5 Mins for Sex

A “5.4 minute average” sounds like a clean answer until you ask one simple question: what are we even counting? We go straight at the debate around how long sex should last, why the internet loves tidy numbers, and why real-life intimacy does not fit inside a single stat. Our take is simple: if you treat pleasure like a race, somebody is getting left behind.

We break down what time really looks like when you include foreplay, warming up, switching things up, and actually learning the person you are with. That leads into the bigger point behind all the jokes and raw honesty: sexual stamina is not just about lasting longer, it is about pacing, attention, and caring whether your partner enjoys it too. If you have ever searched for better foreplay, better communication during sex, or how to make intimacy more satisfying, this conversation is built for you.

Then we zoom out to the relationship side. We talk emotional connection, why some people avoid one night stands, and how trust makes everything hit different. We also get into privacy and boundaries, including why sharing screenshots or intimate details can wreck trust fast and invite drama you did not ask for.

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Transcript

Welcome And Raw House Rules

SPEAKER_02 0:00

And I know we're gonna make a mama for a dump. My big one of them. Welcome to the four steppers only. Hey, I'm that motherfucker. That's that motherfucker. I'm motherfucking Jack. That little nigga. That everybody got down wants to be the same height as. But anyway, hey, I want to welcome y'all to four steppers only. Well, we tell y'all to sit down and watch a motherfucking step-a-step. So, I know shit. The last time y'all saw me, I was on stage. Um, you know, doing what I do best. Hey, they said I shut the shit down, had everybody asked me, God damn, want to be like me. I wanna be, I wanna be like Mike. But hey, I wanna I wanna thank Athens Athens IndyCon for having me on there and giving me the opportunity. But let's get down to the real shit today. So me and my mother, my little woot-the-woot, you know what I'm saying?

The 15 Minute Debate

SPEAKER_02 1:45

We were talking, you know, we were kicking shit back and forth, you know, we were talking. So tell me, so we were having a conversation about how long sex shit last. Man, this motherfucker told me shit. If that nigga lasts more than 15 minutes, shit, my shit, we was like, damn, 15 minutes, 15 motherfucking minutes. 15 motherfucking minutes. Man, I ain't ate the box long enough for 15 minutes. Man, I ain't even warmed up the goddamn microwave for 15 minutes. What the fuck, nigga? Shit, I'm trying to break this shit down in ratio. So I'm trying, I'm talking about some okay five minutes for full play, five minutes for eating the box, five minutes for you give me top, five minutes, goddamn penetration, five minutes goddamn switch positions. Shit, I'm already at 30 minutes. What the fuck y'all doing for 15 minutes? It makes me feel like y'all just in there shrugging shoulders, goddamn sweating. I ain't even got enough 15 minutes to goddamn build a sweat. Because like I tell motherfuckers off the top, shit, hey, shit, if you want to do something, don't fuck with me. Shit, play in the street. It's safer to play in the street with cars coming but zooming back back and forth. But this motherfucker said 5.4 minutes. Like, I'm sorry, let me go ahead and rewind it. I read an article that said, sex shall ass and the ideals of a woman, 5.4 minutes. I know a lot of y'all motherfuckers in the car, the females that do listen to me, come and say, shit, that nigga can't even blow my back out for five minutes and point five minutes, and and I'm satisfied. But I said, we gotta be realistic. I said, shit. If I if I bust that quick, shit, I'm gonna go ahead and tell you this straight up. I was I was nervous. I ain't even gonna let you. I'm gonna go ahead and tell you some real G shit. I ain't I'm not even gonna let you know I got down done got already. I'ma let you, I'm gonna let it, I'm gonna, I'm gonna sit there and kind of try to keep going. You won't you're gonna add me why I'm over there looking like I'm I got um I ain't gonna say that because I'm about to I'm I was gonna about to get blocked like a motherfucker. I about to say some some goddamn some off-color shit like a motherfucker. But in my mind, it's supposed to say, like, if I'm sitting in there still stroking, it's like okay, a female still giving you head after the goddamn fact that you the nut. Well, you're gonna be yo, yo, you're gonna go damn near handicapped, you're gonna become a paraplegic. Both of them little legs gonna shrivel up, and goddamn, you ain't gonna have no essence left in your body. But for five and five point found? Shit, I'm I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all. If if I'm in that motherfucker and I just uh real fast, boy, I'm gonna feel the shame of myself because 5.4 minutes. Shit, to be honest with you, I ain't even at five minutes right now. But I mean shit, you supposed to be in that I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all my analogy with you know the whole intercourse interactions. I mean, I gotta be in that motherfucker. I can laugh, I can joke, we can laugh, we can cut up, we can goddamn be, you know, I I gotta be had that little drip of sweat that got them action about the drip on your forehead. I mean, shit, like I told a motherfucker the other day, shit. You gotta be able to put your nose in it, goddamn have that shit all the way up to your goddamn bridge in your nose if you're doing something right, and you gotta goddamn literally wipe that shit the fuck off. It's like, okay, I be hearing motherfuckers. Shit, y'all have hit me with that guac walk 3000. Okay, you sucking, she sucking dick longer than five minutes. So what the fuck are you doing for five minutes and including full play in that shit? Boy, y'all, y'all must be in there like Sonic. I'm talking about goddamn goddamn full-blown zero to sixty, like y'all in a fast lane in Atlanta, like y'all in a hellcat, like y'all just trying to run from the police or some shit. What y'all in a rush for?

