THE SAFEWORD SOCIETY EPISODE 5 - OBSESSED

Welcome to Episode 5 of The Safeword Society.

This week we're pulling back the curtain on what our brand new event had in store and giving you a real look into what a BDSM event is really like.

If you've ever wondered what a kink event is like, then this is the episode for you.

We talk all about what went on, our feelings before releasing the tickets, and our thoughts after the event.

We cover:
 - What BDSM Events are actually like
 - The different dynamics and play styles we witnessed 
 - The connections you make at events
 - The BDSM community and why it matters 
 - What really happens behind closed doors 

So if you're debating coming along to an event, sit back and watch us give you the tea on what happens at our event. Maybe it will convince you to take a leap of faith 🖤

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

I'm Mr. G.

SPEAKER_00 0:01

I'm Mrs. G. And this is a safe word society. So get yourself comfy because it's time to go again. I didn't return to that bit, I didn't practice that bit.

SPEAKER_01 0:12

No, I don't that's what I like. I like watching your brain melt into oh I shouldn't want to say something.

SPEAKER_00 0:16

I've got to finish it somehow.

SPEAKER_01 0:19

One episode, in fact, it'll probably trigger you to death. I'll do that bit.

SPEAKER_00 0:23

Will you? Should we try it on the next one?

SPEAKER_01 0:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 0:26

Oh I've got an itchy eyeball.

SPEAKER_01 0:28

Yeah, because I feel like episode six, people will come to expect you saying something. And it's just like bam.

SPEAKER_00 0:34

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 0:34

I want to say something fucking unhinged though.

SPEAKER_00 0:37

Oh god, okay. This is why I like control of that bit. Okay, it's fine, we're holding with it.

SPEAKER_01 0:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 0:43

What have we got this week?

SPEAKER_01 0:45

Well, um, when this gets released, it'll be a few weeks ago. But in real life, in real time, it was obsession a few days ago.

SPEAKER_00 0:56

It was on Saturday just gone.

SPEAKER_01 0:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 0:59

Our first event at a new venue.

SPEAKER_01 1:02

Brand new venue. Brand new event.

SPEAKER_00 1:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:05

Same old people.

unknown 1:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:08

So it was an event that we'd always hosted at another venue. Yes. Um, and we switched it up a little bit to entirely make it the event of our dreams, kink event of our dreams.

SPEAKER_01 1:20

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:20

And it's at a new venue in the Midlands called Ministry.

SPEAKER_01 1:23

New venue. And uh my mindset of it was a lot of people will come and it'll probably end up just being a social. Because it's a brand new club, and you know, the it's just the gang getting back together, basically. How wrong was I?

SPEAKER_00 1:39

Oh my gosh. I started pooping myself when the tickets, when I realised we were at 120 people, I started pooping myself.

SPEAKER_01 1:47

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:47

I started pooping my pants. Because first event in in a situation we've ever hosted our first event, not normally that busy.

SPEAKER_01 1:55

No, no, actually, yeah, you're right. You're right.

SPEAKER_00 1:58

And although we have an incredible community, incredible community that we we've somehow coined the G community.

SPEAKER_01 2:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

Um did not expect the amount of support we had. No. So I was pooping myself before we even arrived through the door. And then seeing that amount of people, yeah, pooped myself again. Oh no. Not actually, by the way, just for clarity.

SPEAKER_01 2:20

If if we take it right back, like we were very nervous about announcing the the new event or the new venue and stuff like that. And we posted online and we sold 50% in 24 hours, didn't we?

SPEAKER_00 2:33

I th I I cried. I think I threw up and I had a panic attack.

SPEAKER_01 2:37

You did. All within about five minutes. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:40

By the way, I cry very easily over stuff when it comes to support, like events and stuff like talking post-obsession.

SPEAKER_01 2:47

God, yeah. After obsession, when we lay in bed at the hotel, we guys, you know, talk, we got undressed, got into bed, and then we normally just like doom scroll for a little bit, don't we?

