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Welcome And Meet Grace

SPEAKER_01

Hi everyone, welcome to another episode of Skip Happens. Let me come in the camera. There we go. There we are. All right.

SPEAKER_00

Welcome to Skip Clark post. Skip happens. This is where it happens, and the skip already happened tonight. Yep.

SPEAKER_01

Uh right there. We forgot where we were, but now we're back. All right. I'm Miss Ray. And with me, we have the man, the myth legend, Skip Clark. And next to me, well, in the middle of Skip and I, we have another local legend. We have the wonderful, the magnificent Grace Sessler in the house. Hello. Grace. Grace is a DJ at our station. She is another radio personality. She's really involved in the community. She is a mama of two beautiful girls. She is a very strong, strong and inspiring young lady. She's a great mama, great worker. And I'm really excited that we have her here in the house.

SPEAKER_00

We say that for a reason because Grace has been through a lot in her life. She is also a single mom. I wanted to add that. So because, and that means a lot. That that goes with what you're saying. Absolutely. How you know that's the hardest thing I've ever done. What? Being a single mom?

SPEAKER_03

Absolutely. Yeah. But it's also the most rewarding.

SPEAKER_00

So tell tell us a little bit about that, being a single mom. I don't know. I mean, you can open up. I mean, there's probably, I would assume, a lot of women in your position that, especially nowadays, a lot of single moms, a lot of single parents, um, but you're struggling to survive, and it's we're in a world that you don't know what tomorrow's gonna bring. Um, you know, where the next paycheck's gonna come from. I mean, we're all there. We're all there. Some of us are blessed to have, you know, well, Reagan and I have talked about this on the Skip Happens podcast before, where there's a, well, now there's a big difference between me and you two, because you two are actually, well, you know, pretty close in age. Somewhat. Now, me, on the other hand, you can call me grandpa if you want, but uh, you know, yeah, it's so funny. Um, so just to give you an example, and I felt really old today, was I don't know if you saw the interview I did at the radio station. Uh, I interviewed a guy by the name of William Lee Golden. Do you know who that is? No, probably not. Do you know who the Oak Ridge boys are? So have you heard? I know your mom was in radio. So maybe, but still, the Oak Ridge Boys. Excuse me. They have been around a long time. How about the song Elvira? You know that song, right? I wish I had it here. I'd play a little clip of it.

SPEAKER_01

Reagan, you know, you know, because I know I know Elvira the the the girl.

SPEAKER_00

No, it's not the song.

SPEAKER_01

No, it's not that Elvira. You know the one that looks like she's she could be like Morticia Adams.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah, the one with the cleavage and all that.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah. I know her.

SPEAKER_00

This is a whole different, whole different Elvira. And uh really? Well, so yes, really. So William is 87 years old. And he goes, Yep, I got the Oak Ridge boys, I joined the band. It was 1965. I'm going, dude, I was nine years old. So he's 87 and he's still touring. As a matter of fact, I I did the interview today, and he's a legend. Uh, they're gonna be at the uh Del Lago resort this weekend, and that was a lot of why I did the interview. So just to let you know, the you know, the age difference, you know, that made me feel old. So and yeah, it was pretty cool. I still feel old. I feel old sitting next to you two right now.

SPEAKER_03

You know what makes me feel old?

SPEAKER_00

I'm afraid to ask.

SPEAKER_03

When I have to fill out a check.

SPEAKER_00

Wait, you do checks?

SPEAKER_03

When I'm at the bar and we get a shipment at multiple bars now, like people, customers are like, I'm surprised you know how to do that. And I'm just like, Yeah, I'm sorry, I'm older than I look.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Well, you do you look great for your age. Do you mind telling the telling the class your age?

SPEAKER_03

I'm old. I am so old. I'm 31.

SPEAKER_01

Wow, Grace. You look phenomenal.

unknown

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00

Uh, how do I look?

SPEAKER_01

You look good, Skap. You do for 30? Yeah, you look, yes.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, think about it. I just told you in 1965 I was nine, but uh you know it numbers don't care. Yeah, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter.

SPEAKER_03

What matters is what's in your heart and you think we're quick with math. You're so funny.

A Radio Spot And A Final Goodbye

SPEAKER_01

So, Grace, I have a quick question. So Skip mentioned your mom was involved in radio, you mentioned the bar and doing checks. What is it that that you do? You know, you're a people person, you work in communications, um, you do bartending. Can you kind of talk about that and your work there?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I am a single mom, so I maximize my monetary opportunities. And bartending works really well with my childcare and custody schedule. And it's also the best way to maximize my monetary opportunities. And I've been having a lot of fun working in radio.

SPEAKER_01

Well, I can also attest to that. Radio is a very fun world to be.

SPEAKER_00

I'm trying to think. We we talk about radio, and um when was it that how did I meet you? What day? Oh, you came in to work well on the sports station.

SPEAKER_03

I was a Fox Sports radio producer when I met you.

SPEAKER_00

You were, that's right.

SPEAKER_03

My first day.

SPEAKER_00

And then we got chatting, and you mentioned your mom working in the biz.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

And then I said, Hey, do you want to cut a spot? Can I remember that day?

SPEAKER_03

The day I came in for a paycheck.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Yes, and my dad was in the hospital. Yes. And you were like, Hey, I want to use your voice. And I said, Okay. And then you asked me if I could read something, and you recorded it. We made the first commercial, and then I went up and saw my dad, not knowing it would be the last time I saw my dad. And I got to play that for him, though. That's one of the last things I left him off with.

unknown

Wow.

SPEAKER_01

Was your voice. Which is, yeah. Kind of on a on a positive note. I think that your voice and skips are very unique, original. And I sitting here am just like, I could listen to these two talk all day because their voices are so captivating. They are so well spoken. Um, I can tell why these people are radio DJs.

SPEAKER_00

Where where are you getting all this?

SPEAKER_01

I'm being serious. I'm being serious. Like, seriously, like people in the comments, please tell me. Listen to these people and not tell me, like, oh my gosh, I can tell they're in communications. I can tell they're in media. Like their voices are so cool. Like, I'm just gonna be thinking about that through the podcast.

SPEAKER_00

So I want to uh well your voice is cool too. Everybody's unique in their own way. That's what it's all about.

SPEAKER_03

Question for you, Skip. For me, how do you feel when you hear your voice?

SPEAKER_00

I hate it.

SPEAKER_03

Good question.

SPEAKER_00

You know, it's it's been like that for all the years I've been doing radio. Um, it's like I hate it. And that's what and it just and when I do record something, I don't want to listen to it right away. You know what I mean? I give it time, I give it time to like simmer or whatever you want to say, you know, gotta get away from it. Get a little age behind it, if that makes any sense.

SPEAKER_03

Let it cook, let it simmer a little bit. There we go.

SPEAKER_00

Let it cook a little bit, then go back and listen to it.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

So, and then, you know, it's like, oh, okay, it's okay. But it's kind of, you know, I will say, and I think both of you have been on the air, um, that once you hear your voice on the radio, it's kind of a cool thing.

SPEAKER_01

It's definitely a sense chills up your spine. You're like, no way, no way.

SPEAKER_00

See, when I was um radio, always I ever since I was a little boy, I always wanted to do radio. And I always saw, as a matter of fact, it's the tower that is right behind our building in the city. When I was growing up, that radio that was a legendary radio station back in the day. Still isn't in a certain way. And um I I saw the tower and I'd be listening to the radio going, there's somebody in that building talking, and I'm hearing it through what's coming out of that tower.

SPEAKER_03

I used to listen to that station. I know exactly what you're talking about.

SPEAKER_00

I don't know if you're old enough to listen.

SPEAKER_03

For the oldies?

SPEAKER_00

No, no, no, no, no. W O L F.

SPEAKER_03

Oh.

SPEAKER_00

But uh, I grew up listening to Olive. So hey Katie. Katie, Katie Lynn's on there, by the way.

How Radio Work Really Happens

SPEAKER_01

Katie, that's my girl. I miss Katie.

SPEAKER_00

I miss Katie.

unknown

Me too.

SPEAKER_00

So, um, all right, yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Did you always want to do like what what kind of sparked the the idea of going into radio or doing communications?

