From Swass to Scripture | Faith & Marriage Q&A

This week took quite the turn! Ep. 03 we’re talking marriage quirks, complaint "training", random chaos, and then answering some Q&As we got on Instagram about faith and marriage.

As always, we’re just sharing what we’re learning along the way, with a lot of laughs in between.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Hey everyone, welcome to episode three of Us Unveiled.

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Let's go!

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Yeah, let's go! That's a new one. We were waiting on it. I think everyone was excited to see what you had in the bag.

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I know, I gotta start getting creative on that one.

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I know, episode three. I feel like we're starting to get the hang of this.

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Yeah. Nombre tres.

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Nombre tres.

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Tres.

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Yeah, there we go.

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Yep. What do you say? My español.

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What did you say earlier? We're hustling and bustling.

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Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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We're rocking right through these things. Next thing you know, it's gonna be episode 100.

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Oh, well, we're looking far into the future.

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I don't know how you say that in Spanish, but um, I don't either. But if you know Zero Zero.

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If you're liking what we're doing so far, give us a like, comment, subscribe. Tell us what you like, what you want to see more of. If you want any certain questions answered, give us a lowdown.

SPEAKER_02 0:58

Yeah, because she knows everything. I mean, I married her. Come on.

SPEAKER_00 1:03

Yeah, so tell me everything that I already know. So Joseph's been on this thing lately where he's training me on how to respond to the way that he's feeling.

SPEAKER_02 1:14

Uh, well, let me rephrase that. Oh when I'm complaining, I need okay. So here's the thing. Let me give some background on this. Anytime that I complain, you give me these responses where it's like you listen, but you kind of don't, and you mostly don't. You just kind of brush by it, and you're like, you know what? I'm so sorry that you feel that way. But it's like uh it's you don't care. I know it. So I had a talk with Amanda the other day, and I said, you know, these are our talks. I think you need an attitude adjustment.

SPEAKER_00 1:53

This is news to me. And what else did you say?

SPEAKER_02 1:57

No, I didn't say that. But what I did say is I think you need to change the way that you react to me complaining. Um, I think you need to feel my pain. You need to tell me that you feel my pain. I want you to tell me, you know what? I feel the exact same way. I want to hear a mild complaint when I complain. But here's the catch. I need my problem to be bigger than your problem.

SPEAKER_00 2:27

Uh-oh.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:28

So I have to feel your pain, but it can't be bigger than your pain.

SPEAKER_02 2:32

Exactly. I need you to understand what I'm going through, but I still need to be suffering more.

SPEAKER_00 2:38

Do you see what I have to deal with, folks?

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I think I think there's more people that can relate to that than not. They're just too afraid to admit it.

SPEAKER_00 2:49

So I'm in training right now. So every night, typically he complains all the time about nonsense of the world, of the neighborhood, of himself, of me, of everything in the world. He's a little complainer. We love, we love you for it.

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All valid complaints. All valid complaints.

SPEAKER_00 3:07

Of course. How could they not be? Anyways, so he complains, and I'm like, I'm sorry. I'm really sorry. Yeah, see, that's what I'm saying. But I don't say it sarcastically though. I say I there's no substance. I'm sorry. I'm sorry you feel that way. Like, because I am sorry.

SPEAKER_02 3:22

You say it with a smile on your face.

SPEAKER_00 3:25

I'm a happy person. Well, so now I can't be happy anymore in response, and I can't say I'm so sorry that you're feeling that way.

SPEAKER_02 3:33

Well, but so here's the thing.

SPEAKER_00 3:34

I now have to say, oh, right? I feel the exact same way, but lesser than you.

SPEAKER_02 3:42

Now you know. So but the problem was is you actually started to do what I asked. And you were doing good at it. The problem was is it like completely worked against me because after after you excelled at it and did really well, I did not like how I felt afterwards.

SPEAKER_00 4:05

Why?

SPEAKER_02 4:06

Because I felt it just felt weird.

unknown 4:08

What?

SPEAKER_02 4:09

I felt like I didn't have a problem anymore. And then I'm like, man, what am I even complaining about?

SPEAKER_00 4:16

I can't.

SPEAKER_02 4:17

Well, and then So I asked you to stop.

SPEAKER_00 4:20

Yeah, he what did you say the other day?

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I rescinded my training.

SPEAKER_00 4:22

That's what you said. You said I rescind my training. We're at church.

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Go back to normal. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 4:27

We're at church, he's complaining. I said something in response, and he goes, you know what? I rescind my training module on you. I don't think this is necessary anymore.

SPEAKER_02 4:36

Yeah, but I will say you did you did good today on the sarcasm. I'll give you credit on that.

SPEAKER_00 4:42

Yeah, so I get a text this morning from Joseph. I'm not home.

SPEAKER_02 4:47

Well, hold on. Say remind them what you said before you left.

SPEAKER_00 4:53

I I said, Joseph, the grocery delivery will be arriving this morning between 8 a.m. and 10 a.m. Please, because every week he forgets that it has arrived outside the door. And he his office is right by the front door, yet he just completely skips his mind that it's ever arrived. So I said, it arrives between 8 a.m. and 10 a.m. this morning. Please, when it arrives, go outside, pick up the groceries, and then load them into the refrigerator or where they go.

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And what did I do?

