WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.160 So praise the Lord to that also. 00:00:02.799 --> 00:00:08.240 Well, today we're picking back up on the fruit of the Spirit. 00:00:08.640 --> 00:00:18.719 And uh there's something that I thought about, and then I said, how applicable today this is? 00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:22.960 Because let me ask you three things. 00:00:23.199 --> 00:00:25.440 How do you deal with interruptions? 00:00:25.600 --> 00:00:27.280 How do you deal with interruptions? 00:00:27.519 --> 00:00:29.679 Any of you ever get interrupted? 00:00:30.239 --> 00:00:31.199 All the time? 00:00:31.600 --> 00:00:33.200 How do you deal with them? 00:00:34.960 --> 00:00:36.079 Are you patient? 00:00:38.000 --> 00:00:38.320 No. 00:00:39.200 --> 00:00:42.479 Okay, secondly, how do you deal with irritations? 00:00:45.439 --> 00:00:47.280 Anyone ever get irritated? 00:00:47.600 --> 00:00:49.679 I know Susan does with me. 00:00:51.600 --> 00:00:55.520 How do you deal with irritation? 00:00:55.679 --> 00:00:56.719 Are you patient? 00:00:57.840 --> 00:00:58.159 No. 00:00:58.799 --> 00:01:00.479 Okay, here's the third one. 00:01:02.719 --> 00:01:06.560 And well, let me go back about irritations before I get to the third one. 00:01:06.799 --> 00:01:12.719 How do you react when you're in a restaurant, which we hadn't been in a while, so let me rephrase that. 00:01:13.359 --> 00:01:17.200 Mother's Day, I decided I was going to take Susan out to eat. 00:01:17.920 --> 00:01:19.439 Because we've been eating in. 00:01:20.159 --> 00:01:26.799 And I figured maybe since they were opening up Monday, somebody might be open that we could sit down. 00:01:26.879 --> 00:01:31.120 Because in Tennessee, they've been open for about three weeks prior to this. 00:01:31.439 --> 00:01:35.359 Susan and I've been running up Tennessee for a day or two, and we've been going out to eat. 00:01:36.719 --> 00:01:38.159 But I thought we'd find something. 00:01:38.480 --> 00:01:43.680 So I took off and we rode around, and everywhere I went, everything was closed. 00:01:43.840 --> 00:01:47.359 So I decided, well, we'll try to find a fast food. 00:01:49.120 --> 00:01:49.599 Line. 00:01:50.959 --> 00:01:53.680 Have you seen the lines with all these fast foods? 00:01:53.840 --> 00:01:59.359 So all of a sudden the fast food line, hey, the fast food places are no longer fast. 00:02:00.239 --> 00:02:04.000 So how do you how do you handle that? 00:02:04.400 --> 00:02:08.400 Susan told me after the third time passing a place. 00:02:08.560 --> 00:02:10.400 She said, they all have lines, honey. 00:02:10.479 --> 00:02:11.759 What are you gonna do? 00:02:12.400 --> 00:02:16.000 I said, I'm gonna still find one that doesn't have a line. 00:02:17.919 --> 00:02:18.960 That's who I am. 00:02:19.120 --> 00:02:19.599 I'm sorry. 00:02:19.680 --> 00:02:23.840 I'd rather ride around for two hours instead of sitting a line. 00:02:24.000 --> 00:02:26.319 Now, you would you call that patient? 00:02:26.639 --> 00:02:26.960 No. 00:02:28.319 --> 00:02:29.840 I did find Burger King. 00:02:29.919 --> 00:02:32.719 Their door was open, so I walked in and got me a burger. 00:02:33.039 --> 00:02:35.120 Then she and I ate burgers. 00:02:35.439 --> 00:02:37.039 But what are you saying? 00:02:37.199 --> 00:02:38.639 What about cold food? 00:02:38.800 --> 00:02:41.680 You ever been in a restaurant and they bring you cold food? 00:02:42.319 --> 00:02:43.759 How do you react? 