(6.3) Soul Girls Summer

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Soul Girls Summer Kickoff — Inner Circle Call Replay

On this call we kicked off Soul Girls Summer — a whole season devoted to stewarding your nervous system before you serve, sell, or lead anyone else.

I taught the two-gear model: survival (sympathetic) and safety (parasympathetic). You only get one gas tank a day, sis — and when you're living in survival mode, cortisol and adrenaline are draining it before noon. Here's the part most high-achieving women miss: your CEO brain — the discernment, warmth, presence, and patience God designed you to lead with — only comes online when your body feels safe. You cannot out-strategize a dysregulated nervous system.

Then we walked through the five-part model: Circumstance → Thought → Feeling → Action → Result. We used a lost sale as our example. "This sucks" leads to discouragement, discouragement leads to quitting, quitting leads to no sales. That's the stress cycle. But when you treat that same loss as data over drama — evaluate it, renew your mind with the Word, ask curious questions, follow up — you step into the success cycle. Same circumstance. Completely different result.

We finished with the physiological sigh: two sharp inhales through the nose, one long exhale, up to three times. Five minutes a day is enough to lift your mood and lower your stress — and y'all felt it on the spot.

This isn't a one-call fix. We're taking the whole summer to build new neural pathways. Name the thought to tame the thought — and let's get to work.

Transcript

SPEAKER_03 0:00

In Jesus' mighty name. All right. So you guys, I am so excited about Soul Girl Summer. Putting me in the chat or hands in the air if you're driving. When you read the email and you're like, yeah, let's go. Let's go. I'm going for nervous system regulation. I'm going for great clarity to make the biggest and best decisions I ever have. I'm stepping up my game to realize that God can, I can trust God a whole lot more than I am. And I'm going to start doing it today. I this kind of came birthed out of our walk around the um beautiful San Diego Lagoon into Annie's Canyon. And it was actually Mindy, Lindsay, and I. Is Lynn's on yet? Lindsay! All right, maybe a hold for the for the thing. Um, let me print us up and then um we're gonna go through some wins, and then we are gonna regulate our nervous system and then some. And um, I'm very excited because you know what? I worked pretty stinking hard. I'm a medical degree and I did pretty decent. Does anyone have a degree that they actually don't use at all? Drop in the chat. I'm actually kind of interested what you went for school for and if you actually use it or not. Because when people find out that I'm a nurse and I have a and I did it twice, I did a bachelor's in pre-med and then I did a bachelor's in nursing, don't recommend. Just choose your path. Like let your kids take a gap here and like figure it out. Like it's way too hard to do both. Um, but God. But drop in the chat if you guys went to school for something, but you and then say yes using it or no, not at all, because it is kind of unique. And then there's some ballers on here that you guys just bypass college. You're like, forget it, dude. I'm jumping in all day, every day. And there's it again. Welcome, welcome, welcome to the gorgeous Brianna. I am so excited for her to introduce herself and tell you why she is joining inner circle. You guys are going to be obsessed. And fun enough, Alicia and Brianna um were we're representing the Florida crew. And soon and very soon, Katie will have fun here. She's in Naples. Um, but they go to my besties church, Madeira Beach. And I'm super, super excited. So there's my Lindsay girl. Lynz, I was I was sharing about you. So we'll we'll do that. So let me get it sprayed up. I am beyond thankful for all that the Lord's doing in and through your guys' life. And I have such expectancy with learning how to regulate our nervous system, how much greater we're gonna step into not the stress cycle, which I'm gonna teach you all, but into success cycle. We ready? Father, I thank you for today, Lord. I thank you for the wisdom of the Lord and revelation of you. And I thank you, Father, that you birthed this entire soul's girl summer because of you and because what you're asking us to do, Father, no longer do you want us to stay in an unregulated nervous system, stressed out, burned out, exhausted, not having the clarity of mind to truly see and discern the spiritual things as well as the things in our business. Father, I thank you. I break off anything of torment of the mind, anything of hormone imbalance, anything of infertility, anything that has come against our bodies, Father, because of the high-achieving women you've made us. Father, I thank you that we you restore all things. Father, I plead the blood of Jesus from the crown of our heads to the soles of our feet, that we be washed clean, made wider than snow. Father, I thank you as these words go forth, that we be captivated by your word, Father, by your breath of life that breathes inside of us. Father, something that we don't even think about, that you regulate. Just as our heartbeats, Father, I thank you, Lord Jesus, that we will settle in today to the next level of growth for this summer, Father, for your glory in Jesus' mighty name. Amen. So I we we got to get to know Brianna because we're not gonna have her up in here without ever knowing how amazing she is. So, Brianna, welcome to the Inner Circle Girl. We are so excited to have you. We'd love to know you, what you do, and why God said, get your booty up in this place. Well, thank you, Ali.

SPEAKER_00 4:29

I am so excited to be here with everybody. I'm excited to hear everybody's stories and meet everybody and the paths that they went through and are going through. Um, and just being a part of it, being a part of the group of women who um, interestingly enough, I work corporate in an executive job. And the industry I work in is surrounded by I am constantly in rooms of three to eight executive men over the age of 50. White men over the age of 50. So being in a room full of women is actually new to me and one I'm very excited for. Uh, it's very different conversations, and I feel like there is a realness and vulnerability that can happen here, but it can't happen in the boardroom. So I am really uh just gracious and thank you, Allie, for your time. Um and excited. I am excited for all of you guys um to work with all of you, meet all of you, build relationships with you guys, and just what the Lord has in this upcoming season. My seasons of life is changing from the boardroom to entrepreneurship. So um really this couldn't be better timing that God has put this in my life, um, getting me ready for that next step to walk in with God. So thank you. Really excited for for this opportunity. So thank you guys.

SPEAKER_03 5:57

Yes, all right, blow up the chat. And especially you're speaking to a lot of people that work with men. So look at Tina. Tina and her truckers headed to the thing. She runs a multimillion dollar trucking company. So her to like come to the first retreat was like, yeah, I'm not showing up. Like, I don't do the whole girl thing. This whole even dress code that you sent out that we should wear, like, yeah, no, I'm not coming. And her life has been completely changed, and everyone's kind of laughing and smiling because they can totally agree to add all that. Brianna's being super humble. She's an absolute boss in the financial world. My bestie, Pastor Debbie, was like, dude, this chick is brilliant. She is totally on top of everything. I went and met with her. She had a slideshow presentation. I had one question. It was like, here it is to the tenth. She's like, she's inner circle. So find the people in your life that refer people. If we look around this whole table, most of you were those people referred by other people. So Brianna, we're so excited to learn from you, girlfriend, because you smart, use con, and use important. So I want to hear any other wins though, real quick. So before Brianna, whenever we open up, we always talk about wins, why it builds our faith. Um, God's always doing exciting things. One thing that like shocked me a couple weeks ago is uh Katie, which I hope she's getting on their, oh, Jess the best is coming in. So she's financial planner of excellence too. But Katie Girl was like, I don't know if I have any wins. Um, well, I sold a $4.2 million house. I was like, wait, where as high achieving women do we just decide like that's not important? Like we don't celebrate things, right? Like we sometimes get to a place where like, eh, it's you know, not that big a deal. It's a huge deal. It's a huge deal. So with that, I'm gonna shut up. Who's got some wins up in here that they want to share?

SPEAKER_07 7:45

This is kind of a fun one. Our oldest is 15, and yesterday was his first day at our company. He is interning and working at Verb. Uh, he has a different boss, not his parents, but a man that I adore and I think is amazing. And so uh it's fun to see the legacy continue to unfold.

SPEAKER_03 8:09

Girl, let's that's a massive win. I love that so much. And Christine, I cannot wait to hug your neck and Ray Ray and Amy Girl at the Marriage Made in Heaven. But come on, let's go, girl. That is legacy. That is legacy.

SPEAKER_09 8:29

I'll uh I'll just say really quick that uh uh we finished the Blood Cancer United campaign, and I really just didn't know what God was doing in and through it. But the gala was on Friday, and every day it was really about seeking him every day for how to how to manage doing something that big. Um it was so cool because I was sitting there at the gala thinking, oh, I'm gonna be like the the team that raised the least amount of money, they're gonna put us all up there and I'm gonna be at the bottom. Like that's not how it went down at all. Um, the winner raised $337,000. And I'm like, oh, it wasn't about me, which I knew that the whole time. But I still don't know how we raised $82,000. I'm super proud of proud of the number that we raised, and God was in the details. Ended in seven, 77 cents. Um glad that's completed. And then I started at my new brokerage and getting settled in, and I just know I'm where I'm supposed to be. Um, my business partner, Erica, don't know if she's coming over still, but it's all good. Like everything's going smooth, and here we are. I'm excited.

