WEBVTT 00:00:01.360 --> 00:00:03.279 Jesus, thank you so much for this morning. 00:00:03.359 --> 00:00:04.719 Thank you so much for bringing us together. 00:00:04.799 --> 00:00:07.280 Thank you, God, for bringing all these amazing young people. 00:00:07.440 --> 00:00:14.240 Thank you, Lord, for helping us as a church impact a whole generation of people that we believe are gonna grow up and live their lives connected to you. 00:00:14.400 --> 00:00:16.719 We believe they're gonna change our culture in ways we can't even imagine. 00:00:16.800 --> 00:00:18.239 So God equip us to do that. 00:00:18.399 --> 00:00:23.359 I pray that you would inspire many of us to step up and say, hey, I'm gonna serve the next generation at this church. 00:00:23.519 --> 00:00:25.039 And I just pray this in your name, Jesus. 00:00:25.199 --> 00:00:25.839 Amen. 00:00:26.239 --> 00:00:29.280 Well, for the last few weeks, we've been talking about what it means to be united. 00:00:29.359 --> 00:00:33.520 And so if you're here for the first time, I just met a friend of mine that's here for the very first time this morning. 00:00:33.600 --> 00:00:34.320 His name is Steve. 00:00:34.399 --> 00:00:37.359 He gave me a black eye two weeks ago playing basketball, and he's here this morning. 00:00:37.520 --> 00:00:46.000 Yay, Steve! I'm just challenging you guys, do you love someone enough to take a punch for them to get them to church? 00:00:46.640 --> 00:00:47.439 Because I do. 00:00:47.679 --> 00:00:49.920 So, you know, it wasn't really a punch, it was an accident. 00:00:50.000 --> 00:00:58.320 But no, um, if you've been here for the last few weeks, you know this, but if you're here today for the first time or you haven't been here in a while, we're talking about what it looks like to be united as a church. 00:00:58.560 --> 00:01:03.920 Because we're supposed to have a very special unity, a unity that we don't see in the real world. 00:01:04.000 --> 00:01:09.840 And look, we don't have to look very hard at the real world to see that there's a serious deficit of unity. 00:01:10.319 --> 00:01:12.640 We don't see a lot of unity in our culture. 00:01:12.879 --> 00:01:19.760 We don't see a lot of people coming together, and when we do see people coming together, often it's them coming together in opposition to something. 00:01:20.000 --> 00:01:25.040 Often it's them coming together out of mutual hate or mutual disagreement with someone else. 00:01:25.200 --> 00:01:29.519 Rarely do we see people come together out of mutual love for one another. 00:01:29.760 --> 00:01:38.319 We live in a culture and in a time when people are more and more becoming polarized, believing that those who disagree with them are evil, horrible people. 00:01:39.040 --> 00:01:42.719 We have a serious unity problem in our nation. 00:01:43.760 --> 00:01:47.760 And the answer that Jesus would recommend is the church. 00:01:48.560 --> 00:01:54.879 Like if you could you could go to Jesus like and talk to him face to face and say, Jesus, what's the solution for the unity problem in America today? 00:01:55.040 --> 00:01:56.719 Jesus would say, the church. 00:01:57.359 --> 00:02:07.120 My church should be the solution because Jesus dreamed, he dreamed and prayed for a unity that would exist with us that is completely uncommon in the world. 00:02:07.200 --> 00:02:11.759 In John 17, for example, this is Jesus right before he goes to the cross praying. 00:02:11.919 --> 00:02:13.759 He says, talking about his followers. 00:02:14.000 --> 00:02:16.159 I am in them and you are in me. 00:02:16.319 --> 00:02:18.319 He's talking to God the Father about his followers. 00:02:18.560 --> 00:02:27.840 He says, May they experience such perfect unity that the world will know that you sent me and that you love them as much as you love me. 00:02:28.639 --> 00:02:35.680 Jesus says, God, I pray that they are so united, that they are so together, that the world looks at them and sees you. 00:02:35.919 --> 00:02:39.439 That the world looks at them and goes, I know that Jesus must be legit. 00:02:39.599 --> 00:02:40.879 I know he must be real. 00:02:41.120 --> 00:02:45.919 I know that God's love must be real because look at the unity that exists in the church. 00:02:46.879 --> 00:02:50.560 And sadly, that is not the way most people would describe the church that they see. 00:02:51.680 --> 00:02:55.280 We are just as splintered as the rest of the world. 00:02:56.000 --> 00:02:59.599 We are just as unlikely to come together as the rest of the world. 00:02:59.680 --> 00:03:06.960 We are just as unlikely to set aside our petty differences and focus on what we have in common as the rest of the world. 00:03:07.039 --> 00:03:08.800 That's why churches are so splintered. 