Building a Communication-Intelligent Practice

What your business looks like when every client feels understood

This is where it all comes together. You have met the four styles, the three channels, and the three layers. The question now is simple: what would your practice look like if every client felt as seen and understood as your best clients do now? In this season finale we describe the before and after. The Commander who stops checking his phone. The Guardian who signs in the meeting instead of taking the documents home. The Connector who refers without being asked. The heir who calls to say no one had ever asked her how she likes to communicate. The words change everything. It is time to change the words.

In this episode:

• Recap: the journey from instinct to intelligence.
• The before vs. after: what changes in your week.
• Commander clients who stop checking their phones. Guardian clients who sign in the meeting. Connector clients who refer without being asked.
• The heir who called: "No one has ever asked me how I like to communicate."
• The words change everything. It is time to change the words.

Links:

• Read the book: The Words That Change Everything, available on Amazon
• Join the waitlist: psycfin.com
• Read the companion blog post: The Real Competitive Edge in Financial Advice

Sponsor: The Psychology Edge for Financial Advisers is sponsored by PsycFin, the communication intelligence platform for financial advisers. Learn more at psycfin.com

About PsycFin: PsycFin is the communication intelligence platform for financial advisers. It profiles each client's behavioural style and sensory preferences, then shows you what to say and how to say it, in language each client can interpret and trust.

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

This is the Psychology Edge for Financial Advisors. Communication Intelligence for Financial Advisors. Sponsored by PsychFIN. Episode 12. Building a communication intelligent practice.

SPEAKER_01 0:12

Imagine a work week where um well where the friction is just completely gone.

SPEAKER_02 0:17

Oh that'd be nice.

SPEAKER_01 0:18

Right. Like meetings are shorter, you're sitting across from a client, and nobody's checking their phone under the table.

SPEAKER_02 0:25

Yeah, that's the dream.

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And you know those complex estate documents you sent over last month? They aren't sitting on a kitchen counter gathering dust and coffee rings. They are actually being signed right there in your office. The clients who usually drain your energy with like endless follow-up emails, suddenly they're satisfied after a single focused conversation.

SPEAKER_02 0:47

Aaron Powell It sounds like fiction, honestly.

SPEAKER_01 0:49

It does. But you know, the gap between that reality and the one you might be living in right now, it isn't about the quality of your financial advice. I mean, the math works. The gap is actually a hidden language.

SPEAKER_02 1:00

Exactly.

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So over the course of our exploration this season, we've broken down the whole architecture of communication intelligence.

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Aaron Powell We really have.

SPEAKER_01 1:08

Yeah, we've mapped out the four behavioral styles, decoded the three sensory channels, and uh analyzed the three layers of understanding. So today, for our season finale of this deep dive, we are looking at the after.

SPEAKER_02 1:20

Right. The fun part.

SPEAKER_01 1:21

Yeah. We're looking at what your advisory practice actually becomes when that sp the space between what you mean and what your client feels is completely optimized. Trevor Burrus, Jr.

SPEAKER_02 1:31

And you know that optimization, it's really the core tension of the entire wealth management industry. Because you can build the most brilliant, just bulletproof tax mitigation strategy in the market. But uh if the underlying rationale doesn't cross the table intact, it's virtually useless. I mean, the spark of intelligence, that pivot where an advisor finally moves from just gut instinct to deliberate action, it requires mapping out the internal mechanics of that crossing.

SPEAKER_01 2:00

So let's actually look at how that spark happens. There's a narrative straight from our source material that I want to bring up.

SPEAKER_02 2:05

Oh, another one.

SPEAKER_01 2:06

Yeah, we follow this advisor who basically hits a wall. He's experiencing that exact friction we just described. You know, stalled decisions, dragged out meetings. The usual stuff. Right. So on a quiet Sunday afternoon, he's just sitting at his kitchen table and he searches for a client communication intelligence platform, and he finds this system called Psychfin.

SPEAKER_02 2:26

Right. PsychFIN.

SPEAKER_01 2:27

So he takes their assessment, which is just an eight-minute 31 question quiz. And this is where I really want to pause because we have to look at the how here.