Foreplay Math And Taking Time

SPEAKER_02 5:30

Because I mean, as you shit, you gotta you gotta sit there and learn an individual. I a it's one thing if y'all are on the way to like saying y'all gonna be late for work and you gotta get her and get one in, or y'all about to go in for dinner and y'all and y'all done and got them little hot and horny, or y'all wanna got them pull off to the side. Shit, I'm with all the fuck shit. But what you gotta realize is you gotta be in that motherfucker to enjoy it, enjoy your time in it. Take your time with it. Because if you were just in a rush, you only worried about yourself. So take your time. What they say on a mutt? I gotta take my time. I'm a dog, I'm a mutt. Somebody slut or something. I don't know. I don't know. But you gotta take your time, don't rush. Because it's like that. I mean, that's the legitimate thing you gotta do when you up in that motherfucker. Take your time with it. I mean, shit. I ain't gonna go too much into detail because I believe in like this. Like, shit, if I'm in that motherfucker, I done ate it before. It's like you go back in the middle of the night for a snack. Shit, just in the middle of you sleeping, you wake up, you get thirsty, you gotta have a drink. So sometimes you gotta get out that motherfucker, go back down there for a little sippy sip, come back up for a kiss, go back down there for a little sippy sip again, and got down, go back in that motherfucker. I mean, shit, that's the way I believe in it. I mean, shit, you gotta go down, you you you're sitting there to enjoy the shit, not to rush through it. What's the point of you rushing through this shit? Because I want I want to hear some of y'all's responses to me talking about some take your time, West to rush. I mean, shit, it's it's the asset, it's the full, it's the full oh god, I can't even talk right now. God damn. But I just believe that if you take your time on a person, you're gonna get a second go round. You can't just go in there all willy nil and think you're just gonna go in that motherfucker zero to 60, catch yours, and now she's sitting over there looking stuck, and you over there snoring with your mouth wide open, drooling. I mean, shit, you gotta you you're sitting there worrying about her enjoyment, her pleasure, and everything else in between. Take your time on the motherfucking cool de cat. I mean, suck some nipples, goddamn, eat some pussy, do some shit, bro. Put your thumb in the ass. Goddamn, hit the motherfucker like a carburetor. Goddamn, put the thumb in the butt motherfucking ass, goddamn, put your dick in the other hole and keep stroking. I mean, oh god, I know y'all gonna be like, oh my god. Hey, look, I told y'all this shit is raw, uncut, and unedited. I do not sugarcoat shit in real life. I do not sugarcoat on this shit. I mean, what's the point of sugar coating? I mean, shit, y'all don't sit here and listen to me for the sugarcoats. I mean, we sit here and we have fun, we have adult conversations. Like I'm telling you, this ain't for your kids to be listening to. But in retrospect, you gotta sit there and take your time on it. If you Russian, in my views, it's not worth it. It's like what you got a real redo? You gotta go three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine rounds. Nah, take your time on it. Cause that one round of goddamn, hey, y'all both both sweating profusiously and standing staring at the ceiling, like, goddamn, like high five a nigga talking about some good game, cuz. Like, like y'all, y'all in I'ma I'ma say this shit, but don't get me wrong. I mean, y'all gonna be sitting there like drooling, like y'all got them in them special classes, like y'all wear a helmet. I'm just saying. But it's it's there for your enjoyment. I mean, but but but you look, hold up, pump your brakes. It's everything else that is better for