SPEAKER_00 2:58

We just had some switch off time. My autistic brain, I need to recharge.

SPEAKER_01 3:04

Yeah. So I'm doom scrolling, and a video comes up, Jimmy Carr, and there was a lad in the audience who'd been bullied. So Jimmy was like, Do you know what? Fuck it, I'm gonna come and say hello to you. So he's cutting all through the crowd, and the guy was right at the back and he was chatting away to him. It was a three-minute video, and you know, he's giving them this speech about bullies, and it was lovely. And then, like, just as I'm watching it, all I feel in the bed is like, is she having a wank? I'm like, what are you doing? And here she is with a phone, like that, just just reading statuses, just crying.

SPEAKER_00 3:43

I was eyes out. I was crying. And listen, everyone who knows me comes to expect this of me now. If you're nice to me, I cry. Well, that was one of our That was one of the scenes we did. It's one of our peaks. But we're not gonna get into that now. Yeah, yeah, it's another side. We need to focus on obsession. That's not true. We can't we can't sidetrack today.

SPEAKER_01 4:03

We're not sidetracking.

SPEAKER_00 4:04

We're not sidetracking. But I was crying because holy moly.

SPEAKER_01 4:08

Jeez, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:10

Was it incredible? Yeah. And the the status afterwards, because I came away with some things I wanted to change, didn't I? Like I like immediately.

SPEAKER_01 4:18

Immediately in the car, we said we want to reduce capacity, reduce capacity, so it gives more people the opportunity to play. Because I think one of the biggest problems was when you come out into the main room, obviously, there was a lot of people who just came for the sake of coming and wanted to see everybody and catch up with old friends, everyone just lingered in that sort of point because it was like the main sort of social area, yeah. Um and that wasn't that much of a problem to be fair, but just created a lot of body heat.

SPEAKER_00 4:46

Yeah, and it was a hot day anyway.

SPEAKER_01 4:47

It was a hot day, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:49

We want to reduce capacity because for us, we've always been keen on if you want to play, there's the space to play. Yes. Like if you want to do a scene, there's the space to do a scene. Yeah. And for us, our events aren't about numbers in that way. Oh god, no. Our events are about the experience. Yes. So we were like, do you know what? We want to reduce the capacity down.

SPEAKER_01 5:07

Reduce the capacity, give more people the opportunity to play.

SPEAKER_00 5:11

And I always forget at kink events, which does tend to happen quite a lot, you get probably 20% of people who come, scene, and go.

SPEAKER_01 5:18

Uh yeah, they do.

SPEAKER_00 5:19

And I always forget that. So I was like, oh my god, was it a flop? Wasn't it horrific?

SPEAKER_01 5:24

There was two of our mates who came up to me early and was like, right, we're going. And I was like, they are the normal scene and go. Yeah. I was like, yeah, no worries, no problem. But in the back of my mind, I was like, oh shit, like, yeah. Is this bad? But then when we seen them at the breakfast the next morning, they were like, Oh, we had the sickest scene ever back at the hotel. Like, we we couldn't do it at the club because of XYZ. And I was like, Yeah, see.

SPEAKER_00 5:50

Yeah, and they were like, the event was amazing, blah blah blah. So seeing all those statuses for me, I was like, Oh my god. And do you know what got me? Seeing some other event organisers, the BBB crew, yeah, come over.

SPEAKER_01 6:05

The scary lesbians.

SPEAKER_00 6:06

The scary lesbians were clean them. And you will at some point meet them as we will at some point get them on. Come over, bring some of their crew who are incredible humans as well.

SPEAKER_01 6:17

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:18

Come and work our event for us for nothing more than thanks and gratitude. Pretty much had had to rugby tackle them to get them to even put a drink to the code. Well, I'll come back to that, yeah. Like that is the most touching thing ever, because that is what this community is about. I know. It's not people who work at the same venue. This isn't that. No. This is people who host their own event in their own space, yeah, in the same area, coming to your event to help you fund nothing more than love of the game. Love of the game and friendship.

