#1 - Welcome To The Quick Scope Podcast

Welcome to The Quick Scope Podcast — quick hits on life in your 20s. In our first episode, Conner and Corbin introduce who they are, what this show is about, and the topics they'll be tackling weekly: faith, fitness, hustle culture, mental health, money, real estate, and the lie that you should have it all figured out by 25. New episodes every week.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Welcome to the Quickscope Podcast. My name is Corbin Mell. I'm Connor Knollt. Today we're pretty much just gonna figure out how episode one goes. The overall premise of the Quick Scope Podcast is just to give you a play-by-play in the life of two young men figuring out life in our 20s.

SPEAKER_00 0:16

Yeah. Young professionals been uh whether it be through our high school journey, college journey, what it looks like in our young 20s, just kind of giving you the vibe and our execution of walking through it and just walking through it with you guys. We're not going to be talking at you, uh more so just talking to you, so that we can give you a kind of a brief scope of our lives and what it looks like every day and work through it together.

SPEAKER_01 0:41

And these are things we've come to learn just from the experiences of life: where to live, how to eat, how to discipline yourself mentally, how to manage some finances, all the things that we weren't really taught in school that we've sort of had to pick up on the fly. So this is our best shot at it. I hope this provides enough value for you.

SPEAKER_00 0:59

Yeah, absolutely. And I think learning through conversation is always gonna be the best way to learn. Uh, unfortunately, during the school system and when you're growing up, you're gonna miss a couple of things. It's inevitable. There's nothing you can do about it. So jumping into these conversations and walking it through each other or uh through groups that you may be in is always beneficial as well.

SPEAKER_01 1:21

And our goal was to simply just be a resource for you guys. If you're a young man, you're trying to figure out where do I go in life, hopefully this podcast gives you a little bit of direction and you can implement some good habits that at least will build you to the person you eventually want to become.

SPEAKER_00 1:34

Yeah, and by any means, we don't have it figured out 100%. Like we said, we're still working through it together. Um, so we just want to be there to walk through it with you as well.

SPEAKER_01 1:44

Yeah. All right. So kind of the first premise that we want to talk about is how to really conduct yourself as a young man in today's world. I feel like most of us are really just lost. You know, you get done whether playing sports in high school, you want to go to college, you don't want to go to college, you're thinking about the trades, you're thinking about do I want to be a doctor, a lawyer? And all those questions really are probably overwhelming to someone who's only 18. I remember being 18 and like you're just practicing how to talk, like you're you're still an idiot, is what I feel like. And until you get to 25, you're like, oh, no one else has it figured out either.

SPEAKER_00 2:18

Breathe, take your time. Yeah. It's uh actually relaxing and kind of calming feeling too. Yes. Knowing that you don't have to have it figured out right away. You're anything like myself, and you're probably the same way too. But when you're 18, you already feel like you have it figured out until you don't, you don't, and then you're like, okay, maybe I gotta take a step back and learn a couple of things. Yeah. And then that's when you essentially think that you have to make the decisions for the rest of your life, where you're going to college, what you're gonna do, where you're gonna live, all of these things you're kind of already thinking about at 18 as soon as you get your diploma from high school. Yeah. So walking through those steps can be extremely daunting.

SPEAKER_01 2:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:59

Uh, and it can take a lot of time, though. So take a little bit of peace in that. Give yourself some grace, is what we're trying to say.

SPEAKER_01 3:05

Yeah. It's tough being a human being in today's world with everything going on, social media, all the distractions, everything in the whole world is just getting thrown at you. It's almost too much content and information for you to sit there and digest it properly. So we're just trying to be here for the quick scope of letting you see here's what we think, here's how we operate our business, here's how we go through our day-to-day lives, and here's how we kind of keep ourselves grounded doing all of that.

SPEAKER_00 3:33

Yeah. So we'll give you a rundown all on all of that. Uh, Corbin, just tell them how you got started here. Like where where did you come from? Who are you? Who's Corbin?