SPEAKER_00 5:25

And so I get a text when I'm gone. Hey Amanda, I unloaded the groceries. I picked them up from the front door and unloaded the groceries. And then I get a second text that says, I emphasize unloaded them properly where they go.

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Because.

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Because why?

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They're always in the wrong spot.

SPEAKER_00 5:48

And then and then I said I I responded and I was like, I was like, great, thank you so much. I will bow down on my knees to you when I get home. That's what you wanted, isn't that?

SPEAKER_02 6:01

I thought that was well done. I was proud of you. My training is done here.

SPEAKER_00 6:07

Oh, and then I get home and I'm like, oh, the eggs are right there. And he said, Yeah, I put them there. And then he and then I'm like, but there's other eggs because there was another carton of eggs below. And I'm like, but there's eggs down there. And he's like, oh, I didn't put those there. And he moves the bottom eggs to the top shelf. And I was like, but that's not where they go. They go on the bottom shelf. You put them in the wrong spot originally.

SPEAKER_02 6:32

I think we're gonna have to start labeling the fridge because I labeling?

SPEAKER_00 6:38

We don't even have that much food in there.

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But I always seem to throw the soda in the wrong place or the eggs, or you name it.

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It just it doesn't even matter where it goes. I just like it organized.

SPEAKER_02 6:52

You're such a type A.

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I feel like I'm not a type A. I we discussed this the other day, and I asked him, I was like, do you think I'm a type A or a type B person?

SPEAKER_02 7:01

It depends.

SPEAKER_00 7:02

It depends on the thing for sure, but I would absolutely say I'm more type B.

SPEAKER_02 7:06

When it comes to your work, you're a type A. When it comes to life, normal life, I feel like you're I don't want to say type B because that sounds weird. Not as type A chill girl. Not as type A.

SPEAKER_00 7:21

I feel like in general I'm not as I'm not as type A. I am when like yeah, work or I have some like I'm playing party planning and I have stuff that I need to do.

SPEAKER_02 7:30

Yeah, when you have a deadline, watch out.

SPEAKER_00 7:32

Watch out. I am on that deadline. You give me a deadline, it is not a minute late. But yeah. But I am chill for the most part. You're a very type A.

SPEAKER_02 7:46

Am I?

SPEAKER_00 7:47

Yeah. We can discuss it a little bit later, but you for sure are. We're I I would have never guessed.

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Anyways.

SPEAKER_00 7:57

You are until it's about things that I care about, like the eggs where they go.

SPEAKER_02 8:02

Uh huh.

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Anyways. Anyways.

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Someone's gotta hold the fort down.

SPEAKER_00 8:07

So I want to get my colors done. Have you heard of that?

SPEAKER_02 8:13

No. It kind of sounds dumb.

SPEAKER_00 8:16

Getting your colors done?

SPEAKER_02 8:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:18

Why does it sound dumb?

SPEAKER_02 8:20

I don't even know what it is, but why do you not can you not figure out your own colors?

SPEAKER_00 8:26

Figure out my own colors? What do you think this is?

SPEAKER_02 8:29

Like clothes?

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What do you think?

SPEAKER_02 8:32

Here's what I what I envision when you claim to be getting colors done, whatever that is. You go to like Macy's and you go to their their women's department and they have like a is this like the JC Penny photo shoot?

SPEAKER_00 8:45

Is that what you're interested in?

SPEAKER_02 8:46

No, no, no. I'm thinking you go to you go to Macy's, you go to a um like the women's uh section in the uh um oh man uh uh uh uh I'm trying to figure it out as I speak, okay? You go to the the dressing room and and keep in mind this is a nice like bougie dressing room.

SPEAKER_00 9:08

Oh at Macy's okay.

SPEAKER_02 9:10

A woman comes out and she's s she's almost like a professional shopper, and she she comes out, she analyzed uh your skin tone, your hair color, your eye color, your teeth color. You name it. Yeah, that matters. And this lady, she pairs certain colors of clothes that you would wear based off of your skin and uh hair, and you name it.

SPEAKER_00 9:44

You just wrote a whole movie on this.

SPEAKER_02 9:46

That's exactly what it what I think it is.

SPEAKER_00 9:49

Okay, you want me to tell you what it is?

SPEAKER_02 9:51

No, I don't. Because nah, I don't.

SPEAKER_00 9:56

No, it's it's a lot like what you said, actually. I'm actually kind of impressed that you envision all of me.

SPEAKER_02 10:04

Well, it's makeup, I feel like could be a thing.

SPEAKER_00 10:06

Listen to me. So basically, you're getting excited. You go and you sit in a chair, and they it's like you're getting your hair done, like one of those chairs. And they have like this um color wheel palette that they like put in front of you over your chest. So they put different things. I'm thinking like a wheel of fortune, like no, so think think like um like fabric pieces. They have like a chain of fabric pieces. So they put like, let's say a red piece of the colour.

SPEAKER_02 10:37

Oh, yeah, like when you're buying furniture.

SPEAKER_00 10:39

Yeah, so like they'll put they'll put a red piece right here, and then they'll pull it off, and then they'll have like an orange piece, and then they'll pull it off, and it'll be like green and different shades of green, all the different things. So then they can identify to you and show you what color looks best with, like you said, your skin tone, your hair color, right? All of that kind of stuff. Yes. So, but they also not only do they describe like what clothing looks best on you, they're gonna tell you what color jewelry, if you're a silver or gold jewelry girl.