SPEAKER_03

I really like music. I really like putting playlists together. I've always done that. And um, then I saw my dad do production work. So uh my mom worked at a Christian radio station for 34 years, and my dad would do the production work at our church, and we went to a huge church in Auburn at the time, and every Sunday at the same time, they would air the um service from the week before. Oh, wow. Okay. So you could listen. And my dad did all of the post-production because he was an insomniac and a workaholic. I wonder where I get it from. Um, like if someone coughed in the middle of a song, he would splice it out.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, but that's the fun of it all.

SPEAKER_03

I know. So he taught me like that part of it. And my mom, like, I got to see her do the licenses, the logs, record some spots, and like do everything was live then, like all live, and you were getting CDs like out of like a wall of CDs. You had to find D34, and you couldn't play like two male vocalists in a row. Like, there were so many little things that I don't think many people realize go into radio that I picked up on at a year early age.

SPEAKER_00

Well, those times have changed quite a bit, obviously. Yeah, we no longer have the CDs.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

You know, everything is like on this little bit.

SPEAKER_03

Did I just age myself? Kids are gonna be like, what's a C D yeah? No, exactly.

SPEAKER_00

And they and they will, you'll only see CD players in cars.

SPEAKER_03

My mom started with turntables and vinyls. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Well, the turntables are coming back in the vinyl.

SPEAKER_03

We had it, we had a sick system. Like the speakers were like bigger than pretty cool.

SPEAKER_00

And you you mentioned the fact that your dad was doing post-production work, and that's all part of what we do in this business. And that's what I love. And here here in the pod zone on on the other side of the room, when I want to sit down and do a spot, I love, or I'll take this interview and kind of take out some of the ums and the okay's and the coughs and all that. But that to me, that's fun.

SPEAKER_03

It is fun, and that's how I got into it because I would like do the soundboard with my dad, and like my our friend at church's dad like made a little album because he has a fantastic voice, and my dad made it for him, and like I was so about it. And he taught me how to convert like MP3s and everything. We can make cassette tapes into DVDs if you wanted.

SPEAKER_00

I have a box of cassette tapes in the back room. It's funny, I just saw them just a little bit ago. I was moving some stuff around and going, yeah, skip from 1993.

SPEAKER_03

Mini disc. My dad was big on mini discs. We had so many boxes of mini discs at one point, and they never really took off.

SPEAKER_00

Mini disc. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_03

Mini disc.

SPEAKER_00

Reagan, do you know what a mini disc is?

SPEAKER_01

I don't even know if I know what a mini disc is. Are you? See, I was I was up with uh I was with you guys with the cassettes, with the vinyls, like I was following this.

SPEAKER_00

So you know the cassettes, yeah, the cassette tapes. Yeah, but they were actually before mini-disc, right?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, yeah. Mini disc came out around the same time as CDs, and I thought they were gonna be huge because they're CDs, but they're small. But they were like mini discs.

SPEAKER_00

But they didn't go anywhere. Nope.

SPEAKER_03

Nope.

SPEAKER_00

They didn't survive.

SPEAKER_03

I'm glad I didn't take out stocks.

SPEAKER_00

You and I both. You and I both. But uh yeah. Do you know what a V CR is?

SPEAKER_03

Yes. Okay, yes. I think I'd drive one of those.

SPEAKER_00

You what?

SPEAKER_03

No, it's a C R V.

SPEAKER_00

I'm just gonna Okay, I get it. I get it. Yeah, good stuff.

SPEAKER_01

That's hilarious. Um yeah. Yeah, isn't it?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, we all say yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah.

Pet Peeves And Grocery Store Rage

SPEAKER_00

This is the yeah podcast. Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_01

Um what are what are some of your pet peeves, Grace?

SPEAKER_03

I have several. Um, like people chewing obnoxiously. Um having multiple open of the same thing drives me nuts. It itches my brain the wrong way.

SPEAKER_00

Um what do you mean?

SPEAKER_03

Like if you have two of the same cereal or two white milks, and like then someone just opens the next one.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, get used to it. You got kids.

SPEAKER_03

I know. I know they irritate myself.

SPEAKER_00

If they can't get to the first one, they're gonna, or the lat one that is open and might be in the back, they're gonna open up the first one.

SPEAKER_03

Yes, they are. Yeah, you know my children well.

SPEAKER_00

Do I? Yeah, sometimes. I just know I've had kids. I know how it goes. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Um, what other pet peeves do I have? Hmm. Oh, there are so many. It's hard to I just know that I've hard to narrow them down. So many times I've said someone is petting my peeves, but I can't even think now about specific instances. But like also, people in the grocery store, I don't get road rage. I get grocery store rage. Do not get in my way. Do not do it.

SPEAKER_01

I totally feel like the grocery store is a very tense. There's like yes.

SPEAKER_00

See, I think there's two different with you two, there's two different scenarios here. You're grocery shopping for the family. Yeah, or even if I just want to go in and get out, like people just I know, but you're you're you're grocery shopping for the girls, for your kids. Reagan would probably run to the store just to grab uh something for herself. So she's gonna be in and out, you're gonna be shopping the store a little bit.

SPEAKER_03

Even when I try to be in and out, it is not not so.

SPEAKER_00

Really? Why not?

SPEAKER_03

Because of the people.

SPEAKER_00

Do you do self-checkout?

SPEAKER_03

Of course I do. I check myself out all the time.

SPEAKER_00

Well, what about you, Reagan? Do you do self-checkout?

SPEAKER_01

Yes.

SPEAKER_00

You do.

SPEAKER_01

I just think it's quicker. I kind of have I also like I'm very I'm a routine-based person, so I really go to the same stores. And if that store has self-checkout, I more than likely know the process of how to get right through that that self-checkout as fast as possible.

SPEAKER_00

See, I think the self-checkout is awesome. People I think so too. People would argue with me. I'm even being, you know, the older of everybody here, you'd think then, oh, you know, I gotta have somebody standing behind a register and I want to hand them my cash. And that, you know what? Not me. I want to go and boop, boop, boop. You owe three dollars and forty-nine cents. Put the card in, slide it out, get the receipt, put it in the bag, and walk out.

SPEAKER_03

I would prefer to do that, but since I usually operate with cash, being a bartender and all of that, I am forced to see the people. But they are always wonderful. I never regret it. But yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. That's cool. Cash is important. Don't get me wrong. But I kind of wonder how long we're gonna have cash. Am I crazy to say that?

SPEAKER_03

No, I've been telling you. You're not crazy for that.

SPEAKER_00

Some people would say I'm nuts. You know, nothing's better than cash. Maybe so. But then again, look where we're headed. Look what's going on. You go to um go to a baseball game, it's cashless. You could you could take cash in and get a card, but then you gotta use the card for it.

SPEAKER_01

Wasn't the the New York State Fair cashless last year?

SPEAKER_00

You know, I don't recall.

SPEAKER_01

I believe it was. I believe it was cashless.

SPEAKER_03

Guys, they stopped making pennies. We're on our way. We are, we're well on our way.

SPEAKER_00

We are exactly do you have any pennies?

SPEAKER_03

Of course they do.

SPEAKER_00

I have a whole thing of them.

SPEAKER_01

Are you gonna get rid of your pennies or are you gonna keep your penny?

SPEAKER_03

No, I'm keeping them because when I had my daughter nine years ago, I started saving all of my change, and I told her she wanted to take it to the Coinstar so bad. And I told her I think they're gonna stop making money someday, just in case we're not cashing these in.

SPEAKER_00

She predicted it. Yeah, well, yeah, I guess it'll always be there, right? Yeah. Wow. I'm gonna have to you two carry on. I gotta look this up.

SPEAKER_03

Was the fair Was the fair cashless? I think it was. It might have been. I think lights on the no, I don't know.

SPEAKER_00

If somebody's watching this and you know the answer to that, just you know, leave your comments.

SPEAKER_01

Was the fair this past year cashless? People are watching us? Yeah, we have five viewers. Well from what I can see, we probably have to be more. There's a lot more.

SPEAKER_00

It's just whatever. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Who's ever tuning in at the moment? Yes.

SPEAKER_03

That's like when you get on the scale and you gotta subtract like five pounds. Yeah. You know it's it's not accurate.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. But it's close enough.

SPEAKER_00

So it's what do you mean the scale's not accurate?

SPEAKER_03

I'm being facetious.