SPEAKER_01 3:43

All right. Um, my parents made me. I uh I fell out of the right canal and now I'm here. So I was born in the city. Um, I worked in the city up until 13 to 18, but I I like the suburbs. I like to be able to touch grass and pull my driveway. That's me. Um, I played football, wrestling lacrosse my whole life, so I was very connected with my identity as an athlete. And I think going through sports, going through those trials and tribulations really teaches you about yourself, what type of pain you're willing to tolerate, how good of a teammate you are, how well you can be there for your friends when someone's down, or basically just putting yourself in a situation that your community needs you. And to honestly, I would I would credit, you know, LaSalle, my high school, for that. That was one of the biggest pieces and four years of development that really shaped me into who I am today. Um, and then from that, I figured out, all right, well, I'll go to college, I'll play football because that's what everyone else is doing. But if I can go back and talk to myself, I'd really be like, hey, that's nice, everyone wants to play football, but what does Corbin want to do? I feel like I made that decision because I saw other people doing it and almost was like, well, I gotta go do that because he's doing it and he's doing it, and they're posting a picture, so I gotta post a picture. So at that age, you're very impressionable. And I started using social media at 13, I think, when Instagram came out. So from eighth grade up until high school, that changed the way that I would view the world, that I would view myself because you're constantly comparing, you're seeing what kids have, what they don't have, cars, cleats, all the stuff. So you're sitting there like, why isn't that me? As a young man, you probably shouldn't have those thoughts. You maybe shouldn't be exposed to that much stuff because that can get in the back of your brain and just debilitate your confidence if you let it. So, what made me who I am today is just kind of figuring it out along the way. I didn't know where I was gonna live, I didn't know what I was gonna do, I didn't have any idea of a job or career or anything. It was just like, go play football, go do okay at school, have some friends, try to be social. And eventually I figured out, all right, some things were for me, some things weren't. I know my friends who can go out every weekend, drink, party, and have a good time. I know that that didn't work for me because I would feel worse by doing that stuff when I would call that fun. So I would learn, like, all right, some people's habits are good for them, makes them happy, but that's not for me. So I had to start thinking as an individual, as opposed to, well, let me just fit in because, you know, John Smith's doing that or whatever it is. That's kind of the point. Um, you need to kind of be an individual thinker, be a critical thinker, and uh, you know, look at what everyone's doing. Ask yourself honestly, do I want to do that? And if not, go figure out what it is you want to do. And I think that's how I ended up getting here, doing real estate, doing training, talking to people. It's just conversation. And and you learn a lot from that. What about you? Like, how'd you get here?

SPEAKER_00 6:40

Yeah, so I mean, obviously, similar to you, I ended up landing in the entrepreneurial space, I guess. That's a pretty big buzzword. Everybody wants to be an entrepreneur right now. Um ended up in real estate as well, exactly. Yeah, uh, a lot of a lot of young guys, that's that's who you see that owns the Lambos is the entrepreneurs on social media. Um, but I'm I'm also in the real estate world as well. Uh had a fairly similar path as you did. Grew up playing sports as well in in high school, uh played lacrosse, played football, um, got very used to being in the the team environment and being around the guys and figuring out what you had to do to get close with the guys, especially being a young guy, freshman, underclassman kind of um that will make you conform a little bit to the team, and it's not necessarily always a bad thing. It's not, yeah, because you get to learn how to socialize and build a community. Um, very good skills to have.

SPEAKER_01 7:36

Exactly. And that honestly, the social media makes us less social. Yeah. Like I was probably more social in high school when I wasn't always on my phone. Oh, when I wasn't, you know, posting a video or doing something like that. Now it's almost, you know, I'm selective of who I'm around. I want to keep good company, obviously. And it's like, all right, well, if I'm trying to be a good character, I want the people around me to be have good character. That way it at least rubs off, and you're feeling as though you're in a group that is making you better, you're making them better, and it all comes from a good spot.

SPEAKER_00 8:08

Yeah, I really bought into a couple of years ago, I heard the saying, show me your closest five friends and I'll show you your future. Yeah. Um really speaks to who you keep in your circle, is truly what's going to impact your life. Because by our own human nature, we will conform to the groups and the people that we're around. Yes. That's why you hear older mentors telling you, hey, get around big people, get uncomfortable, be in rooms that are bigger than you, be the smallest fish in the sea, because you get to learn and conform to these bigger groups or these people that you want to be more like. Um, and that's what I learned uh after I dropped out of college. I went for a year and I went to go and play lacrosse, thought it was gonna be a great time. Uh, ended up just not being for me. And shortly after that is when I got into real estate, and I learned that you need to be in those rooms with people that make you feel uncomfortable if that's the person that you would like to surround yourself with.