SPEAKER_02 11:12

Okay, or if you're not that's not colors, that's shades.

SPEAKER_00 11:15

Okay, and then what shades of makeup look best on you? That kind of stuff.

SPEAKER_02 11:20

Oh, so they're doing like a full hair makeup.

SPEAKER_00 11:23

They're not doing your makeup, they just show you colors.

SPEAKER_02 11:28

But man, that would be confusing if they said do your makeup this color, that could totally alter your clothes color. Clothes.

SPEAKER_00 11:42

Clothes, your clothes color. It's okay. I'm struggling today, too. It's been a weird week. Um, so I was blonde all you've never done your colors. Shh, I haven't done my colors. You're right.

SPEAKER_02 11:54

Maybe you should.

SPEAKER_00 11:55

He keeps interrupting me. I don't know if I can get any words out today. I just said I wanted to get my colors done.

SPEAKER_02 12:02

Oh, that's right.

SPEAKER_00 12:03

Oh, but I completely forgot. That's why we're talking about this. So when I switched from blonde hair to brunette, I was blonde my entire life, and then when I made DCC, they dyed my hair brunette. Well, actually, they dyed it right before I made DCC, but I was like, well, we better make the team now that I have a new identity. So when they switched my hair color, I was like, I have no idea how to do my makeup, what colors look good on me anymore. I like felt like I I like you, you know, like blonde hair, blue eyes, like pink eyeshadows work really well. Brunette hair, it's very different. Totally, a lot of like warmer tones, like your skin color can't be as pale or else I look very ghostly or ill, like very, very different. So we had to learn, and I had to learn all on my own.

SPEAKER_02 12:54

And you're fair skin from trial and error.

SPEAKER_00 12:57

I had to learn. And so I would like to go get my colors done and see what they have to say. What colors look best on me. I know like blues obviously look best on me because my eyes are blue and it'll make them pop.

SPEAKER_02 13:10

But lucky you.

SPEAKER_00 13:12

Yeah, you've got brown ass. I like your brown eyes though. Yeah, they got no sound like LC. Hey Tucker. I I love me some Tucker Wetmore. Yeah, okay.

SPEAKER_02 13:25

Let's moving on. We don't need to talk. We don't need to talk about Tucker Wetmore anymore.

SPEAKER_00 13:30

You've seen all those viral videos going around of him.

SPEAKER_02 13:34

No.

SPEAKER_00 13:34

Oh, maybe it's just my explore page.

SPEAKER_02 13:39

He is maybe you should quit clicking on him.

SPEAKER_00 13:42

He's popping up everywhere and then he's younger than you, Amanda. He's a child.

SPEAKER_02 13:47

He's a baby compared to.

SPEAKER_00 13:48

Oh, but he's so, so cute. And it's so funny. It's funny because they everybody pops up and they're like, man, like I this is my kind of show. And it's like Tucker Witmore like shaking his booty dancing, and he's a he's a good-looking fella.

SPEAKER_02 14:04

Moving on.

SPEAKER_00 14:05

Moving on. So I think you should get your colors done. We should go together.

SPEAKER_02 14:09

That's a hard pass. I am not wasting money on my colors.

SPEAKER_00 14:14

Joseph is known to wear blue on blue on blue on blue. And then your underwear is bright orange.

SPEAKER_02 14:20

But we're getting right, right. We're getting rid of those. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:25

We need to.

SPEAKER_02 14:26

Why do we have to talk about my underwear?

SPEAKER_00 14:29

I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_02 14:31

This is something that I think needs to be. Amanda, those are private.

SPEAKER_00 14:37

This is going a whole different direction today.

SPEAKER_02 14:40

Wow. I don't even know what to say anymore.

SPEAKER_00 14:43

So I've noticed as we get older, we both, there's just some things that we just start to care about more.

SPEAKER_02 14:51

Yeah, tell me more about that.

SPEAKER_00 14:52

No, why don't you? I feel like you have a lot on this topic that you would like to discuss.

SPEAKER_02 14:57

I don't know where to start.

SPEAKER_00 14:59

We got married at 20, when I was 20. So I've watched Joseph now kind of grow up and now he's in his. Oh, I agree. Would you would you call would you claim yourself to be mid-30s now?

SPEAKER_02 15:10

That is rude. Mid?

SPEAKER_00 15:14

I'm kidding. I'm kidding. I'm not even 32, pal. I'm kidding, pal. I'm joking. I'm messing with you.

SPEAKER_02 15:22

I don't even know what to say.

SPEAKER_00 15:24

Anyways.

SPEAKER_02 15:24

The scary thing though is what would you consider mid-30s? 32 and a half?

SPEAKER_00 15:30

Well, that's what I'm asking. You're almost 32. Three-quarters. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 15:38

Dang, that's kind of scary. Dang. So in less than 12 months, I'll be in my mid-30s. Wow, time flies when you're having fun.

SPEAKER_00 15:47

Yeah. Well, Joseph, you know, he has his hyperfixations all the time. So I feel like there is a lot of things.

SPEAKER_02 15:53

Tell me more about me.

SPEAKER_00 15:54

Yeah, so there's a lot of things that he cares a lot about. And I think that these things have grown as he's gotten older. Like there it's random things too. Things that he wouldn't have cared about in the past that he like all of a sudden hyperfixates on.