00:02:44.879 --> 00:02:47.919 Do you complain or do you say, it's okay? 00:02:48.479 --> 00:02:49.520 It's okay. 00:02:54.400 --> 00:02:56.080 What about traffic jam? 00:02:59.120 --> 00:03:00.800 Are you sure I can preach this morning? 00:03:00.879 --> 00:03:03.280 No, I've already repented a hundred times. 00:03:03.680 --> 00:03:06.560 But now listen to me, listen to me about this. 00:03:06.719 --> 00:03:18.319 I read, I was reading these articles about distance, distancing, and long lines and all this, and one guy came up and he had figured this out. 00:03:18.560 --> 00:03:25.280 If you live a normal long life, do you know how long you wait at a red light? 00:03:26.639 --> 00:03:28.159 Six months? 00:03:29.919 --> 00:03:34.960 You spend six months sitting at a red light. 00:03:35.199 --> 00:03:38.479 Do you know what I can do in six months? 00:03:38.800 --> 00:03:44.960 I said, bless God, I'm fixing to get on the maps and find out all the roads where there's no red lights. 00:03:45.199 --> 00:03:48.879 I am not gonna spend six months sitting at a red light. 00:03:49.120 --> 00:03:51.680 Now that's being very patient, isn't it? 00:03:52.560 --> 00:03:52.879 No. 00:03:55.039 --> 00:03:55.360 No. 00:03:56.639 --> 00:04:02.479 So the title of the message today is very appropriate. 00:04:02.800 --> 00:04:03.680 Patience. 00:04:04.159 --> 00:04:07.439 And the Greek word is makarothomea. 00:04:08.240 --> 00:04:08.960 Big word. 00:04:09.199 --> 00:04:10.639 Big Greek word, too. 00:04:10.879 --> 00:04:13.680 And it literally means endurance. 00:04:14.719 --> 00:04:16.560 It means consistency. 00:04:17.360 --> 00:04:19.519 It means faithfulness. 00:04:20.160 --> 00:04:21.279 That's what it means. 00:04:21.439 --> 00:04:31.600 And then in the application of it, it is patience, is slowness in revenging wrong. 00:04:32.800 --> 00:04:40.560 In other words, it's slowness in not blaming the cook or the waiter or the waitress. 00:04:42.240 --> 00:04:47.680 It's not blaming people for a wrongdoing. 00:04:47.920 --> 00:04:49.680 It's slow to do that. 00:04:50.560 --> 00:04:54.399 Or it's slow to lose your coup. 00:04:55.360 --> 00:05:00.240 So, with that said, and by the way, that does bring me to that third question. 00:05:00.399 --> 00:05:02.639 How do you deal with inconvenience? 00:05:03.600 --> 00:05:05.680 Well, I don't do it too well. 00:05:06.079 --> 00:05:08.959 So today we're going to be looking at patience. 00:05:09.120 --> 00:05:11.759 And by the way, it's not my greatest strength. 00:05:12.079 --> 00:05:15.279 How many of you are a real patient person? 00:05:15.439 --> 00:05:18.399 Do we have any real patient people in here? 00:05:19.439 --> 00:05:20.079 None. 00:05:20.319 --> 00:05:23.040 So should I go ahead and give the altar call? 00:05:24.720 --> 00:05:26.240 Before I preach. 00:05:27.680 --> 00:05:30.079 Trust me, this is not good. 00:05:30.639 --> 00:05:34.720 But with that said, I want us to look at what patience really is. 00:05:34.959 --> 00:05:35.759 All right, get ready. 00:05:35.920 --> 00:05:36.959 Get your pen ready. 00:05:37.120 --> 00:05:39.600 Here's what patience really means. 00:05:40.079 --> 00:05:45.360 Patience means long wrath and slow anger. 00:05:46.160 --> 00:05:49.600 Long wrath and slow anger. 00:05:50.319 --> 00:05:56.800 This basically means that we are to handle our anger, now watch this, slowly. 00:05:57.199 --> 00:06:01.120 We're to handle our anger slowly. 00:06:01.360 --> 00:06:03.680 Remember when God spoke to Moses? 00:06:04.160 --> 00:06:08.879 Listen to what he said in Exodus 34, verse 6. 