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We talk a lot about intentionality and alignment, but what happens when the path meant for you doesn't look like a neat, perfect corporate plan?

In this incredibly special episode, I am thrilled to introduce Bold Clarity’s very first guest: Shay Jones, owner of Galore Grazing! Shay shares her journey from navigating the corporate 9-to-5 grind and major life transitions to launching a highly successful, fully booked charcuterie and wine-tasting events business in Dallas.

Topics:

  • Releasing the Need for Control 
  • The Routine of Consistency
  • The Process vs. The Outcome
  • Overestimating the Short Term
  • Accepting Help

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SPEAKER_01

Today we have our very first guest and I am so grateful and excited for you to be here. Welcome back to Bold Clarity where we slow the noise, tell the truth, and make room for the people that we are becoming. Before we jump all the way in, feel free to formally introduce yourself and then just tell us kind of who you are and what you do.

SPEAKER_04

Okay. Um my name is Shay Jones. I um am the owner of Glore Grazing. And so you've seen some of the work that goes into that. Glorgazing is a charcuterie and events business. So I do some catering. Um, but I've noticed more than anything, I've been doing classes. I feel like that's what I've seen a lot of on social media. Yeah, definitely heavy, heavy on the classes, so charcuterie and mom tasting classes. Um doing that out of the Lorenzo Hotel in Dallas as well as some private ones too. So a little bit of both, but lots of lots of classes.

SPEAKER_01

That's super cool. Yes, I've seen your classes on social media, and it always looks just like such a fun, intimate event when you host those. So that's really cool. I love it. Um, okay, oh, and just in case anyone's wondering how we know each other, I just realized I didn't say that. Oh yeah. So our girls go to school together, and we have run into each other several times. Birthday parties, cheer, what are they called? Clinics.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, the cheer clinics, the summer cheer clinics, coffee shop, yeah, all the things.

SPEAKER_01

Okay. So I would love to start with you just telling a little bit of your story in terms of what you were doing before, and then how you got into owning your own business and launching all of that.

SPEAKER_04

So it's been like this, like this for sure. Um, oh, where do I even want to start? So I actually never saw myself owning a business. Not at first, I'll say at least. Like I went to school um for psychology and criminal justice because I thought I was going to go into that sector. I wanted to do um psychology in the criminal justice field.

SPEAKER_02

Oh, that's true.

SPEAKER_04

Um, but that's you know, you make those decisions when you're so young, and I was like 18 and I thought that that's what I wanted to do. Yeah. So started off with that, did nothing with it, absolutely nothing. Nothing. I worked in corporate America for years. Um, like nine to five life as a recruiter, um, an executive assistant, um, event planning, all of that. So I did, yeah, I did a lot of the like corporate nine to five, and I did not like it.

SPEAKER_01

The only thing that I'll say I liked was event planning, which makes sense because that's what you continue to do.

SPEAKER_04

Yes, I continued on with that with Galore um and in hosting so many events, but yeah, I did not like corporate America at all. And um when COVID happened, you know, they sent everybody home. So I was working from home and I was like, okay, I like this. And at this point, I just had Shy. Okay. So she's not even one yet. And I was not willing to give up being at home with her. Once they were like, okay, we're all going back into the office. I said, You're like, y'all are going back into the office. I'm not. I personally will not be in attendance. I love it. So I I didn't. I didn't. I I think I went, I went back uh two days a week for a couple months, and then I quit because I was not willing to do that, and I ended up working for a nonprofit that was 100% remote. Well, we had to travel. We had to travel uh once or twice a year um to New York because that's where the sometimes it was New York, sometimes New Orleans. Okay. Um yeah, that was that was cool. It was a very long travel time, though. We had to be gone for six days. Oh, yeah. That's a lot, which I felt like it was a lot, but everything else was at home. Okay. So it's like, all right, I'm willing to do that. And at the same time, that's when I started galore. Um, and you know what? Actually, let me back up even a little bit more before I started galore. I was studying at the same time, like right after Shai was born. I was studying to get my nutrition certification. So, like completely outside of Galore. I hadn't even started that. Okay. Studying to get my nutrition certification, um, passed that test, got that, and didn't necessarily do anything with it with it, but I had all the knowledge that I wanted because I have a strong interest in um just like the health and wellness sector. Yeah, so I was like, I want to get the certification for my own knowledge, and then also to share it in whatever way it feels organic, and then whatever comes from it, comes from it. Okay, I didn't really have a plan to be honest.

SPEAKER_01

It was just like this is an interest. Yes. So I'm gonna incorporate it somehow, but yeah, you really know, like, oh, I'm gonna do a not at all.

