50 - 50 is DeLuLu

“50-50” sounds fair until gas jumps, groceries climb, rent comes due, and your job still pays the same. We talk about what splitting life really looks like when the economy is tight and the pressure is loud, including how quick “provide” turns into “be used” when someone sees you as a wallet instead of a partner.

We get into the stuff people avoid saying out loud: how trust falls apart when money gets hidden, why living together needs clear boundaries, and why a peaceful home is the real flex. If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the whole load, or you’ve watched friends get hit with a rent notice while everybody pretends things are fine, you’ll recognize the reality here.

We also touch the day-to-day teamwork that keeps relationships alive, from chores to emotional support, plus why toxic fighting isn’t passion and doesn’t mix with real intimacy. And when life hits hard, like losing a job, we break down what it means to have someone in your corner who says, “We’ll figure it out,” then actually acts like it.

We close with a reminder to keep your business off the street, stop letting outside voices run your house, and choose partners who add to your peace, not your stress. If this one hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with your take: what does “fair” look like in your relationship?

Transcript

Not About You Cold Open

SPEAKER_02 1:25

I had to let y'all know, but we back. Shit. What we talking about this week? Mmm. I got something to play for y'all.

SPEAKER_00 1:43

Your soul. I thought that this shit was about you. You're so vain. I bet you thought this podcast about you, don't you? Don't you?

SPEAKER_02 2:01

I bet you thought this shit was about you. Don't you? Yeah, cuz you're so vain. I bet you thought this shit was about you. Don't you know? Well, I know that ain't the words, but I hope you get the point. Shit, don't never think this shit is about you. Because something, sometimes people goddamn get this shit misconscrewed because they want shit to goddamn be about them. But it's okay. It's alright.

50-50 Beyond Money

SPEAKER_02 2:35

But you gotta understand. Don't get this shit misconscrewed, misc and kerfuffled. But today we're talking about the Lulu as fuck. 50 50 is the Lulu as fuck. A lot of people think people have endless pockets nowadays. And they they just made them money, and only thing they meant to be there is to provide. I mean, yeah, we we meant to provide and take care of one another, make sure our situation, our situation is straight and taken care of. But I mean, what do we do? I mean, shit, as long as that person's taken care of on the other side and never looked at just for the monetary figure that they are, shit can work. Because shit, in my ex in, let's see, hold up. In my old marriage, yes, I am divorced now, um, we used to say something. As long as we got each other, we straight. We ain't got no worries. No matter what is thrown our way, we can take care of. We can tackle because we got each other to make it through. No matter whether you through you doing it together to apart or whatever. Shit, as long as y'all keep each other on the same page, y'all can make it through whatever. But the problems arise, the problems arise when motherfuckers trying to be sneaky and shit, trying to pa trying to goddamn hide certain goddamn funds, certain this, certain that. Yeah, they try to hide shit, but they can never be, they they they don't get all their eggs in one basket. Cause I got a coup a couple of my partners have been calling me. I mean, we know, understand the the the position of economical stance.

Rent Stress And Shaky Trust

SPEAKER_02 4:30

I know I'm throwing out words that don't goddamn mean nothing to y'all. The epic economical standpoint of society right now is fucked up. Let's go ahead and keep it straight. This shit fucked up. And the way we're taking pennies over here, pennies over there, trying to rub them together, trying to make $50 out of two pennies. Or you're going to put $10 in your gas tank and holding your breath till you get to the gas station. And the way we have to push to be better is crazy. Because, I mean, shit, what do we do? I mean, shit, you go to your job, it's like, shit, gas out here going to $5 a gallon, but my job's still trying to pay me the same wage as last year. But when we tell them, hey, y'all don't make enough, but then they feel butthurt when I try to go look for a job somewhere else, they start looking at me different. They could start approaching me different. Next time I'm getting write-ups for this, write-ups for that, because I said I'm not making enough. No, hell no, y'all know I ain't making enough. Because y'all actually even fucking said that they don't pay us enough to even make ends meet. Man, shit, I went out to the cafeteria, they tried to charge me $13 for a fucking burger and fries. Bro, that's that's almost some of y'all's people's wages that y'all pay there. What kind of sense does that make? Well, then when we get to the Lulu as fuck.