SPEAKER_02 2:36

Definitely.

SPEAKER_01 2:36

I mean, how does an eight-minute questionnaire map a human being's entire communication operating system?

SPEAKER_02 2:44

Aaron Powell Well, it accomplishes that by um completely ignoring the surface level. Aaron Powell Okay.

SPEAKER_01 2:49

What do you mean?

SPEAKER_02 2:50

So when we think of typical financial assessments like uh risk tolerance questionnaires, for example, they are incredibly clinical.

SPEAKER_01 2:56

Yeah.

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And binary.

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Yeah, very point A to point B.

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Exactly. They ask you to self-report your preferences on a scale of one to five. But the flaw there is that human beings are notoriously terrible at self-reporting. Oh, absolutely. Right. We answer as the person we wish we were, not the person we actually are. But this particular assessment, it's designed to penetrate the three layers of understanding.

SPEAKER_01 3:18

Aaron Powell, which, you know, we touched on previously in the season, but maybe let's define them clearly here for context.

SPEAKER_02 3:23

Aaron Powell Sure. So layer one is surface behavior. That's what we project to the world. Right. Layer two is cognitive processing, like how our brain actually structures and sequences data. And then layer three is the core emotional driver, basically what we fundamentally need to feel secure. Aaron Powell Okay.

SPEAKER_01 3:41

So how does it get to those deeper layers?

SPEAKER_02 3:43

Aaron Powell By asking thoughtful, scenario-based questions that force a prioritization of values. It just bypasses that superficial first layer and directly measures the cognitive and emotional layers.

SPEAKER_01 3:56

Wow.

SPEAKER_02 3:56

Yeah. It isn't asking what you think, it's measuring how you process.

SPEAKER_01 4:00

Aaron Powell And the text details that um when he got his report back, it wasn't some shocking revelation about a hidden alternate personality or something.

SPEAKER_02 4:08

Right. It rarely is.

SPEAKER_01 4:09

Yeah. It didn't tell him things he didn't fundamentally know about himself. It simply handed him the vocabulary for forces he had always felt but could never quite articulate.

SPEAKER_02 4:18

Aaron Powell And that's huge. Naming the invisible force is really the first step in controlling it. Once you have a precise vocabulary for your own default behavior, you know, it ceases to be a blind spot and actually becomes a tool.

SPEAKER_01 4:29

Aaron Powell But the real test to this new language isn't just internal clarity, right? I mean it's whether anyone else actually recognizes it in you.

SPEAKER_02 4:37

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:38

The source details this fascinating moment where he puts this to what I like to call the wife test.

SPEAKER_02 4:43

Aaron Ross Powell Ah, the ultimate test.

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Truly. So that evening, they're at the dinner table, he brings his laptop over, turns the screen to his wife, and just says, Read this.

SPEAKER_02 4:54

I love this part.

SPEAKER_01 4:55

It's so good. The text notes, her face actually changed three times. First, it was recognition, then amusement, and finally something a bit softer. She looks at him and says, That is exactly you. How does it know that?

SPEAKER_02 5:09

That external validation from a spouse is just critical.

SPEAKER_01 5:12

Why is that?

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Because the person who shares your life doesn't see your polished professional veneer. They see your raw cognitive and emotional processing every single day.

SPEAKER_01 5:22

Yeah, they see you when you're frustrated or tired.

SPEAKER_02 5:24

Exactly. So her reaction proves the assessment accurately mapped the second and third layers of his psychology. It proves it's a reflection of the human being, not just the professional title.

SPEAKER_01 5:35

Aaron Powell Okay, but let me challenge this whole concept for a second.

SPEAKER_02 5:38

Bring it on.

SPEAKER_01 5:39

If I am an experienced financial advisor, right, and I'm naturally a really fast-paced, dominant communicator.

SPEAKER_02 5:46

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 5:46

And then I start artificially slowing down and like using soft feeling words for a highly sensitive client. Aren't they going to sniff that out?

SPEAKER_02 5:56

You're asking if it feels fake.

SPEAKER_01 5:58

Yeah. Doesn't consciously altering your personality sort of border on manipulation or at the very least, extreme inauthenticity?

