Let’s talk relationships 😽 #6

Heyyy yall we are so excited you’re here with us from literally EVERYWHERE 🌍 We are jumping right in to give you some thoughts on relationships 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Don’t worry it’s just our opinions, you’re still allowed to have yours 🫶 We also can’t forget to say HAPPY PRIDE MONTH we love you 🩷🏳️‍🌈

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SPEAKER_02 0:15

Welcome back to Girls After Dark. Greated R. And hi guys. Hi. Episode six. We're like almost done with our first season. Yeah, because we said we were gonna detect. We're gonna do try to do ten each season. I mean, depending on, you know, oh my gosh, I really want to bring up like onto this. We have people watching from like six different countries and territories.

SPEAKER_03 0:41

I know I saw that. How people do you understand us?

SPEAKER_02 0:51

Actually, did you know people from other countries all most people know more than one language?

SPEAKER_03 0:56

That's true, and we don't.

SPEAKER_02 0:58

Americans are kind of Do you know another language? I know Poquito Espanol. Boquito. That means small, little amount.

SPEAKER_04 1:08

Small.

SPEAKER_02 1:08

Someone will ask me, like, oh Espanyol, and I'm like, oh, poquito español. Um mucho, mucho inglés. See. Much English, I say. And they laugh at me and I say, no, I can't really help you.

SPEAKER_03 1:20

The girls, the girls upstairs, like on our floor, they try so hard. It never sticks with me though.

SPEAKER_02 1:28

When I was in um Del Rio, they all I was the only white girl in Del Rio. Okay, I was traveling for uh dialysis. Down south, and all of them are like Texas, it's Del Rio, Texas, and it was so fucking great to be there. And I met a lot of cool people. I met a lot of weird people too. Um a lot of diapers. Everybody in the dialysis clinic, they're they all spoke Spanish. And so I was like, I'm gonna be here for three months, and I'm like, I don't know how to help you. But there was like a lot of these old ladies that'll be like, no, say it like this. So like um clampa is clamp, and then or um, what is cramps? Because I know we used to put clamps on their arms when they were bleeding, so it was clampa, and then um, I believe guante is uh gloves. Oh um medicino, medicine, medicine, blood pression, blood pressure. I don't know anybody anybody who speaks Spanish, tell me if I'm doing it completely wrong. No, they they also used to call me uh gringa white white girl, yeah. White girl, gringo is white boy, or maybe I'm saying that wrong, but I know gringa is white girl because they would oh oh gringa's here this morning. I'm like hungover. I think it's why I went and partyed with y'all. Um Buenos Dias. Buenos días is good morning. Or is that hello? Buenos días. I don't know, you guys comment. I don't know, comment. I don't know. Please inform us because I'm a little rusty, it's been years.

SPEAKER_03 3:05

I know. Oh, there's Bertie. Say hi, Bertie.

SPEAKER_02 3:11

Oh, she's joining us for our podcast. Wow.

SPEAKER_03 3:15

Um, I know C and no. No. No, no.

SPEAKER_02 3:21

Um, can you count to ten? We learned that in Canada.

unknown 3:35

Yes!

SPEAKER_02 3:37

No, you missed one, you missed nine. Uno, dos, three, quant, cinco, six, siete, ocho, nueve, si. Oh, I could say whatever. Um, gracias and de nada.

SPEAKER_03 3:49

De nada. Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_02 3:50

Um, you're welcome. Ryan will be like, um, thank you, and I'm like, and you say they nada. I say gracias, you say they not. And he gets like shit with it. Because I'm talking to him like a child. Because I mean, I was a teacher for I mean, a big career teacher forever, and that's you know, yeah, we wouldn't have to get any of it.

SPEAKER_03 4:10

I'm like, I'm gonna go. Any other language but English. I think it's so cool. Um, though that we have listeners from everywhere else, and yeah, oh that's where we were going with that.

SPEAKER_02 4:19

That's where we're going with it. Yeah. Hi, welcome. Hi, we're so excited you guys are here, and um don't mind our stupid fucking questions because we're we're just a bunch of girls just hanging out, and sometimes we're just gonna say shit. And you know what I just noticed?

SPEAKER_03 4:36

My notes are on my phone and we're recording off of my phone.

SPEAKER_02 4:42

Should we take a pause? Oh my god. Yeah, you're we can pause here. All right. Let's get into it, guys. We um collected ourselves because Bo wasn't prepared. Yeah. And I would just like to brag a little and say, I was away. Um, were you though? She Oh my god, I didn't even have my mic in my hand. Is it on? It is on. Hi. Okay. Um, I'm so prepared today.

SPEAKER_03 5:14

Um I don't know what's going on. It's fine.

SPEAKER_02 5:18

Hi guys.

SPEAKER_03 5:20

We're just gonna jump into it.

SPEAKER_02 5:22

Okay. So um I wanted to start by saying we did receive our first um DM today. Yeah. Or was it yesterday?

SPEAKER_03 5:34

It was yesterday, but it it's a good, it's a good one. Yeah. Oh, uh, I need my quote of the day though. Oh yes, Bo has we're gonna start off with her quote of the day.

SPEAKER_02 5:44

And like we always do, today we don't have news for you. Yeah. There's nothing really kitchen night on the world. We all already know about how terrible everything else is going, and we don't need to talk about it here because this is just this is not big thumbs down. Um, but there's no like bank robberies. There's no bank robberies, there's no elderlies getting funky anywhere, nothing I can find, nothing cool for y'all. So um it's okay, maybe next week. We are gonna have a good episode. So we're gonna start with go ahead, Bo.

SPEAKER_03 6:20

Okay, quote of the day is learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. That's from Albert Einstein.

SPEAKER_02 6:33

Oh, I love that dude.

SPEAKER_03 6:35

Yeah, funky hair.

SPEAKER_02 6:37

Do you think he had bad breath? Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:42

What year was he in?

SPEAKER_03 6:45

Does it have a year on there? Um, no, it doesn't.

SPEAKER_02 6:49

Guys, what year is Albert Einstein like at his prime? What year was it that he was at his prime?

SPEAKER_03 7:02

It was way before us. I think before our parents, even.

SPEAKER_02 7:08

Yeah. Yeah. I mean, his photo is black and white.

SPEAKER_00 7:14

What is that word people may call us? We're so um too young. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 7:20

I don't know, guys. Anywho, okay, so we got a DM, and I want to start off by saying, thank you!

SPEAKER_03 7:28

Thank you for being open and sending it to us. Yeah. Um we it made us very giddy, and I was I was happy, I was happy to receive it.

SPEAKER_02 7:42

I'm in, I'm the I'm the holder of the Insta. She's the holder of TikTok, and so she was like, hey, check our instant. And I was like, what? And I was at work, so I was doing busy, but when I opened my phone at the end of the day, I was like, it was I was getting spammed on my Insta. Bum bum bum bum. I'm like, oh, this is good, this will be good. Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. I told you so. Look at it, and I was like, okay, so um, she says, sit down and grab your joints and wine. It's tea time. And I got coffee today, but I'll still enjoy the tea time. Her story begins like, okay, let's start this bullshit. It's 4 30 a.m. on a Friday. I wake up, I go to look at my phone. As soon as I look through my notifications, I see HM. Someone has I see HM. Maybe it's just I see someone has commented on my post from May 22nd this year, 2026. That's a little weird, right? Because like who comments on I mean, what what month are we in? June? June. So she was So it was from May 2020. I mean, May 22nd, but that's like almost a month, almost a month ago, not quite a month ago. But like, why are you talking to me? Because you don't really comment on somebody's stuff unless it's been like one to two days from they posted it.

SPEAKER_03 9:10

She definitely was stalking.

SPEAKER_02 9:12

So she goes to her Instagram to look at this what this person had decided to comment on their post at 1 a.m. Okay, she looks and it says the comments they said chopped. Chopped. Like two laughing faces. Like Okay, but what? Do you know what chopped means? Yeah, it means she said it means ugly, but I don't I mean that's like what kids say like you're chopped, like some teenage boy coming up to like a middle-aged woman. Yeah, you're chopped. That's what that sounds like.

SPEAKER_03 9:43

See, I wouldn't have even I'd been I I wouldn't have even known I would have been like I have nephews, and they say shit like that.