Cash, Self-Checkout, And The Future

SPEAKER_00

So, all right, ladies and gentlemen, your attention, please. The New York State Fair has moved to a largely cashless operation, including all parking lots. That's right. And admission tickets at the gates. That is, I remember that now. Yes. Admission and parking tickets and parking must be paid via card. You can go to e-tix online, you can do it ahead of time. There you go. There's your answer. How can I help you?

SPEAKER_01

It just doesn't seem fair. Yeah. It's the fact that's very interesting. And I wonder how that's gonna evolve.

SPEAKER_00

What did you just say? It just doesn't seem fair, and it isn't fair.

SPEAKER_01

Thank you. I'll be here all night.

SPEAKER_00

Yes, I see that.

SPEAKER_01

So going back to theeves and kind of going over that, how do you how do you deal with those like hiccups and those like things that irk you throughout the day? And how do you overcome them? How do you maintain such a positive light and such positivity? Because I mean, Skip can attest to this. You work very, very hard to stay positive, and it's it's easier to kind of turn towards the negativity. So, what are things that you do to stay positive?

SPEAKER_00

That's a great question.

SPEAKER_03

Honestly, like I don't want to sound like I'm like preaching too much or on a soapbox or anything. But please do, that's what's this. I was just talking to one of my girlfriends about this before I came here, and um I've been really close to death like many times. Um at one point I couldn't breathe, I deflated a lung, I couldn't move, I broke my back. Um several things have happened. And um yeah, no, I got breath in my lungs and my feet hit the floor, and we're gonna be fine. That's more than I could say some days. It was very humbling. I've been through a lot of humbling experiences, like it really could be a lot worse. And where I am now, yeah, it might be it might be super hard. It might not be fun. Um, in fact, it's pretty rough, but it's a lot better than so many of the alternatives that it could have been.

SPEAKER_02

100%. My God.

SPEAKER_01

For sure. Yeah, yeah. That's a great way to look at it. Kind of looking at, like, you know, I'm grateful for what I do have and the opportunities that can come my way. And there's always tomorrow, you know.

SPEAKER_03

Today think about is what multiplies. This is gonna be a really cool story once I get to the other side of this thing.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

But would you want to go back and talk about it? You don't.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, talk about it?

SPEAKER_00

Well, you wouldn't want to go backwards. I get that. Don't send me back. No, no, and no, and hopefully that never happens. But kind of kind of reminiscing.

SPEAKER_01

At your like your point in life, you know what I mean? In order for you to move on, do you have to reminisce or think about that, or do you just let it go? You know what I mean? And I think that can be a lesson for Grace and I for when we go through difficult things like that.

SPEAKER_00

I think you just need to say, you know, screw that shit. You just need to move on. And and especially at my point, in my life, it's no there's no reason for me to look back.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I need to look towards the future. I don't know how many more years. I don't, you know, let's be honest. I don't none of us, and any of us sitting at this podcast table tonight, I don't you don't know what tomorrow's gonna bring. So I guess, you know, just you may want to reminisce a little bit because you're much younger, but uh you need to move on. You need to look ahead. I need to look ahead. Maybe, maybe I don't want to think back because I'm older.

SPEAKER_03

I'll never forget where I came from.

SPEAKER_00

But you still got right, exactly.

SPEAKER_03

And I just couldn't stay there.

SPEAKER_00

No, or yeah, and that's you, but I'll never forget where I came from, which was probably the opposite. But still, those memories are there, I get it. But when I say maybe you guys need to move ahead, but it might be okay to think back a little bit, reminisce about certain things and why you are the way you are today, for me in my life, at my point, I'm gonna be looking ahead and saying, you know what, I don't give a shit what happened. I I don't know how much time I have left, which I hope it's a lot. I mean, I'll be doing skip happens till who knows maybe.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, definitely.

SPEAKER_00

So yeah, that's that's I don't know. Did that make sense?

SPEAKER_01

It did. It kind of yeah, it was kind of like the let them theory. That's kind of What I gathered is you just like you do your own thing and you really don't allow other people to influence that in a way necessarily.

SPEAKER_00

You just kind of are like, you know, I'm gonna I'm doing my own thing in my life.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I am a lot of different things. And you know, we we talked about this. I know Grace wasn't sitting at this podcast table when we talked about this. Uh, I don't know, maybe it was a couple of months ago now, that uh, you know, valid validation and justifying things and all that, you know, screw that.

SPEAKER_03

Yes.

SPEAKER_00

I don't need to, I don't need to justify anything. If you don't know me by now, if you don't believe me, you don't trust me, then then forget it.

SPEAKER_03

Yes, I know who I am no matter who doesn't.

SPEAKER_00

100%. And we talked about that extensively. We're not gonna go back on it, but still, that's that was one of the things I want. You know, you're sitting here and you weren't here when we talked about it.

SPEAKER_03

So no, that was a hard lesson for me to learn a couple of years ago, too, though. You just can't prove yourself to people. Some people are dedicated to misunderstanding you, and it's not your job to prove yourself to them.

SPEAKER_00

Well, they would be considered a uh narcissist. Right?

SPEAKER_03

Correct.

SPEAKER_00

That's a tough word. But you can't you can't I'm lucky I pronounced it right. Yeah, maybe I didn't. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01

You said it and he did not stutter. He did not, Stanley did not stutter.

SPEAKER_00

Not not boy. I I just yeah, no, I get you.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I'm gonna sit back, relax, and enjoy the flight.

SPEAKER_01

I just think you both are just so cool.

SPEAKER_03

We think you're cool. Thanks.

SPEAKER_01

Thanks.

SPEAKER_00

I just think like you know, I don't want you to think I'm cool.

SPEAKER_01

I don't want you to think, I just want you to, I want you to think, well, maybe I just think that you both you work in amazing careers. You both are very family people oriented, you know. And I think that that transpires in your your all right.

SPEAKER_00

Those are the crickets.

SPEAKER_01

They are, and they're saying, yes, girl, yes, girl, you're right. That's what they're saying. They're like, yes, yes, Miss Ray, tell them.

SPEAKER_00

Um and when Miss Ray speaks.

Compliments, Confidence, And Validation

SPEAKER_01

Yep. Yeah. Kind of talking about this, I think for women, we enjoy compliments. You know, we we like compliments. Do men not enjoy it. That's kind of what I'm thinking.

SPEAKER_00

I don't know. No, I think we just handle it differently. I enjoy compliments.

SPEAKER_01

You enjoy compliments?

SPEAKER_00

I do, but we don't get enough of them. I don't, you know, male, female, I just in this day and age in this world, we're not giving each other the credit they deserve in a pat on the back. Everybody's taking everybody else for granted to a certain extent. And compliments, it's just, I think, between, you know, the women and the men, it gets handled differently. I think women love to be complimented, but it needs to be more vocal and more like, hey, you look beautiful today, or things like that. Oh, your hair, you got your hair done. That looks really good on you. I think am I right or wrong? You love those compliments?

SPEAKER_03

Vanity compliments? I love them.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, but even just, you know, hey, you're doing a great job. You sounded great. That's a compliment. And you know, that could go either way. I mean, I I love hearing that. Yeah, you know, and I know sometimes uh doesn't sound so good. So, but you know what? I'm my own worst critics.

SPEAKER_01

You look great. And you do great work.

SPEAKER_00

I have a lot of fun doing what I do, but yeah, no, that's that's a good point, what you're talking about there. Yeah, definitely.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, just because I think that we all deserve compliments. And I think, I don't know, I had somebody the other day where I was I was kind of down on myself, you know what I mean? And somebody around me was like, girl, no, it was just like, you know, every it happens. We all have bad days. Exactly. But long story short, this girl came over to me and she's like, you know, this other person thinks this about you and like thinks really highly of you, you know what I mean? And I was like, I didn't know that that person thought that about me. And it makes me think how many people we cross in a day, whether it's Skip or Grace or I, that these paths that we cross with people that think highly of us or think, you know what I mean? They think something, but they're too shy to say it. Or even vice versa. Like I catch myself doing that where I'm like, oh my gosh, that girl's outfit is really pretty, and I want to tell her that, but I feel like she'll think I'm a weirdo, or yo, those guys' shoes are really a weirdo. Yeah, and that's kind of what I've started to do and really embrace is like people enjoy that, but I don't know, it's kind of weird in a good way.

