You're manifesting with a metaphoric gunshot wound and wondering why everything is not neat and clean and pretty and precise. Because there's blood gushing everywhere. And your top priority right now is not getting a boyfriend, right. Is dealing with the gaping wound that is oozing blood all over your situation.

What is. The fellow dreamers and soul searchers. Welcome to the Roxy talks, manifestation podcast, your raw, unfiltered, and unapologetic source for all things. Manifestation related. I'm Roxy Lee. And for the last decade, I have been researching and developing by signature 360 method, which combines behavioral science, quantum physics, and the law of attraction to help you manifest a life beyond your wildest dream.

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What is up my fellow dreamers and soul searchers. Welcome to another episode of Roxy talks, where we discuss mindset, confidence, manifestation, and more. I am Roxy Lee. I'm a mindset coach, and I'm here to help you manage your negative thinking and limiting beliefs. So you can bring low clarity and joy into your life.

Today we are talking about still going on this concept of self-love, but diving deeper into the idea of the wounded inner child and, you know, the part of us that was traumatized or hurt or scared as a child and the wounds that are still waiting to be. Addressed and dressed and healed and patched up and loved.

So this is something that every person on the planet will have to deal with, or maybe you could avoid it. But my point is that everybody on the planet has this type of stuff going on because. Unfortunately, there's just no real way to escape childhood without being traumatized by something we're scared of things.

We experienced new things all the time. We make connections about experiences that we don't understand. And then we learn to adapt to life based off of those experiences. And a lot of times they're skewed and the conclusions that we come to based on those situations in our lives, don't really leave room for.

To learn or grow or transcend them. They become hardened beliefs that we then manifest over and over and culminate into the experience of our day-to-day life. And it just becomes what we think life is and how we expect life to treat us, even though all of that stuff is 100% controllable, changeable, malleable, and under the influence of the words that we're using.

Every moment of our day. One of the issues that most humans run into is the fact that throughout child hood, we rack up, you know, experience after experience, after experience that didn't necessarily make us feel so great. And these, again, end up just becoming open festering wounds that then inform the way we manifest.

Through our lives from there forward, once we experienced something one time just having it happen once and not wanting to ever experience that thing again, can set us up for a lifetime of having that happen to us over and over and over by the energy of fearing it bracing for it, not wanting it to happen, worrying about it.

That is what makes things happen. That's just manifestations visualization at its best. So the problem with these wounds is that while they remain open and unchecked and untaken care of, we have essentially. It's like when you favor a limb or a body part, like if you twist your ankle, you put more pressure on your other ankle or your other leg, which strains that leg, because now it's taking on more jobs than it should.

Your body's going to be out of balance. It's going to cause other issues down the road, like a Domino's and just having one. Like having one tire with low air or, you know, one axle out of alignment. I think they have access. I don't know anything about cars. Um, but I'm just saying words, having one X, a lot of alignment, one tire on 11, however that works can mess up the entire drive.

Right? So when you have a wound that has yet to be properly dealt with, which most of our childhood wounds are not properly dealt with. It's like you're operating with a gunshot wound. Imagine if you were trying to manifest a relationship with a gunshot wound, imagine if you were trying to manifest a career with a stab wound, my point is your priority would not be the house or the career or the abundance that you would need to feel to generate money.

Your main priority would be a stop. The bleed. Right or to not feel so much pain, it would be skewing the way you look at everything around you. If you are manifesting with a gunshot wound, if you are listening to this right now with a gunshot wound, your priorities are much different than they would be.

If you were in tip top physical. And emotional wounds are no different. You're manifesting with a metaphoric gunshot wound and wondering why everything is not neat and clean and pretty and precise, pristine because there's blood gushing everywhere. And your top priority right now is not getting a boyfriend, right.

Is dealing with the gaping wound that is oozing blood all over your situation. So. This work is really important to look at what's going on with the inner child or the inner wound itself, because that pain is real. And even though it may have happened to you in the past, by you not being properly equipped with the tools to deal with it and handle it, it has just been allowed to fester and turn into something bigger and more toxic.

