? No, did not go from phone to FaceTime.

SPEAKER_00 1:32

Okay. Did you phone sex? Oh, Tammy.

SPEAKER_01 1:36

Well, it's just part of the question from yesterday. Like that. No, no, no. Okay, no good. Okay, okay, so you didn't go FaceTime, so that was good. Yeah. And what else could I ask you? Did you feel the connection? Did he like you? This is nothing about you. Oh, I have no idea. Oh, not good.

SPEAKER_00 1:53

He didn't. I uh well, I I don't know. He asked if I wanted to do another call, and that's fine. Oh, that'd be good, yeah. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 2:01

He wasn't really crazy about you. I don't just so you know. Okay. Okay, so yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:06

So what happened? Oh my gosh. Okay. So after the live stream yesterday, another guy reached out to me and he I had another phone date today for lunch. Another date. Yeah, another phone date. Wait, wait, wait. You had a nooner today. You you had a phone date. I did. So he reached out last night after, and he's like, after well, after my phone date, I got on my phone to see, you know, just check my messages. And he's like, I want a phone date. What in the world? I didn't, I didn't know you were doing phone dates. I'm like, well, I didn't either, so let's do it. So he's a guy, the guy that I sat next to at the NFR in Vegas in that cowboy.

SPEAKER_01 2:53

Yes. We were on like row eight, yeah, if you remember. Yeah. With our amazing tickets from our amazing friends. But anyway, about that. So that guy next to you contacted you.

SPEAKER_00 3:03

He lives in Texas. It was such, oh, it was just so fun. Like the phone date was super, it was super fun. He's um super energetic. And he was even like, hey, you should come down here to Texas sometime. I'm like, oh, well, that would be fun. I don't know Texas well. So what? Who's gonna pay to get you to Texas? That's a full question. He didn't say that. He didn't say like he just no, he just like you should come sometime. So I mean, maybe he'll offer that another time.

SPEAKER_01 3:34

I don't really Yeah, I I'm gonna become the therapist here. I've very expensive, very expensive. Most people couldn't afford him, but anyway, so this guy sat by us at the NFR. Yes, okay, and you could tell me about him. You said he was really nice.

SPEAKER_00 3:51

Yeah, but I didn't even know he was following me. I'm like, how did you even know to even contact me? He's like, I've been following you for a while. I'm like, oh heavens.

SPEAKER_01 4:00

Oh, good. Okay, so this is fun. So here's what we want to know. So this will probably do he seem like he's gonna contact you again, yeah, for sure. Oh, that's good. Okay, let's let's talk color. Okay, let's talk color. So the first really kind person was a what personality?

SPEAKER_00 4:21

Blue, definitely blue, super family oriented. Um, talked a lot about family, about you know, his his marriage and what happened there, and just trust. And I I mean it was just a lot. A lot of it was he's totally blue, just blue, yeah. Okay, and you used to be blue.

SPEAKER_01 4:41

I well, yeah, I used to be blue. She always bring your kids here. Jill would bring her two kids and her two kids, two kids. Yeah, and then I would have to make homemade pancakes and syrup. Yeah, it was too much for me. I have no blue, blue is not my color. So the first man, very kind of blue. Let's talk about Mr.

SPEAKER_00 5:01

NFR. Oh, totally yellow. Like so much fun, comes to Vegas, um, has fun, just wants to have fun all the time. And he's super, I mean, so he says, right? Okay, that he's super successful. He's in the oil business, and it's like we we could totally have fun together. So yellow, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:22

But he talks about accomplishments, red. Oh, he told you super successful. So he's a red yellow, a red yellow. Uh-huh. That can be really good because red yellows make quick decisions. See, he reached out after he saw you on this. Yeah. And the reds are very driven. Yeah. Top of the company. Okay. And then the yellows, they just have fun. Yeah. So they work hard, play hard.

SPEAKER_00 5:45

So I've turned in, I'm a yellow. I'm a blue, yellow, or yellow blue, or you're I don't know, yellow, blue, but something squished.

SPEAKER_01 5:53

You become a little blue, but we're sure we're trying to get you out of it.

SPEAKER_00 5:57

Okay, okay. All right. So the first guy was blue, then a yellow, uh-huh. A yellow red yellow. Red yellow. Yeah. Okay, let's talk about you. Let's talk about the color code. Can we just talk about that as far as like well?

SPEAKER_01 6:10

I want to ask something. Oh, okay. So here's what I want to ask. The first husband, which is like the driver's permit. Like you get married the first time to kind of learn. What personality was he? He was blue. Oh, blue. Yeah. Yeah, kind of boring. Okay. So what about the second husband? Not that you failed in the first, but you've only had two, it's a good run. Okay. My second husband was completely white.