00:03:08.960 --> 00:03:10.960 I believe that's changing, by the way. 00:03:11.599 --> 00:03:20.240 Just this last year, we we took part in two big events as a church that saw thousands of Christians coming together, regardless of background, race, ethnicity, denomination, didn't matter. 00:03:20.400 --> 00:03:22.080 We were part of one race back in the summer. 00:03:22.159 --> 00:03:23.840 That was awesome in August. 00:03:24.000 --> 00:03:28.159 And tens of thousands of Christians came together at Stone Mountain in the name of racial reconciliation. 00:03:28.240 --> 00:03:29.039 It was amazing. 00:03:29.199 --> 00:03:30.479 I'm so glad we were part of that. 00:03:30.560 --> 00:03:34.400 In Cherokee County, back in July, we were part of this thing called Power and Unity. 00:03:34.560 --> 00:03:38.400 Over 30 churches coming together in downtown Woodstock just to worship together. 00:03:38.639 --> 00:03:43.199 Do you know how hard it was for the leaders of power and unity to get 30 churches together? 00:03:43.520 --> 00:03:46.400 Do you realize how many churches said, yeah, no, thanks? 00:03:47.520 --> 00:03:54.960 It was an unprecedented, like unprecedented thing to get 30 churches in one community to come together and worship for an hour together. 00:03:55.680 --> 00:03:58.240 How crazy is it that that's unprecedented? 00:03:58.800 --> 00:04:01.039 Like how crazy is it that it's it's never happened before? 00:04:01.120 --> 00:04:05.599 People will be like, we've never seen this many churches come together in this community, and I'm like, wow. 00:04:06.560 --> 00:04:08.159 That has to change. 00:04:08.560 --> 00:04:10.879 That has to change, and I believe it is changing. 00:04:10.960 --> 00:04:11.759 It's a good thing. 00:04:12.080 --> 00:04:15.280 I believe that God's doing something, and I believe that we we play a part in that. 00:04:15.360 --> 00:04:18.879 That as a church, we've got to be united together. 00:04:19.439 --> 00:04:28.560 That the world should see a love that exists between us, a unity that exists between us that is so uncommon that it literally proves to the world that Jesus is who he says he is. 00:04:29.279 --> 00:04:30.639 We've got to come together. 00:04:30.879 --> 00:04:33.920 And so we've been talking about what it really means to be united. 00:04:34.959 --> 00:04:37.360 What does that really look like in the church? 00:04:37.759 --> 00:04:50.079 How do we think about one another in such a way that we can really have actual unity, that we're not just coming together to attend an event once a week, but we're actually coming alongside each other and living life together like we should. 00:04:50.319 --> 00:04:53.040 And so we've talked about the fact that we're brothers and sisters. 00:04:53.120 --> 00:04:54.800 We've talked about the fact that we share the same spirit. 00:04:54.879 --> 00:04:59.360 We've been studying the book of Ephesians, and in Ephesians, Paul takes this huge left turn. 00:04:59.439 --> 00:05:05.839 He's talking about Jesus and all he's done and all this stuff, and then he like rants on and on about unity for like a solid two chapters. 00:05:06.160 --> 00:05:14.879 And so we've been looking at Paul's rabbit trail on unity and trying to pull from that, hey God, show us how we can be more united. 00:05:15.279 --> 00:05:21.120 What I want to do today is actually read the entirety of Ephesians chapter 3 to you, and you have to understand this about Paul. 00:05:21.439 --> 00:05:23.680 Paul, he like has two modes. 00:05:23.920 --> 00:05:26.319 And if you're unfamiliar, Paul was a leader in the early church. 00:05:26.399 --> 00:05:28.319 He wrote a huge portion of the New Testament. 00:05:28.399 --> 00:05:32.480 Paul was one of the foremost leaders of the Jesus movement in the early days. 00:05:32.560 --> 00:05:35.759 And Paul is probably the most read author in human history. 00:05:36.000 --> 00:05:37.199 That's pretty crazy. 00:05:37.360 --> 00:05:40.240 And he's a great writer, but Paul has these like two modes. 00:05:40.480 --> 00:05:47.279 Paul is either methodical and he is just laying things out, and like almost like an amazing professor. 00:05:47.360 --> 00:05:54.079 Like Paul can just teach, and he can be methodical and meticulous, and everything connects, and then sometimes Paul just goes off. 00:05:54.480 --> 00:05:58.079 Sometimes Paul just goes off and he starts sentences and he doesn't finish them. 00:05:58.240 --> 00:06:00.319 And he'll be like, he'll be like all over the place. 00:06:00.399 --> 00:06:03.759 Like he's just had six cups of coffee, and he's like, all right, all right, so we're together. 