SPEAKER_01 6:50

Because I've I've known them for a while and speak to them every time at the PvP. Um they do struggle to like sort of just drift into the background and do a scene, if you get what I mean. Because they are such big people on their scene, and they are incredible people.

SPEAKER_00 7:07

And if you don't want to go and speak to them, then you've clearly never met them because everyone wants to speak to them.

SPEAKER_01 7:13

They are amazing. That's the trouble wedding card scene. Yes, because everyone wants to speak to them, and they will give everyone the time of day because they're lovely, and it was just so nice to go and watch them set up and just because they had a good it was a decent time scene.

SPEAKER_00 7:27

Like you end up robbing their lube by accident.

SPEAKER_01 7:30

I did, I did, because my bag was sort of by the bench, and as I pulled my bag, their lube must have been next to the bag, and it's the same as ours. Same brand of lube. So I was like, Oh, the lube full of So I had to do an emergency lube run.

SPEAKER_00 7:48

Is that what that was for? That was for that? Ah, okay, yeah. And then I literally post scene I said, Do you use Lubido? Yeah. Lubido if you want to sponsor us, we we run through a lot of lube. And they went, Yeah, we do. I was like, so do we. Go ask Mr. G if he's got two bottles of lube in his bag.

SPEAKER_01 8:05

And I did, I did.

SPEAKER_00 8:06

And to be fair, they could have nicked our more full bottle because we had just restocked to the brand new bottle.

SPEAKER_01 8:11

Yeah, but yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:13

And we'd have been oblivious. Oh.

SPEAKER_01 8:14

Yeah. Yeah. But uh no, that was.

SPEAKER_00 8:17

Did you hit my chair click then?

SPEAKER_01 8:19

If I suddenly collapse everyone, JP, just just between me and you, next time you set this up, can you just like click it and then just balance it? Press record and then invite us in.

SPEAKER_00 8:33

Because I pin myself to the back of this chair.

SPEAKER_01 8:36

Oh, she does. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:41

Won't know which, it'll be one of us. Well, I survived the chair. We can go back to obsession. I'm still here for now.

SPEAKER_01 8:49

But with us saying um, oh, we're gonna reduce capacity because we want more play space, that's no reflection on the club.

SPEAKER_00 8:55

No way.

SPEAKER_01 8:56

The club has got shit tons of like every room is just equipment, equipment, equipment. Oh my god, and it it it's purpose-built for a king, isn't it?

SPEAKER_00 9:05

And also, they're still not finished yet. So they've they opened more spaces at our event because they're still working on the venue. Yeah, there's still another space to be done, and there's still more work to be done, and these ladies are working butts off on this venue.

SPEAKER_01 9:20

Yeah. And uh the the the I only have one instance of this, but it's um someone needed a sheet for the private room. So I came down and spoke to one of the owners and said, Listen, is there anywhere to get a sheet like, or you know, just to uh change the sheet in the private room? And he went, Oh, it's in the pink room. And he looked at the other owner and they're like, Oh, I was like, Well, where's the pink room? I'll go. And they're like, No, no, it's okay, I'll go. I was like, No, save your legs. Like you've been around all night, yeah. Let me go do it. No, I'll go do it. You host your event. And I was like, Joe, oh, fair enough. I mean, m most clubs would do that, but it's just nice, like it's nice to go into a new club and see great people. And they smash their checking people in.

SPEAKER_00 10:02

Yeah, I mean, that was a big ask checking in, like, because obviously ministry's been open a while now.

SPEAKER_01 10:09

Couple months, would you say? I know I think it's a bit longer than that, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 10:12

But they've never had a big bulk of people arrive who all need memberships.

SPEAKER_01 10:16

Did like in within a short space. In a short space of time.

SPEAKER_00 10:20

Because we only had an hour and a half entry limit for our event as well. Yeah. And they smashed it.

SPEAKER_01 10:26

They did.

SPEAKER_00 10:26

They smashed it. And I have to say, I was so happy with how everything ran.

