Spin Bout U Baby Girl

Somebody tells your kid they are “not attractive,” and suddenly, you are parenting in the deep end. I walk through the exact moment my daughter called me sad, what I asked her, and how a single question helped her laugh again and take back her power. The bigger point goes beyond school drama: confidence is built when kids learn that random opinions are not identity, and that real self-worth comes from substance, standards, and time telling the truth. 

From there, I get into the messy topics parents still need to face: attention, “popular” kids, and why chasing everybody can lead to real consequences. I explain my Ferrari-mindset analogy for dating standards and self-respect, and how I try to talk to my daughter with honesty rather than vague comfort. If you care about raising daughters, fatherhood advice, and parent-child communication that actually works in 2026, this is the kind of talk that belongs at the kitchen table. 

The second half gets personal about being present as a dad. I share what discipline looks like in my house, why I do not rely on yelling, and how my own father figure showed up for me when I was at my lowest. Then I speak on co-parenting, child support, and the reality that paying money is not the same as parenting. If any of this hits home, subscribe, share this with a parent who needs it, and leave a review with the lesson you want every kid to learn first.

Transcript

Cold Open And Music Rant

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Ice motherfuckin' motherfucking cold that would be a pink cold color.

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I'm tired of you playing your music. I need you to play my nigga pro music. This is what we think. So please, I'm begging you to play my music.

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A little memory. You look at fun in the boat?

Welcome And Who I Am

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Hey, welcome to phone. Only. When we tell you to sit down and watch a motherfucking step by step. Hey, I'm that little nigga. That kind of getting slim niggas now. Hey, check me out. I'm motherfucking Jack. Hey, I had to do that for my daughter. Because I mean, I got I

Calling My Daughter Daily

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got some daughters. I got some special daughters. I ain't even gonna hold you, I got some special daughters. Those individuals are so fucking special. So it's Tink in Dallas. But Tink, Tink is 12. Well, she's but let me go 12. So like I call I make sure I call my baby every day. We have conversations. The way you talk to your daughter is different from the way I talk to my daughter. Because I'd rather me come straight out to my daughter versus on some huggy, huggy, love to love type shit. Because, like, I I go ahead and I peep you on some shit. So my daughter called me one day. No, I called her on my way to work one day, and we're talking on the phone.

Handling A Cruel Comment

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My daughter sounds sad. So I was like, hey baby, what's wrong? What's wrong, Tink? No, that is not her real name, but Tink is what I call her. She's like, Daddy, I'm sad. Babe, why you sad? Because some little boy told me at school that I wasn't attractive. Before I knew it, I said, baby, is he attractive? Daddy, no, he's not attractive. I said, then what the fuck does his opinion matter? She bust out laughing. I said, baby, let me go ahead and tell you some shit. There's some real shit that I had to learn when I was older. The folks I thought that was so attractive in high school, boy, the motherfuckers looking like bums and crackheads now. And I mean, a lot of y'all can relate because I mean the all-star players, the um the jocks that were like the epitome of everybody, the top-tier niggas. Like, we already know we had top-tier niggas in school, but but and everybody was sought out for them and sought out for the females and shit like that. Like, I'm I'm gonna go ahead and tell you, I wasn't no top tier nigga. But I had to tell my baby, I had to let my baby know that a lot of people's opinions ain't gonna fucking matter. Because I mean, shit, like I mean, like I know one dude I went to school with, we ain't gonna say no names, but I I caught a nigga one day. I said he was on back street, but a nigga looked like his jaws all sunk in, face all sunk in, eyes all sunk in. But that boy, but that boy was over there trying to get a double out. I said, Oh my god, that boy over here smoking on a glass dick. That boy goddamn doing that choo-choo magoo. That boy over here goddamn I suck your dick for $20 for some goddamn base. I mean, shit. If y'all don't know what the hell the lingo I'm talking about, shit. The nigga was over there smoking crack. A double out is a 20 uh 20 gram, uh, I'm sorry, a two-gram rack rock that you sell for $20. I mean, shit, but that's what he was on, and a glass dick is the pipe that they use the soak uh smoke out of because they sucking so hard that they goddamn shit look like they sucking dick. I'm just saying. I mean, shit,

