Our Pickleball Double Date

This week Presley is joined by Addie to recap the night you have all been waiting for- pickleball. While they may not be future pickleball champions, they did have a nice time. Presley's hot take once again involves men, and it's hard to hear them over all of the giggles. Enjoy! YouTube Video Link: https://youtu.be/529m15XuZOk

Transcript

unknown 0:08

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 0:12

Good morning. Happy Sunday. Welcome back to the pod. Oh, brother.

SPEAKER_02 0:17

That's all I have to say. Happy, happy Sunday. Welcome back to Presley's Pod. We have, I think everyone's been waiting for this episode. Everyone's wanted you to do a solo. Here you are.

SPEAKER_00 0:30

The people have spoken. I'm here.

SPEAKER_02 0:33

And also I've been talking about what we're gonna recap for like the past two episodes. So this is gonna be good. But before we get into that, I need to recap my night last night and explain why I am hanging on for dear life right now.

SPEAKER_01 0:49

I saw an Instagram story. Presley was on the train at 12.04 a.m.

SPEAKER_02 0:53

And I said crazy behavior.

SPEAKER_01 0:57

Wild. Presley's in bed by 9 p.m.

SPEAKER_02 0:59

Crazy behavior on my end. Okay. Crazy. Crazy. So let's set the scene. Maybe like a month ago, I saw that this band that I love called Juice, I saw them in LA in 2019. My friend randomly brought me, and I became obsessed ever since. They were gonna be in New York performing to like kick off a tour. I can't talk great. Um, I feel like I'm losing my voice. I'll kick off a tour. And so I was like, oh my gosh, they're gonna be in New York. I wanna go. Oh wait, that's so fun. I know. So I pull up Ticketmaster to buy the tickets. Okay, and I was like, I'll just force someone to go with you.

SPEAKER_00 1:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:36

I see that it starts at 9 p.m. And there was a set there was like a split second where I was like, never mind. I was like, do I really do I want to stay up past 9 p.m.? I was like, do I really have to really like think through it? I know. I was like, do I?

SPEAKER_01 1:50

It's okay, we're young and hot once. We do want to go. I know we do want to go.

SPEAKER_02 1:53

So I was like, okay, I'm gonna get Sean, we're going. I thought it started at nine. We were still standing outside at nine in the line to get in. So we get in there.

SPEAKER_00 2:07

I pressed a button.

SPEAKER_02 2:08

I think it's okay. Okay. As long as it's green, it's okay. It's blinking. It's blinking.

SPEAKER_00 2:14

Okay, we're good. I think that's fine. We're fine.

SPEAKER_02 2:17

Sorry, I got nervous. I actually have like no idea what I'm saying. No, me either. I'll just hold it like this.

SPEAKER_00 2:22

It's it's authentic. Yeah, it's authentic, it's rounded, it's it's natural. Thank you.

SPEAKER_02 2:28

Um, so 9 p.m. we're standing outside, we get in there, we go to the bar, get a neutral, actually, which happens. I love a neutral. I was like, sure. Um, I think they started playing music at like 10:15.

SPEAKER_01 2:44

That is like hours past when you are supposed to be in your windown. Rem is already hit. She's already like this. She has said goodnight to all of us.

SPEAKER_02 2:53

We were at the bar before and it's 7.45. My aura ring said bedtime's approaching.

SPEAKER_01 2:58

7:45. That's crazy. Mine has mine used to say that at 7.45, but it has since shifted because my life has shifted a little bit later. But wow.

SPEAKER_02 3:08

7.45.

SPEAKER_01 3:09

7.45. And you're like, my concert doesn't even start till 9. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 3:13

But I will say they were phenomenal. Like they were so good. They're coming back to New York in May, so we'll definitely be there. I'm gonna go. Um, but yeah, and then I walked in the door here at 12:40. 12:40, went to bed, woke up at like 7:30, and Sean was like, Presley, just sleep in. Like, just sleep in.

SPEAKER_01 3:33

He doesn't understand girlhood. You can't just do that. Sleep in. Your body is awake when it's awake. Exactly.

SPEAKER_02 3:38

And once I'm up, there's no going back. No, there's literally no going back.

SPEAKER_01 3:43

If you go back, then you are tired. Yeah. Like it's worse if you go back. Exactly. So you might as well stay awake and just like fight it a little bit.

SPEAKER_02 3:51

But I'm so proud of myself. Me out on the lower east side past midnight.