SPEAKER_02 9:50

So I think it's crazy that a another person like an adult, like someone who's not a child, comments on another adult's picture and says chopped. Like, I'm sorry, are you 13 and are you a boy? Like hello now. I don't think uh she says, I don't think I'm I'm an ugly person. I think I look very good, but obviously this person doesn't think the same. So now you got me fucked up. First, who the fuck are you? Second, why are you in my spam Instagram looking at my posts? Third, what the fuck? That is weird. I think everybody can agree on that. So now that you think it's cute to comment, look at pick a one for comment. Okay, so she sent us um oh yeah, so it literally says chopped. Okay. Oh now I gotta find my place again. Oh my god, I'm so old. And then on top of that, block me so I can't see who you are, and now it's my obligation to find out who you stop who stopped. Okay, so this girl blocked her. So she commented and then blocked. Blocked her so she couldn't find her. So that's a little DM her took it upon herself to try to find her because it's 1 a.m. What else are you gonna do? You just get this random comment and you're like, I'm gonna find you. Like we're FBI agents if you couldn't tell. Um yeah, if I want to find someone, I'm gonna fucking find you. Okay, so her boyfriend was awake, and so she was telling her boyfriend about it. Um, and while she was telling her boyfriend what was happening, he said, I can have my boys make an fake Instagram and we'll comment on her posts. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 11:31

What a good boyfriend!

SPEAKER_02 11:32

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 11:33

Okay, that is really cool. I love that. I think I would do that for Bo and Bo would do that for. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:38

I would make it. If you guys want us to make fake Instagrams for you, um Please do that. Come on, we'll do that for you. Okay, um, okay, so now and she said, now listen, that wouldn't make, you know, it would be funny, but it would not make two wrongs or right. But what she's going to do is have her boyfriend send me a screenshot of her Instagram and she's gonna find out who you are. Okay, so she's having her boyfriend make the Instagram account, going to her page, taking a screenshot of her page to find out who she is, and you know, this DM her, our fan, whatever, our fan.

SPEAKER_03 12:20

I love Karen.

SPEAKER_02 12:22

If um she's like, okay, let me see her, and like let me, I don't probably won't know her, but let me see. And then she goes, copy her Instagram, put it into TikTok's TikTok, and then she got clever. She went to a whole other yeah, she literally went to TikTok to find it out. Because I mean, I do the same thing. I do like if I need to find something, I put it in TikTok. Um, everybody and their mom is on TikTok, let's be honest. Literally, and their mom. Um, my mom. The first video she clicks on is flashbacks, bad flashbacks. She press prefaces. This girl is dating her ex from years ago, her psycho ass army ex. Oh girl, I know how you fucking feel. The fucking if you haven't listened to our other ones. Go back to episode. We don't we don't we don't do the military anymore. I'm sorry. Yeah, we're done. Um, stop. It's just it's for it's for the hood. I think leave it in the hood.

SPEAKER_03 13:21

I think this fan though is dating another military guy. Um but I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 13:30

We have two. I'll let Bo comment because I've dated military men and I have nothing. But Bo hasn't. I haven't. So she can have something nice to say. I don't know who this person is, but if it's going good for you, it's going good for you, Boo. I love that.

SPEAKER_03 13:42

Yeah, well, we have two of them upstairs now that are dating army men, and they seem to be happy.

SPEAKER_02 13:46

So this whole um where we live is all JBLM. Um we have a bunch of all of our neighbors are JBLM. We see them coming in home in uniform all the time, which is cool. Like I don't have hate, I don't have hate. I mean, the women are cool. I I don't hate you.

SPEAKER_03 14:03

We just we just wouldn't want to date them.

unknown 14:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 14:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 14:08

I think it's you know the first thing that pops in my head when I'm just like, whatever, men. And I'm like, that that kid from um King of the Hill, and he was like, That's my purse!

SPEAKER_01 14:18

That ain't your purse. I don't know why, okay?

SPEAKER_00 14:23

It's my one of my favorite memes.

SPEAKER_03 14:25

You know why? You know why? Because it's technically like that's my man. Yeah. Because like, I don't know how army men are now. Some of them probably are complete douchebags, but back in our day, army men were sluts.

SPEAKER_02 14:46

They're slut, they were sluts. Yeah, I don't think I've ever had one good date with an army man. So and but I mean maybe the Marines are better, who knows? Who knows? Or the Air Force, or maybe they're just anything else about army? I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 15:04

Maybe the young me wrong. Youngins nowadays had good parents. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 15:11

But if you are a good one, we love you.

SPEAKER_03 15:13

Yeah, stay good.

SPEAKER_02 15:14

Um, and things stay clean, stay clean, stay clean and protected. Literally. Okay. Okay, back to our story. So our reader, um, she sits there with tears in her eyes, you know, because her ex has a new girlfriend, and she's not laughing, she's not like sad that her ex has a new girlfriend. She's just like laughing so fucking hard at her. She's never met this girl in her life, and then sh she's telling Bo. She goes, Then I'm telling Boo Boo. Bo doesn't know I call her that about it. She deletes the comment, like, okay, girl, not to like make it any more obvious. Uh, get out of my DMs, weirdo. Like, what? This is the girl. She looks like a 13-year-old boy. That fits.

SPEAKER_03 15:59

Yeah, fits.

SPEAKER_02 16:00

You know what? We're not girl haters, but we do girl hate on girls who hate on girls.

SPEAKER_03 16:05

Uh, well, yeah. Yeah. I was gonna say I was gonna say we're not girl haters.

SPEAKER_02 16:08

No, but when you hate on other girls, we're gonna hate on you. Because be a girl's girl. That's all we can be in this fucking world of terrible people. Yeah, so I mean, take it properly.

SPEAKER_03 16:22

Thank you for that. That actually just Yeah, we love that.

SPEAKER_02 16:26

Yeah, it was pretty. I mean, that's our first time we got it's not that bad.

SPEAKER_03 16:30

Don't be afraid. We didn't say names, don't be afraid.

SPEAKER_02 16:33

Just come bring us stories. We want to hear them. So have you ever got a weird like like or like somebody stalking your page from a like a past relationship?

SPEAKER_01 16:46

Oh yeah. Oh. If you're watching, hello, welcome. Be nice.

SPEAKER_03 16:52

Um, it's more not the men, obviously. It's their woman. Yeah. Um I have one specifically that I'm like, you know what? Things happened. Your now husband, I'm sure, is hopefully good to you. It was not good to me. Um I hope you can change. But you know what? If you are gonna stock our page, please follow. Yeah. Listen, give us support if you want to be here, support us.

SPEAKER_02 17:28

Be our friends. Um, we're just here to get like chat and just giggle and fucking fuck around and give our opinions.

SPEAKER_03 17:36

Who cares? At this point in my life, I fuck around and find out.

SPEAKER_02 17:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 17:40

I don't give a shit. I mean, I only speak to half my family right now.

SPEAKER_01 17:44

Are you fucking kidding me? Come on.

SPEAKER_02 17:46

I'm like at home and I'm like, I just don't want to deal with it. You know what? I'm your family, that's all that matters. I really want to say, like, not even if they're like family or just like even friends. If I always think people are mad at me, like if they text me in a certain way, and I hate that I think they're like, Oh, it's like it's the period, it's the cave for me. But then I get it, like somebody won't message me back or they'll leave me on red, and I'm like, that's just annoying. Because I don't do that to other people, and it's not annoying. So I just stop talking to people, to be honest. I just stop if somebody wants to talk to me, they'll have a conversation. And if the conversation's ended, I don't want to take it upon myself to keep the conversation alive.

SPEAKER_03 18:27

So we have a friend that lives in Virginia, right? And I we won't talk every day, but like just on my way here, I thought about her and I was like, hey, love you, hope you're doing good. Um yeah. Yeah, she's got two kiddos. Oh you know what I'm talking about? Yeah, yeah. Um and then there's one in Idaho that I you know will check up on too. But I'm on that, I don't have to talk to you every day. I talk to I talk to Vanna every day because well, we're best friends. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:12

Um it's not Ryan, it's Bo.

SPEAKER_03 19:14

Yeah, exactly. I don't know, we just we've gotten close over the years. But um, I still have those friendships where I don't have to talk to you every day, but I still love you.

SPEAKER_02 19:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 19:28

And I'm still gonna check up on you, I'm still gonna be there if there's something wrong. Yeah. Um, literally a phone call away.

SPEAKER_02 19:34

It doesn't mean I don't like you if I don't talk to you every day. It just means like I just need space for people. Well, in life is life is busy, and it's like for me, I just have a like I just feel like I always have a lot going on and then adding in extra time for tons of other people when I'm like, honestly, we'll just talk when we talk. We don't have to like talk every single day. I think it doesn't matter.

SPEAKER_03 19:55

Like, don't like those friendships though, that where you you talk to them and all they want to talk about is themselves and their issues. And it's like like they don't talk about you, you're always reaching out to them.

SPEAKER_02 20:06

It's one thing like to give like a rundown about your day, but like also letting the other person do it as well. I think like so, like friendships and relationships, like it's really hard that if you're in a relationship and the other person all they do is trauma dump on you, do you want to be with them?

