Realities of Masc. Presenting Women and Effeminate Men

This podcast explores the lived experiences of effeminate men and masculine women by challenging rigid, traditional gender roles. The episodes deconstruct societal stereotypes and celebrate authenticity, showing how redefining gender presentation fosters deeper personal freedom. Listeners will hear powerful personal stories alongside expert commentary on the historical and cultural evolution of non-conforming gender expressions.

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SPEAKER_03 0:00

I remember one lady in my area saw me and was like, hey, what did they be on me home? Now we only saw up and do we again and so madam.

SPEAKER_05 0:10

So boss met with a lesbian quite a show we in our society, most of the time they are referred to as kojubisias, while the opposite ones are referred to as obaverima. Some even call them se boy se girl. But what I want to make clear is that these people can be bagdated to our very roots. What I'm trying to say is that they are a part of our very existence, they were not imported. If we have a local term for them that we call Kojobesea, what that actually means is that they have been with us. Today we want to dive deep into the conversation about the realities that Kojo Besia or effeminate guys face in our society. Not only do we want to do that, we want to get into the lives of masculine presenting women who we often call as Obari Mark. Two effeminate men and two masculine presenting women to speak to their own realities. Kelly, how is it like for you?

SPEAKER_03 2:52

Well, actually, um it's quite annoying sometimes too. Um whenever you still about to go out or something, um you mostly hear people talking about you staring and other stuff. But to me, I don't usually listen or give a heads to that. I just focus on what I'm doing or where I'm going.

SPEAKER_05 3:18

Okay. Efia, do you have anything to say about that? Do you hear these things every day? We or your bar na be mark. Do you get people staring at you every day for how you've chosen to present yourself?

SPEAKER_04 3:34

Especially when you step out, and most of the time you get people staring at you and you ask, what are they looking at? What are they looking at? I mean, people get to ask me, Oh, you're banned or your bamboo. And I'll just smile and just keep my composure and he'll walk away.

SPEAKER_05 3:54

Just walk away. Hmm. This is really tough. And I can't imagine how you have to deal with this thing every day of your life. Like anytime that you step out, you get people staring at you and wondering. And some are even so bold enough to walk up to you and say, Hey, we do your ban a bem pool foo. Oh your bar na bema. That's just so annoying.

SPEAKER_04 4:19

Even kids, even kids walk up to you. Sometimes kids come to me, ask, hey, oh your barna bema. You know? And I go, they're all funny, sir.

SPEAKER_05 4:31

Yeah, exactly. Well, this tells us how deeply rooted kids are being socialized to believe that colour blue is for boys and pink is for girls. And to know and pink, you know, ube who say I cry in pink, crying to me expressing because now dream when you are children say pink is associated with girls and blue is associated with boys. And so this tells you that they are socialized to see boys in a certain way. So anytime they are a baby presenting away in a certain way, it gets them confused. So um I think in a conversation with a masculine presenting woman some time ago, she said to me that she has had people ask her, hey, YouTube, do you get your messes? Like, so when the person said that I was like, so how how did you respond? But honestly, the answer that the person gave this person, I don't even think I would want to share it on this podcast. What are some of the weird things that people ask you or tell you to your face? Have you ever had an instance where, aside being asked, oh your bad now yeah, someone has asked you a very stupid or dumb question in your life, and how did you respond to that?

SPEAKER_04 6:03

Okay, so um I get asked many most of the time into a bewaryana. You understand? And even in churches, even in even at workplaces, sorry, you get asked all of these questions into who are boy, yeah, into who are girl, those kind of questions, I mean, they are disrespectful one way or the other. And I try my possible best not to act in any manner to I mean, cause a scene, you understand? So it's difficult. I mean, you cannot even come out of your shelf, walk freely, do what you want to do, you understand? So you are always like, okay, I don't want to do this, I don't want to go here because people look at me. This is what people are going to say about me. No.

