Car Cast #4: Keeping It Fresh: Why We Skip the TMI Moments

In this episode, we chat about the boundaries we keep—like certain private moments—to keep our connection strong. We also dive into social media and how liking certain posts can impact trust. Plus, we get real about whether being best friends with someone of the opposite sex works in a relationship. It’s all about respect, trust, and what keeps things fresh for us!

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Hello.

SPEAKER_00 0:01

Mm-mm. Is it me y'all looking for? Seeing louder, baby. I can see me around. Took it too far. I always say that Pete doesn't know when to stop when he when he goes on with things. He takes it too far. But good morning. Well hello everyone.

SPEAKER_01 0:18

Good good morning. Hello.

SPEAKER_00 0:20

Hope you guys had a fabulous couple days so far. I just want to let you know, guys, we'll be uploading two episodes on a week on the for the next three weeks. So we're uploading two episodes. And I hope you guys are staying tuned to when we're posting. And happy comrades. Happy comrades, Pete. You as well.

SPEAKER_01 0:41

My dreams.

SPEAKER_00 0:43

But well done for everyone who is supporting people who are running. I definitely want to do it next year.

SPEAKER_01 0:47

You mean run it? Or supports?

SPEAKER_00 0:49

Definitely not run it. Supports.

SPEAKER_01 0:51

Supports. Yeah, we should have supported. We should have. It's actually terrible that we're coming on air and telling the nation that we didn't go out and support people who ran.

SPEAKER_00 1:00

But we're being honest. We didn't, but we do it next year. Something that we need to start doing or participating in. And also, you know what I want to talk about with everyone? Was the hidden agenda of the I it still plays on my mind with the what's it was another World Cup? Yeah? Of the hidden.

SPEAKER_01 1:16

Oh, the symbolism behind the But you know what? I feel like every time there's something big, people, like any sort of major world events, people will be like, yo, look here. There's a 666 thing here. Or like, look here. There's like a I don't know. I don't know what these people.

SPEAKER_00 1:34

So basically in the dances that they were doing, they came and they did triangle. And I'm a big believer.

SPEAKER_01 1:40

Because I'm in these and symbolism and like people who celebrate this like cultish thing.

SPEAKER_00 1:47

It's so huge. And within those, you know, events or concerts, it's so easy to hide things in it that people don't actually like take into.

SPEAKER_01 1:57

But why would they be doing that to us? Why would these secret people be like, ooh, I'm part of a secret organization? Ooh, here's a triangle. Illuminati. Like, are you doing it for like your friends who are in the cult with you? Or are you doing it because the meaning behind it is like affecting the viewer in some way?

SPEAKER_00 2:17

I think it's that. You think it's conditioning us to think, oh, if you want this lavish lifestyle, come here. Join me. Join me.

SPEAKER_01 2:25

Like they even said the one guy's name was uh Burner Boy. Oh my gosh, and then his name And his name is Burn uh Boy. And I was like, yeah, that's like Burner Boy. Sacrificing, like taking him to the altar, and then they even said it was like an Aztec pyramid that they designed, and that's where they used to sacrifice people to gods. I don't know, I don't know if all of that's true.

SPEAKER_00 2:46

But I'm like, before they become famous, they have to start at the bottom. So they probably created that name before even him getting to the point where he is now where he is quite well known, he's out there, he's established.

SPEAKER_01 3:01

Yeah, I d I don't know. I don't know. The the triangle thing kind of always gets to me. I'm the triangle thing I'm always aware of. I'm like, oh, why are you pulling the triangle? Even when um what's that guy? That um chauvinist guy that always got arrested, taken to Russia. Oh my word, what is his name?

SPEAKER_00 3:20

The the one of the kids.

SPEAKER_01 3:22

No, with the brother, Tate, Andrew Tate. Oh my gosh, yes. He whenever he sits, he pulls a triangle like this. Puts it down, puts it down. Watch him. Whenever he sits, he pulls the a triangle. And I've always been like, why are you doing that? Some people say though, it's because, and this is the same thing while we pray, you connect your body together and then it completes like a circuit. Oh yes, like a circuit that completes itself. So some people say people do that during conversation because it helps them to think better.