So. Now as conscious manifestors and conscious adults living on this planet, hoping to transcend and ascend through our own bullshit. We're going to start looking at these emotional and energetic wounds that we've been carrying around for our whole lives that have been dictating what comes next and what comes down the line for us.

That's no longer. Okay. I want to have a. Collective 2022 agreement that we are no longer going to define ourselves by our old bullshit, who we used to be, what we used to do, what we used to think, what we used to think we were good enough for all that shit is over and done. The old paradigm is dead. The old notions are dead.

Nothing is the same. The plans in the future that we thought we had is completely different. We're not living in the same world anymore, and we need to stop treating ourselves like the same old. It's okay to move forward. It's okay to ascend. It is time we're here right now to grow and learn and become something different and better.

And it starts with healing. What has been previously ignored and healing? What has previously gone untouched or. Maybe you're the opposite. Maybe you're, you've been fucking with it so much that it can't heal. I've talked before about a scab that you keep picking that won't heal over. It's the same idea whether we've been ignoring it or overindulging it right now, we're going to learn how to properly deal with it and handle it so that we can move forward in the best way possible as our best versions possible and leave behind the worries, insecurities fears and doubts of a small hurt version of ourselves that no longer.

Has to exist. So what we need to do of course is acknowledged that running, fearing, doubting, worrying. Exploding out are our problems hiding from it, using addictions to numb things. All of that stuff does not work and it doesn't help us heal. So all of the coping mechanisms that we may have used in the past that have just put a bandaid on this problem.

We're not going to turn to those anymore. If you've been listening to the podcast recently, you know, I've been talking a lot about sitting with your feelings, being with your feelings, looking at the truth of what you are and how you feel and loving it, being okay with it, allowing it and nurturing it, growing it.

That's what we're doing. Right. That's what we're doing with our inner child is letting these wounds be, but seeing them for what they are. In real time when they happen, not running away from them, not trying to hide them, not trying to convert them, not trying to out do them or out business them or outsmart them or out, understand them or get connected elsewhere, get validation elsewhere.

We just need to see our pain and talk to it and love it and nurture ourselves through it. We need to see the world. See the doubt, see the fear and ask it why it's here and what it's about and why it's here. I don't know why I'm always thinking in rhymes, but I have ask it what it's there for, and not in a judgmental way, not in a worrisome way, not in a way to further punish yourself, but just to simply turn on the lights.

Why do I feel like this? What does this remind me of? What does this represent? What have I been hiding all this time? What have I been avoiding all this time? Why haven't I looked internally? What am I afraid of seeing? Why am I running from this pain? What would happen if I just sat here in the pain and said, it's okay to feel.

I guarantee you, if you did that for five minutes or so you probably wouldn't feel that pain anymore. And this is stuff that we've been holding on to her for our whole lives. This is pain that you've been feeling for your whole life being gone in five minutes of just having the light Shaun shown on it.

And that's the work that we're talking about here. Part of the reason why you're still wounded is because this thing wants to be seen and you've done everything that you can think of to not see it, to hide it, print from it, to numb it, to quiet. To erase it to pretend like it didn't happen, but the body's memory of it isn't going away.

Is it? So let's try something new this year. Let's commit to feeling the pain I'm stressed and that's okay. I'm anxious as fuck. And that's okay. Feel the feelings. If you're anxious, anxiety wants to be breathed. Anxiety wants to be met with peace and calm and love. Fear wants to be met with comfort and assurance.

Everything's going to be okay. And even if it's not, it'll still be okay because I'm here looking at your fears as that wounded part of you. Being scared again, thinking of that little person with, within you, that version of yourself, that was wounded being frightened again. And knowing that the fear you're experiencing now is just a reverberation off that initial experience.

As far back as you can take it and sitting there seeing it for what it is. Digging down into the memories, digging down into the feelings and just being okay with the fact that you feel that way about this thing, because whatever's triggering you. Now doesn't usually have much to do with the thing that happened to you in childhood, but the feeling is the same and the fear that, that initial injury or the worry, the doubt, the anxiety, whatever it is.

At that initial injury caused within you is still being felt because it was never filled back in with love soothed in the right ways. And that's what needs to happen. Now you, as an adult need to Sue yourself. Now you as an adult, need to feel fear and say, okay, I'm going to feel fear, but I'm not going to think scary thoughts.