SPEAKER_03 20:22

It's the same thing as friendships.

SPEAKER_02 20:23

Same thing as friendships. Do you really want to be in a friendship that the one person all they do is trauma dump on you, but they don't check up on you? They and like maybe they think they do, but like you never know what's going on with another person. Like, obviously, they have a lot going on, and like all they can think about is them, them, them, them, them. It's not maybe they're not making it, it's not a bad thing, but maybe they could think about it, step back and be like, oh my god, I've it's been all about me. Like, I really should put somebody else first, or like I mean, I should how ask about how they're doing or do something nice for them because they've been there for me. It's the same thing as relationships.

SPEAKER_03 20:58

You have to put in a little effort for each other to make them be like sometimes it's not or always, it's not always gonna be 50-50. Yeah, but it's at least make an attempt. Yeah, that's all I gotta say.

SPEAKER_02 21:11

And that's I mean, I have I love everybody in my life, and I think taking the step back from people helps relationships, it's very healthy and it's okay. Um, I just I'm just overwhelmed with life. I feel like everybody right now is kind of overwhelmed with life, and it's been kind of nice to just relax. And the pod has been nice.

SPEAKER_03 21:29

This is why we started this.

SPEAKER_02 21:30

Yes, exactly, because like I feel like I needed a hobby, I really wanted to talk to people, but I also don't want to talk to people. Um, so this is really cool, and we get to see where everybody's from, and yeah, so if you couldn't tell this episode, we're kind of leaning into relationships, um, kind of going off of our um fan email or DM today.

SPEAKER_03 21:55

And um yeah, I have we're rolling with I asked.

SPEAKER_02 22:00

Google AI, two questions.

SPEAKER_03 22:02

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_02 22:05

AI thinks a man's biggest pet peeve is emotional immaturity and failing to communicate constructively. So AI thinks that a man thinks that if a woman can't if a woman can't be emotional mature and um communicate constructively, she is a it's like a red flag. Okay, and AI thinks a woman's biggest pet peeves are lack of basic consideration, poor communication, and disrespectful behavior.

SPEAKER_03 22:36

I could see that.

SPEAKER_02 22:38

I I'm like, okay, I can see for both, but I think it's funny that a man's is like emotional maturity and communication constructively, like communicating constructively.

SPEAKER_03 22:50

Um men, if you're listening and it's not that, please please let us know what your biggest like pet peep is in a relationship.

SPEAKER_02 22:57

Like I feel like it's just not accurate for AI. I feel like that's not an accurate answer for men.

SPEAKER_03 23:02

Because I honestly because I feel like some men just they don't know how to communicate. No, and that's not just saying I'm sorry, I love my man. A lot of men don't. I love my ma'am, but it's not that they don't. It's not okay.

SPEAKER_02 23:13

I think I kind of correct the code. I think it's not that they don't want, it's not that they don't want to. I think that they think that they are like they don't know that they're not doing it.

SPEAKER_03 23:25

Yeah, and I think they don't want to hurt feelings.

SPEAKER_02 23:27

You don't want to hurt their you, you know, it's like, oh, I might as well just not say it because if I do say it'll hurt her feelings, but it's like it still hurts our feelings. And yeah, but if you say it in the right way, if you're respectful about it, and like you don't wait weeks to say something, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 23:42

Like just be like, hey, I'm like say it this week and say it's when when it's bothering you. Yes, not when it's eating you up, not three weeks from now when something else bothers you and then you're like exploding. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 23:57

So I don't know. I really want to hear everybody's answers on that because I just feel like I don't know, my biggest pet peeves like are in a relationship lack of communication, definitely. I I feel like Ryan and I communicate extremely well. Like I mean, at you know, when we first got together, it was like a little hard because we didn't know our boundaries. We really well learning. We're still learning, but we've been together for four years now, and I'm like, we're doing great. I don't we've only had like a few like tit and tats here and there, but it's like we talk about it, we don't ever go to bed angry.

SPEAKER_03 24:29

Like that's my one thing is never go to bed angry.

SPEAKER_02 24:32

It's not something I like to do, and we've never done it. And I won't I don't I don't know, we just have a really good I got so lucky. Yeah, I got so lucky because I feel like you always hear relationships that are so toxic and going back and forth and that they're always I don't know, I never had like a relationship where I was like living with somebody going back and forth, back and forth, cheating, cheating, cheating. Like I've never done that. Like that's just not something that's not thank God I had the pleasure of doing. So I I'm I got lucky, thankfully.

SPEAKER_03 25:06

Um I think my pet peeve is like Danny and I have been together for a very long time. So I feel like sometimes he thinks a lot of the stuff that I do I can do alone that I don't ex like I don't want him to help me. Yeah. But in reality, I would love if he would help me. They just don't think about it because they don't think that they're doing anything wrong. Yeah, but I think like Danny and I did have a conversation like before we went camping, and I told him, like, I I am very independent. I'm a very independent woman. Um, I was raised like that, you know? So same, but it's nice to feel like it also like that in a relationship. Yeah, I'm not gonna go out of my way to beg you for it, but I'm also gonna look at you and be like, if you think like, do I need to do this? Or you as a man can do this. Yeah, no, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 26:01

It's see, with Ryan, like even opening a door, he'll literally shove me out of the way and open the door for me. He's like, Don't touch the fucking door, and I'm like, okay, pop off. I love that. Yeah, and or carrying in the groceries and the heavy stuff. I don't I don't have to touch any of it. Like, even setting up the chairs today, I don't have to do any of it. Like, it's nice to not have to ask for things, like he just does it.

SPEAKER_03 26:25

So a lot of people know that Danny and I have gone through a couple hardships, you know.

SPEAKER_02 26:29

That's just how you guys have been in a really long-term relationship, and I feel like a lot of relationships that are really long-term you're up and downs, and you guys are out in the harbor, and it makes it hard because you're away from family, and like you know, you're in between everybody.

SPEAKER_03 26:44

It is really hard. So I have noticed within the last probably two or three months that things have shifted in a good way, and I can say that it's just I think it took more effort. Like I thought I was putting in a lot of effort, but looking back, I'm like, I probably at that moment could have put in more and got more because now I am putting in the more, and it just seems like like slowing down, communicating, like not letting your anger like cloud my judgment.

SPEAKER_02 27:23

Cloud your judgment. That's something I've learned this year too, is don't let like the anger, like if I get something happens that day, I I really, really need to sleep on it. Like, I feel like in the moment you're so heated and angry, and then you make rash decisions, and um it's just not it's really not healthy. So I've been trying to take it the day after and like think about it again.

SPEAKER_03 27:48

I learned that I need to vocalize to him. Like my body language doesn't do anything. Yeah, it doesn't show anything, but it just makes him more like pull back more. And I think vocalizing and telling him like I don't like when you do that. Or I like I like when you help me more. I like when you carry in the groceries, or you support me and like the pot, you support me.

SPEAKER_02 28:18

I like that. Yeah, I think every female likes that, and not every female has it. And I mean, I hear about it from like you know, family members, friends, and like, you know, everybody knows kind of everybody how if you're close to somebody, you know how the relationship is, yeah, and it's completely normal to feel like that. And I I feel like some people may be like, well, just find something new if you aren't happy, but sometimes you are happy, but there's just things that could be easily like fixed, easily like communicated about, and yeah, but other times there isn't, other times you're just better off leaving, like you just have to really sleep on it, take it day by day, and like really think about how you feel in the situation.

SPEAKER_03 28:59

For me, I think I'm not one to like yes, I'll run away. I like I've done my solo trips, that was me, like I'm gonna be honest now. That was me running away from my relationship in my life at that point.

SPEAKER_02 29:14

Like reality, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 29:16

But I came back and was like, you know what, I need to really think about myself, my relationship, and also my child. Sometimes when you bring kids into that, it kids change a lot of your relationship. Oh yeah, tons. You don't realize it, but it does, it changes completely, and so you also are learning your new self, you're also learning that you both are parents. So I think it's just you just really gotta sit and actually try to understand each other, yeah. Like make it work, running away and just being like, oh, this doesn't work because you pissed me off, so we can't be together. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 29:59

And then you that but you got away, you took a break, and you came back and you're like seeing clearly. Like you're like, okay, now that the anger cloud has gone away, I'm like trying to settle, like my brain gears are turning. Okay, what if I did this?

SPEAKER_03 30:13

I do differently to help better our relationship.

SPEAKER_02 30:17

And then you guys kind of just figure it out. I mean, it's going really well, and like things are going. I think from the outside, I can see things are going really well, so that's good. Yeah. I think right now in our relationship, the biggest thing is just like money, living. So everything's so expensive.