SPEAKER_02 16:09

And also, though, I feel like I care less about things now that I cared about then.

SPEAKER_00 16:15

Like what?

SPEAKER_02 16:17

Um the lawn.

SPEAKER_00 16:20

Okay, that's true. You actually were obsessed with the lawn for a while. Yeah, okay.

SPEAKER_02 16:25

I'm so over it. It's it's it's a burden.

SPEAKER_00 16:28

We're on our second lawn guy now, so please send us prayers. I'm hoping that this one works out.

SPEAKER_02 16:34

Send him prayers.

SPEAKER_00 16:35

He doesn't care about our lawn at all anymore. That's why we had to fire the last guy.

SPEAKER_02 16:39

Well, I gave him a chance. I gave him like two months, and it was a different person every single time.

SPEAKER_00 16:45

Because it's looking like a jungle out there every week.

SPEAKER_02 16:47

No, it wasn't. But it wasn't, it didn't look right. They're going too fast.

SPEAKER_00 16:53

No, he's been onto microplastics.

SPEAKER_02 16:56

Ah.

SPEAKER_00 16:57

Ah.

SPEAKER_02 16:58

Well, we we have been. I mean, I don't want to.

SPEAKER_00 17:02

I'm saying I'm putting me in the category of also changing things.

SPEAKER_02 17:06

But yeah, I feel like you had to be careful when you learn about stuff like that because you can go on such a deep rabbit hole that you feel like your whole life is like in shambles. And then you have to take a step back and be like, all right, I'm fine.

SPEAKER_00 17:21

Well, I think social media has also heightened a lot of like what it looks like. And I think it's good because it exposes the law as well. Like I'm learning a lot, but it's also like there's five million videos on microplastics, and now they're all popping up on my for you page. Now that's all I'm seeing.

SPEAKER_02 17:37

I had no idea, but apparently there's these things called cotton uh leggings. Have you ever heard of that?

SPEAKER_00 17:45

Are you gonna are you gonna wear them?

SPEAKER_02 17:47

No, but I can't imagine like a girl wearing cotton leggings. Dude, my legs would be burning up in those things. Oh, you want to know what you're doing?

SPEAKER_00 17:57

Tell them about that uh about years ago in California.

SPEAKER_02 18:01

No, that was here. No wait, what are you talking about?

SPEAKER_00 18:06

We're talking about two dividings.

SPEAKER_02 18:10

Now I'm kind of worried what you're talking about.

SPEAKER_00 18:13

I was talking about the when you went for that underwear trial.

SPEAKER_02 18:17

Oh no, that was here.

SPEAKER_00 18:18

No, that was California. Remember, we were golfing.

SPEAKER_02 18:21

Yeah, that was here.

SPEAKER_00 18:22

No.

SPEAKER_02 18:22

Okay, anyways. So I I'm a chronic sufferer of it. I'm a chronic sufferer of uh swass. Sweaty but I can't breathe.

SPEAKER_00 18:45

I learned about this from him. I'd never heard of such a thing.

SPEAKER_02 18:49

No, we learned about it from someone else. But, anyways, there's also, yeah, there's other terms for it. But anyways, uh it was coming, it was we were, you know, in like March moving into April, and I was like, all right, you know, weather's starting to get hot out. I should uh probably prepare for this. And um, I saw an ad on Instagram, and it's it it was specifically related to this. I think it was manscaped, and um they promoted these underwear that uh made it so you didn't sweat. So I bought them and I was like all pumped up about it.

SPEAKER_00 19:28

It's like a man that he shows me these underwear. I just got these underwear in the mail, and they're gonna make me not sweat. Like, I'm so excited.

SPEAKER_02 19:36

So I went, I went, I went to the driving range or something. No, we were on the course, and and then I oh that's even better. I was like, oh, these feel like pretty dry, you know, and I was like all pumped up and excited about it. And then I think I asked you, like, oh, like I'm not sweating, am I?

SPEAKER_00 19:53

And and he turns around, and it's I think he sweat more than if he did not have these on.

SPEAKER_02 20:03

To say the least, it was the last time I wore the underwear, it was not good.

SPEAKER_00 20:10

That was rough.

SPEAKER_02 20:11

Anyway, we've since figured some things out.

SPEAKER_00 20:14

Oh, have you?

SPEAKER_02 20:15

Moved on.

SPEAKER_00 20:16

What do you do now?

SPEAKER_02 20:18

Anyways.

SPEAKER_00 20:20

Anyways, well, well, I feel like I used to never care about my skin until the last year.

SPEAKER_02 20:28

Yeah, which is probably good because you used to like literally sleep. I don't did you ever take makeup off? Because you would just get home and you would sleep in it, and then I don't think I ever saw you take it off. Like it was just like a 24-hour cycle, and then maybe 15 minutes off and back on.

SPEAKER_00 20:51

I honestly don't even remember what I was doing, but I literally would sleep in my makeup, like I I would wear it, and then it was so easy. I would just wake up the next morning, touch it up. You know, I think I got really used to this because I would work like when I worked at Starbucks way back in the day, I was working the 3 a.m. shifts and I would work 3 a.m. till noon. And so why would I get up and do a full face of makeup when I can go to bed with a full face of makeup? So I would go to bed with my full face of makeup, wake up, touch up what needed to be touch-up, and then go to work real quick. It was great. And then I think it and I am not one that's prone to acne.

