Episode 8: The Next Chapter

In Episode 8 of The Locker Room, I close out Season 1 by reflecting on the journey from losing sports to rebuilding life with more purpose, structure, and hope. This episode explores healing, community, support, and what it means to keep growing when the game changes but your story is still being written.


The Locker Room is a podcast for former athletes navigating the confusing and often painful transition from a life centered around sports to a life outside of the game. For many athletes, walking away from sports is more than the end of a season. It can feel like losing purpose and even a piece of who you are. One day, your life is built around competition and performance. Then suddenly, it's not. No schedule. No team. No goals. No clear version of who you are supposed to become next. This podcast explores the emotional weight of that transition: the identity crisis, the anxiety, the depression, the feeling of being lost, and the pressure to “move on” before you have fully processed what you left behind. Through honest conversations, personal reflection, and relatable stories, The Locker Room creates space for former athletes to feel seen, understood, and reminded that they are not alone. Life after sports is not just about finding a new career or routine. It is about rediscovering purpose, rebuilding identity, and learning that who you are has always been bigger than what you did. 

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What's up everybody, it's your boy Jalen, and welcome or welcome back to the Locker Room Podcast. In the last episode, we talked about the adjustment from sports life to regular work life. We talked about how different the pace feels, how normal life can seem underwhelming compared to the energy and flow that sports provide, and how hard it can be to find meaning when progress and recognition are not always expressed the same way. We talked about how learning how to respect ordinary life, how to stay consistent in the slower season, and how success after sports may look different than it did before, but still matters just as much. And that leads directly into the conversation for today. Because once you start learning how to live in this new season, the next question becomes, where do you go from here? Based on the timeline of where we left off in the last episode to now, it's been about two years. And in that time, a lot changed, not without challenges, setbacks, and mistakes, but changed enough for me to say that I'm speaking from a completely different place than I was at the beginning of this season. This conversation makes sense as the final episode of season one because we're mostly caught up to the present. As I said, the timeline for the last episode was roughly between mid-2023 to late 2024. It's mid-2026 now. Since that period, I've taken a lot of the things I've shared with you all this season and started applying them to my own life in a much more intentional way. I've begun the process of building a better, more meaningful, and more fulfilling life outside of sports. I've been able to grasp work in a way that isn't emotionally draining all the time. And when I look back at everything we talked about this season, I think the biggest threat connecting all of it was this question. What happens when you lose the structure you gave your life to and then have to rebuild something new yourself? What happens when your identity gets shaken? When your purpose feels unclear, when the path to becoming a better version of yourself is buried underneath disappointment, regret, and confusion. And then you're forced to ask a deeper question. Who am I really? I've learned a lot about myself during this season and having these conversations out loud. I've learned that a lot of the things I wish I had done before my athletic career ended, I've started taking more seriously since it's been over. I've learned that I'm more resilient now because I went through that season. I've healed more, I've gained more understanding, I've become more aware of where I still need to grow, and I see my flaws a lot more clearly now, which also means I understand it's going to take even more work and even more intentionality for me to consistently become better in these areas. All that being said, I'm on the brighter side of the transition now. Because I've learned how to respect ordinary life more, stay consistent with a few important things every day, and keep building from there. But there's still a lot more to talk about. And I can't talk about it all by myself. I need help. I need to hear other voices and other perspectives, but I want this season to close in a way that feels honest and forward looking. So by the end of this episode, I want you to feel challenged to be better. I want you to feel connected to this story. I want you to feel empowered to change your life. And most importantly, I want you to feel hopeful because even though there are seasons of darkness, there really is light at the end of the tunnel. I think one of the most overlooked parts of this whole transition is just how important support and community really are while you're going through it. Because athletes are exposed to a lot at once and they deal with a lot more than the average person realizes. We talk a lot about toughness and resilience in sports, but we don't always talk enough about how much of that resilience is a byproduct of the people around you. So when sports end, you lose the support system that helps you carry everything that came with the game. And once you