SPEAKER_03 9:37

Yes, let's go, Mindy. You looked absolutely gorgeous. The girlies looked amazing, and I'm so proud of you because you're like, okay, Al, and your success sheet, you're just like, I'm not so sure fundraising's for me. I pretty much can check this off. But here's the thing: if we don't try things, and we can never consider it a failure. We're gonna talk about that. Our nervous system when we're in the stress cycle, immediate failure. Oh, I did do it right. Instead of being like, hey, here's the data, I did it, I didn't love it, not for me, next, right? Like that is the biggest take-home message, I think, in anything that we do. Um, and to really look at failure and say, bring it, bring it, baby. Just the best people are asking how you are, and I just got off the phone with you earlier, so I you can share with everyone.

SPEAKER_08 10:27

Doing okay. Um, my voice is still trying to come back. We won't go into that, but um fine. I mean, it's been a it's been a rough morning, but I'm here. I don't know how long I'm gonna be here. Um because we should be hopefully coming out of surgery very soon. So I've had some good cries this morning, but all is all is fine. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 10:53

Okay, and on my screen, just the best and Brianna are like besties on top of each other. I cannot wait. I'm gonna give you guys each other's number. You're both the most brilliant financial people I know in my life, and you're fun and you're real, and you're raw, and you talk a lot like each other. When I met Brianna, I'm like, oh, just the best and I is like almost initial conversation to a T. Like, listen, listen, we're real here. We real, real and real transparent. Okay, you listen up. So, Jess, we are so proud of you. We're so proud of the fact that you're wearing fours glory from head to toe to declare who you stand for and what you believe for, because in and through all this, God is working a miracle. So we prayed together before they put Matt out. And I'm like, Father, I thank you that why they put him underneath all the medication that and instead of like having anything, he encounters you and it's just like, whoa, you're not gonna believe what happened to me. I just had an encounter with the living God, everything's changing. We're doing a little removal here because we're we're replacing it big time with a spiritual growth that he's never seen before. So, yes and amen. And yes, your post this morning, Jess, let's go. Come on. And I think the most important thing is gonna be too when we do this whole exercise today, we're gonna realize how we take these moments and turn them into momentum and come out the other side thankful for each and every opportunity to go through the hell, the fire. Anyone in a fire? Anyone in hell? Anyone, yeah, raise your hand. It has been like hell on wheels over here. Not gonna, not gonna like sugarcoat nothing. Like we have had so much come against us, and I know it's because of the marriage made in heaven retreat. I know it is. I know that God's gonna do mighty signs and wonders. And I was honest with Ray Ray the other day in my AI coaching. I said, Ray, I don't want to go through the spiritual warfare that I know it's gonna take to do marriage made in heaven. That's why I waited. And it is almost like Satan's like, oh, wait till this week, wait till wait till you see what I have in my sleeve, right? And just like, I mean, craziness, stuff that's never happened to my children. Like it's not great. But but God, but God. I know he's sovereign. I had to teach Jake to press in for a miracle last night where I was freight out of my mind, ready to go to the ER, right? And I'm like, you are blessed, you are fine this night, like, right? And then and behind me, I was like, I went to the garage and I was looking up urgent care that was open, right? Like, we're gonna have these situations, and I'm gonna teach you the autonomic system where our autonomic always says, no, no, no, this is what we do. And when we're in that fight or flight moment, we cannot make the right decision. But praise God for discerning the spirits and praise God for regulated nervous systems, and it's a choice. So, does anyone else have a win before I I get in? Yes.

SPEAKER_11 13:33

Oh, wait, just somebody else go? Real quick, real quick. You got the um so Pete and Mackenzie and Addy are in the Philippines right now and they're there for two weeks. And well, and Grandpa, yeah, sorry, I got the reason why I'm like on the phone and run around is I got the car full of cans. We yeah, we're doing the thing, but so I'm keeping five kids alive and a business running while they're on a different time zone. And the spiritual is uh thing. And the first couple days I was not myself, but I just like pressed through it all and leaned in and like worshiped, read scripture, talked it out, and I feel so much peace and joy. And not that it's easy because nothing about this is easy, but I like we can see Pete once in a while, like we'll talk for a few minutes, and he looks like a different man. And I'm so excited for him because I've been on yeah, I think I've been on such a spiritual like world journey since starting like with inner circle and learning all about and like meaning the word. And I'm so excited because I feel like my family's catching up. And he's just been sharing how Mackenzie and Addy are just you know, they've gone up for prayer and they're doing a lot of stuff over there, like it is not easy, but the spirit is moving, and so I'm just so so excited because I feel like it's moving us in a general like alignment. And not that he was like unequally yoked or anything like that, because he's a strong man of faith, but just not as much focus on the business as ministry and furthering the kingdom, but in that I haven't even closed out man yet. Yeah, last year's sales were like 1.5 million. This year we're already over 1.6, and we haven't even closed out the month. And this is in the middle of like all of this stuff with the union where we've you know lost customers and God is restoring what has been lost and more. That union is going back to these customers, they've told us that they can't use us anymore, telling them they can use Cadm. And so he is just restoring the work, and he's it's exciting to see him work. So, anyways, it's and not that it's like, oh, do good things and then God blesses your business. Like, that's not my heart, but it was cool to to be pressing into him and to be showing up and saying yes when he asks us to do something that's hard. And then he's like, Oh, yeah, and by the way, like you didn't even expect this, and I'm showing up and just the stories that are gonna be coming home from the Philippines. You know, I have a feeling we're gonna be we're gonna be over there quite a bit, which is a little bit much to swallow with how many kids we have, but you know what? If anyone can do it, we can do it. So we travel well.

SPEAKER_03 16:18

Full send, full send, drop it like a hot. Where are you? Full send, A B. Right here.

SPEAKER_06 16:26

Um yeah, we uh we hosted vacation bible school at the center this past week. So we got to minister to over 300 kids. Um yeah, so that was really, really cool. Um and then yeah, God dropped another two million dollar deal on my lap yesterday. And we were able to buy a new solar panel for the center. Um so that's been really cool. And then just trying to collaborate with all the other churches that are here in uh San Jose and San Lucas and kind of get like under one ministry with all of the different English speaking pastors. So it's been cool to see God move in a couple different ways down here. So yeah. Girl!

SPEAKER_03 17:17

Okay, Brianna, I need to like catch you up on A B, which A B, we can't see your face, and I think we need to. Um here she comes hot. There she is. She came to retreat in October, and she was like, Okay, I'm ready for or March, excuse me. Next one's October, you'll be there. She's like, I need exorcism. I'm here for my exorcism. Take my phone, take everything, like everything. I'm burning everything to the ground. This life I'm living, I'm out. She had a stress tremor. She liked her whole nervous system. If we could say like it was burned to the ground, it was burned to the ground and like took took through the cement. Like she was shot. And she did the work. She came to retreat. Like, I will build back bigger and better. I will build with him and him alone because I can't do this. I am not doing this anymore. And then, and she had a zero pipeline. By the way, she made zero dollars, zero after like multi-million dollar things. And then the Lord just started bringing in supernatural gifts. But more importantly, she started building the local church in Cabo San Lucas and trying to connect pastors together to say, hey, why don't we do this together? And she came by way of Ray Ray, who I had the honor of baptizing, who was in the same stuff who said, Okay, I tried everything. This life sucks. I'm not doing it. Like, I need Jesus. Like, burn everything to the ground, burn the ships. I'm going all in full send. So, Ray Ray, I know you have some wins to share. I'm calling you.