SPEAKER_01 9:06

Yeah, and if that's the person you want to be. Exactly. Honestly, I respect your decision, man. I I looked at college like I had to go because my friends were going, and I didn't go to a good high school just to waste it on not going to college. But if I could sit there and explain to myself at 18, being 27 now, I'd be like, hey man, you are gonna finance an experience for the next four years. What experience do you want to have? What network do you want to be in? Where do you want to live in a dorm for those four years? How do you want your life to be shaped? I didn't think about that. I went to play football at Widener in the middle of Chester. What am I thinking? Yes, it was a good time. Okay, it was fun. I learned some things, I made some friends along the way. But ultimately, if I can go back, I'd be like, hey man, maybe that's not the right choice for you. Maybe you should have tried figuring something out beforehand or taken a gap year. But at the time, people looked at that like he's an idiot, or he's not gonna be successful because he didn't go to college, or he didn't go to an Ivy League, or because he didn't do this, that, or the third. And okay, maybe. But I know at 25, when I had my house, none of my friends had a house. So that's what I figured out. I was like, okay, well, I I know how to work hard. I know I have to do that every day. What am I gonna work hard at every day? That gives me that kind of internal satisfaction of, all right, I can pat myself in the back and go to sleep knowing I'm doing good things and I'm helping people. It's really what it kind of boiled down to.

SPEAKER_00 10:28

Yeah, we're not, and don't get me wrong, we're not necessarily saying don't go to college. No, absolutely not. Yeah, uh, it just depends on if it's right for you and if you have the framework around what you want that future to look like. And also, we both went and we both have maybe different viewpoints on college than other people do. Yeah, you can go and have the trial and error experience too. That's essentially what college is. You're financing the experience. Yeah, you're learning the person that you want to be. It's kind of the buffer period of four years to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life. Right now, if you want to take time off and not finance that experience and just kind of wait and see and experience other things outside of just college to figure out where you want to be, who you want to be, by all means do that. But if you want to go and be a doctor or an astronaut or a surgeon, yeah, go to college. Like you're not, you're not gonna get that just from real world experience. So there's uh bits and pieces of that that we can take. For us, it's more so figure out what you want that experience to be and don't let the expectation of what the social norm is be what stops you or makes you go and do or make a decision. Yeah. Um it's a very good point. Focus more on your own individuality rather than what the expectation of what you're supposed to be is. Yeah. Because ultimately, that's gonna grow you more as an individual and it's gonna put you in the circles that have the people that you want to be more like or you want to be around that are actually gonna benefit your life rather than conforming to what's popular.

SPEAKER_01 12:06

Yeah. And to just kind of piggyback off that point, I know for that, you know, I I took psychology and marketing in in college. I retained 10% of the information I probably was thrown at. I know that from 18 to 24, as a man, and speaking directly kind of to the men, like those are your more most formidable years as your prefrontal cortex is developing. If you're pouring alcohol all over your brain four days a week for the sake of a good time, how is that gonna help you? What habits are you building during those four years when you have the responsibility of going to classes? If you're paying your own rent, which I had to do, I had to work three jobs, pay my own rent, and take a full classload. Like, I didn't have time to do the extracurriculars that most college kids get to do. So I had a very different perspective. I went to Widener for two years, then I transferred to Penn State Main Campus. And it was a night and day difference, like seeing how people would pull up from the frat house in their Lamborghini and just roll into class 10 minutes late, where I was working till 2 a.m. at a bar, getting my homework done, waking up at six, going for a run, and then showing up to class at eight o'clock. We had a totally different 24 hours. And it was not that that kid didn't deserve it, that kid didn't have to do it. I had to do certain things to get to where I'm at. That taught me a lot. I'm not sure where that other person is now or what they're doing, but the habits that I learned in college to make me disciplined as a young man carried through my adulthood. And that's how I'm able to kind of sit here today and have that perspective.