leave that environment, it's not too often you meet people you can lean on or who understand the grind and the value of sacrifice. Losing that support makes the transition feel even heavier, which is why rebuilding some sense of community is one of the most important parts of moving forward well. There was a meta-analysis done by a few researchers, and they wrote, Athletes are concurrently exposed to a constellation of stressors in their pursuit of competitive excellence, including excessive training demands, dense competition schedules, intense media scrutiny, and the psychological burden of injury-related career uncertainty. The study goes on to say that these pressures have been consistently linked to elevated levels of depression and anxiety, threatening both performance and overall well-being. Then they go on to address what we'll cover in this episode. Social support plays a particularly vital role in preserving mental health, and it usually comes from the people closest to them, family members, friends, coaches, and teammates. That support helps reduce the psychological impact of stress. It helps with emotional regulation. It helps the athlete cope better. That's important for this episode and for transitioning into this next season because a lot of former athletes are dealing with the mental and emotional effects of losing the people and the environment and the support to get through life's challenges. Sometimes hearing someone else put words to your experience is support. Sometimes knowing you're not the only one is support. Sometimes hearing another athlete say, I struggle with that too, is the thing that keeps somebody from feeling like they're losing their mind. And that leads directly into what I want season two to be about. More stories, more voices, more visibility on what this transition looks like for different athletes in different situations at different levels. Not just so former athletes can vent and everyone else can listen, but so this space can become part of that support that we all need. A place where somebody hears a story, recognizes themselves in it, and realizes they are not alone. When I look back at everything we talked about in episodes one through seven, we talked about what happens to a person when the thing that shaped their life is no longer there. We talked about the ending of the athletic career as a whole. We talked about the emotions that come with it, especially when that ending feels abrupt or unfinished. We talked about the silence that shows up after, the disappointment that can come from feeling like your life didn't turn out the way you had hoped, and the confusion that follows when something that gave your life so much purpose is suddenly gone. But underneath all that, what this season was really about was learning how to identify what was happening to us. One of the hardest parts of life after sports is not just feeling the pain, it's feeling it and not knowing how to name it. And throughout this season, a few themes kept showing up over and over again. The importance of preparing yourself before sports ends, the importance of building a variety of skills, being in different environments, networking, understanding that life is bigger than sports, surrounding yourself with people who can steer you straight, help you reach your goals, and hold you accountable, being present in each season, in each moment because you don't get them back, being grateful for where you are, and understanding that life is not a failure just because you didn't make it in sports, and that there's still a lot of life left to live. The most valuable thing this season did for me personally was help me gain closure in parts of my own story that I still haven't fully processed. I was able to finally talk at length about how I felt in the final moments of my collegiate career in sports life as a whole coming to an end. I was able to be honest about the regret I felt from not converting enough moments, not asking for help, not stepping outside of my comfort zone, and not diversifying my portfolio of skills to prepare myself better for life after sports. I was also able to expose the complete despair I felt during the season when I was transitioning from sports life to work life, feeling like a complete failure and that my life was meaningless. That's why these conversations matter, even for athletes who have been out of sports for years, because we all need an outlet to release our thoughts and emotions, especially about the things in our past that still hurt when we think about them. It's hard to move on from something you can't even clearly identify. These conversations bring light to those things. They allow athletes to be transparent about struggles they may have felt for years without ever really knowing how to or having the opportunity to flesh them out. Now that we've spent this season putting language to the struggle, we have to talk about what former athletes need to understand about themselves as they move forward. Because once you can finally identify what happened to you, what you felt, and why this transition hit as hard as it did, you're left with a choice. You can stay stuck or you can start building. The first thing I need former and current athletes to understand is that you are more than the sum of plays made and missed. You are more than a ranking, more than a stat line, more than a scholarship, even if you can't fully see it right now. I also need you to understand that you're capable of succeeding outside of sports, but you have to start now. You