How Your Obstacles Are The Key To Your Goals

Obstacles stop feeling like random bad luck when we understand them. They are just a reflection of our internal world, showing us the exact belief or imbalance that blocks what we want. In this episode we introduce the Law of Reflections, how they work, why patterns repeat and intensify, and how to reframe triggers and obstacles so they become the fastest path to an upgrade. 

• obstacles as key information rather than barriers 
• the Law of Reflections and the inside-out world of reality 
• ego, fight or flight, and why we default to blame 
• emotional imbalance, neutrality, and unconditional love as “balance” 
• why repeated obstacles are proof of alignment, not a stop sign 
• how reflections escalate across life areas when ignored 
• decoding the root cause beneath surface problems 
• intuition as a tool for cutting through noise and finding the real belief 
• money blocks as a common self-worth reflection 
• two reframes to exit victim mode and return to creation 

Wanting to know more? 

I do have an upcoming webinar on reflections, which is free. Come along with your obstacles, come along with your questions. You can register at my website to be notified of the date and time here brookebarnard.com/free-resources

Transcript

Welcome And Big Promise

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Welcome to Make Sense of It, the podcast where we explore how the energetic and physical worlds come together to form the unique formula you need to create the life you want. I'm Brooke, an intuitive healer and coach. And for as long as I can remember, I have been obsessed with understanding how the world truly works. The universal laws, all things intuition, and neuroscience. Once you understand how it all truly works, you stop guessing. You realize that you are the actual key to the creation, and life becomes limitless. Now I'm excited to share with you all the pieces that make a difference that you can actually use. Let's dive in.

Why Obstacles Are The Key

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Hello and welcome back. Okay, today we are talking all about obstacles. The things that hold us up and frustrate us and seem to land right when we least want them to. But what if I told you your obstacles are actually the key to whatever it is you've been trying to achieve most? They are the key to your goals. But here's the thing: to really understand how an obstacle can be the key, you first have to understand the law that's creating them. Because obstacles don't just pop up randomly. We know this, they come to us proudly from the law of reflections. So another universal law. So really today's episode is going to be all about reflections. Because once we understand the law of reflections, your obstacles can completely change shape. They stop being the walls, the blocks, the barriers, and stop being the key information, the instructions, so that we can get where we want to go. And it's from not knowing this law that why most people get stuck and never achieve their goals, especially those big ones that deep down you know you're fully made for, but you just can't seem to get there. So mastering this law genuinely changes everything. When you understand reflections, you get to take total control over your life. If you want to guarantee anything, the body, the business, the relationship, this law is the law you need to master to make it happen. It is the key to actually getting what you want. And honestly, it is the key to loving your life and loving this whole in this whole spiritual path instead of feeling at the mercy of it. Because not to throw off anybody who is new here or new to the spiritual world, but for anyone who has been here for a little bit, we know that getting into the spiritual world definitely comes with some obstacles. It comes with some fun times, but it's all worth it. I promise it is all worth it. And this law, reflections, it has always been there. It has always been running. Whether you already knew this or not, think of it just like gravity. You can't see gravity, but it's holding you to the ground every second of the day. Reflections are exactly the same. They're always operating and always shaping our reality. And not knowing about it is the very thing that quietly ruins our ability to get what we want. And I always think about this. If we were taught this as kids, and I think about this from having a son and wanting him to understand this, we'd just be so much happier. This is the piece most people have been missing their entire lives. This is the piece that allows you to really take control and be the creator of your own happiness, of your own success, of your own dreams. But here's where we often get tripped up is the way the ego works, the way the fight or flight system works, our natural tendency, and because of society, of course, our natural tendency is to look at an obstacle and instantly label it as a bad thing. We see it as a negative in our world, the thing that's the barrier that stops everything. Or the other key one we see is we point the finger and decide it's someone else's fault. It's like it's their problem, it's their thing to deal with. And I'll say this now and I'll come back to it over and over again. When we deflect it and decide it isn't mine, we actually shut down our energy and it creates more of things that we can't control. Where if we are taking responsibility for it and realizing that anything in our awareness is ours, we can change it. We instantly give ourselves back the power to create whatever we want to create. Here's my little reframe and how I have trained myself. This didn't happen overnight, I promise. It has definitely taken years of understanding and also seeing it in action, I think, definitely tipped the scale. But here's how I choose to see obstacles, reflections, as they're not in my way of getting what I want. They're actually just reflecting my internal world back to me. That the reflection is holding the exact key, the exact story communication that we need so that we can move forward. The trigger, the resistance, the hard situation is just all communication telling you that there is an imbalance, that you have drifted away from being happy, from being in alignment with yourself, from being in alignment with the higher self-plan. And it's not against you, it's for you. Have you ever been chasing a goal or, you know, wanting a situation to happen, like a relationship or a certain career, and the same obstacle keeps showing up and opposing what you want over and over again? There's a high possibility it will show up in different ways as well. That repetition isn't a sign that you're off track, or you know, those signs that I shouldn't be doing something. It's actually more of a proof thing that you're in alignment for the goal. It's just the obstacle is matched to the thing that you are wanting, and there is an imbalance that is opposing your goal. And to be able to get the goal, you need to flip this piece. You need to understand the message the obstacle is giving you and correct the internal piece. So the law of reflections, become acquainted with it, it will change your life. Essentially, is your