SPEAKER_00 3:51

Wow, I'm gonna start sitting like this now.

SPEAKER_01 3:53

People are gonna think we're part of the Illuminati. Next thing you're gonna be in an interview, they're gonna be like, Taslimioni, pulls, triangle, live on TV, and you'd be like, no, I'm just trying to concentrate. I just can't think otherwise.

SPEAKER_00 4:06

Talk about a one thing that I feel like is a controversial topic for I think couples in general. Whether can so can a couple, one of the partners, have a friendship with the opposite sex? So can you have a a girl best friend? Hell no. No.

SPEAKER_01 4:24

No. Like best oh. But it's okay, what do we like? Let's look at age. Okay, fine. Age is a factor.

SPEAKER_00 4:32

Now let's say. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know, but this is a sticky one because just in general, if you have a girl best friend, just in general, let's not put age, let's not do any of that. You're just putting it out there stereotypically in society. This is like, I feel like a huge thing as well.

SPEAKER_01 4:48

Oh, this is gonna be people are gonna be like angry about this one. But it's fine. We want people. We want people to have opinions, that's important. And we'll get onto that later about having opinions and the fact that we are just airing our view, not necessarily the best view for you, but we just saying it's a good idea. It's just our opinion, yes. There we go. So go ahead. No, I wouldn't put it this way. I wouldn't be comfortable with you having a boy bestie. Yes. I gotta look at it that way. So if I had a girl bestie, or like if I was like, hey babe, I'm going out with Phil X, like we're just gonna go catch a couple drinks, like that'd be weird.

SPEAKER_00 5:25

I'd be like, oh no, yeah. Why don't you even catch drinks with her?

SPEAKER_01 5:28

Yeah, exactly. Like, why would you be doing that? Now there's a water cold. No, it's just a she's just a friend. No kind of thing. She's just a friend. We just get along so well. Also, I think when you get to that stage, you've got to be like, but that's me, surely. Like, that's I mean you, Tash. Like, that should be you.

SPEAKER_00 5:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:44

I shouldn't be like looking for pleasure of hanging out with someone over you. That doesn't make any sense.

SPEAKER_00 5:51

I am basically first, yes.

SPEAKER_01 5:54

Well, I mean, if you came to me and were like, hey, I'm gonna go hang out with Tristan, or because Tristan can also be a girl's name. Roy. No, but I'm going with Bob to the to the bar, and I go, why are you going with Bob to the bar? Oh, we're just gonna hang out as a guy. I'd be like, Ain't no way you going with Bob to the bar.

SPEAKER_00 6:13

There was this uh actually in a previous relationship I had when I was like back then in university, I actually had a close guy friend, and I was with my boyfriend at that time, and he even said he was like There's no way that guy won't there's no way when you that age. And it was so true.

SPEAKER_01 6:29

Yes, it was.

SPEAKER_00 6:30

It was, and I was so naive, like, no, no, no, no, no. Girls.

SPEAKER_01 6:34

Any girls listening here with the guy that's hanging around who's the I'm just a friend. I love the fact that we're friends. I feel like it can just never happen.

SPEAKER_00 6:45

I can't believe it. Because in some way, it just the guy always wants to get into the girl's pants.

SPEAKER_01 6:50

I don't well, not necessarily. He may genuinely like her. His first prerogative is not necessarily the pants.

SPEAKER_00 6:56

Okay. But maybe third or full of this is that. But still, thinking sexually, yes. I think so. There's nothing wrong to have friendships, guys, with obviously the opposite gender, but I think it's even more different when you especially if you're in a marriage.

SPEAKER_01 7:14

Like in a yeah, in a relationship, it's like, okay, but now If you come into the relationship, knowing that this person may have other people that are in their love. So you can't be like, oh, you're no longer hanging out with that person. Be like, well, listen, I've been hanging out with them for three years.

SPEAKER_00 7:28

Oh, there's just been too many stories of people friends. And then, especially in marriage, and then they just swayed towards the close friend. Yeah, oh it was just it just happened because No man, it didn't just happen.