SPEAKER_02 6:06

Aaron Powell That is probably the most important distinction we can make today. And it really comes down to the difference between manipulation and translation.

SPEAKER_01 6:13

Okay, break that down for me.

SPEAKER_02 6:14

Well, manipulation is altering your intent to deceive someone into doing what benefits you. Translation, on the other hand, is altering your delivery so that your original genuine intent actually survives the journey to their brain.

SPEAKER_01 6:27

Aaron Powell Oh, I see. It's like it's like broadcasting a brilliant, high-definition symphony, but your client's receiver is tuned to AM radio.

SPEAKER_02 6:36

Yes. Perfect analogy.

SPEAKER_01 6:38

The signal you're sending is flawless, but all they hear is static. So changing your frequency isn't manipulating the music right, it's just ensuring the music can actually be heard.

SPEAKER_02 6:47

That's spot on. And if you refuse to change the frequency because you think your default style is the only authentic way to broadcast well, you aren't being principled. You're just being ineffective.

SPEAKER_01 6:57

Wow. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:58

Communication intelligence really starts with the realization that your normal is not the universal standard.

SPEAKER_01 7:04

So let's take this newly acquired translation key into the actual office. Let's do it. It's Tuesday morning. The advisor in our narrative now knows his own frequency, and he starts consciously adapting to the four behavioral styles of his clients. Let's look at the actual friction points he solved, starting with his commander clients.

SPEAKER_02 7:22

The commanders, right.

SPEAKER_01 7:23

The source notes, they actually stopped checking their phones during meetings. They were more direct, more decisive. One even told him, you've gotten sharper.

SPEAKER_02 7:30

And the irony there is that his financial acumen hadn't improved by a single basis point. Trevor Burrus, Jr.

SPEAKER_01 7:35

Right. The numbers are the same.

SPEAKER_02 7:37

Completely the same. What improved was his structural efficiency. See, commanders are driven by momentum and results. They view excess details, lengthy pleasantries, and you know, philosophical market discussions as friction.

SPEAKER_01 7:51

They just want the bottom line.

SPEAKER_02 7:53

Exactly. So by stripping all of that away, the advisor delivered what the commander's brain craves, which is velocity. Commanders simply need to hear the subtext, we will get it done.

SPEAKER_01 8:03

Okay, so if you take that exact same confident brevity, stripping away all the details and just projecting, we will get it done, and you use that on an analyst client, what happens?

SPEAKER_02 8:14

Oh, disaster.

SPEAKER_01 8:16

Do they feel secure or does that velocity backfire?

SPEAKER_02 8:18

It backfires spectacularly.

SPEAKER_01 8:20

Really?

SPEAKER_02 8:21

Oh yeah. If you give an analyst the bottom line conclusion without the supporting data, you actually trigger an immediate stress response. Wow. An analyst's amygdala equates missing information with immense risk. Their core need is accuracy.

SPEAKER_01 8:36

Aaron Powell Which completely explains the incredible shift documented in the source.

SPEAKER_02 8:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:41

Because after adapting, his analyst clients actually asked fewer follow-up questions. Right. And it's not that they suddenly stopped caring about the nuances of the tax code or the specific yield curves.

SPEAKER_02 8:53

No, they cared just as much. But the delivery sequence was finally aligned with their cognitive processing.

SPEAKER_01 8:58

Uh the sequence.

SPEAKER_02 9:00

Exactly. Previously, he would present the recommendation, and the analyst would interrogate him to unearth the logic.

SPEAKER_01 9:06

Yeah, that sounds exhausting.

SPEAKER_02 9:08

It is. But by building the mathematical structure, first laying out the evidence in the exact sequence the analyst's brain required before ever stating the conclusion, he satisfied their internal risk assessment criteria up front.

SPEAKER_01 9:20

So they didn't need to ask.

SPEAKER_02 9:21

Right. Analysts need the subtext to be. We will get it right.

SPEAKER_01 9:25

Aaron Powell Okay, so if the analyst needs data to feel safe, how does that contrast with the guardian clients?

SPEAKER_02 9:32

That's a huge shift.

