Episode 1: Let's start a podcast

Welcome to Episode 1 of Overcommitted & Underqualified. 🎙️

We're Keech & Jaeger—two best friends navigating life in real time and realizing that nobody actually has it all figured out.

In our very first episode, we're talking about dating, divorce, friendship, parenting, rebuilding, questionable decisions, and the beautiful chaos of trying to hold it all together while pretending we're fine.

No experts. No perfect advice. No filters.

Just honest conversations, embarrassing stories, hot takes, and proof that we're all figuring it out as we go.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:14

And also walk past the fact that my family room was in complete disarray, let alone my entire house, and didn't choose to bring a bag of groceries in. Because it was rude. Can I tell? It was rude. And it was like two days in a row. You came by last night. And you didn't even come up and say hi to me. I was afraid to go up to your room.

SPEAKER_00 0:38

I didn't know what I'd find.

SPEAKER_01 0:40

Jesus.

SPEAKER_00 0:41

Don't tell me you weren't sleeping. I yelled up there four times.

SPEAKER_01 0:45

No, I absolutely was sleeping. Sick as shit. We should just do a brief introduction of ourselves first. Before we get into the content.

SPEAKER_00 1:01

Okay. Can you help us do a brief introduction of ourselves? I don't know that he needs to help us. We're disagreeing already, Jesus Christ.

SPEAKER_01 1:09

Four seconds in. I'm Christina. I'm 39, turning 40 in a couple of weeks. I am officially divorced. I have two children. I have a nine-year-old and a six-year-old. Do you want to kick off an introduction of yourself? Yeah, but this feels a little lame.

SPEAKER_00 1:31

Yeah, but people have to understand who we are first. Okay. Hello, my name's Nicole. My nickname's Keach. What do you gotta know about me? I am about three and a half years in to divorce. Still not divorced. Still not divorced. Just turned 28 for the 12th time this year. I have two kids. A nine-year-old boy, a six-year-old girl.

SPEAKER_01 2:03

Nicole and I have been friends since the third grade. We don't have many friends outside of each other. We have a couple. We have a couple. We have a couple. And they're solid. And they're solid. You're either all in on us or you're all out. There's really no in-between. Yeah. I think most people just watch from afar. Yeah, because I think we're entertaining from the far, you know? In our minds. In our minds. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:36

That's so we've been friends since the third grade. Other parents are probably like, hey guys, see them. Stay away from them. You're never allergic to their kids.

SPEAKER_01 2:49

Yeah. Or it's the opposite of people think that we're mentally stable. That we're not in any capacity a miracle that we've made it this far in life, to be honest.

SPEAKER_00 3:03

I'd consider us both successful, super motivated. I love to put a business suit on and be in that world, be a boss, grow, be challenged. I always say someday I'm gonna run my company, and I truly believe that.

SPEAKER_01 3:37

No jeans, you need to look professional. So I got myself a new spring suit. I got a powder blue baller suit because I was like, this is gonna look so good with a spray tan. So I gave myself an aggressive spray tan the night before and slept in the one-hour solution and then looked like a baller in my powder blue suit. And people were like, oh my god, I love your spring outfit. And it's yeah, I know, I look great today. Yeah, I'm I know what I look like today, and it is nothing shy of a 15 out of 10. We're also both extremely ADHD. 100%. So don't expect a structure just to set expectations. Don't expect structure, don't expect us to stick to a specific topic. We're gonna circle back to things, we're gonna be incomplete on thoughts, and maybe we'll circle back to it in a following podcast. Maybe you just never know.

SPEAKER_00 4:46

We work really hard, we take that piece seriously, but we don't take life too seriously. We truly believe in happiness and joy, and that life can be fun and fulfilling, and all the rules and regulations we don't love.

SPEAKER_01 5:07

You don't need to be on time for everything.

SPEAKER_00 5:11

Like the important thing. The important thing's a hundred percent. Which is up to your own discretion.

SPEAKER_01 5:18

Right. Yeah. You can be your own judge of that. Soccer practice. I'm okay to be five to ten minutes late.