SPEAKER_05 6:58

So I mean, it's well, well, you did say one way or the other. The truth is that it is very disrespectful, no one way or the other. It is just one way, no other. It is extremely disrespectful to poke your nose into somebody's private life to ask them whether or be why we are not, boy, or girl. And so this is just a lesson to our listeners that stop asking those disrespectful questions.

SPEAKER_03 7:30

I think I remember um one lady in my area saw me and was like, hey, but it be a me home now we are near to so we again. So boss made my lesbian quite sure.

SPEAKER_05 7:44

Yeah, most of the time I think people try to get away with some of these questions by trying to sound sarcastic or it I mean.

SPEAKER_03 7:55

So since since then cry no whom you're always saying, say my clear path. But they maybe say, Yeah. Sometimes they're one man, you maybe say no, we have to talk back. You know what you're saying, like you want to be okay, and I'll be signed to know and my honor suggests and you be away.

SPEAKER_05 8:24

Okay, Sadi, what is it like for you? Yeah, oh a mouthful be sour questions be questions be saying or will be so.

SPEAKER_02 8:37

Well, some people will be like, you know, are you a girl or a boy? You know, sometimes you have to want to express yourself, but with the whole uh antibiotics a lot, something. So if you try to do something, maybe the situation you might come out in, you might not like it, or you might not be able to defend yourself because maybe that time you might be, you know, you might be in a masculine, you know, so that's what is in your mind already. See, so sometimes it's a bit difficult, very difficult for us.

SPEAKER_05 9:10

Okay, so in in growing up in an Islamic community where they prescribe an outfit for women, women are supposed to wear hijabs and stuff, and men are supposed to wear what's the name of the tourist? And you presenting yourself as masculine, choosing not to be a hijabi, but oh dear, it's you know, you go with what you are comfortable in. How is it like for you? And I know that in Islamic communities you often find yourselves living with family, like a larger family. And now Papa's second wife, and then a third wife became like how is it like for you? Do you get that backlash every time you step out presenting yourself as you are?

SPEAKER_02 10:14

Well, I do get them, but for me, per se, since I was a kid, that's that's been my addressing since I was a kid. So my mom, my dad, they all already know this is what well, this is who I am. This is what I do. Sometimes they try to talk me out of it, but it is who I am. I can't change it. Everything else is the life for you.

SPEAKER_03 10:38

Alright, so for me, I have not really had any experience of someone asking me about if you are this or that. But mostly I get them on social media. They can ask questions like, so are you into men or are you into women?

SPEAKER_05 10:53

I don't know why people in the society choose to ask, especially masculine presenting women, do you have a penis? I mean, why would all of the questions in the world you would confidently like? I mean, asking some questions, especially damp questions, requires so much energy, so much confidence, so much guts, and you gather all this from within only to open your mouth and ask someone. So, you presenting yourself as masculine, does that mean you have a penis? Like, has has anyone had an experience where someone has asked that derogatory question?

SPEAKER_04 11:39

So I tend to ask uh a rhetorical question. And Kawhi Diana. Yeah, but having penis, like, would you want to you understand? I mean, I think that's enough answer to that question.

SPEAKER_05 11:54

I like that. I like how saucy you are when it comes to questions like that. Okay, so there's there's this other aspect of the conversation that I would want us to have. So, um, how is it like in relationships? When you enter relationships as masculine presenting women, and I would want to touch on queer relationships and probably we can talk about heterogeneo relationships. As a masculine presenting woman in a queer relationship, how is it like for you? Because sometimes so it's okay, I I wouldn't say sometimes, but society has put certain structures or systems in place that make that that put you in a certain box, even in the community. What I mean is that in the community, masculine presenting women are often seen as the men. So in your relationship, you are expected to do everything that a man will do in a heteronormative world in your queer relationship. So, like your girlfriend expects you to spoil her, give her money every day, so long as forgive my language, you are sleeping with her, she expects you to do everything that a man would do for her if she were dating like a cis man, and in other in the other instances, when it comes to effeminate guys, could you be serious? It's not easy. I I think a friend shared an experience with me yesterday where he said that in his relationship his partner stood out to him and said, You are the woman you are supposed to cope. And then he said, Hey, don't you ever? You know how I uh uh Kojobi CS do Don't you ever, ever, ever say that to me again. Is it a challenge that is common to all of you on this table? Do you find yourself being put in the box of you are a woman so long as you present yourself as a woman? You are a woman, so you are supposed to cook, wash, and clean for your partner, and as an as a masculine-presenting woman, you are also supposed to be spending on your partner because you are the man in the relationship. How is it like Sadek? Do you have anything to share with us?