SPEAKER_03 30:35

Everything is fucking expensive, and it's it's hard. It's hard, we don't get to go out as much, like we can't go on dates, and you know, it's just you stay home.

SPEAKER_02 30:47

But we get to spend time together at home and like we get out and do our movie marathons and stuff, which is nice. But it'd be nice to be able to go out and actually like have a whole wedding and get the big things that everybody else gets to have.

SPEAKER_03 31:02

Yeah, I think sometimes you don't want to put yourself in debt.

SPEAKER_02 31:07

Exact that's exactly yeah, I don't want to put myself in debt. If I had the money, if we had really it's just not I don't think that's really reality for anybody, especially like let's say none of y'all had your parents' help at all. Not saying that any of you do, but like obviously it's very traditional for parents to pay for somebody's wedding. But let's say no one, no one's parents paid for anybody's wedding, would you all be able to sustain paying for a wedding on your own? I want to know. Like 20 year old, 20 to 30 year olds, like I'm 25, 20, 26. Could you fully afford paying for an entire wedding?

SPEAKER_03 31:38

With the economy that we're in right now.

SPEAKER_02 31:40

Live like rent $2,000 a month, and like the venues, what five thousand dollars? Wedding venues, like for you have for more than a hundred guests, for more than a hundred guests, you have to pay more, especially if you want it later in the night, like close at 11.

SPEAKER_03 31:56

On the weekend.

SPEAKER_02 31:57

I did a lot of like I looked fucking everywhere, and everything. So I'm like, oh, this one's cheap. Oh, wait, I can only have like 30 people. Holy shit. Like, I do have family that I'd love and I would love to have there, and Ryan and all of our friends and people we've met along the way, and it's just too fucking expensive, to be honest. So I'm excited for what we're gonna get married on the beach, and it's gonna be small, it's gonna be small and beautiful, and people are gonna be there that we love. So I'm really excited. Memorable. Yeah, and I get to meet some new friends of his from like other places that they've because they moved around a lot because they're a military and whatnot. So yeah. So the military uh relationships do work, they do work. I'm I'm not hating on them military relationships. I'm hating on my military relationships, guys. Where the anger's coming from, okay? It's where it's coming from. I'm hating on the floor.

SPEAKER_03 32:50

Me too, because I had to hear it. Because I had to be the one to be like, bro, why are you still fucking with them?

SPEAKER_02 32:57

Um oh my god. So I wrote down pet peeves. Um I really wanted to say men wearing flip-flops. Am I right? Does Ryan wear flip-flops? No. He wear I let him, I'll allow him to wear crocs. He can wear crocs, but no flip-flops. Like, I can't do the flip-flops on men.

SPEAKER_03 33:23

The ones between the toes with their dogs out.

SPEAKER_02 33:27

Put them away. That's that is indecent exposure to children and women. Um, don't do that. It's disgusting. Um I don't know, birks, maybe. Like I like the clothes birks that men can wear. Like, I don't know, like slides and stuff, like where they wear socks. I don't know. I'm not a big feet person. Like, I just got into wearing sandals.

SPEAKER_03 33:50

I don't mind feet.

unknown 33:53

I don't mind.

SPEAKER_02 33:54

Kendall and I used to wear socks at the Great Wolf Lodge. When I was working there, I used to wear socks and shoes the entire time. I never took them off. I always had socks and shoes on when I worked. What? But I didn't get wet half the time. Some I mean, if I got into the pool, depending on what type of shoes I had, I would take them off. But I didn't know.

SPEAKER_03 34:14

I wear crocs. I enjoyed my feet getting wet.

SPEAKER_02 34:17

I think maybe I got crocs towards the end. I don't know. But I had to pay for everything myself, so I don't know. But yeah, no feet. No. Uh nope. No, no. I used to up until recently, I would sleep with socks in bed.

SPEAKER_03 34:29

Oh, I can't.

SPEAKER_02 34:30

Up until like up until my twenties.

SPEAKER_03 34:32

My teen my teen years, I could. Yeah. Now I can't.

SPEAKER_02 34:37

Everyone every once in a while I will wear socks. Ryan's like, why are you wearing socks? And I'm like, because I want to wear socks. Shut the fuck up.

SPEAKER_03 34:45

Do you sleep naked with socks on bed?

SPEAKER_02 34:47

I don't ever sleep naked.

SPEAKER_03 34:48

You don't sleep naked? No. You don't ever like I always have something on.

SPEAKER_02 34:58

Okay. Every once in a while I'll sleep in bed with like a shirt, like a baggy shirt and underwear, but I never sleep like actually naked. I feel like that would just be really uncomfortable. No.

SPEAKER_03 35:09

Really? Not if you have good sheets. I'm more of a free person. Danny's the same way. He can't sleep naked.

SPEAKER_02 35:19

I like I like having comfortable clothes on.

SPEAKER_03 35:22

I hate when Danny gets into bed and has socks on. And then he kicks them off in the middle of his sleep. I do, I do. And they end up like in between my legs or something. And I'm like, just fucking take them off before you get into bed. You're already gonna take them off in the middle of your sleep.

SPEAKER_00 35:40

I bet you this is how Ryan feels about. Because I do this.

SPEAKER_02 35:44

But you're already gonna take them off. Just take them off before you get into bed. I'll have like socks by the bed. And Ryan's like, why did you even put those on and just take them off? I'm like, because I'm saving them for later. Okay. And I pick them up, obviously, but God.

SPEAKER_03 35:59

No, I hate when I wake up and there's a sock in between my legs.

SPEAKER_02 36:04

It's terrible. Okay. Um, alarms going off in the middle of the night. Oh my. Bo has a story. Gosh. How do you feel about Daniel's alarms going off in the middle of the night?

SPEAKER_03 36:17

Okay. I understand setting six alarms. Okay. I have three of them my own. But when you ignore the fuck out of them, it's really fucking annoying.

SPEAKER_02 36:31

Just like l the really loud ones who's like, ah, okay.

SPEAKER_03 36:34

Oh my god, it is obnoxious. Yeah. And then you have different tones.

SPEAKER_02 36:38

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 36:38

For each alarm. For each alarm. And they just sleep. Oh, they're just fucking pass the fuck out. They don't even care.

SPEAKER_02 36:44

Like, he doesn't even Next time, next time either of them sleep through their alarms, I'm gonna start recording them. And we'll post it to the Instagram.

SPEAKER_03 36:50

You know what I do? So Danny will roll over and then scoot his ass towards me. I will put my my leg up so my knee is right next to his asshole. And then when that fucking alarm goes off. I knee him in the ass. I did it this morning.

SPEAKER_02 37:14

When good old Charlie whores.

SPEAKER_03 37:16

I fucking did. I was like, he goes, What was that for? I said, You're fucking alarm.

SPEAKER_02 37:22

Turn it off. Ryan will accidentally like leave his alarms off. Like when so he would have to wake up at um, I don't know, sometimes he'd have him off at like 5 a.m. And then like during the weekend would go off. I'm like, are you for real right now? Are you trying to make me angry? Really? I'm gonna I'm literally so pissed off. And now um he's been working graveyard, so he his alarms were set for like 11:30. And so I'm like up during the weekends doing whatever, and then his alarm just going off while I'm in the kitchen. And I'm like, oh he'll turn it off, keeps going, keeps going, keeps going, keeps going. I'm like, are you fucking for real? I can hear it's I it's so loud I can't even hear the TV in the living room. Really? I'm like turning loud, but it's so loud. He has it at full volume, and he's he's snoring, sleeping through it. And I go in there like, bruh.

SPEAKER_03 38:15

What time does he actually get up though if you're not home?

SPEAKER_02 38:18

Sometime uh he missed his physical therapy appointment one Friday. He slept in and I kept texting him, texting. I was at work, I couldn't call him, so I had to wait till my break, and I was texting, texting, texting. I'm like, he's gonna miss his physical therapy appointment. And I called him and he's like, Oh, I missed my physical therapy appointment. And I'm like, Yeah. Bro, you had so many alarms set. Like, I don't know how you I he snoozes them without consciously being awake.

SPEAKER_03 38:43

Yeah, I do that sometimes.

SPEAKER_02 38:44

So I don't ever I mean every once in a while if I'm really really.

SPEAKER_03 38:48

That was me yesterday. I uh accident well, I didn't accidentally because I did put it in my mouth and chewed it.

SPEAKER_00 38:56

Or what did you put in your mouth and chew that early in the morning? No, it was Thursday night.

SPEAKER_03 39:07

I took a melatonin. Because I forgot that I had to work the next.

