No F*cks Given

Everybody says they hate drama, but a lot of it starts the same way: someone tells one “small” detail to the wrong person, then acts surprised when it comes back twisted. We go straight at the problem of oversharing and pillow talk, and why too many people treat private life like community news. If you’ve ever watched a friend switch up, a coworker repeat your business, or a relationship blow up because too many people had access, you’ll feel this one.

We unpack what privacy actually means in real life, not as a vague “move different” slogan, but as a boundary that protects your reputation, your relationships, and your safety. From being away and seeing loyalty fail, to watching friendships fall apart over a woman, to the simple truth that envy makes people reckless, we talk through why “everyone doesn’t need to know” is more than advice. It’s a strategy. We also hit the idea that you should never show your whole hand, like a card game, because the moment people know too much, they can use it as ammo.

Then we get into the messy side: how people weaponize bedroom details, insult each other when things go left, and demand closure they haven’t earned. Our takeaway is blunt and practical: when someone violates your trust, cut their water off, stop feeding the cycle, and don’t spin back into toxic situations that only escalate. If this conversation helps you tighten your circle and protect your peace, subscribe, share it with someone who needs it, and leave us a review.

Transcript

Welcome And Where To Listen

SPEAKER_00 0:01

I just wanna let y'all know how I feel. Fuck your feelings. Fuck your feelings. Fuck your feelings. Bitch, no fucks giving. Fuck your feelings. Fuck your feelings. Fuck your feelings. Fuck your feelings. No fucks giving. I just wanna welcome y'all to the phone. Only I'm Jack. Yeah, that little motherfucker. It's what we tell y'all in real life and on this motherfucker. To sit down and watch this double step. He on four steppers only. Hey, I just wanna let y'all know, y'all, that who are tuning in right now, you can find also on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Pandora, a lot of other places. Hey, you can even watch me here on God on YouTube. Also, because I mean, so many people always ask me all the time, hey man, can I can I watch you on Facebook? No, no, I'm not I'm not on Facebook. I'm just gonna let you know that. I I'm I'm 38 years old, and this new technology be mindfucking me sometime.

The Ghost Pepper Tequila Setup

SPEAKER_00 1:11

But there's one thing that I gotta get off my chest. There's a reason that I let one of my good dudes I know um introduced me today um with that song called No Fucks Given by Caulfield. Um like I personally know him. He did some fucked up shit to me one time, offered me a shot and tequila. And I was like, shit, hell yeah, shit. I was I was always told shit. If a motherfucker asked for you a drink, shit, you take it. But this motherfucker put a ghost pepper in his bottle of tequila and had me drink the shit. That shit goddamn threw me so off guard that the damn tequila already burned. So why would you goddamn make this shit hotter than it already is? Then it was cold at the same time. So it burned and burned. So it was like a trifecta thing going on. But anyway, um, there's a reason why I I introduced this episode with the song called No Fucks Giving.

Why Pillow Talk Backfires

SPEAKER_00 2:10

Hey, why y'all why y'all motherfucking men and women out here got a pillow talk about who y'all don't fuck, who y'all don't slept with, who y'all didn't whoop the whoop, who y'all talking to with this, that, and the third. Sometimes you need to learn to shut the fuck up and let you deal with who you deal with. It ain't everybody's information about who you deal with and who you sleep with, who you goddamn do this with. Why the fuck do they care? Why the fuck do I care? Hey, I'm not getting any gratification. I mean, my shaft is not getting wet, my dick is not getting goddamn satisfied. My my soul and my intentions are not goddamn pleasured because you have slept with this person. So honestly and truthfully, I don't give a fuck. And and that's the way you should keep your shit to yourself. Because, hey, the more people know, the more shit their dick can use against you. I mean, because a lot of people fail to realize why do you have to tell everything to everybody? Because everything ain't everybody's fucking business. Because a lot of these motherfuckers get out here talking about some, yeah, girl, I sucked Lil Larry's dick last night. Why? Why do they care so much? Why do they care so much to know what you did with Lil' Larry last night? Because nine times out of ten, some people that you tell shit to are gonna be envious or gonna be like, man, I know that bitch can't fuck shit. She done told me she can't fuck. She told me she don't know how to suck dick. She told me she don't know how to ride dick. Talking about something up there ride dick like this. Man, come on now. And when you tell somebody how much shit or how freaky the motherfucker get, they gonna want to try that shit out. That's like if you tell a motherfucker, boy shit, I was over there hitting little shot, she was screw screwing like a motherfucker. I mean shit, my bed was covered, boy. I thought I was swimming in the Atlantic Ocean. Now when you're giving that motherfucker all that information, no matter if he's your partner, your ace boon coon, whatever, that motherfucker might want to try your shit out. You get what I'm saying? Um, the reason why I say that, I had to learn from my own experiences that everybody that you hang with, everybody that you work with, everybody just around you in general, don't really fuck with you the way you think they fuck with you. Um the reason why I say that is because like I tell y'all a little story time. Um,