SPEAKER_00 6:37

Ooh. Yeah. Not too much fun. No. Just level. I like to travel. Yeah. Very level. Just uh like very consistent. Very consistent. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:50

Yeah. That's why that ended. Okay. So you said let's talk color code. Yeah. Let's do it. Okay. Let's do it. Many of you don't know, I had a company, um, thank you, Marcy, and Dennis Evans, Color Strategies. Yeah. I spoken all over the state. I spoke to businesses. So I studied it. And I just real quickly want to tell you how it came, doesn't matter. But in my former company, I was giving a trip to Mexico. And so right at the beginning of my meeting, we did the Macarena. We yellows loved it. Oh, yeah. And the yellows are doing it. The blues sat in their chair or they came late, just so you know. And the red said, this is the stupidest thing. So that's how color strategy. What does the whites do? The whites, they just kind of sat there with a look on their face of I don't even know the steps to this. That's what happened. Oh, okay. Okay. Okay. Yes. So color coding, you guys, is fun because you find what your core is. And we're not going to go deep into that tonight. Not tonight. Uh-uh. But we're going to another time. Yeah. I think we should.

SPEAKER_00 7:53

Let's do it. Yeah, that'll be part three.

SPEAKER_01 7:55

Okay. Yes. Episode three. So if you guys were to go out on a date, messy just. Do you want to go with the red, driven, in charge, pulls up, nice car? Do you want to go with the yellow 10, 15 minutes late, having fun, got the convertible going, or you got the blue? They pull up in the van. Nothing wrong with it, Jill. They've got the van for the grandkids. At your age, they're not young. Okay, they're gonna have grandkids. They come in the van and they might have you an extra bottle of water and some Tylenol. And then the whites, they just show maybe up in very basic clothing, maybe nothing much. Yeah. And in their Prius. Yeah, they're more Prius, more conservative. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:44

So what would you guys all go out with? Yeah. Let us know in the comments. Like, who would be your perfect match? Would it be the red? Who's driven, right? Dated many reds. Yeah. Okay. Reds. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Or would it be the blue that is gonna like what what do blues do on a date?

SPEAKER_01 9:04

Well, blues are more structured. Okay. They like they know that you're going to the movie and you're going to dinner. They've got it all planned. Yeah, not very spontaneous. No, not spontaneous. But the yellows. The yellows, they were fast. They do really fast things. My high school boyfriend was yellow.

SPEAKER_00 9:22

Okay. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:23

All right.

SPEAKER_00 9:24

That was fun. All right. And then, yeah, and the white just kind of the whites, they're just too detailed.

SPEAKER_01 9:30

I was married to a white. Jilly knows that.

SPEAKER_00 9:33

But the whites were very, I mean, very like this, but very conservative. Like he might want a coupon to take you on a date. Maybe. Share with me a story of the coupon. Well, I dated a guy once that we had to go to dinner after eight o'clock because he had a coupon for sushi after eight. That's a white, right? Yeah. Yeah. White, not too exciting. I'm like, oh wow. Okay. Yeah, let's let's do everything before we go to dinner then. All right. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 10:07

It just, you guys, we will talk about this more because the thing is, you've got to find your match. You do have to find your match. And you have to find humor through every tragedy because this dating is gonna be horrific for you. Dating after 50.

SPEAKER_00 10:23

What is that like? Well, I don't even know because I'm just starting. Oh, yeah. I'm just barely starting. It started with a phone date. I haven't been dating. So yeah, just oh, it's not sounding good, Jill. It's not good. I know, I know. And this dating after 50 series that we're doing right now, it might be short-lived because I'm I'm not getting asked out on dates. Do you what about you?

SPEAKER_01 10:47

Jill, I have bypassed that. I am my life is very good, and maybe I have a mystery man. Maybe, maybe there's someone in my life nobody even knows about. Oh my gosh. Yeah. That would be so cool. Okay. I know for sure. Yeah. So, guys, Jill has had two phone dates. Oh my gosh. We would like volunteers for five. Five phone dates. We need to hear. And they need to get creative. Okay. And maybe if they turn the camera on. A yellow would have had the camera on right off, just so you know. Right. Yeah. Oh, and the second date, the nooner date.

unknown 11:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:26

What happened with the nooner? We we did a FaceTime. It was uh it wasn't just audio, it was it was like FaceTime.

SPEAKER_01 11:33

It was fun. That's that's the yellow. Yeah, okay, guys. We love your TUB Talk with it. We'll be back soon. And one thing we want you to know, talk blonde to me. We will always talk blonde to our audience. We love you so much. We sure do. Have a great day. Have a Tuesday. Talk to you guys.

SPEAKER_00 11:57

Let's see how we did.