00:06:09.199 --> 00:06:12.480 The Lord is compassionate and gracious. 00:06:12.800 --> 00:06:17.759 God is slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness. 00:06:18.240 --> 00:06:21.199 He was literally talking about patience here. 00:06:21.600 --> 00:06:23.839 Our God is slow to anger. 00:06:24.079 --> 00:06:27.439 Our God is a very patient God. 00:06:27.600 --> 00:06:30.000 Can we all say amen to that? 00:06:30.639 --> 00:06:32.000 Aren't you glad? 00:06:32.240 --> 00:06:36.399 And am I not glad that God was patient with me? 00:06:36.720 --> 00:06:37.839 Oh Lord. 00:06:38.160 --> 00:06:40.319 So that's what we see right here. 00:06:40.560 --> 00:06:42.160 Now, here's the key. 00:06:42.399 --> 00:06:43.759 Here's the key. 00:06:44.639 --> 00:06:51.680 It's not always a sin to be angry. 00:06:53.120 --> 00:06:56.959 When I was growing up, they said you couldn't be angry. 00:06:57.759 --> 00:06:59.519 In fact, you know what they called it? 00:06:59.680 --> 00:07:02.240 They didn't ever use the word being angry. 00:07:02.480 --> 00:07:07.680 They were righteously, hey, righteously indignant. 00:07:08.319 --> 00:07:11.279 The Greek word for that means they were ticked off. 00:07:12.480 --> 00:07:13.120 Amen? 00:07:13.680 --> 00:07:17.279 But now you can't be angry because that's a sin. 00:07:17.680 --> 00:07:20.000 I remember that all the time going up. 00:07:20.240 --> 00:07:21.360 You're losing your temper. 00:07:21.600 --> 00:07:25.680 You can't have a fact now used to be told all the time, you can't have a temper. 00:07:26.399 --> 00:07:27.920 You can't be angry. 00:07:28.560 --> 00:07:39.199 And then, you know, the older I got and the more, should I say, studious in the word, I went up, I came up with a verse, and that's on your on the slide, I think. 00:07:39.439 --> 00:07:42.560 Ephesians 4.26, which says, be angry. 00:07:43.439 --> 00:07:44.079 Hello. 00:07:45.920 --> 00:07:47.199 I'm gonna read the rest. 00:07:47.360 --> 00:07:48.800 She said, read the rest. 00:07:49.600 --> 00:07:50.480 Be angry. 00:07:50.560 --> 00:07:51.759 I'm gonna do like a lot of people. 00:07:51.839 --> 00:07:54.000 I just like to read the part I like. 00:07:54.800 --> 00:07:56.000 Be angry. 00:07:57.519 --> 00:07:58.800 And sin not. 00:08:00.480 --> 00:08:03.759 Do not let the sun go down upon your wrath. 00:08:05.279 --> 00:08:10.959 So what that means, literally, and you can look it up, do your word studies, all of it. 00:08:11.120 --> 00:08:16.800 And here's what it means anger is only sinful. 00:08:17.680 --> 00:08:18.720 Now watch. 00:08:20.560 --> 00:08:22.079 When it's out of control. 00:08:23.439 --> 00:08:25.120 Then it becomes sin. 00:08:26.399 --> 00:08:29.120 So there is a righteous anger. 00:08:29.439 --> 00:08:31.120 And let me tell you what that really is. 00:08:31.279 --> 00:08:36.080 Righteous anger, you should be angry when people are being treated wrongly. 00:08:36.159 --> 00:08:37.360 Can I get an amen? 00:08:38.000 --> 00:08:40.879 You ought to be angry with injustice. 00:08:41.840 --> 00:08:47.679 You ought to be angry when anybody dishonors God's honor. 00:08:49.840 --> 00:08:52.799 That's why you better not use GD in front of me. 00:08:53.120 --> 00:08:53.759 No way. 00:08:54.320 --> 00:08:57.039 I don't even like any kind of curse word. 00:08:58.159 --> 00:08:59.360 Especially that one. 00:08:59.600 --> 00:09:00.960 Taking the Lord's name in vain. 00:09:01.039 --> 00:09:03.919 Thou shalt not take the Lord's name in vain. 00:09:04.399 --> 00:09:06.000 That's a commandment. 