SPEAKER_13 18:42

Totally. Oh my gosh. Well, Brianna, welcome. So excited to get to know you. Um, major wins of just crazy successful, miraculous surgery where like ovary was saved. I came out, like, came to, and the surgeon, the surgeon's nurse was like, I've never saved an ovary in this in this type of experience. I was like, praise God, that's Jesus. Um, I it was the first time I had like an accident where I felt so supported and just had so many prayers around me, and I just had total peace that I was like, Yep, knock me out and do what you need to do. Like, all is good. Let's just move on. Um, and then I've had a miraculous healing through the whole thing. So I'm just feeling already 100% back. And they said it was like, you know, take two weeks to be really easy. And I've been like, okay, is it two weeks yet? Because I I didn't want to push it, but I've like, I felt great two days after. Um so that's God there. And then, of course, like right after that, then we moved into our new home. And it has just been the biggest blessing, and it's so funny because it I didn't want to move in here, and now I'm like, how did I not want to move here? And the whole time Sammy, my husband, was like, God thing, we have to be here. Like, this is like all God driven, like, it's all good, it's gonna be fine. And I just had all this like anxiety and all these lies in my mind about what it would be. And um, we're like a week and a half into living in this home, and I'm obsessed, and I just can't even imagine like being anywhere else, experiencing anything else, every like little surprise. I'm just like, this is amazing. So um, I just feel like there's there's so much obedience that has happened, and I feel like I'm on the other side of just this like crazy wild journey where God's like, okay, now I get to show you what rest looks like. And it doesn't mean slowing down or stopping. It actually is there's still expansion and evolution, but there's a whole different way that I'm gonna show you how you're gonna do this. And um, it's been wild, and we've since being in the whole this week, actually, this is Wednesday. This week, um, we've already had one new AI client that's like locked with like full uh painful sent over. Another one that wants to do our full package, um, and is like giving us they wanted to just chat through it um till so we reconnect with them on Monday. So I'm praying on that. But I'm just like, whoa, like I can really see God moving and like using us. And I think as our nervous system calms down because we're just in one place, I just feel like God's like, all right, now are you ready? I'm like, thank you for listening and like stopping all these travels. Now I can like do the next thing with you guys. So uh last night when we were Sammy and I were sitting at dinner, just like this is so wild, and we're just in so much gratitude. And we kind of made this declaration where we're like, we actually don't want to be known as like the AI people, like as we're kind of reestablishing ourselves here locally, and we feel like we're gonna meet all new people too, like, because there's just such a shift in who we are. We're like, we wanna be known as like the People that are putting up playgrounds and orphanages. So, like, how do we do that? And and then for people to say, How did you guys do that? And they were like, Oh, well, we did all this AI and branding and business and stuff. So it was just a really cool, like, heart reheart center last night for the two of us to just get really clear on like why are we why are we grounding? Why are we doing this? And um, yeah, I'm stoked.

SPEAKER_03 22:25

I'm squeezing my buck cheeks, Teffy, like balling my eyes out. Cause you know, my heart is about the least of these in the orphans. So, like, and Brianna's doing this incredible nonprofit. Brianna, you will get your opportunity for sure to share like what God's putting on your heart because it's ridiculous. And Ray and Amy, there's several people on this call that you need to connect with um to really build that because everyone needs to hear it.

SPEAKER_13 22:49

Anyway, okay, drive us saw in the thread. I didn't even know this. Amy said that Sammy and Scott are now reading the Bible together. I didn't even know that was happening, but praise God. That is amazing.

SPEAKER_06 23:03

Yeah, that's as of yesterday. So let's keep it going.

SPEAKER_13 23:08

I'm putting them no pressure. Not gonna even bring it up.

SPEAKER_03 23:13

Yeah, I'm putting them next together. I'm moving seats already in my brain for Monday. So Scotty and Sammy are getting two new seats. Let's go. Okay, you guys, I am so excited. So I love how we dropped our um, I asked you guys to drop your degrees and if you're actually using them in the chat. So I'm gonna go back real quick. Uh Sherry uses both her degrees all day, long and even for fun. Let's go. Sherry and I are both nurses um and nurse practitioner. Uh, Cordy uses hers. Leisha, totally different. Um, Wendy has a master's in energy and earth resources. That was our first uh six-figure build before moving over to real estate. Um, English major with the master's in arts of teaching. Oh my gosh, yes, an amen for our TL of Excellence. Christine makes perfect sense. Um okay, anyone else? Y'all can drop it in there. But isn't it so interesting? Um, okay, business degree, Tina, waste of time compared to reality. I love it. You can gain more in the inner circle than probably in four years. I've heard that multiple times. Political science and communications, masters in accounting, not using BFA and performance. Ray Ray is the best story. I will never get over Ray's story flying home from a retreat together. I'm just like, wait, I'm sorry, what like y'all need to hear at retreat? I think we should go deeper into each other's stories. Um, business degree for Linz. Okay. So the reason I asked that is because you had to transfer knowledge as what you knew into who you've become, right? Some of us are still in it. So let me give you an example. I have um, you know it's getting real, for real.

SPEAKER_05 25:08

Hold on.

SPEAKER_03 25:15

So, Brianna, not every day do I pull out this, but I will have slide, I'll have some kind of thing to teach because my background is in nursing. I have a bachelor's of science in health sciences pre-med from University of Minnesota, and I have another bachelor's of science from Loyola University in nursing. And I also started my master's in nursing education, and I was a professor for, I feel like it's a total different life, um, but for a decade before I had a one-pound miracle baby end up in our hospital. She needed a nurse at home. I went home. She was $2.5 million. Anyone in debt, anyone feeling stressed out about money? Okay, when you get a $2.5 million medical bill, and you are broke, and I'm not even kidding, broke, but you have to now be broke and leave your job because that cute little $2.5 million, she was this big, four pounds on oxygen monitor. She needed an at-home nurse. Oh, and the husband, he was in full-time school. Oh, and then he went through a PhD. So he was actually not even in full-time, he was a hundred K debt on top of 2.5. Okay. So sometimes we look at people and they're like, oh, they just touch everything, it turns to gold. Brie and I talked about this the other day. She's like, somehow, some ways that everyone thinks I'm like, life is so easy for me on the street. So I'm like, wait till you join inner circle. We'll be like, life is actually not so easy on the street. We just make a choice to show up. So I gotta make sure I got all my notes. Y'all can see me good. I'm pinned, yeah. Shout out if not. So we are gonna go back to Alley 1.0, which can you tell how excited I am? Because A, I spent a lot of money learning this, and B, I did freaking good at it because I work hard in everything I do. But the brain, the brain to me was the most exciting thing about anything I learned. Put brain in the chat if you're like, let's go, girl. I want to learn about the brain. And even more so when we're talking about longevity. And if you've opened up your internet anytime soon, you know everyone's talking about longevity in your brain. So I'm gonna shock you. Are you guys ready for some shocking? And I'm gonna be really real and trust transparent because I'm not the coach that sugarcoats. But there's two, there's two gears. Okay, why don't you just imagine our car, right? We got two gears in the car. That's it, that's all. And the first one is survival. Y'all remember when Jess the Best said, you know, guys, I'm just in survival. And we all just said, Oh, you're in revival? And then it's so cute because she just posted a picture of her and Matthew gift from God, and she's got her revival hat on, right? It's how she wants to hear, it's having the way ears to hear and eyes to see what God's doing in heaven. So we have survival, right? There's there's two gears only, and then we have safety. Now I'm gonna break this down super easy. Okay, I'm not gonna go hardcore nursing or any medical things, and you can jump in, Sherry, if you want. So our survival is our sympathetic system. Okay, sympathetic system means survival.

SPEAKER_02 28:23

And then we have safety, and that's our parasympathetic. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 28:34

Right now I need you to turn off your phones, turn off your tabs, and everything because your nervous system is telling you to check out. Your nervous system is saying, Oh, I need to go to safety, I need to go to rest, I need to be distracted. And here's how I know to be true. I watch your eyes and I can watch what you guys are doing, but I know physiologically what happens when we start pressing on our nervous system that is absolutely kind of checked out. Put me in the chat if you're like, uh, yeah, I I actually kind of feel that. Here's the most important thing you need to know. Just like your car, you get one gas tank. Okay? Every day you get one gas tank filled up. One. Once it's depleted, it doesn't refill. Until the next day, you have to what? Rest, go into a REM, get T fighter cells, everything gets built back up. You get a full gas tank and you deplete it. Here's the deal: most of us fly through the gas tank, and then we still have that gas panel slammed to the ground, engine redlining going nowhere fast, right? Put boom in the chat if that's absolutely you. You feel like that gas tank is so empty, but you're like turning into mom mode, turning into nonprofit mode. I have to hit into my next gear, but there's absolutely nothing in there. And why is there nothing in there? Because we're all in our sympathetic. Why do I know this? Y'all wouldn't be in inner circle if you were not. All high-achieving women, which you all are, are in survival most of your days, and you have been most of your careers. If you weren't, you wouldn't have achieved what you achieved. So why is this concerning?

SPEAKER_05 30:37

So this is our go go go. Go go go. What is it? It's cortisol through the roof.