00:06:03.839 --> 00:06:09.920 Did I tell you guys that the other day I was out and I was I was seeing some people, oh my gosh, I gotta tell you, like three weeks ago, you know, and he's just going crazy. 00:06:10.000 --> 00:06:13.759 It's like having a four-year-old, you know, and I have these conversations with my four-year-old all the time. 00:06:14.000 --> 00:06:17.279 Paul gets like that when he gets really worked up about something. 00:06:17.680 --> 00:06:19.519 And we see that in Ephesians chapter 3. 00:06:19.600 --> 00:06:23.439 This is Paul just going off about unity in the church. 00:06:23.519 --> 00:06:24.959 And let's read this together. 00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:26.959 Ephesians 3, starting in verse 1. 00:06:27.040 --> 00:06:33.839 He says, When I think of all this, and the all this is everything we've been talking about the last few weeks, that God has brought people together like never before. 00:06:34.000 --> 00:06:41.920 The Jews and the Gentiles were people in his culture that never got together, never spoke to each other, hated one another, and now they're part of the same church, the same movement. 00:06:42.319 --> 00:06:47.120 And Paul was a man who hated Christians, and he hated Gentiles, meaning non-Jewish people. 00:06:47.279 --> 00:06:51.199 He hated both of those people, and now he becomes the pastor of the Gentiles. 00:06:51.360 --> 00:06:52.079 It's crazy. 00:06:52.240 --> 00:07:00.160 And he says, When I think of all this, I, Paul, a prisoner of Christ Jesus, for the benefit of you Gentiles, and here comes the rabbit trail. 00:07:00.639 --> 00:07:06.000 Assuming, by the way, that you know God gave me the special responsibility of extending his grace to you Gentiles. 00:07:06.160 --> 00:07:08.160 And remember, right here, he doesn't finish this first sentence. 00:07:08.240 --> 00:07:09.600 He's already like way off track. 00:07:09.759 --> 00:07:11.600 He's just, he's going off now. 00:07:11.920 --> 00:07:17.360 He says, as I briefly wrote earlier, God himself revealed his mysterious plan to me. 00:07:17.519 --> 00:07:21.600 As you read what I've written, you will understand my insight into this plan regarding Christ. 00:07:21.759 --> 00:07:27.839 God did not reveal it to previous generations, but now by his spirit, he has revealed it to those holy apostles and prophets. 00:07:28.000 --> 00:07:29.120 And this is God's plan. 00:07:29.279 --> 00:07:35.519 Both Gentiles and Jews who believe in the good news share equally, equally in the riches inherited by God's children. 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:40.560 Both are part of the same body and both enjoy the promise of blessings because they belong to Christ Jesus. 00:07:40.800 --> 00:07:45.759 By God's grace and mighty power, I've been given the privilege of serving him by spreading this good news. 00:07:46.000 --> 00:07:53.759 Though I am the least deserving of all God's people, he graciously gave me the privilege of telling the Gentiles about the endless treasures available to them in Christ. 00:07:54.000 --> 00:08:00.560 I was chosen to explain to everyone this mysterious plan that God, the creator of all things, had kept secret from the beginning. 00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:09.759 God's purpose in all this was to use the church to display his wisdom in its rich variety to all the unseen rulers and authorities in the heavenly places. 00:08:09.920 --> 00:08:13.680 This was his eternal plan, which he carried out through Christ Jesus our Lord. 00:08:13.839 --> 00:08:18.399 Because of Christ and our faith in him, we can now come boldly and confidently into God's presence. 00:08:18.560 --> 00:08:19.759 So please don't lose heart. 00:08:19.920 --> 00:08:23.920 Because of my trials here, I am suffering for you, so you should feel honored. 00:08:24.000 --> 00:08:25.199 So there's just Paul. 00:08:25.519 --> 00:08:28.079 He's in awe and wonder of what God has done. 00:08:28.240 --> 00:08:29.680 And he's just going off left and right. 00:08:29.759 --> 00:08:30.800 He's covering a lot of ground. 00:08:30.879 --> 00:08:34.559 He talks about Jews and Gentiles, he talks about rulers and authorities in the heavenly places. 00:08:34.639 --> 00:08:36.879 He's just all over the map. 00:08:37.120 --> 00:08:38.720 Because he is worked up. 00:08:39.360 --> 00:08:41.600 He's talking about how we're together, that we've been unified. 00:08:41.679 --> 00:08:42.320 He can't believe this. 00:08:42.399 --> 00:08:43.360 He can't believe what he's seeing. 00:08:43.440 --> 00:08:47.600 And then he goes on with another when I think of all this, verse 14. 00:08:47.840 --> 00:08:56.000 When I think of all this, I fall to my knees and I pray to the Father, the creator of everything in heaven and on earth. 