SPEAKER_00 5:28

Listen, I coach both my kids in soccer, and don't at me about being late. I'm volunteering. I'm not getting paid for this. I'm sprinting from work to home to this, to that. It is a moment. It's a challenge. Don't get me started with the timing of sports practices these days.

SPEAKER_01 5:47

I'm supposed to work till 5 30, but then also pick up my child, feed them, get them dressed in some outfit that is specific to that sport that needed to be washed, and then is probably sitting in a washing machine, and I probably forgot to switch it to the dryer. And I'm supposed to give them a well-balanced dinner.

SPEAKER_00 6:13

So is it because so many people work from home? So now all the sports peeps are like, oh, it's okay if we have a four o'clock practice that takes one hour to get to. Everybody at my office works till five, right? So, how do you get from your commute home to picking up the kids to dinner to everything else?

SPEAKER_01 6:36

I struggle with the fact that I only have my kids 50% of the time. And so those two nights are spent rushing to different sporting events, and then you get home. Kids have to go to bed at a certain time. We have to bathe. Maybe I get 15 minutes of a deep conversation or some snuggle time. Maybe it depends what's your night.

SPEAKER_00 7:02

I get it. It's mind-boggling. Mind-boggling when your thoughts get trapped in the top of the bottom. Yeah. Thank God for before and aftercare though. Yeah. I was raised with my mom always worked too, and always looked up to her for that. She always instilled the importance of work. That's like what I do. Yeah. There's certain things before and after care or my kids with their grandparents. My best time in my whole entire life was my time with my grandma. When my kids get to spend time with their grandparents, why would I feel guilty about? They're not upset about it. My kids get pissed when I pick them up early from aftercare. Same. They do such fun stuff there. Stuff I'm not going to be able to do with them. No, they would be so bored.

SPEAKER_01 8:03

But I never felt bad about the extended care. And I think it was because I always knew that if they weren't in extended care, I wouldn't be able to do my job, and I wouldn't be able to have a successful career. And so I wouldn't be able to give them the current life that they're living.

SPEAKER_02 8:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:26

And so what's two hours and 24, right?

SPEAKER_00 8:30

You shouldn't be living your life feeling guilty about where you're at or what you're doing at all times. You just got to be present and compartmentalize work and then leave and leave it there.

SPEAKER_01 8:43

Be present in the moment, which is part of the reason I like going to the office, is because there is a solid time that you can transition from work mode to mob mode, or I'm gonna be in work mode and then go home and paint a wall. One thing that I think this podcast will make uniquely mine is I believe that I'm so lucky to have met and found a best friend that we connect with, and I can truly share anything and everything with.

SPEAKER_00 11:22

It doesn't have to be these standards that everybody else has because that's not actually anybody. Nobody's actually living their life that way, and they're just pretending.

SPEAKER_01 11:34

Yeah. And I actually think that one thing I've learned through the entire divorce process is first of all, I've broken down a lot of walls and I've become a lot more open and communicative about when people say, How's your day going? Shitty. I'm having a shitty day. Or I'm having a great day. I actually feel like more people are struggling in life than are willing to admit it. A hundred percent. And I think that more marriages are struggling and more relationships are in trouble. And I feel like more people feel lonely than are willing to even admit it. I'm not scared to admit that I'm lonely.

SPEAKER_00 12:14

It's okay for your life to be in a shit show and to be working through things and to make mistakes in life. Yeah. I think that I am the first. We'll get to that. But I'm also usually right. The first to go through a divorce, and you knew how I felt, but from the outside I had everything you could imagine. A big, beautiful home. We just built it excessively ridiculous.

SPEAKER_01 12:46

The most beautiful residential pool I've ever been to, and it was like Olympic size. Yeah. I went through a mourning period of your divorce specifically for your pool because it was the bomb. Yeah, no, same.

SPEAKER_00 13:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:03

Same.

SPEAKER_00 13:04

Yeah. And it was definitely the harder path in some instances because you're impacting your children. Even just the thought of telling people is you're getting divorced and putting that out there is such a jump off of a cliff. Get to that stage to where you can share that. Because you feel like a loser. You're like, I know you shouldn't, right?