SPEAKER_01 3:57

On a Thursday, too. Was it a little crazy?

SPEAKER_02 3:59

It was it was a little crazy down there. Yeah, Thursday nights are big over there. And I've done something every night this week.

SPEAKER_01 4:05

You know, I was also gonna say that because you have been out late. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. We were together. Yeah. Thursday. I honestly thought yesterday you were taking the night off.

SPEAKER_02 4:16

No, tonight.

SPEAKER_01 4:17

We didn't take the night off.

SPEAKER_02 4:18

Today I just have to make it to 6 p.m. and then I'm done.

SPEAKER_01 4:21

And then you're done.

SPEAKER_02 4:21

And then I'm done.

SPEAKER_01 4:22

Yeah, you have to lay down. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 4:24

No, tonight. You have to you have to have rest time. 9 p.m. 9 p.m. Anyway, so we have something to recap. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. I do, I I remember one thing that's okay. Say it, say it, say so. Last week I fully lied to everyone. Yeah. We have some notes. I said that you've never seen me with a man that I was like talking to. That was a lie. Because you have.

SPEAKER_01 4:51

Oh, I have. Right. Right.

SPEAKER_02 4:55

You have. And I also, this is a funny story too, but I just, and we're not gonna get into it too much, but I literally PSA to any man out there listening. All you have to do is wear a blue button down.

SPEAKER_01 5:11

Immediately.

SPEAKER_02 5:13

Immediately, my tongue is like, and literally that's it. Because after we hung out that night, you could not stop talking about the blue button.

SPEAKER_01 5:25

It was so no heated so good. No, like everything I was like, yes, no, I was sweating, heated my face got flushed, like you know, the blue shirt.

SPEAKER_02 5:38

Literally, that's all it takes. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:43

Yeah. Yeah. Well, I mean, if we're going into what we did, there was also a nice shirt moment in our little date that I can bring up later. But you want to take it from here?

SPEAKER_02 5:55

My shirt?

SPEAKER_01 5:57

No, no, I want it for the one in the boys' shirts. There's a good moment. I'll read active for you in a second once we get into our date.

SPEAKER_02 6:06

Oh spoilers! Audience we went on a double date. We went on a double date and we played pickleball. Okay. I okay.

unknown 6:18

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 6:18

I don't even know where to begin. We played pickleball. Like, I don't go on double dates.

SPEAKER_01 6:25

No. I like I don't do activities on dates. Activity maybe is a walk.

SPEAKER_02 6:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:31

Maybe is a walk from bar A to bar B, from dinner to home. That's the activity. We're not doing pickleball.

SPEAKER_00 6:42

My eyes were like, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:44

It was, and okay, so we played pickleball with the 26-year-old and the 26-year-old's friend. Yeah. And we, the 26-year-old was like, he like booked everything, and he was like, let's all go for like a drink before to like get to know each other. And I was like, perfect, because that would have been kind of weird for you to just be like we just showed up and then we were like doubles.

SPEAKER_01 7:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 7:07

Um, so but it was completely blind.

SPEAKER_01 7:09

I had no idea what his friend looked like.

SPEAKER_02 7:12

We showed her a picture right before we left, and I was like, oh by the way, this yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:16

But I don't know that they knew what I looked like. I mean, maybe unless they did like some creeping, but I don't think oh true, actually. But like I kind of doubt it because they're boys, and but following the date, I feel like they probably didn't know.

SPEAKER_02 7:28

Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Um, but I was so nervous. I was like, I have to make contact with the ball. Like, and everyone was laughing, and I was like, no, you guys don't understand. Like, if I don't make contact with the ball, we're just gonna stand here.

SPEAKER_01 7:47

Yeah, no, it was there's gonna be no game. There was high stakes because like I was organized sports are not our thing.

SPEAKER_02 7:54

I was shaking.

SPEAKER_01 7:56

It was I was so nervous too because I'm also so competitive. So then, and then being competitive and not good at pickleball, yeah, not a good mix.

SPEAKER_02 8:03

But you know what? I did, I I did crack the code once. The one game that we won. Yes, I just started thinking about everything that makes me mad in this world. And I locked in. And it was literally just No, you did lock it. I was locked, and it's because I was thinking about things that make me angry.

SPEAKER_01 8:19

I love that.

SPEAKER_02 8:20

That's all it takes.

SPEAKER_01 8:20

I was thinking about winning.