00:08:56.240 --> 00:09:02.240 I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources, he will empower you with inner strength through his spirit. 00:09:02.480 --> 00:09:05.200 Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. 00:09:05.440 --> 00:09:08.480 Your roots will grow down into God's love and keep you strong. 00:09:08.639 --> 00:09:16.399 And may you have the power to understand, as all God's people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. 00:09:16.639 --> 00:09:20.799 May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. 00:09:20.960 --> 00:09:24.720 Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God. 00:09:24.879 --> 00:09:32.000 Now all glory to God, who is able through his mighty power at work within us to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. 00:09:32.240 --> 00:09:36.960 Glory to him in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations, forever and ever. 00:09:37.200 --> 00:09:37.759 Amen. 00:09:38.000 --> 00:09:39.840 And that is Ephesians chapter 3. 00:09:40.000 --> 00:09:44.559 It is Paul ranting and raving about the fact that we've been united together. 00:09:44.799 --> 00:09:57.200 Doesn't matter where we come from, doesn't matter what skin color we are, it doesn't matter what our ethnicity is, it doesn't matter our socioeconomic status, doesn't matter what kind of car we drive, what kind of job we have, none of that matters. 00:09:57.440 --> 00:10:02.399 We have been united, united together through Jesus. 00:10:02.879 --> 00:10:07.519 And it's something that he's done by what Paul says is his love. 00:10:08.720 --> 00:10:13.039 He says, when I think of all this, I I fall to my knees and pray. 00:10:13.279 --> 00:10:15.519 You see the intensity in what he's communicating. 00:10:15.600 --> 00:10:16.399 He's he's being honest. 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:17.759 I fall to my knees and I pray. 00:10:17.840 --> 00:10:18.879 And what does he pray for? 00:10:19.039 --> 00:10:27.279 He prays that we would be able to understand how wide and how long and how high and how deep the love of God is. 00:10:28.960 --> 00:10:30.639 That is so powerful. 00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:35.039 He says, I pray that you experience the love of God, even though you can't even understand it. 00:10:35.120 --> 00:10:39.279 He basically says, I dare you to try to understand the love of God. 00:10:40.080 --> 00:10:43.039 You cannot do it, but you can experience it. 00:10:45.279 --> 00:10:50.480 He says that we've been united together by the love of Jesus. 00:10:51.200 --> 00:10:54.799 And if you've been part of his hands for long, you know that we talk a lot about love. 00:10:55.039 --> 00:10:58.720 And we talk a lot about love because scripture talks a lot about love. 00:10:58.879 --> 00:11:00.480 Jesus talked a lot about love. 00:11:00.639 --> 00:11:06.000 Love is a constant theme that runs through the story of God interacting with us. 00:11:06.240 --> 00:11:07.519 Because he loves us. 00:11:07.840 --> 00:11:15.039 And if you're here today and you don't understand this, you've never really believed this or felt this, you are so loved by God you have no idea. 00:11:15.519 --> 00:11:17.440 He loves you deeply, he loves you passionately. 00:11:17.519 --> 00:11:24.559 And I think there's this tendency that we have sometimes, especially those of us who have been Christians for a long time, to kind of go, yeah, yeah, yeah, I get love, let's move on. 00:11:25.360 --> 00:11:27.200 Paul never moved on from love. 00:11:28.559 --> 00:11:30.960 I mean, Paul's basically saying, try. 00:11:31.279 --> 00:11:33.840 Try to grasp the intensity of God's love. 00:11:33.919 --> 00:11:38.720 Just try, try to figure it out, try to fathom how wide and high and long and deep it is. 00:11:38.799 --> 00:11:39.440 You can't. 00:11:39.600 --> 00:11:41.840 We will never cover all of God's love. 00:11:41.919 --> 00:11:42.960 We don't have time. 00:11:43.919 --> 00:11:52.080 There's no way to fully comprehend the extent of his love, but we have to understand that it's there, that it's a force more powerful than anything we can understand. 00:11:52.159 --> 00:12:01.519 And if there's anything that should unite us together, if there's anything that should make us love one another, like look at one another and be filled with love for each other, it's the love of Jesus. 00:12:02.080 --> 00:12:11.200 The more we get his love in our focal point, in our view, the more we look at his love and we fathom his love and we we take his love in, the more we should love one another. 00:12:11.440 --> 00:12:16.080 We are united by so many things, but the love of Jesus is as powerful as anything. 