SPEAKER_04

I was like, maybe I'll take one-on-one clients, and then that didn't feel right. And I am all about going where it feels right. Going where you're led. Go where you're led. I promise you, it's going to turn out so much better. So really happy I did that. So happy I have that knowledge. Um, and I get to kind of share that because I have a blog, so I share health and wellness content on my blog and on social media, but nothing monetary. Okay, and I'm completely okay with that because I truthfully do it as a passion because like I want to get that knowledge out. It's important, yeah. Yeah, so I'm like, so that was one side of things. Okay. Then, okay, segue into the actual business part of things um with Galore. I uh decided to start that. I did a class for um someone who she's an AKA. Her name's Brittany, she actually lives in our neighborhood. Hey Brittany, hey, hey Brittany.

SPEAKER_01

If you she could be our next guest.

SPEAKER_04

She asked me to host a class for um, there was uh an alpha convention in Fort Worth. Okay. Because I had done like this big charcuterie board for my 30th birthday. Um, and like a wine tasting. This was all for fun, just for my birthday, yeah, at my house. And she came over and she was like, You're so good at that. Can you do a class for this convention? And I was like, I was terrified of public speaking, and I didn't have like a class structure, yeah, nothing. So I did it once and then it just went over really well, and I decided to make it a business, and it went through a couple different rebrands in the process, yeah. And then um, yeah, you fine-tune it and you learn, and just kind of along the way, I was like, I want to pursue this full time, so yeah, now that's what I do. Pursue full-time.

SPEAKER_01

That's so cool, and I love that you mentioned going where you're led. Oh, yes, because I think that is something that a lot of us are scared of because we don't always know, like, well, how is it gonna work? What is it gonna look like? Um, because a lot of times where we're led is not necessarily like in a traditional work environment, right? I know. So it's like, right, oh, this is oh, hmm, how's this gonna work? Um I'm curious, was there like a specific moment where you were very clear? Like, okay, I know this is what I've been doing. I'm deciding right now that like I am going to start this business, this passion that I've had, I'm gonna, I'm going to make this my full-time thing. Was there like a clear moment for you where you were like, all right, I'm gonna do this?

SPEAKER_04

Um, no. Okay, no, there was not a clear moment. And I think there's something interesting about that though. I am so comfortable with seeing where things go. I'm really comfortable with seeing where things go. So I am not a person who necessarily needs an epiphany to do it, to do the thing. Like I I don't need that. Um, but I think that that's a part of what makes a lot of people successful because if you don't just throw some things at the wall, sometimes you don't. You have no idea how it's gonna turn out. Yeah. Um, so yeah, no, no, no, no clarity on that one um at first. Yeah, it did become clear to me that this was what was making sense. You know, I was, like I said before, having my nutrition certification, I was really pushing for that path because I think I did have an idea that I wanted to be an entrepreneur at that point. So I was pushing, you know, to want to take one on my clients, and I put a lot of work into writing a cookbook. So I was trying, trying and pushing for something that just wasn't making sense, and everything was leading me towards galore. So I put the cookbook down, which I'm still gonna write it someday, guys. Which is not right now, it just doesn't make sense. Um definitely will want to eventually, but I just go where it makes sense and where all these opportunities are being presented, and I'm like, just let let things flow. Yeah. So that's exactly what I did. I just let it flow, and then it just started to get bigger and bigger, and then I had Hilton reach out to me, and then you know, now I'm working with another uh Hilton affiliated hotel. Well, they are a Hilton hotel, but the Lorenzo Hotel is from Hilton. So I mean, these are huge things that for me, a small business. That's of one now too. I actually am because I have uh another girl, she's one of my really good friends. Actually, she works with me. Um, but just you know, when she can and when she feels like it, you know, no pressure to her, but yeah, she can well I want it to grow, so eventually, you know, we'll have more people. But yeah, I mean that was huge for me. So that's amazing, yeah. And it made sense to just go there, and it's like you can still have this passion for nutrition and health and wellness and fitness, and I mean I put a lot of time into that, but it's it doesn't mean that you know I need to put down galore because I have a big passion for that too. So, you know, you can do more than one thing at once.

SPEAKER_01

That's a hard thing for people to accept, I think, that you can do more than one thing at once. I think people feel like they have to commit to one thing and it's like that's it. And I think what's interesting too about what you're saying though is that even though you didn't formalize a business around that was centered on the nutrition and health, yeah, it is still something that is integrated even in what you're doing, right? Yeah um, and so that's really cool that you're still able to, I guess, like feed that passion. Um, and it doesn't necessarily have to look a certain way, which I'm so curious because you seem like you are not a control freak at all. And I could be wrong, but just hearing you talk about how you, you know, want to go where you're led, and how you're the type of person that like you're you know, you're gonna throw some things out there. I think a lot of people struggle, well, maybe it's just because I'm a control freak in that area. I don't know. But I think a lot of people struggle because we're like, I need this to make perfect sense and I need to have a perfect plan, and I'm only going to do the action when I feel like the other part has happened. But you sound like you're like, I'll try things and see. I don't know.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, I'm my husband would say differently. I'm not a control freak. I'm I don't think I am. So maybe you know, everything has its its um, it's what's the word? Uh within context, right? So I may be a control freak about certain things. And I like things to be done a certain way, but truthfully, looking at myself and the way that I view myself, no, I don't think I'm I'm a control freak. Um because sometimes what you're trying to control is not what it's supposed to be. So I I've learned a lot of lessons about that, and I mean this could be a completely different conversation.