I'm going to feel fear and I'm going to. Nurturing kind, caring thoughts. I'm going to feel anxiety and I'm not going to go down the roads of what if and then what do I got to do in the oh, knows and what if CS I'm going to feel anxiety and I'm going to think. Yep. And, and breathe and it's okay. And it's totally fine if I'm anxious.

That makes sense. Cause I have X, Y, and Z things going on. Maybe I'm an ignoring myself. It doesn't really matter. The point is that the old ways of dealing with your pain, agreeing with it, the old ways of dealing with your fear, thinking scary thoughts, they'll D ways of dealing with your anxiety, thinking about worries and what you have to do.

We don't have to associate the feeling in our body with that line of thinking anymore. We can make a shift and switch from. Trying to change a feeling into something else. So we don't have to feel it anymore and just feel it till it's done being felt. Sometimes we avoid crying because we don't want to cry.

We don't want to feel weak, or we don't want to admit that things aren't working out. We don't want to admit defeat, but a lot of times, if you just cry, you you'll get over. The thing that you're feeling upset about in a couple of minutes, and you're really just. And this is again, part of the feeling through it and not running from it, transmuting it, trying to turn it into something else you were told or taught that your own value lies in certain acts and beliefs and thinking.

And you now believe that about yourself. You learned that expressing yourselves yourself in certain ways. I didn't get you what you wanted. And so you learn to skirt around that, make up for it, hobble on your other leg, right? It's like limping on the other leg, but this leg is still wounded. And so what we want to do is heal this wound and start walking on that leg again.

So being comfortable, expressing the fear, the anger, the uncertainty, but being okay with it, living in your body. Not trying to turn it into anything else, not trying to run, just looking at it for what it is. Loving yourself for feeling that way, being okay that it's happening and let it wash over you and pass.

There's nothing wrong with feeling fear. There's nothing wrong with feeling pain. It's when we add in all these bullshit thoughts and expectations about what that means now, or what's going to happen next, that's when it becomes an issue for us. And if you keep masking your pain with over. How about under productive thoughts and thinking that, does it lead you somewhere?

Good. You just keep yourself in a cycle of feeling that pain and running from it. So we're not doing that anymore. In 2022, this is a year of balance. We're going to allow ourselves to feel we're going allow ourselves to cry. We're gonna allow ourselves to feel anger. We're gonna allow ourselves to feel fear, but we're not going to let ourselves go off the rails with our thoughts.

Okay. So. I'm going to give you a challenge. I gave this challenge out as homework on mindset Monday. So if you don't join us weekly for our live stream chat, we do it every Monday on YouTube and in my Facebook group, black moon society, you can come on and ask me your questions about manifestation or about what's going on in your world.

And a lot of times I talk about a bunch of my own. Random life stuff. Um, and lessons I'm learning and things I'm understanding and whatnot, but I always give homework and, um, we always connect with the community. So this week's homework was about going into meditation and sitting with the holy Trinity of you.

Okay. So what that means is this is the you that is here. The one I'm talking to you, the one who's listening. If you're looking at me, you'd be like, okay, the Roxy, that's the singular, the one, the me, the, I am just the me. Okay. This is like the middle. This is the middle ground in, in a Russian doll, a little package of you.

Okay. And you're in the middle within you is the little Roxy, the little you, the little version. And this is that wounded child. This is that inner child. This is the you that needs the attention that needs the love. The child that is scared. The child that is worried, the child that is fearful, the child that has been punished, whoever that child is, that's the little you and that is inside of.

The whole of the, you, the bigger you, the middle, you, the me, the Roxy. Right? But then outside of that is the bigger you, the higher self, the connected overarching intangible you, the spiritual connection. That's the big you and middle you and little you are inside of that big, you like a Russian doll. If you will.

You're all experiencing it together. And the you that is inside of the middle, the little baby you that's inside of you right now wants to be loved and seen by medium you and big. The big you outside of you is telling you amazing information and loving you and giving you all that love that little me is asking for.