SPEAKER_01 10:30

It was, it was just so smooth, right?

SPEAKER_00 10:31

I would just like to reduce capacity purely from a perspective of our own personal thing. But we do the same when we host Glow at Townhouse. Yeah. We choose to reduce capacity purely from our own opinions. And that's the beauty of privately hiring somewhere.

SPEAKER_01 10:44

Yeah, you can't put some rules in place.

SPEAKER_00 10:47

You can do that, you know. And clubs run to ratios anyway, whether you're private hiring or not.

SPEAKER_01 10:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 10:52

But when you're private hiring, you just get to be as fussy as you want. And I'm very fussy.

SPEAKER_01 10:56

You do. But it makes her best and I don't know. Because it's busy, but it's not shoulder-to-shoulder sardines.

SPEAKER_00 11:00

It's not shoulder-to-shoulder sardines. And it's also for us with a kink event, I want everyone to play. And boy, did they play.

SPEAKER_01 11:08

Oh my.

SPEAKER_00 11:09

Can I say they've got like I'm calling it the perv window?

SPEAKER_01 11:13

Yeah. I don't like it.

SPEAKER_00 11:14

I'm calling it the perv window. I don't think it's called the perv window.

SPEAKER_01 11:18

It's something like that though. The viewer's window. It's something like that, yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:22

I spent so much time in that window. Yeah. And do you know what was great? A little pervers. I was perving my heart off, you know. So you were off. Um, I think you're helping somebody with something. And um, I literally was in the window, and there was like loads of scenes going on, and one of our friends was in the window with me. Yeah. There's a few of our friends there, but one friend in particular was like, What's going on in here? And I was like, Well, they're doing cotton, they're shagging, they're doing CBT, and they're about to do a torch scene.

SPEAKER_01 11:53

I love it.

SPEAKER_00 11:54

And then all of a sudden I was like, Hey, hey, there's our friends. Hey, look, while they're setting up, I want them to know that I'm perving. And I was through the window. One of our other friends came and shot it, so no one could see. Because it's two-way glass, by the way, so you can't see when you're in the perv window.

SPEAKER_01 12:07

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 12:08

Yeah. So Jade, one of the owners of ministry, was like, Do you want me to quickly turn the lights on so they can see is all in the window? So I turned the lights on. None of them even noticed. Oh no, oh no, one of them did. One of them did notice. The one I wanted to notice, noticed. No one else in the room noticed. Because afterwards I spoke to one of the other people seen in. Yeah. And I was like, Did you see me in the perv window? And they were like, No.

SPEAKER_01 12:27

In the what?

SPEAKER_00 12:28

They were like, What do you mean? Where were you? I was like, Oh, they're in the purve window, I turned the lights on. They're like, No, that's it.

SPEAKER_01 12:33

There was um there was one point, you know, when you go on the stairs upstairs to the top deck on the landing. Yeah. It's got a load of fairy lights, hasn't it? On the top, big net of fairy lights. Well, Mr. Whips and Sticks was up top playing. So I went up, went up, went up just to like watch and just, you know, have a bit of a banter with him. And uh he went, Oh, nice, aren't they? He went, No, they're off. And I was like, Oh shit, yeah. And this is because So I was looking for the plug everywhere and then ran down to the uh the ministry ladies, and he went, Oh yeah, the plug's in the private room. I was like, not a problem. Because I knew it was in there.

SPEAKER_00 13:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:09

It was um Likinky.

SPEAKER_00 13:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:10

So I was like, yeah, not a problem. No well went upstairs and like the door, you can there's a gap, it's sort of like that. You can't really see anything because it's here and the bed's there. Yeah. So you can't really see anything. So I'm like, Dad looking through the gap, and all I could see was like a leg up, and then just like a naked thigh, and that was it. And I was like, this isn't the time to knock.

SPEAKER_00 13:33

Oh, so did you leave it?

SPEAKER_01 13:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:34

No, I didn't.