A Military Betrayal And Hard Lessons

SPEAKER_00 4:31

it's like we call we call niggas Jodies in the military. Um, y'all might call him the male man, y'all might call him the plumber, the ditch digger. Oh, if you gotta go see a man about a horse, you know, just this little shit here and there. So I'm gonna tell y'all what happened to me. So I let my partner be around. Shit, this is when I was younger. Um, because I mean shit, that you gotta go through shit to learn shit. So this when I was younger, I started dealing with this female. So when I started dealing with her, shit, my partner would come around sometime because you know I was hanging with her uncles, her cousins, her brothers, shit like that. Like just hanging with the fam. So I mean, it was a good time, it was a good vibe, it was a good session. That's why I say everybody that hangs with you ain't really your fucking friend. So, boom, this, that, and the third happen, blah, blah, blah. Next thing you know, shit. I get shipped overseas. Me and this girl had never done anything yet. Oh, let me go ahead and retract that. Yet, yeah. Whatever the fuck, how the fuck you say it? But we ain't we ain't done nothing yet. But next thing you know, shit, I done got shipped overseas to Japan. Oh, yeah, I was in Japan. Um, and next thing I know, you know, at that time, shit, you know, I'm scrolling through Facebook because I can really can't call because we're 16 hours ahead. Um, I mean, I could try to call, I could try woot-woop, whatever, whatever. So one of my partners, yeah, boy, I'm going over there to hang with goddamn wood-woop, woo-to- Okay, shit, cool, whatever, whatever. I say, hi, everything going. The motherfucker started goddamn, you know, shit started seeming a little weird with the motherfucker. And every time I talked to him, he was always saying he was leaving from over there. Now remind you, I'm I'm like three-quarters all across the world, so I can. There's no way I can pop up. Next thing I know, shit. I'm scrolling through Facebook. I see this motherfucker pregnant. It ain't mine. She ain't told me shit. Remind you, it's only been 30 days since I've been gone. Next thing I know, I come to find out she's pregnant by my homeboy. Fucked up, ain't it? She told my son, oh blah, blah, this that, and the third, la la la, shit happened. So I can't, I can't blame. I you know, you know what? I'ma go ahead and keep it funky with you. I'm gonna go ahead and keep it a thigh wild with y'all. I was so pissed off. I said fuck both of them. I'm talking about nigga, I was seeing red. So when I got back to the States nine months, like within nine months, um her brother, like I touched down, and her brother got down to my song, bro. Come fuck with us. I ain't seen you in a minute. So I, you know, I'm going over there, they cooking on the grill and shit. I ain't know she was there. So I popped up over there. I'm only gonna say two words to I'm talking about, she's big and pregnant now. So I told her the asshole in me, told her, I wish you the best. Congratulations. Well, can I talk to you, man? What you got to talk to me, man? Talk to your baby dead, whatever. Woot woot. Man, come to find out this nigga done jumped on her. But that ain't the worst thing you can do to a motherfucker. So it came to find out this motherfucker got burnt by two different STDs while pregnant with the dude's baby. Not one time, but twice. So in my mind, it's just like, shit, hey, Karma, Karma did my justice. I ain't gotta say nothing, I ain't gotta do nothing. Shall you been goddamn pissing fire for the longest? Next thing I know, he walk up on me, try to shake my hand. I'm a little short angry with the motherfucker at this time. So, I mean, I got a lot of built-up frustration. Like, bro, you violated you, you dis nigga. I can't trust you, nigga. I only want to dap your hand, nigga. You contagious, nigga. You around here goddamn spreading love to each and everybody. I didn't think the teacher meant sharing is caring when you got down out here giving STDs to motherfuckers, just like it's like you giving out dollar bills, like you giving out free candy. So it's like, bro, shit, oh shit. You I mean, you grab your penis with your goddamn infected hand. No, bro. Shit, that shit nasty, bro. That shit, like uh, nigga, you trying to pass, you trying to pass germs off to me. I don't want to touch you, nigga. You can tell you that you a fuck nigga. So boom, shit. So he he tried to swell up. So shit. I told him, I told him, Shake some do something. So, um, but her brother ended up telling us, AJ, not right here, not right here. My dude's gonna say something, she's gonna be pissed off, whatever. Alright, cool, no problem. So, to this day forth, I don't fuck with him. So, but fast forward. So,