It's whispering into your ear constantly, and you just need to quiet all the BS from the 3d world to listen and hear it. So I want you to go into meditation and just visualize and meditate on this. Holy Trinity of you, the father, the son, and the holy city. The big you, the spiritual, you, the big connection, the God you, the, you that's here in the planet.

The now the one I'm talking to, and then the little baby inside, the little, you though, the wounded one, the one that needs that love, right. I want you to integrate them. I want you to introduce all three. I want you to find a fluid connection between the three, so that, that little you has that lifeline, that pipeline, that connection to your higher self, and you are a conduit, just showering and channeling.

Love to yourself, through yourself, from yourself, from the universe, from everything beyond you, in you, through you all throughout you, I'm all around. You. I just want to know what happens when you go into meditation intending to connect those three pieces. And then report back head to Roxy talks.com, go to our forum and check the meditations tab and just leave some insight into what happened to you when you went to this meditation.

I'm curious because this is something that I saw in the meditation. Um, just yesterday I saw this little me, the media, me, the middleman. The higher self me all being connected as one. And so I want to know what happens when you see in your meditation, how do you feel, what messages do you get? What does that integration like?

And then what happens after it? Right. So I've been feeling very connected since having this realization. And the other thing that I want to express that felt very important to share with this is that the higher self. While it does have that larger perspective. It can see over yonder, right? Where I'm sitting here in my chair.

I can see straight in front of me. My higher self could see over the whole neighborhood. And it has that view in that perspective of what's beyond what I can see with my eyes. And it is guiding me. However, the bigger self is connected to me in my body. Just the way I am. And it doesn't move until I move.

It's like a shack. And so I got the image in this meditation of Peter pan, trying to sew his shadow back on his foot. And the idea was that the shadow can only move. When I move the universe can only give me what I give myself. If I want to take action, or if I want to see some movement, I have to start somewhere because the universe and the higher self is a shadow of what I'm doing.

It's there and it's helping me. It's guiding me, but it can't move until I move. I must move first. And so I want you to remember and think about how a shadow works. The shadow is right there with you moving in. Every moment. It's always there, but it never goes. If your shadow move first, it would freaky the fuck out the whole fabric of reality.

As we know, it would begin unraveling because that's not how earth works. Okay. And it doesn't work like that with manifestations either. They never come first. It's always you who moves first. Okay. So last week we talked about how the language comes. First. You come first, the middle you comes first and maybe enter you comes even before that.

And. I don't know I'm discovering it. That's why I want you to go into meditation and see what kind of information you get share with me. So I can help share with everybody else that we can learn and grow more together. Roxy talks.com backslash forum. You can connect with other manifestors who are doing the same things you're doing, who are understanding more about themselves every day.

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All of that of course is available@roxytalks.com. But for now, I want to leave you with this notion that healing, your inner child is not a one-time deal. It may be a one-time deal to heal a cut on your arm, but understand that emotional wounds are deep and we are creatures of. And we're creatures of pattern.

And not only that, but our patterns manifest, and it's very easy to get fooled by the 3d world into thinking that this is all there is, and that you're just going to get more of the same. So I want you to not think about a healed inner child as a destination. It might never heal all the way that wound might never completely seal over.

But the point of it is, is that you will no longer ignore it. You'll no longer pick. You're going to treat it with love and respect every single time it asks to be dealt with no matter how inconvenient it may seem in the time, it's better to just feel your way through what you're going through than to try to push it down or send it away and open it up for a rainy day.

And it's not going to help you, but what will help you is just letting it be okay that you are wounded in this way that you do feel like. And knowing that because you're here and you're accepting it, it is going to get better. And just that little bit, right there feels better. It feels better to know that you will not abandon yourself and your fears anymore.

It feels better to know that you will always talk yourself through pain instead of leaving yourself to wallow in it. For days, months, years, a lifetime that stops in 2021. We're not going back there anymore. This is 2022. It's our here of balanced our year of loving ourselves. It's our, you're integrating the holy Trinity big self, medium self little self, and becoming the best version of you that you can fathom.

I'm here with you. I'm helping you. If you want my guidance. Roxy talks.com. We'll get you there. I'll do whatever I can to help you understand how you're standing in your own way and how to get out of it. I love you. I appreciate you. Thank you so much for listening to the podcast and watching the videos.

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