SPEAKER_02 14:40

Uh in the relationship, if uh let me see if we are someone is representing ourselves masculine and the other is a feminine type, it's a relationship we are in. Not yeah, we are in a relationship, so nobody has any dignity. We are all supposed to be there for each other. If I can do this, I have to do it. If you can do this, you have to date it. We don't have to share it that because I present myself as a masculine type, so I have to take a responsibility. So it's it has to mean equally among us. Okay, Kelly.

SPEAKER_03 15:25

How's it like for you? Okay, to me, I love cooking. Okay, yeah, I love cooking. So I don't see it bad that maybe maybe in a relationship I'm being being the feminine, I have to cook.

SPEAKER_05 15:40

But yes, I I also love to cook for my partner when I'm in the mood. When you are in the mood, yes, when I'm in the mood, so I I I I'm saying this because yes, you may love to do it. Probably it's your love language. You like to cook and you love to cook for your partner. But that's different. There are instances where the person demands that you cook because you are feminine.

SPEAKER_03 16:11

Okay, I understand you, but um, with this situation, you're trying to say, maybe me. Naturally, I'm cooking.

SPEAKER_05 16:26

Like nweediana, I didn't know about society to muse, or by place any kitchen. But yes, so what we are trying to preach is that when it comes to same sex relationship, it should be hand go hand come. And nothing about you say, Oh, we own our banner, so this is what you must do. This is something that as a movement, yeah. That is why I'm asking this question. From what you are saying, own share than your experience.

SPEAKER_03 17:16

But to me, then come on the same problem be anyhow. But woe bar only so no young bar it and what maybe you'll know. You have to cook. Eh or so no one. One and one. Open no one. I bother. It is just one one will be super nobono or also so each way.

SPEAKER_04 17:42

Then I'll be I mean, I mean, don't don't don't go that route. And yes, I and some coffee chimbayomod. Metiasia. What obey to me and no one?

unknown 17:56

Okay.

SPEAKER_04 17:57

On to mean noisy me power chell mean to mean no ain't respectfully. I didn't someone me and uh so but back, you know, uh with same, I mean with the same sex relationship, like queer relationship, right? Because you are a masculine, she's feminine. She feels like okay, so let me do this. But the question is, how long is it going to continue? You understand? There are days whereby you cannot do it, so your partner has to do it. Yes. So not necessarily say because you identify as a woman, you should always be in the kitchen. No, that's not right. I do get it now. Duty is be or say because me or bansino.

SPEAKER_05 18:47

So the eddy or ba ni de bayo, putin' or chino, beau bebo yan kasano yem payas and dada. Yeah. In sino ye so yeah who into ye more do eddy and kind. In to do mu ya or the yen fan besay de munaya won't ban between. You get it.

SPEAKER_04 19:07

The thing is, community wean kasano, yaswodin. That's the whole thing. Ya swordin. Man ye see, and no no bay. And even the younger ones, you can't even tell us nothing. When you advise them, right? They don't want to listen. They feel like, oh, I'm on top, you know. But they are all femno. You understand? And to know you too for now, at least what's here, they won't see any kaka no wet ye kakra. You understand? Because little of it. Because a brownie dear.