Trust Shrinks Your Circle

SPEAKER_00 9:42

I'm 38. I had to learn some shit. I'm thinking motherfuckers be on your corner, this and the third. You be telling them shit, you know, they confide and shit in you. And you don't tell shit. Just the stand-up motherfucker that you fuck with, you don't tell what the fuck your partner calls you on the phone and tell you two, three o'clock in the morning. He going through shit with his old lady. God damn, woo-to-hoop-woota woop. So next thing you know, you be like, this shit, hey bro, if you need to pull up, goddamn get away from the house. Yeah, it might be two o'clock, three o'clock, four o'clock in the morning. Now come to find out this nigga telling my business instead of telling his own. And it's like, bro, why you telling my shit? Why you telling my story? And you telling it the motherfuckers that you know don't even know the whole story. What are you, what are you, what are you doing? You telling this shit to motherfuckers that don't know the whole ins and outs and everything. You just want to tell select points and and in and certain situations to where you just got some shit to talk about. I mean, you to me, you running your mouth like a hoe. And and that that doesn't sit well with me because it's like, bro, how can I trust you from this, that, and the third? So then you start looking at everybody as they the the opposition opponents, as everybody's against you. So now it's like to be honest, it's fuck everybody. I don't talk about shit, I don't say shit. If it's private, it's private. I don't tell who the fuck I'm fucking with, nothing. Like if it's my business, it's my business. I don't even, I don't even, it ain't no more sharing this caring. Fuck that dumb shit. You can keep that shit. So now shit. So I'm dealing with a young lot of Vyan's now. I'm starting to see two homeboys beef. Which is weird to me. It's like I done seen these boys goddamn talk about, yeah, we went out there weekend, we went paintballing, we went this, that, and the third. We went goddamn had drinks, we got fucked, da da da. Now these motherfuckers over here beefing about a wet spot. These boys out here beefing about a piece of pussy. Why couldn't you come to your homeboy and tell him what the fuck you had going on? And remind y'all, this this this the this the problem with it. Your partner knew you were trying to holler at old girl first, but he backdoored your ass. Now, Shawta got you looking crazy, bro. Over here lying. And it's like, bro, some sometimes y'all need to goddamn learn how to shut the fuck up, do what the fuck y'all gonna do, and just move how you move. Because the you could come up to your your partner as a stand-up man and tell him what the fuck you want to do, or told them that Shawta wasn't feeling them. He said, What kind of partner are you, bro? Because that to me, that's fucked up. That showed me that with your loyalty lie, you're lie, you look your loyalty lie between a pair of legs, not with your partner, not the little motherfucker you got a goddamn might have to borrow a dollar from, might not who you might have to borrow a ride from, not for a motherfucker that got them help you through stressful situations, or got them who you might need for a reference. But that's why, like at the age of 38, now I look back and see how big my circle is, how many motherfuckers I talk to because I barely talk to anybody. I might see you as in passing, but them ain't the first phone calls I make to kick the bobo with, or when I'm goddamn got a flat tie, or I'm going through some shit, or even when I'm going through some good shit, or I got some congratulations, yeah, bro. Shit, when I'm excited about something, y'all ain't the first ones I go to now. Because y'all don't fuck me over so bad. Why the fuck should I trust you? Because I'll give you another instant.