SPEAKER_00 13:37

Yeah. And I think too, uh, what Corbin's talking about is really saying there's so many different experiences that do work. Yeah. There's no one right way of going about it. Because I've seen guys too that drank themselves to sleep in college and they make a complete 180.

SPEAKER_01 13:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:57

And they're a totally new person because they learn from that experience and they're like, hey, yeah, had fun, yeah, that's not me anymore. Correct. And now I focus on this, that, or the other thing, and their uh motivations completely switch from what they were originally thinking. And I like I enjoy having a good time too. I'll have to have a good time while you're here. I'll have a tequila, I'll have a little vodka soda every now and then, I'll enjoy myself. Yeah. Um, but it's not my focus. That's not what I live for. I don't live for Saturday. No. I don't live for a Friday night. Uh I do enjoy them every now and then, but I do not live for them. Um I think there's an important distinction behind that as well. Uh because a lot of the other things too that you'll see all over the place for people our age, especially, is um hustle culture. Yeah. You have to be productive 24-7. You never can sleep. All it is is money, grind, work. Like that's all it is. Yeah. That's not necessarily the case. You want to be able to enjoy yourself a little bit too. And your 20s are supposed to be fun. Yeah. So make this grind of your 20s uh a learning experience, yes, but a fun one too. Have a good perspective on that. Um, and that's actually kind of why we decided to create the podcast, too, right? Yeah. Um, we came up with the quickscope because we both obviously played Call of Duty when we were younger. Yeah. Um, but it gives you a quickscope into our lives and a couple of other topics that we enjoy talking about health, fitness, business, finance, mental health. Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 15:31

All the stuff that contributes to becoming a man that can provide for a family, that can run a business, that can essentially be someone who the community and a family can rely on. Otherwise, I mean you can go the route of being a singular until you're 40 years old, and I'm sure you'll have a great time. More power to you. But if you want to have a community and people that love and care about you, you're gonna have to make the sacrifices that are kind of necessary to build that individual. I think the one thing is uh I get from Alex Ramosy is imagine uh the person you could be and all the hard things uh that person has to go to to get to that end result. If you want to be patient, you're gonna be tested in your patience. If you want to have the benefits of your hard work resulting in cars, houses, the freedom to travel, take your family on vacation, you're gonna have to put that person through a lot of hard work and hours and a lot of sacrifice to get that result. So I think the hustle culture is great, yes, but don't get caught up in it where you just burn yourself out and you become miserable because no one makes it out alive. Enjoy your 20s.

SPEAKER_00 16:43

Yeah. I couldn't have said it any better than that, actually. Um, I think what we're really trying to find is figuring out how to be fulfilled by doing all of this work. Uh, because there is a lot to do. You have to pick and choose what you're going to do. Right. Uh, but at the end of the day, you have to figure out how you're gonna be fulfilled. And if that 40-year-old bachelor is fulfilled doing that, by all means, if that's your life that you're chasing, chase it. Yeah, but figuring out what's fulfilling, figuring out what your why is, you'll hear that a lot too. That's a buzzword. Yep. Um, that's extremely difficult to figure out. Yeah. Uh, we can walk through that as well, but those are the kinds of things that we're really trying to focus on here. And that's what we wanted to give you a quickscope into, uh, hence the name. But each week, I guess really, uh, we'll be talking about different quickscopes into different perspectives or topics or whatever we're deciding to talk about that week.