have to find something small and meaningful and start building on that. You have to ask for help. I want to challenge the belief that life outside of sports is meaningless. Life is full of beauty and joy. Yes, there are setbacks and grief and challenges that can make you question everything, but your life still has meaning, whether you're playing sports or not. Life outside of sports is only meaningless if you make it so. Take your time to grieve. But while you're grieving, learn from your mistakes. Use your regret as fuel. Use it to push yourself toward the level you never made it to in sports. Because in a lot of ways, it's still the same work. The location may be different, the title may be different, the job may be different, but the time, energy, and attention to detail are still the same. That is what separates people. I wish somebody had looked me in the eyes and told me earlier in my career that I was digging my own grave by not diversifying my skill set. I know you can lead a horse to water but can't make it drink. I still wish someone had been more firm about leading me to water earlier. I wish someone had pushed me harder to become good at something else while sports were still the center of my life, so the transition wouldn't have hit me as hard as it did. Until the athlete who still feels stuck, bitter, ashamed, confused, or behind, I want to say this. It's okay to not be okay, but it's not okay to stay that way. You have to move now. You can't afford to wait any longer. There are so many free online resources that can help you build your skills portfolio, and in a year, you can become a jack of all trades compared to where you are right now. With all the information available to you now, every day you let those opportunities pass you by, you are making this transition harder on yourself now or harder on yourself in the future. You owe it to yourself to be better prepared. And if not for yourself, do it for the people around you. Because everybody has somebody watching them no matter what season of life they're in. And to the former athlete who feels like they've peaked in sports and life has been downhill ever since, I'd say this. Because sports were the thing you were best at, it's natural that life has felt downhill since then. But to correct that, you need to find something else. What are you passionate about? What's one small step you can take towards that today? And if the answer is nothing, then you need to find something. Because if you don't, you're gonna keep going downhill until you crash. But if you act now, if you make a decision to change something, you may level out for a while. And if you really find something you care about and get good at it, you might even find your way back to the top in a whole new area of life. The older I get, the more I realize that sports teach you about almost every area of life. We grieve constantly in our careers. We experience growth on a regular basis, our identity is questioned all the time, we learn how to deal with rejection. But the one thing that often seems less clear is purpose. However, even that becomes clearer with a small perspective shift. If your purpose is no longer to be the best athlete, but to become the best version of yourself every day by using your natural skills and abilities to maximize your potential, then you start realizing sports was teaching you that too. You can't give what you don't have. You can't do what you don't know. You can't go somewhere you've never been. So you have to start somewhere. You have to ask for help. Because just like in sports, you can't fake being something you're not forever. Eventually you'll get tired and you'll get exposed. The best version of yourself is someone who is constantly seeking growth, constantly seeking feedback, and constantly trying to improve. And what moving forward actually looks like in real life is not some huge motivational moment. It looks like little markers of progress every day. It looks like taking one step, then another, then another. And before you know it, a few months go by and you create a real distance from where you started. A year goes by and you're even further. But it all starts with recognizing that you can't wait for tomorrow and you can't wait for things to be perfect. Tomorrow may never come and perfect doesn't really exist. So right now, in this season, is your best opportunity to start building a meaningful life whether sports are involved or not. Because season one was about my journey of walking through this transition out of sports, I want the next chapter to include conversations with other athletes about their specific struggles, what their transition looked like, and how the lessons we've learned can be used to help the next generation of high school and college athletes, along with other former athletes trying to find their footing. And I think the biggest difference when looking backward and building forward comes down to your conversations and your mindset. It's okay to relive old memories. It's okay to reflect. It's okay to go back and think about the moments that shaped you. But it's not okay to be so stuck there that you stop creating new memories. That's where the danger is. That's why everything we've talked about this season matters. Because transition is a major task, and getting on the right side of it takes a lot of smaller shifts. I know I keep saying it over and over, but you have to get around the right people. You have to start learning the right skills based on your goals. You have to shift your mindset and realize