SPEAKER_01 13:36

I then went up and I was I went back to whips and sticks and was like, listen, they are balls deep at each other, so you're just gonna have to enjoy the ambient lighting.

SPEAKER_00 13:43

No, I went and knocked.

SPEAKER_01 13:44

Did you? Yes. Yeah, see, that's more you that.

SPEAKER_00 13:47

A is more me that. I went and knocked. I was like, I'm really sorry, but you've turned the lights off to the whole top deck. So basically, also, in case anyone's wondering, Ministry actually had an electrician coming in today.

SPEAKER_01 13:58

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 13:58

Um, to move that out. Yeah. But that room had only opened that day.

SPEAKER_01 14:02

But they got it ready for us. They were trying to get the second one ready as well.

SPEAKER_00 14:06

So basically, obviously, electricians take time to move electrics around. Like that's not a five-second job. So obviously, that was just something that you couldn't predict, but was rather funny.

SPEAKER_01 14:15

Yeah, yeah, it was hilarious. And like I knew if I knocked on the door, he would be like, Oh, what's happening? You okay? I don't know, they'll have a laugh about it, but I was like, I really don't want to do that.

SPEAKER_00 14:24

Oh no, I didn't open the door, I just knocked. Someone's like, Can you just turn the lights back on because you've turned all the lights off? Thank you. And he just ran away.

SPEAKER_01 14:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:30

Which is very me, by the way.

SPEAKER_01 14:32

It is.

SPEAKER_00 14:32

But I am also the party pooper.

SPEAKER_01 14:35

Oh, what did you what did you poop?

SPEAKER_00 14:37

I've thought we've got to be the party pooper. So, like 20 minutes for the event when people are still playing. Who has to go around and be the party pooper?

SPEAKER_01 14:43

Oh yeah, that's a you job.

SPEAKER_00 14:44

See? It's a me job.

SPEAKER_01 14:46

I like doing the one five minutes before. Because I by that point I'm tired. I haven't really got a filter.

SPEAKER_00 14:51

Yeah, but before that, you're still like, oh, they're having fun, leave them. And I'm like, they gotta get dressed, they gotta get out. Like, you know, if you've got one more orgasm left, you need to know you're on a time limit.

SPEAKER_01 15:02

Oh yeah, the that's um, yeah, the five minutes left. I've got no patience for them.

SPEAKER_00 15:06

And five minutes left, you're not gonna be able to do that.

SPEAKER_01 15:08

There's very few times. There was one time a cloud where someone was having like a threesome on the bed. I just stood there in the doorway. I was like, right, you've got to go.

SPEAKER_00 15:17

Because no, but also you have to remember with clubs as well, I think people forget this. The finish time isn't you finish playing at that time, the finish time is the club is closed at that time. You've got to be out. And for example, at somewhere like Townhouse and a lot of other clubs where you've got a bar tab, you've got to go down, join a queue of people paying their bar tab. If you're ordering a taxi, you need to wait for your taxi. Yeah, there's a lot of things you need to consider. Like I thought last 15 minutes of the event, you should be just getting the door. You should be getting ready to go, yeah. Just be getting out the door.

SPEAKER_01 15:43

Yeah. So um, I mean, like it he knew me, do you know what I mean? We did we did have a red banter where he was like, Oh, I just want to finish and then I'll get dressed. I was like, Well, fucking good luck, and picked up the bin bag and just started and you just did you pull the thing in the bag. You are the worst, I was just eye contacting with him, and he was adamant he was gonna go. So he's carrying on. I just sped it up a little bit and he was like, Do you know what? Fuck you. I'm gonna have a wank in the hotel. It's like good lads.

SPEAKER_00 16:11

But I'm always the party people, however, some of my friends now, well, our friends, think it's hilarious. So there's one group of friends who I won't name because I'm not sure that they'd be okay with it. But one group of friends that we know really well were sat on the um sofas at ministry.