SPEAKER_01 13:30

Like you shouldn't at all. It's actually to make that choice is it's the harder choice. And children are destroyed by the fighting of parents and the poor role models that their parents are showing of what a relationship should look like. And that's what destroys children. I know that people choose to stay, and I feel like that was a little bit of our older generation. I know that I left because I was choosing my children. And my children have recently, both of them independently, have come to me and said, I don't like going back and forth between mommy and daddy's house. Like when I'm with daddy, I miss you. When I'm with you, I miss him. That part's hard. You can't explain that to a six-year-old of, hey, I made this choice for you. And you can't explain because it's an adult concept.

SPEAKER_00 14:25

So that part's hard for sure. Everybody's circumstance is different, right? 100%. I'll say there is no circumstance where any sort of emotional, verbal, physical abuse anybody should ever be saying. Correct. Outside of that, everybody's circumstances are different. I truly believe everybody's doing what they believe in their hearts is best for their kids. There's something said for working through things. If you can work through things, because nobody is perfect. But I don't want my daughter to ever think that she's not good enough.

SPEAKER_01 15:03

Listen, she's spicy as shit. She ain't gonna let anyone walk all over her.

SPEAKER_00 15:07

Yeah, but same with me. Like I always have been my whole life too. But yeah, spicy as shit. Yeah, but my choices in men in my life are horrific. Yeah, no, not the best.

SPEAKER_01 15:25

Listen, not terrible.

SPEAKER_00 15:27

Terrible. But guess who has a even post-going through a divorce?

SPEAKER_01 15:33

Still making terrible choices. Can you give me credit? I can almost immediately tell he's not the one for you. And I will communicate this to you. And you go, nah, I think you need to trust. You just need to trust my judgment on this one. Yeah, no, I've seen your judgment. Yeah. But you are the same with me. Like, yeah, you met the last guy that I was dating, and after you met him, I was like, What'd you think? And you were like, I think he's good for right now. And I was like, All right, I don't know what that means. And then it ended in a disaster. Yeah. But you were right.

SPEAKER_00 16:12

Yeah. We both know what is good for each other. It's easy to be a spectator and see things from the outside. A hundred percent.

SPEAKER_01 16:26

So that is another fun, exciting part of this podcast is that you'll get the in-depth view of our dating lives. Speaking of which, I'm going on one this evening. You are? Yeah. We're going to watch the Flyers game. But he has a truck, and you know that I'm a sucker for a truck.

SPEAKER_00 16:45

I could get down with a truck. Okay. We'll see how this goes. Can you tell me more about him?

SPEAKER_01 16:50

Yes. So he's a banker.

SPEAKER_00 16:52

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 16:53

He rides dirt bikes.

SPEAKER_00 16:54

Also, do you know how fearful I am of you and I dating the same people? It's going to happen.

SPEAKER_01 17:02

I think only you have had my sloppy seconds so far. So there's that fun fact. But I am terrified about you and I both dating the same person. But yes. Because there have been some guys that you've sent me pictures of that have liked me, and I'm like, nope.

SPEAKER_00 17:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:24

Like the guy with the fingers, remember the weird fingers? Which one with the fingers? He swiped on me. But no. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 17:32

With with the Grinch slippers? Yeah. Oh. I have like chills. Oh.

SPEAKER_01 17:39

Oh my god, what a loser. Seriously, look like he had ketchup on his steak. Which is hard pass.

SPEAKER_00 17:50

Hard pass. That's a major red flag. So is cats. Disgusting. Cats are disgusting. We're probably going to lose a bunch of followers for that one. Maybe we should cut that. I think that's okay. We're allergic. Okay? Yeah. We're both allergic.

SPEAKER_01 18:08

So tell me more about this dude. So he rides dirt bikes. He's never been married. He doesn't have any kids. 42. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 18:17

So what's wrong with him?