SPEAKER_03 30:50

Also, adrenaline through the roof, and guess what happens? Do not miss this. What happens when cortisol and adrenaline are through the roof when we're in our parasynthetic? This might shock you because you're all so stinking brilliant. Your brain is off. Your brain is off. And I'm gonna shock you again and show you why this is such an eye-opener. And until you fully understand it, you won't change it. And then I'm gonna teach some of you mommies and soon-to-be mommies why it is so imperative that you do this work this summer. It is so imperative for each and every one of us. You're not a mom yet. Money, some of you will be moms soon, but a lot of us are. It is so imperative that you get this right today. No delay in Jesus' name. So what is what's our parent, what's the what's the safety going on? What's going on here? You know, she's just resting and building. Resting and building. That's what that's what the sympathetic's doing. She's just in safety land. You know what she's doing? She's got calms. She's calm and clear. She has a regulated nervous system. And her brain is tiring. It's on. So same gas tank, two different people. Inner circle on the left, and the rest of our friends and family that we really admire to be like on the right. So I want you to drop me one of your rest and build people, the calm, connected people that are just living their best life with their brain turned on. Drop me those people in the chat. Boom, my mother-in-law and father-in-law. Christine, I do believe you are. But I do believe you've done the work. I do believe you are. And we are so thankful. First follower. Brianna, that was the first. Her and Mindy are the first people that ever said yes to Inner Circle. And I'll be eternally grateful for those souls. Same, mother and father-in-law retired.

SPEAKER_04 33:32

True, Katan. I just read your scoop of pre-workout.

SPEAKER_03 33:37

Let's go. Yeah, we're gonna change that. We're gonna change that because the scoop of pre-workout over time ain't gonna give us calm and clear. It resets and rewires. It's so phenomenal. You guys have learned so much this summer. I'm going deep into all this. I'm I'm preaching to Joshua last night, and he's like, babe, yeah, I need that work. I'm like, you get the replay. So I love you, babe. You're on the replay. This is why we're inviting husbands in. Not in this, but obviously to help them. Um okay, father-in-law. I can't think of too many, honestly, right? Lindsay, you spot it, you got it. You are with like attracts like. We think of the five people, like Jim Rohn says, you become like the five people you surround yourself. That's why inner circle is so, so, so like beyond in the results that you guys get. It's each other, it's the family thread. Gianna and Marissa, yes, they are, Ray. But guess what? Marissa specifically has done the work. She wasn't like that. She used to be a stressed-out go, go, go. And one day her whole body shut down on her. And she had to. I've been seeking peace and joy, more fruits of the spirit. This is feeding that. Let's go. I for sure it wasn't like that. God did all the work. God did the work. Come on, girl. Dog did a good work. I'm pretty calm, but I have my moments. I work hard with God to find peace. Sherry, I've seen that in you big time. Big time. I've seen you settle in more this year in inner circle than years past. And it's hurt. We've had some conversations. It hasn't felt good. I thought of Christine, Ray, and Sherry. Honestly, there you go. I love how you guys always esteem others better than themselves. Like, let's go, Bible. Let's go. Okay. So, so, so good. All right. Yes. You are a calm person, Lens. Until we get troubled waters sometimes, right? Majority of us are can can be completely calm until things get a little shaky. We're gonna do that. So here's what I want to show you. The brain, this is this is why science is so cool. Like, how many pages do I have here? We're gonna can y'all still see if I go down low? Yeah, you can see here. Okay, here comes my I'm gonna push this down. Okay, here comes my brain.

SPEAKER_05 36:22

Oh, this is good.

SPEAKER_03 36:24

That is so bad. I'm looking this way, okay? She's looking that way. We get no money on how well I can how well I can draw. But this is our brain, she's looking outwards. Okay, this beautiful thing is called your prefrontal cortex. Okay, why why is it so important to learn this? Okay, so the blood, so when we are front brain, right? The front brain, the CEO, the lights on, all of this, you know what lives there? Discernment, warmth, presence, patience, that all lives right here in the front of our brain. Okay? Do you guys want me to write that out? You you write it down. I'm running out of room. Discernment, warmth, presence, patience. That means the CEO lives in the front brain. Why? You are responsible for your business or for what you are leading and what you're doing. You have to have number one, the greatest discernment. However, check this out. That's only when we are in safety. Only when we are in safety does that turn on. Your prefrontal cortex is a CEO of your entire body as well. Here's the thing. Those four things that we talked about discernment, warmth, presence, patience. I kind of took like Bible and integrated it into my medical brain. But those exact four things, every sale and every soul requires. Put 100% in the chat if you agree with that. Every sale and every soul requires. But the moment we flip into survival, your body says, you know what? The CEO can wait. We might be dying. We're probably dying. Yes, we're we're dead. And it shuts the lights off in the front office and it sends all the blood to your arms and your legs because we got to run, baby, run. The bear's coming. I'm seeing y'all laughing because you know that's exactly what happens in your business. And I'm gonna prove it to you when we go through that life coaching CFTR, CTFAR, because the feelings inside of that thing, that's like one of the only things I got about life coaching. I'm like, that feelings is your nervous system. No wonder people completely shut down. These brilliant people can't make the right decisions. They have zero discernment and such incredible opportunities of great growth. So here's the deal: when you're on your sales calls and you're white knuckling it, or you're pre-workouting it, I love you, A B, you are me, wondering why you can't think and why you got short with the prospect or short with your husband, because he's, after all, the other CEO in the business, and why you miss the next obvious next question. And you know you're not bad at sales, and you know you're not a bad founder, your CEO had its lights off. The brain had shut down, and you are trying to lead your business. This is for you, Tina, in the supply closet. Because all that blood is not in the frontal cortex. I'm gonna stop because court's gonna give me a TT anyway. But what is landing for you guys right now in that scenario? Maybe y'all have heard this before, maybe some of you heard it a long time, but I want you to come off chat real quick and say what's landing for you right now? Is this your current scenario?

SPEAKER_13 40:27

I can share something really quick because I feel like I just got out of it, or I'm getting out of it. I'm unwinding from it. Um, but for sure, like I was in full uh sympathetic survival. The last um, I would say it like it started in February or March till May. Like it was the last like three months. And I kind of knew getting into it, like looking at my calendar, noticing how I was feeling to start getting pregnant. I was like, uh-oh, like we're gonna have to just kind of gear up. But reflecting on it, I think one of the biggest things that I saw was I had to disappoint people. And I had to be okay with disappointing them because even though I was in survival, I because I knew it, and maybe you know, Mindy, I saw you said, like, I'm in survival now. Like, I guess what's prompting for me is like we're all smart. So like when we know we're in survival, or say it's a season, and we know that this is just kind of what God is giving us, how do we um how do we deal with that? You know, like of course you can just like halt the brakes and stop everything, but sometimes you can't. Like if you're pregnant or you have something going on, like you know, there's just sometimes you just can't. And so um just I wanted to share that. In reflecting, I'm like, wow, I had to let down a lot of people. Um but and I also knew that it was just a season, and now I like literally on Monday, my brain like turned on in a way that I haven't felt it turn on since February. And I was like, oh, there she is. Okay, hello hello, Pluto Ray. Like, let's get back um to some type of you know, here being here, but I'm feeling more um in the parasympathetic, so my brain could turn on again. Um, so literally what you're saying and sharing, I'm like, yep, like just experienced that, and I'm so glad I'm getting. I know it can't happen that fast, but also maybe it can with God's. I can't with God as it's sort of this like completely, I feel like a different person in a great, great way. Some reflection on that.

SPEAKER_03 42:34

So good, so powerful. Anyone else?

SPEAKER_09 42:40

I was just gonna say when summer starts, I feel like the survival mode gets even more intense because one of my biggest struggles is the mom guilt of you know, putting the kids in a camp and them saying, I don't want to go, I want to, you know, want to be with you, but we can be intentional and have a day like that we look forward to that I set aside for them. Um and then when I get them there, just to be very, very focused and turn on that part of my brain and be intentional about where I'm doing it. Because right now I'm realizing the couch probably isn't the best place. I just cleaned out my office upstairs because now I don't have an office to go to, and I need to be in a space where I can activate that part of my brain because here I'm distracted by the dog and like the chickens and all the things, like there's so many distractions. So, anyways, I'm yeah, and I just got a call from the school. My daughter's sick, so I'm like trying to not jump on it like she's not gonna die in the next 30 minutes. But I just, yeah, there's always something that can pull us away.

