Mommying While Muslim
Mommying While Muslim is a one of a kind podcast where American Muslim moms share their experiences to raise second generation kids. Having experienced both pre and post 9/11 America, they're acutely aware of the unique challenges their families face on top of the regular messes that all moms share. Mommying While Muslim is a space to take back their stories, and tell those no one will air on the news or portray fully or fairly in the media. Host Uzma Jafri is mom first, careerwoman second, and global citizen at heart. She meets taboo topics head on because she wasn't allowed to do it growing up, not at home or at school and work. Her aim is to better her immediate household, community, and her momsisterhood the world over by telling the truths sometimes people don't want to face or to hear. Not everyone has these privileges, and she is eager to learn as well as share her own experiences. Always looking to give back, MWM finds women and families who need a mic because no one needs a voice; they just need an opportunity to speak. Besides tough social issues, MWM tackles political ones because when laws affect kids, we're coming for them as well as the ones who make them! There's no lane that doesn't get taken here. Along the way, MWM recruits momallies for Muslim Americans who have been inordinately targeted for the last 20 years. True moms know that ALL our children deserve to be safe, loved, and happy, and we bust every yellow brick on the Islamaphobic road to make sure they all are. If you like good trouble, this one's for you!
Mommying While Muslim
But He Doesn’t Hit Me
Madiha Schader joins us today to talk about her experience learning early on that she married someone who wouldn't be safe for her, yet how she continued to hide the details from her family and friends. The cultural reasons she did this are very clear in her story. She’s not unique, but what she focuses on today is that abusive domestic relationships don’t always include physical violence. Mental, emotional, verbal abuse, financial/social isolation, and unreasonable demands from a place of control that endanger a person’s psychosocial wellbeing are equally suffocating and a matter of life and death.
Madiha’s freedom actually came through her own son and her body. Find out how her closest friends identified what was happening and supported her until she was able to decide it was time to save herself.
If you know someone you suspect is in danger of physical violence or mental oppression, ASK her. Then help her using the resources listed below. If you’re someone who is in danger, having kids WILL NOT change an abuser towards you and might direct abuse toward your kid(s).
Note 1: pronunciation correction Madiha Schader (SH ay der)
Note 2: If you are in danger, make sure to “clear history” on your browsers if you’re searching for help. Use the phone numbers we listed below and delete your call history if you have access to a phone.
Links:
- NISA helpline for Muslim women’s helpline: 1-888-315-NISA (6472)
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
- Elderly Asian woman attacked unprovoked: https://www.google.com/amp/s/nypost.com/2021/03/12/asian-grandma-reportedly-knocked-unconscious-in-random-attack/amp/
- Elderly Asian woman attacked unprovoked and strikes back: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/elderly-asian-woman-attacked-san-francisco-fights-back-sends-alleged-attacker-to-hospital/
- Chinese Filipino man attacked unprovoked: https://www.asianjournal.com/usa/northerncalifornia/filipino-chinese-man-attacked-during-lunch-break-in-san-francisco/
- President’s call for Congress to pass anti-hate legislation: https://www.cnbc.com/2021/03/19/biden-urges-congress-to-pass-hate-crime-legislation-over-violence-against-asian-americans.html
- Muslim Jewish Advisory Council to send a message to your representative to pass the Jabara-Heyer act to call a hate crime a hate crime:
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