SPEAKER_01 7:43

You just knew what you were doing. Yeah, but you're like, oh, the one night we just had two drink. No, no, no. And we ended up kissing each other like then exactly. That's what you're doing.

SPEAKER_00 7:51

Then let's take out then yeah, then I'm gonna say then take out drinking when you were with your best friends then and have a sober mind. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 8:00

So you can go. So are you saying that you can go out with the opposite sex, but not on like a drinking?

SPEAKER_00 8:05

No, I'm not gonna because you can still be sexually attracted to someone without the alcohol. Alcohol just heartens everything.

SPEAKER_01 8:13

We we just, I think we just gotta clarify. We like the bubble that we live in sometimes. Yes. Like the bubble that we've created, it would be weird. Some people are extroverted, some people are they they feel comfortable. Like you said, maybe it's a bit of naivety on their parts. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 8:32

No, I it just doesn't work for me. The mathing, mathing. I can't handle it to be best friends with a girl. Guy, go ahead. That's fine.

SPEAKER_01 8:41

Chums, what about work? I got a lot of work. I got a lot of work. No work. I got a lot of female work colleagues.

SPEAKER_00 8:48

Oh, that's female, like a shuck friends, that's fine. But there's like best friend.

SPEAKER_01 8:53

Okay. Then that's yeah. Because now Because I always say, and and people are gonna relate to this, I work 10 hours a day. So for 10 hours, I'm with people who more than likely for many, many, many years to come are gonna still be there. And if that environment is terrible, then I'm gonna have a terrible day at work. And my life for 10 hours a day from Monday to Friday is gonna be horrible. So I always think to myself, I gotta be like, it's it's better that the temperament is chilled with everyone and everyone's on a on a good level rather than everyone's hostile. Um, yeah, so they're like my second family.

SPEAKER_00 9:30

No, I get that.

SPEAKER_01 9:32

It feels it feels like that. So that maybe there's a different, there's a different dynamic though with that because we're working during the day.

SPEAKER_00 9:37

We're not necessarily for some people, they have little flings at work. I'm saying best friends. You have friends at work, like I know Pete's friends at work. I've met them.

SPEAKER_01 9:50

My colleagues, colleagues, colleagues and friends, yes, colleagues and friends. I mean, I do consider some of them my friends, yes.

SPEAKER_00 9:55

No, I said friends. Yeah, so I've met them, so it's not like I they don't know me and I've seen everyone there. But now, if a new lady pitches in, and then now she's so close to my husband and she's Pete's like, oh no, she's our best friend. Hell no. Hell no, there's no way, no way. And now if you're saying, Oh, this got I'm gonna go out for drinks with her, oh my gosh, I would literally lose, I'd pull up my because I'm reversing this in my in my head.

SPEAKER_01 10:25

Yeah, because now if you think you might that's that's that's the trick, you always gotta reverse it.

SPEAKER_00 10:29

Yes, think about it how you'd feel if I yeah. So always do that, guys. Think about what if you would you feel comfortable watching your partner be in the same situation.

SPEAKER_01 10:39

You gotta apply the standard to how you would live it out.

SPEAKER_00 10:42

Yes, it's a better way to say it. Oh guys, we want to talk about something. Something that has really struck people on TikTok.

SPEAKER_01 10:50

Oh, here we go.

SPEAKER_00 10:51

In the comments, and I really want to get incidentally gritty of this. Bev, do we do a number two in front of each other?

SPEAKER_01 11:00

Hell no! No, uh, so Tash told me about the post that she put up on TikTok. People were running to the comments section to like post their views on this, and I was like, Oh wait, can I actually can I actually grab some comments? I was shocked.

SPEAKER_00 11:18

Can I grab some comments? Just hold on.

SPEAKER_01 11:20

Okay, we're not going to. I'm gonna do my best not to make noises while you read these out.

SPEAKER_00 11:25

Okay, sorry. Some of them are sorry guys, I think I feel like this is just different for everyone. Like, if you feel comfortable doing this around your partner, that is okay, but I I can't. Like, I actually feel nauseous reading some of these comments because it's just out of respect. Personally, that's how we view it. Okay, number one. Oh, and here me and my partner are making it a competition. Who can burp the loud loudest? Whose fights stink the most? And Dutch ovening each other on a romantic movie night wouldn't have it any other way because we love each other far good and bad. What? Actual signals. What?

unknown 11:59

What?