SPEAKER_05 19:52

Looking at how things are going in this country, dear, it looks like there's this thing that I would like to talk about. Masculine presenting women. Um, most of the time, when masculine presenting women find themselves in a same-sex relationship, they they are they are, I feel some of them, not all of them, are being forced to pick up daddy roles, like I mentioned. You are taking care of your girl, you are doing this, you're spending on her, doing that, throwing big birthday surprises, you know, and all of that. But then you are supposed to be the hard one. You are you are supposed to swallow the pain and you know, be the hard one because as a bear man, so and they are trying to impose all that heteronormative teachings or socialization stuff on you. So now it sort of deprives masculine presenting women of so much that a genuine and healthy relationship should offer. I personally feel that we we should stop projecting the society's ideal masculinity on masculine presenting women. We should have in mind that they are just masculine presenting biologically they are women. They also go through menstruation, they also have their hormones flying all over the place. There are times that they would also get moat swains, there are times that they would also crave for chocolate and ice creams and cuddles and all of that. So it it shouldn't be so one sided. The fact that socially they identify as masculine or present themselves. As such doesn't really deny them of their femininity, no matter how they present themselves, that femininity is somewhere within them. So um when it comes to that that was just by the way, anyway, when it comes to navigating your way in relationships, do you find yourselves relating to any of the things that I said? Do you find yourselves being in a relationship where you are forced to pick up the role of dominance, providing the care, providing the emotional support, providing the financial wordworth? Everything is so put on your shoulders so heavily, such that you feel like you are being robbed of your femininity. Do you find yourself ever in a position like that? Ask a mask presenting woman.

SPEAKER_04 22:59

Not entirely, not entirely, because I mean uh let me briefly talk about my partner. I mean, she knows the times when I'm down, she's always there, you understand. If I need assistance, she's always there. No cup, she's always there. So I mean, if I have, I would do it. If I don't have, I won't kill myself to do it because I mean I would let you understand this is the situation. So let's try and cope. You understand?

SPEAKER_05 23:34

Do you find yourself carrying that burden on yourself in your relationship?

SPEAKER_02 23:40

Yeah, most of my past relationships, it happens. They are the ones spoiling them. Charm and Bakope. When you are with your partner, sometimes they feel like you have to take all their responsibilities because uh sometimes today will compare you to maybe their ex or something. You'll be like, Yeah, my ex used to do this, my ex used to do that. So that comparison is not it's not the best because you can't if I can do it, I'll do it for you. But if I can't, I don't have to kill myself to do what you want for you. You understand? Maybe you see give you the pressure and when she can do it for herself, but because she thinks you have you are the masculine one in their relationship, so you have to do it. It's not good.

SPEAKER_04 24:30

I think it's it's high time people understand uh their partners are no magicians. You understand? Uh I think people should really understand that their partners are not magicians. I mean, it's hard work. You work hard to get whatever money you get, you understand, to spoil your partner. So if you're not getting it, I mean you shouldn't steal, you shouldn't kill yourself to do some of the things, but you should let the person understand this is the situation that's why I'm not able to do this. This is the reason I'm not able to do it first, you understand, and sometimes some of the uh I mean women should also know that we are also women and it's difficult sometimes. You also want to be babied and all that. I mean, we have emotions. I mean, the fact that I identify as I mean uh mascul, I mean, I identify as masculine doesn't mean I don't have emotions.

SPEAKER_02 25:22

And most of the women to have money, they don't have money, even though they are working, they don't have money. Yeah, they they work every day, they go to work, stand up, bath, go to work and things, but those two end up telling you, so I don't have money, I need this, I need that. We have to support each other, we are in a relationship, you understand? But one person cannot do it. We have to join together, yes, so that we can make the relationship how we want it, or we can go forward. But maybe they don't have money.