SPEAKER_02 21:35

Knock on wood. Except you were a couple years ago.

SPEAKER_00 21:39

Until I hit 27. When I hit 27 years old, I started getting a little pimples. Then I texted my friends and I was like, guys, how do I have a problem? We have a problem. How do I begin washing my face?

SPEAKER_02 21:54

For the first time ever.

SPEAKER_00 21:55

No, and they're like sending me all these product wrecks, and I was like, okay, I need it. Now I'm obsessed. Now I'm like giving me all the skincare.

SPEAKER_02 22:04

You knew it was so expensive.

SPEAKER_00 22:06

I know. But I love it. Now I need it. Now I need a no makeup day.

SPEAKER_02 22:13

That's like a car payment though.

SPEAKER_00 22:15

Oh shit.

SPEAKER_02 22:16

Four or five hundred bucks a month.

SPEAKER_00 22:20

But I love it. Like now I go to bed with like these face masks on, and I'm like.

SPEAKER_02 22:25

And you try to get me on these cleanser things, which is totally unnecessary.

SPEAKER_00 22:28

Cleanser things you shouldn't be on a cleanser.

SPEAKER_02 22:30

What am I cleansing?

SPEAKER_00 22:32

Your face. He thinks his skin is so oily that he doesn't.

SPEAKER_02 22:36

I have beautiful olive skin.

SPEAKER_00 22:38

Got that beautiful olive oil skin. Oily skin.

SPEAKER_02 22:43

Yeah, well, no, but seriously, like if you if if you have hydrated skin like I do, what's the point?

SPEAKER_00 22:52

He does have really nice skin, you guys. His hands are like as soft as a baby's bottom. I'm very jealous because mine is mine are like a worker man.

SPEAKER_02 23:04

But yeah, my hands are as soft as a baby's.

SPEAKER_00 23:06

You and I have switched roles because mine are like worker man hands smashed with old lady. I was made fun of my hands when I was a kid.

SPEAKER_02 23:14

I remember the first time I held your hands. I was like, why is there so many wrinkles on the inside? No, but seriously, not like on the outside, but like the palm of your hand. Literally, there you've got like four times the amount of wrinkles as a normal person.

SPEAKER_00 23:32

I was on them as a kid for my wrinkly hands. They called them wrinkly hands because I have a bunch of lines on them.

SPEAKER_02 23:38

Now I had I don't even know.

SPEAKER_00 23:41

But it just means I'm going to live forever. These are all lifelines.

SPEAKER_02 23:46

Huh. Anyways.

SPEAKER_00 23:49

Jesus is eternal life written on my hand.

SPEAKER_02 23:52

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 23:54

Is that a new one?

SPEAKER_02 23:55

Whatever, whatever you need to tell yourself.

SPEAKER_00 23:58

Hey, now I'm just like, whatever, but I used to be really upset about it when I was a kid.

SPEAKER_02 24:03

About the palm of your hands? That's a really weird insecurity.

SPEAKER_00 24:08

It was. That was one of my biggest insecurities.

SPEAKER_02 24:10

I don't know if there's a lot of people that could say, like, they're. I don't know if you're insecure, but like, you know, uncomfortable about their palms of their hands.

SPEAKER_00 24:20

That's me.

SPEAKER_02 24:21

But hey, everyone's got their thing. Mine's my calves.

SPEAKER_00 24:26

Why are you insecure?

SPEAKER_02 24:28

Not insecure, but like, I feel like my calves are just he's got some massive calves. Monstrous.

SPEAKER_00 24:34

He's got monstrous calves. We like them. Macho, he's got those calves and that the donkadonk.

SPEAKER_02 24:41

Anyway.

SPEAKER_00 24:41

He's got a booty and some calves.

SPEAKER_02 24:43

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 24:44

Yep. We love it. Anyway, should we move on to questions?

SPEAKER_02 24:48

A little bottom heavy.

SPEAKER_00 24:54

Yep, you are just the way I like you.

SPEAKER_02 24:57

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 24:58

Okay, should we move on to some questions?

SPEAKER_02 25:00

Let's do it.

SPEAKER_00 25:01

Okay, so some people I asked on Instagram the other day um what people wanted to know, and they submitted a lot of questions, and I got a lot of faith in marriage questions. So I wanted to go into those today. So some people asked how to prepare for marriage if you're single.

SPEAKER_02 25:18

If you're single.

SPEAKER_00 25:19

Yeah. I think that's a hard, it's a hard question because it's like if you're single and you want to be married and you're not, it can feel defeating, and I'm very sorry that you're in that waiting period. But I do think that God has that waiting period for a reason, and He is shaping you and your significant other so that when you guys meet, it is meant to be, and you guys are both in the perfect place for each other. Like I've always heard the phrase um, like, God's not going to give you your dream job right out of college because you're just not gonna be ready for it. You're not gonna have the experience and you're ultimately going to fail at that job if you get if you're a CEO at 22 years old, you know? Like, so he's not gonna give you your dream man if you're not ready for that person, like, or if that person's not ready for you.

SPEAKER_02 26:12

So well, and I I feel like I can speak to this because oh, can you? Well, yeah, because before I met you, I would I wasn't in a relationship for like four years, maybe five years. Like it was a while, and then I came along, yeah, and kind of wrecked my world.