SPEAKER_00 12:00

Dutch oven. What?

SPEAKER_01 12:03

What I would the mood would go. I would be like, turn on brother. Again, no. If that works for them, that's cool. Okay, that kind of relationship, maybe they got this dynamic going. I would be, I'd be, guys, I'd be distressed. I'd be like, what are you why?

SPEAKER_00 12:22

Why now I should just be like and I have a scent of like your fart on the noise whilst you're like sitting next to each other, guys. Come on. Next one. I'm laughing because my husband and I, when we want to be funny, the one one of us farts and pulls a blanket over our head. Imagine me just like trapping your head with my fart.

SPEAKER_01 12:39

Like, look, once on like one occasion, it would fly. I'd be like, yeah, that's fine. But on like two or three, especially imagine coming home and you've had a bad day. Like you've had a really, really terrible day, and next thing your partner just rips one and it's spanks, and you're just like, Why?

SPEAKER_00 12:57

Like, it actually makes my tummy turn.

SPEAKER_01 13:00

I'd be like, What why? I would just be yeah, again, I think it's just boundaries. It's a matter of back respect. Some people find it funny, cool.

SPEAKER_00 13:08

No, I don't find that funny at all.

SPEAKER_01 13:10

Okay. Some some people enjoy slapstick comedy, some people enjoy romantic comedy, some people enjoy fart noises, some people get off on that. I'm not gonna lie, I've watched fart videos that are funny. Yeah, but that's but like that's other people. Like, I don't want I don't want to I don't want that introduced into our relationship.

SPEAKER_00 13:28

And not all. And I've some people in the comments as always said, like, obviously, when you're sleeping. I'm gonna be honest, Peters told me, and I couldn't believe that I've obviously let a fart out whilst I was sleeping, and I felt so shy. We both feel so shy when we're not sure. But we don't care because we don't care because we don't do it in in front of each other like naturally. Such a rare thing, especially when I was pregnant. I was gassy. It's normal. But other than that, guys, we don't do it in front of each other. It's like a hard no. And people were so shocked when I said if we had like a lodge or something, we go, one person will go to like the communal, you know, lodge bathroom. Oh, yes, and then one person will stay.

SPEAKER_01 14:09

Yeah, we keep that we keep that private. I don't know. That's fine. But guys, I'm happy. I don't like come at a come at me, bro, with your comments. We like to just keep it separate.

SPEAKER_00 14:21

Yeah, I don't I personally wouldn't think take to see take you seriously if you fought in front of me. How am I gonna take you seriously if you pump methane gas?

unknown 14:30

No.

SPEAKER_01 14:30

Well, if I'm just gonna if if I'm just walking by you and I rip one, I just feel like it'll be disrespectful. It's like you know, and there are other people who are like, we don't want our kids doing that in front of us too. But when we say that, it's like if your kid comes in front of you and puts their ass in your face and just rips one, that is a sign to me of disrespect. I'm like huge disrespect. Buddy, like, I love you and I'll do I'll die for you, but don't do that to me. Like, please, like, I don't I don't want I don't want that.

SPEAKER_00 14:59

No, it actually it it moved.

SPEAKER_01 15:00

I'd be like you it makes me you're showing a lack of respect to me by by doing that. Like it's setting boundaries again. If your boundaries are free reign, let rip, smelliest part, Dutch oven, I'm gonna do whatever I want. Do you do you?

SPEAKER_00 15:14

That's you at your home, that's fine.

SPEAKER_01 15:16

Everyone has their preferences.

SPEAKER_00 15:18

100%. Yeah. And that's that's okay, guys. You respect and love all of you. And that's if that's what you feel like doing at home.

SPEAKER_01 15:26

I don't know, I don't know if I respect everyone for doing that.

SPEAKER_00 15:28

Okay, I don't respect it, but I'm not.

SPEAKER_01 15:30

You can respect them.