SPEAKER_03 43:43

Always, and it's a choice, and we're gonna go through the how we make the choice and how we're able to really discern where we need to be in the present part of being calm and regulated. We make the best decision, and mom guilt can't. Live there. Boss guilt doesn't live there. Female founder doesn't live there. Why? Because we are so regulated. We know what decision we made and we made it in perfect peace without having that decision fatigue. These are so good. So check this out. Tina just said I literally just threw away my to-do list and a ton of notebooks meant to keep me focused on my goals and my list. And God told me that the goals that matter do not need the list, they will flow from the spirit. What does that mean? We're in the flow of the Holy Spirit. All of us, all of us are hearing from the one God, one living God, not 30 million gods, one true living God by the Holy Spirit. We're going to flow like never before. That's what it means to be a soul girl's summer. In the flow with the Holy Spirit in a calm and regulated way. Because why? You want to see the next step here? Y'all are amazing. Y'all loving this? I got so much more this summer. I'm too excited. So let's talk about the good stuff. Let's talk about the good stuff. When we are in this safety, that Ray Ray just talked so profoundly about. And she got off Pluto and she's like, oh my gosh, I'm actually really smart. And I'm closing great sales. And I'm a present mom because I see Rafa all up in your space and I'm obsessed with them. And she's handing him Legos while she's, are you 20 weeks pregnant-ish? You're getting there, possibly halfway. But when we stay here, you guys, these brains are bad. Bless my heart. When we stay here, our brain turns on because our blood flow is going in to our CEO brain because our nervous system says, hey, I'm safe here. I can do this. I know what it is to stay calm and regulated with my brain on because I practice it. Practice being the key. When we're dysregulated, we feel unsafe. Our body's like, I am dying. Surely we are not going to make it through. I can't give you any blood because these feet are going to outrun the bear that's on my heels. Anyone feel like that consistently? And you know how it shows up? You know how it shows up? That gas tank is on E, and you're like, certainly got 50 more miles in this baby. Drilling thing. Right? Y'all are laughing because this is who we are. These people. I've been on Easton's Jimmy. Good. We can pour some more. Yes, I'll start a nonprofit tomorrow. Absolutely, I'll raise 5 million for the blood cancer. Oh, you need me tomorrow, 4 p.m. Keynote. I'm in, right? It's an inability to do what Ray did. Actually, no. So I'm really, I'm really gonna disappoint you. I'm not showing up. You know, I'm midway through this campaign raising all this money for blood cancer, but my heart's not in it, so I'm actually out. You know what? This business partnership isn't working for me and for us, and you know what? I know you're gonna be, but I'm gonna have to cut or cut our ties. Hey, this church is saying one thing and doing a whole different, and it's not like uh I have a big red flag here, so I'm actually gonna have to go to a new church, right? It's the things that we don't want to do that we won't make the decisions make, but when we're in safety, it's like, oh my gosh, no-brainer. No brainer, this is what I'm gonna do. And I'm gonna have zero guilt around it because I'm stepping into what God's asked me to do with great discernment, with great peace, patience, and I have such warmth. The problem is, you know what happens when we're in survival? We don't listen. We don't listen, we don't have ears to hear. It literally makes us almost deaf to the things of the spirit. Why? Because CNA, baby. And this is California, CNA. I'm like, everyone here just runs on cortisol and adrenaline, probably in Cabo too, because y'all are on the Baja. No. So here's what I want us to focus on. We're gonna make a baddie list. And I actually stole this from Lauren Fields, who eventually you guys will meet. I'm trying to get her saved. I had Kat Sorensen meet her in Austin at the biohacking thing. I'm like, this girl, this girl wants Jesus. So one thing that she does that I think is absolutely bristling is she makes her clients come in and write 10 things that they thought they were never, ever gonna get through, and they did. So I'm gonna ask you guys to write three things down, some super hard things in your life that you were like, I am not gonna get through this. I surely gonna die. That bear is gonna outrun me, and I am toast. I want you to take a couple minutes here, and I want you to write them down because we're gonna start rewiring our brain. Y'all better get excited because I'm not gonna leave you where I found you. I ain't ever gonna do that to you. I dropped that in the family thread, which by the way, family thread is moving into WhatsApp. I know, I know. Brianna's Android, and my girl Court is also Android, and Court has taken on a whole new amount of responsibility, and we need her in it. She's a part of the family. I will do nothing else with our other family thread. We can keep it, but we will be starting to WhatsApp just so you guys know. But I did drop uh the song there, but that song rattle. I've shared it to Jess the best a couple times during her dead bones rising again, right? It's like open the grave, I'm coming out, right? I'm like when we think we're gonna die, God's like, oh, actually, actually, thank you, because I'm the God that delivers you out of the lion's dun. How many of y'all have seen God's hand? Literally, you're in the firefires, and God just is like, no, I got you, but does it happen right away? No, sorry. It don't. You actually have to sit in the fire a little bit. You gotta fit in this, like, my brain's off. I don't like this, this doesn't feel good. I'm not white knuckling anymore. Lord, I need to rest. I need your rest, not my own rest. Father, I need to build, but I'm gonna build for your glory. I'm gonna build everything on the word of God because the word of God is truth. Nothing else is truth, friends. There's a lot of whole deception out there. But when we're spirit-led women, we get this is a promise from him. This is a promise that we can stay calm and call cool and collected, Mindy. This is a promise from our father. But so many of us, high-achieving women, are so caught, and I call it this the stress cycle. Okay, it's a tornado from hell. I'm just gonna name it as it is. This tornado of hell and our autonomic nervous system, if we went deeper, holds us here. Holds us here because we haven't created new neuropathways to rewire our brain to say, no, I am safe. No, I can do this. And what I love about this list that you all are throwing in the chat, y'all gotta read each other's because there's some hot stuff coming in here, right? There's some really good stuff. We we've overcome some crazy, I mean, near-death experiences, right? Like, there's three of those. I mean, suicide attempts, Hurricane Harvey, losing everything, rebuilding, husbands, drug addictions. Like, this is not light stuff, by the way. Death of sister and dad, divorce, right? Like, these are not small things. And if you didn't put your three here, please do. Court's gonna grab all these. It is so important to remind ourselves who we are and how we got here. That is the only way to create new neuron pathways from the old to the new. Our brains are gonna want to keep us safe. Okay, so our brain is deciding right now, today, Wednesday, June 3rd. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. We don't wake up at 5 a.m. We like to stay in our bed till six. No, no, no, we don't do 100k offers, we stay discounted because that's where no no no, we don't go out and do nonprofits because we don't know what we're doing. Our brain is always going to try to bring us back to safety, and then and then it will look to confirm with evidence what they believe to be true. So we have walked through this exercise before the old is gone, and the new is here. I'm not even going backwards. We walked through this exercise before last July. You know how I remember? Because Ray Taggett goes, You were in Brooke Costillo's program? And I remember being like, oh, and I brought my whole minder to the ranch off the grid of what I learned in life school to teach you this one one powerful thing. So I'm still gonna give her credit. I think it's amazing. Decisions she made personally because of the tool she made, I don't agree with. So we'll just lay that out. So I don't talk about life coaching, but I will talk about the fact that Brooke Castillo is the maker and creator of the most brilliant, I believe, tool that we all need. Does anyone remember test what these all stand for? Okay, so here we have our circumstance. It is neutral. Brianna, this is can be proved in the court of law. Okay?

SPEAKER_05 1:00:21

Neutral. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:28

This is it is what it is. This is, I lost eighty thousand dollars. It is neutral, it is a circumstance, it is what it is. Now, here's the fun part. The next is our thought. What thoughts we have about our circumstance? Next is F, and this is our nervous system, and this is what we're gonna laser in on. What is your feeling about the thought? This is the action you take because of that feeling. Nervous system stressed out of your mind, running like a bear. Your action's gonna be responsible for that feeling and then result. Okay, so I'm gonna show you how to get out of the stress cycle, regulate your nervous system, and get into the success cycle, and y'all are gonna do the work. So put me in the chat if you're gonna do this, because it's be a waste of my time and your time to teach you something that you're not gonna activate, and it's freaking hard. I'm just gonna say it's hard. Okay, it's not easy. But guess what? We can do hard things, and we are going to take this entire summer. We ain't rushing through this work because it's probably the most important work. And I have coached thousands of women, 4,000 to be exact. I have several clients right now where I'm like, dude, you gotta get your thoughts and your feelings right. You got to start staying more calm and regulated because you have too much going on. And it the greater the growth, the greater the fall if we don't get into this, right? Especially a lot of us in our bodies. We're gonna talk hormones, we're gonna talk specialists. I got people that are gonna speak to you that you are gonna just, I mean, I'm doing the work myself. I think that's always the most important. Like, are you actually walking the walk or are you just telling me like this works? No, I'm actually doing it. I am like hardcore into it, right? It's not easy. All right, y'all. I'm waiting for heart is not bad. Hallelujah, Christine. Okay, so here's the circumstance. You ready? You lost a client. Anyone lose a client this week? Lost a sale, someone went to a different competitor, someone took their money and runs. Oh, I think someone dropped just like it was hot because she was female. Best story yet. So you're a female. Yeah, I've been a female with the full the three years you worked with me. Okay, look at everyone saying yes. We've all dropped, we've all lost a deal this week, right? Because we're we're we're businesswomen. You should have. And if you didn't, start working your business harder, have more sales calls. Okay, okay, so lost sale. The thought behind it, throw your thoughts in the chat. What what was the first thought that came up when you lost a sale or they went to competitor or um I suck? I love you, Lindsay.