that even though life may seem ordinary compared to the excitement of the sports world, there really is beauty in ordinary things. And on the other side of that transition, I truly believe former athletes can be incredibly successful at whatever they do if they take the time to heal and apply the things we've talked about. The lessons sports teach you still matter. The traits you built still matter. And those things can help give you a head start towards building a better future because you already understand something a lot of people never fully learn. Meaningful growth takes time. You also have to redefine what success means for you now. My definition of success has changed a lot since sports ended. Success used to be tied to performance, achievement, and what I can bring to the table in a competitive sense. Now, success looks like being the best person I can in every area I'm currently working in. And I want former athletes to stop thinking about success only in terms of winning or only in terms of what they produce. If you want to heal your mind, success has to be thought of in bigger, more objective terms. It has to be about creating immeasurable impact on your life, your future, and the lives of people around you. That's the kind of life I'm trying to build now that sports is no longer the center of it. I'm trying to build a life where the work I do feels meaningful and has a tangible impact on the world around me. I'm trying to build a life where I can be around my wife and kids more while still providing for them well. I'm trying to build a life where I can enjoy the sports I still love without feeling like a failure when things go wrong or don't turn out the way I hoped. And I think when a former athlete really takes everything sports taught them and uses it to build a meaningful life, the result brings peace. It creates a life full of contentment and meaning. It provides balance and stability. It allows that person to remember the past in a healthy way while still looking forward to what the future holds. That's what I want season two to represent. Season one was about telling my story backed by research to talk about the struggles I had and the things that would have helped me. I want season two to represent the reality that athletes all over are going through these same struggles in different ways at different levels for different reasons. Go back and listen to what we talked about this season. Then find one thing and start applying it today. Go get a skill, join a community, start a workout plan, find value in something and grab hold of it. And don't let it go until you have what you need. If there's one thing I want former athletes to leave season one understanding, it's that life after sports is not just about getting over the ending. It's about learning how to rebuild when the thing that shaped your life is no longer there. We talked about all kinds of things, from the silence following the ending, the identity shift, the grief, the lack of preparation, the struggle to become self-driven, and the adjustment into work life. I also want former athletes to understand that just because sports ended, that does not mean their life peaked there. It may feel like that for a while, and that the best part of your story is behind you. But that doesn't have to be true. There's still room to grow and room to heal. But it takes time and smaller choices and daily shifts and honest reflection and learning new skills and asking for help and taking life seriously enough to build something with it instead of letting it pass you by because you're hurt about what happened in the past. So if you've been listening this season and seeing yourself in these conversations, I hope that you take what connected with you and start applying it. Before I close out, I just want to say thank you all for tuning in to season one of the Locker Room Podcast. Your support means a lot to me, and I'm grateful to have people like you listening, sharing the content, and encouraging me to keep moving forward with this platform. There have definitely been a few points of tension and things I've wrestled with in my workflow throughout the course of this season, and hopefully moving forward, you all start to notice some positive changes there too. But more than anything, I appreciate you for being patient with me, working with me, and giving these conversations your time, and I really hope you got something meaningful from them. Season two represents expansion. It represents the locker room where athletes can be honest with each other but not be judged or told to suck it up and be tough. It's gonna take a coordinated effort, but I know I have the resources available to make that happen, and I'm excited about where this platform can go from there. Like I said at the beginning of the season, this podcast has a lot of room to grow. I'm still working out some of the details of what those next steps are gonna look like, but believe me, when I know, you'll know. This season was great, and I want to keep pushing the conversation forward. And I know I'd be doing myself and you as a listener a disservice if I didn't give you access to every resource and perspective I have available to give. So before we go, I want to leave you with this challenge. How much progress can you make towards your better future in the next month? If you started today, where could you be in 12 weeks? Where could you be by the end of the year? Until next time, remember, the game changed, but your story is still being written. Take care and God bless.