Caring Makes It Better

SPEAKER_02 9:20

that. It's when you laugh with a motherfucker, it's when you talk to somebody, it's showing you that you care, some that somebody that is willing to support you grow, that's what's also gonna make it so much better. Because I mean, I get asked all the time, have I ever had a one-night stand? No, I've never had one. I'm like, what's the point? Me just goddamn getting tipsy, getting drunk, or just wanting to fuck somebody. Man, I'd rather go to goddamn pornhook. Well, we can't go there no more. Shit, you gotta have a goddamn driver's license and put in your driver's license information on that shit. I mean, shit, I'd rather go to X um, we gonna we're gonna go to X video, y'all.

SPEAKER_01 9:55

X-V-I-D-E-O-S. Period calm.

SPEAKER_02 10:00

Or you go to Twitter. Shit, because like I tell people all the time, they be asking me, oh JJ. I said, Well, if we're gonna look up something and we see need to see some graphic, let me type this shit in before you look over this way on my Twitter, because my Twitter be got them on that, on that, whoop, on that nuclear shit. But in my mind, you got to have sustenance to deal with individuals because you never know what they like or dislike in those aspects of time that you're spending with them. Because in my mind, that's what makes everything so much better when you're doing it with somebody that you actually care about. You actually want to see them enjoy it, you're actually worried about their well-being, you're actually worried about them because it makes things so much better because you're connected on a deeper level than just surface. Sometimes, yes, it's good to be as physically attracted to somebody, but to be deeply connected with them on a deeper level is so much more. Now, don't get this shit twisted, don't get this shit misconscrew. Somebody, some people like they got that motherfucking voodoo shit between their legs, and that shit have got down, had you got them over there itching and scratching, had your motherfucking ass singing in the dark, got them talking about some I want some, yeah, everybody's on your penny. I mean, shit, it's gonna have you in there talking, Lance Game Mary. I know everybody's been there. I know everybody's been there. They have you got down. I like I told a motherfucker the other day, I ain't never had nobody sitting over had me over there sitting and sucking my thumb like shit, like I'm just addicted to the motherfucker. Shit, I cut a motherfucker off like goddamn uh like uh gang green, cut the bitch off. But you gotta understand. I mean, shit, with me shit, it it's it's deeper than that. If I mean, like I told somebody before I said shit, we can sit there and deal with your bullshit for so long until we like this man, it ain't even worth it, man. Shit, I'd rather just jack my shit and goddamn be over with it. I might have to jack my shit three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten times in a day to get to get to where I need to go. But hey, don't y'all motherfuckers be out there judging and shit. Cause I know y'all motherfuckers over there laughing y'all ass off because y'all motherfuckers undead it too. So I'm something, well, I'm bored. Let me just I mean, shit, it is what it is. It is, it ain't what it ain't. But I mean, shit, the way I look at certain things, certain aspects about life, this is where we have to go. This is the the things that we get exposed to because of the aspects of life that we deal with. Because I mean, certain things need to have a deeper connection. Because the same way you want somebody to go deep, and you can't go deep, that means you're sitting surface level. That means you're sitting over there bumping clits with a motherfucker. That means you ain't hitting it right. She ain't gonna be able to goddamn, she ain't gonna be able to wham-whammy or throw that shit in a circle on your shit. I'm gonna go ahead and tell you that right now. She ain't gonna be she gonna be up there goddamn doing show shoulder shrugs on your shit. But it has to be a deeper connection with the individual to make it worth doing, to make it more enjoyable, to make it more fun, to make it more like, I mean, shit, to get a nut off, yeah, that's cool. But what do y'all talk about Ather? I mean, I never heard of heaven and motherfucker again. Next thing I know, I'm over there pissing. I'm over there in the ER talking about something, yeah. I've been burning. I got a random text message talking about I need to go get tested. Shh, I'm glad to God say that ain't never happened to me. I'm glad to motherfucking God. Because like I've never been a fan of lying on my dick. If I hit something, I never hit it. Y'all catch that? If I did something, the only way you're gonna prove that I did it is being there with a video camera or you seeing the evidence. But to say, like, I'm gonna I'm gonna go ahead and tell you like this.