SPEAKER_01

And trigger warning, we will be briefly discussing miscarriage.

SPEAKER_04

But I think what started to change me, because I used to be a control freak with everything, so yeah, definitely. Um, what started to change me was the fact that you know, dealing with two miscarriages now. I was trying so hard to like plan my life. My first, my first pregnancy was a miscarriage, so before shy. So that was a miscarriage, and I started to be like, and I was a major control freak back then. I was like, okay, let me release some of that control and understand that um some things aren't necessarily up to you, and this is a part of your life, and it's not something that has to like break you, but it's just something that happened, and I couldn't control it, and I was trying to control exactly what month I had that child. Like I was trying to control it to a T. So first pregnancy was that with Shy. Um Shy was not planned, and that's the one. That's crazy. I actually was not trying to do that at the time because I had just had a miscarriage, and then Shy came, and then I was scared, and yeah, I was like, oh, so I'm like sobbing when I find out I'm pregnant with her. And then I had was pregnant for a third time, which was also a miscarriage. That was not on purpose at all. I actually have had an IUD for years and I got pregnant with an IUD. Say all that to say. Those dealing with all of that and it just all being like these things that I was not in control of, I started to release some of that need to control everything. It was a big, hurtful lesson for me, but a lesson nonetheless.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

And I uh yeah, now I'm kind of like let's just do this and see what happens and what doesn't work, you just go back and rework it. It's not the end of the world. And doing something that's new, especially with running a business and having to do every single part of the business, yeah. You have to just try some stuff and not worry about it being perfect because you'll never do it. You'll never do it if you are looking for perfection in every arena and you have to be flexible. So yeah, that for me changed a lot.

SPEAKER_01

That makes sense, and I, you know, as tough as it may be, I do think that God a lot of times is like, all right, I'm gonna have to, I'm gonna have to let you experience this so that you can release. Um, and to this day, I still struggle with trying to control things. I've gotten a lot better, but it's so interesting because I feel like in the areas where I've gotten better, then I'll be tested in another way when it comes to my control. Of course. And so I'm like, here we go again. Like, but right now, especially, I don't even know if I told you this. I think maybe I did. But so I stepped down from my like team leader role.

SPEAKER_04

Yes, okay, yes, as of just a couple months ago, right?

SPEAKER_01

Yes, so exciting. And I am building out, you know, my coaching business that is literally like it's me, like it's I it's up to me. I'm making all decisions. Um and I've been thinking about the logistics of it since I made the decision to step down. So, you know, about a month. Um, and what I have found is this like cycle of, oh, but like let me figure this out first. Oh, but let me figure this out first. Like, okay, before I post, before I tell anyone about it, let me do this and let me do that. Um and in a lot of ways, I grew out of the control freak in me, um, you know, from being team leader and working with a bunch of people and realizing like, all right, there's some things that I just that's not up to me. Um, but now to be in this space where I lit like it's literally all up to me is just so different because even with the team, there was a structure in place. And so there were, I had peers, I did have people above me. Um, and so while I still had autonomy, there was also accountability built in, just like the structure of it. Um, but now without that, I see some of the control freak make it perfect before you do it things popping up. But I'm also seeing the impact of it because I'm like, girl, if you don't post this, if you don't tell people that you're doing this, you're not gonna have any clients. So that's zero, literally zero. I'm like, you don't have time to be trying to make everything perfect or whatever, but it's been interesting to be tested in that way. And I do feel like every time that I've been tested regarding my control, I have felt more peaceful when I finally am like okay, yeah, it's nice over here, it's really nice to not be feel like you need to control everything.