Reflections Make The Invisible Visible

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internal world being reflected back to you through situations, circumstances, and people. So whatever is running on the inside will show up in your reality so that you can see it. You can see the imbalance, you can see the limited perceptions, the beliefs in the subconscious or in your thoughts. It's the very thing that you have to have or believe to get what you want. I feel like I need to throw in a little disclaimer here. Reflections are gonna be that thing that we love to hate. It is such a fun relationship with the reflections. But I'm telling you this because when you're in the turmoil, when you're in the heightened chaos of an obstacle, it's easy to sit in the victim mode. It's easy to sit in that, like it's so bad, it sucks. Energy. Where if we can flip it and see that this does suck, but it is opening up a door for me. It's it's opening up another upgrade, it's giving me a gift, it will change things for you. It is the fastest way to get where you want to go and collapse timelines because what you're doing is you're removing the barrier. Because if you don't deal with it in this obstacle, the next time you try and achieve something that's in that same alignment, it's gonna come up again. So, kind of just going back to episode one. If you haven't listened to it, really worth doing because everything we talk about from here on out is very much built on that episode. But quick little recap around how we live in the inside-out world and everything in your reality is being created by your creator field. So, from your beliefs, your thoughts, your actions, and your emotions. And that's your electronic body, your energetic body that sends out instructions to every single piece of matter on how to be, how to show up, how to react to you, how to treat you. So your inner world needs a way to become visible, and that's the job of a reflection. It takes the invisible stuff and turns it into something that you can see so you can actually do something about it. Your emotions are tied directly to the soul imbalance. So the reflection is coming from the soul being in a place of imbalance. And imbalance starts the second you form an opinion about something, and your emotion leads one way. Too far positive, too far negative. Being imbalance means that you can see all the positives and all the negatives at once and staying neutral. So it's a place of neutral opinion, neutral feeling towards anything, situation, circumstance, people. Now that's what we would deem as true, real love. What Source sees as unconditional love. It's the kind of love that I guess the best way is like a mum has for its child that no matter what a child does, you always love them, even when 30 seconds before you're screaming and you're pulling your hair out. Not that I've been there, definitely been there. You still love them and you can't not love them because you love them despite the positives and the negatives. That's balanced love. Now, having that ability to see all the positive and all the negative of a situation is when we're in balance. Now, the minute we tip into having an opinion about something, our emotions lean one way or the other, and we are seeing more of the positive or more of the negative of a situation. And that is when we hold an imbalance and it has to be brought to the surface through a reflection. So when your emotions tip one way, you are out of balance, and the law of reflections will kick in. It starts the course correction to push you into situations to start bringing back that neutral view so that you can see a situation from all positives and all negatives. This is why it happens a lot when we're talking in the negative around having a limited belief or a subconscious programming that limits your perception of self because you're leaning too far into the negative. You are seeing yourself in a negative light and not seeing the other side of it. That is why the reflection is coming up and blocking you because you need to hold the opposite belief to move forward. You need to have a belief, an action that matches what you are trying to achieve. Now, our emotions have an enormous influence over our creator field. That's why the career hasn't come, the money isn't moving, the relationship hasn't shifted, because our emotions,