Keep Intimate Details Private

SPEAKER_02 14:05

If I did some shit, I eat that shit. I own up to it. But if somebody, if some random comes up to me asking me, oh, I heard you fuck such and such, man. I don't know what the fuck you're talking about. That I ain't never been there. I ain't never did no shit like that. But that's me and that person's conversation. Now when I reach out to that person that got down that I was doing the whoop-to-woop with Oh, we gonna have we gonna have some we gonna have some words. Because the way I view shit is if you weren't present during the the exchange, the session, the exercise, the intimate moment, why the fuck do you need to be included in what the fuck happened? I mean I'm just saying, because the way I view shit is if you if you gonna be involved in it, shit, next thing I know, shit, you're gonna be wanting to test the shit out. If you won't want to test the shit out, that's the that's the way it's gonna rock. Why the fuck do I need to have you involved into my bullshit? Because guess what? You ain't contributing to none of none none of the shit I got going on. I mind the business that pays me. Let me run that back for y'all. Because I know that a lot of y'all motherfuckers remedial little slow. I mind the business that pays me. Because if I gotta tell all y'all peon motherfuckers that, yeah, I hit that, I should never be invited to hit it again. I should never be invited to sniff it, smell it, taste it, be even close in the vicinity of it. Because that was an intimate mail. That's a private moment. Shit, if it's meant to be goddamn be saying, shit, I'd invite you to watch it. I'd invite you to record it. Shit, we can goddamn start a goddamn look, you know, a private Snapchat, a fenster, or anything else. And so let me watch it, let you watch me slut this motherfucker out. But guess what? You weren't invited, so that means you weren't included. So why the fuck do I need to goddamn tell you every detail that goes on? Because you are not included. Everybody doesn't need to know everything that happens. So why the fuck should you be included? Because then you're looking at your homegirls or homeboy. When you're talking about someone, yeah, that motherfucker sucked my dick in the parking lot on my way home from bro. Now he's gonna be goddamn curious about how that motherfucker top feel, how that bottom feels, how the third hole feel. And that's not they're not privy to that information. Unless you just don't give a fuck about that motherfucker, then you shouldn't have been fuck them in the first place. And you deserve to be, you should you deserve to be born burned. I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go. I mean, that sounds harsh. You just should you deserve to be pissing fire. Because like I've said in previous episodes, every dick ain't meant to be sucked and every every puss ain't meant to be fucked. I mean shit. That's like I was I was hearing about one dude. Um, shot up got them put him on blast real bad. Like, I mean, real bad. She was showing other niggas the text messages, letting the niggas see the screenshots, talking about some um uh shit. We was supposed to go to church together, but he just wanted to eat the box. What the fuck? What enjoyment you get out of that? Like, why why should you let another nigga know? Then next thing I know, like let me I'm gonna give y'all a perfect example. Next thing I know, the motherfucker tried to come at me. Man, what the fuck? You you you thought you were fucking with Buddy then? Shot, I'm gonna cuss you the fuck out for goddamn leaking the information. Because I mean shit to me, like I look at it like this. If you want to scream say uh uh share a screenshot, you might as well go look work for the feds. Because you a whole snitch. Because I mean you a rap. Because there's no reason that you should have you should have leaked that personal information, that personal conversation between you and I. With me saying shoot, oh, let me come over there and da-da-da-da. Why the fuck you telling anybody? That ain't their place to know, that ain't your place to tell. So you look like a whole fucking goofy. Now shit, I know you, I know your information. Now you telling me, oh, let me fuck with you. I saw you would deal with Buddy then. I can't do it. Ain't no way, shape, form, or fashion. Go fuck yourself. That's safer to do. You can go trials with somebody else. Oh shit, I ain't gonna run my mouth and shit. He just pissed me off. Do I look like Boo Boo the motherfucking fool to you? Do I look like dirt the dirt to you? Shout out, do I look slow? Do I have retard across my forehead? I'm just saying. I mean, shit, whatever you telling me ain't gonna goddamn replace what you did to your actions because you already showed the true colors. We already seen that it's evident, and and and the motherfucker that you told it to is a mouth of the south. So why should I even fuck with you on any caliber, any even a blink of an eye, even a hinkling, why should I mess with you? It sounds retarded to me, it sounds stupidly retarded to me. Because there's no way I can even waste my time even looking in your direction and saying, Oh, that might be cool. She just did it one time. Man, if that motherfucker did it one time, she'll do it too. If she did it two times, she'll do it three. But that's the idea is that because I'm gonna I'm gonna go ahead and tell you the way I was raised, we don't do shit like that. We don't talk about it. The only way you know I'm fucking with somebody is like, oh yeah, shit, I fuck with boot the boot. Oh, me and my little boot boot finna go out to eat. Oh, yeah, I'm spending time with my little boot boot. I ain't finna leak no other private information. I ain't finna tell you, boy, that motherfucker took me up through the. I ain't never gonna do that. Never, never. We don't leak viable information because, like I say, everybody ain't your friend, anybody ain't your associate. Even blood will screw you over, even your goddamn grandpa with the wrinkly balls might screw you over. So I mean shit, he might got there telling me something, hey, hey, what you doing, young lady? He might slip and slide all over there. Next thing I got them dirty uncle that you know pay for pussy, goddamn gonna be over there at your old lady at the goddamn Thanksgiving dinner, trying to stuff her turkey. You get what I'm saying? Trying to feel a trying to glaze her like a donut and just trying to pay, let me pay a little bill or something, what's up? Show me some, some weird shit like that. So, how do you find that acceptable? How do you find that cool? How do you find that cohesive to your situation? It's just like shit, hey, that's why a lot of motherfuckers tell you, hey, I fucked on Tuesday and kicked the hoe right at the spot. Hey, because she be she decided to fuck with but in them, niggas gonna be having a lot. Because like, like, I mean, you can't goddamn like I tell people all the time, like this, just because the grass greener over there don't mean this shit better. It just meant means it's