SPEAKER_04

It is so much less stressful than when you're freaking out about every single detail. Yeah. Like, of course, you know, you need to set up some things to keep you in like a security bubble, right? Like, let's not be crazy. Yeah. Um, but within that realm, like, do what you need to do. You don't need to make everything perfect. But that's good that I think with both of us, we have seen kind of both sides of things. Like, we've worked in a very structured um corporate environment. Um, and we've also done, you know, the entrepreneur life. Then we also have me who's worked in nightlife as well. Yeah, you know, I have bartended, I've been a server, I've done bottle service, so I mean, all those hours that I can't even like fathom being awake anymore. But I was at one time. And so, I mean, seeing all those different sides of things, one, you get really good insight into what makes you successful. Yes. And what doesn't make you successful. And then you also realize that the walls are not going to crumble if your post doesn't get views that time, you know? Yes. And which has been happening to me heavily. By the way, TikTok and Instagram. I don't know what happened. Shadow Band, or is that what it's called? I think so. I mean, my business page at least, like my wellness page, I I don't care as much. Yeah. Would like for it to get views just because now because I have a blog and I want that to kind of like take off, but I don't care so much. But my but for galore, I don't know what's going on. That's so weird. But I still post the thing, and I mean, and if it doesn't do well, you just change the audio and repost it.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. And the there is a level of consistency that is important, right? Like if you took that moment or like, okay, well, I'm gonna stop posting because blah blah blah blah. Yeah, don't do that. Right. But like the fact that you're still doing it on a consistent level is important.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah. That's a conversation I just had with my husband too. Um, about the consistency piece. Like, you have to be consistent. There's something to be said about working through the all the doubt that you have in yourself. Because I have a lot, I doubt myself more often than I would like to admit. And you have to still do it anyway, because I know this the doubt I feel is temporary, and yeah, I know the final outcome. I'm like, no, I will continue to be successful, but you have to be able to work through doubting yourself. You have to be able to work through when it feels like nothing's moving, when you know you have zero clients, or you have a class that doesn't sell out, and because that's how it started. My class my class is sell out now. They weren't give way a lot of free tickets, a whole lot of free tickets, yeah. Um, but you have you work through that and then you see the yeah success on the other side of it.

SPEAKER_01

It's hard when you don't see it. I think especially now, because just the way that society is right now, it's so like we want to see things immediately, you know. Sometimes we lack patience. Um, and on the last episode, I talked about how you know, at the end of the day, motivation is a feeling, and sometimes that feeling may not be there.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

And it's you still choose to do the things anyways. Um, and so even like okay, it's not super motivating that your posts are not getting certain likes, and you still know that it is important for you to continue to do that, and so you that is your driver, the fact that you made the decision, not what the outcome is.

SPEAKER_04

Exactly. It's the process, not the outcome. You focus on your process, not the outcome. And I have to tell people this all the time. I tell my sister this. I hope she's listening. You the process is what matters. Yeah, that the outcome will come because you're committed to the process. Exactly. The outcome is gonna be the outcome, exactly. And you're you know, you have confidence in yourself. We're smart women. Yeah, so you create a process that is your foolproof process. Yep. Even when it doesn't look foolproof, it is your foolproof process, and you do that. Yeah, the outcome will come when it needs to come, when it's supposed to come. That's it. And that's what you keep your your eyes on. It's just that that's so good.

SPEAKER_01

Because I mean, at some point you're you're gonna see the outcome. And if if that is what determines whether or not you take a certain action each day, it's going to birth inconsistency and you're not going to get the outcome that you want or that you think that you're gonna have. So I think that is a really important thing for us to remember. Um, speaking of consistency, yeah, I'm curious what does your like what is a day in your life, like, do You have not a set schedule, but like what are the things that you are consistent with on a day-to-day that align to you know your business and who you want to be as a business owner?

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, I actually do have a pretty set schedule. So I will yeah, I will say I will say that, you know, outside of all the like, oh, I'm just like throwing things at the wall, I do have a really set schedule. I love that. Um, so I'll actually go through it with you guys right now. Okay. Monday, Wednesday, Friday are my um yoga sculpt days. So I really, you know, I prioritize, make prioritize, I can't get my words out, making sure I get a workout in, I block off time to work, um, you know, getting on my laptop or whether that's recording content sometimes, um, editing content, whatever that is. So I'll that's how I will start the day. So it's get up, take Shai to school. Um, I will go for a little walk, hop in my car, go to yoga sculpt. I usually will, for the sake of time, will shower there. So I like get my life together at that studio because I don't have time to come home. Yeah. And then I'll go to my favorite coffee shop, park it there, get some work done for a couple hours. And then um after that it's close to school pickup time. On those days, my husband, Dee, will pick her up. Um, but I still try to get home similar-ish time because you know, I want to spend time with her. If I'm gonna cook that day, then I'll cook. I don't cook every day, guys. Me either. No, yeah. I used to, and I just now I can't, I don't, I don't have it. I don't have it on me. I don't have the capacity, the time to to do all of that, especially since the company has started to get busier. So it's like we gotta have quick meals. Come on.

SPEAKER_01

And that's okay, by the way. Like, yeah, I feel like people sometimes get committed to like but these things that like it really doesn't matter. Like everybody's gonna be just fine if you're reheating leftovers.