SPEAKER_00

And I don't think it's weird at all. I think that's a compliment. That is that is so cool. And from a guy's perspective, uh, maybe the guy just doesn't want to be a softy. You know what I mean? Like, all right, I she looks great. I can't tell her she looked, you know what I'm saying? He doesn't want to be heard saying things that people think, oh, he's rough and tough. And he doesn't want to uh, you know, he's not gonna be that guy, but everybody's that guy. Everybody, male or female, everybody's that guy.

SPEAKER_03

And it's not it's not hard to just say, hey, you look good today. Hey, I like your shirt. Whatever you're doing is working. Keep doing it.

SPEAKER_00

Skip, pull up your zipper. Did you see the picture that was online?

SPEAKER_03

The one that you posted the other day. Yeah, that was funny. I think it's so funny you posted that.

SPEAKER_00

You well, it was like, okay, I don't care.

SPEAKER_03

Embrace it, yep.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, embrace it.

SPEAKER_03

The only way that didn't.

SPEAKER_01

Do you think that would happen to a girl though, where somebody would point out their fly being down like that?

SPEAKER_03

They better, are you kidding me? You better tell me if there's something in my teeth.

SPEAKER_00

Good point. We have discussed messed up right now.

SPEAKER_01

If you didn't tell me, I think this was something that we recently talked about where I was like, I'm gonna be honest, like, I don't know if I would I would spill the tea and say, like, hey girl, you got something in your teeth. I might be like, girl, let's go to the bathroom. You know what I mean? But I don't know. I don't want to draw attention to it because I'd zoom in if I was like, I don't want to draw attention to it and make you self-conscious, but like that might not listen. I'm still learning, I'm still evolving.

SPEAKER_03

One time, one time. And Carmel will get me at a doctor's office. I was a receptionist, and I got up and I got ready in the dark because I didn't want to wake Jasmine up or anybody. And I did my makeup in the dark, put on my scrubs, went to work. You know, I didn't use the restroom for like, I don't know, three, four hours into my shift. But then when I did, I looked in the mirror for the first time that day, and I realized that those girls are not my friends. Because someone should have told me to look in a mirror. Nothing was blended, like the contour was so bad. It was bad. It was bad. And as someone who usually has her stuff together, someone could have said something.

SPEAKER_00

But do you think a guy's gonna say something when it comes to that? No.

SPEAKER_03

No, I worked with women.

SPEAKER_00

That's what I'm saying. You know, I mean, a bunch of women together and go, hey, no, exactly.

SPEAKER_03

That made the betrayal even deeper.

SPEAKER_00

Or whatever you call that stuff is not blending with the But like are guys there for like would you tell like one of like one of your guy friends or if we had a booger hanging out? Yeah, would you be like, hey, bro, you can't. Dude, you got snot hanging from your nose. That that's yeah, no, seriously. Hey, do me a favor. Because I mean it's happened to me.

SPEAKER_03

What about a pimple though? How do we address pimples?

SPEAKER_00

Put a star on it.

SPEAKER_03

Yes, yes, we do skip. We put a star on it.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

The reason I said that was you know, we have to. It's like she walked in the studio the other day and had a star.

SPEAKER_03

I go, yeah, a star, it's it's oh, it's my pimple.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, I forgot about that.

SPEAKER_03

It's way cuter than a pimple.

SPEAKER_00

But no, no, all kidding aside.

unknown

Um, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

No, it's yeah. I mean, I don't think I'm gonna go to another guy, hey, you got this huge zit on your chin.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I don't think I would point out a pimple. Absolutely not.

SPEAKER_00

I think every I think that's everybody gets them. It's a way a lot. Why would you want to point that out? You know what I mean? If you got something in your teeth, or you know, maybe you got a wardrobe malfunction going that you're not aware of, then I would appreciate somebody telling me that, you know.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

My socks are on inside out or so. Or your shoes don't match.

SPEAKER_03

If you don't notice that, you need to go back home.

SPEAKER_00

It's called a day.

SPEAKER_03

It's happened. It's crazy.

SPEAKER_00

Crazy stuff. Yeah, skip happens.

SPEAKER_03

But I'm serious, you know.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I'm gonna do that tomorrow now that I laughed at you.

SPEAKER_00

What? Where um yeah, oh that that's right.

SPEAKER_03

You'll show up and uh you'll have uh one crack.

SPEAKER_00

Well, let's not go to extremes, but you may have two very similar shoes, but maybe one's just a little different in color. I know women have a lot of shoes.

SPEAKER_01

But is it okay to wear two different socks?

SPEAKER_00

On World Down Syndrome Day, it is Yeah, because you know that's part of uh crazy socks. So you wear two different socks or whatever. I'm I don't I'm only saying it because of Zach, but you know what I mean. But no, I know, I I get you. But how often does somebody see your socks?

SPEAKER_01

That's true.

SPEAKER_03

Uh I go to the gym, so they notice my ankles in my socks.

SPEAKER_00

I'm sure they see a lot more than just your socks.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, sometimes they get to see my ankles.

SPEAKER_00

That's what I mean. See it all.

SPEAKER_03

But uh yeah, no, I match my socks.

SPEAKER_01

You match your socks.

SPEAKER_00

Socks are the best thing, you know. Socks are the best. And I said this during the holidays. You can if you have a good pair of socks, you're very happy. Take it from an old man.

SPEAKER_03

And slippers.

SPEAKER_00

I love my I got them on.

SPEAKER_03

I love slippers.

SPEAKER_00

I I love uh I love my socks and I love my slippers.

SPEAKER_03

Comfies and smells like standing in the clock. Exactly.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, exactly. And the socks have to be soft. If I have a hole, they're done. And it it doesn't matter, it could be just a little hole, and I can feel like it just doesn't feel right. It's gotta go. It's gotta go.

SPEAKER_03

100%.

SPEAKER_00

Yep, yep.

SPEAKER_03

Does your dryer eat your socks together?

SPEAKER_00

All the time.

SPEAKER_03

Okay.

Independence, Family, And Dorm Life

SPEAKER_00

All the time. Or it mismatches them when they get folded.

SPEAKER_03

Of course it does, yes.

SPEAKER_00

They do. I don't know how that happens around here.

SPEAKER_03

There's like a fairy in the dryer or something.

SPEAKER_00

Must be.

SPEAKER_03

Might be in your closet.

SPEAKER_00

You have the one too? Yeah, you have that issue going. Yeah. I get it. What about you, Miss Red?

SPEAKER_01

I get that too.

SPEAKER_00

Do you do your now? You still live with mom and dad. Do you do your own laundry?

SPEAKER_01

I do. I do my own laundry. I try to be, I don't know. I try to be independent even though I live with my mom and dad.

SPEAKER_00

No, no, I think that's great though. And it's an opportunity where take advantage of that.

SPEAKER_03

In this economy?

SPEAKER_00

Stay there as long as you can. Yeah. Sorry, Frank. But you're stuck with your dog. Kelly, you're stuck with your dog.

SPEAKER_01

I'm very lucky, though. They're very supportive, and they're always like, you know, you you have a place, you're good, and I have a good family, so I'm lucky. Yeah, of course, there's things that I want to experience, but I'm I am very patient. Um, I think that there's a reason, you know what I mean? Like, of course, I could move out, I could do this, I could do that, but there's bigger things that I have in the works that I just keep to myself and I just work towards. And, you know, people can sit there and say, you know, you live in mom's house, you're doing this, but they don't know what's really going on in here, you know what I mean, and what it's gonna cost to be what I want to be. So I'm I just, you know, I'm very grateful. Yeah, I'm very grateful for where I for the opportunities and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00

And and and um your mom and dad would not know what to do if you weren't there. You know, I enjoyed it. Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_01

And you have your sisters and yeah, I have an 11-year-old sister, and you know, when I went to college and I was away, I I felt very sad because I was like, I'm missing her childhood, and I want Wait a minute. You went away to college for one semester, even though it was 20 minutes up the road, it was really it was a lot skip. And it was it was a lot, and I didn't make it. I made it one semester, and I was like, you know, I want to go back to my mom. My mom's cooking. I want my dad to be able to help me with any car trouble or or anything that goes on, and I want to just hang out with my sisters. Like, that's what I want, and that's what I I did because I was like, this is better than the shenanigans that go on in a dorm room. Um dorm life can be tough.

SPEAKER_00

It's just I mean, it was a long time ago.

SPEAKER_01

I think I like I'm a very organized person in my own space. I'm a very clean. I like strength. I just it's the college dorm life is the opposite of ideal.