SPEAKER_00 26:32

Turned it upside down, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 26:34

No, but but I I definitely can relate to this because I I was for sure feeling like uh eager and well, and like kind of lonely. Like it is lonely not having a significant other, but um like in hindsight, it's easier in hindsight because it's like oh it all worked out, you know, which I feel like for everyone it will work out, but um, you definitely have to be patient. I feel like that's the biggest thing, and like just trust in God's timing. Um, I mean, we're kind of seeing that right now with our own stuff, and as as a couple too, which is interesting, but yeah, like you definitely just need to trust his timing, um, grow in your faith. I feel like that was one thing I I I wasn't as focused on my faith at the at the time, which I wish I was, but I was definitely focused on just growing as a person before I had met you. And the funny thing is, is and we've talked about this, but if you had met me, you know, right when I had moved to California, like odds are is you would have had zero interest in me.

SPEAKER_00 27:44

And if you would have met me any before, I would have been in high school, and this would have been a full no-go.

SPEAKER_02 27:50

But the but I had grown since I had moved there, and I think you met this grown person, and you fell in love with him, not this like immature kid, you know. No, it's so it's like to your point that like maybe you're just kind of in training, you know, and and or maybe the other person, like you think it's both. I was in training, and you had to wait for me.

SPEAKER_00 28:18

I had to wait for timing, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:19

Yeah, like who knows? And it's just it's so easy in hindsight, but yeah, in the moment it's kind of frustrating and tough. But I feel like God definitely has a plan, He wants people to be with others, and I mean also there's so much good you can do when you're single. Like not saying that like I don't appreciate our marriage because I think it's like the best thing that's ever happened to me, but like if you look at Paul in the Bible, like he was single and one of the most I mean, one of the he was such a big part of the Bible and Jesus' story, and I mean it's probably in large part to him being single, single, because he was so focused on Jesus, and so and he had the time and the ability to serve and to preach serving, like you could really go crazy with serving.

SPEAKER_00 29:18

Honestly, if you you could honestly meet somebody serving too.

SPEAKER_02 29:21

I feel like you hear about that pretty often.

SPEAKER_00 29:24

100% like and if you're gonna meet somebody like stop going to the bars, people, you're not gonna find your dream guy in a bar.

SPEAKER_02 29:31

It's funny you say that too, because I that would I had like a no-bar thing. I mean, I never was had any interest in bars, anyways, but like I always told myself, like, I don't want to meet someone who is regular at a bar. Like, I'm not a regular, like, I don't want to meet someone who consistently gets drunk or parties or whatever it is.

SPEAKER_00 29:53

Yeah, if that's not the life you want to live. But I'd want to meet someone at my church or like serving in the community or anywhere.

SPEAKER_02 30:02

There's a lot of good people out there too. There is a lot of good people, and I feel like they're just well, and honestly, like where we live too, there's a lot of good people. Like, there are pockets of of I feel like where you live does matter too. Like where we lived in California, like it was more difficult to meet people.

SPEAKER_00 30:21

There just wasn't as many people, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 30:23

And so, like, in where we live now, it's like a melting. There's there's more options of like serving, so then you meet more people, and like so. I mean, living in a higher, you know, populated area, I feel like definitely helps.

SPEAKER_00 30:39

Yeah, that's fair. Yeah, not being afraid to go out and not being afraid to talk to people too. Yeah, but definitely use this time as training, like you said, like this is your training phase, like use it to rely on God to serve in your community, like use this time to just better yourself and better your relationship with the Lord so that when you are in a marriage, like then you can communicate well with your partner, you can uh you're able to pray over one another, you're able to be fully like centered around Jesus, and you don't have to like figure that out on top of figuring out marriage and living with someone else.

SPEAKER_02 31:17

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 31:18

Okay, question number two. Um, how would you recommend somebody start reading their Bible? I got a lot of this question, and I think that this is such a like such a good question because you and I had the same feeling last year.

SPEAKER_01 31:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:34

Like we I I remember I was on a DCC trip one time and I saw um my friend Kelly reading her Bible. She would wake up every morning when we were on this DCC appearance and she would read her Bible. And I was like, What are you reading? Like, how do you start? Because like the Bible is boring. Like, what are you reading in this thing? Well, it's big, it's a big book. I don't even know where you begin. How are you reading it? And um, she kind of talked to me, but then we had some more friends tell us and John, yeah. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 32:03

Well, ironically, John Michael is the one who told us, but the book of John is where he recommended, and then we both did that, and I I would highly recommend that to anybody.

SPEAKER_00 32:17

I think that's just like that's the best place of like where you get to know Jesus the best. Yeah, and I think when you know Jesus, then you can read anywhere in the Bible and you start to see Jesus in those things.

SPEAKER_02 32:28

Well, yeah, and I I would also go a step further and say, like, start with John, and then what I did is I just did the entire New Testament after that. Because it is fairly short. I did not like you can probably read it in like I don't know, three months or something. And and we're not talking like crazy reading, we're talking like 15 minutes a day type thing, but you get such a flavor for like who Jesus is, why he came, like what he did. How you can apply it to your life, yeah, like just the entire gospel, and and then you also like learn about his disciples and like how they were not perfect people to start out with, but were changed through Jesus and and through the Holy Spirit. And I don't know, like the new and uh it's funny enough too. Like, if you go to most Christian non-denominational churches, like they primarily focus on the New Testament. I don't want to devalue the Old Testament, but like it is it it's really helpful to read the New Testament because then you go to church and you're like you're able to kind of understand it a little bit better and and so on. But yeah, I would say John and then New Testament, and then once you do that, it like it's good to have a a Bible reading plan, I think, to like hit on the Old Testament.