SPEAKER_01 17:43

Yeah, different topics. I mean, we're both into health and fitness, so we're mindful of what we eat, how we train, our sleep. Obviously, we like to have a good time, so a tequila soda lime kind of supplements that. But uh, you know, outside of that, when when you're doing the right things 90% of the time, you're allowed to enjoy yourself. I think to your point earlier, you don't want to live just for Saturday and Sunday and go pedal to the metal. Because you also, and and I was guilty of this at one point too. I would chase the dopamine hit, meaning, yeah, I would always want to go out, I would always want to go drink and party, I would always want to go hang out with my friends, I would blow off homework. Because doing homework or studying for a test, it's not releasing any dopamine for you. Going out and having beers with your boys is. So as a young man, you have to be mindful of, okay, what habits am I doing that are constantly hitting that dopamine trigger? Every time you go on your phone and social media lights up, that's dopamine. You're addicted to that. So just bringing awareness into how you as the human interface in this huge technological world, you gotta be aware of what the world is throwing at you and how you respond to it. Sometimes I feel like we have blinders on and we don't see it. You just think, oh, I gotta Snapchat, I gotta click it. Like there's a result in your brain that when you click it and see it, something happens. You want to keep doing it. It becomes addictive. And these companies are smart, they know what they're doing. You can put the tinfo hat on and go far down the rabbit hole. And I mean, he'll tell you at every restaurant I ask, what oil do you cook your food in? Because I'll be that asshole. I I will ask that question and I don't care how the waiter takes it, I'd want to know. It factors into my decision making. Is that extreme? Yes. Do people do that? No. Do I avoid certain restaurants? Yes. Because I know that, okay, if I eat that, I'm not gonna feel good. And if I don't feel good, I'm not gonna show up good tomorrow. So I basically just try to take all those calculations internally and make my assessment. And that's a little far. I'm an overthinker, I can admit that, but it helps me. It helps me stay productive, it helps me stay kind of focused.

SPEAKER_00 19:43

And being an overthinker for everybody, yeah, extremely normal. Yeah, forthink. Yeah. If if you are anything similar to us by any means, you are probably somebody that thinks long-term uh and overthinks about the short term in order to reach the long-term goals. Yeah. Uh and what you have to do on a day-to-day basis to get there. And that is normal. I want to be the first person, if you've never heard it before, to tell you that that is 1000% normal. You are not falling short, you are not not meeting expectations, you are exactly where you're supposed to be. Yes. Um, so don't get it twisted when you're overthinking or you're anxious about something. The easiest thing that you can do, uh, practices, I might say, is one, having a conversation.

SPEAKER_01 20:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:38

Um, which can be very scary for a lot of dudes our age. Uh, have a conversation about it.

SPEAKER_01 20:45

No, no. You want to sit there and take your problems, like, oh man, I'm cool. But on the inside, you're like, what the hell am I doing?

SPEAKER_00 20:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 20:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:51

Yeah, it's it's tough to do. But when it's done, it is so freeing because you understand that the people that you're talking to are experiencing the exact same thing.

SPEAKER_01 21:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:04

It's a universal feeling uh that we have pressure as, and I'm talking to the young men here because I am one, um, that is a universal pressure that we sit under. Yeah. And you talking about it will actually probably bring you closer in your relationship to somebody else, whether it's your boy or even your girl, you can talk to it about her, uh talk to her about it as well. But talking about it, or if you're not there yet and you just you just can't get to the point where you're ready to talk about something yet, write it down. Um, I can't tell you how many times I have this to-do list in my head, yeah, and I'm running through it 20 times a day, and I don't even feel like I'm touching getting anywhere close to being complete with it.

SPEAKER_01 21:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:48

Um, but then I write it down and I'm like, oh, well, it's actually five things that might take like an hour and a half. Yeah. And then I'm done. Yeah. And that that can save you a ton of that overthinking. Thinking, time a lot of the anxiety and the stress that we have that builds up is completely self-made.

SPEAKER_01 22:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:08

It there's a lot of ways to release it that we'll talk about.

SPEAKER_01 22:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:11

Um, but actually being okay with doing that and knowing that that's actually a real thing, yeah, can be very freeing for people.