00:12:16.720 --> 00:12:19.440 We're united by love. 00:12:21.440 --> 00:12:23.519 Now, love's kind of an interesting word. 00:12:24.000 --> 00:12:26.480 In our culture, we use it for all kinds of things. 00:12:26.879 --> 00:12:28.960 It's a very general, general word. 00:12:29.360 --> 00:12:30.559 In the Bible, it's not like that. 00:12:30.639 --> 00:12:37.039 If you read the New Testament, anytime you read the word love, you're actually reading a Greek word that's far more specific than our word love. 00:12:37.440 --> 00:12:39.759 There were all kinds of words in the Greek language for love. 00:12:39.919 --> 00:12:45.840 Some words meant the love you have for family members, some words meant the love that you have for like a really close friend. 00:12:46.080 --> 00:12:48.159 Like phileo means friendship love. 00:12:48.240 --> 00:12:50.480 That's why Philadelphia comes from that same word. 00:12:50.559 --> 00:12:56.000 It's called the city of brotherly love, because brotherly love in the Greek language is that phileo, Philadelphia. 00:12:56.080 --> 00:12:57.519 Like that's Greek. 00:12:58.320 --> 00:13:02.559 There's a different kind of love that you have with someone romantically. 00:13:02.639 --> 00:13:04.799 It's a different word in the Greek language, we just call it love. 00:13:04.960 --> 00:13:07.279 And there was even a different word for the love that God has for us. 00:13:07.360 --> 00:13:08.879 That's called agape love. 00:13:09.039 --> 00:13:09.919 But we just call it love. 00:13:10.000 --> 00:13:18.799 And so in our language, we have this word love and it covers all these different ideas, and we just sum it up with one word, and it's a little nebulous, it loses some of its punch, it loses some of its impact. 00:13:19.039 --> 00:13:23.440 And so the result of that is we live in a world very confused about what love even is. 00:13:24.399 --> 00:13:25.200 What is love? 00:13:25.360 --> 00:13:26.639 What does it look like? 00:13:26.960 --> 00:13:28.240 No one really knows. 00:13:28.480 --> 00:13:29.600 There's no consensus. 00:13:29.679 --> 00:13:31.919 You see that when you look at culture in a variety of different ways. 00:13:32.000 --> 00:13:33.600 For example, love songs, right? 00:13:33.759 --> 00:13:35.360 Everyone have a favorite love song? 00:13:35.519 --> 00:13:36.799 You know, like, okay. 00:13:37.120 --> 00:13:39.120 Love songs are a staple. 00:13:39.279 --> 00:13:41.519 They are a staple of every music genre. 00:13:41.600 --> 00:13:44.720 It doesn't matter what the genre, doesn't matter what decade. 00:13:45.120 --> 00:13:49.440 Love is like, it's this thing, it's this force, you know, and so everyone talks about love, sings about love. 00:13:49.519 --> 00:13:51.279 There's all kinds of classic love songs. 00:13:51.360 --> 00:13:58.879 But if you listen to love songs, you will realize there is no, there's no consensus on what love is, according to the music industry. 00:13:59.120 --> 00:14:06.080 There's a lot, there's a lot of different opinions about love, and I spent way more time than I should have this week thinking about love songs. 00:14:06.480 --> 00:14:22.080 This was just gonna be like a little short illustration of the message, but then I I went on this huge rabbit trail, and I'm looking at like all these different songs and all these different genres, and and what I what I have found is that all love songs, I've been thinking about this for approximately four days, so I could I could be wrong, okay? 00:14:22.159 --> 00:14:23.519 I just want to disclaim her. 00:14:23.679 --> 00:14:28.320 Um, but it seems to me that all love songs fall into one of seven categories. 00:14:28.559 --> 00:14:29.759 One of seven categories. 00:14:29.840 --> 00:14:31.759 And I want to give you guys examples, okay? 00:14:32.080 --> 00:14:38.879 One of seven categories, and just so you know, I had six categories, and then I shared this with Megan, and uh she was like, what about this song? 00:14:38.960 --> 00:14:39.679 And what about that song? 00:14:39.759 --> 00:14:40.559 And what about this song? 00:14:40.720 --> 00:14:42.799 And I was like, Oh, okay, fine, you got me. 00:14:42.960 --> 00:14:46.000 And so I had to create another category to appease my wife. 00:14:46.159 --> 00:14:46.720 All right? 00:14:47.200 --> 00:14:48.639 Because that's what you do when you love someone. 00:14:48.799 --> 00:14:53.120 So seven categories, and I challenge you to find a song that doesn't fit one of these. 00:14:53.200 --> 00:14:56.720 Category number one, very common in love songs. 00:14:56.879 --> 00:14:58.559 It's called the overpromise. 