SPEAKER_04

Tabis is gonna laugh at me when he hears that because of so yes, that's how those days are Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Tuesday, Thursdays. I've had to build in some time to like get my house together because that hasn't been done, right? Like laundry, they gone though takes forever in a day because you have to not just do the laundry, you have to fold it. So Tuesdays, Thursdays, I spent I cap it at an hour and a half of housework. That's amazing. I have to cap it because I don't have other things to do. Yes, so I'll use that hour and a half early, you know, in the morning because I'll still get up even days when I don't take Chai to school. I still get up because I have to do her hair. Yeah. Like her dad is great. My husband's amazing, but he's not Raiden and you know. So I'm gonna still get up and do that and make sure the lunch is made, and then um I'll do the house, some housework for a little bit, and then after that, I'll spend some time working. I usually can get in like a solid two hours. Okay, and then I will um go to the gym, and those are the days that I lift weights. Um even if it's a short amount of time. So I'll lift weights and then pick her up.

SPEAKER_01

I love it. I mean that is a pretty it's like very set. It's pretty structured. Um when you transition to, you know, being a business owner, is that something that you like were able to implement immediately, like having a set structure for your day-to-day?

SPEAKER_04

Um, I I think when I first started, I was very all over the place, and I also didn't really understand how much commitment it takes to do this. Um, so I wasn't and I also was juggling both. I was working at my uh nonprofit. Oh, okay, yeah. So I was working for a nonprofit and also um starting to run galore, you know, it wasn't as busy as I am now. Um so I was kind of uh, you know, I was like doing both. I didn't have really as much of a structure as I do now. And then when I fully committed to galore, um, stopped working at um the company I was working for before and just focused on that. That's when I was like, okay, let me get more of a structure because I don't know what this is going to look like, but I do know that it's gonna take work. Yeah. So let me put aside focus time. And then I started to, you know, implement more of that structure once I realized I need these hours. I didn't know what I was gonna do during those hours. But you knew that you needed time. I knew I needed to do something, even if it's just thinking about the work, you know, like trying to come up with a plan. Okay, and then I started filling those that you know time with actual work and figuring out what does this company look like? What is what are the goals that I have in mind and getting a little bit more granular than I was before? So I was literally about to ask you about that.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. So what was that process like for you figuring out what you wanted your business to ultimately look like and what type of business owner you want it to be?

SPEAKER_04

Yeah. Uh I'm still figuring that out. I'm still changing and thinking about that, but I will say I'm definitely still figuring that out. So it's like what we were talking about before. I am so committed to the process. I don't have a for sure outcome of what I want it to look like, but I do know that I want it to be something that's bigger than just me. And that is what I'm working towards right now. Because it is just me, you know, and of course I have support. I have support from my friends and and you know, my husband, and all of that is is happening, but I am also a I am the worker, I am a worker bee. I am a worker bee in this business. I am not the owner who is overseeing things. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Overseeing who? Right. It's it's you. Overseeing yourself. Overseeing myself.

SPEAKER_04

So I am, I mean, I am doing all of the like gritty behind the scenes work, and then I'm also doing all the business stuff, and then I'm also teaching the class and getting to be, you know, I'm gonna wear my cutest outfit and teach the class, but I am also in the kitchen chopping up everything. Pop and garlic. Yep, chopping garlic in the kitchen, chopping garlic, you know, getting all of that ready. And eventually I want to have other people who are on the scene so we can also reach more people. I'm very limited in what I can do. You know, my the classes I can only take 16 people at a time if it's if it's just me now that I have my my girl Vicky helping at times too. Sometimes I can take more, okay, but I'm extremely limited. Yeah. So I do envision that, you know, having other people who can sometimes if we have multiple classes on a day, that's happened where I've gotten an inquiry for that, and I had to turn it down because I can't. I can't be I can't be in two places at once. So I do envision that being bigger. And when we talked about, you know, the motivation, that's is where sometimes I get discouraged because I'm like, how am I gonna do that? How is how am I going to manage all of that? And then I have to sit with the feeling for a second and then realize, okay, I'm gonna ignore it now because I'm still gonna do it. That's what I have to do.

SPEAKER_01

I'm like, you gotta that's a game changer being able to do that. Being able to be like, you know what, yeah, right now I feel not so great. I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel, but acknowledging that it's a feeling and that it's temporary, and then being like, all right, that I think that's one of the major indicators of somebody who's successful. Because like at the end of the day, there is always going to be some feeling or some situation that comes up where it's going to, you know, hit your motivation and you feeling like you're doing the right thing, you're still on the right path, and all this stuff. And so being able to be a human and say, okay, I get that this is how I am feeling right now, and this is not indicative of my entire existence, this entire business, this entire process. So I'm gonna make the choice to move forward.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, yeah. I have to remind myself all the time that one, your success in your business is not a reflection of who you are, and oh my god, I did so much work to let that go. I was basing my, you know, who I am on how much money is a business making right now, how much money am I seeing, and how's how many classes am I booking? How many catering gigs am I booking? It was all based off of that, and it's just you'll drive yourself crazy, and it's so fleeting. And I'm like, you have to get past that, and also when you are feeling discouraged, remember what your successes are, whether they're big or small. And then that's kind of what pushes me to be like, you know what, I might feel discouraged right now, but look at the things that I did do 2025. Yes, 2025. You know, I was so proud of what the the I had done with the business and how many people I reached. And I told myself at the end of the year, I was like, I'm going to triple that number. I'm gonna triple how many people we reach by the end of 2026. I've already tripled it. We're not even six months in. I know. I was like, I went and like counted individual people uh to see where it was, and I was like, oh my god, I already did it. So why am I discounting myself and thinking that I can't make it bigger?