SPEAKER_02 8:22

Yeah, and then I lost. You didn't know you.

SPEAKER_01 8:24

Well, no, we yeah, but we lost that game.

SPEAKER_02 8:25

Dude, I don't even know how many games we played. We just kept playing.

SPEAKER_01 8:28

My arm is still sore.

SPEAKER_02 8:30

Oh, wait, this so okay, and then we'll go back to drinks. I saw my chiropractor the morning after.

SPEAKER_01 8:35

Wait, really?

SPEAKER_02 8:36

And did he say you were uneven? Well, I I mean I've been haven't been in the world. Okay, yeah, yeah. Crazy. Yeah. He, you know, he knows like my training, he knows my routine, whatever. I was like, oh, I did this, this, and this. And then I was like, and I played pickleball last night. And he was like, Is that gonna be like part of your routine now? And I was like, I don't think so. And he was like, just be prepared that in like two days you might have like delayed soreness because he was like, All the lunging and running around, I was like, Well, that is kind of like what we do, right? Yeah, but he was like, It could bring up like other things, and I was like, perfect.

SPEAKER_01 9:12

No, my right arm is like significantly sore, like my shoulder, especially because I was like moving and working out, and I'm continuing to move and work out. Like, this arm is definitely like it's a little unbalanced.

SPEAKER_02 9:22

Yeah, he was like, if I like work with athletes, he's like, Yeah, I'm going on a ski trip with my friends, they'll come back and be like, I'm because it's just different. Yeah, I mean different modes of like movement. Anyway, so um, we were at Dranks.

SPEAKER_01 9:34

Well, we met here first, yes. We met here, made sure that the girls were together, made sure we had like our plan, we were we were on it, and then we walked over, and then it was her guy, and then the two of us, and then my friend didn't show up until later. Yes, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 9:48

While we were there, I knew I was nervous in this exact moment because the 26-year-old goes, Are you he goes, Are you guys traveling for the summer? And I was like, And I said no.

SPEAKER_01 10:05

You have a lot of summer travels. I know I was like, I said no because I don't travel.

SPEAKER_02 10:10

But you never no, but you do have summer travels because you're going with your family.

SPEAKER_01 10:13

Yeah, but that's like not in summer, that's in May. I literally said no.

unknown 10:18

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 10:20

Presley, like use your bra. I was like, the brain's left the building, so this is gonna be really, really good.

SPEAKER_01 10:25

Well, it's still hard because you're going into this environment, and then I'm suddenly there on your date, which is like more of like alone time, and you don't know him like super well. So you've already established this like connection, and then you have this new character, and then there's the supposed other character coming in too. So then there's like a lot of different things running through our brain, and it's like, how many different avenues do you have to navigate? So then, like, you're constantly thinking eight steps ahead, whereas he's just living in the moment because he's a boy. Yeah, but us, we're like da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da. So then it's like, well, my brain is already in this moment, we're at the date, this is all I can think about, even though we are going on vacation. And I think that's why you said no, because you're like, oh no. And then there we were waiting on our my friend to walk in. Yeah. So then it was like, well, this is nervous, like, what's going on? Like, there were so many different things happening.

SPEAKER_02 11:12

Can I ask you something?

SPEAKER_01 11:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:14

You seemed, I was like, Addie is like 100% herself right now. And I want to ask you, is it because you were like, this is a double date? Like this, or well, we need to circle back to that. Were you like because low stakes for you? Yeah, low stakes for me. Low low stakes. But I do have to say, okay, can you? So were you not nervous because it was low stakes? Or are have you just kind of I've been working on fully being myself on dates, and I think that gets easier as you get older.

SPEAKER_00 11:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:46

And you were being full of yourself. So is it that, or did you feel like, are you just very good at like not being nervous on dates? Or were you like, this is so low stakes, like I can literally just be myself, say whatever I want.

SPEAKER_01 11:58

It's a little bit of both. Like, I think that I have nothing to lose. Yeah. So if you don't like me, then that's on you to not like me, and you can just leave. Yeah. But then also I'm like, well, you don't know me. So I can be whoever I want to be, so I might as well just be myself. Yeah. Also, you were there, so I felt like I could just like tab breath. Like, yeah, yeah. So I was able to be like comfy and cozy and like I don't, I don't know. It just kind of was natural.