SPEAKER_01 16:31

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 16:32

And I went over and I was like, I have to be the party pooper now. But you know what's great about being the party pooper at the same time? I get to give hugs and kisses to everybody, not everyone's just running out the door.

SPEAKER_01 16:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:40

However, however, I was like, I get to be the party pooper now. And they were like, oh my god, you secretly love this because everyone, everyone gets mean to you. And I'm like, I actually secretly do love it. But if you're actually mean to me, I'll cry. Like, if I've actually like, if someone's actually angry at me, I'd cry. Yeah, if someone's but when our friends are like, oh boo, Mrs. G, boom, I'm like, Yeah, yeah, when it's jokey.

SPEAKER_01 17:02

I feel like that that's the approach we kind of take, isn't it?

SPEAKER_00 17:04

Yeah, but you've got it, someone's gotta be the party pooper, unfortunately. When you're having a good night and you're having a good time, you do lose track of time.

SPEAKER_01 17:11

I'm glad you do, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:12

So someone's always got to be the party pooper, it just falls to me.

SPEAKER_01 17:15

Yeah, yeah. The seven till one was nice though.

SPEAKER_00 17:18

Seven till one was quite nice.

SPEAKER_01 17:20

Rather than the eight till two.

SPEAKER_00 17:21

Rather than the eight till two. Do you know what it was? It was nice to get in bed, be in bed, and like by quarter to two, when we know we're getting up for breakfast with everybody the next morning, I was like, oh my god, I've still got six hours sleep.

SPEAKER_01 17:32

That's what I mean. Like quarter to two is not too bad. But when you're like quarter three, you're like, Is there any point going to sleep? Yeah, that's a yeah, it's heavy hours.

SPEAKER_00 17:39

No, but honestly, I loved obsession. Everyone was playing everywhere.

SPEAKER_01 17:44

Oh, and when we were having Brecky the next day, the village staff. Well, yeah. Like, are you are you just a group of friends that like to get together? We're like, Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:55

Yeah, some of our friends were like, Oh, actually, uh, we all came down for an event. Like, these guys run an event, you need to go speak to them.

SPEAKER_01 18:00

Oh my god, we want to come to your event.

SPEAKER_00 18:02

Uh, we were like, You'll see some things.

SPEAKER_01 18:04

I shouted over from the other side of the building and said, You'll see some shit. Like, okay, welcome. Fucking hell.

SPEAKER_00 18:10

I was like, be back 7th of August.

SPEAKER_01 18:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:12

But you know what? That that village was lovely. They were really nice.

SPEAKER_01 18:15

Village was great. Yeah. The village always is.

SPEAKER_00 18:17

We always stay at the village. Like, even when we go away from work, we if we can stay in a village, we'll stay in a village. Purely because for us, I like the size of the rooms and the beds are comfy. I need a good bed. Do you know where else I meant to have good beds, Premier Inns?

SPEAKER_01 18:30

I know you keep saying this, but I've sold me sold to the village.

SPEAKER_00 18:32

But do you know what the thing is though? As well, Premier Inns are often more expensive than the village.

SPEAKER_01 18:36

I know. I know. And also the village always have a Starbucks. Well, I th that that was the main thing there now.

SPEAKER_00 18:44

I I I know you're meant to be boycotting Starbucks. I'm really sorry. I've tried. I can't. I'm not I'm not strong enough.

SPEAKER_01 18:52

Yeah, but what's the alternative, Costa?

SPEAKER_00 18:54

Costa.

SPEAKER_01 18:54

Fuck off, Costa shit.

SPEAKER_00 18:56

I I don't like Costa coffee. I don't I don't and I I call on my wife, my best friend Spanx, who I know will have no issue with me mentioning their name.

SPEAKER_01 19:04

Imagine she did.

SPEAKER_00 19:06

Imagine she did. She divorced. Yeah. You wouldn't have shared custody anymore?

SPEAKER_01 19:11

Uh no, you just go to Spanx. Like, regardless.