Friends Steal And Stories Spread

SPEAKER_00 13:36

So I would like um a couple years back, I was having a you know, a kick bag of shindig at my house. And you know, I had at that time I was drinking heavily, I was drinking heavily, do say, like two, three bottles at my at my shindigs. Like I had tequila, I had a whole bunch of shit. I had a full stop bar. Like I wanted to the point where you didn't have to go out and get no more shit. You everything was solidified. We had wings, nigga, hey, partake, whatever. What the woota woota woo. Tell me why I wake up the next morning. I know like shit. I was fucked up. Don't get me wrong, that it was a it was a wonderful throne birthday shined for me. But when everything was said and done, I wake up the next morning, and I'm like, damn. I ain't even bust up, I ain't even spanked both bottles of Duce. I ain't I ain't popped the I ain't popped the cork on both bottles. Where the fuck is my other bottle? Because I got the the main bottle here that we started with. And I mean, I got hen and I got all this other shit here. So what what the fuck is my other bottle of duce? And it's like, why is it missing? So now I'm goddamn looking through my ring camera, scrolling through my ring camera, you know, when everybody was leaving. Tell me why I see two of my so-called partners leave with a bottle of my douce, full bottle. Y'all ain't y'all can't empty-handed, so I know this ain't come with y'all. And it ain't, it wasn't a little small goddamn personal size douce bottle. It was the party size, it was the heavy size, it was the 1.75 motherfucker of Dusset. So, my question is, why did y'all feel like y'all were obligated or y'all had to take a souvenir or a gift from my from my situation? Because you ain't put in. I understand if I say, Oh shit, hell yeah, bro. You can take that motherfucker. I don't give a fuck. I wouldn't give you a full bottle. I I would unless I came over to your house and that's what I brought with me, and I left it there. So, what made you obligated to feel like you could take that shit away with you? Because to me, that shit flaw as fuck. But that that's that's where I'm going. That's but that's why this situation is this this this story time, is because a lot of these motherfuckers don't understand. So many of y'all will talk yourself out some pussy or off a heart off a dick, it ain't even cool. Because I mean, a lot of these people got down that they egos and they they they they drama, like they they get so caught up in to this reality TV bullshit to where they think that that's the way the shit's supposed to work. That's the way the shit's supposed to run. That ain't that ain't right. Well, who told y'all that's the way the shit's supposed to work? Because the way shit's supposed to work is certain shit supposed to be coveted, certain shit's supposed to be played close to the chest. Like my

Play Your Hand Close To Chest

SPEAKER_00 16:34

analogy that I give people all the time is this if you're playing spades, you're playing got on uno, whatever the fuck you're playing. You know your hand, and the other person knows you theirs. They share a little bit at a time with you, but they don't show their whole hand to you because what's in their hand, they don't want everybody else to know. So why the fuck are you telling my business to everybody else for them to hear and for them to know? So therefore, I might put something out, but I'm not gonna tell you everything. I might put this out, but I'm not gonna tell you everything. I might put this out, but I'm not gonna tell you everything. Same way you might put out a little piece at a time. You might put a red, you might put a draw for, you might put a heart, a spade, or whatever, puppet toe, whatever the fuck you want to put it. But I don't know everything you have going on. But that with that being said, us as individuals, we have to understand that we can't share everything to everybody because everybody is not privy to knowing these things. It's not everybody's responsibility to know these things because that's when they go and get the opportunities to go share your your shit with everybody. So, so I mean shit. So you can look at two sides of a coin like both of y'all at fault. You you at fault for letting this motherfucker know this motherfucker was at fault for goddamn running his dick sucker, or she was running her dick sucker. This shit ain't this shit ain't genders gender bias. Both of y'all need to learn to shut the fuck up because that's uh that's sometimes you gotta sit back and watch the pots too. Because if you don't watch that pot stew, you don't know what the fuck is really going on, you don't know what everybody's exposing themselves to or putting out there for everybody to fucking know. Because, like we say before, it ain't everybody's fucking business. So sometimes you gotta sit back and shut the fuck up straight up because that's how that's how we gotta move through life. It's fucked up, it's crazy that we gotta play, we gotta play these secret games, but sometimes you can you can you you you do shit in private because you hold that shit coveted, you hold that shit coveted. Cause you see next like now with the news shit, even NDAs don't don't let make make motherfuckers shut the fuck up. So what makes you think that your your honest word is born? Your your word means absolutely anything to some people. To sometimes that half these people don't even wash their white wipe their ass. So what makes you think, and that's some coveted shit, because nobody really wants to let everybody see they got them doo-doo streaks in their drawers. You get what I'm saying? Like if you see a big ass turd goddamn line and they shit, why the fuck are these motherfuckers like you? They try to put that motherfucker at the bottom of the goddamn trash can, or they throw, I'm sorry, not the trash can, the laundry basket, or they throw that bitch in the trash can. That's like shit. A lot