Boundaries Around Living Together

SPEAKER_02 6:00

So y'all know my mama is my best friend and worst enemy. And my mama retired out of the army as a first sergeant. So her filter is about like mine. So I told my mama the other day, I said, Mom, this shit weird as fuck out here. I said, shit, mom, man, shit. I I understand I have peace at my house. I understand I got peace. But right now, shit, it wouldn't mind God doing having a guy doing something over here to, you know, I pay the rent. They take her all the, you know, the other whoop-to-boot bills. Or, you know, we work that we work out a particular arrangement. First thing my mama said, John, why don't you go get you a roommate? Like, you know, get you a male roommate. Mom? This shit ain't, I said, this shit rocky, and the way some of these men out here think shit. I seen the way some of these niggas move. It ain't it ain't it ain't it ain't Demir. It ain't T. And the way they fuck you over sometimes, they might, they might spill the beans, they might not put in a little, they got their own coins, they might not put in their little they dividends to make sure bills are paid. And I said, Mom, I said, where he gonna sleep? I said, mama, I ain't got time to be waking up with no more control in my back. Never. It'll never happen. Never in this lifetime, the next, or therefore the the all the way that way. I ain't doing that shit. Never will your your son be out here, goddamn. I I ain't one of them. She busts out laughing because she knows she knows that she she was meaning it'll be funny. Because when I look at certain things and certain aspects about a relationship, you gotta make the shit work. I mean, shit, I I know when you used to talk about that whole relationship, who wash dishes, who do that, who do this. That shit weird sometimes because certain people will say, Well, I don't, I ain't good at I ain't good at cooking. Shoot, that's okay. Shit, we'll figure that shit the fuck out. Hey shit, hey, Beanie Weenie still get eight, ravioli still get eight, spaghetti still get eight, regardless of what you do. Pizza still get eight. We'll figure out how to fucking cook that shit. It don't

Peace, Teamwork, And Toxic Conflict

SPEAKER_02 8:45

matter. I know shit. Look, my sweat, armpits, sweaty and shit. God damn, I told you this shit uncut and unedited. Um, but when you look at certain aspects about life, you gotta be a team. And the way certain people just wanna be takers, leeches, and just drain you dry of what you can provide or the services you do or the ways you help them out is weird as fuck. I know y'all know some weird motherfuckers that y'all done dealt with in y'all past histories. But to get back to the situations, a couple my partners done called me and they told me they fucked up. They pissed off, they they they angry. Because they done got that little that little ticket on their front door. Bro, y'all $3,000 behind, y'all $4,000 behind. Bro, hey, help me help me understand this. If I ain't got nowhere to lay my head, I ain't got no place to call peace, how is it called peace? If everything about out them doors is against me, how is it that we can move forward? Because when I look at certain shit, the way certain shit happens outside them doors, I should be able to come home, kick my feet up, understand shit. I got food, no matter what, whether it's hyenas, oozanoodles, goddamn chef or rd, something I can throw in that microwave and warm up, it's still a meal to me. It's still putting sustenance in my body. If I ain't gotta come home to no arguments, no shit like that, because hey, let's go ahead and be honest and be real. Shit. I don't know how to put it. Shit, that's when motherfuckers start swaying to the left and swaying to the right and going finding other people to satisfy their gratifications, because they don't have them people around them to bring them peace. Because once you gain peace and once you are entertained, like you experience peace, you never you want to let that shit go. You never want to let that shit go. Because I mean, where do we get to? Because I mean, the way I look at shit is everything matters when it comes to peace. Because peace is the main thing that we we all want. No matter, uh uh, well, let me just let me say, let me say this shit the right way. You got some motherfuckers that get off on that toxic shit, and I can't get with it. I don't even understand that bullshit. Because there's no way in fuck you can explain to me that we can be up here calling each other bitches and hoes and cussing each other out and being being derogatory as fuck to one another. But then next thing you know, I'm we we we upstairs fucking. There's no way you can explain it. Man, I don't want you to bring the same fucking air I'm breathing right now. Man, I man, I might throw some, I might throw a goddamn shoe across the room just to hit you in the back of the head because I'm I'm pissed the fuck off. There's no way that I can ex- I can experience sexual gratification with you, with a person I wanna be with, if if I'm just, you know, pissed off and you up and we leave in Oregon. There's no fucking way. And I mean, yeah, yeah, y'all got some goofy motherfuckers that get off on that shit. I can't do that shit. I'll go sleep on the motherfucking couch. I ain't even gonna hold you. I'll be like, man, fuck that shit, man. I'll go sleep on the couch. Man, I go make a pallet on the floor in my bedroom just to be comfortable. And my biggest thing to people is bring peace to people. Because if you want that person by your side through thick and through thick and thin, shit, peace. Peace peace is the big the best thing you can offer somebody else. But back to this rent shit. To get