SPEAKER_00 39:14

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_03 39:15

This is why I can't have Wednesdays off.

SPEAKER_00 39:17

Fridays are on the schedule.

SPEAKER_03 39:20

Fridays are supposed to be my days off, but this month I have Wednesdays off. And so Thursday night I took a melatonin.

SPEAKER_01 39:28

These shorts are like weekly.

SPEAKER_03 39:29

And then I went to bed. I'm laying in bed and I'm like, fuck. I gotta work tomorrow.

SPEAKER_02 39:39

I mean, I can take two melatonin and be up in the morning, just depending on what time I take it.

SPEAKER_03 39:44

Nope.

SPEAKER_02 39:45

I don't I have insomnia, I can't sleep through all the night. So two melatonin will help me sleep throughout the entire night, and I can wake up in the morning. It's it's so nice. That's why um the melatonin worked for a while and I stopped taking it, and so that's why I like to smoke before bed, and I can actually have a good night's sleep and my bones can relax.

SPEAKER_03 40:03

And I told her the other night I'm like, I've been waking up in the middle of the night at like one. I don't know why I'm laying down, the sun's still up. That's what's hard about that's what's hard about adulting during summer. Because it gets dark later.

SPEAKER_02 40:22

Yeah. Yeah, I mean I I think that was like a one, it wasn't very good. That wasn't great. Um I think it's kind of nice, but it is harder to go to sleep. I mean, it's like light until like 9 30 up here.

SPEAKER_03 40:35

Yeah, and it's but it's I mean, yeah, it's nice, but not when you don't go to bed at nine.

SPEAKER_02 40:41

You need like blackout sheets. I mean blackout.

SPEAKER_03 40:44

I do. I just don't close them all the way, I guess. I need some.

SPEAKER_01 40:49

Those little bugs are everywhere on the things are so gross. Oh yeah. I don't know what they are. Okay. Okay, next.

SPEAKER_02 40:55

I wrote down what are your biggest red flags?

SPEAKER_03 41:00

Uh, let's see. Um, not paying for the first date.

SPEAKER_02 41:05

Definitely not paying for the first date is a really good one. Um, we even have our red flags game. Um, I bought this a while ago and we just haven't ever played it, ever. So let's see what we got. Okay. Oh my god. Is this a red flag, guys? Never stops playing the ukulele. I have a ukulele. Do you still have yours from our TV?

SPEAKER_03 41:32

Probably in a box, but if they're playing the fucking ukulele, I'm out. Really? That's a red flag.

SPEAKER_02 41:38

I think that's kind of cute. I learned um That's cute for you. Some wow really rainbow. Yeah, but I think I learned that one, or maybe it was my only sunshine one. I can't remember.

SPEAKER_03 41:51

I I couldn't stand it. If they were constant like if it was something to impress me, okay. That's that's great. But to continue to do it, no. No, no. Yes. Says, can you not while you cry at a funeral? I'd be like, can you not?

SPEAKER_02 42:11

Can you not cry right now? How embarrassing. Like, be a G. Is that a red flag? No. Some people do you that is a red flag. Like, why would you look over and be like, can you not cry?

SPEAKER_03 42:23

Like, can you stop? I feel like Mimi would do that. Probably. She'd be like, You're making me uncomfortable. Stop.

SPEAKER_02 42:33

Refuses to cover face while sneezing. Red flag. It's not a red flag. Not covering your face while sneezing?

SPEAKER_01 42:42

No, I just fucking sneeze. Literally. No! Cover with your elbow or your shirt or something. No. You're giving your germ over one of you. You need a hanky. I'm not.

SPEAKER_02 42:56

Somebody get Bo hanky.

SPEAKER_03 42:58

I'm not sneezing on the jerk.

SPEAKER_00 43:02

Oh my gosh. Okay. That was probably the best person's other card.

SPEAKER_03 43:10

Owes the government $1 million.

SPEAKER_02 43:14

I probably owe the government. No, I don't.

SPEAKER_03 43:16

But why do you owe like if like taxes or whatever? Yeah, it depends what why they're.

SPEAKER_02 43:20

In this economy, I don't give a shit. Whatever. Keep it to yourself. Well, I mean, maybe because I mean our future depends on like how much you fucking owe the government. So I guess that's kind of a red flag. Yeah, because if you I mean if you're marrying them, if it's a one-night stand, who gives a shit? You guys aren't merging your income taxes. Like you're not merging your money.

SPEAKER_03 43:38

Some one night stands go for ten years.

SPEAKER_02 43:41

That's true. But if you plan on marrying them, I wouldn't marry them if they owe the government that much money.

SPEAKER_03 43:47

Yeah, okay. That's probably somewhat of a red flag. But oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 43:51

Calls you a four to your face.

SPEAKER_03 43:53

A what? A four?

SPEAKER_02 43:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 43:55

That's a red flag. Obviously, he doesn't like you that way. If you're not telling me that I'm cute Yeah.

unknown 44:01

Fuck off.

SPEAKER_02 44:01

11 out of 10, then fuck off.

SPEAKER_03 44:03

Fuck off. Hey, my hand?

SPEAKER_02 44:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 44:08

So I'm trying to get through my coffee and it's not working.

SPEAKER_02 44:12

Oh no.

SPEAKER_03 44:14

Compulsively lick doorknobs. It's so gross.

SPEAKER_02 44:19

Is that equal to a window licker?

SPEAKER_03 44:21

Probably.

unknown 44:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 44:23

Yeah, that is a red flag. They probably read a little bit.

SPEAKER_02 44:25

They really like the taste of iron.

SPEAKER_03 44:27

They should probably get their stuff checked.

SPEAKER_02 44:30

Maybe if they're good at looking at doorknob, then might be looking somewhere else.

SPEAKER_01 44:38

Is this a red flag? Uh-oh. They're still in fourth grade.

SPEAKER_00 44:45

Like mentality? I says still in fourth grade. I guess that's a red flag, or maybe you should be going to prison. If you I don't know, what if a little boy came up to you and he was in fourth grade and he's like, hey, mama?

SPEAKER_01 45:04

And you're like laugh. You'd be like, Are you fucking kidding me? I would love.

SPEAKER_03 45:09

Where's your mom? Yeah, where's your mother? Where's your father? He might be cute. Oh my gosh.

unknown 45:19

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 45:20

As long as you date them, you can only eat food off the dollar menu.

SPEAKER_02 45:26

From where?

SPEAKER_03 45:29

Well, like, Danny, if we go to McDonald's, we'll do the one-for-one or whatever, where it's like oh, so he only orders off the dollar menu for you.

SPEAKER_02 45:39

You just pulled that red flag though.

SPEAKER_03 45:42

I mean, like. Stop it. I'll be like, I only want a McChicken. And he's like, okay, two McChickens, four McDouffles.

SPEAKER_00 45:55

Oh my goddamn.

SPEAKER_03 45:57

Well, he eats a lot.

SPEAKER_00 45:58

Yeah, he's like seven foot tall.

SPEAKER_03 46:00

Yeah. 6'3, but yeah. And big feet.

SPEAKER_02 46:03

Why doesn't he be a clown for Halloween? He's perfect for it.

SPEAKER_03 46:07

Because he's a clown every day.

SPEAKER_02 46:08

He'd probably get invited to the circus.

SPEAKER_03 46:13

We should see what the um requirements are. Not the requirements.

SPEAKER_01 46:18

Oh, it's press.

SPEAKER_00 46:34

You're welcome, Lucas. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_03 46:37

Um no, I was thinking of what the world's biggest feet are. I think there's ones that are like twenties.

SPEAKER_02 46:46

I think there's some big fellows out there with big feet. I wonder how big their other stuff is, you know?

SPEAKER_03 46:58

Not tattoo.

SPEAKER_02 46:59

Big shoes, you know what that means. Big socks.

SPEAKER_03 47:07

Alright, your turn.

SPEAKER_00 47:09

Okay. Um oh my gosh. There was this really funny TikTok. Um, and it's where is it?

SPEAKER_03 47:25

Oh my god, I saw one this morning too, and I saved it on my phone. Oh yes. Okay. Wait, I sent that to you.

SPEAKER_00 47:33

Did you? Okay, we can do it. So we saw this TikTok and we thought it was so funny.

SPEAKER_02 47:37

Oh, yeah, let's do it. Okay. We're gonna say you shaved your bush in six six different accents.

SPEAKER_03 47:45

I can't do that.

SPEAKER_02 47:46

What?

SPEAKER_03 47:48

You can't do the accents? No.

SPEAKER_02 47:50

Give it your best shot. No, you have to give it a second.