00:14:58.799 --> 00:15:08.000 You see this happen a lot in love songs, where it's a song with someone saying all the things they're gonna do for someone or all the things they would do for someone hypothetically, and you're like, no, you wouldn't. 00:15:08.240 --> 00:15:09.519 No, no, no, no. 00:15:09.600 --> 00:15:12.559 It's a little like it's it's kind of overboard, it's exaggerated. 00:15:12.720 --> 00:15:16.799 You know, for example, um like Bruno Mars would be a really recent example of this. 00:15:16.879 --> 00:15:17.519 Go ahead, Alex. 00:15:19.440 --> 00:15:20.480 You might know this song. 00:15:22.720 --> 00:15:23.759 Bring it up a little bit. 00:15:24.879 --> 00:15:27.039 I jump your hand off a trade. 00:15:27.440 --> 00:15:33.519 Okay, so he said, I'd catch a grenade for you, which is a crazy way to start. 00:15:33.759 --> 00:15:41.519 Like, what scenario in life would you be with someone and some like you're on a date with a girl and someone throws a grenade at her? 00:15:41.840 --> 00:15:42.720 That's bizarre. 00:15:42.879 --> 00:15:44.320 She's she's like a war criminal. 00:15:44.399 --> 00:15:46.080 That's what's going on, like you should run away. 00:15:46.240 --> 00:15:53.120 But he says, I'd catch a grenade for you, I'd throw my hand on a blade for you, I would what does he say? 00:15:53.200 --> 00:15:54.799 I'd jump in front of a train for you. 00:15:54.960 --> 00:16:00.480 Later on, he goes, I'd take like a bullet to the brain, and then the the song goes, but you won't do that for me. 00:16:00.720 --> 00:16:05.200 And it's like, you probably because you're crazy. 00:16:05.360 --> 00:16:11.120 Like, if you're on your third date and you're like, I would die for you, I would literally jump in front of a train for you. 00:16:11.279 --> 00:16:15.120 If someone threw a grenade at you, I would catch it, which by the way, does nothing to help the grenade situation. 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:17.840 Like, kick it back, catch the grenade, you're still dead, whatever. 00:16:18.000 --> 00:16:22.240 Um, Bruno doesn't understand grenades, like it's just this crazy overpromise. 00:16:22.480 --> 00:16:26.879 You know, and if if you said that to guys, if you say that to a girl on like date two or three, she's gonna run away. 00:16:26.960 --> 00:16:28.080 She's like, he's nuts. 00:16:28.240 --> 00:16:29.360 But there's a lot of songs like that. 00:16:29.519 --> 00:16:34.399 Brian Adams, you know it's true, everything I do, I do it for you. 00:16:34.639 --> 00:16:36.159 No, you don't, Brian. 00:16:36.480 --> 00:16:37.120 You know. 00:16:37.440 --> 00:16:39.759 So that's category number one, the overpromise. 00:16:39.840 --> 00:16:41.840 And there's a lot, a lot of overpromise songs. 00:16:42.000 --> 00:16:44.320 Now, category two is melodramatic. 00:16:44.480 --> 00:16:49.679 Kind of like overpromise, but it's not so much the commitment that you're making, it's just the way you're talking about love. 00:16:49.919 --> 00:16:54.480 It's a lot of metaphor, it's a lot of language, um, and it's just like overly dramatic. 00:16:54.639 --> 00:16:55.679 Too much, too much. 00:16:55.759 --> 00:16:56.480 It's just too much. 00:16:56.559 --> 00:16:59.840 You know, for example, um, this is one from the 80s that I love. 00:16:59.919 --> 00:17:00.799 It's like one of my favorite songs. 00:17:00.960 --> 00:17:01.840 Alex, go ahead and hit it. 00:17:01.919 --> 00:17:02.960 You might be familiar with this one. 00:17:04.960 --> 00:17:06.160 Little cutting crew. 00:17:12.559 --> 00:17:13.759 I love that song. 00:17:14.000 --> 00:17:15.599 I just died in your arms tonight. 00:17:15.680 --> 00:17:18.480 I played that song on a playlist the night that I proposed to Megan. 00:17:18.559 --> 00:17:19.279 I remember that. 00:17:19.440 --> 00:17:20.079 I love that song. 00:17:20.160 --> 00:17:21.359 I'm a big 80s music fan. 00:17:21.440 --> 00:17:23.839 I think 80s music is by far the best like generation music. 00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:24.480 It's the best. 00:17:24.640 --> 00:17:25.920 I love the 80s. 00:17:26.799 --> 00:17:30.240 I feel like all the genres in the 80s are like they're they're in their sweet spots. 00:17:30.319 --> 00:17:31.279 You know, you can really pick anything. 00:17:31.359 --> 00:17:34.079 And cutting crew, I just died in your arms tonight. 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:36.960 Even the way he says died, it's like died, you know? 00:17:37.119 --> 00:17:38.400 And there's a lot of songs like that. 00:17:38.480 --> 00:17:39.599 They're just melodramatic. 00:17:39.680 --> 00:17:41.680 It's just like, I died for you. 00:17:41.759 --> 00:17:43.519 I I would, oh, it's just too much. 00:17:43.599 --> 00:17:44.559 It's melodramatic. 