Why Other Opinions Fade

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that's where they get the analogy of for for sucking on a glass dick. You get what I'm saying? But I had to let my baby know, hey baby, fuck that nigga. Shit, you gotta you gotta walk in that motherfucker like Carlton on Fresh Prince when he was in the peacock suit. Peacocks, we're watching down the street, peacocks. Like, I mean, I mean some real shit. Because if I don't tell my baby to look at this shit, it's it's it's some it's some bullshit. In my eyes, that's like she was telling me about some other little boy. I'm talking about some daddy. Um, the little boy, he be he be he be like he be trying to talk to every girl at the school, and and he just to be like, as soon as he sees a new girl, he's at him. I said, baby, let me go ahead and tell you some shit. They're gonna be the first person in your grade level to have an STD. I had to explain to my baby, I said, let me tell you something, baby. I'm I'm I'm gonna give you an analogy about some things we talk about. We talk about cars sometimes. We talk about we talk about clothes, we try to hip him on the shit, you know. And when I was sitting up there talking to my daughter, I used the analogy. I said, hey baby, let me tell you something. Let me tell you something about that little boy. I said, that boy, that boy, I said, boy, that boy on a hunt. That boy just he has an idea in his mind that he has to get his dick wet, he has to go hunt this shit out, he has to go search this shit out. And in real actuality, it's not that fucking important. The sustenance in a person is more important than you just got them getting your Peter snitched with wet, your little wet, little wet noodle. The shit that's still shooting out dog water. You get what I'm saying? But this is what I had to tell her. I said, let me tell you. I said, how many

Dating Pressure And STD Reality

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charges you see on the road? She said, Daddy, I see a lot. It don't mean I said, baby, it don't matter if it's a Hellcat or GT or whatever. How many do you see? I see, I see a lot, Daddy. Every time I turn around, it's another charge. Okay, cool. I said, so how many Ferraris and Lamborghinis do you see? She said, I don't see too many of that, baby. I said, let me, I'm gonna go ahead and tell you, baby. The Ferrari and Lamborghinis is what you need to be. Because when you look at it, you don't want to be like them girls that everybody say, Oh, I've been with him, I've been with her, I've been with him, I've been with her. I said, Ain't nobody know what it is like to kick it with autumn. Ain't nobody knows what it likes to have a conversation with autumn. I mean, shit, it's just like that's the way I had to kick it to her because to me, I ain't had them type of talks. I ain't had that type of vibe with my mom, my mama. Because my mama was pretty much the only one there. I mean, my godfather was there, and my daddy was there, my uncles were there, but I didn't get to have those heart-to-heart conversations. So I had to learn a shell out of shit on my own. And like my daughter, like me and my daughter were riding, and she told me I was on daddy, play play whammy. I said, all right, shit, whatever. So I'm listening to the lyrics, and shit, I'm like, shit, she over here, she over here jamming to this shit. But I'm thinking back in my prime, shit, I'm listening to trap shit. I'm listening to money making shit. And all th I can think in my head, is this her new money making shit? But only thing I can do is put the ideals and goals and give her the right guidance to make her make the right decisions. But the way I kick it, it can't be like that. Everybody talking about something, hey, you you can't talk like that. Man, let me tell you something. My daughter tells me, hears me talk different ways in different manners. Like I tell my daughter all the time, I don't yell too much. But I'm gonna tell you like this, hey, I asked you to go do something, go handle that. I asked you to go do something, go handle that. Now, when I raise my voice and I and I elevate, hey, that's when you know you done fucked up. But 90% of the time, I ain't gotta yell. I just gotta cut my eyes and look at you a certain way, knowing that you done fucked up. Like, like, like her mama even tells her, oh, don't make me call your daddy. Oh, she tells the teachers, don't let him call your daddy. Because of the relationship that we have with each other. Because the one person that you don't want to disappoint is me, because I'm your biggest, I'm your biggest person in the fan. I'm gonna be that motherfucker holding that sign. I'm gonna be that motherfucker cheering you on. I'm gonna be the motherfucker there when you

Ferrari Mindset And Self Worth

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get your lowest. I'm gonna be at the I'm gonna be that motherfucker that's when you at your highest. Because like I tell people, like I had to have a conversation with my oldest son. I said, the numb I said, I'm that father that wants to see you win no matter what it takes. I said, no matter what sacrifice it takes, I'm going to be that person that wants to see you win in life. Yes, we will fall. Yes, we will fumble. But yeah, I want to see you motherfucking win. I don't want to see you fail. So I'm never gonna try to screw you over. I'm never gonna try to goddamn shortcut you because I want to see you win. And a lot of people fail to realize that because some people be getting envious and jealous of their their sons and daughters and shit like that. Man, I ain't on none of that shit, man. I'm I'm I'm trying to be at everything. I'm trying to be there when you you happy, I'm trying to be there when you said, because I know what it's like and not to have somebody there in your corner when you need them. Or you don't need you have somebody that you go to for guidance that one time out of your life, and they ain't there. Then somebody else tells you, fuck that nigga. I'm your daddy, I love you, and I'll never let you down. I had somebody do that for me because from that day forth, I realized everything that he was teaching me all through life was he was teaching me because he didn't have a son of his own, and he viewed me as his son. But for all them years, I called him daddy. With no, like he did this, he did that. But that day, when I was 23 years old, when he said that, when I was at my motherfucking lowest and I wanted to crash the fuck out, he told me, fuck that nigga. I'm your daddy.