SPEAKER_00 19:15

I just have to go. She'd just have to ignore me. Yeah. So Spanx is my best friend. I call her my wife. We are literally like inseparable. Speak every day. Like the only person other than you that I speak to every day.

SPEAKER_01 19:26

More than me.

SPEAKER_00 19:27

Probably more than you.

SPEAKER_01 19:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:28

Yeah. But regardless, was avid Costa lover. Bullied them to get on the Starbucks train. Yeah. And is now.

SPEAKER_01 19:36

Fucking change your tune, your shit house. If you're fucking true to Costa, you'd have still been with Costa.

SPEAKER_00 19:41

Like now.

SPEAKER_01 19:42

Brainwashed her.

SPEAKER_00 19:43

But is loyal enough to me that does not get a Starbucks without me. Unless it's with one of her children who only does drink. One of her older children does only like Starbucks. But if Spanks is going for a coffee and I'm not there, still goes to Costa. But does prefer Starbucks now. So listen, Starbucks, I'm your main promo girl. And that Ube drink, if you can bring it back, it'd make me very happy. Because currently I have to drive around the Starbucks and be like, have you got any Ube left? I'm like an addict.

SPEAKER_01 20:11

Do you got a carton of it in the Starbucks?

SPEAKER_00 20:13

I've got a carton of it in the. I can't talk about that because I'm not meant to have that. That was that was contraband given to me by one Starbucks. To be fair, I can't actually remember which Starbucks it was that gave it me because it was a random stop-off.

SPEAKER_01 20:24

It was it was down south, right?

SPEAKER_00 20:27

It was down south, but it wasn't where we stayed, remember? We drove and then we stopped off.

SPEAKER_01 20:31

Anyway, no one gives a shit about coffee. No, um JP, you don't give a shit about coffee, do you? No. I I I zoned out there while you were talking about coffee. I was just yeah. Anyway, obsession.

SPEAKER_00 20:43

Obsession was incredible.

SPEAKER_01 20:44

Yeah. And by the way, we were all happy the next morning. Fuck everything. Obsession's got a cat.

SPEAKER_00 20:48

It has got a cat. Ministry has got a cat.

SPEAKER_01 20:51

Couldn't believe it. And it's the nicest cat ever, isn't it? Yeah, it is. When you're watching this, when you're coming to ministry next time for obsession, bring I was saying this to people on the night. I was like, either bring a few chicken nuggies or a pack of ham or tuna, whatever.

SPEAKER_00 21:05

Do you know what's funny though? In one of our previous episodes, we talk about how when you're at a club, it's great because you're not getting distracted by the cats and stuff.

SPEAKER_01 21:13

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 21:13

And then I was like, well, this is awkward now because we went to ministry and they've got a cat and everyone was distracted by the cat.

SPEAKER_01 21:18

Oh, it was hilarious. We were we were we were outside and some someone mentioned about fetwear, like what you wear. I was like, well, wearing as long as it's black, and then the cat turned off, and I was like, look, he's wearing black. Even the cat's got fetwear. Absolutely gorgeous.

SPEAKER_00 21:31

Yeah. But obsession was genuinely awesome. Like I saw scenes from CNC, free use, needles.

SPEAKER_01 21:38

Someone got turned into a cake.

SPEAKER_00 21:40

Someone got turned into a cake. Impact, the people were doing tickling.

SPEAKER_01 21:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:46

Like I think you saw everything. Everything.

SPEAKER_01 21:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:50

But there was water awesome. There was water, there was impact. There was CBT, there was pegging.

SPEAKER_01 21:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:56

There was cotton.

SPEAKER_01 21:57

Yeah. I don't there was just general tomfoolery.

SPEAKER_00 22:00

Yes, they were general fooleries.

SPEAKER_01 22:01

I had a lovely bit of Tom Foolery. You do love a bit of Tom Foolery.

SPEAKER_00 22:03

And do you know what also was so, so lovely was seeing the ministry members who'd come along and trusted us to come along to our event.

SPEAKER_01 22:14

And getting integrated with all our gang. And it's just that is that that was that was the point, barely when it was the point.