Balance, Neutrality, And Unconditional Love

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when they're out of balance, continue to reprogram our creator field. And the emotions fire first, then the thoughts rush in to match it and just keep logging and logging and logging those thoughts that it is ours and it's true. Because the ego will always go, Well, I'm feeling this, so I'm gonna take this on as mine and start feeding you more and more of those matching thoughts. That then pulls in more of the same energy. This is why we tend to attract people of similar emotional standing. So if you're depressed, people that are depressed tend to pull in more depressed people. People that are high energy tend to pull in more high energy people. But then what happens is your actions start to follow. So, like for example, if I had a fearful thought, my posture instantly changes. Or think about when you get nervous going into a situation, you instantly may change what you do with your hands, how your voice sounds. So thoughts drive the actions, the actions drive the field. All of it is all coming from one little imbalance. And the field will only ever pull in these situations, circumstances, people that matches yours. So if we flip that match, if we flip that piece, that belief, from a negative to a positive, it's going to start pulling in the opposite pieces if we start finding an imbalance. It seems so simple. I promise you. It has its good moments, but we are talking about beliefs and programming and actions that or habits that we have held on to for so much of our lives that retraining the brain, retraining reactions, the ego, the fight and flight system does take time, but it is so possible. The more and more we understand about this law and the tools and how the universe works, it can become so much faster. There is so many ways that we can shift these back into balance. The problem is a lot of people don't know about this law and don't understand it. The other one is we have the ego that instantly wants to point the finger to make you feel safe, or we miss the trigger that was literally handing us the information. And most of us have actually gone numb to our emotions. We've been conditioned to accept that feeling a certain way. So we sail right past the quieter signals. If you actually look, a lot of people sit with their emotions above a 50% at any one time and they think they are okay. They think that they are feeling good, but it's because they are so conditioned to hold negative heavy emotion at that high level that they're not noticing the smaller triggers in the moment. They're not noticing the things that they could be catching at such a lower level and severity of an obstacle and chaos in our lives. So that's a whole nother pace that we could we could dive down around getting in tune with our emotions and understanding how they show and the sensations. Because I can tell you that understanding how it feels for your emotions to alter in the body is absolutely life-changing in the most profound ways because we can almost instantaneously know that we're walking into a reflection that we are becoming more and more a match to an obstacle coming in our way. Now, when I'm saying obstacle, it could be as simple as the children screaming or getting stuck in traffic, it can be tripping over, it could be physically someone telling you you can't have a job. It they vary depending on what level of reflection you're at and how long it has gone unnoticed. And when we miss them, it doesn't go away. It's not just gonna disappear and be like, eh, that's okay. They don't need that piece. It doesn't happen that easy. It's gonna grow, it grows in intensity, it starts to move throughout different areas of your life until you pay attention. It might start as something small in your relationship, you ignore it, and then the same theme shows up at your work. Ignore that, and then it lands into your physical body. The weight that you can't shift, the thing you can't heal. It's all got the same emotional