SPEAKER_01 18:18

And I guess we're going to find that out. It's only a matter of time. But he did suggest he was like, we can make out my truck. And I'm like, are we going to listen to country music? And he was like, yeah, of course. And that sounds appetizing. Okay. Maybe. But I did tell him, I was like, I am like working through a cold. But I was like, the decision's on you. Yeah. I feel like you really set yourself up to have a make out, though. Yes, 100%. I mean, I did say that he could pick me up at my house. Jesus Christ. You know? If I'm gonna die on a date, it's gonna happen, you know? Then I'll be a good 2020, you know what I mean? And when they interview you and ask, how would you describe her? You better be fucking honest. Of course I will be. Not everyone loved her. She wasn't everyone's cup of tea.

SPEAKER_00 19:13

You better ask me a lot of questions because I'm her only friend.

SPEAKER_01 19:19

She only had one friend, and there's a reason for that. You'll have to let me know how the date went. I should probably share my location for this evening.

SPEAKER_00 19:27

Yeah, for sure. The thought of that makes me exhausted. Having to get ready for a date.

SPEAKER_01 19:34

I'm gonna have to take a nap.

SPEAKER_00 19:36

I've been out on the dating because I just am too tired for it. It's so much work. The texting. All the things I'm terrible at. I hate texting. I hate being connected to my phone. And you have to invest that time. And I don't want to invest that time. Everybody just pretends to be somebody that they're not. I'm tired of being let down, to be honest with you.

SPEAKER_01 20:06

I do think the audience should know about the date that I went on two weeks ago. Tell me about it. I legit got catfished. This guy got off the barstool and I was like, that can't be. That's not what I swiped right on. That's not him, but it was too late. He recognized me. Anyway, the conversation was okay. I'll give him that. He was a little bit more into himself, a little less question-asking. He kept interrupting me as I was answering questions. Sounds familiar. She's bossy. We can circle back at another time.

SPEAKER_00 20:43

Red flag, by the way. Dudes, stop talking about yourself the whole time and just ask questions. Here's an open book test for you. Ask them a lot of questions about themselves, and they'll be really interested in you. They'll say he was such a nice guy, I really liked him. He was kind of interested in me. Yeah. Sales 101, peeps, ask questions.

SPEAKER_01 21:05

What I knew it was officially over is when he went to pay for the two drinks, and he had a zipper pouch wallet connected to a carabiner that was attached to his belt loop. And he unzipped it and whipped out his card. And thank goodness he was looking at his zipper wallet because my face was like, what the fuck?

SPEAKER_00 21:29

So he had to first he had to stand up, then he had the ug clip. Then he had to was it Velcro or Zipper? You could hear the zipper.

SPEAKER_01 21:40

Oh God. And it's what is that? Like a chain pouch? I think my nine year old has one of those. You know? I it's not very often that I'm speechless, but I was speechless. Oh god. Dude, you're 41 and you Have a zipper pouch connected to a carabiner on your pants. I mean, I want to know more about this.

SPEAKER_00 22:09

Is it for convenience? Is it are you afraid? Have you left your wallet places too many times? So you're like, why don't I clip it on? Do you do some sort of intense sporting activity where your wallet could fly out of your back pocket and you need to carabiner it? Maybe he does some hiking or rock climbing.

SPEAKER_01 22:32

I had a phone conversation with a guy that I'm going on a date with tonight. And I was like, Do you have an actual wallet? And he was like, I do have an actual wallet. And I was like, all right, it doesn't have a zipper, does it? And he was like, there is no zipper. I was like, okay. Do you keep it in a pocket of your jeans? Great. I didn't know that was a red flag until I experienced that. Red flag. Red flag. Red flag. I've recently started taking baths. Granted, it's in my kids' tub. Same. I do the same thing in my kids' tub. But they have really brought me a lot of joy. Yeah, I love a good bath. So maybe treat yourself. Do you ever put glow sticks in it? No, I've never put glow sticks in it. Dude, I'm telling you, you turn the lights out, you put a couple glow sticks and a little bit of relaxing lavender bubbles. Yeah. It's a real nice environment.

SPEAKER_00 23:38

I want to impact people's lives positively and spread joy. I want to have more tax write-offs.