SPEAKER_04 1:03:27

Mindy. I suck. Lynn Tina said they lost. Let's go. Jess says this is stupid. This is so good. Stupid. Another one bites the dust. Christine says they suck even better. Come on. Okay, so I'm going with Mandy. She was first.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:53

So Mindy lost a sale, went to competitor, realtor, and she says, this sucks. Okay, what's the feeling behind this sucks? What's feeling? Everyone weigh in on this. I want to hear all your feelings. So I want to know where your nervous systems are at. You lose a sale, the thought is this sucks, disappointment.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:14

Let's go.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:21

Irritated. Discouragement. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:27

So good. Okay. So when we're disappointed, discouraged, and irritated, what kind of action do you take from that part of your nervous system? You're discouraged, disappointed, and irritated. What action do you take? Sometimes wanting to quit. Come on, Linz. Yes, Brianna, let's go. Eat. Because our hormones are in the toilet. And then all of a sudden, we go for gratification. And then all of a sudden, that just cycles us into the success of H E double hockey sticks. And Mindy does the opposite. She doesn't eat. Kevin to go with Mindy because she was first again. So the action we want to quit. And then when we quit, what's the result? What's the result of quitting? Drop it in the chat. No sales. No sales. No biz, no nada. Right? No sales. Okay, perfect. And so this is a real life example of first follower Mindy. Okay, no biz. Yep, took me out. Absolutely. Okay, how many people can relate to Mindy? She was the most real in the chat that this was her entire life. She lost the sale. She thought she absolutely sucks. Massive disappointment. Wanted to quit. What did it result in? No sales. Praise Jesus. You're in the inner circle, girl. Because that ain't happen anymore. That ain't happen anymore. I watched you make, I'm gonna I'm gonna brag on you for a minute. I watched you make a high stakes decision with complete peace. High stakes, leaving compass, breaking partnership, going to something you do not know, and a season of crazy and perfect peace. So albeit this was Mindy before, I call this the spiral of stress. But Mindy is my perfect example because I'll teach you how to get to the success. Alright, we are we done with this? Are we done with old life, old us? We're gonna run it through again. Circumstance again, it's neutral. I want you guys to do this for every single circumstance you have right now. I would love to see you do this work every single day. Oh, here's my circumstance. Okay, great. What's my thought around it? So we lost the sale. Friends, I lose sales all the time. Been in business 13 and coming on 14 years, gonna happen a lot, right? But I had a decision to decide my thought patterns and my thought life. And the Bible says I'm gonna take captive every thought, renew my mind with truth. So, do you know where data over drama, that whole principle that I've taught you guys, came from? Doing the work. Oh, my thought, I lost a sale. That's just data. It's just data. Lost a sale. That person's not the one for inner circle. That person shouldn't be at the retreat, whatever it is. That person should buy a home from me, that person should not invest their money with me. It's just data. Okay. So I want you guys to think about this and how it feels. Because when we think it's just data, how then will our nervous system feel? Will it spike cortisol and adrenaline because we think we suck and we're disappointed? Or if it's just data and it's data over drama and discernment over distraction, right? How many women that you do business in life with are distracted all the time? You're like trying to have a conversation and they have five million tabs over. Some of you guys have tabs open right now. I'm not gonna lie to you. Your nervous system decided this is too much. I don't want to do the work. I need to be checking everything. My business is gonna go to the ground. How can I be on a call for 90 minutes? It's not gonna burn to the ground. Mindy's daughter is gonna be perfect fine. Why? Because she can pray and know that her daughter's gonna be healed. She's good, it's not a 9-1-1 all the time. Because we step into a calm, regulated, grounded, called nervous system. Because it's just data. People lose sales all the time. So what am I gonna do? What kind of action do you take? This is so good, because you guys all can relate to this so much. So you lost the sale, you decided it's just data, your feeling is oh, I'm calm. This is kind of what happens. What kind of action do you take from that stance? Someone that is in safety, what kind of actions do you guys take? You evaluate? Come on, girl, let's go. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:51

Renew mind with scripture. Review, let's go.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:03

Learn, yes. Amen. Okay, so you guys saw all this. Learn. Review.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:16

Make adjustments, evaluate, follow up with clients, get more answers to the test, get curious. Jesus was the most curious person who didn't even need to be curious. What did he do? He got curious and asked questions. Hey, I would love to know what would have made this a yes. A majority of the time you can work back through, and they're like, oh, I needed this. Oh, I actually do have that. I'm so sorry. I must have missed that in the first sales presentation. We absolutely do that for your whatever your client is, whatever their needs are. And what's the result when we learn, review, and take action? What's the result?

SPEAKER_04 1:10:59

Make sure you didn't call your client while you were talking about them. Yep. Yep, don't do that.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:10

Come on, we walk in peace. From the Prince of Peace.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:16

So good. You guys can keep weighing in on that. Okay, so do you guys see clearly how all of this comes from the thought, which is a choice. Tina, you dropped in the chat, God God was really revealing to you it's a choice to stay unregulated. I worked with Christine on my leadership skills because I know I'm a little hot to handle for people, and that's on me at this game, right? I'm gonna turn 47. So if I don't want to like take a good look in my eye and be like, why am I too hot to handle? And Christine's like, listen, this is how some of your people need to be talked to, and it's gonna take a lot of energy from you, and that's why your body doesn't want to do it. Because my my body, my body wants to stay safe, and it wants to find evidence of like, no, Christine, they need to adapt to me. I'm the leader. The truth of the matter is that is not being a servant. That has zero integrity as a godly leader, no, my way or the highway. Jesus came to serve, not be served. And if we want to be like-minded and have the mind of Christ, then we better be calm and grounded with discernment and patience and the way we feel about things by really naming the thought. I say this to my kids: you got to name it to tame it. Some of you guys got to write this down. You got to name it to tame it. So when you got mom guilt coming at you, when you got stress coming out of your earlobes and your hormones hit the kicker and you're stressed and not knowing what's happening in your body, you got to name that. And then you got to start taming it. And say, I am not gonna allow myself to complete this recycle. Okay, we're gonna get we're we're gonna talk to so also, this is the the success cycle, okay? We have the stress cycle, which we are not bringing in to the summer or ever. We are nailing it to the cross with Jesus. We're gonna take captive every thought, just call it data, whatever you want to put there. I always just say, oh, that's data. It's just some data, right? And we're gonna replace it with a success cycle. Now, how do you get here?

SPEAKER_05 1:13:27

How do you get here?

SPEAKER_02 1:13:37

I know I probably shocked you.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:40

Coaching. Coaching. How many athletes do we have in this call? Any athletes have an incredible coach in their life? Drop me in the chat what made that coach so incredible. And I also want to think about every top athlete, every Olympian, why they have coaches. So if you didn't have a coach, think about the Tom athletes. What makes someone a great coach? While you guys are thinking, can I share a story about my coach? So my coach in college was crazy. Name it. He was nuts. He believed that we needed to have a 3.5 GPA to start on his D1 volleyball team. That's why athletes get the I'm an under underwater basket weaving degree. Y'all hear that? So majority of my teammates were. They were in communications, they didn't have to go to class, they got to do whatever they want to do. And me, because I'm Allie, I'm like, I'm gonna be pre-med and be a sports doctor because I got hurt my freshman year, right? Pre even season. And so I'm taking pathophysiology, biochemistry, microbiology, and homeboy thinks I need a 3.5. Yeah, yeah, no. And I miss school Thursdays and Fridays to travel to other Big Ten schools. So I miss pathophysiology lab all the time. Here's what happened. My thought could have been like, you crazy. My feeling being like, never gonna happen in a day. Look at these losers doing underwater basket weaving, they get to be the starters. My my action is I'm just gonna give up. I'll just ride the bench, it's no big deal. And then the results will be bench, right? Anyone feel that in your business? I'm just giving you a sports example. Something happens, you lose a bunch of money, you're like, this sucks. I don't think I ever want to do it again. You start playing scared, you start like rethinking every life decision you ever made, and your results is you don't trust yourself anymore. So you're just gonna stay still. So I brought something on my battle list today that because I had incredible coaching, I became the scholar athlete award because he saw something in me that I did see in myself, and I got that 3.5, and by golly, I was a starter my freshman year on the University of Minnesota, which got even more exciting because Homeboy took us to the dance, we made it to the show. Now, I I share this humbly that I didn't really like that coach much at all. He had bad breath. I didn't agree with a lot of the things he said. I didn't, but do you realize the people in your life are the ones, the ones that are hard are gonna take you up the success cycle because they see greatness in you because you're so far in the bottle of your own business, of your own marriage, of your own whatever, that you don't even see the label and you don't see the greatness inside of you? That's why I'm so grateful that each and every one of you have invested in some of you three years in and letting someone else call you out on your bluff, and you guys allow each other to call yourself out too. And it's the one thing, it's the simple one thing that I see successful people do. I believe every person needs a coach. I I don't just believe it. I if you look at my PL, you would see my money talks louder than I do. So I want you, Christine. Your hands up.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:56