Doing What It Takes To Make Ends Meet

SPEAKER_02 12:55

shit paid through and through, you gotta be with somebody that got down, um, I just lost my job. What should I do next? Sell some feet pics. But hey, go time to do the sperm bake, sell some sperm. I mean, shit, you do, I mean, let me go ahead and be honest with you. We do whatever it takes a lot of times. But let's go ahead and be honest. We we we do certain things to make ends meet. A lot of things, like, just because like you gotta move how you move. Sometimes we do shit just to for the people's appearance. Man, I ain't with that shit. If it keeps my friend and my family safe and keep them whatever they gotta have going on, shit, I don't give a fuck. Peace is peace. So where they don't worry, shit, I worry. If walls could talk, shit, I'll be the only one knowing. Because guess what? Man, I don't give a fuck. As long as my situation and my peace is at home and my family and the ones I care about taking care of, bro, I don't give a fuck about what nobody else thinks. Because sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to bring peace. And that 50-50 shit, man, shit. Hey, you better, hey, be on be that female on the side to understand, hey, my man out here doing what he gotta do to make sure we straight at home. Because and don't be that nagging ass female talking about something, well, you ain't never home. Man, I gotta get this shit paid. Fuck what you think right now, shit. We'll talk about that down the line when this shit back comfortable, but this bit shit back

Job Loss Story And Real Partnership

SPEAKER_02 14:35

sweet. Because if it ain't sweet, what are we doing? Shh, shit, I've been that, I've been that dude. Lost my job. Shit, I'm talking about working at a hot ass plant, came home. I'm talking about 12, 14 hour days, tired as fuck, 130, 120 degree heat at nighttime, working plastics. But you gotta understand, I was doing what I had to do to goddamn make sure food was on my on my um my family's table. But next thing I know, shit, this during COVID. Them motherfuckers got them called us in there, asking we done work goddamn a 12-hour shift. Hey, everybody that's standing here right now, we letting all y'all go. My my my main concern wasn't about me losing my job. My main concern was about telling my ex-wife what the fuck I had just what just happened. Hey, baby, I just I just lost my job. The fuck? What the fuck we finna do? You know what the first thing she told me? Babe, this just a little bump in the road. I got you as long as you got me. We'll figure it the fuck out. Shit, that that that made me more happy to hear than anything. It's and you gotta understand when you got somebody in your corner like that, shit, 50-50 is easy. That shit might be 70-20. That means shit might be 70 to 30, might be shit, might be 40-40. Numbers might not add up, but you hey, y'all make a way to make it add up. Hey, babe, shit, I don't like the goddamn vacuum. Well, I don't like to wash dishes. Hey, I put the bitches up if you put them in the dishwasher and you wash them. I cook, you wash dishes. Hey, I wash the clothes, you just hold, hang them. Shit, I don't we don't give a fuck. We make shit work the best way we know how to. The way our situation paints us out to to know how to. Because everybody else's experience ain't our experience. The way what we experience together is what we experience together, and all that other bullshit of letting this this little bird in my motherfucking ear, that little bird in my motherfucking, they don't know about our situation. But it's also our place not to tell them everything that go on between behind our doors and everything that we got going on. Because you gotta understand this