SPEAKER_05 25:51

Oh no, they have it well, so like we've established when it comes to um queer relationship, the reason why we say net love did is mainly because what we've identified that the society that we grew up in is a hostile and a toxic one, and so in our small community, what we are trying to do is to do better. So, in same-sex relationships, we are not going to carry the toxicity from the heteronormative world into our community. What we are trying to do is that we we want to prove to them that we are better human beings because already we are being judged in the society because your sexuality alone makes you an abomination, makes you Charlie and some nodos, and so makes your whole being illegal. Illegal. So you you have to do something extra to even prove that you are a good person. Imagine being a gender non-conforming person, as in society expects you that you are a girl, where's the little in cabin, do this, cook for your husband, marry, submit, and you have chosen to present yourself differently. And on top of it, you are even doing that quote and unquote abominable, you are loving the same sex. So if if you come out as someone in as someone who is a gender non-conforming person or a social non-conformist, and you happen to be in an abominable relationship like same sex, every good that you have done as a person is being rubbished. Because, see, you can be the kindest person in the world, you can feed the kids in your area, the moment it comes out that you are queer, their mothers will tell them that they shouldn't eat your food again. And that is the kind of society that we live in. And knowing that every time that this bill lies on the president's desk in this country, the the most targeted group of people are effeminate men and masculine presenting women. Because day in and day out, not proper education has happened in our society, so they often assume that if you are a woman who dresses like a boy, then you want to be a boy, so definitely you are doing what men do and you like what men like. I I had a conversation with someone who shared an experience with me being a masculine presenting woman who boarded Trotsky, and then the mate said, Get down, get out, get out, because I you are an abomination. You can't be sitting in this car, and so this person had to get down and just walk away to save themselves from any form of embarrassment or even possible injury. Because if you go say something and there's an angry mob, your whole life is dependent on what somebody thinks of LGBTQ. So if you find yourself in a space where everyone there supports the mate, if they are beating you, no one would rescue you. If you if they are harming you, no one will rescue you. So this conversation about your struggles as uh feminist guys and masculine presenting women is to highlight the danger that most of the time you find yourselves in as individuals because, like I said, the bill targets you people more than cisgender persons, and in in instances like this, cisgender persons are privileged more than you. I'm saying this because I'm saying this because I feel like as a cisgender woman, if I don't come out to physically tell you that oh I'm in a relationship with a girl, or I don't do anything that will give me off, you wouldn't be able to profile me as such. But an effeminate guy who is queer, you don't have to say or do too much. You just have to be yourself and step out, and people profile you and start to attack you. Is there any other experience concerning the realities that you deal with that someone would like to share? Has anyone been in danger for presenting themselves as masculine or as an effeminate person? Has your life ever been in danger?

SPEAKER_04 31:00

I think it comes with the appearance as well. You understand how you present yourself, that's when you can't be in danger. Because I mean, I for one, I'm not too a corporate person, but the way I carry myself, even though I am uh masculine in quote, people wouldn't really know because of the way I carry myself. But there are others who would, I mean, dress, you know, you know what I'm talking about, haircuts here and there, and all that, and you want a corporate job, even employee, you understand? So I think it's high time we educate the I mean the younger ones on all of these so that they know the direction they would go to secure them, to secure jobs and all that, because it's really becoming a problem day in, day out. There are jobs out there, no cap, and lots of queer people are unemployed. That's my major concern. That's my major concern. There are lots of queer people out there who are, I mean, they have jobs, but then I mean, are they paying? You understand? But I think it's high time we appear work on our appearance because lots of people, one way or the other, don't really picture all of these, they don't they don't have the foresight. Let me just put it this way they don't really have the foresight, you understand, and they they feel like the the situation they are in, they are okay. But when you come out of that situation, wherever I mean you are growing up, wherever you come from, wherever you live, you understand there is more to it than life. But ask me, where I work, do they even know that I'm queer because of the way I carry myself? I don't go chasing women out there now, but there are people even at their workplaces, they want everybody to know that this is who they are. I mean, I'm not asking you to hide it, I'm not asking you to hide it, but please try, you understand, because you know what you want, and you know, Ghana, I mean, it's not legal to be who you are, so you should try, I mean, as much as possible to try and just keep yourself in that show for a bit to protect yourself because I mean that's the only way you can protect yourself, keeping yourself in that show, in that closet, that's the only way you can protect yourself. I mean, when people say it, people are I mean, people are definitely going to say it. Oh, okay or a mother, I mean, or a lesbian, or you're gay whatsoever. People are definitely going to say it. But you don't have to really, I mean, go back to talk to them about it, and I mean, just throw tantrums here and there. No, just go, just go, let them say it. I mean, okay, I atari won. Entire woman, we are lesbian atari, and tarot and now feel no. There are there are the I think I watched the video on social media whereby two females, masculine, were fighting over a female, and it was all over the internet, and trust me, the comment was so nasty. I felt bad myself because I was like, Why would you go and fight? I mean, in an Islamic community, come on. It's it's not right. I think it's high time we educate people on all of these things. Me, me a partner, me do it's not like we don't go out, we do, but you are mindful of your security.