Jump in, girly. Well, I think that you and I would totally agree about something. And I know that the um the acronym is not yours. So can I, I feel like we should add one thing to it. Okay, can you flip it back over? So here's the thing, and and the reason I think you're totally gonna agree is because you gave that example with your kids. So what like just a bit ago, you just did. So after the circumstance, um Brooke has thought, but what actually happens is we feel before we think. Um, because our our superconscious, where our emotions are stored, our nervous system travels there first, and a lot of our thoughts are informed by our feelings, whether our feelings are accurate or not, or like true. They're real, whether they're true or not. So you were saying to your kids, like, I mean, we have to we have to evaluate what that feeling is, and I think that that's a really human response. So it's almost like circumstance, feeling, thought, feeling, because we have to feel, or we're going to feel whether we want to or not, right? And so the rewiring is what's true about that feeling often. And that will rewire us to feel something new that's more aligned with truth. Does that make sense? So I think that's what you were saying, but I guess I just feel like sometimes I wouldn't want someone to all of a sudden be like, oh my gosh, I felt so much shame. And that's because I wasn't thinking the right thing. It's like, no, that happened in your nervous system. Now let's understand why. You probably felt shame from something way back in your story, and the Lord wants to do a good work. So, what do we think about that? Does that does that make sense? I don't know. I just feel like we were missing that key component that could make people feel lousy about their thought when in reality their thought is responding to a feeling that's deep-seated.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:55

Yes. And you know what? Next week we're gonna look at the 80,000 thoughts that we have a day, and 70% of them are all negative. And they're the first things that rise out of a subconscious, and it's learned behavior. Oh, this happens, this is how I react. So, this is a perfect segue into closing today for you, and you have to look back to your past. Christine said it. You as a child were born. This is where you have to do the work, some of y'all from your childhood. Because your nervous system got regulated. I guess my person's skiing. Your nervous system got regulated by the person more pro most present in your life. It is your parents or the person that had the biggest influence in your life, your nervous system regulated to theirs. Why do you think family's so important to Jesus? Why do you think a Holy Ghost-filled family is so important? Now we can break it off if it was not something that you want, and that's what Joshua and I talked about this morning. Josh and I are looking back, it's something that happened to Jakey last night, and his response versus mine, I'm like, this has to end. We're not doing this. This we have to do the work, right? We're gonna talk about marriage made in heaven. So, y'all that are coming, you get to hear the story. But we get to decide if we're gonna be in a regulated calm state for everyone around us, for the teams we lead, for the businesses we're running, for the nonprofit, you know, shares everyone. Or are we not gonna do the work and stay into the old when God said I have the new? I've made all things new. I tell people all the time, they're like, Oh, but your generation, my mom tries to tell me this thing about something that I don't want to inherit. It happens right here. And she's like, Oh no, no, like everyone, it's like in our genes, right? I'm like, no, no, I'm I'm actually not. I and if you think that that's in my gene pool or that this stuff's coming with me, I'll just tell you guys what it is breast cancer and alcoholism. I'm like, yeah, cool. That was you guys, and y'all have that? Cool, but buy your t-shirt and sign it. Me, I am my genealogy is from Jesus. I've been bought for what the price. The bloodshed at Calvary is me. I've been cleansed. Although I was crimson red, I am whiter than snow. That's why I wear white for everything. Court always says you're not gonna like this, you're not in white, but I'll change it, right? It's it's a part of me, it's like my identity that I own that I have been made a new creation. So have you. Do you believe it? Are you walking in it? Does your nervous system have enough evidence of truth that you're born again? Well, you sit with that, because that's what the work really means. So I made you guys something because I want to end on time. I honor your time, and I also want to take any notes. Court's gonna send this out to you, but I didn't want to give it to you beforehand because I wanted us to really stay focused. Can y'all see this? My Souls Girl handout. I wrote this all out for you, but I want to I want to just I want to talk about why why we're starting season one. Season one, session one of Souls Girl Summer. Our nervous system is the first soul we need to steward. We can't sell, we can't serve, we can't steward a single soul from survivor mode. I hope I prove that to you guys today. Your body physically won't let you. Here's the science, and I have a 90-second override to end with because it's super cool, and it came out from Harvard Medicine, and not that Harvard's good at medicine, but sometimes they do stuff. I'm like, oh, this is interesting because I like their case studies because they use enough people to actually show me that I actually think it's true. But the Lord God formed man. Listen to this, just maybe close your eyes and just think about this when I read this to you. God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being. Genesis 2 7 says, God's first act of intimacy with all the inner circle was breath. Breath is literally like holy ground. And Ray Ray's been in New Age, he'll be like, Oh, we've done all them breath work, we've done all them vibrations, we've done all the things, right? But really, the breath of life was breathed into the nostrils, and we became a living being. So here's everything I taught you guys, in in in short, so you can kind of circle back on that. But I want to do this thing called the psychological side. And I don't like or physiological, sorry, I don't really like psychology. My mom's a really good psychologist. I have a lot of things with it. Anyway, I digress. This this is something that the Stanford Stanford trial did to uh beat meditation. I'm not saying there's things wrong with meditation, the Bible says meditate on the word day and night. But these other new agey practices I think are demonic. I'm just gonna call it what it is. Because we have the Holy Spirit that we can breathe the breath of life into us. And so, how many of y'all know about box breathing? Breathe in for four, hold, breathe out. Okay, so I learned that my whole life, right? Visualization as a D1 athlete, like business, nursing, all the things like that was my thing. Now, this this physiological side really, I don't know, it fascinates me, and I'd love to hear what you guys think. But they they saw it for lifting the mood while lowering stress. So, really, box breathing is just about like settling, but really lifting your mood is a part of this physiological breeding. So, here's the cool thing in Hebrew. I and I'm great at Hebrew, roosh means both breath and spirit, and God built the off-switch into your breath. Is anyone else shocked? Maybe I studied this for too long for the past couple weeks, but you're gonna get it. Okay, so we are all gonna take an inhale, a sharp breath through our nose, and then we're gonna take an inhale again, which is like a short snip, and this one matters most in this trial, and then we long exhale and we do this one to three times. So we're gonna do it three times, and they this the the study says to do it for five minutes a day just to rewire, to lift the mood, lower the stress, and work on the breath. Okay, we all ready? So it's like this. You're gonna take a deep inhale, another one, and then blow it out.

SPEAKER_02 1:27:32

Short breath and through the nose again, short. And long exhale.

SPEAKER_03 1:27:45

Does anyone feel differently just from those two breaths? Maybe, maybe not. I thought it was absolutely profound. Absolute profound. I wrote out, we have two minutes left. Basically, the CEO, the mom, and the wife, and how, and we can, I don't want to rush through any of this stuff, so we can go through it again, but I'm gonna I'm gonna send this off to you guys via email today. But I believe with my whole heart that the most important soul that we're gonna steward this summer starts with us. We have to do the hard work. It's an honor and a blessing to do the hard work. And it's really our, as Chris says, our feelings and thoughts. Back to our feelings, but it's really our thoughts about what you took in today and the feeling you have about rewiring the brain. We're gonna talk more about new neurons and new transmitters to fire. It's so profound. But I want I want a couple ahas before we end today. What was the biggest thing? And and Brianna, just welcome. We love you. My biggest framework is sell one thing to one million, not to take away five takeaways. I want you to take away one thing each and every call that you're gonna actually do, that you are actually gonna put into practice. So when you have a 90-minute call, there's one thing that the Holy Spirit's like, this, that's it, that's all. We don't feel overwhelmed, burdened, uh, that's all thought, right? It's all thought. No, this one thing I'm gonna work on. So I want a couple of you guys to say what what's the one thing that really was highlighted.

SPEAKER_02 1:29:35

Y'all can drop in the chat or come off me.