SPEAKER_03 47:52

I can do the I can do the different these girls. If they can do it, we can do it. Are you kidding me? Mine was the um angry supportive. I like that one better.

SPEAKER_00 48:04

Flourny. I think this one's gonna be good. We have to give it our best shot.

SPEAKER_03 48:07

No, you you're the improv.

SPEAKER_00 48:11

This is why this is so cool. But you have to do it with me for the pod. For the pod, you're gonna try your best shot. I'll do the other one with you, but you have to do this one with me. I'm so uncomfortable. Okay.

unknown 48:26

You shape your butt.

SPEAKER_04 48:30

I can't believe that you shaved your bush.

unknown 48:34

You shaved your bush. Well, you shaved your bush.

SPEAKER_00 48:40

So we can just you can pick ones to do. You don't have to do all of them. I I what the bottom is about, though. Okay, you have to say you shaved your bush in one of these languages. Or try it.

SPEAKER_02 48:55

Accents. I'll do southern.

SPEAKER_01 48:57

You shaved your bush? That's not southern. You shaved your bush. It's not southern. Yow? No. Y'all, you shaved your bush.

SPEAKER_03 49:10

Wait, let's see if I can do it. You shaved your bush. British? Yeah. That was no, that was not bad. It wasn't bad.

SPEAKER_02 49:19

You shaved your bush. I don't know. That didn't sound very good. How about uh I don't know if I can do it.

SPEAKER_01 49:26

Maybe a new vampire. You shaved your bush. No, that was really bad.

SPEAKER_02 49:31

Hey, my doctor messaged me.

SPEAKER_01 49:35

You have a new message. A vampire?

SPEAKER_00 49:38

You shaved your bush. You saved your bush. I want to suck your blood. I don't know if I want the one that you sent me.

SPEAKER_03 49:53

Yeah, I sent them to you. This morning there was a couple. I sent you a lot this morning. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_00 50:04

I don't think you sent me any of them. I did.

SPEAKER_03 50:10

Wait, what was that one? Oh yeah. Oh, these are the same people.

SPEAKER_00 50:16

Yeah, this is gonna be You wanna do this one? Are you kidding me?

SPEAKER_03 50:26

Well it was I shaved my bush, angry, disappointed, excited, and flirty.

SPEAKER_00 50:30

But we can do the same we yeah, isn't that the yeah, that's what it is. Oh you said I shave my bus oh yeah. But we can do that I you we can do that one. Okay, you go first.

SPEAKER_03 50:42

Okay, ready? I shut my pants.

SPEAKER_00 50:49

I hope these people's windows are open.

SPEAKER_04 50:55

Oh I just okay, disappointed.

SPEAKER_01 51:03

Disappointed. Okay, ready? I shit my pants.

SPEAKER_00 51:13

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_02 51:17

I just shit my pants. It's like SpongeBob. Today I rip my pants or split my pants. Which one is it, guys? Okay, excited, excited.

SPEAKER_01 51:30

I just shit my pants. I just shit my pants.

SPEAKER_02 51:43

Okay, flirty.

SPEAKER_03 51:45

Okay, ready?

SPEAKER_02 51:50

I just shit my pants. Wow, that's ho hot. Say that to your partner, guys.

SPEAKER_01 51:59

I just shit my pants. Alright, guys.

SPEAKER_00 52:05

Which one's good? Which one is it? Okay. I say that one. I thought that was a really good one.

SPEAKER_03 52:12

Oh, that was a good one. Yeah, okay.

SPEAKER_02 52:14

Um, so yeah, the red flag ones are pretty good. I uh we also have this Oregon that I have. Um it's called Let's Get Deep.

SPEAKER_03 52:25

These are deep questions that we're gonna get deep. I like deep. Since we don't have too many of them.

SPEAKER_02 52:32

That was funny.

SPEAKER_03 52:33

You're supposed to laugh.

SPEAKER_02 52:34

Oh, what'd you say? Let's get deep. You like to get deep?

SPEAKER_03 52:36

I like to get deep. Yeah, same. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 52:38

Well, we can.

SPEAKER_03 52:39

Okay. In the tent.

SPEAKER_02 52:45

You don't know what happened in the tent. You weren't there.

SPEAKER_03 52:48

Do you even know what happened in the tent?

SPEAKER_02 52:54

I was there. I was having a great time. Okay. Okay. Continue. What's something your partner does that adds equality and or balance to the relationship?

SPEAKER_03 53:05

Oh, helps me with Tucker. Yeah. Yeah. Taking half the responsibility, half the work. Yeah. Like he uh does drop off and pick up every morning for school, so I can like keep my for talents, which is nice.

SPEAKER_02 53:25

Ryan cooks dinner and um so he does the dinner, the trash, and the cat box, and I do the laundry, the dishes, and the vacuuming. And then sometimes we alternate, which is nice. So like I really don't ever have I don't think I've I think I've taken the trash out twice since we've been here.

SPEAKER_03 53:44

I can I can see that. I don't take the trash out. Danny takes the trash out, so that's a good thing. He always like, I'll go, oh the trash is getting heavy, I can take it out. And no, I'll do it. Yeah, it's a good one. It's a good thing. Um, are these mine? Yeah. Um, in what ways are you similar to your father? I have my father's eyebrows. And that my facial ex-like I can't hide my facial expressions, and I get that a lot from my father.

SPEAKER_02 54:19

Um, I have my dad's nose, because we're Norwegian, so we all have the same nose. Um, and I have his anger issues, which I'm working on.

SPEAKER_00 54:29

So that's what I got.

SPEAKER_02 54:33

Um between you and your spouse, who makes more of the decisions? I do. I think me and Ryan is pretty equal. We don't really make decisions unless we discuss it first.

SPEAKER_03 54:47

Yeah, well, I can see that.

SPEAKER_02 54:49

Um as for Tucker though, I think you make the most of the decisions.

SPEAKER_03 54:52

Yeah, when it comes when it comes to Tuck, but I also make sure that before I like officially say the decision, that Danny's on board with it.

SPEAKER_02 55:02

Yeah, and like who start like initiates the decision, I guess like the topic would be me too. I mean, depending on what it is, yeah, me too.

SPEAKER_03 55:08

Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 55:10

I just rephrased it because it'll it's you know.

SPEAKER_03 55:13

Oh yeah. Um, what is something that you've always wanted to do but never had the guts to?

SPEAKER_02 55:22

Oh, this is something I wanted to talk to a talk about today. Um, I guess it's not really about a relationship, but it's a really good question. Um, I've been watching a lot of like America America's Got Talent and the Voice. And I was like, I kind of want to audition for the voice. Loki. Well, Loki kind of want to submit a video. I mean, I did it. I mean, I did American Idol. I literally went all the way there and auditioned in front of the panel and did it. And yeah, I think I know what kind of music I like now, now that I'm older, and I don't know, I'd probably kill it. I think you could. I was thinking about um Christina Aguilera from Burlesque. I love the tough lover song.

SPEAKER_03 56:03

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 56:04

Um, that one's really good. She also has a few other songs I like.

SPEAKER_03 56:08

I know I'm a good singer, and I love to sing, but I could never do I could never do singing.

SPEAKER_00 56:12

In front of people that's so scary. It was really scary to me in front of everybody.

SPEAKER_03 56:16

I'm the in the car while I'm working kind of singer. I'm not an audition for show kind of singer.

SPEAKER_02 56:23

Oh, I put on a show in the car, sometimes in the shower. I really like to sing. But like when Ryan's in the car and I'm driving, or I always play my music, and I'm like, you you don't have the music to like sing to, and I really would like to like odd like help for you, so yeah. Because her song is just loud as shit. Oh, or like Carrie Underwood, obviously big songs, yeah. I like that. Okay. What's something that you do regularly? Ugh, that's a long word, to nurture positive feelings within your relationship.

SPEAKER_03 57:00

I'm very touchy.

SPEAKER_02 57:02

Like your love language, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 57:04

My love language is touch, and there are some times though that I'll probably get like a little too clingy and I'll apologize at the moment, but Danny always says it's fine.

SPEAKER_02 57:13

So that's what Ryan's.

SPEAKER_03 57:15

And he'll even like vocal, like, I like that you're being like, don't be sorry.

SPEAKER_02 57:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 57:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 57:20

Yeah. I think Ryan and I, I think that's the same for us. We're very when we're because obviously, like, I'm moody sometimes because I have a lot of stuff going on, but he makes me feel better because he if I have a bad day and I come home and I instantly forget about it because he's like giving me hugs and I just want to feel comforted, and it's really nice. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 57:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 57:38

That's good.

SPEAKER_03 57:41

Um when's when was the last time you cried? What kind of cry?

SPEAKER_02 57:52

Is it like like a real deep cry?