SPEAKER_05 34:50

Exactly, very, very, very mindful. Adipa, do you have any final words today? Is there anything you would like to say?

SPEAKER_02 35:00

Yeah, there is a saying that prevention is better than cure. So if you know what you are doing to bring you problem, just abstain from it. So if if you if you know that what you are doing will bring you problem and you go for it, I mean you go at your own risk, you understand? So we should all take care of ourselves. You understand? So everybody should take care of themselves.

SPEAKER_04 35:23

So uh the last thing I would touch on is uh employers don't look at what you can offer or what you are capable of. In this country. In this country, most of the time they look at the first thing they look at is your appearance. Yeah. So I think I mean how presentable you look and even offer you a job. You understand? How presentable can even take you to places you've never imagined. So I think we should really work on our how we present ourselves. It's also a major key.

SPEAKER_05 35:57

Well, if you say that we should be mindful of how we present ourselves, how what do you mean by that? The reason I'm asking this is because you may be a masculine presenting woman. So, how do you present yourself? Do you, in order to get a job, do you have to wear floral dress? Like, let me tell you.

SPEAKER_04 36:19

Me, I don't remember the last time I've gone on different interviews seeking for job, and there was never a time I wore a dress to any of them.

unknown 36:31

Okay.

SPEAKER_04 36:32

Okay, but I mean, the the way a one year say or you got a guy, you understand?

SPEAKER_05 36:39

Okay. So you are you are talking about maintaining the style but keeping it dope. You understand? Okay. And you bean also worship. Because already now, this society is is not giving you space to breathe. Like it's hostile already. Okay, true.

SPEAKER_04 37:00

Let me let me briefly talk about this. I'm masculine, but there was one masculine lady. Woman, no, woman who was who was also doing her national service there, and you I I could, I mean, I could hear conversations about her. You understand? And I am masculine, but I mean they don't know that I'm gay or not. But for her, everybody there knew she is gay. And after her national service, she needed a letter or something, and they're in charge told her she cannot give her. Wow, yes, straightforward. She thought she cannot do that for her. Now, whenever funny do you mean? Hmm. Extremely masculine. But that's what she's not a problem. You are that is that is you see, you should you should know you should know the country you are in.

SPEAKER_05 37:56

But you see, um, I I feel like I feel like um what you are saying is is drifting a little bit. The reason why I feel it's drifting a little bit is that we've already established the fact that they are masculine presenting women and everyone presents their masculinity differently. We can't be blaming them, rather, we should be blaming the system for it. It's the system that is less accommodating. There are some people who are genuinely trying, but the system is just less accommodating and less inclusive for people like that. And it's not really her fault. I don't think I don't think when she's coming to work, she would wear a bad haircut, she does, or something like that.

SPEAKER_04 38:42

Imagine okay, okay, she does, she does, and that was one major concern. A very bad haircut. I personally called her to speak to her, but I mean, in funny, you understand, in funny, it's it's a very thin line that is trying to separate what you are trying to see from from what actually is.

SPEAKER_05 39:12

What I mean by that is that as much as we are trying to tell masked persons and effeminate men to be intentional about how they present themselves, especially in hostile environments, they should prioritize their security and stuff like that. We we we we can't say too much because saying too much is going to mean like telling them to really deny who they are. No, not at all.

SPEAKER_04 39:44

I'm not asking you to do that, you understand, but wearing a very bad haircut to the office, you want to be employed is a no-no. Yeah, okay. It's a no-no.