SPEAKER_01 9:33

Because every advisor managing a practice knows the distinct pain of the kitchen counter problem.

SPEAKER_02 9:38

Aaron Powell Oh, the dreaded kitchen counter.

SPEAKER_01 9:40

Right. You have great meeting, you hand over the estate planning documents, and they just sit on the client's kitchen counter for three months. Why does the guardian stall like that?

SPEAKER_02 9:49

Well, we have to look at the psychological mechanism of a guardian. Their brain perceives sudden change or abrupt finality as a direct threat to stability. Okay. So when you slide a finished document across the desk and ask for a signature, you are presenting them with an abrupt transition.

SPEAKER_01 10:06

It's too fast.

SPEAKER_02 10:07

Way too fast. Their nervous system triggers a subtle freeze response. They don't want to cause conflict by saying no, so they say, Let me take this home to think about it.

SPEAKER_01 10:15

Ah, so it's not about the document itself.

SPEAKER_02 10:17

Not at all. That stall is entirely a subconscious attempt to regain a sense of control and pace.

SPEAKER_01 10:22

And the source reveals that once the advisor adapted to this, the paperwork that used to take months was being signed right there in the meeting.

SPEAKER_02 10:31

Because he removed the freeze response.

SPEAKER_01 10:34

How did he do that practically?

SPEAKER_02 10:35

He removed it by shifting the environment from a transactional close to a relational process. He stopped pushing for the finish line and started emphasizing the partnership. Guardians require deep relational stability. They need to hear, we will do it together. When they feel you're standing beside them rather than rushing them forward, the anxiety dissipates and the need to stall just vanishes.

SPEAKER_01 10:59

That makes so much sense. And finally, if you secure the guardian with stability, how does that contrast with the connector clients?

SPEAKER_02 11:06

Ah, connectors.

SPEAKER_01 11:08

Because they don't just want safety, right?

SPEAKER_02 11:09

They know the meaning.

SPEAKER_01 11:10

And the uh text highlights that connectors actually became his most active referral source.

SPEAKER_02 11:15

Aaron Powell Yes, because connectors process the world through a deeply interpersonal and experiential lens. Yes. A dry spreadsheet of historical returns. It feels entirely lifeless to them. But when you speak their language, they don't just feel advised, they feel fundamentally valued.

SPEAKER_01 11:32

Yeah.

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Connectors need to hear. We will make it matter.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

They want to know the impact of the wealth, not just the yield.

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Precise.

SPEAKER_01 11:41

You show them how the portfolio funds their grandchildren's education or you know allows them to support a charity they love. Suddenly the wealth has a heartbeat.

SPEAKER_02 11:50

That's a great way to put it.

SPEAKER_01 11:51

And a connector who feels that heartbeat, well, they tell their entire social circle.

SPEAKER_02 11:55

Aaron Powell Exactly. So optimizing these four styles, it completely changes the leverage of a practice. The advisor isn't working more hours. Aaron Ross Powell Right.

SPEAKER_01 12:03

He's not doing more meetings.

SPEAKER_02 12:05

No, he is extracting exponentially more value from the hours he is already working just because every interaction is structurally sound.

SPEAKER_01 12:13

Aaron Powell You know, it's like having the cheat codes to a video game where every interaction is just optimized.

SPEAKER_02 12:17

Aaron Powell That's a fun way to look at it.

SPEAKER_01 12:19

Aaron Powell But you know, the the source material actually pushes this beyond just current clients. It brings up a crucial stress test for the future of any practice, which is the generational wealth transfer.

SPEAKER_02 12:30

Aaron Ross Powell Uh, yes.

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The great transfer.

SPEAKER_01 12:33

Aaron Ross Powell We hear the industry constantly panicking about losing the children of their best clients.

SPEAKER_02 12:38

And the industry assumption is always that the next generation wants like gamified trading platforms or crypto integration or entirely digital app-based interactions.

SPEAKER_01 12:48

Right, more tech.

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But they try to solve a human disconnect with a technological band-aid.

SPEAKER_01 12:53

Aaron Powell Which brings us to a highly revealing moment in the text. Let's call it the air moment.