SPEAKER_00 15:31

I don't Okay, I'm gonna respect them when they're at home.

SPEAKER_01 15:33

Hey, you come at me, I'll be like, you guys do that, it's fine. You don't have to like me. You can listen to the podcast for Tash. I'm gonna just tell you straight up.

SPEAKER_00 15:39

Like, no pun intended, but in saying that, you know, I actually just thought about this because I see a couple, you know, like obviously guys liking a like a woman's post, okay? On Instagram. So would you feel comfortable of me liking guys' posts?

SPEAKER_01 15:59

Again, what is the post? Is it just of him no, just in general?

SPEAKER_00 16:03

No, no, wait. If it's about Christ and it's like some like message, no, no, that's fine. But I'm just saying, like, if it's like him topless.

SPEAKER_01 16:10

Of course not. What? You and why are you liking this guy?

SPEAKER_00 16:18

Him and his friends, or like a TikTok video. No, straight up no. I wouldn't like him liking photos with girls in bikini tops.

SPEAKER_01 16:26

No.

SPEAKER_00 16:27

Lounging around. No. Chilling.

SPEAKER_01 16:29

That is red flag material, right?

SPEAKER_00 16:31

No, 100%.

SPEAKER_01 16:33

Keep it to yourself. Why are you why are you publicly showing affection for someone you don't know?

SPEAKER_00 16:40

And I always say, if you're liking, and also especially now you know, if you're liking like opposite sexes, um, stories, Instagram stories, that's intimate now. I feel like that is like now you're trying to put a hint. Oh. Insta stories different now.

SPEAKER_01 16:57

Remember, there used to be, I don't even know if you remember on Facebook, there used to be the poke button.

SPEAKER_00 17:01

No, what is that?

SPEAKER_01 17:02

Oh my gosh, this is showing my age. So th those of you know will know. On Facebook, there used to be a button called poke. And you could poke someone, and eventually they took that away, that feature, because it became pretty sexualized, I think. Oh, what? Yeah, because you would send someone a poke. It would be like Pete sent you a poke. That means like if I'd be like a dwink, like Oh my gosh, stop. And like constantly poke people on Facebook. And that like, I think that was like a hey, like a little hint, and then the other person would poke you back, you'd be like, hey, yeah, I hear you. I'm feeling this. No, yeah, yeah. And and that to me, since it's been removed, has has been replaced by the by the hearts or the like.

SPEAKER_00 17:46

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_01 17:47

Or a reciprocal like hearts or like from that person. Then you're like, ah, done. In there, no, it's game time, and then it and then it starts off with a drop and a hey, like a message, hey. How are you? How are you? I saw you re-liked the post that I liked.

SPEAKER_00 18:05

Because you wouldn't say that.

SPEAKER_01 18:06

Well, no, I know, but I'm just saying in their mind, they're like thinking that.

SPEAKER_00 18:09

And then they're like, I'm trying to put my finger through the door.

SPEAKER_01 18:12

Exactly. Like they're going.

SPEAKER_00 18:19

No, it's just an immediate no, guys. You shouldn't be and also now you basically are extending that olive branch, not just an olive branch. No, an olive branch is a peace offering. Okay, not an olive branch, but you're extending like, you know, a shaved leg. Yeah. Leg with like no hair. Dipping your foot in water. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:37

Like, what do you what do you think of this? How does that like? And you go, mmm, I like it, but let me see a little bit more.

SPEAKER_00 18:43

Yes, exactly. I'm intrigued. So now we're gonna go into message and start messaging each other. So it's an immediate no. I think think about it before you like that photo. Think about do you think that this is suitable?

SPEAKER_01 18:55

It's about people in relationships. This is Yes, relationships, sorry, guys.

SPEAKER_00 18:59

Especially in a marriage, no, why are you doing it? Why are you liking that photo? You know you're not supposed to be doing that. And I'm gonna tell you now. Stop doing that. Yes. And CP's even ampfully up here. Take it to the church, girl. Come on. Don't don't do it. Please, don't do it. So in our next episode, we'll be getting into the nitty gritty of some situationships, discussing some more topics between couples that are controversial. Anyways, guys, bye. Bye.