SPEAKER_00

But so that had to drive you nuts.

SPEAKER_01

It drove me insane. Insane.

SPEAKER_00

And this is why you are different than most young ladies your age. Because I can walk past your place in the radio station, your office, and it's spotless. All the post-its are neatly placed, all the pens are together, all the pencils are together, everything is, and and now you got the the wall up to protect you from the other desk.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, it's a makeshift wall, which is funny. It is, and there's a reason for that because it's just just yeah, it's just funny.

SPEAKER_00

No, I know, I'm just kidding.

SPEAKER_01

It's honestly, I feel like people might relate to this in the workplace. So there's just another desk there, and it doesn't matter who sits there, somebody could sit there and start working on the computer, and it it's just like, oh my gosh, I'm you see them out of the I'm seeing them, they're seeing me, and I'm just trying to do my work. And I'm like, we are making eye contact, but we're not making eye contact. So something had to put a blinder up. That's kind of what we did. We put a blinder up just because I was like, this is hilarious. This ray blinder. Yeah, but it's really just a big picture frame. It doesn't have a picture in it. It has a picture in it, we just don't know who it is.

SPEAKER_03

It's it's just like the the default, just uh but your office isn't like an office, like it's like a passing through space, too. So you get a high amount of traffic, a lot of traffic, yeah. It must be extremely, and especially since it's not an office, people don't knock on your door and go, Hey, are you busy? Are you on a phone call? They just pop in. Here you go. I need you to do this right now.

SPEAKER_00

And she's at the position where no matter who walks by is gonna ask her a question.

SPEAKER_03

100%.

SPEAKER_00

And it's you know what the question is? Has the new Keurig come in yet?

SPEAKER_01

And the answer is yeah. I know it came to said, but it was wait, we got a new Keurig again. Yeah, so I think this is hilarious. I'm gonna say this. Becky, our front desk lady, she is so quick with it. She said, she said, she said the old Keurig had like a UTI. Like it, it just was not working right. Like it was like dripping. She's like, girl, this is not working correctly. We got to get rid of it. So they send it back, they get rid of that.

SPEAKER_00

I think it was working just fine. I think it was operator malfunction. And they're like, no, it's broke. I said, it is not broke. Yeah. Take it from somebody who's a Keurig expert. They they got rid of it.

SPEAKER_03

I had multiple coffees from that. What do you mean, a U-T-I-E?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, she was saying that they were having trouble with it because it just wasn't working correctly, wasn't coming out right like fast enough. You should have told her to call me. And they got rid of it.

SPEAKER_00

And then, yeah, it just Well, you told me it had a bladder infection.

SPEAKER_01

It's the same thing. It's the same thing. It just had a problem. It just had a problem, you know? It wasn't working correctly.

SPEAKER_03

Something was wrong. Really good at fixing things like this. You should have called me.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I we had a so the new one came this afternoon. Finally, it was supposed to be here a couple.

SPEAKER_01

And I I couldn't tell you if it works. There were a couple user malfunctions along the way. Um, how can you screw up a K cup? Well, it's because you know, we had some trouble. No, no, no, no, no. Hold on.

SPEAKER_00

How can you screw up making a cup of coffee with a K cup?

SPEAKER_03

I've done it so many ways. It just really?

SPEAKER_00

You've messed up?

SPEAKER_03

I'm sure I have. But you know, it's easier to mess up regular coffee pads. I've messed up brewing coffee so many different ways, so many different times because I'm so tired when I make it. But the K cup, you're right. You just gotta put water in it.

SPEAKER_00

You just make sure the reservoir is filled. There's nothing growing in there. Everything is full.

SPEAKER_03

Put a cup there. Don't forget the cup.

SPEAKER_00

The only problem.

SPEAKER_03

I've probably forgotten a cup. I can guarantee that.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, I did that once. I did do it.

SPEAKER_03

But like I still when I'm making the coffee, as I'm sure we all are.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. I've actually gone down and threw the K cup in and hit the button and walked away and went, oh shit, the cup. You know, so that's why we have skip happens coffee mugs. Um now they say.

Keurig Problems And Office Rituals

SPEAKER_03

The next time you forget a mug, grab one of ours. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

We'll gladly give you one.

SPEAKER_01

So one of our podcast mugs.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, those are cool. You know, though that mistake was pretty, pretty popular.

SPEAKER_01

It's like a Bob Ross mistake. It's just a happy accident.

SPEAKER_00

A happy accident. But uh no, the the only mistake you're gonna make with a Keurig is maybe going the ounces. What, eight, ten, twelve. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

But with that one, did they put the wrong water in it? Did they use the tap water?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, it's in the city. So apparently we're all sick and the magnets now.

SPEAKER_03

We have a million signs that say not to do that.

SPEAKER_00

So someone must have uh that was we were yeah, that was before it was before Becky yelled at us and said, Hey, don't drink the water anymore.

SPEAKER_01

And we're all like, Well, oh, we've all had a cup of coffee. I mean, yeah, yeah. I even had an I was there when yeah, I had a cup of coffee, and I was like, Oh, uh, Becky was a few weeks later.

SPEAKER_03

Um some really funny she should be a news reporter, she should be a comedian.

SPEAKER_00

She is Becky is my sister-in-law, that is who who she is. Yeah, and if anybody, it's she's everybody says if we're gonna have a family get together, it's Becky coming. That's what they say. Is Becky gonna be there?

SPEAKER_03

I want to take a TikTok with Becky so bad, but she doesn't want to do it.

unknown

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01

Because she's like she's just a real life experience kind of lady, and that's why I really love her, is because she is like so I don't know, like her experience with life, like she just I don't know, it's very inspiring, you know, as a young person where you get caught up in stuff and she's like, no girl, I just you know, you and she supports you and she just defends you and she cares and and she's you know not exactly 30 years old, if you know what I mean.

SPEAKER_00

And um, yeah, but yet she fits right in.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, you gotta love that. She is a great first impression coordinator for sure.

SPEAKER_00

I well, I call her the uh director of first impressions.

SPEAKER_03

Director of first impressions.

SPEAKER_00

That's who it is. When you walk through the door and you're gonna pick up uh your concert tickets, or you've won a prize, or maybe you're lucky enough to win some cash, you know, she's the one that's gonna make you sign for the check and all that. So and she's you're gonna that's who you're gonna see first. So she is the director of first impressions. And and I want to I want to state this. How many other places do you think has a director of first impressions nowadays? Nobody. Most receptionists are you know just sign in on the tablet, or now they got the little kiosk. So even doctor's offices have a little kiosk because you gotta answer everyone.

SPEAKER_01

Answer all the questions, and then they'll come out and go, Clark.

SPEAKER_00

So leave you your example. I don't know. Never mind, that's so gross.

SPEAKER_01

Oh my goodness. All right, pull your sleeve up. It's time for a shot. Stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00

Shots don't hurt though. Shots are good. Shots are good.

SPEAKER_01

I think they're more of just uh a mind game because you're like, oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00

And you kind of wonder how they get all that blood out of you in there. You know, all right, it's time for you know, reject your levels. It's all good. Yeah, yeah. I don't know. I'm just you know, whatever.

SPEAKER_01

All right, Miss Grace. Is there anything else you want to tell us? Tell us about yourself? Anything you want you I think the one of my favorite things I want to say is that Grace is the queen of analogies, queen of metaphors, queen of similes, queen of figurative language. She finds a way to come up with the most creative saying. Um so, Grace, you're put on the spot.

SPEAKER_03

You have to inspire me. Give me something. I I could I could give you something.

SPEAKER_00

She's been absorbing that dad joke.

SPEAKER_03

I know, I'm trying so hard.

SPEAKER_00

That's why your hand is on it.

SPEAKER_03

Absorbing it. But yeah, I don't know. You have to inspire me. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00

What's a good day?

SPEAKER_03

What's a good day?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

It's not a great day. That's like the worst day I have is a good day. What do you mean? Like what's a what is it?

SPEAKER_00

This is what in the business. I was pulling something out of you.

SPEAKER_03

It didn't work.

SPEAKER_00

It didn't, no.

SPEAKER_03

I'm sorry, I failed you.

SPEAKER_00

Wow. Uh I don't know. I know, but it like Miss Ray said, is you come up with these lines and it's like, wow, that you know, that's pretty deep. That's cool.

SPEAKER_03

You know, my dad said I had the gift of words.