SPEAKER_01 23:47

I don't actually want to make any money. No, we are making no money in this venture. Neg money, but lots of tax write-offs. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 23:57

Overcommitted. And underqualified. Overcommitted and underqualified. So our target audience? Anyone that wants to listen.

SPEAKER_01 24:10

100%. To be honest, is anyone that's struggling? Anyone that's struggling, or anyone that wants to just genuinely feel better about their lives. Because listen, I think that's part of it. I think some people look at my life. I mean, I there's people whose lives I look at and I go, I'm doing better than them.

SPEAKER_02 24:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 24:31

And I feel better about that, right? And we can be that for you. And I I'm okay with being that for you. You know what I mean? Yep. I can be that for you. That it doesn't offend me because we're all at different stages of life. Yeah. And I'm just doing my best. I'm just a work in progress.

SPEAKER_00 24:48

You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02 24:49

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 24:50

One step forward, eight steps back. That's been my journey in life in general. Our topics and our target audience will be aligned to who the core of us are, which is ADHD thoughts flowing into our brain way faster than we can get them out of our mouth.

SPEAKER_01 25:07

I'm finding out the thoughts in my head at the same time that everyone else is. You know, because they flow from my brain to my mouth, and there's no time to process them. Next episode, we should circle back to how my date goes. And it might just be Nicole if I don't live through the date, but I also could end up making out in a Silverado. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 25:32

Will definitely happen. It's hard to plan the topic in advance because we kind of just go as our life goes, and you never actually know what's going to happen, but something is typically going on at all moments. You told me that story already. Okay. All right. Cool. Which actually pisses me off because what other friends are you telling these stories to? It feels unfaithful.

SPEAKER_01 26:04

Sometimes I'm just telling them to myself. I talk to my therapist about this. Is it weird that I talk to myself as much as I do in three days? As long as you don't hear voices talking about, it's okay. It's just like a verbal processing.

SPEAKER_00 26:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 26:21

Talk to myself all the time. I did give a spray tan to one of the moms on Lucy's soccer team this week.

SPEAKER_00 26:35

The first time Christina got a spray tan gun, she was like, I'm just, it looks easy enough. We're gonna do it ourselves. I was like, oh, can you spray me? And you'd think we would have been naked around each other more, but I guess we just weren't. She goes to spray tan me.

SPEAKER_01 26:54

It's just an uncomfortable situation. Like, one person is fully clothed and one person is 100% naked.

SPEAKER_00 27:01

That's she was like, hey, if I could make it more comfortable for you, either I could get naked and spray you while you're naked, or I could put sunglasses on, or I could close my eyes, and I'm like, all right, closing your eyes and spray tanning me isn't gonna work out well. Like, but you being naked, spray tanning me, it's not gonna help. But like that still has happened. What? You being naked, spray tanning me? Yeah.

unknown 27:35

Why?

SPEAKER_00 27:35

Because I spray tanned you first? Yes. I don't remember that. That's definitely happened.

SPEAKER_01 27:41

Where we don't want to put clothes on because the spray tan is still wet. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Listen, it's not that far off.

SPEAKER_00 27:47

Don't get any ideas, viewers. It's not that kind of podcast. This isn't only fans, okay? No. Although. How do I sign myself up for that?

SPEAKER_01 27:58

Dude, I was thinking about that.

SPEAKER_00 28:00

Yeah. Did I send you that text? Yes. And I'm fully aligned.

SPEAKER_01 28:06

Because I think there could be a future there.

SPEAKER_00 28:11

Do you actually have to share your identity?

SPEAKER_01 28:13

I don't think so. You can share the kind of pictures that you want, you know?

SPEAKER_00 28:19

You don't actually have to share your face. Right. So I would just have to hide the old ass tattoo, because that will be a dead giveaway for me, you know what I mean? The regret. There's a couple people in this world who have seen that. Regret. That's what that looks like.

SPEAKER_01 28:37

That's what that tattoo looks like. So glad I don't have an ass tattoo. Although I could go for another tattoo. Same. Same. More to come on that.

SPEAKER_00 28:59

I do feel like this is a good time to wrap it up. Until then, we'll continue to be overcommitted and underqualified.