SPEAKER_01 22:20

And and to that point, like writing it down, there's so much fear that lives in your head that you're always overthinking about. As soon as you put it on paper, the fear dissipates because you can see it. It's on paper. It's not threatening you, it's not a saber-toothed tiger trying to kill you. Our brains are wired like that from how we got here. And it's good that you have that threat detection, but you have to understand that threat is not life-threatening. That threat is something that you fear because either you don't know how to do it, you don't know how to start it, you don't know the best way to go about it, you maybe didn't have the training or coaching or mentorship for it. So you're just fearful. Like if I never thought about driving or I never saw anyone drive, I'd be like, how the hell do I do this? I'm scared of a car. But if you see people drive, you get in a car, you understand how it works, and it's like, okay, just do that. It's the ability to kind of separate your fear and rationally think about the problem and then come up with a solution to attack it. And I feel like myself included, if I don't write it out or if I don't try to approach it from a rational perspective, I'll be afraid to look at it. Like, no, pull it out, put it on paper, read it, and now the fear is gone. Now, now it's just objectively the situation that you're looking at, and your brain will figure out a solution. It's supposed to detect threats. Like your brain is there to pick up what is wrong. It finds what's scary. Yeah, it finds what's scary. That that's how we survive. Do you know what I mean? So I I look at it like from an evolutionary standpoint of we did things out of survival, and now that the threat of life isn't that bad, you can frankly, it's too easy to survive in today's world. Like it's too simple to sit at your house, watch TV, order food. You don't have to get up and do anything. You don't have to go and hunt or like protect or go and find shelter. You go to an air conditioning building and you buy your food. That wasn't the case 200 years ago. And we're only two people removed from that. So those systems are still within us, but now our environment has changed so drastically we're adapting to it. And I think that's probably what most of the fear and anxiety in young men and young people is coming from. Like you have all these sensors that are popping off, but the worst thing that happens is someone calls you ugly on social media. Like, that's not a threat to your life. Those are just words on a screen that you're giving immense amount of value to because you're not in actual danger.

SPEAKER_00 24:43

I think our perception of a threat has actually completely shifted. Yeah now that we don't have to go hunt, gather, find shelter. It's what did Becky say? What did you say about me? It's uh it's a complete shift. We want to find something to use our fight or flight response for. Yeah. Because we're human and we kind of have to. Yeah. Uh that's gonna fire off whether we like it or not. But if we have so many things that keep us within comfort, uh that's automatically just going to deteriorate into smaller things that realistically probably aren't that big of a deal. Yes. Um, but our brain is going to tell us that it is a big red flag, or it's like this big uh fireworks are shooting off, flares are going up, and it's this big issue. Um that's strictly because of comfort. And I think that's a cool thing to talk about as well is getting comfortable being uncomfortable.

SPEAKER_01 25:40

Yes, or how easy it is to just stay comfortable.

SPEAKER_00 25:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:44

Like right now, we're in nice chairs in an air-conditioned room. It's comfy. There's someone outside sweating their balls off. We're comfy, they're not comfy. We're getting uncomfortable by doing this sort of stuff. We've never done a podcast in our life. But I was gonna say, when was the last time you sat in front of a camera for like 30 minutes and talked? Never, dude. Never. Not unless I was being interviewed by a CIA against my knowledge. But yeah, it's this is the uncomfortable part. This is us putting ourselves out there and our thoughts with the hope that it might resonate with someone watching it on their phone, somewhere around the world. And if it does, we did our job. Even if we impacted one person and they took something from this 30-minute clip and said, all right, well, you know what, I'm gonna work on my health and fitness. I'm gonna try to eat the right things, or I'm gonna put myself in that room that makes me uncomfortable. We did our job. We're cool. So that's how we sort of look at this: like, all right, we went through it, we understand the fear and the exposure therapy to those types of things are beneficial. How can we, for lack of a better term, influence you to challenge yourself to do that same thing? Because if I was you, I would want you to push yourself. Yeah. And I think the crazy thing is that you have to look at everyone like that, could have been me. If I was born in that situation and had those upbringing and had that type of parent, that could have been you. And you have to have some sympathy for that person because they're not just some asshole. That person was once a little kid that maybe had some shit go wrong and maybe didn't have the tools or skill sets to handle it, or they're still stuck in that fight or flight, and it is scary to them just to interact with people. So you always have to keep that in the back of your mind when you know you're approaching a stranger. Like that's a little kid that got older, but it still might be a little kid mentally.

SPEAKER_00 27:25

Yeah, it's mind-boggling when you think about it. It's yeah, such a perception shift where you look at somebody and they're just an asshole in your eyes. Yeah. Uh, but you don't, you have no clue what is going on behind the scenes with that person.