SPEAKER_01

Exactly, and so many people stop at the oh my gosh, I can't, and and then they don't continue to get to see. Wait, if I just continue to do X, Y, Z, that this result is gonna come. And um, I can't remember if it was in I don't know, one of these books, Science Scaling, Atomic Habits. Well, I don't know, Slight Edge, one of the books, one of the only books I'm reading. Um, but just this is definitely in atomic habits. The the idea that the repeated action, the consistency is going to get you to exponential growth. And so the other thing, I can't remember who told me this, is we underestimate, we overestimate what we can do in a year, we underestimate what we can do in five years. And I think it has a lot to repeat it again. We we overestimate what we can do in one year, right? Or shorter term. Like we're like, okay, in six months, I'm gonna be able to to quadruple this business that I just started, right? But then we underestimate in five years, which is what that could look like, yes, because we don't understand that like while when you're starting, it is grap, it's really slow. It it the growth is exponential after that, and so you really do see long-term quadruple, yeah. I don't know what comes after that. I don't know either, but I get what you that, you guys, but a lot of us stop before we even get to the doubling, right? And so then we're like, whoa. But like the fact that you had a goal for last year, and then you had a goal for this year, and barely not even halfway through the year, you've already, you know what I'm saying? What if you would have stopped?

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, and would have never known just like exactly what it could be. And I hope that that's something that people take away from this conversation. So I bring that point up, not to brag, but you could brag. Well, maybe you know, I want people to realize that they're one, don't don't stop with what you're doing. Be smart about it. Sure, please. Like, please make informed decisions wherever you can, because sometimes I see people doing things, they just keep going. You're spinning your wheels, babes. Like, let's make informed decisions. Let's like pull knowledge where we can pull knowledge, let's do those things. Also, wherever you can get help, please don't be too prideful to take the help. There's so many people who know more than me. So many people. Talk to them. Yes, please. I mean, that I that is so so helpful. So I hope that people get that from this conversation, understand the power of consistency in building habits that you just keep pushing on, you just keep doing it. It's part of your routine. Yeah, yes, it is part of your your routine.

SPEAKER_01

That's huge.

SPEAKER_04

Making it part of your routine is huge, and people, you know, I've had to learn to do that, and I everybody should.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. You also mentioned something that I think is so real. Um, when you were talking about basically your identity not being in the success of your business. And I don't think I told I don't think I told you, I don't remember, but I don't think I told you the story of how or maybe I did, of how I let me hear it.

SPEAKER_04

Let me hear it again.

SPEAKER_01

The story of how I decided to step down. Did I tell you this?

SPEAKER_04

Not the story of how. No. I know that you stepped down, but not you know, details.

SPEAKER_01

So it's so interesting because it is in direct alignment with this identity thing, and it just actually it just hit me while we were sitting here. Um, so I am a worker bee. Like, I am gonna get it done.

SPEAKER_02

Too little worker bee.