00:09:06.559 --> 00:09:09.679 But anyway, so I want us to understand this. 00:09:09.919 --> 00:09:12.080 In fact, I wrote this down to me. 00:09:12.320 --> 00:09:13.840 Use correctly. 00:09:14.159 --> 00:09:20.000 Anger, and I love this, anger can write unjustice. 00:09:21.039 --> 00:09:25.759 And it can redress a grievance. 00:09:26.559 --> 00:09:27.519 It really is. 00:09:27.919 --> 00:09:32.320 It's so unbelievably important that we understand that. 00:09:32.639 --> 00:09:37.759 Or it can blow up, blow up us and everyone around us. 00:09:39.279 --> 00:09:47.039 So today, I want us to look at the root problem to impatience. 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:53.840 If we're to be patient, what causes us to be impatient? 00:09:54.399 --> 00:09:55.679 Make sense? 00:09:56.080 --> 00:10:00.960 Well, guess where the root problem of impatience comes from? 00:10:01.440 --> 00:10:03.600 It comes from anger. 00:10:04.960 --> 00:10:08.080 It comes from anger. 00:10:08.559 --> 00:10:10.480 That's where it comes from. 00:10:11.039 --> 00:10:18.960 So I want us to look at seven key principles to managing our anger. 00:10:19.360 --> 00:10:20.799 Because it's so important. 00:10:21.200 --> 00:10:28.639 Anger can lash out and hurt others, or it can motivate us to right wrongs and correct injustice. 00:10:29.039 --> 00:10:30.559 It's our choice. 00:10:30.799 --> 00:10:32.559 So here's what I want you to write down. 00:10:32.799 --> 00:10:33.840 Write it down. 00:10:34.240 --> 00:10:36.799 You can control your anger. 00:10:38.799 --> 00:10:42.639 I had a man come up to me and said, I just can't control my anger. 00:10:43.679 --> 00:10:47.919 He said, I just I just blow up like a volcano sometimes. 00:10:49.519 --> 00:10:50.559 I just can't help it. 00:10:50.720 --> 00:10:51.440 That's what he says. 00:10:51.600 --> 00:10:52.639 I just can't help it. 00:10:52.720 --> 00:10:56.159 He says, I guess that's my cross to bear. 00:10:57.120 --> 00:10:58.559 You know what I looked at him? 00:10:58.720 --> 00:11:02.159 I looked at him and said, No, it's not your cross to bear, it's your wife. 00:11:03.919 --> 00:11:09.919 That's just sin for you and me when I lose it. 00:11:11.360 --> 00:11:12.000 Amen. 00:11:13.200 --> 00:11:15.600 So you can control your anger. 00:11:15.759 --> 00:11:16.159 Let me prove it. 00:11:16.240 --> 00:11:17.919 Now, some of you said, no, I know you don't know. 00:11:18.399 --> 00:11:19.360 Let me prove it. 00:11:19.600 --> 00:11:20.960 Every one of us in here. 00:11:21.279 --> 00:11:25.200 Parrots, how many of us have been angry with our kids? 00:11:25.279 --> 00:11:28.879 And I got the kids in here, so y'all can't lie, parrots. 00:11:29.840 --> 00:11:32.559 Have you ever just kind of lost it? 00:11:33.519 --> 00:11:35.440 Only two of us, mine's three. 00:11:35.519 --> 00:11:36.960 Come on, I'm gonna preach online. 00:11:38.080 --> 00:11:40.159 I mean, man, you're giving your finger. 00:11:40.240 --> 00:11:46.799 You've I know Rick wouldn't have done that. 00:11:49.200 --> 00:11:49.679 Why? 00:11:51.919 --> 00:11:54.559 Sorry, kids to get it every time. 00:11:54.720 --> 00:11:58.480 And have you ever been letting them have it, and all of a sudden the telephone rings? 00:12:01.039 --> 00:12:02.639 And you pick it up. 00:12:03.200 --> 00:12:06.720 And you've been oh, hello. 00:12:07.120 --> 00:12:08.879 Yeah, oh, I'm doing fine. 00:12:09.039 --> 00:12:13.600 And boy, your kids are saying, I wished I was on the other end of that phone call. 00:12:16.559 --> 00:12:17.360 Ever been there? 