Cheating, Self Respect, And Peace

SPEAKER_02 21:20

fertilized with more bullshit. I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all a little secret. Like, since y'all been listening to this long, shit. I was dealing with this girl, she ended up cheating on me. She ended up getting over a buddy house. The nigga only had a mattress on the floor and a PlayStation. That's all the nigga had in this house. But shit, I was catering to you. I made sure you have everything you had. I make sure you were up and proper. But you decided who do you want to fuck with on top of it. So you do what you do. You go over there and fuck with Buddy now. Shit, I don't want it no more. Shit, he can take care of that be. I don't want it no more. Shit, I rey, my piece is. My peace. My presence is my presence. Once you lose, once I lose my peace and my presence with you, shit, we ain't got no usefulness on you no more. Can't fuck with you no more. Can't even give you a conversation. Because guess what? Shit, I know my slick ass mouth. I'ma throw some shit, slick ass shots at you. They're gonna have you looking at me like, damn, I know, I nigga, I know you just ain't say that. Bit facts, I did say that. Took that shot. It was personal, but that shit, it was meant to hit. And that shit was meant to hit like a bullet going through your vest. That shit was a green tip. If y'all know what green tip is, that's armor piercing. I want you to hit it right in a spot. This spot right here, you hard. I want you to remember that shit. I want you to feel it burn. Cause guess what? You won't be throwing that wham in a circle over this way. And I ain't catching shit. Only thing you catching from me is strays. I'm throwing straight flame at you. I don't give no fucks. No fucks giving. So, but I want to let thank y'all for listening to Foe Stepper Only Who Peace.