SPEAKER_00 22:22

Like I can't tell you how much I love the friendships in this community. I rave about it all the time and I'll rave about it forever. And you're never gonna hear me not rave about it. But you get to see them all come together and make friends, and then like at the end of the night, there was a couple of people who were coming up to me and they were, oh my gosh. And then I got a message the next day where it was like, oh, one person had their phone out, and I've never seen a host who instantly dropped what they were doing, which I was actually trying to fix the music at the time, to go and find the person and deal with it. They were like, it was just like the message was super sweet. They were like, you are the kind of people that this community needs because you were so on it. And I know you weren't overly happy with a few things like the like the music and the capacity, and I knew you wanted to make changes, but I wanted you to focus on positives, and I was like, Yeah, I did go into it thinking You're gonna have teethen issues.

SPEAKER_01 23:06

There's gonna be teethen issues. Of course there is. Um especially with And you and the group that we brought with us, like it was a big group. Big group. We always said to ourselves it's gonna be a test of knife for them, it's gonna be a test of knife for us.

SPEAKER_00 23:19

Because you, for all we knew as well, our group could have been like, we hate this venue. Yeah. We hate this venue.

SPEAKER_01 23:25

And we could have spent the whole night trying to convince everybody that But we didn't need to.

SPEAKER_00 23:29

Oh no, it was just Do you know one thing else I would like as well? I would like to provide some more um seating, I think.

SPEAKER_01 23:36

Yeah. Yeah, I think so.

SPEAKER_00 23:38

And also, a few people expected us to do a speech. Because obviously, normally we do a game and a speech, yeah. And I didn't. But do you know why I didn't, guys? I was an emotional wreck. I'd have probably cried. Well, next time we're doing We'll be move back to the game and everything next time.

SPEAKER_01 23:53

Yeah, it's a birthday thing, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:54

It's a birthday game. And if you've watched episode four and you've heard about my love of jigsaw, you'll be inspired by what the game will be.

SPEAKER_01 24:02

Yeah, I've got a sick scene plan.

SPEAKER_00 24:04

And we're gonna need lots of you to get involved. So in the chat beforehand, there'll be a lot of planning going on.

SPEAKER_01 24:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:10

And I essentially I am the game.

SPEAKER_01 24:13

Yeah.

unknown 24:14

I wanna play a game. Wanna play a game.

SPEAKER_00 24:16

I can't do that voice though. What do you mean?

SPEAKER_01 24:21

We're gonna be. Should we wrap it up there?

SPEAKER_00 24:27

Shall we?

unknown 24:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:29

Is that where we're gonna leave it? I think so. So, okay, the takeaways you need to take is obsession was amazing, the community is amazing, the scenes were incredible.

SPEAKER_01 24:38

Like they were they were up to standards, weren't they? Of our events. Don't you get what I mean now?

SPEAKER_00 24:42

Yeah, like it wasn't like it was a first event at a new venue. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 24:45

Um because uh people at our events know that they can they can play to their limits. Yeah, yeah. And there was none of like, oh well, let's not go that hard because you know we're at a new event and a new venue. It was just like, yeah, sound G's event, let's fucking go.

SPEAKER_00 25:00

Yeah, ministry was awesome. Yeah, we're going back to our friends' event, Carnage, in July. Yeah, same venue, same venue, um, 4th of July. Could be wrong. I'm sorry. So it is the 4th of July. There you go, 4th of July. So we'll be there at Carnage, so and we're on the fun side.

SPEAKER_01 25:14

It's got an insane team planned.

SPEAKER_00 25:16

If you are coming along, hit us up on Instagram, let us know. Yeah, um, or on Fat Life either or. And other than that, the ministry ladies are incredible. We can't wait to be back.

SPEAKER_01 25:26

Oh, yeah. Just a vibe.

SPEAKER_00 25:28

Just a vibe, and the whole event was a vibe. It was. And I guess all that there's left for me to say is love you bye.