00:12:17.440 --> 00:12:18.480 Come on, parents. 00:12:18.639 --> 00:12:21.840 I told you, we're all coming to the altar here in a few minutes. 00:12:22.080 --> 00:12:23.519 We're all guilty. 00:12:23.840 --> 00:12:26.879 I mean, boy, you can just turn it on, turn it off. 00:12:27.039 --> 00:12:30.000 So don't tell me you can't control that anger. 00:12:30.639 --> 00:12:31.600 You can't. 00:12:32.559 --> 00:12:34.240 Say this out loud with me. 00:12:34.559 --> 00:12:36.799 I can control my anger. 00:12:37.440 --> 00:12:43.440 I can control my anger through the power of the Holy Spirit of God. 00:12:46.720 --> 00:12:47.360 Amen. 00:12:48.080 --> 00:12:50.960 So let's look at that today on how we do that. 00:12:51.120 --> 00:12:52.399 Number one, get ready. 00:12:52.639 --> 00:12:54.639 Oh, I'm I'm excited. 00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:59.200 Number one, you've got to resolve to manage your anger. 00:13:00.480 --> 00:13:02.799 Listen to Proverbs 16, 32. 00:13:03.039 --> 00:13:13.600 It is better, he says, he who is slow to anger is better than the mining, and he who rules his spirit than the what? 00:13:14.080 --> 00:13:15.600 The one who takes a city. 00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:16.639 You know what he's saying? 00:13:16.720 --> 00:13:18.960 That is unbelievable, that verse there. 00:13:19.200 --> 00:13:20.960 Proverbs 16, 32. 00:13:21.440 --> 00:13:23.600 Bring it up on the screen and look at that. 00:13:23.679 --> 00:13:27.519 What he's saying, it is better to be, hey, slow-tempered. 00:13:27.919 --> 00:13:33.279 He's literally, it's better to have a slow temper than to be famous. 00:13:33.679 --> 00:13:34.879 That's what he means. 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:42.080 Or it's better, hey, to have self-control than to control a great army. 00:13:43.279 --> 00:13:44.399 That's unreal. 00:13:44.559 --> 00:13:46.159 That's what he's telling us here. 00:13:46.320 --> 00:13:50.720 The first thing I want you to know today is anger can be managed. 00:13:51.519 --> 00:13:52.159 It can. 00:13:53.759 --> 00:14:01.519 Where the problem comes in is when, and I've talked to people who have a real problem with anger, and they say again, they can't manage it. 00:14:01.600 --> 00:14:02.159 But they can. 00:14:02.639 --> 00:14:03.200 They can't. 00:14:03.360 --> 00:14:05.840 You pick when you're going to be angry. 00:14:08.080 --> 00:14:09.200 Better believe you do. 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:13.600 That's why, again, getting angry at your kids is a great example. 00:14:14.000 --> 00:14:17.600 So, number one, resolve to manage it. 00:14:18.320 --> 00:14:21.200 You gotta say, okay, how do I manage it? 00:14:21.519 --> 00:14:23.039 So that's where we're going to. 00:14:23.440 --> 00:14:24.960 Number one, resolve to manage it. 00:14:25.120 --> 00:14:27.840 Number two, realize the cost. 00:14:29.840 --> 00:14:32.960 Notice in your outline, what do I put? 00:14:33.200 --> 00:14:35.759 Anger is one letter away from what? 00:14:36.399 --> 00:14:37.200 Danger. 00:14:37.440 --> 00:14:38.559 Is that not good? 00:14:39.279 --> 00:14:40.240 Is that not good? 00:14:40.399 --> 00:14:42.720 Anger is one letter away from danger. 00:14:42.879 --> 00:14:45.279 Look at Proverbs 29, 22. 00:14:46.240 --> 00:14:55.759 A hot-tempered man starts fights, and then he says, goes on in the results, he gets into all kinds of troubles. 00:14:56.720 --> 00:14:58.720 All kind of trouble. 