SPEAKER_02 12:21

It all, I mean, it besides me like shaky in my boots, it all felt pretty natural. Yeah, it was kind of easy, like it was just like trends hanging out. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:27

Which I think was good. I think it was. I think that's what we needed. Yeah. Because if it wasn't, it would have been weird. But also, like, luckily, both guys are cool. Yeah, they weren't weird. Neither of them were weird. They could hold a conversation, they weren't like we were only talking about one thing. Oh my god, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 12:44

And kind, we started dropping first name, last name.

SPEAKER_01 12:47

So circling back take three, take 18. I think it helped that the 26-year-old. I think it helped that the 26-year-old was so cool, and that he was just like open and like was asking me questions, and I was able to ask him questions and like pause.

SPEAKER_02 13:08

Okay, pause. I thought that this was a double date. I didn't I was sitting there and in that moment I realized that this was like a meet the friends to see if the friends are cool. Yeah, that went right over my head.

SPEAKER_01 13:23

No, I thought it was a double tape too, and then I was like, nope, we're just chilling.

SPEAKER_02 13:26

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:27

I was like, oh, so he's trying to see if like Addy's cool. He was sizing us up to make sure that you're normal, that you don't have weird people around you, that like your closest people are not absolute weirdos. Yeah, I think.

SPEAKER_02 13:42

I didn't clock that at all.

SPEAKER_01 13:43

Well, I clocked that as soon as like even sat down.

SPEAKER_02 13:49

He's not. No, I think if I bleep it, I'll just can you bleep it?

SPEAKER_01 13:56

I'll figure it out. Okay. Well, here, we can go again. I clocked it as soon as Mr. Canada sat down. We've been using first and last names over text message, guys. So I'm having issues. So I think as soon as and like like he was cool, they were all cool, but it wasn't like flirtatious, but also it's uh oh, thank you. But it's um cozy, cozy, cozy coral. Sorry, yes, okay. But it wasn't like flirtatious at all. Also, we knew nothing about each other, exactly. So it was like, well, yeah, I don't even know who you are. I didn't even know the first I mean I knew his first name because we yeah creeped on him, but like otherwise I don't know anything. So like we could have nothing to relate upon exactly except for the fact that we live in New York City, yeah. So we're near the same age, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 14:43

We get to pickleball, and this brings me into my next, like, this is kind of my hot take of the week. Okay, go we get to pickleball. I also think we did a good job of and I think on any sort of like group activity or anything where you're uncomfortable, like we were at least going for it. Yeah, if that makes sense. Yeah, we weren't holding it. I know I was going for it, I was trying. So we at least tried. Yeah, and that was it, anyway. I want to talk a little bit about like banter and what people think banter is because we've had this conversation with Lauren, and I think I might be on a different page, but for example, okay, you two also couldn't hear anything you two were saying.

SPEAKER_01 15:31

I couldn't hear anything you were saying, and I was like, Yeah, no, it was okay, it was it was honestly there. There was also so much going on there.

SPEAKER_02 15:37

The music, the music, everyone playing around, the bar, the score, the time. I was like, oh my god, I'm stressed sweating. Anyway, but I did pick up on one thing when he was like, um, and this contradicts what I'm about to say. Okay. What I just said when he was like asking you if your feet were stuck in the mud.

SPEAKER_01 15:57

And I said, Yes, they are. They are, and then and then I kept saying, I think that's yours. The ball would come, and I'd be like, No, we were trying. And then after that, I was like, okay, like we can kind of like shoot the shit a little bit. Exactly. Which was which was fun. And I just and I stopped, I never like called the ball, which you know, like in sports in this like type of setting, it's like, okay, I'll get it. Da da da da, I'll get it, but then I suddenly was just like, I think that's yours. You know what's yours.

SPEAKER_02 16:23

You know what I figured out halfway through? I was like, if it's going towards his little section, it's not mine.

SPEAKER_01 16:29

You just don't even need to go to not my problem. Not my issue. If it is not in the general circle, in the circumference that is four feet around me on any side, I'm not going for it. Yeah. Not my job. Like, oh, it's not mine. No. Easy. They like to run and move. Yeah. I don't like to run. And I made that known many times.

SPEAKER_02 16:48

But circling back to the banter. Circling back to the banter. At one point, the 26-year-old, and you didn't clock this because I could barely hear what he was saying. He said hysterical. Something along the lines of like the other side's gonna like um catch a cold cold from all that air.