SPEAKER_00

You do. That's it exactly. You have the gift of words.

SPEAKER_03

That's exactly it.

SPEAKER_00

You should start a podcast called the gift of words.

SPEAKER_03

Or write poetry. I'm doing both those things, but it's not called the gift of words, and you know that.

SPEAKER_00

So you're doing the podcast thing.

SPEAKER_03

Of course I am.

SPEAKER_00

Tell us about it.

SPEAKER_03

Um, so since I've met Skip, he's been very encouraging about starting my own podcast, which I was already in the works of when I met him. Um, however, I've pivoted so many different times that finally Skip said, talk about what you do. What do you do for a living? And I was like, I'm a bartender. And he said, Right. And I bet you have a lot of really cool stories and you meet a lot of interesting people. And honestly, I do. But then Skip was like, You just gotta be careful how you market it. You don't want people to think you mean like getting locked up. And I said, Honey, I've done that too. We could go both ways. Because what's the name that you wanna Life Behind Bars? Life behind bars.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, and it's super cool too because you're in the music industry as well. So it's like bars, like music bars. So bars seem like so versatile.

SPEAKER_03

Working in media and working in bars like nightlife and entertainment, putting them together, making those connections. Like people come in all the time and they're like, Oh, I heard someone talking about this place on the radio. And then someone will be like, That was her. Because I I like don't like to lead with it. I don't want to be like, oh, hey, I'm cool. I'm on the radio. Like anything can be taken from you at any time. So like I'm just like very appreciative. And like, you know, I don't want to brag, but when people notice and people are starting to notice, someone walked into a bar last week and she was like, You're the girl from the radio. I just saw you at the concert last week and I was like, Oh my god, you remembered me? That's cool. That's really cool.

SPEAKER_00

That's awesome. You know, do would you think or consider being a bartender would be very um almost like being a hairdresser or a barber or any because you're gonna be hearing if you do those, oh yeah, you get the stories too. And I've always thought, you know, I I talk to the guy that cuts my hair all the time, Tony. So, you know, Tony cuts my hair. He's been doing it for 30 years. And uh I said, you know, I want you to come over sometime. I want to do a podcast, and because I bet you've got stories. Because come on, we go in, we sit in the chair, and we're finding out about you know what's going on, where and who's gonna be able to do it.

SPEAKER_03

Especially at the bar, you are there for people's best and worst moments. Yeah, same thing with those. Usually the first person that people see after a trauma and so many things. You you really never know how you can impact someone. And that's one reason why I'm so positive is because you never know who needs it.

SPEAKER_00

That's so true. See, I like that way of thinking. Me too. Pretty cool.

SPEAKER_03

Everything comes back to you. I'm gonna put as much positivity into this world as I can.

SPEAKER_00

Where are you gonna be in five years? Where do you want to be?

SPEAKER_03

Somewhere on the floor. Seriously, a lot better.

SPEAKER_00

No, but what can you envision?

SPEAKER_03

Uh, my podcast is gonna be awesome. I'm still gonna be working at the wolf and doing all this radio stuff with you, for sure. And I'm gonna have a better house. My kids are gonna be bigger, they're gonna be thriving, playing soccer, everything's gonna be fine.

SPEAKER_00

And how are you gonna get there?

SPEAKER_03

Doing doing this. Lots of hard work.

SPEAKER_00

Exactly. Exactly. And you can do it. That's my point, is you are looking ahead right now. We talked about this a little bit ago. So now you're looking ahead. That's why I asked that question. You're looking ahead. You can see it happening. You're gonna work hard to get there. And you're not gonna let anything stop you.

SPEAKER_03

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_00

Other people need to hear that and they need to hear it from you, who's been through so much.

Anxiety, Gratitude, And Being Present

SPEAKER_03

Absolutely. You know, and um, maybe this is the phrase you were looking for, but you can't. I was talking to one of my friends that was having anxiety earlier about how anxiety is worry, and they know that, and we talked about that and how worry cannot coexist in the brain at the same time as gratitude, but even more so, just be present. The things that you're anxious about and you're worried about happening, just they're not happening right now. Cross that bridge when you get there. You'll be amazed how many bridges you don't actually come to and how good you are at swimming.

SPEAKER_01

Wow. That's a really good point. I was actually talking to some friends about something similar to that. How, like, we almost live in like two different realities. You know, we live in the reality of like what goes on in our head and how we transpire that and come up with our own interpretations of life, and then there's like actual life. You know what I mean? And there's a lot of stuff that just happens that's really just a head game that we're all just trying to navigate. We're all just trying to navigate a hundred percent. I don't know if you want to call it a conscience or what that voice, but yeah. Yeah, wow, it's really cool.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, it's the yeah.

SPEAKER_03

That is yeah, yeah, dude. Yeah, yeah, just a higher consciousness and awareness, and thinking about other people would do the world a world of good.

unknown

I love it. Pretty cool.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, silence is golden. The same. Yeah, it's got me thinking, my everything is like.

SPEAKER_01

I know.

Baseball Life And Helping Players

SPEAKER_00

So yeah. And uh, oh, Gordy's on there. It says great uh philosophy. I gotta love that. Gordy's pretty cool. Gordy is uh I see him a lot at the ball games, so yeah. Which by the way, we're pretty excited about the the new stuff. They just had, I was just gonna say, opening night. Yeah, well, no, no, not opening night. Not opening night. No, no, no. Open house. Open house. Baseball. Baseball. And uh, of course, you know, we're in the Northeast. Uh I mean I don't know where you're watching this from. If you you could be in Europe for all I know, but uh even down the road. But uh, we're in upstate New York. We have a triple A team. We are the AAA affiliate of the New York Mets, the Syracuse Mets, and um we're pretty excited because and now the weather is changing, it's getting a little bit warmer for the most part. And opening day, home opener is on the 31st, but we just had the open house and pretty excited about being there. Um, I'm glad to I think everybody in this household works in the Mets part-time. So it's it's pretty it's pretty cool.

SPEAKER_02

So baseball house.

SPEAKER_00

Baseball house, big time. Well, yeah, you see the baseballs on the table. There's one right in front of you, Miss Grace. So yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, one, two, three. I'll show you. You got one in front of you.

SPEAKER_00

I do. I do. It's the real deal. Pick up that baseball.

SPEAKER_03

I want to take the girls to a baseball game really bad.

SPEAKER_00

And I you want to do that, you just let me know when you want to go.

unknown

Cool.

SPEAKER_00

I want to get you hooked up. What does it say on the baseball?

SPEAKER_03

Official ball, International League.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, it does?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, here. Take a look at that one.

SPEAKER_03

Is this one official too? Official Major League Baseball?

SPEAKER_00

That's the big deal. That's the real deal. Oh, this one's the real deal? So they're well, they're both the real deal. There's a difference between those baseballs.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, this one's international.

SPEAKER_00

Well, that that's league. But international would be like the minor league of major league.

unknown

I can take that.

SPEAKER_00

When careful with those.

SPEAKER_01

That's mine.

SPEAKER_00

But it the the reason what I was saying, it's a major league baseball. That means a major league baseball player uses well.

SPEAKER_03

How exciting. That's so cool. You have the coolest stuff. He does.

SPEAKER_01

I know, that's a lot of years.

SPEAKER_00

The baseball play this um where your knickers. What are you saying, Gordy? Uh uh, anyways, um this room where we have the pod zone now. It's called the pod zone. Um and a voiceover studio, and also in that door over there, which you can't see on the camera, is there's a voice, there's a booth, a voice booth. So um the baseball players used to live here. We housed baseball players for a lot of years with the Syracuse team. And some of those players went on to play in the World Series that are right here in this room.

SPEAKER_03

That's so cool.

SPEAKER_00

But that's how we have a lot of balls. So I not gonna say any more.

SPEAKER_03

He just wants to leave off on that. Yeah, no redemption.

SPEAKER_00

No, no, no. But uh no, it's just a part of what we do, and you know, doing that I think made us better people, being able to help others out, and that's where we what we've been talking about tonight is these players come into town, they're in their they could be 18, 19, 20 years old, and they're playing, you know, they've been drafted for the major leagues, and then they get sent to the minors and they get sent to a place like Syracuse. Where are they gonna live? What are they gonna do? You know, now they don't have that problem, but back just a few years ago, they were all on their own to get find a place to live. And we always said, Hey, we got room. So if anybody wants, you know, because and we've been with the team for a long time. So and they all know us, and so it's pretty cool.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

And plus, we get a lot of uh, you know, we learned a lot of different cultures, the Latinos, uh, there's a lot of Latino baseball players. Um, a lot of we housed a lot of them, and their families would show up, and that's probably when I gained a lot of weight because the food was so good.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I mean, I mean, I don't know if you it's Mexican or Latino, and man, with the plantains and all that, and they take over the kitchen, it's unbelievable.