00:17:44.720 --> 00:17:49.519 It doesn't have to be, by the way, it doesn't have to be just like the language used in the song to be melodramatic. 00:17:49.599 --> 00:17:51.039 It could also be the tone of the song. 00:17:51.279 --> 00:17:54.640 It could just be like a bit, a bit too much, a bit too intense. 00:17:54.720 --> 00:18:05.759 If it sounds like a man is standing on a mountaintop in a rainstorm with his fist in the air, just singing about love and like a chorus of angels comes behind him to sing too, it's just, it's melodramatic. 00:18:06.000 --> 00:18:10.160 So, Moody Blues, Knights in White Satin, classic song. 00:18:17.039 --> 00:18:21.759 Like any anytime you can do that to a song, pull it back, dude. 00:18:21.920 --> 00:18:23.279 Just pull it back. 00:18:23.599 --> 00:18:24.240 You know? 00:18:24.559 --> 00:18:25.920 It's just melodramatic. 00:18:26.000 --> 00:18:27.519 That's a fantastic song, by the way. 00:18:27.599 --> 00:18:31.920 And I'm grateful for my parents introducing me to a lot of music that I wouldn't know otherwise. 00:18:32.000 --> 00:18:36.559 But like, great song, beautiful voice, just you know, a little bit, a little bit dramatic. 00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:39.599 Category three, selfish. 00:18:39.920 --> 00:18:44.319 These are songs where it's not about how can I serve you, what can I do for you, it's just about I want you to do this. 00:18:44.480 --> 00:18:46.400 I just I want there's a lot of songs like this. 00:18:46.559 --> 00:18:47.359 Cheap trick. 00:18:47.440 --> 00:18:48.880 That's a classic example. 00:18:50.960 --> 00:18:52.559 I want you to want me. 00:18:53.920 --> 00:18:55.759 I need you to need me. 00:18:57.279 --> 00:19:01.279 That's the same argument that a three-year-old has when they want something, you know. 00:19:02.559 --> 00:19:05.599 Like my generation, Backstreet Boys, I want it that way. 00:19:05.680 --> 00:19:06.640 You guys know that song? 00:19:06.880 --> 00:19:09.200 The lyrics, very confusing song, by the way. 00:19:09.279 --> 00:19:15.920 The lyrics literally say, I never want to hear you say that I want it that way because I want it that way. 00:19:16.160 --> 00:19:17.599 That's the song. 00:19:18.480 --> 00:19:19.519 It's crazy. 00:19:19.680 --> 00:19:20.640 It's just selfish. 00:19:20.720 --> 00:19:23.359 If if the theme of the song is what you want, selfish. 00:19:23.440 --> 00:19:24.400 That's one of the categories. 00:19:24.559 --> 00:19:36.160 Um, another, another one is what I would call like conflicted, where just the person singing the song hasn't thought through what they're even singing, and in the song, they actually like add a disclaimer. 00:19:36.319 --> 00:19:39.119 They're like, you know, yeah, uh, totally love you. 00:19:39.200 --> 00:19:41.039 Uh, but it's kind of how that goes. 00:19:41.200 --> 00:19:43.359 Meatloaf would be, I think, the best example of this. 00:19:43.599 --> 00:19:46.960 I would do anything for love. 00:19:47.200 --> 00:19:48.480 I would do anything for love. 00:19:50.240 --> 00:19:51.119 But not that. 00:19:55.839 --> 00:19:59.119 When that song hits its climax, he says that part like three times. 00:19:59.200 --> 00:20:01.599 He's like, I would do anything for love. 00:20:01.759 --> 00:20:06.559 And he gets like big, and he says it three more times, then he goes, but I won't do that. 00:20:06.799 --> 00:20:07.440 You know? 00:20:08.640 --> 00:20:11.119 It's like in the song, he's saying, I'll do anything for you. 00:20:11.279 --> 00:20:12.400 You know, scratch that. 00:20:12.480 --> 00:20:14.160 I just realized a few things I won't. 00:20:14.240 --> 00:20:15.119 It's just conflicted. 00:20:15.440 --> 00:20:16.319 Okay, next category. 00:20:16.880 --> 00:20:17.200 What are we on? 00:20:17.279 --> 00:20:18.400 Is this category five? 00:20:18.720 --> 00:20:20.720 Category five is just confusion. 00:20:20.880 --> 00:20:23.759 Just the song, these songs are great because they're honest. 00:20:23.920 --> 00:20:27.039 They they're just right out front going, I have no idea what love is. 00:20:27.200 --> 00:20:28.400 I don't even know what this is about. 00:20:28.559 --> 00:20:30.960 So, classic example, Hadaway. 00:20:31.119 --> 00:20:31.759 What is love? 00:20:32.559 --> 00:20:34.160 Baby don't hurt me. 00:20:35.200 --> 00:20:37.119 Some people are doing the night at the Roxbury thing right now. 00:20:37.440 --> 00:20:37.759 That's good. 00:20:37.839 --> 00:20:38.480 Let's see that. 00:20:40.640 --> 00:20:43.039 The title of that song is What is Love? 00:20:43.200 --> 00:20:46.720 And when he says what is love, what he follows it up with is Baby Don't Hurt Me. 00:20:46.799 --> 00:20:48.960 Like that's I don't know what's going on. 00:20:49.039 --> 00:20:49.839 It's not love though. 