Discipline Without Constant Yelling

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I love you and I love you to the day I die. And that's what he did. He he made sure I knew that shit. So that's what I passed on to my son, my kids, and my daughters. Because let me tell you something. Blood don't make you family, and family don't make you blood. It's the bonds that you make with individuals that make you motherfucking family. You get what I'm saying? Because a lot of people fail to fucking realize that and they think that just oh nigga, blood thicker than water. Nigga, that's a motherfucking lie. Sometimes blood the first thing that's fuck you over and screw you over and goddamn and want to see you fail. Nigga, just because they blood don't mean they want to see you win. Just because they just because they gave birth to you, don't mean they want the best for you. But that's what I show my kids every day. Because let me tell you something. Because like I tell people all the time, Jack, what's your happy place? I said, when I'm having my my worst days, I call my kids, I have conversations with my kids. And they usually brighten my day, make my day lighter, make help me know that everything that I'm doing is worth it, that I know it's worth it, that it's paying off because they see, oh dad, I see you grinding, I see you out here hustling, I see you out here shaking and moving. Like I told my daughter, like I just got invited to an IndyCon for creators that I'll be on the platform, my first ever IndyCon since doing this platform. And I'm gonna be one of the um, like one of the featured guests. And I sent that to my daughter. She said, Daddy, I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud of you. You show me that no matter what you put your mind to, as long as you're consistent, as long as you have like the drive behind it, and long as you have the support, you can get anything accomplished. I think that's it. Thank you, baby. Because when I do certain things, like, man, I try to go against the grain. I mean, shit. Like, my I'm gonna tell y'all a funny story. So my daughter called me up the other day talking about something, daddy. I got my first death note. Bitch, what? Uh uh,

The Dad I Chose And Needed

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what you mean you got your motherfucking first death note? Well, I had to go get my sidekick right there. Right there, as y'all can see. That's why he's sitting over there. I had to go get my sidekick. And she said about something, daddy, what you doing? I said, shit, I'm trying to figure out who the fuck I'm finna fuck up. Then I sent my baby a death note. She said, no baby, no daddy, no daddy, no daddy. Death note is an anime. Oh, you're talking about that type of death note. Oh, you're talking about the one we watched the other day. She said, Yeah. Oh, I didn't put the analogy together. I thought I was gonna have to go see about somebody about my baby. I'm just letting you know. But my dad, my baby knows that that's how I feel about her. Because like I sent her with a picture one day, like, um spin about you. That's me, my my daughter's song. That's our song. Because my daughter knows, hey, I don't play about her. I don't play about my none of my kids. I I hey, I pop a nigga top for you, baby girl. I spin this nigga's block for you, baby girl. Because that's that's that's that's how I that's how my my daughter knows that I fuck with her. That I'm always gonna be there until the day I die, like my godfather, my father was. Not my real father, fuck that nigga, but my father, my daddy. Because you can be a daddy. I'm sorry, let me let me go break break this shit down for y'all so y'all y'all niggas understand. You can be a father, but not everybody can be a daddy. You get what I'm saying? Because a father can, you know, can can it bust a nut and get get your mama pregnant. Or he can do that little like that turkey basic shit and get a motherfucker pregnant. But a daddy wants to see you win and wants to always see you, never wants to see you struggle. And and it's disheartening because a lot of people don't understand that, can't wrap their heads around that, can't grasp that notion because it's it's a lot of us didn't have those growing up. So, like like right now, shit. I'm trying to learn how to be one based off the things my daddy showed me, Jimmy showed me. Now whom hoom Jimmy Hull showed me. Was I the best kid? Fuck no. But I was a demon. A demon, you hear me? But he told me if you're gonna do certain things and move certain ways, you gotta do it the right way. Because there's a right way to move, and there's a wrong way to move in life. Because a lot of times, like I tell people all the time, the loudest one in the room is the weakest.