SPEAKER_01 17:07

Because I missed the ball so many times.

SPEAKER_02 17:09

Oh me, you oh well we were both missing the ball, but wait, that's hilarious. And this brings me to my point, my hot take. Okay, hot take. Okay. That's banter. Yes. When a man is because that's not about anything to do with me personally, it's not about any of my physical traits, it's not about anything. It's like a silly joke, right? And you can go back and forth on it. And their mother could see that the other side was just getting air exactly from me. Yeah. When a man is insulting you and use and saying, ban we have banter, we have banter. And he's just like blatantly mean. And he, I'm like, no, he's using that banter as an excuse to be mean to you, and then you fire it back. And I'm like, no, this is just you guys like I just Anthony through the grapefire. I'm like, oh, I don't know if that's banter. He just insults. He was just mean to you, yeah. He's like being mean to you, and using it as an excuse to like the yeah, like I just can't. To like bully you a little bit, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:10

And like bully you into saying the things that he maybe wants you to say or like get the reaction out of you. It's bizarre, like maybe get a bad reaction out of you so that way he can see how you do react. Yes. And then it's like it's like a game for him. Yes. And I'm like, that's not banter.

SPEAKER_02 18:25

That's not banter. And I'm also like, don't just be mean. Come for me. Don't come for me because I will. I will come for you. Yeah. And by do I will end it all. Yeah. Yeah. And I also think like, and sorry, I've been I'm my brain is so scattered, it's like a lack of sleep. But I was talking about this with another friend. The idea of like trust and the idea of entering a new relationship. If I enter a relationship that I'm choosing to trust you, yeah, and I'm choosing to like believe you would trust you. Yeah. But the minute that you like prove me wrong in that, or the minute that things start getting weird and I stop to not trust you, or if you start literally being mean to me, like I can't, I just so many things to the grapevine, I just literally can't with these men anymore thinking that it's okay to be mean to their girlfriend.

SPEAKER_01 19:23

See, for me, it would take me one round of like him being mean to me, just one, and then I would be like, hmm, I wonder how he takes that. Then if it happened again, which in our situations in our grapevine, I feel like it has happened again and we've experienced both times. Yeah, I would that's when my face goes, hmm. Yeah. So it wasn't actually you joking and like being silly and mean. Because I can be mean right back and be silly. Yeah. And then if you take it and you give it back, okay, cool, but like I'm my little like orange flag. Yeah. And then if it happens again and you're still blatantly mean and there's no like happy go lucky about it, you can be mean and then you can be nice. Like, then I'm like, mmm, now you're now I don't like your energy. Now I don't trust you, now I'm kind of over it.

SPEAKER_02 20:05

The sad part is this is many people in our grapevine.

SPEAKER_01 20:09

Oh yeah, 100%.

SPEAKER_02 20:10

I love that our a grapevine.

SPEAKER_01 20:12

Our grapevine. Sorry, back, so, friend, sad.

SPEAKER_02 20:15

This is many people, and then that's the other thing with trust. Like, I'm gonna choose to trust you, but like the minute that something something weird starts happening, see ya. Yeah, like if like I will be fully locked in with you. Like, I'm not playing games, I trust you. If you're not mean to me, I I am right there with you, babe. Yeah, but just know that the minute something happens, like see ya.

SPEAKER_01 20:39

Yeah, it's over. Yeah, but the banter the other night between both the 26-year-old and Mr. Canada was really good. Yeah, like on my end, I it felt more friendly, yeah, which is fine. I mean, I didn't know him.

SPEAKER_02 20:51

Imagine if he started coming on really strong. No, he wasn't.

SPEAKER_01 20:54

I mean, okay, but I have had men do that, so I was kind of nervous, like like out and about, like if I've been, if like it's in a group setting of some sort, like sometimes men do come on like a little aggressive, yeah. And maybe, maybe it's because of me, maybe it's because I am just like kind of nice and like flirty and silly and like blah with everyone. Like, I just I take you how you treat me. I'm like, eh, I am like everyone's best friend. Let's be so for real. Like, I you don't get bad vibes from me. No, you are so I'm just kind of like like sometimes they take it a little too far, and he didn't, which I think was endearing. Yeah. Because I have had people act like that, and this which I don't love.

SPEAKER_02 21:35

This is a great segue into what happened right before we hit record.

SPEAKER_01 21:40

Okay, so I kind of had a come to Jesus moment because there's been a few boys recently, uh like like a handful, and they've all just kind of fizzled out. Granted, I don't like them.