Stop Weaponizing Bedroom Details

SPEAKER_00 19:36

of a lot of uh some people don't want certain shit to be because I okay, I got another story for y'all. Um some I I was sitting back listening at work one day, and um this girl comes out because her and her goddamn whatever situation they were in, um was spread got them going back and forth. And the first next thing you know, it comes out of her mouth. Why don't you tell them how you like to be bent over? Everybody just looked at him. See, certain shit like that, certain shit like that. I don't know if they were joking, I don't know if she was serious, but for you to just throw that shit out there for the world to know, now they gonna be looking at this motherfucking man like he a whole bitch, like he a ho. Now he can't get his reputation back like bro that little boy there be like to get his asshole played in. I mean, if that's your privy, that's your privy. I ain't no judgment here. But what happens behind closed doors, whether she got that guak guck three 3,000, whether she got that man hung like a goddamn horse, whether that motherfucker be laying pipe for hours, that's y'all's business. That's y'all's business, not nobody else. Like whether he likes to get bit over or not, that's y'all's business. I'm just saying that's but to me, sometimes people be doing too much just to gain attention from others. That's like, okay, I'll give you another person a perfect example. That's like nobody should know that that your man can't get it up, that he doesn't satisfy you. Because now that's the now this is the one thing that goddamn pisses me the fuck off. You've been fucking with this man for years. But as soon as some shit goes left, the first thing females throw out there, they they they try to intimidate your manhood. That's that's why your dick's small. That's why you can't get it up all the time. That's why you don't satisfy me. That's why shit I gotta, I gotta gotta, you know, you know why why you gotta insult somebody instead of shit. Like I told

Cut Their Water Off And Walk Away

SPEAKER_00 21:52

a motherfucker the other day, I they asked me, What do you do if somebody pisses you off? I cut their ward off. I know a lot of y'all. Don't understand that term, but this this is why we use that term. Cut their water off. I know it's a country, it's a country term, it sounds country's fault, but it but it will make sense once I explain it. It says if I've been treating you good, I've been treating you right, I've been looking out for you, this, that, and the third, I stop fucking with you. I stop fucking with you. I stopped showing you the treatment that you were getting before. I stopped showing you the attention that you were getting before. And I just back the fuck off. I disappear. Because a lot of people don't because that'll hurt people more because they start questioning whether it was them, whether it was you, whether it was this person, whether it was this person. Or why you start fucking with them. Because then they would tell someone, I just want closure. Sometimes you ain't privileged to closure. What makes you think you goddamn entitled to anything? That's what's wrong with y'all. Start feeling like you're entitled to something. Some shit just didn't work out. That's all that matters. You went your way, he went his. And it I mean, sometimes that's the way it has to be. Instead of you thinking that you gotta go back to closure, man, we don't spin back. What's the point of spinning back? I learned my lesson with spinning back. They ended up me with another child. In a bad situation, was through some bullshit. So why am I obligated to spin back to a situation that was unhealthy, that was toxic, that was highly volatile, that was violent. I mean, shit, only thing you can do is either when you go back to a situation like that, they only escalate. You get what I'm saying? Because if y'all both don't grow, y'all don't go get therapy or figure out some some type of positive way of communicating and transitioning these issues. You only got two options dead or jail, or just to walk away.

Final Takeaways And Sign Off

SPEAKER_00 23:52

But thank y'all for listening to Foe Steppers only. Hey, be sure to turn tune in to us on YouTube, Spotify, Pont Pandora, iHeartRadio. Cause we ever we in 49 countries and almost 500 goddamn cities. Peace. We out.