Self Talk #137: Building Your Foundation of Self—Mastering Self-talk

Self Talk with Rachel Astarte

Self Talk with Rachel Astarte
Self Talk #137: Building Your Foundation of Self—Mastering Self-talk
Jul 08, 2025
Rachel Astarte, LMFT

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Be mindful of your self-talk, it’s a conversation with the Universe.
David James Lees

This podcast episode focuses on negative self-talk, exploring how destructive internal dialogues are learned, not inherent. 

Rachel provides a four-step process to transform negative self-talk:

1.        Awareness without judgment: Notice the critical inner voice without self-criticism

2.        Identify the source: Recognize that negative thoughts often come from external influences, not your true self

3.        Call in the Highest Self: Connect with your inner wisdom and eternal consciousness

4.        Rewrite the script: Replace negative thoughts with compassionate, validating statements

The episode emphasizes that the inner critic is not bad, but scared, and should be met with curiosity and compassion. 

Rachel uses the Cherokee tale of two wolves to illustrate how we choose which internal voice to "feed"—the one of fear or the one of love.

Key Message

You are not your negative thoughts. Your highest self is wise, loving, and connected to collective consciousness.

 

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"The Story of Two Wolves" courtesy of Lakota Circles of Hope 

Music: "Journey Circle Song" written and performed by Rachel Astarte

 

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Timeline:

0:00:00 - Introduction begins, quote about self-talk
0:00:21 - Rachel Astarte welcomes listeners to the episode
0:01:21 - Explanation of how negative self-talk is learned
0:02:34 - Step one: Awareness without judgment
0:03:31 - Transition to step two
0:03:37 - Step two: Identify the source of negative self-talk
0:04:51 - Step three: Calling in the foundation of self
0:05:16 - Detailed explanation of the highest self
0:07:09 - Step four: Rewriting the script
0:08:38 - Cherokee tale of two wolves begins
0:10:29 - Conclusion of the two wolves story
0:11:05 - Wrapping up the main discussion
0:11:14 - Mention of August break
0:12:28 - Final closing remarks
0:12:30 - End of podcast

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Music:
"Ave Marimba"
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