SPEAKER_00 33:55

Yeah, I did John and then I went over to Proverbs afterwards because that's more about like application into everyday life. Um, and I actually really liked Proverbs. I think I was called a fool 75 times in it, but I liked it. But um, but yeah, I I think it's I think once you get to know Jesus, why he came, what he did while he was here, all of the things, then once you then when you start getting into like the old testament readings, the old testament can be really hard to understand and read.

SPEAKER_02 34:30

You have to think this was thousands of years ago, so it's really, really hard to Yeah, I think it was like a couple, maybe 3,000 or more before Jesus, even.

SPEAKER_00 34:40

Yeah, so it was a long time ago. So like it's hard to relate to a lot of stuff in the old testament, especially before Jesus had come. But when you start reading the Old Testament and then you see Jesus and Jesus being foreshadowed in it, it's like whoa, it's mind-blowing.

SPEAKER_02 34:57

I think you understand God too. That's yes, that's been the biggest Iowa.

SPEAKER_00 35:02

You definitely start understanding God, but seeing Jesus in the Old Testament is really cool. Like, um, like Abraham and Isaac, like Abraham goes to sacrifice his one and only son, Isaac, because God told him to, and it's like a complete foreshadowing of Jesus, which that exact same thing happens later in the New Testament with Jesus, God sacrificing his one and only son for us, you know, and so it's beautiful seeing the correlations there. And um, I just love I that's like what I love. I'm reading the Old Testament now, and I love searching through the Old Testament for find to find Jesus. Where is Jesus in this? But yeah, I agree. That's where you get to know God. That's where you get to know, it's where He, I think God's also getting to know us in the Old Testament too.

SPEAKER_02 35:48

Yeah, it's a the whole foundation of everything.

SPEAKER_00 35:51

Yeah, but definitely start with the book of John and then move into like the the New Testament, Romans, Proverbs, anything like that. Start learning more about Jesus, how to apply what his law is, how to apply it to life, etc. Navigating friendship after marriage. What does that mean? Friends?

unknown 36:14

Just kidding.

SPEAKER_02 36:16

You have friends?

SPEAKER_00 36:17

I have so many friends. Stop it. I think this is a this is a challenging one. Um and I think like you could say you probably had a lot of growth in this in the past few years.

SPEAKER_02 36:32

Um, but well, yeah, as a guy it's very interesting because you don't guys are okay being alone.

SPEAKER_00 36:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 36:41

Like so it's so when I'm not when you were you well, yeah, like girls are I don't know, just much more social. But like as a guy, when you were gone um doing like DCC and stuff like that most nights, like I would just sit home at home and work and was totally fine with it. I mean, there'd come points in time where I'd be like, oh man, it'd be fun to like go out with friends or something, but I just didn't care as much. But on the flip side of that, it's like you then find yourself, you know, multiple months down the road, and you're like, oh man, like I haven't seen my friends in months. And so I feel like it definitely you do need some alone time with friends, I think. I think like apart from your spouse with just your friends.

SPEAKER_00 37:30

Oh, for sure.

SPEAKER_02 37:31

I think I feel like it's even good for the spouse that like stays home, you know, because they're able to get alone time and and enjoy them their themselves.

SPEAKER_00 37:40

Yeah, I think friendship is huge and important in every relationship. Um, I do think that it changes once you get married, and I think that your friends were very like your girls were your girls when you were um not married, and they they will always be your girls. But then when you get married, there becomes this um priority where your husband becomes a little bit more important than your friends, and it's not that they are not equal as people, it's just that you have a husband now, and that's a very important relationship because you have now become one in unity, and that you can't be sacrificing. So it's like like going out in the evenings all the time. Like now you have to really prioritize like when you go out with friends and like just manage your time better. Like for me with DCC, it was different because I was married, but a lot of the girls on the team were single, so a lot of the girls are like, hey, we're getting together, we're going here tonight. Hey, we're gonna go over to this person's house, blah blah blah blah. And I would have to decide like, do I go out with the girls and like have a girl time? Or like, have I been away at practice too many days this week? Have I I need to get home at a decent time? Like, I haven't seen my husband in all this week. I should probably go home. And as much as I want to go out with my friends, like I think I think you have to be honest with your friends and tell them, like, hey, like, I have to get home to my husband. Like, I haven't made dinner at all this week because we've had practice, like, I gotta get home. And they'll understand, like, they get it, but your relationship with your friends does change. You can't just go out all the time. You can't be as I mean, yeah, you can't really be as available as you were before. But I do think you should still prioritize them as your friends, like pray for them and I and think about them often. Like, um, whenever I get texts from friends that are thinking about me, like it makes my day. And it's just as simple as a text. Um, so text your friends, let them know you're thinking about them, like go on coffee dates, maybe early morning coffee dates before work, so you're not like having to waste your evening time that you spend time with your husband, and that's like the only time you guys have together, you know. Um, or get up earlier with your like find things that work in your schedule.