SPEAKER_01 27:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:39

Um, that's the other thing with hustle culture specifically a lot too. Yeah, you'll see this guy, he's got all the nice things, the shiny watches, the checks, the cars, the house. Um, he might be struggling to pay that house off. Yeah. Or he might have something with his family that is just really weighing on him. His dog might have died. Yeah. You you don't know what's going on behind the scenes. Yeah. So giving other people grace is a very freeing feeling. But also, if I could go back and talk to 18-year-old Connor, I would say, hey dude, give yourself a little bit of grace too. Yes. Yeah. Um, because again, I know Corbin's probably the same way. I set extremely high expectations for myself. Very hard on myself. And that that is nothing new for anybody that is going to find this and watch it and listen to it. Yeah. I think you can probably resonate with that as well. Yeah. So give yourself grace with that too. And and learn to enjoy the shitty times and the grind and when something turns bad and you don't feel good about maybe a mistake you made or um a deal you lost or a chick you chased or whatever it is, you don't have to feel bad about it because it's all part of the ebbs and flows of of life. Yeah. And you have to enjoy that experience as much as you have to live it. Um, both things are done simultaneously. You can't live without enjoying your life, and there are going to be some hard times too.

SPEAKER_01 29:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:08

Um, but you figure out how to get through the hard times. You just don't let them weigh you down so much that you give up. Because once you give up, that's a different conversation. Yeah. And uh you have to figure out a way to just keep pushing just a little bit more.

SPEAKER_01 29:24

Yeah. I think to your point, like my my whole motto is keep moving. I remember at my lowest of lows when I felt like absolutely hopeless with life where it didn't feel like I had a purpose, I had friends or family, extremely isolated. I was like, all right, dude, what's gonna happen? And it and this is me talking to the depressed version of me like, am I gonna sit in this puddle and just sulk and and wither away because it's too painful to get up? Or am I gonna keep moving? Yes, I might run into another puddle later down the line, but in between that puddle and the next one, I could have some good experiences. And you dry off. Yeah, and you dry off. That's that's a very good point. Yeah, you you dry off. So my brain has always told me, all right, keep moving. Even if it's bad right now, it won't be bad forever. And I think we can get kind of suffocated in that thought of, oh my god, the world's crashing in. What do I do? You want to hit the eject of the panic button. Don't do that. That's not the easiest way out. You have to be able to sit there and understand that that pain will pass. It is simply just temporary. There are better days ahead that you have to look forward to. I might not see it in that very moment, but you have to know it's there. Even if it's the smallest little thing, like someone holds the door for you. Okay. That person wouldn't have been able to have that act of kindness if you weren't there. So be there. Yes, it's gonna suck, but you're gonna have great experiences while you're here. And I think that's you know, a piece where you know, I I've had friends, you know, die way too young and you learn some shit, and it's like, man, if if I could have just had that conversation with them, or if I could have just maybe invited them out, or go play basketball, or go shoot hoops, or or that's the same thing, but simple, simple things of like, hey, go in the driving range. Like it it's such a small act to reach out and try to be a friend when as a man our ego's like, nah, that's corny, don't do that, or whatever. Like, no, you you need someone to kind of come in and check on you from time to time, which in social media I think we lack a lot of community, we lack a lot of friendships. So having this kind of be like an open discussion between us and you guys, this is what we're trying to build. And if you can go through and be a good friend, you learn something. You're you're being a good person, and that'll never, ever, ever be a bad thing.

SPEAKER_00 31:50

Yeah, perfect. I think weekly is exactly what Corbin said is what we're gonna be bringing. Uh, Quickscope Podcast is gonna be a quickscope into different topics every week. Yeah, we might have a hot topic for you that's going on in social media. There might be something in the health and fitness world that we want to talk about, the mental health world, um, the financial world, um, maybe some tips and tricks that we've kind of learned, not necessarily just to teach you, but just to let you know what's working for us right now. Um, things that we're learning along the way as well. So that's kind of what it's gonna look like weekly, uh, so that you guys can tune in and hopefully learn something every week.

SPEAKER_01 32:29

So if you guys have suggestions on what we should do or talk about or things you want to hear our takes on, drop a comment, DM us. We're getting the the formalities straightened out. We're figuring out how to do this whole thing. It's our first time at life, and it's our first time doing this. So patience.

SPEAKER_00 32:46

Um this is a quick scope into our first time. Yes, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 32:49

So again, no pressure. Um heart, follow for more. Push that subscribe button. Yeah, shout out Big Juman. Um, but yeah. All right, guys. Catch you next time. See ya.