SPEAKER_02 21:54

Can I say something real quick? Sure. This woman sitting next to me wait. Up to 50 plus likes on hinge every day. And she's like, we should go through them. I'm like, Addy, we don't have the time.

SPEAKER_01 22:13

We were in Naples and we just kept pressing X and they just like wouldn't it wouldn't go away from the 50 plus. I was like, oh my god, get away. I don't know what it is, guys.

SPEAKER_02 22:22

I don't know what it is. We gotta tap out. Yeah, we gotta tap out.

SPEAKER_01 22:25

Yeah, they were like, we're done with this. Um, and my my profile is not that magnificent. Like, one of my prompts is like, tell me something fun about or like what do you want to talk about? And it's like me. And then the next one is like, tell me a fun fact about yourself. And I think it's like I can juggle, juggle avocados. That always gets the voice. They're like, just avocados. And um, and immediately if I see that, I X. Immediately. It's a test, it's a test from the get-go. And the rest of them, like, depending on which picture they like, I'm like, oh, I see what kind of person you are.

SPEAKER_02 22:52

Also, you know what I mean. Speaking of tests, and then we're going back to the the the 26-year-old and Mr. Canada. I didn't realize that it was a test at the time. Oh, yeah. But they passed the test.

SPEAKER_01 23:04

They did pass the test. They passed like they were testing us, but also we were testing.

SPEAKER_02 23:08

We told them something and they responded well.

SPEAKER_01 23:11

Very like in the I don't think that they could have responded in a better way. Totally. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Good, good, good, good. So right before so right before this, I come over. And my by the way, my co-star this morning was like, it's time to get back out there. Like, get like go find your romantic love, like give up on the past. Let's start something new. Let's start something fresh. And I was like, okay, right. Like you're telling me things. And I do listen to her sometimes. Sometimes she's like a little weird. Yeah. But today I was like, yeah, you're right. It's been a while. I haven't been out and about. I haven't like had any activities. I haven't seen any men. I mean, our double date, but that wasn't my doing. It just kind of happened. Um, I was like, you're coming. You're gonna be free. I was so ready. I was gonna be free no matter what. So I walk in and I was like, well, I think the reason things have fizzled is because I'm bad at texting boys. Like really bad. I can text the girls all day long, but I don't know if you've noticed this. I almost never text first unless it's about like, what are our plans? What are we doing? I'm not great at texting. I'm good at texting back. I'm good at maybe keeping a conversation a little bit, especially with the girls, because I can be a little bit better. With the girls, it's better. With my friends, it's better. But with guys, it's they text me, we make a plan, that's it. We're not having a conversation. It is just about that, or it's like a little bit of banter and then the conversation is just over. Like I don't continue talking about conversations. I don't ask them about anything. I'm not like super personable because that's not like I don't maybe it's like my brain, I'm not good at it over text message, but I've been like this since I was younger. And like people have told me that I'm bad at texting them. They're like, you're good at texting me back, you're not good at texting me. So I texted a man before this because we were supposed to go on a date last weekend, and um I didn't text to reconfirm, which granted, my energy was off. So, like, yeah, I probably should have texted him, whatever. That's besides I shouldn't have, I shouldn't have had to text him. But he also like ghosted me as well. So I was like, okay, whatever. Like my I went about my day. I still had plans. It wasn't that deep to me. One thing about you is you always have a plan. I always have a plan. I can always find something to do. And even if I find nothing to do, I will go home and go to bed. Yeah, that's also fine with me. That's my plans for the night, which I which I love. But I I can normally find something to do. So he texted me on Monday and he was like, hey, like, sorry, we didn't check in. And I was like, no, it's fine. You didn't, you didn't text me, so I made other plans. And he was like, Well, you hearded my message, so I thought you weren't into going out with me. And I was like, mm, okay, and and so I was kind of like, okay, like I get it. So I gave it back to him a bit, and he gave it back to me, which I which I respected. Like we kind of we did banter back and forth. It wasn't mean, good banter, good banter. We bantered back and forth, which was nice. And so then the next night we kind of like banter a little bit more. And then he was like, Oh, I gave him a time schedule tomorrow because I have I have a busy weekend. I work on the weekends, I have three classes tomorrow. My last one is at 4 p.m. So I also have a birthday party that Presley's going to that starts at Presley's going out again. Presley's going out again. It's crazy. It starts at eight, but knowing these parties, knowing our friends, it's not gonna actually start until like 9:30.