00:14:59.679 --> 00:15:06.320 You never get to the top of any position by blowing your top. 00:15:07.039 --> 00:15:08.159 You never do. 00:15:08.559 --> 00:15:13.919 Also, hey, when you lose your temper, you lose. 00:15:15.519 --> 00:15:16.720 You lose. 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:28.960 Some of the most regretful times in my life, my relationship with my wife, my kids, and even my ministry, it's when I've lost my cool. 00:15:32.240 --> 00:15:34.000 When I've lost my cool. 00:15:34.159 --> 00:15:38.480 One of my favorite verses, and you need to write this down and memorize. 00:15:39.279 --> 00:15:40.879 James 1.19. 00:15:42.000 --> 00:15:43.519 Slow to speak. 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:54.799 Well, first of all, it says, be swift to listen, slow to speak, slow to wrath, slow to anger. 00:15:57.039 --> 00:15:58.240 Boy, that helps me. 00:15:58.320 --> 00:16:13.919 Every time I've gone into a confrontation, or I knew it was going to be confronted with someone, I sat down and I've usually I'd have it written out on my desk when they'd come into my office. 00:16:14.080 --> 00:16:15.919 And I'd look at it the whole time. 00:16:16.399 --> 00:16:20.639 Swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger. 00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:25.919 Because in a confrontation, go ahead, let me go ahead and help you. 00:16:26.159 --> 00:16:33.519 When you're having a disagreement and it's pretty heated, kind of like Democrats and Republicans. 00:16:34.399 --> 00:16:35.039 Hello? 00:16:37.840 --> 00:16:41.840 Hey, I promise you they're going to push your button. 00:16:42.879 --> 00:16:43.679 You know why? 00:16:43.919 --> 00:16:46.080 Satan's going to push your button. 00:16:47.039 --> 00:16:48.559 But let me say this. 00:16:48.720 --> 00:16:50.480 You know why God allowed Satan? 00:16:51.360 --> 00:16:55.120 I always ask the Lord, why do you let Satan tempt me that way? 00:16:55.519 --> 00:16:57.279 You ever ask that question? 00:16:57.519 --> 00:17:01.360 Why do I, or here's the question, you probably don't ask the Lord that. 00:17:01.519 --> 00:17:02.320 That's just me. 00:17:02.480 --> 00:17:05.039 Because me and the Lord have those kind of talks. 00:17:05.599 --> 00:17:07.519 By the way, David did too with the Lord. 00:17:07.599 --> 00:17:10.559 But he always ended up saying, But I know I'm wrong, Lord. 00:17:10.799 --> 00:17:11.839 Your will be done. 00:17:12.000 --> 00:17:14.720 But hey, here, why do I do that? 00:17:14.880 --> 00:17:17.519 Do you ever ask yourself, why did I do that? 00:17:18.880 --> 00:17:24.079 Well, or why does why why can't I control, let the Holy Spirit control? 00:17:24.319 --> 00:17:27.599 Well, there's a reason God allows you to be in a situation. 00:17:27.839 --> 00:17:31.920 He's trying to teach you, I hate to say what I'm about to say, I hate it. 00:17:32.160 --> 00:17:34.640 He's trying to teach you patience. 00:17:37.440 --> 00:17:42.319 Tribulation worketh. 00:17:44.720 --> 00:17:46.480 Y'all don't know that verse. 00:17:47.759 --> 00:17:48.720 Romans? 00:17:49.119 --> 00:17:49.839 Tribulation. 00:17:49.920 --> 00:17:51.680 In fact, you know what the first part of it says? 00:17:51.839 --> 00:17:54.240 Glory in tribulation. 00:17:55.680 --> 00:17:56.960 Glory in problems. 00:17:57.039 --> 00:17:57.279 Why? 00:17:57.440 --> 00:17:59.440 Because it works patience. 00:18:01.519 --> 00:18:06.720 So every time you get in a situation, God's gonna keep working on you. 00:18:06.960 --> 00:18:09.119 He's still working on me. 00:18:09.839 --> 00:18:12.480 And he's teaching us patience. 