SPEAKER_03

It is something similar, but not as frequent and with like with missionary families. So we'd have families from like Australia or like same idea. Yeah, and it was really cool to experience different cultures, absolutely.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, you know, that's that's yeah, it's part of my life. What else do you want to know? I know we're kind of like all over the place.

Trauma Poetry, Therapy, And Asking Help

SPEAKER_03

I want to know when you're writing the book. Uh I when's the book come out, Skip.

SPEAKER_00

If I wrote a book, man, it it it would oof.

SPEAKER_03

It's gonna be a biography, not an autobiography is what we're gathering.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, pretty much.

SPEAKER_03

We got some work to do.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, a lot of work. You don't want me to write a book.

SPEAKER_03

I'm gonna have all the time in the world for this right now. Skip, I'm gonna make you even more famous.

SPEAKER_00

What if you were to write a book?

SPEAKER_03

I would love to.

SPEAKER_00

And what would you call it?

SPEAKER_03

I'm working on one. Um, it's one of the last things I shared with my dad, and the reason he told me that I had the gift of word is because I told him one day, and my dad was my best friend. I talked to him every day. But I called my dad and I said, Hey, I know that you're probably sick of me coming up with these crazy ADHD O C D like ideas, and I'm always going on a tangent and a new happy little side quest, and I'm super into it. So I don't want to sound crazy, but I really do want to write a book. I can't believe that I'm about to be 30 years old and I haven't written a book yet. And that's when he was like, No, that makes sense. You should do that. You've always had the gift of word. And I told him that I've been writing trauma poetry for the last several years, um, especially after my car accident, my custody battle. It was a great outlet for me. Um, but I'd like to kind of collect them, put them together, get them published, and call it PTSD.

SPEAKER_00

Wow.

SPEAKER_03

So that's one of my book ideas.

SPEAKER_00

Have you researched that, like PTSD? See if anybody is no, no, but use that as a title or anything. I think that's a great I haven't. I think you should. And I think you should go with it.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. I've talked to my therapist a lot about it. And that's another thing that helps is I go to therapy and I have been since And I commend you for that.

SPEAKER_00

A lot of people won't even mention the fact they go to therapy. Been there myself.

SPEAKER_03

Thank you. There's no shame. And I think the more I'm transparent about what I'm going through, um, people are gonna realize, like, oh, they're not as alone. Like that was that was the biggest thing for me, too, a couple of years ago. Is um of course I wanted to make everything look good and only post about my highlights and you know, hear the positives. But when you're down, you need support and a closed mouth doesn't get fed. Everybody wants a village to show up for them, but like you have to be a part of the village. People can't help you if they don't know that you're struggling and if they think that you've got it all together, you're gonna fall apart when you genuinely need help and you're too proud to ask for help. But people are very understanding. It's not what you say, it's how you say it and what you do with the cards you're dealt that um I realize that the more that I talk about what I've been through, the less alone I feel, the more people relate to me, the less crazy I feel.

SPEAKER_00

And um don't ever think you're crazy.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, the more I'm actually able to help people because then I hear their perspectives and different ways of thinking that I wouldn't have thought of.

SPEAKER_00

Wow. See, right there, what you just said. Unbelievable.

SPEAKER_01

Should be written on a book page.

SPEAKER_00

Did you write that down?

SPEAKER_01

Good thing we recorded it.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, it's all right here. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

But I can say that when I was younger, like a teenager, I was kind of like arrogant for no reason.

SPEAKER_00

And it's being a teenager. Come on.

SPEAKER_03

Everything I thought I was too good for, or it'll never happen to me, happened. But if that can happen to me, that could happen to anybody.

SPEAKER_00

Anybody. Yeah, absolutely. 100%.

SPEAKER_03

I will never judge anyone. I will never look at their situation and say, oh, why don't they just do this or think I know better than them? It's a completely different story when it's yours. And you cannot judge someone for the choices that they made when you do not know the options that they had.

SPEAKER_00

Miss Ray, you're writing all the stuff.

SPEAKER_01

I'm I'm just in a trance. This is what I was talking about. It's a good thing you started recording. Yeah. It's a good thing we prepared you guys for. Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00

And uh yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. That's really all I can say. Wow.

SPEAKER_00

It's pretty awesome.

SPEAKER_01

Thank you. You're awesome, Miss Grace.

SPEAKER_00

You are, Miss Grace.

SPEAKER_03

And um here if I didn't meet either of you.

SPEAKER_00

Gotcha.

SPEAKER_03

But who knows where I'd be. Oh my goodness, I'd be so sad right now.

SPEAKER_00

Well, you don't know where you would be.

SPEAKER_03

I'm so happy to be here.

SPEAKER_00

Well, we're you know, we're happy you're on board. And you're you're living a life that you never know what tomorrow's gonna bring. There's a lot of ups, a lot of downs. I mean, but that's uh whether it's me or Miss Ray or you or whoever. I mean, that's that's life, big. That's life. Yeah, exactly. 100% when it rocks, we roll. I just say skip happens. Yeah, you pick it up and you move on, man. Yeah. Just right?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. Amen.

SPEAKER_00

There it is.

SPEAKER_01

For sure. One thing Grace told me one time was it's um not how hard you hit, it's how many hits you can take. And I was like, how hard you can get hit. Yeah, something along those lines, exactly. And just being able to push through that, that uncomfortableness, that that point in your life to get through it.

SPEAKER_00

I I I'm listening to you, and she corrected you, but that and I I get it. Do you write all those sayings down? Because seriously, that you just putting those sayings on paper and really for somebody to read would be like, Wow. Yeah, wow.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

You know, Wednesdays, for example, today's Wednesday. We all know that. This is when it's being recorded and it's live. And we're on a Wednesday this afternoon. Uh, what I do every every Wednesday on the year is called my midweek motivation. It's usually kind of silly, but then again, it makes you think a little bit. And then I'm listening to what you're saying. I'm going, that's like my midweek motivation right there.

SPEAKER_03

Anytime you need a pep talk, I'm your girl. I would be an excellent hype man. That's like my dream job for anybody. If you just need someone to encourage you, motivate you. Listen, I was one heck of a personal trainer. Whew. Might get back into really oh my god, yeah. Yeah. I've done everything, Skip.

SPEAKER_00

That's why you need to write a book.

SPEAKER_03

I feel like I've lived a hundred lives. I'm like Hannah Montana.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

She's lived a hundred lives.

SPEAKER_03

No, but it's like you go from I I went from a chili cook-off. She lives a few lives, you know.

SPEAKER_00

I think my son watched.

SPEAKER_03

I went from almost winning a chili cook-off. I took third in the chili cook-off or fourth or whatever, like right before I went to Parmali with you guys and got a talk on stage. Like, that was so cool.

SPEAKER_00

I literally feel like the first time you ever had that opportunity.

SPEAKER_03

That was like my little stage debut.

SPEAKER_00

That was my lot of power. It is. When you get up there, it's it's like, wow.

SPEAKER_03

I had Lizzie Maguire in the back of my head the whole time singing, This is what dreams are made of.

SPEAKER_00

Well, I'm glad you were given that opportunity. I'm sure there's gonna be more of those. So thank you for that. Now we gotta get Miss Ray up there too, but she kept saying no and grabbing the Reagan. I was that's you were, and I said, Reagan, you're gonna take the mic. No, I'll take the pictures. Or Reagan, come over here. Reagan, Reagan, Reagan, Reagan, come over here. Well, that's that.

SPEAKER_01

It was yeah, I was a little nervous. I was like, let me just let me just sit back, let me just enjoy the show, you know. But I did get up on stage. I did. Um, yeah. There's next time.

The Workplace Food Thief Mystery

SPEAKER_00

Uh Tia says Becky is sleeping. I'm watching LOL. Tia. Mystia! Ms. Tia is there.

SPEAKER_03

Mystia. Oh, that leads me to something. Um, I thought about this again yesterday. Who ate the last ice cream sandwich?