How Ego And Emotions Create Loops

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root cause, but it's just climbing the levels, getting louder until you stop and decide enough's enough and change the pattern. You push against it. It will start out in places you probably didn't even realize are reflective. For example, dropping things. I feel like everyone can relate here. We all drop things. This can be communication of not putting yourself first or spilling your coffee. And if you're anything like me, this is probably a very high reflection for you. Because I treasure my coffee. It is one of my little luxuries in life. But spilling coffee or water or fluids, liquid can be communicating to you that you are wasting energy in the wrong places. It might start out tiny, you let the little thing slide, you ignore it long enough, and it will grow. Same route the entire time. It's just getting bigger because no change has happened. We haven't come back into balance. That's exactly why catching it in the earlier times will matter. And once you understand this, you can do that. Every situation, every part of our lives is communication. As soon as it comes into your awareness, anything in your awareness is yours. It is coming from your internal world. If you see it, if you hear it, if you feel it, anything it is for you. Because if we zoom out, your higher self has everything planned, every single part of your life before you get here. I talked about this in your soul purpose. And your obstacles are absolutely part of that plan. They are placed there on purpose to help you find balance in a belief, to unlock the information, the skill sets, the knowledge, the processes that you could never have reached without being pushed to think and act differently. Obstacles are the fastest way we ever learn. When something comes easy to us, the first go, we don't actually value it. But when we get pushed, when we are forced to look at something from every angle, we value what we learn on the other side. And it keeps pushing you. Now, this is a sign that it's definitely meant for you. Obstacles are how we take past and new soul knowledge and run it through the human experience. So it actually becomes yours. And if you are someone who's been through a lot of chaos, barrier after barrier, real emotional turmoil, that is not a sign that something's wrong with you in the wrong place. It is often a sign that you came here with a big purpose and your higher self was loading you up with everything that you needed so that you could get all the information, you could get all the tools, you could get rid of the beliefs, everything that you needed so that you could fulfill your purpose. You can't skip a stage, you can't skip an obstacle because every one of them is handing you a piece, a gift to whatever it is you want most. So the real purpose of a reflection is to course-correct you back into alignment so you can keep moving. Every reflection is unlocking the exact thing that you need. And I want you to understand that you will never leave a reflection without a gift. Every single one is holding the upgrade to the next level of your life. And once you understand the story, it's telling you the actual belief that's underneath the obstacle. It tells you precisely where to focus. It points you straight at the programming that needs to be shifted. That's the whole secret here.

Small Signs That Grow Loud

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The block isn't separate from the goal. The block is the answer to getting the goal. The thing in your way is the thing that once it's cleared, once you find the balance, it hands you exactly what you've been asking for. And the best bit, even more. If there's always more than you can imagine on the other side. Now, the bigger the trigger, so the bigger the chaos, the bigger the emotion, the bigger the upgrade. If something is sending you absolutely through the roof, if a person or a situation is triggering you that hard, that is proof that you're in for a massive upgrade. Now, these reflections, these obstacles do not come into your life until you are ready to shift them. So if they are there, if you are in them or you've gone through them or you're coming up to one, it is because you are ready to shift it. It is ready for it to be removed so that you can move forward. You can step into that new level. You can now upgrade. Now think of it this way your higher self planned are all, there is nothing given to you that you can't handle. There is no chaos, no obstacle, no reflection that you were not meant for. When we don't actually understand this law, the same reflection can take years, even lifetimes, to overcome. For example, say you have an imbalance around being critical or hypercritical. Not talking from experience here, very much from experience. One that I have seen unravel in so many areas of my life from childhood right the way through. Like my sister, gosh, I love her dilly. Don't get me wrong. And she's doing everything she needs for me to be at my best. But she is always a fantastic match for me, for her to showcase any criticism that's going on for me. So I always know that there is a possibility that she's going to showcase something to me. But right the way through to relationships in my 20s, the one before my husband, it was a beautiful example of having to push back on the criticism and the way that I would criticize myself and my actions and all the things I would do to myself. So what's gonna happen is the universe will create an opposition. It will send you a villain, someone even more critical than yourself. And it can run for years. And I'm not just talking a year or two, it could be 15, 30, 60 years. It could even push into multiple lifetimes. The same person, the same energy will show up with different faces until one day something inside of you finally snaps and goes, All right, that's it. I'm done. That's enough. This is not me. And you start doing the opposite. You start becoming your own cheerleader, celebrating instead of criticizing. And when you hold that new way of life, that new way of thinking, that new way of acting across all your areas of life, that villain will disappear. That's a full overcoming of a