00:20:50.000 --> 00:20:51.759 Whatever that is, it's not love. 00:20:51.920 --> 00:20:57.200 Or, you know, I won't I won't play this one, but like I think even a better version of that category would be Foreigner. 00:20:57.440 --> 00:20:58.400 I want to know what love is. 00:20:58.559 --> 00:21:00.720 You know, like I want to know what love is. 00:21:01.279 --> 00:21:03.039 Ding, ding, ding, ding. 00:21:03.359 --> 00:21:10.160 I want you to anytime you're doing this again, if you have to reach up, if you're going Celine Dion, it's just pull it back. 00:21:10.240 --> 00:21:11.519 It's too much. 00:21:11.920 --> 00:21:12.640 Too much. 00:21:12.799 --> 00:21:13.759 That's that category. 00:21:13.839 --> 00:21:14.559 It's just confused. 00:21:14.640 --> 00:21:17.599 I don't even know what love is, but at least that category is honest. 00:21:17.759 --> 00:21:21.279 This is the one I had to add to appease my wife, category six. 00:21:21.359 --> 00:21:24.880 Because she started listening out a bunch of songs that I'm like, okay, okay, you have a point. 00:21:24.960 --> 00:21:26.880 She said, Justin, your list is too cynical. 00:21:26.960 --> 00:21:28.000 It's just too cynical. 00:21:28.160 --> 00:21:30.319 And I'm like, you I'm I tend to be that way. 00:21:30.559 --> 00:21:32.480 And uh, and she's like, what about this song? 00:21:32.559 --> 00:21:35.039 And I was like, yeah, it's it's just sweet. 00:21:35.200 --> 00:21:38.480 Just song, yeah, sweet, pure, sweet songs about love. 00:21:38.640 --> 00:21:43.839 Some of these can be kind of cheesy and hokey, you know, like like imagine me and you, I do. 00:21:43.920 --> 00:21:44.880 You know what I'm talking about? 00:21:44.960 --> 00:21:46.720 I think about you day and night. 00:21:46.960 --> 00:21:52.400 If you're like doing this to a song, it's kind of cheesy, you know, but it's sweet. 00:21:52.559 --> 00:21:55.039 It is sweet, you gotta give it credit for being sweet. 00:21:55.279 --> 00:21:59.759 Or songs that they that they're not cheesy, but they just have a really beautiful description of the way someone feels about. 00:22:00.240 --> 00:22:03.519 Someone uh like like Joe Cocker, classic example. 00:22:07.039 --> 00:22:07.759 Come on. 00:22:08.960 --> 00:22:11.519 Every woman in the room is like nudging their husband. 00:22:11.680 --> 00:22:12.880 Please sing that song to me. 00:22:15.920 --> 00:22:16.960 Can't you see? 00:22:17.039 --> 00:22:18.240 You know, he goes on and on. 00:22:18.400 --> 00:22:19.440 That's just sweet. 00:22:19.599 --> 00:22:20.160 It's sweet. 00:22:20.240 --> 00:22:23.519 So there is a category of just good, sweet, pure songs. 00:22:23.759 --> 00:22:25.839 The last category, number seven. 00:22:26.960 --> 00:22:27.599 Pain. 00:22:29.119 --> 00:22:31.599 Just flat out pain. 00:22:32.160 --> 00:22:33.200 Love stinks. 00:22:33.359 --> 00:22:34.240 You know what I mean? 00:22:34.480 --> 00:22:36.480 Like it's the worst thing in the world. 00:22:36.880 --> 00:22:40.559 I think maybe one that just sums it up really well would be would be this one. 00:22:40.720 --> 00:22:41.920 Go ahead, Alex. 00:22:46.400 --> 00:22:47.920 Bring it up because we've all felt this. 00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:49.119 We've all felt this. 00:22:51.759 --> 00:22:54.799 Like you can you can hear the pain in his voice, you know? 00:22:55.039 --> 00:22:56.319 In fact, we could even sing that one together. 00:22:56.400 --> 00:23:00.640 I didn't plan this, but if I said love hurts and you go, you know that let's do that, right? 00:23:00.960 --> 00:23:02.000 Love hurts. 00:23:04.079 --> 00:23:05.200 Love hurts. 00:23:05.279 --> 00:23:06.160 You gotta get high. 00:23:06.319 --> 00:23:07.839 You gotta get the falsetto. 00:23:10.000 --> 00:23:11.759 All love songs. 00:23:12.000 --> 00:23:12.640 All of them. 00:23:13.039 --> 00:23:15.359 They all fall under one of those seven categories. 00:23:15.839 --> 00:23:20.400 And so you can tell that our culture really conflicted about love. 00:23:20.640 --> 00:23:23.440 Don't really know what this thing is, don't really understand it. 00:23:23.519 --> 00:23:28.240 Uh sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad, sometimes we don't know what it is, it's painful. 00:23:28.400 --> 00:23:30.559 What what even is this thing we're talking about? 00:23:31.599 --> 00:23:36.400 I wonder if you could if you could try to fit the love of Jesus into one of those seven categories. 00:23:37.119 --> 00:23:47.519 If you could try to lump the way that Jesus loves us and put it in one of those categories that we have here in this this world, those categories that I just invented this week, so you know, whatever. 00:23:47.680 --> 00:23:52.000