SPEAKER_12 1:29:46

I like that you said it's a choice to stay unregulated. So we all have a choice. We can take those thoughts thoughts captive. You can um be proactive or reactive, in my opinion. But I think um, you know, taking those thoughts captive right away is super important to train yourself in the word and train yourself on the things of God to know when those thoughts are coming in, like identify it really quick, take it captive, and let it go. And to look at things more like data. So the thing I struggle with is sometimes I can do that a little too much where I'm just like, yep, let's use data. But when does it become important to look at the person rather than the data? So for me, that is that is kind of my struggle because if I'm just calling it all data, at some point realistically, I need to truly know that person's heart and where they came from. Why did that sale not go through? And part of that again, it goes back to it's data, but I also care for people. So I don't know if you have any thoughts on that.

SPEAKER_03 1:30:59

A thousand percent. It's data over drama, but it's also discernment over distractions. Don't get stripped distracted when God's trying to give you the discernment.

SPEAKER_02 1:31:16

I love you.

SPEAKER_07 1:31:22

I'm honestly excited about that breathing. I a lot of the things that were said, yes. Seeing things as data, um, so much of this. I love this stuff. This is that like this is my jam. So so great. Um, but I've done I've heard of a lot of different breathing ones, but this double breath, I felt the difference from all the other ones I've ever done. So I'm super pumped about this, Sally. Thanks for the the practical take-home.

SPEAKER_03 1:31:46

Oh, I'm excited to podcast with you live. We'll have to we we will do our breath work together when we step in the studio on Tuesday.

SPEAKER_07 1:31:54

Sounds good.

SPEAKER_03 1:31:55

So excited. Just the best says, I'm gonna work on this with Matt when he's not nice to me. You guys, that that is so important when we have relationships that are just hard. Anyone have hard relationships? Right? Like, yeah, lifting your mood and being able to reduce your stress with breathing is gonna allow you to show up a lot different without having to wear mouth tape everywhere you go, which was my only idea for a season of life. Like, I'm just gonna wear mouth tape. Duct tape, here we go. I had it on my face. I'm not even kidding. Just gonna be real with you. Josh is like, I don't think you need to wear that. I'm like, oh, I do though. I'm right, I'll get so tired writing stuff that I'll just shut up and I'll like grow up, right? I was gonna, I said, wise up and shut up and wise up. That's what I used to tell people. Why don't you just shut up and wise up? Like, that's how I train my body to learn how to have a little more discernment in life. Ray, Ray, we were gonna go, I think.

SPEAKER_13 1:32:52

I totally yeah, no, all good. Um, yeah, I had shared one with Tina, which is actually very similar. There's just a slight shift, and um, I got this from a like high performance athletic coach, and it's um when you put your tongue on the roof of your mouth, inhale through the nose first. So same thing. Inhale through the nose with your tongue on the roof, and then inhale through the mouth the rest that you can, and then the long deep exhale. And a part of that is because of how the lungs expand with whether you're breathing in through the nose or the mouth. Um, so kind of another cool one. And I got I I've had this like little whisper around um creating this like Christian breathwork worship practice because um that was something that through like throwing out all the new age and all that stuff, I threw that out too. And then I think it was about a over a year ago, I was like, but what but breath work? And so then I started kind of going into the Bible and seeing all the stuff that um actually talked about how God breathes into us, and I was like, I actually feel like that's a way of worshiping him, is um coming into our breath. Breath as prayer. Okay, I need a can you send me a photo of that, Christine? Um so I like I used to facilitate breath work, so I was like, oh my gosh, like because I actually felt like there was a lot of good stuff in the nervous system and the science behind it, but I realized, well, what if we did it to worship music? And so I've actually created a like breath work worship playlist, and I have like scriptures that I put into it and all this stuff, so it's something that I've kind of like played around with, but this is inspiring me to maybe get my like first group of people together at our house, and we now have big space to be able to practice this, so I'm really excited. That definitely ignited me.

SPEAKER_03 1:34:47

Come on, girl, let's go. Uh, Tina, Miracle Lungs girl in the chat just said that your breathing really helped her get 100% capacity. Um, come on, like a thousand percent. I'm into the VO2 max. Like, we'll talk about this later, but Ray has a really good friend named Wit that I've got to become close with, who's just very, very smart um athlete and really driving longevity through athletics. Because it's one thing to be like really good at 1999, the show, but it's not 2026. I've had four of the guys like, okay, it's a little bit different, Chris, isn't it? Like, okay, do this. Um, but that's that's a decision. As a decision, I decided, like, oh, I don't have to work out that. Well, that's not what physiologically the body can actually do in your 40s and 50s. Women, our bodies are amazing, they are extraordinarily incredible. And if I could even tell you in our 40s and 50s are actually our best decades, and that I sat with a brilliant nurse practitioner the other day just thinking, like, what God, this is so good, which y'all are gonna hear about anyway. But okay, I'm gonna honor your time. It's 11:36. Uh, y'all are dropping some books in the chat, which you know I'm loving. Mindy, we're gonna get your booty up early because for summer, you need this. And I'm gonna, I'm gonna drop you an ebook that I think um it's called The Weekender. I think it's gonna help uh help you. Um, we need some people to start making decisions though. So, Mindy, you need to make a decision about when the office is gonna be working out of. So by next Wednesday, I believe that we're gonna see you in your office on this call. Um, Lisa, you have been so quiet and good. But I know you have had some hell come against you and your business and stuff, and you've had to make some decisions. Um, but I I want you, if you can come off mute, just declare like the decisions you're gonna make to see these sales come in and to see decision fatigue drop off you and walk into more calm and regulated state so that you can lead all these incredible babes that you're calling in. Because you, we are either gonna repel or attract people by how our nervous system is. Whether you think or so or not, you are either repelling or attracting these people. So come off mute, my love, and we want to hear a dec declaration.

SPEAKER_10 1:37:09

Say again what you want me to declare. I'm so sorry.

SPEAKER_03 1:37:12

I want you to declare the season that you're in, that it comes to an end, and that you are going to operate with such great clarity and favor in your life and step into attracting all these incredible saleswomen. God's given you a supernatural gift in solar, no one can deny that. You what you've done is unprecedented, but Satan's come at you to distract you and to take from you your own self-worth and confidence in it. So we're we're putting we're putting a fork in that thing, Xing it out. So we're declaring it. So I want you to declare that.

SPEAKER_10 1:37:47

I'll declare it that that I get supernatural clarity, that my decisions are crystal clear, that they're heaven-led, spirit-filled, and that because there's still like so many decisions on the table. That's the thing. There's a lot of decisions still left on the table. So that I would just get peace of mind over it and not fatigue.

SPEAKER_03 1:38:13

Come on. Because we're not we're not moving in fatigue. We're gonna talk about that next week. We're gonna talk about what decision fatigue actually does on our nervous system and how that literally keeps us in a stinky swamp. Y'all know you go to like a ranch and you see the swamp and it stinking smells, and there's moss all over it, and your kids are like, I ain't swimming in that. And you're like, I ain't swimming in that. Then you go to the ranch down the street and they got this crystal clear flowing river, and you're like, oh, let's get in. We can even drink from this. That is exactly what happens when we decide to move, and we decide to take thought captive every thought, and we jump in the crystal clear and we're like, we're not sitting that swimmy scum. That thing's gone. I'm moving on. But if we stay in decision fatigue and we can't make the clarity, we're we're in the swamp and we're not gonna be in swamps anymore. Swamps are gross. Gonna get cleaned up, girl. I'm proud of you. I've heard I heard faith when you said I'm gonna be heaven-led and spirit-filled. So we need to pray up, leisure guys. We need to pray up each other all the time. Satan loves to steal, kill, and destroy. I covet your prayers for this marriage retreat. Like, my kids have had injuries that like nothing never happens to us. I had an emergency root canal. Like, what the no, this is demonic. Like, no, we don't do this crap. Like, there's a protection of the Lord, and then there's like Satan trying to like come steal, kill, destroy everything. But we don't say, hey, the wind is in, get behind me. I'm stronger, we're better. And there's a time where we have to step behold, grab hold of faith and say, I don't know what this looks like, but you're good and you're sovereign. So thank you. That's it. You don't try to figure it out, you don't try to name it. No, you just figure it out. So I love you guys so much. I um I'm loving the 545 thing. We're making some commitments over here. Let's go. Maybe someone's gonna text her tomorrow at 545 mini. Might need a text thread. Um, and just a reminder, we'll move over to WhatsApp. If you guys need anything, reach out to us. Thank you for doing the work. I want you to do the breath work this week. We'll email you guys immediately. And I want you guys to step into a more calm and regular, and I'm doing it too, guys. You know I need this probably more than anyone on the call. A more calm and regulated self that we can help so many more people have so many souls come into the kingdom of God because we've done the work. I love you all. Off to get a new crown, third one. Bye, guys.