Privacy And Protecting Your Peace

SPEAKER_02 16:45

shit. Them motherfuckers might want to see your downfall, them motherfuckers might want to backdoor you because guess what? You've been running your dick sucker too much because they know how much your man brings home, and got them. Next thing you know, this motherfucker over here done heard how good you got them done sucked up your old man last night, and you know, heard how long he lasts. And next thing you know, they want to be in your situation. So, do you keep letting them know all the little this little little tea, little sprinkler, little salt and pepper that you got going in your situation? Nah, because they because you gotta understand everybody ain't got them pure. Some people might be goddamn envious of what the fuck you got going on. So, what do we do? How do you handle this situation? You keep shit private, you hold shit to your chest, you play shit to the left that ain't that ain't everything ain't meant for you. Some things you gotta make shit work for y'all. Keep them motherfuckers on the wayside, man. I'm sweating like a motherfucker in this bitch. I just realized it's 71 degrees in my house. But it is what it is. I tell y'all this shit raw, uncutting, and edited. I don't be giving a fuck. You see, I'm still over here using goddamn arythemias and trying to clear up this goddamn, this goddamn style. That's why we tell we tell y'all we keep this shit pure. We keep this shit pee. I had to clean this shit up a little bit because of, you know, certain streaming platforms and everybody don't want to hear like the negativity. But you gotta understand, make shit work for you. I was to the point where it's like, Smith, man, I love to have somebody here just to take care of the miscellaneous bills, and I take care of the rent. Don't mean that's how it's always gonna play out. It's just understanding that's what we got at the baseline because shit happens, shit comes up short, folks get sick. You just gotta make shit work for your situation and your family, because that's the only way we're gonna make it through certain things. And people don't understand that. Everything ain't meant for everybody. The way our situation works is the way our situation works. It's not the way everybody else's does. Stop and just because it don't work for you and the way your family wants it, shit. Okay, that's fine. So why base your shit off of somebody else's? Why base somebody else's living plan off of how you want your life to live? Because we all know everybody, the way everybody everybody's checks don't add up the same. Everybody's income don't add up the same. I ain't a millionaire. I'm not afraid to make it. Shit. Like I like my son the other day told me he was got down, got a new job paying $24 an hour. I congratulated him. Because that's what he was chasing. He's still chasing his realtor's degree. Because that's the way he wants to find things and make it work for them. And like I told him, I said, is that your long, let's say that's your long-term plan? No, that's not my long-term plan. Okay, cool, no problem. What is your long-term plan? Oh, dad, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this. Okay. I say always remember it's chess never checkers. Make sure you have somebody that that will meet you and make your shit complete. And don't just waste your air on the wrong motherfucker. Because you can waste your air on the wrong motherfucker and be in the wrong for in the wrong situation and your shit be fucked up. Because some motherfuckers just want to goddamn be leeches. And what do we do? Do we allow them to be leeches? Do we just just for a little piece of happiness, we we stay there? Nah. We we move shit around. Shit, you you leave that toxic ass situation alone because it ain't it don't bring you peace, it brings you misery. So what do you do?

SPEAKER_01 20:46

Do you still stay there? Do you still endure? Do you still suck it up and just survive because you gotta survive? Man, I'd rather get the fuck on, figure out my shit by myself.

SPEAKER_02 21:02

And sometimes you got to. It's okay to be by yourself. Because sometimes that's the only way you get peace. Sometimes that's the only way you brought peace. Sometimes that's the way the only way to heal from certain bullshit and situations. So you gotta understand, even when that's not for you, and so you it's okay to be at peace sometimes. It's okay to experience certain shit sometimes. But guess what? You are experiencing to heal for the next motherfucker. Or even if you decide to go back to that person that you want that you want to be with, experience it with them. Maybe they have changed, maybe they've changed over the years. Maybe they've learned some shit by being with the wrong motherfucker. Or next thing you know, never block your blessings. Sometimes we heal for the best. And like I was telling somebody, we joke about this shit all the time. Man, I know, understand why it's Mr. Johnny down the street. Was by itself for a long time. I understand why he was going over to

Mr. Johnny And The Green Grass Trap

SPEAKER_02 22:05

your aunties, your mama's goddamn house to fix something. Cut the grass. Oh, I just gotta take something over to Miss Wootwoop. Yeah, he had to go take something over there. He had to go make a deposit. He got to go tighten up some bolts. He had to go knock some goddamn carwheels loose. But guess what? Mr. Johnny still went back home. Because Mr. Johnny understood the value of peace, and his peace and where he wanted to be was at home. But being with that person, yeah, he might have had a little conversation, but that conversation never got farther than that. Because that person did not meet Mr. Johnny's standards. But he could go make a deposit, go get something tightened up real quick and come right back home. He might, and trust me, Mr. Johnny never fucked up and got down. He understood. Mr. Johnny understood you had to pay the play. He had to take them $250 over there. He had to pay a light bill. He had to pay a water bill. Because guess what? Sometimes you gotta do that. I ain't hey. I was born in the 80s, baby. Shit, it ain't nothing to pay a water bill. Ain't nothing to pay a light bill. Because if you over there, you gotta provide something. You can't just be up hard D and just conversation. You have to add to the pot somehow. A lot of these folks out here got the game fucked up now because, like, I was laughing at a meme earlier, because the dude said, shit, I'll let I'll leave the relationship if she got Mr. Mister over here paying her $2,000 a week. Goddamn buying her straight stuff like that. I know my exit. Because he's providing something that is unmatched. But this is a question. On the flip side, for that $2,000, what you doing on a week? What's the consequence for that? What is he contributing to your situation that's gonna make your shit fucked up? Because that $2,000 don't come without a price tag. It don't come without a package. It don't come without some bullshit. The grass may be greener on the other side. But it might be fertilized with more bullshit. Just to have somebody to hold you at night, you might you never know what other kind of problems you're gonna goddamn run into. But I'm tired of running my dead D suckle. Hey, this is all for four steppers only. We out. Peace.