The Gift Inside Every Obstacle

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soul imbalance, of a limiting perception, of deep-seated limiting belief. But the slow way, it can take an entire lifetime or lifetimes. So why do people get stuck in these loops? Why do some people get rid of their reflections quickly and other people not so much? There are multiple reasons, and most importantly, not really understanding how the law works. The ego gets involved, the higher self gets involved, so the higher self may constantly push someone into multiple directions to help someone overcome something faster, but doesn't mean they're really understanding what they're doing. One of the biggest reasons that we see is that people deal with the surface problem instead of the root cause. People tend to get stuck in this state when they are trying to fix the problem or fight whatever is holding them back. This is because a lot of the time people aren't really aware of what the real problem is and what they should be targeting. It's normally a lot deeper in the subconscious than the obstacles or the problems that you're actually seeing in the reality. It is normally coming from a different area of life than where the obstacles are showing up. It is showing up in an area that you care about most because it knows it will get your attention. But without understanding how to read the obstacle or the reflection, people get stuck. How to interpret what it's communicating isn't a taught skill, which it should be without fail. But this is where intuition is really cool and really powerful. It allows us to cut through the noise, push past the ego, and go straight to the root of the reflection of the obstacle. We can decode what it is saying. We can pull the reflection, we can pull the belief and start putting in place the new thoughts, the new programming, the new actions that allow that belief to shift and we can get in alignment with what we want. Now, can you do this without intuition? Yes. It will still take some time, it will take longer, and it will take some time to learn to understand the communication of the obstacle, but it is fully doable. Here's a really good example for everybody because I feel like this will resonate with a lot of this audience. One that I deal with a lot, and I see a lot with clients when they come in. A lot of clients come in with wanting to make more money, whether that's in their job or in their business, having money problems, or they just can't seem to get out of the money patterns that they've had for a lot of their lives. And when they go hunting for money blocks and

Root Cause Work, Intuition, Money Example

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money mindset, but most of the time, when I look in intuitively, and we intuitively go in and have a look at the creative field, we have a look at the subconscious, we look at the tendencies, it isn't actually a money problem. It's just showing up within their money area or their business because they care so much about that space. When we look in, it is often related back to a self-image or a self-love problem. They have holes in their creative field around how they see their own worth. And that's being reflected back to them through money. Now, don't get me wrong, everybody is going to have their own aversion of the belief attached to self-image or self-love, perception of self, depending on their unique situation, whatever beliefs they're holding on to, but it will come back to one of these buckets as a whole. Now, no wonder why, because money is very valued by a lot of people and they care about it. If someone can't see their own value, why would anyone hand over something that they value to you? When we work with the surface problem, it just keeps you in this spin. You keep trying to deal with the actual problem instead of going in and clearing the route and allowing things to open up and move. And when we work on these specific things around the self-love, we tidy up the creative field, we look at some new beliefs and some new actions around it. Opportunities open up that they weren't even ready for or prepared for. So that this is more than just a nice idea.

Two Reframes And Free Webinar Invite

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Just by starting to notice when you are triggered, notice when your emotions shift and when you tip out of balance and catch yourself going, oh, I'm in a reflection. That awareness alone is half the battle because it doesn't matter how many tools you know, they will never land if you can't spot the moment that you need them. So instead of saying this is happening to me, switch it to this is mine, it's happening for me. I created this, and how is it for me? That single shift will pull you out of the victim mode and put you straight back into the creator seat. It will allow you to start creating your reality. And here's the second one, and probably one of my more favorite things to do. For the moments that you genuinely hate, when you catch yourself going, I hate this and I'll deal with it later. I want to quit. I want you to stop and go straight to the thing that you want most in life right now. What is the goal that is being blocked by your obstacles at this current moment? What is the area that you can't seem to crack? And say to yourself, there is nothing I could do that would unlock this goal faster than dealing with this thing I hate most right now. That one reframe will change everything. It will change how you show up into situations and what solutions you allow to come into your awareness. It will keep your frequency high, allowing for higher conscious solutions to make their way to you. Because remember, when we go into this, oh, I hate this, and we allow our emotions to go into that heavy negative space, we are shutting down a lot of our brain. We are not allowing the thoughts to come through. We are bringing down our vibration. And when we're sitting in an imbalance from a negative standpoint, we are actually not allowing solutions to come in. So your obstacles, your reflections are not punishment. They are the communication of your higher self going, hey, this belief is ready to be cleared, and the thing you've been asking for is sitting on the other side. This information is barely scratching the surface of what there is to know about getting what you want, but reflections in particular. But this is the foundational piece we all need. Even being able to look at a reflection with a positive lens puts you miles ahead of getting what you want. But if you are wanting to know more, I do have an upcoming webinar on reflections, which is free. Come along with your obstacles, come along with your questions. You can register at my website to be notified of the date and time that it will be live, or you can submit questions prior to and just get the recording. I will leave everything in the show notes. But for now, have fun until the next one. Thank you so much for being here. Bye.