00:18:12.799 --> 00:18:16.880 And I'm gonna be honest with you, I haven't passed the test yet. 00:18:17.680 --> 00:18:18.799 Anyone else there? 00:18:18.880 --> 00:18:19.759 I hadn't passed. 00:18:19.839 --> 00:18:21.440 I keep getting tested. 00:18:22.880 --> 00:18:24.160 And I know it. 00:18:25.039 --> 00:18:31.200 And this whole week I've been saying, ooh, man, I thought I was doing better till this week. 00:18:32.799 --> 00:18:34.400 I'm not doing too well. 00:18:34.880 --> 00:18:40.880 So you've got to realize the Bible is very specific about damage. 00:18:41.039 --> 00:18:42.079 Now watch this. 00:18:42.400 --> 00:18:44.400 Done by uncontrolled anger. 00:18:44.640 --> 00:18:45.200 Watch this. 00:18:45.440 --> 00:18:46.640 Now this is good, folks. 00:18:46.799 --> 00:18:47.920 You gotta see this. 00:18:48.480 --> 00:18:50.160 Proverbs 15, 18. 00:18:50.799 --> 00:18:52.240 Know what it says? 00:18:52.640 --> 00:18:53.920 Hot tempers. 00:18:55.599 --> 00:18:57.200 Losing your temper. 00:18:57.440 --> 00:18:59.839 Right here causes arguments. 00:19:01.680 --> 00:19:02.559 It really does. 00:19:02.720 --> 00:19:04.880 But a cool-tempered person stops. 00:19:06.160 --> 00:19:08.240 We need some cool-tempered people. 00:19:08.640 --> 00:19:10.400 Proverbs 14, 29. 00:19:10.640 --> 00:19:13.200 Anger causes mistakes. 00:19:15.119 --> 00:19:17.039 Proverbs 14, 17. 00:19:17.279 --> 00:19:20.319 People with hot tempers do foolish things. 00:19:21.039 --> 00:19:22.720 Proverbs 11, 29. 00:19:22.880 --> 00:19:23.519 Listen to this. 00:19:23.680 --> 00:19:31.599 The fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left. 00:19:31.759 --> 00:19:35.599 The King James says everything will be blown into the wind. 00:19:37.279 --> 00:19:37.920 Wow. 00:19:39.119 --> 00:19:40.480 Wow, folks. 00:19:41.039 --> 00:19:43.279 Resentment is nothing more. 00:19:43.839 --> 00:19:48.720 Have you, hey, you ever been had some resentment in your life? 00:19:50.079 --> 00:19:55.200 Well, Tracy, we got a lot of people that we we Tracy and I all in one. 00:19:55.440 --> 00:19:57.519 You've never been resentful at anybody? 00:19:57.680 --> 00:19:58.559 Let's try that again. 00:19:58.720 --> 00:20:00.480 You ever had any resentment? 00:20:03.200 --> 00:20:08.960 I can tell you right now how you have where resentment comes up, and most of you have already faced it. 00:20:09.039 --> 00:20:09.920 I guarantee it. 00:20:10.000 --> 00:20:13.039 I know you are, and I, and I'm not even going to ask you to raise your hand. 00:20:13.359 --> 00:20:18.640 I have a lot of resentment when people start trying to tell me what I'm going to do. 00:20:19.039 --> 00:20:21.119 And I see Steve walking back there. 00:20:21.279 --> 00:20:23.119 I know he has that resentment. 00:20:24.799 --> 00:20:29.599 When somebody tries to tell me what to do and I don't want to do it, does that not bother you? 00:20:30.240 --> 00:20:32.079 That's called resentment. 00:20:33.279 --> 00:20:37.519 And you know where, you know what the root of that resentment comes from? 00:20:38.400 --> 00:20:39.039 Anger. 00:20:40.400 --> 00:20:48.000 And if you let it simmer, it will explode in some form or fashion. 00:20:49.039 --> 00:20:50.720 So you got to deal with it. 00:20:50.960 --> 00:20:55.119 And you got to deal with it when it starts to rise, not later. 00:20:55.359 --> 00:20:56.880 And listen to what he says. 00:20:57.119 --> 00:21:02.400 He says, again, resentment is nothing more than stuffed anger. 