SPEAKER_00

You did.

SPEAKER_03

It was not me.

SPEAKER_00

Well, there was one. We talked we talked the ice cream dilemma here a few weeks ago. We were talking about that because I actually brought ice cream and you got like ice cream.

SPEAKER_03

I need three. I took three because I gave one to Elliot.

SPEAKER_01

Did anybody else eat anything else in the fridge? Did anybody eat carrots? No. We had carrots?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, where'd the carrots come from?

SPEAKER_01

I would have eaten those. Really?

SPEAKER_00

Did somebody eat carrots?

SPEAKER_01

Also. There was some carrots and I think it goes against some dip in the fridge that belonged to somebody that was eaten.

SPEAKER_00

This is the first time.

SPEAKER_01

So it's not only ice cream, guys. It's carrots. So hold on.

SPEAKER_03

Hold on. I would just like to say that the food thief at work, you do not ever, it goes against like a higher ethical code to eat the last of someone's anything. That that that's where that's where it like bothers me.

SPEAKER_00

Tia just went OMG L O L.

SPEAKER_03

Yep.

SPEAKER_00

So I had no idea. When did this carrot thing happen?

SPEAKER_01

I don't know. I think a couple days ago.

SPEAKER_00

I had no idea.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. And I just was like, how I stay in the studio now.

SPEAKER_00

I stay in the studio.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, he stays in his own world.

SPEAKER_00

Damn. I actually moved out of my corner often.

SPEAKER_01

Motia says they left only eight carrots and half the dip. Yeah. And we were like, what is going on?

SPEAKER_00

This is crazy. I I bet you this happens in a lot of different places.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, it has to. It has to happen. People, or we have a ghost on our hands, y'all. And we need to like places haunted. We need to figure something out because I don't know. There's no cameras in the studio. There's no cameras.

SPEAKER_00

Not yet. Right, Tia? Not on. Not yet. Working on that.

SPEAKER_01

People need to watch out.

SPEAKER_00

Because things do disappear. I brought in, I brought in ice cream. I brought in six of the uh what do they call like escimo pie? They were, I forgot what the what were they? Come on.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, the Klondike bars.

SPEAKER_00

Klondike bars, thank you. And uh I only had three of those. So and not all at once, because that's what they're gonna say.

SPEAKER_03

Who cares if you had them all at once? They're yours. They are yours.

SPEAKER_00

True.

unknown

Wow.

SPEAKER_03

So he was repl.

SPEAKER_00

I was replacing the bars.

SPEAKER_01

He was replacing the Klondike bars that he had taken. Like I have to.

SPEAKER_00

I had one of Tia's. We're going to get them up. Okay, I love this.

SPEAKER_01

We're gonna get them set up.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. All right. So I yes, I had one of Tia's cookie, which is the first one.

SPEAKER_01

And I think that he go ahead. I was gonna say, I think that he tipped it off. I think he tipped the iceberg. I think that his first line of action inspired other people. I'm not saying it's skip, but I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_00

I have an idea. We know your fault. It's just funny. Yeah, exactly. And Tia, Tia's like a mom to us all.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

So then I feel guilty because I steal her milk for my coffee. So I went out and got milk, but come to find out she likes whole milk, and I brought the 2% or the 1%, I don't know which one. It was some percent. Um, brought that in. But uh I did, and I felt guilty for taking the sandwich, the cookie witch, whatever you call those things. So I went and got the Klondike bars. And then her candy dish comes up missing. Not missing. I mean the candy in the dish comes up missing. So I brought one day I brought like a couple of bags of candy and put it in the dish. So how many other people in that building would do that?

SPEAKER_03

Wait, Tia has a candy dish? Or Becky's candy dish?

SPEAKER_00

You don't need to know that door's locked, young lady.

SPEAKER_01

Becky has a candy dish.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, Becky, Becky has one, but I've seen Becky's, but it's usually barren by the time I get there.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, because a certain individual comes in to record, then leaves and takes a handful with them. But um, yeah, that happens. It does. Tia cracks me off.

SPEAKER_01

What is she freaking one percent?

SPEAKER_00

God forbid you have something healthy. Oh my goodness. 1% whole milk. I mean, really, come on. I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_03

We should partner with burned dairy.

SPEAKER_00

Uh we've tried that.

SPEAKER_03

No.

SPEAKER_00

Somebody ate all the ice cream they brought in too quick.

SPEAKER_02

That was me. I took I would.

SPEAKER_00

Exactly. Well, it's just a workplace.

SPEAKER_01

We live it, we work in a really comfortable workplace. You know, we're like families. We've mentioned that before. No, y'all keep me on my toes. Yeah, I I agree.

SPEAKER_00

I it's like a family. Family where we fight, we protect each other, we help each other, sometimes a little too much, uh, things like that. I mean, yeah. So, and we have our problems, and you know, everybody's got issues they want to talk about, maybe a little bit too much information, but there's those moments that come out. I mean, Reagan, when she first came on board, didn't say two words. Now we can't stop her from talking. And you know, but she came out of her show, and that's that's what we're all about. We're all about having a good time, we're all about getting the work done. So and some days we're really busy. We got a lot of stuff going on, so yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

See, this is the show. Yeah, it's the as show.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

You guys are just so cute. I never get to see you guys.

SPEAKER_01

Uh oh no, this is fun to hang out.

SPEAKER_00

It is just hanging out, anyways. It's skip happens. Uh Tia, total family. We laugh every day. And we have said, and Tia would tell us tell you this as well, that we should be recording like once a week. It would be an episode. It's like some crazy.

SPEAKER_03

It's like the office, but we would be better than the office. It should be like the office behind the scenes.

SPEAKER_00

Between nobody, yeah, nobody puts paper in the printer, radio behind the scenes, Keurig shits the bed, the um just you know, things are going wrong in the studios every day. But we get we take care of that. You wouldn't know that, but it's stuff that we see from the other side.

SPEAKER_03

Becky thinks that people are gonna come in with weapons. She's not gonna produce the biggest thing. I wish she did.

SPEAKER_00

It's like Becky, let me in.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Who are you? Oh my god, it's so crazy. But, anyways, that that's life. That's what we do. And we love doing this too. And uh, Grace coming over with you, uh, Reagan, tonight. It's just uh, you know, it's been it's been a lot of fun. Yeah, even though I didn't zoom, I could I can learn how to zoom that camera in.

SPEAKER_03

Oh no, this is fine. This is great.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, all right, okay. Just sorry about the messy table, but you know, it is what it is. But uh yeah. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01

It's on you, Skip.

Socials, Nashville Trip, And Goodbye

SPEAKER_00

You know what she's telling me? Let's go. Thanks for watching, everybody. It's Skip Happens, Tia, Gordy, Katie, everybody else that's been online tonight. Thank you so much for watching. If you will go to YouTube, subscribe to Skip Happens, we would appreciate that. Uh, every Wednesday, I take a little uh I go down a different road, so to speak, where I'm not talking to an artist. It's always Miss Ray myself, and every once in a while we'll have a special guest. For example, you see Grace tonight, and she's got a story all you know that needed to be heard. And uh be strong, girl. Just keep standing tall.

SPEAKER_01

And uh where can people check you out, Grace? Tell us your socials. Where can we see you? Where can we get into your podcast? I'm everywhere. I'm on Facebook, Sessler.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, Grace Sessler or Grace V. Sessler. Um, my podcast, when I get it up, I do have the handles for it. It's called uh Life Behind Bars Official. It's on TikTok, YouTube, Instagram, um, and a bunch of other things. But you have to, there's a lot more that goes into creating a podcast than most people would ever think. Like, especially when you're publishing it and you want to get it on a podcast.

SPEAKER_00

It's a lot of work.

SPEAKER_03

There's a lot I'm learning so much. And um yeah, it's a lot of fun.

SPEAKER_00

Cool. Next week, I'll be in Nashville. So we're gonna be taking a week off. Unless you want to come over and do it. I mean, I won't be here.

SPEAKER_03

I'll fill in for Skip.

SPEAKER_00

We'll stay tuned. We'll stay tuned. Uh but uh, you know, usually it's every Wednesday, and uh, thank you for watching, everybody. Skip happens, it's all about happening. Skip in misery. Yes, and tonight's grace. Good night, everybody.

SPEAKER_01

Good night, see y'all.