SPEAKER_02 26:22

So I've given I was planning on getting there at 9:30.

SPEAKER_01 26:25

Oh, yeah, perfect. Okay. Yeah, that's when I'm getting there. And that's gonna be okay, right? Yeah, yeah. So it starts at 8, but it'll be like everyone will show up at 9.30 type of thing. Okay. Um, that's just how like our friend groups kind of work in this city. Annoying. I wish we could start on time, but we're not. It's okay. Um, so I gave him the time frame of 5:30 to 9.30, and he goes, That's all I get. And I said, Yeah, that's all you get. That is the perfect amount of time. It's a first date too. I'm like, what do you want to go out and party until all hours of the night? Like, also, he was like, I'm not a partier. I was like, because I made a joke. I was like, oh, you were out all night, all night last week partying. He was like, No, not really my thing. And I was like, Okay, so great. Good. So then him saying, like, don't you want to go out? I was like, okay, whatever. Yeah. Anyways, so he the last message was, okay, so Saturday we'll do something fun from 5 to 8:30 or whatever. Perfect. And then if it still goes well, maybe I can see you Sunday. Because I also gave him time on Sunday after I was done with whatever I'm doing on Sunday. And I was like, okay, so I hearted the message and I said, sounds like a plan. Perfect. I made two, I did two messages. Sounds like a plan. This was on Tuesday. I have not heard from him at all. No plans, no nothing, till this morning. And we're recording this on Friday. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 27:41

And Saturday is tomorrow. Saturday is tomorrow. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 27:44

Yes, correct. That is how the days of the week work. Yes. That Friday, Saturday, Sunday. So by Thursday, he should have sent something. He should have said something, or he like could have made conversation. Yeah. So I text him and I say, hey, we still on for tomorrow. That's all. And then his first answer is look at you checking in. Babes, I have plans that I could have made tomorrow. That's why I'm checking in. I'm not checking in because I want to see you. I want to know if you want to make plans because I would love a free meal. I would love a free beverage. I would love some attention. My co-star told me I needed it. So therefore I'm going to get it. But that's besides the point. No, if I just texted these men back, maybe they wouldn't fizzle. Maybe if I started conversation, they wouldn't fizzle. And that's my hot take of the week is they don't always need to text you first, but maybe you should text them. Right. Just so that way they know that you're maybe into it. Yes. Because I I give the energy sometimes. I'm like, yeah, whatever. There's always the next one. Yeah. Always. Because I'm like, yeah, if you're not fitting into my life, I'm not fitting into yours. Exactly. Like 100%. And not that deep. It's not that deep. It's no loss to me. It's no loss to you because we've never actually met. Yeah. So, like, what is it to you? What is it to me? So now I'm like, okay, well, if I want something to work, maybe I should put a little more effort in. You maybe text them back. So that's the goal. We're going into April. I think any man I meet, because I one thing about me, I'm gonna meet a man. One thing about me, I'm gonna meet a man. And Presley can say this. I went out one night. I got Was I there?

SPEAKER_02 29:27

Probably not.

SPEAKER_01 29:27

No, it was it was um the the Soho Grand night. I got five phone numbers. I woke up the next morning to five text messages. All fizzled. Gone. Bye. Fun. They were pen pals and they weren't gonna be anything. Right. But I did like I am gonna find out. Yeah, that one guy really bothered me. Me too. He was like blowing up your phone. And then ask you on a date. But yeah, no, he wouldn't do anything. And it's also like he was young, so I was like, okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 29:55

Boys are it's like, why do you want to waste time texting me?

SPEAKER_01 29:58

It's a boy versus a man, and that was a boy. Yeah. Well, and they have jobs. Do you have a job? Why do you do something? Yeah, literally. Like and like being pen pals, like not being flirtatious, like just asking, like, like, how is your day? What do you do at work? And I would be like, oh my. Like throw my head against a wall. It's worse.

SPEAKER_02 30:19

Well, to circle back on to follow up on that, I feel like any conversations that we have about you and a man, we're always like, okay, well, what is the most recent like conversation? And you're like, he texted me and I just liked it. I'm like, well, that's probably why he's not texting you. Yeah. But but this is a good problem to have. It is. I certainly think. I would rather be on this end of the spectrum than the other one texting him every hour on the hour. Where you can't get a response back. I'm like, Addie, let's maybe let's type down on the text date. Like, we don't have to have that conversation. Yeah. But um, so this is good. Now we're ultimately up from here.