SPEAKER_05 39:57

I I feel like from my perspective, I feel like in in trying to like I said, in trying to tell people to be more mindful of themselves, how they present themselves, we we we can't say too much because then we would be trying to put them in a certain box that they cannot be in. We should we should all accept on this table that the system isn't favorable, and that is the problem. Because I mean what in genuine terms, what you are good at shouldn't really have anything to do with your your fashion or anything, but then we find ourselves in a society where people profile you based on your appearance, da da da da da da to deny you of certain things that you you credentially you qualify. Sadek you wanted to say something.

SPEAKER_02 40:58

There is a saying that Oslo Board you're buying ho, you see. So assuming you are going for an uh job interview, okay, you are you are you are trying to get a job, you go there, then your knee car is below your your your waist, and you have like you've done a nice haircut, but you have a boy like three, you see. So, how was the thread necessary? Oh yeah, people do crazy, then how do you expect to get that job? I understand.

SPEAKER_05 41:29

So sometimes you have to you have to help yourself to help, but then it's fine. What what you are saying is valid, but what I'm also trying to say is that there the system is such that as a woman, even if you wear a nice shirt and you wear trousers, you tack in, you are so neatly presented, and you walk into an institution. Because you are a woman and you are wearing a nice shirt, a tucking, some sneaker or anything, and you are presenting yourself as masculine, it can even deny you the job, irrespective of how you present yourself so neat, so responsible, like they are people who actually believe that you are a woman. So if you are coming, if you are coming for an interview, what you should be wearing is skirts or some ladies' suits, you know, some of these things. And and that is what I want to throw more light on so that we we we get it clear to our listeners that as much as we want you to be mindful of your environment, how you present yourself, we also want to say that don't don't keep yourself in a box, don't keep yourself in a box, be unapologetically you, but just be mindful of the space in which you present yourself in your fullest glory. So, ladies and gentlemen, this is Rainbow Highlights Podcast, and today we looked at the daily struggles of effeminate guys and masculine presenting women. We looked at how the system is so unfair to them and how we constantly must educate queer persons, especially masculine presenting women and effeminate guys, to be so intentional about how to present themselves such that at some point in their lives they even have to shed a part of their truest personality just so they can appear acceptable to society. I'm your host, the Alpha Female Eve, and this is a wrap up. Tune in next time, and this initiative was brought to you by Kifacity Ghana and Vesalient Sisters Ghana. Same time next time. Bye bye.

SPEAKER_01 44:09

I'm sorry, I'm so sorry. I know what you thought I was, and I can never be wishing that I was I like what I like. Do something about it while you worried about who I love why you worried about who I love making them feeling so wrong when it feels right. Tell me I'm wrong for living my life. They think they know it all, but they don't know it all. Making them feeling so wrong when it feels right. Do what I want, cause I'm living my life. I can have it all. You know I want it all. I'm just a young black girl, young black girl from Africa. And this is who I am, this is who I am. Take me for who I am, take me for who I am. I'm just a young black girl, young black girl from Africa. And this is who I are, this is who I am. Take me for who I am, take me for who I am. Cause I'm chasing the rainbow.

SPEAKER_00 45:37

Cause I'm chasing the rainbow.

SPEAKER_01 45:41

Rainbow. Cause who because you your father I know be your man. You can't eat the food that's in my play. Two of the girls in the world. Do all these years. And you can do what you want. You can be so much more. Making the feeling song when it feels right. Do what I want, cause I'm living my life. I can have it all. You know I want it all. I'm just a young black girl. Young black girl from Africa. This is who I are, this is who I am. Take me for who I am. Think me for who I am. I'm just a young black girl. Young black girl from Africa. This is who I am. Take me for who I am. Think me for who I am. Cause I'm tasting the rainbow.

SPEAKER_00 46:57

Rainbow Cause I'm tasting the rainbow. Rainbow Cause I'm tasting the rainbow.

SPEAKER_01 47:10

Rainbow I see ho Rainbow means ho.