SPEAKER_02 12:59

This is such a powerful story.

SPEAKER_01 13:00

It really is. So the 32-year-old daughter of one of his long-standing clients goes through the communication experience. And afterward, she picks up the phone and calls the advisor directly. Now keep in mind, this is someone she had never spoken to before, a total stranger who is managing her family's money.

SPEAKER_02 13:17

Aaron Powell And the fact that she initiated the call, that is the first indicator of a massive shift in engagement.

SPEAKER_01 13:24

Right. So she gets on the phone and tells him, No one has ever asked me how I like to communicate. I didn't even know there was a way to describe it until now.

SPEAKER_02 13:31

Incredible.

SPEAKER_01 13:32

She didn't call to interrogate his asset allocation or to ask for lower fees. She called because she finally felt seen.

SPEAKER_02 13:40

Exactly. Because for her entire adult life, her family's wealth was likely discussed in a language native to her parents or native to the advisor, but it was entirely foreign to her. So the moment the advisor provided a bridge, a diagnostic tool that effectively asked, How does your specific brain prefer to interact with the world? She eagerly crossed that bridge. It proves conclusively that the attrition rate with heirs, it isn't about the financial strategy. It is a failure of customized engagement.

SPEAKER_01 14:08

Which perfectly sets up the central thesis of the source material. It states, Psychfin did not fix what was broken. Nothing was broken. It completed what was missing.

SPEAKER_02 14:19

And that is the pivotal realization for any seasoned professional. The Monte Carlo simulations, the estate strategies, the deep market knowledge, none of that technical machinery is broken. The engine of the practice is flawless.

SPEAKER_01 14:34

The math still works.

SPEAKER_02 14:36

Right. What was missing was the transmission system required to deliver that horsepower to the actual wheels.

SPEAKER_01 14:42

So let's break down the actual anatomy of that transmission system.

SPEAKER_02 14:46

Let's do.

SPEAKER_01 14:46

If the CFP qualifications on the wall never changed, what is the physical material making up this gap between what an advisor means and what a client feels?

SPEAKER_02 14:57

Well, the anatomy of the gap is made entirely of words.

SPEAKER_01 15:00

Just words.

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Just words. That space where trust is either forged or quietly eroded, where a plan turns into decisive action or turns into that forgotten folder on the kitchen counter, it is constructed word by word.

SPEAKER_01 15:12

Aaron Powell It sounds almost deceptively simple. Just use different words.

SPEAKER_02 15:15

Simple to comprehend, yeah. But requiring immense discipline to execute. Right. Because the words you use dictate whether your advice lives or dies in the client's mind. And this ties directly back to the three sensory channels. Beyond the behavioral styles, every human brain relies on a primary sensory filter to process reality.

SPEAKER_01 15:34

Let's re-anchor those for the listener. So first we have the visual processor. They're internal languages built on site. They say things like, show me the plan, or I need to see the trajectory.

SPEAKER_02 15:43

Right. And next is the auditory processor. They need to hear the logic. They aren't staring at the charts. They are analyzing the cadence and the confidence in your voice. They say, Hear me out, or talk me through the reasoning.

SPEAKER_01 15:56

And finally, the kinesthetic processor. They evaluate reality through physical and emotional feeling. Their vocabulary is let me get a grasp on this, or I needed to feel solid before we move.

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Now consider the cognitive load if you mismatch these.

SPEAKER_01 16:11

Okay, what happens?

SPEAKER_02 16:12

If you have a brilliant financial plan and you present it using heavily visual words saying things like, look at how this maps out, or can you see the horizon here? And you are speaking to a kinesthetic client.

SPEAKER_01 16:23

Oh, I see.

SPEAKER_02 16:24

You create immense neurological friction.

SPEAKER_01 16:26

Aaron Powell It's the operating system analogy again, right? Trying to run Mac software on a Windows machine. The data's good, but the system can't read it without a massive translation effort.

SPEAKER_02 16:37

Aaron Powell Exactly the issue. The client's brain has to expend valuable cognitive energy translating your visual words into their kinesthetic framework.