00:21:03.200 --> 00:21:07.039 In fact, there are two things that society has a problem with. 00:21:07.200 --> 00:21:12.960 I've been doing a lot of research in Christian psychology, not liberal psychology. 00:21:13.680 --> 00:21:21.839 And some of the leading Christian psychologists have written major books and papers on the answer to this. 00:21:22.000 --> 00:21:26.079 And what they say, there are two things that society has a problem with. 00:21:26.240 --> 00:21:26.880 Ready? 00:21:27.200 --> 00:21:30.400 Depression and resentment. 00:21:32.960 --> 00:21:59.759 Our hospitals are filled with people that are depressed, discouraged, sick, high blood pressures, strokes, heart attacks, and they are seeing now that a lot of those problems are determined and result, go lead back to depression and resentment, and what causes the depression and the resentment. 00:22:00.319 --> 00:22:01.279 Is anger. 00:22:02.720 --> 00:22:03.519 Guess what? 00:22:03.759 --> 00:22:05.759 Which means impatient. 00:22:06.640 --> 00:22:07.519 Impatient. 00:22:09.359 --> 00:22:09.839 Wow. 00:22:10.079 --> 00:22:11.119 Whoa, preacher. 00:22:11.759 --> 00:22:13.359 Oh me, preacher. 00:22:14.960 --> 00:22:19.759 So, again, we see how really bad it is. 00:22:20.000 --> 00:22:21.200 Number three. 00:22:24.160 --> 00:22:26.799 Reflect before reacting. 00:22:27.119 --> 00:22:27.599 Ooh. 00:22:27.839 --> 00:22:28.400 Boy. 00:22:28.720 --> 00:22:30.880 Put a star by that one for me. 00:22:31.200 --> 00:22:33.119 Reflect before reacting. 00:22:33.920 --> 00:22:36.079 Proverbs 29, 11, we just said that. 00:22:36.240 --> 00:22:38.319 A fool, now watch this. 00:22:38.400 --> 00:22:39.599 That's the King James. 00:22:39.839 --> 00:22:43.039 He said, it says a fool vents all his feelings. 00:22:43.839 --> 00:22:46.000 But a wise man holds them back. 00:22:46.480 --> 00:22:53.359 In other words, you don't have to re hey, you don't have to speak or reveal all the things you're thinking. 00:22:55.200 --> 00:22:57.680 I wished I could do this better. 00:22:58.480 --> 00:23:04.000 My problem is I and I said, oh, I shouldn't have said that. 00:23:05.359 --> 00:23:06.640 Have you ever said something? 00:23:06.799 --> 00:23:12.000 And as you were saying it, and about the time you said it, you went, bring it back, bring it back. 00:23:15.359 --> 00:23:16.559 Bring it back. 00:23:18.559 --> 00:23:21.440 Then you got the crowd that said, well, bless God. 00:23:21.599 --> 00:23:24.240 If I'm thinking it, I'm gonna say it. 00:23:24.400 --> 00:23:25.680 That's just who I am. 00:23:25.839 --> 00:23:27.119 Well, I got news for you. 00:23:27.200 --> 00:23:28.480 You're wrong. 00:23:31.920 --> 00:23:33.279 It's foolish. 00:23:33.920 --> 00:23:35.759 Look, let me read it again. 00:23:36.000 --> 00:23:39.680 The fool vents all his feelings. 00:23:40.160 --> 00:23:41.119 All of them. 00:23:41.839 --> 00:23:47.359 Another translation puts it like this: the stupid man gives free reign to his anger. 00:23:49.440 --> 00:23:58.400 You know, delay is a tremendous tool in helping you control your anger and helping me control my anger. 00:23:58.559 --> 00:24:01.599 Now, I'm not talking about, you know how I like to do that? 00:24:01.759 --> 00:24:06.160 When I say delay, Susan will tell you, you know what my delay is? 00:24:08.000 --> 00:24:11.759 I used to go get on my motorcycle when we'd get when I'd start getting upset with her. 00:24:11.920 --> 00:24:14.720 Sometimes she'd tell me to go get on my motorcycle. 00:24:15.279 --> 00:24:17.039