Father Vs Daddy And Loyalty

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Because, man, you can tell when certain niggas walk into rooms and certain energies walk in the room because it shake everybody to their soul. And that's what I tell my key, my kids all the time. You ain't gotta be the loudest, you ain't gotta be the one, you ain't gotta be the goddamn that nigga. But you will pop your shit when you walk in that motherfucking room. You will let niggas know nigga, knock, knock, knock, knock, knock, nigga. I'm here. You hear me? And that's what I tell my kids. You you will never take my light, you will never take my aura, you will never take my glow. Yeah, people try to do that to you. People try to make you feel like you like you the biggest piece of shit. All this whoop woo-woop. Good try. Good try. But I know where my heart is, I know what my intentions were. Just because you were on some fuck shit, don't mean I have to entertain that shit. You get what I'm saying? But a lot of motherfuckers fail to realize how shit's really supposed to work. Because I mean shit, like, like, yeah, you can take pictures with your kids. You can show the daddy's breakfast. You can pay a little child support. But what else you what else you doing? Shit. My kids be having events. Hey, shit, if I can't be there, hey, FaceTime me so I can watch. But you at work, I don't care. I'm still gonna try to goddamn watch my shit. I won't, I'm gonna let my I'ma let my kids know their daddy is I'm not there physically, but I'm watching. I'm proud of you. I can't be there because I nigga a nigga gotta work, a nigga gotta eat, a nigga gotta pay bills, a nigga gotta pay that child support. But there's more okay, let's go ahead and break this shit down. There's more to being a father than paying a little motherfucking child support. I'm gonna go ahead and tell y'all that. That shit suck. I ain't gonna lie. Shit, that shit suck. Because the way I look at child support is I can do more for my kids offer child support than on it. But once you put me on that shit, to you and you ask me to do anything, that's all I'm doing. But my child, hey baby, what you need? You need clothes? I got you. You need shoes? I gotcha. Daddy can't do a lot, but your mama get child support for you. But

Child Support And Being Present

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that's supposed to subjugate some of that shit. I can't do I don't never want to hear you say, I can't, I ain't got you bet bitch, you better got it. You better have it. Because it's called child support, not spousal support. Because this this the this the catch 22 When your kids come to spend time with you, like my kids, I don't get no, I don't get no I don't get no fucking monetary compensation. I still gotta have a roof over their head. I still gotta be able to feed them. I still gotta make sure the water's on, clothes, lights, and all that shit. And my kids might be here two months. My kids might be here for the summer. My kids might even be for Thanksgiving. My kids might be for the holidays. My kids might be out for goddamn Martin Luther King Day. My kids might be out for any fucking day. School fucking resource day, whatever the fuck you want to call it. They're still here. I don't get no kickbacks. But you still getting that. So when you go on that school break and you got whatever, whatever, shit, that's what you got. Oh, and by the way, y'all, I'm drinking beet juice and apples. Shit, you gotta be the men out there that know what beet juice and apples, apple juice does, and I'm about to go eat my um Ruby Red grapefruits in a second. If you know, you know. If you know, you know. But anyway, but that's what people fail to realize. Regardless of how much child support I pay, when that baby comes, when that daughter or son comes to you and they look at you and say, Daddy, I want, I need, my birthday's coming up. You better bust your ass and make sure you get them something. Something. Because you gotta understand that you don't want to be like no bum ass nigga. Because let me tell you something. I had to go through that shit at one point in time. They painted me out to be the worst motherfucking person in the world. And they tried to say that I wasn't doing shit, I wasn't paying shit, blah blah blah, even though you were getting a chunk of month. And this didn't come from the mother's mouth, it came from my kids' mouth. Oh, you ain't never did shit for me, blah, blah, blah. What are you talking about? I'm paying every month. Faithfully. I'm going broke some months. I'm having to work overtime just to make sure you get that and I got my lights don't get turned off. You get before I even get, so what are you talking about? It's the it's the fucked up notion that kids don't know it because parents don't tell it. Because a lot of parents thinking that's their money, they're entitled to that. Whatever. I gotta salute my mama when I was growing up. Because when I did get well, my daddy was paying child support or whatever. Boy, she threw me a chunk every month. But you need some more shoes, you need some more clothes? There you go. What I what this for, mama? That's that's you that's that's your money the daddy sent you. She let me know this nigga sent me money. I'm sorry, not my daddy, my father. But that's all he was doing. But sometimes to these kids, that that we don't tell them behind the scenes. Do I think we should? At a certain age, yes, I think we should. Because a lot. Of times they're gonna think that you don't do shit. And a lot of these parents ain't gonna let them know you do shit. Because and and I and I don't know whether that's right or wrong. My opinion, that's wrong. But at a certain age, you do need to inform that child that hey, your daddy has been there for you. Your daddy made sure this this happened, this happened, this happened. Even though he wasn't physically in the household, he still made sure you had. And don't just don't just don't try to paint your dad, the daddy be out to be a bum ass nigga, because hey, the nigga might actually be trying. He might not be able to see his kids as much as you want to, because you got to understand that child support kicked you in the dick. Because, like I was explaining to somebody the other day that um one

Outside Fatherhood Pain And Closing

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of my partners, he was talking about leaving his old lady and they got a child. I said, bro, let me tell you something that the hardest thing you will ever do in life is be an outside father. Because now you got to play double duty. Now the only time you're gonna be able to see your kids is through FaceTime, phone calls on weekends. Are you ready to see that? Because I said it hurts sending them back on that last day, and they tell you, I don't want to be with my, I don't want to go back, daddy. I want to stay with you. I mean, what do you say? What do you say to your kids when they say, I don't want to go back, daddy? But I want to thank y'all for listening to Foe Steppers only. We out. Peace.