SPEAKER_01 16:47

Wow.

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And in that translation process, a translation tax is levied, nuance is lost, trust is subtly diluted, the client feels exhausted by the meeting, and they don't even know why.

SPEAKER_01 16:58

Because their brain is working overtime.

SPEAKER_02 17:00

Yes. But when you change the words to match their sensory channel, you eliminate the translation tax, the advice lands with its full original force.

SPEAKER_01 17:09

Aaron Powell So to be clear, you're saying I could have the exact same rock solid financial plan, the exact same care, but if I deliver it using the wrong sensory words, the advice actually loses its force.

SPEAKER_02 17:20

Aaron Powell And emphatically, yes, the right words aren't clever sales scripts. They are just the client's native language mirrored back to them. It's the vocabulary their specific neurology recognizes as clarity and safety.

SPEAKER_01 17:31

Aaron Powell And when a client doesn't have to work to understand you, they implicitly trust you.

SPEAKER_02 17:36

It's exactly so bringing this all together for the experienced professional listening right now. If you've been feeling friction in your practice, you know, those clients who stalled for no logical reason, or the relationships that just felt unnecessarily heavy, or maybe those quiet departures where a client moved their accounts and you just couldn't figure out why because the portfolio was performing perfectly, it is vital to reframe that experience.

SPEAKER_01 18:05

It wasn't a flaw in your financial acumen.

SPEAKER_02 18:08

Right.

SPEAKER_01 18:08

It was a structural inefficiency in your delivery.

SPEAKER_02 18:11

Aaron Powell You had the technical engine, but you were basically driving with the emergency brake engaged.

SPEAKER_01 18:16

Yeah. That's exactly.

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You were relying on gut instinct, hoping your native language was close enough to theirs to get the job done. But now, you know, you possess the intelligence, you understand the four styles, the three senses, and the deeper cognitive layers. You have the translation key to release that break.

SPEAKER_01 18:31

Aaron Powell And the conclusion of our source make a definitive statement about the trajectory of wealth management.

SPEAKER_02 18:37

Trevor Burrus Which is the future of advice does not belong to the advisor with the most robust financial plan, the shiniest tech stack, or the most competitive fees.

SPEAKER_01 18:46

Wow. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 18:47

Those elements have become entirely commoditized.

SPEAKER_01 18:50

Aaron Powell They are the baseline expectation now, not the differentiator.

SPEAKER_02 18:54

Exactly. The future belongs exclusively to the advisor whose clients feel the most deeply understood, the professional who is the easiest to comprehend, and therefore the hardest to leave.

SPEAKER_01 19:05

Aaron Powell Because when the words change, everything changes.

SPEAKER_02 19:08

It really does.

SPEAKER_01 19:09

The friction dissolves, the leverage of your practice multiplies. But as we close out this deep dive and wrap up the season, I want to leave you with one final provocative thought regarding the scale of this intelligence.

SPEAKER_02 19:21

And I like where this is going.

SPEAKER_01 19:22

We focus heavily on how you adapt your spoken words in a one-on-one meeting, like when you were sitting across the desk from a commander or a guardian.

SPEAKER_02 19:29

Right.

SPEAKER_01 19:30

But consider your practice as a whole. Tomorrow morning, when you walk into your office, look at your website, look at your marketing brochures, your intake forms, your automated onboarding emails.

SPEAKER_02 19:41

Oh, that's a great point.

SPEAKER_01 19:43

Ask yourself how much of your practice's infrastructure is still broadcasting entirely in your native language, waiting for every single prospect to do the translating.

SPEAKER_00 19:53

The Psychology Edge for Financial Advisors is sponsored by PsychFIN, the communication intelligence platform for financial advisors. Learn more at Psychfin.com. Here's your challenge, and it's the last one of the season. Pick five clients, and over the next month, experiment with everything you've heard this season. Watch what changes. Once you've seen the difference, you'll never go back. And if you want that level of communication, not for five clients, but for every client, Psychfin is what we built for you. Start by taking the quiz yourself and reading your own tenor report. Experience what your clients will experience. Psychfin.com. Thanks for listening, and thank you for spending this season with us.