SPEAKER_03 57:55

Like a real deep, like get it all out kind of cry?

SPEAKER_02 57:59

Um, probably like last month, maybe. I just have times like where, you know, because my grams is gone.

SPEAKER_03 58:09

I feel like that's like the big thing in my life where it's like there's a lot of things happening, and you just happening and I can't talk to her, and like that makes it really, really difficult.

SPEAKER_02 58:19

And so I'm not like it's been a few years now, so it's not like fresh or anything, but it in moments of life where I'm like, I have no one to fucking like really confide in like her, it really it it's really hard. Like, yeah, I have Ryan, but it it's somebody like family. I'm like, I want a piece of family that I like feels like home and like she she knew everything about me, so it's really hard. So I think that was like the last time it was like last month.

SPEAKER_03 58:49

Um my good cry, I think, was a couple months ago, and it was like a lot of things were happening in life, and so I just took a drive and sang and literally like cried.

SPEAKER_02 59:05

Had a good cry. That's why I like to cry in my car too.

SPEAKER_03 59:07

Yeah, on my drives, yeah, and I drive a lot.

SPEAKER_02 59:13

Describe a time when you're being defensive and not open-minded.

SPEAKER_03 59:21

I think um a little bit of when I was doing a lot of support for my brother, trying to get him sober and get him the help he needed. I think there was a time where I didn't really think about how Danny felt with the whole situation. I kind of was just mainly in the fields of like my brother's family. My family, my family, my family. Yeah, and why can't you just support me in that? Um so I think that's when when it comes to my brother, I do get a very different sense of um, but it's more in a way of like I know when I can I don't know. I think I just my brother is a situation that like don't cross me in, yeah, basically.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:14

I mean I feel like that with my siblings too sometimes.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:17

I think um like I might be the youngest, but I'm still not I want to say more mature. I mean, yes, but I also like I have more of my head on my shoulders and more stable. And so when it comes to people like I don't really sympathize for other people and how they feel about him, basically.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:46

Yeah. Because it's like you have no opinion there, honestly. Doesn't matter, yeah. Like it's not anybody else's thing. Yeah, yeah, I understand. I feel like if I wasn't put in that situation with like a sibling, like that I'm close with, I'd feel the same exact way. Like you don't get a you don't get to have any input, but you also have a family too.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:06

Yeah, and I also like put it in a way as like what if this was your sibling? What if this was what was going on? And like I would not fault you uh like I shouldn't be put at fault for wanting to protect my brother and make sure that he you know gets what he needs. So if I can like put yourself in my shoes at that point, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:35

I think some people don't think about that, they're like immediately no no no, but like you have to put you have to like think about it the other way around and really understanding.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:43

Like, what if it was you and what if it was your family member, you know? Yeah, definitely. Who look at us getting deep? Um, is it easy or difficult for you to get aroused? Hmm. I have to be in the mood.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:02

I have to be in the mood, but when I mean when I'm around Ryan, he makes me feel in the mood a lot of the time. So it's it's nice. I I don't I don't think it's easy, but I don't think it's difficult. I just feel like right time and place.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:16

Yeah, exactly. It has to be the right time. But there are times where I'm like, okay, that was really hot. Yeah. Like, why are we not home?

SPEAKER_02 1:02:24

It's nice to be in our own apartment and like, yeah. Yeah. Um, what is one of your current most major concerns, or what are you most worried about in this moment? What are you most worried about at the moment?

SPEAKER_03 1:02:43

Um I think my the way I have been portrayed somewhat at work and um feeling maybe like I have people that question on how I do my job.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:08

I think some people forget like what like being passionate about work looks like. Not everybody's just here to be like telling you what to do or anything like that, but I feel like some people need to look at it and be like, oh, maybe I'm like coming at this the wrong way. Like I get I get that we all want to make each other better, but there's a way to do it. There's a way to do it, and you shouldn't come at people like um very condescending or anything like that, and maybe you may not think that, but you really I mean, like I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:43

I think my worry my worry right now is just like if I'm doing my job right to actually make an impact. Like it's not about why I started my job.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:54

Yeah, it may obviously make job so much better to have like everybody get along with everybody, but it's like you're working at this job because you love what you do. You're not working at the job because the people there you didn't get hired knowing who you were all gonna work with. Like they didn't introduce you, you didn't go around being like, this is this, this is this, this is this, da da da da da da da. You met with your manager, you met who with the hiring manager, you get hired because you really wanted to be here and have the job. That's what we have in common with everybody. At least we should have something in common.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:22

It's not like I'm questioning my job, that's not it.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:24

It's more of just like I'm questioning on if people know that, like people know that that you're there for their job, or like questioning, yeah, just questioning you basically like your abilities, like you've done this a really long time.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:40

Like to know how to do my job.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:42

You guys have all gone to school, and yeah, I feel like some people just because they're older, maybe, or well, I've had more life experience than you, it doesn't matter. I feel like we have leaders right now in America who are fucking old as shit and they are bag of dirt. So I mean, yeah, think about it, guys. That's my word. No one's better than anyone, really, truly.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:04

We're exactly like we're all equal.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:06

We're doing the same fucking shit. I mean, I was a medical assistant at dialysis for a really long time, and yeah, I don't sit here thinking I'm better than anyone at all. I don't even do it anymore. So it's like me either.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:18

And also, like, I know I know I'm not like the best out there for sure.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:26

There's someone that is even better, but I think some people just forget like how to be a team, be a team and be approachable and like well open-minded, and yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:38

Yeah, anyways, that's my worry.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:40

Um mine honestly is just like money, like money and family, like you know. We both have been really good at thinking about it. And it's like oh, everything's so expensive. Yeah. So that's been on my mind. I'm like, I'm Almost 26. Like, this should be on my mind. It's okay for me to be thinking about it. And I feel like, oh my God, I'm way too young. No, no, wait. I am young, but like I feel like I don't want to wait. I don't want to wait until I'm in my 30s to start having kids, which is not a bad thing. I just prefer not to be an older parent. I really don't want to be. Um, it's your turn.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:22

Oh, it is right. What does it take for you to trust someone?

SPEAKER_02 1:06:33

Trust is like a big one too. I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:38

I trust is everything to me.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:41

I think that if you're consistently there for me and you're showing me that you you actually want to be there for me, yeah. Um and you know, like not putting anybody to the test or anything, but there, you know, there's things that you tell somebody and you're like, I really hope they keep that between me and you. Even if like maybe you say the two friends aren't let's say I told somebody something and we're not friends anymore. I I would still secrets I would still keep what you've told me private and like not out you because I'm a trustworthy person.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:12

I think some things obviously slip the tongue and you can't always always come down and be like, is though is like if I'm telling you something, I'm telling you because I'm hoping that you will keep that between you and I and not run with it and open it.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:32

Spread murmur and like start, yeah. Yeah, like guys, it's okay. Like, don't be weird about it. Yeah. Okay, let's make this the last one because I think you had some notes on your phone too. Oh yeah. When is it most important for you to hear? I love you. When is it? Like the most important when I'm in a mood. Yeah. I think um any like major life event, anything, and then um I always like to hear it in the morning and at night, like Yeah, right before bed. Yeah, just a reminder every day, like that I care about you. I feel like it would be weird if I didn't hear it every day. If like you didn't tell me you loved me the entire day, I would be like, What the fuck? Do you still love me? Like, are we okay? Um, I mean, I ask Ryan that all the time. Do you still love me?

SPEAKER_03 1:08:27

And he's like, Why are you asking that?

SPEAKER_02 1:08:29

Shut the fuck up. And I'm like, he's like, Yeah, of course I do.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:32

And I'm like, okay, I just wanted to hear it. I think Danny was like that last last night. I was like laying there and he was watching his baby. I looked up and I said, I love you. And he goes, I love you too. I said, Promise, and he goes, Why wouldn't I?

SPEAKER_02 1:08:46

I'm like, Would you like would you would you still love me if I was a worm? And he's like, Oh my god. Yeah, I would keep you in a little tiny box. And I'm like, You would put me away? You wouldn't even like showcase me? That's so fucking rude.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:59

You wouldn't put a put a hole so I can breathe?

SPEAKER_02 1:09:01

Yeah, like wow. You'd kill me? Seriously. You didn't even think about it. He was like, Yeah. It's murder.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:07

Please put me in a jar. Murr.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:09

Okay, that's your turn. I mean, it's your notes' turn.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:12

Oh yeah. Um, you gotta Why is it so long?

SPEAKER_01 1:09:22

I have a long password. I was my old lunch number from elementary school.

SPEAKER_04 1:09:29

You remember that?