SPEAKER_02 40:10

But for me, the funny thing though is friends do evolve. Like you they do. That's like a do friends change. Yeah, I like there's definitely like best friends that hopefully never change and like you always have that friendship, but like your circumstances that you're in, like your friends do evolve around those around your place in life. Like when you're married, you tend to have other married friends. We go on double dates all the time, and it's like you know, the two guys can talk and the two girls talk, like, and it's fun, but yeah, like and and I feel like that that's okay.

SPEAKER_00 40:53

Like, that's great, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 40:54

It's so like if you have a single friend that is like upset that you're in a nice relationship, like I feel like that's a bigger reflection on that person, and like I don't know, maybe like don't hang out with them as much, but I don't know, it's it's just it's friends do evolve, but yeah, friends evolve.

SPEAKER_00 41:15

I think as you grow in different stages of your life, like your friends change, and that's there's nothing wrong with that. Like, I still have friends who maybe I don't talk to all the time, but like I'm not gonna I'm not gonna not be their friend just because I'm married, you know. But like we're just in different stages of life, so we don't connect as much on things, and that's oh that's genuinely okay. Yeah, you know how do you get your spouse on the same page faith-wise? This is a good question because I think it is very important to be equally yoked, but it is not like that in a lot of relationships, and it it's I feel like it's hard to because you want to run the race together, but some relationships aren't, and then you have to figure out how to get there, and if you can't get there, then what what's the case?

SPEAKER_02 42:06

I feel like uh number one is consistency, like you have to stay consistent in what and showing and and and asking them to go to church or or a Bible study or whatever it is.

SPEAKER_00 42:20

I also think to but piggyback off of that. I think that yes, showing up consistently for yourself and reading your Bible every day, doing things around the house, like if you circle your life around Jesus, there is no reason why your household, your whole household will not also be centered around Jesus because your life is centered around Jesus. Your household is your life, correct? So, like for me, when I started getting really into faith, Joseph wasn't as much into it. We just it wasn't it was new to both of us, but I started playing worship music on my Alexa device at 7 a.m. And it would go off all throughout the house. And I remember there was one day where Joseph would play country music in his office every single day, and there was one day he was playing worship music, and I was like, and I remember walking in your office and you were listening to worship music, and I was like, whoa, this is a step. That's cool. And I remember being like, dang, I started reading my Bible every single day. Joseph started reading his Bible every single day. Like I feel like if you are centering your life around Christ, there is no reason why everybody in your household won't also want to do the same thing.

SPEAKER_02 43:36

Well, and I think you need to live um live through Christ as well. Show shed his light. Yeah, like if if you show fruits of the spirit, like people see that as well, and maybe even more often, and they'll say, like, if if your wife's always nice and uncomfortable. Understanding and you can visibly see a difference, like it'd be hard not to follow that. Not saying, like, obviously, the man should be the one to lead the household, but like yeah, like but I feel like a woman can like start the spiritual, you know, path or whatever.

SPEAKER_00 44:21

Well, and I think if you're like or kick it off, honestly, yeah, I would be praying for myself a lot and pray that God gives you opportunities to shed his light in your household, or that God gives other people opportunities to um share the transformation that's going on within them that the Holy Spirit's doing onto your spouse. Because when He when your spouse sees transformation from somebody else or sees like their kids' lives transforming, their wife's lives transforming, like whoever it is, maybe a friend, a neighbor, when they see that transformation that the Holy Spirit's doing within them, who don't want a piece of that? No, but for real, they're gonna be like, wow, like you said, this person's so nice and understanding. This person is like, oh my gosh, like they used to be a troublemaker, now they're like not at all.

SPEAKER_02 45:18

Yeah, but like especially a family member, someone you come home to every day and interact with all the time. Like, if they're just constantly nice and positive, like not just a phase either, I feel like that that could really change someone.

SPEAKER_00 45:34

Yeah, and I don't don't force it on them either. Like, I think that that's a big thing, is kind of like what we talked about last episode, like you want to make gradual steps, you don't want to force anything. Like, if your spouse doesn't want to like believe in God, like you can't force your beliefs on him, and that's okay. Like, you have to trust that you are going to just shed the light of the Lord, you are going to do your part in like sharing the gospel and centering your life around Jesus, and Jesus put it on him. That the rest is up to him. God has his timing with everything, and he is going to make it happen with his timing. So I think you just have to surrender it to God and just keep shedding your light.

SPEAKER_02 46:23

I agree. Amen. Amen.

SPEAKER_00 46:26

Oh, that was my last question. Yay! Uh, you guys, this is so fun. Please drop any questions that you have in the comments because we love answering questions, talking faith, um, all the things. We're learning a lot about faith, so I mean, we'll share what we're learning because we ain't pros, that's for sure. I ain't no pastor, but I'm learning along the way. But drop any comments in there. Make sure you're subscribed if you're listening on Spotify or Apple Music. Please give us a follow, comment, rate us, all the things, help Assista out. Um, but thank you guys so much for all of your support. Let's pray us out, and then I hope you all have a wonderful rest of your day. Heavenly Father, I thank you for this wonderful series that we're putting together here. And I just thank you for everybody who's listening or watching behind the screen. Um, God, I just pray that you allow them to shed your light to the world, Lord, in whatever way is possible for them. God, I pray that you can bless their lives and just show the fruit of the spirit in everything that they do. Um, God, I thank you so much for this day and for the sunshine. And it's in Jesus' name that I pray. Amen.