SPEAKER_01

And I so before I was um got in real estate, I was a teacher, very passionate about education. Like in college, I would do all the volunteer things that had to do with education. Um, similar, COVID happened. I was at home, and I my mom had been telling me for forever, you didn't get your real estate license. And she'd actually paid for my classes, and they were just like sitting there. So she's really like, go get your license. Yes, I'm like in retrospect, I'm like, oh, that is so terrible that I just was like, okay. Um, and so I got my license, fully transitioned over to being an agent in production on our team. Then when the opportunity presented itself, became team leader. And it was like it was one of those things that made sense. Like it was like my dream of combining like my new love of real estate and education because I got to coach the team and all the all the things.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Well, fast forward, this was year three. I just finished, so yeah, I finished year three of being team leader, and what was happening is that I had tied so much of my identity into the success of the team. And what I defined as success for the team was also so um, it was not a productive definition of success. Um, and it was very much informed and influenced by other people, and not that anybody had bad intentions or bad ideas, but up until my last year as team leader, a lot of what I did was very much like this person said to do it, this person said to do it, so I'm I'm gonna do it, and I'm gonna do it the exact way that they did. I I really wasn't bringing a lot of myself to the role. And so the last year, I was bringing a lot more of myself to the role, and because I had spent two years not doing that, there was definitely it was probably internal friction to be honest. I don't necessarily think it came from you know other people, but I was so frustrated and I was working so hard, and because of this idea of what I thought success should be for the team, I was working nonstop. And I was working non-stop, but also not getting the success that I'd previously defined. And I was taking that on as like, I'm a failure, I'm not doing a good job. Um, and it was to the point that like faith would be like, Oh, mom's working again. Because I mean, it was it was bad. Um, all that to say, that moment it was probably a week of me just feeling heavy, just like, I don't know what's going on. And uh on a Friday when Tobias was home, because he usually is gone for work, yeah. He had already been saying, like, girl, you need to calm down. Like, girl, you're doing too much. And I was probably like this close to having a panic attack. I was just like, I don't know what's happening. I was trying to do the podcast stuff that I really wanted to do and like launch that, but also I'm like, I'm not gonna do a bad job with the team because like I'm committed. And ultimately, I was like, I need you to sit with me. And then he prayed for me. And when he prayed, and I think I shared this on the last episode, I do not remember all the words that he said, except please let Asia know that her value is not in her job. I do not remember anything else after he said that that stuck out, that stuck out, and then that's when God was like leave your job. And that's how quick it happened. But I was going down a path where I was gonna start undervaluing who I was because I was so attached to work and it's so dangerous. Very, it's so freaking dangerous, very, very, very dangerous, you know, and like I'm a I'm a pretty self-aware person typically, but that was a hard realization for me to be like, whoa, so many people around me are telling me I need to calm down and chill out because I kept going because I was like, if I don't do a good job, if I don't achieve this success, I'm like not a valuable person. And that was so hard, yeah. So hard and just constant stress and anxiety.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, it's not meant to be like that. You have to let that part of yourself go. And that doesn't mean, you know, let go of being, you know, working hard and working for what you want. You just don't want to root your value in it. And sometimes that takes a lot of like active work. I've had to journal about that, like repeat it over and over again. My worth is not attached to my job or my my income or how much money I'm making, it's not attached to that with or without it. You are still valuable. Everything that you can bring to the table is still in you. Yeah, sometimes, you know, the income doesn't always match that. It's probably working for yourself. Um, and then sometimes it does. And that's how it works. That's how it works. Yeah. Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_01

And I also realized not that God would ever like you know, he's so gracious, but I was like, God is probably offended by my active lack of faith. Because at the end of the day, that's like what it was, is that I wasn't even leaving room for God to like do God things. Yeah. And I was closing it off. Yeah. I was like, I'm gonna do this, this, this, this, this, and this. And I remember I I read the um like Bible app in the morning, the little verse of the day, and I remember one day it was something about rest, and then the guided scripture was about like, no, you're supposed to rest, like it's in the Bible. You you're you're not supposed to just keep going and going and going.

SPEAKER_04

You literally have to. Yeah. Also, if you don't, you'll crash. We'll catch up to you. Okay, and recovering from a crash is it's hard. That takes you out even longer than if you just ordered like take the rest.

SPEAKER_01

Exactly. Yeah, exactly. So yeah, that was I was very convicted on all levels, and yeah, so then that ultimately led to like, all right. There was I I was too far in it to correct it.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

And had already set expectations with people around me that I couldn't really change, and so it was like, no, this is time to just start fresh.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. But here we are, starting fresh. Good. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

I'm glad that you did what what you needed to do like for yourself, and like we said, going where you were like, Yeah. And that actually something you said actually reminded me um when we were talking about you know, just planning things out and oh, leaving room for for God to work. That was it. Um, that reminded me one way that I try to make sure I implement that, and I actually just started doing this really recently um because I was getting very discouraged in some of my work and like just like freaking out about certain things. And you know, I talked to to Dee about it, and basically we came to the conclusion that I needed to get back to planning my week out on so I do this on Sundays. Um, I write down what my priorities are for the week, and in no particular order, there's just these are my priorities for the week. And on my calendar where I write that, it goes goals and priorities, and next to it it says let go and let god. Just these are the things that you're doing. What happens from it? My hand has nothing to do with me. Like I'm gonna do these actions, yeah, and just let go. You did what you were supposed to do. You put in all that work and all that effort and all that thought. Yeah, and the rest is it will happen in the way that it's supposed to. And that leaves so much room for you know, for God to work. Yeah, because you just you do your part. It would exactly not have like a crippling anxiety because I've I've dealt with that. It's not fun. Not at all. Yeah, you can't even enjoy a good moment at all. And that's Not fun, and I was losing that part of myself. Like, I'm such like, yeah, I work hard, but I also like dilly-dally, you know. I dilly dally, I dilly-dally a lot. I'm like, I have to go, I can't do that thing. I have to go to yoga sculpt, and then I have to go get coffee, and then I have to like I wasn't even enjoying those things. Like, sometimes I like to randomly be like, I'm gonna go get lunch on a Wednesday and split a bottle of wine with my friend. Yeah, and I wasn't doing any of that, girl, because I was just stressed out. Yeah, it's probably time for me to schedule that again. Yes, but you gotta incorporate that, gotta incorporate that sometimes.