SPEAKER_01 30:57

I think so too. And I think that it'll change the way that I like see my outlook in dating.

SPEAKER_02 31:02

Yeah. Well, also, I think I have two things. Now that we're getting older and we're busier, if you haven't made the if a guy hasn't like made the plan, I it I usually do not send that text of like, yeah, are we still like I really try to like not do that because I need him to talk to it and get on that. But when I do send that text, it's truly because if you uh don't want to do this or if you're busy, please tell me because I would happily stay in my bed. Yeah, 100%. Would happily stay home. So I'm just checking in to be like, oh hey, are we still doing this? Because one, if not, I'll lay in bed. Two, I'll go see a friend that I haven't seen in forever. Yes. Especially if I'm like already planning on doing this with you. Yeah. And to put the period on the end of the sentence with our double date. Yeah. And I feel like I because obviously we have to give an update.

SPEAKER_01 32:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 32:03

And I feel like I need to like choose the words carefully because now like everyone and their mother listens to this, which is a good thing. We love tell all your friends about me.

SPEAKER_01 32:12

So about this, about me. No, about you. About us, about us, about Presley's car. No, you're the star.

SPEAKER_02 32:19

Oh, you're the star. Oh, thanks, Bookie. Oh my sweet Bookie. Um whatever happens with this in the 26-year-old. If it end like if it ends tomorrow. Either way. Yeah. This has been very good for me.

SPEAKER_01 32:38

It has been very educational. Very educational for you.

SPEAKER_02 32:43

Good for me. Yeah. And people are proud of me.

SPEAKER_01 32:47

It is good for you to experience men like this. Because this man is different from the other men that you're used to dating. And I think that it's educational for you to know like how he treats you differently than others have treated you. Based on like different aspects of like what he does, how old he is, how he was raised, like different things like that.

unknown 33:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 33:14

Yeah. The people are proud of me.

SPEAKER_01 33:16

We're all proud of you.

SPEAKER_02 33:17

And this is nope, we're done. No, we can't go.

SPEAKER_00 33:21

Because we could dig deep.

SPEAKER_02 33:24

We're done. No more. That's a wrap on that. But double D was good. It was great. I'm seeing him on Saturday. Good. Um, before the play. He didn't follow me back on Instagram. You heard it here first.

SPEAKER_01 33:37

Listen, if you're under it here first. Didn't follow me back on Instagram. The other one did. My buddy. My little friend. Interesting.

SPEAKER_00 33:49

The more you know. So hot take take spin back.

SPEAKER_01 33:55

Yeah. Follow them on Instagram. Literally, who cares? What do you have to lose? Yeah. We kept saying that last night. Is what do you have to lose? Literally nothing.

SPEAKER_02 34:02

When you were like, oh, the voicemail was you were sending me. I was like, the what?

SPEAKER_01 34:06

There was a lot happening in Presley's Live last night.

SPEAKER_02 34:09

There was a lot.

SPEAKER_01 34:10

And it was late, so things got a little crazy.

SPEAKER_02 34:12

My brain was not working, but we're here. We're here. Um, thank you so much for coming on. I'm so happy. No, I'm like so I love our friendship so much. So thank you. I really appreciate you. And I'm like so just grateful for you in all aspects, but very grateful that you were so down to play pickleball with me.

SPEAKER_01 34:28

I loved it.

SPEAKER_02 34:29

It was so fun. So fun.

SPEAKER_01 34:31

If if everyone wants to come to SoulCycle, oh, obviously.

SPEAKER_02 34:34

Okay. We did talk about that. I've talked about this multiple times. If you want to get snatched for summer, get your hot girl arms. She will get you right. Her class is amazing. She teaches all the time, everywhere. I'm usually there. Um we have lots of friends. Lots of lots of times. Lots of friends that go. Her music is great. It's only 45 minutes. It's not gonna kill you. Yeah, you can do 45 minutes.

SPEAKER_01 34:56

It's dark. And if you message me on Instagram, maybe your first class can be on me. Period.

SPEAKER_02 35:00

If you want. Period. And that's period. And that's thank you so much. I hope everyone has a great Sunday. And I'll see you next week. Bye. That was a good one. That was a good one.