SPEAKER_02 1:09:30

Yeah. I also remember my old passcode for dialysis. So that's also something I remember. Long number.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:39

Because I'm use I use it every day. Yeah. I guess I could say that, but Is this fine? This is fine. Um you know what I saw? I saw a video the other day, and it was um these two best friends, and it was like a picture of them like dancing, having a good time, and it said, I will clap so loudly that she will never even notice who doesn't. And I was like, Oh my god. That's Savannah and I. Yeah, seriously. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:15

I feel like we always try to be there for another one another, and like I'm really close with your family, and I love being able to be there for your your family, and yeah, it's nice.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:25

Yeah. Um let's see. Oh, we found out what teens call Mel Karen. Oh, yes, we did. Thank you, Mimi, and her friends. Um, anyone have a guess?

SPEAKER_02 1:10:42

I said Chad, but it apparently is not Chad. No, it's Ken. It is Ken. Yeah. Interesting. Oh, I I for I thought you said Kyle. No. Ken. I guess that's correct.

SPEAKER_01 1:10:59

What I'm just Ken. From Barbie. Oh, anywhere else Pedro Ten. Oh my god. That won like an award.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:09

Have you seen the new Barbie movie? I think it's not new, new anymore. The one with Kenan with um Zach Effect. Ryan Reynolds and not Ryan Reynolds. Is it Zach Ephraim?

SPEAKER_02 1:11:20

Not Ryan Reynolds.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:21

I think it's Zach Ephron.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:22

Another Barbie movie?

SPEAKER_03 1:11:24

Well, was it like a year ago?

SPEAKER_02 1:11:26

That's with um Ryan Gosling and the blonde who play Barbie. That's some that's where the time just kidding.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:34

Oh comes out. I never saw that. I didn't know.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:36

It's actually really good. I cried.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:41

Um some uh youngins at work are saying baddie. Yeah, I mean like she's a baddie. She's a baddie. She's a baddie.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:54

I baddie yaddy yadi yaddy yadi. Baddie. But we don't say that about people because we're too old. I was gonna say, like, I don't sit here in my lawn chair going, oh she's a baddie. You know what I mean? Like, where am I gonna say ooh, she's a baddie? Yeah. At the mall. Oh, I'm like to Ryan. Ooh, she's a baddie, Ryan. Like, I just go, ooh, okay. I see you. So if I see someone really pretty, I'll be like, Ryan, she's actually like really pretty. I really like her hair. Oh my god. And he's like, oh yeah, that her she has really nice hair. And I'm like, You weren't supposed to say anything. I was just talking to you.

SPEAKER_03 1:12:29

I always go, honey, do you think her boobs are real?

SPEAKER_00 1:12:34

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_03 1:12:36

I do not. I'm like, I think she's got butt implants.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:40

Oh my fucking god.

SPEAKER_03 1:12:42

You know, when we went to Vegas, I um we went to go to Coyote Ugly, and I told Danny I was like, This is the one time I'm gonna let you sit there and watch these women because these women are fucking badasses.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:57

We went to that one restaurant in Vegas where they put those paper bags on your head. Uh is it like dick's or something? Something like that. Where and I got what did you get? Oh my god. Um, my mouth is like an LAX or something like that. Uh, where's my phone? Oh I have a picture. I have a picture of mine, Kendall's, my dad's, and I think Cole and Cole's and Seth, I think. Um it was really fucking embarrassing, guys. Like uh, and the waiter thought um I was with my dad. He's like, wow, you bagged her, and I'm like, that's my dad. He goes, Oh, I'm gonna leave. And I'm like, Yeah, that's fucking awkward as fuck. What year was that? Was that when you that was on my way to Del Rio or on my way home from Del Rio, I think.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:50

I think that was on your way. Because you guys went through Yeah, that was on your way because you went through like Nevada and all that.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:03

I really hope I have everybody else's and not just mine. Okay, Kennel's got um, we're gonna have to take that name out. Okay, she got it's only Razorburn, not herpes. I got if Dix oh my god, that's if Dix had wings, my mouth would be an L E X. Oh my god. Um he C got I did all the ass stunts and broke back mountain. Well, that's a better picture. I'll show everybody. Hottie right there. Batty, body. Um, and my dad said, It's so small, I pee on my balls.

SPEAKER_00 1:14:59

I'm like, oh my god, why did we go into this restaurant today?

SPEAKER_03 1:15:04

Danny stood on the um, you know, down in Fremont they have the scale you can stand on and yeah, he stood on that. Um, and then someone else went after him and I was like, I think she's bigger than me.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:20

Oh no. Like, he's tall too.

SPEAKER_03 1:15:23

He's tall, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:25

Oh my god, there's something in my eye.

SPEAKER_03 1:15:28

Okay, did you have another one? I don't know. I don't remember what I wrote down. My notes are so scrambled, it's not even funny.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:35

Um, but yeah, so we went there and had that. And it was just so fucking awkward because that guy was like I have large breasts, breasts, and um everybody likes to tell me about it, especially the waiters at that restaurant would not be yeah, like kept talk commenting about my chest, and I'm like, oh my fucking god.

SPEAKER_03 1:15:56

See, I know I'm big chested, but I never really have anyone comment on them. Yeah, I just I comment on them, like I make I'm gonna be.

SPEAKER_02 1:16:05

I always get comments. I get comments from men and women. I got comments from the the girls wearing like the feathered fucking outfits outside.

SPEAKER_01 1:16:12

They're like, wow, and I'm like, oh my god, I'm with my dad.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:16

Like, please stop.

SPEAKER_01 1:16:18

Yes, they are real. Thank you. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 1:16:20

Leave me alone. Yeah, someone was like, you should be working out here, and I was like, mm-mm, no, it's too hot.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:28

Um because we already talked. Oh. Nudes.

SPEAKER_02 1:16:46

Nudes.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:47

Yeah. How do you feel about them?

SPEAKER_02 1:16:50

I mean, every once in a while. Not all the time, not like like not like when we were young, you know. When it was popular.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:58

Yeah, I didn't really take much when I was young. I really I don't really do it now though either.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:04

I was I was having fun with it and when I was young. I mean I probably did, but not like full on crazy ones or anything, but yeah, for real.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:14

Um I think more of my question was if a male asked you for one, would you do it right then and there, or would you send an old one?

SPEAKER_02 1:17:26

Um, if it was just somebody that I let's say I wasn't in a relationship and it was like a few years ago, I'd send an old one. Yeah. Unless I really like the person and I've been talking to them and like it was like we would had a thing going, I'd probably send a new one. But it was if it was like something short I wasn't really sure about, I would send an old one that was like cute.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:47

I feel that.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:48

I'm not getting glamorous for anybody. No, no.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:51

Not anymore, anyways. Nah.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:54

Ryan gets lucky every once in a while.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:58

Um, I think it was like a month and a half ago. Um I sent Danny one with uh with me and lingerie, and he went, What was that for? I'm like, okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:15

Ryan uh never mind. Ryan's bought me a few, and so I have like a few sets, and every once in a while I like just a little bit switching it up, switching it up, and I'm like, ladies, I ain't gonna keep this.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:28

Give your man a supply.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:30

I really want to do the like board was shoot.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:32

Yeah, me too.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:34

Yeah, so that would be fun. Um, if anyone's ever done that, let us know um who you guys went to because that would be super cool.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:41

Give us perks.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:41

I think I have a lady that might be expensive.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:44

I might have one in mind.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:47

All right, well I think that's it, y'all. I think that's it for today. I did want to mention we are now on YouTube. Now that we're video recording, thanks, Ryan. You're the best editor there is. He made our YouTube. And now that we're video recording, everything will be uploaded to there. Um, probably starting every like Monday or Tuesday, we'll upload the videos just because they take time. They take time, and we gotta we're we're so new to this, so um expect to hear this on Sunday night or early Monday morning on your way to work or getting ready to go to work.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:24

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:25

Um, this has been very fun.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:27

And yeah, we got deep this time.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:29

Yeah, I think it's getting a little that's the whole point of this podcast.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:32

And again, rate it R.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:35

Rate it R. Right R.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:36

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SPEAKER_02 1:19:38

We're easing into it. I know we haven't been all crazy, but like we do have um quite a following now with a bunch of people. And welcome. We really just want to get down to get dirty.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:51

I need I need some confessions.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:53

I really we really do. Like, if you guys don't live, if you guys don't live in Washington State or if you guys live in another country, send us something. Yeah, send us something. If you want to hear it, let's get dirty. Oh my god, I think I need to know like different things. Like, we're I feel like I'm kind of sheltered here and like we're gonna have some culture shops. Yes, bring us some juicy deeds, guys. All right, until next time. This is Girls After Dark.