SPEAKER_01

It's so important, and I think in the moments when I've done that really well, I feel so light, yeah. Like, and I'm able to be so present. It just makes such a big difference.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, yeah, you need you need both sides of things in order to I think really thrive, and that's one way, you know, with galore, I feel like that business really speaks to all of that because I am such this hardworking person that recognizes there's so many other hardworking people out there that also spend so much of their days just focusing on being successful or rooting their value in in their work and not taking the time to do the the thing that's relaxing. And I think like you know, food brings people together. So wine brings people together, you know. So having both of those things, I'm like, this is your time to pay attention to your social well-being, to just like take a load off, share food with people that you care about, or get to know new people that you don't even know. Yeah, like this is your time to incorporate that, and I think that not enough people incorporate those times.

SPEAKER_01

You've got to have some kind of balance and not be on the extremes and my member who has a job that is burning her out, and she's so stressed. And I have been telling her, said, I don't know a lot of things, but what I do know for sure is God did not put you on this earth for you to go up to somebody's workplace and be miserable. I I don't know. There's a lot of things I don't know. I don't know what's next for you. I don't know what that's gonna look like, but I would bet my life on it that this is not it.

SPEAKER_04

No, it's not the the plan for your life.

SPEAKER_00

No, that's God would no, he would never no, no, but it's like the cycle, especially when you've been doing it for so long, where you're like, but I don't know what it's gonna look like, I don't know how, I don't know this, I don't know that.

SPEAKER_01

It's like, but what we do know is that this isn't working. This isn't it. So by what else do you need to know? Yeah, such an important um, such an important thing to remember. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

Um plan is never for you to be perpetually stressed. And I get and I don't want to sound like sometimes that's not part of the process, right? It's good. There's hard things for sure. There's hard things and there's seasons that you need to stick with the hard thing and see it through. Yep. At some point you figure out your breaking point, you figure out what what's your your your cutoff, right? Staying power, but not forever. Exactly.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, and like there's a healthy level of stress that I think is important. It is not being anxious and borderline depressed and just always doubting, or like that is not that's not the stress that yeah, no. Okay, so before we wrap up, um, what is your one piece of advice for anyone in any season of their life that is um maybe wanting to start a business?

SPEAKER_04

Ooh. If you are wanting to start a business, I would say make sure that while you're in that process, whether you're working by yourself, but especially if you are working with other people, that you create something that is mutually beneficial for all parties involved. And that is really, really important to remember because I think that sometimes, and I'm saying this because I've learned it personally, you are working to create something that you really, really, really care about, right? And you you're freaking out. You're like, this thing has to make money and it has to, you know, be successful. And the best way to reach success, one of the best ways to reach success is to work well with other people in cohesion and create something that is beautiful and successful and it makes sense. If you are only thinking about yourself, even though it's your business, it will not go where it needs to go. So even if it doesn't feel like this is like the most uh the the smartest, like monetary decision for you, yeah, don't make that your focus.

SPEAKER_00

I love that.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, focus on on um the team if you are working with someone else, you know, whether that be a partnership or something like that. You want it to be beneficial for both people and you create relationships that will uh take you far. That would be my biggest piece of advice.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, it makes sense. I could see how, especially when you're starting your business, you're so focused on you and your mission and your purpose and what you want it to look like, and this and that. And so it's I I would imagine it's very easy to slip into like, okay, wait, what does this look like? Yeah, involving other people and making it something that there's space for other people to be involved in.

SPEAKER_00

It's very good advice. Yeah, okay. I love it. Um, where can everyone find you on the internet social media?

SPEAKER_04

On the internet. So you can visit my website at this very long address, um, but it's also linked in my bio. My wellness page, which is more like my personal page, is at wellness with Shay. That is on Instagram and TikTok. And then my business page for galore is at galoregrazing.dallas. So that's across all platforms. Cool. My website is linked there. You can find upcoming event dates. Um May 28th, we have an event coming up. Um, but you'll see all the upcoming event dates and other um, you know, private classes that you can book, um, links to the wellness blog, that's opulence 91 that comes out every month. So lots of good information and resources in there.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I love it. I'll share I link everything so that people can visit you online. Thank you. Thanks again so much for doing this. This is really fun. And when I imagined doing a making a podcast, I imagined having conversations like this. So this was really, really awesome, and I'm so grateful. Um, I'll make sure that everything is linked so that people can reach you. Um until next time, remember to be honest, stay intentional, and choose bold clarity.