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Real Talk with Isabel
Ghosting, High Value, and Fizzling: Dating From His Side of the Story
Get ready for some real talk! Isabel is joined by Flix and Redd from the “Ain’t Got It Yet” podcast to spill the male perspective on dating, relationships, and all the things women secretly want to know but men rarely say out loud.
We’re covering it all—like why some men look for qualities that remind them of mom (yes, really), how guys actually know when they’ve found “the one,” and why you should never just assume you’re in a relationship (awkward). We dig into whether successful women intimidate men, what “high-value” really means, and why peace at home is at the top of most men’s wish lists.
Expect laughs, honesty, and a few “wait…did he really just say that?” moments. Whether you’re single, dating, or trying to decode the guy next to you, this episode gives you an inside peek into how men think about love, success, and connection.
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Michalel Flix (Instagram)
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PodCast : Ain't Got it Yet Podcast (YouTube)
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All right, hey everybody, and welcome back to Real Talk with Isabel, all right, so we have today we have Ain't Got it Yet podcast and we're going to have them answer some of the questions you guys sent in, just giving a little bit of a man's perspective. So I'm going to let them introduce themselves, say who they are and kind of get to know them.
Speaker 2:Go ahead, flakes. What's up? I'm Michael Flael flakes, one of the co-hosts of the ain't gotta yet podcast photographer here in san diego. Anyway, I'm looking forward to this. It's gonna be a lot of fun answering these questions. You said it's about dating, right?
Speaker 1:isn't about dating men's perspectives. They want to know the tea and um, yeah, they're feisty. I'm looking forward to it. They're used to ryan's vibe. Ryan's vibe, I feel like you gave a little bit more of a grounded vibe.
Speaker 3:It's a balance. You need a balance. It's like MLK and Malcolm X you gotta.
Speaker 1:Introduce.
Speaker 3:She already gave my government Co-host. Ain't gotta get podcast Red, aka your auntie's favorite nephew. Yeah, I'm ready for this.
Speaker 1:this is gonna be fun all right, so we thought this would be a really good episode. I feel like we always have like me and red always have random conversations, so I was listening to your guys's podcast. If you guys haven't checked it out, go find them on. We'll shout it out again at the end. But yeah, just wanting to get a men's perspective. So let's just jump in to some of these conversations or some of the things that they kind of brought up, because I feel like these people were like bringing the heat on you guys a little bit. What they all say, what the heat, the heat. Okay, we'll just start it off. We'll start it off gently, all right. All right, we're going to start off. Real simple. One of the questions they asked is and we kind of already had this do you think, is it true that men look for women who have somewhat of a resemblance to their mother?
Speaker 2:Yes, if they value their relationship with their mom. I mean some some, I'm sure some men do it subconsciously, but I've been thinking about it. I know I did, like my wife, like my ex-wife she, you know a lot of people say that reminds me of your mom and I wasn't like intentionally, like looking for a woman that like reminded me of my mom. But I'm a mama's boy, I love my mom a lot and I appreciate the woman she is, so I did end up doing that. I don't think it's always an unintentional thing.
Speaker 1:I think it's subconscious.
Speaker 3:I'm going to say I never looked to see if they had traits like my mother, but then throughout I might see one or two traits. I don't know. It wasn't specifically like I want, like throughout.
Speaker 1:I might see one or two traits Like, oh, I want to do that, but it wasn't like specifically like I want to date somebody like my mother.
Speaker 2:No, you mean like character-wise or like yeah, oh, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1:You look for character traits that you like of your mom in a person. Yeah, for sure, which?
Speaker 2:would be what? Nurturing, caring, loving patient, caring loving patient god-fearing yeah, all that stuff. I think my mom would have made me one. So like, yeah, a lot of the traits that my mom has, yeah, I would want the woman that I'm spending my life with that same traits not all of them, but I think women do the same thing.
Speaker 1:Subconsciously, we look for somebody like our father. But I think what's hard and I'm saying this for myself, having not a great past without my father I subconsciously did find somebody that was exactly like my father, like to the point that my stepmother was like you, literally are with your father. It didn't work out, but no, it was crazy because I think we do it.
Speaker 2:We don't realize like we're looking for that, like we have that, or we don't realize that we do that the last girl I dated, she, um, she told me a few times and she was like the way you think and like the way like you process information.
Speaker 2:It wasn't like that my dad thinks, like the way you and my dad think of everything, but she told me a few times yeah, and it wasn't like she didn't know that when she first met me, when we started dating, yeah, just kind of just subconsciously, subconsciously, what she's drawn to me yeah, I get, I get that, I get that.
Speaker 1:Okay, we start off basic. All right, let's do this. How do you know that she's the one?
Speaker 3:They just go straight in, yeah that's it.
Speaker 1:They were just straight in with the questions.
Speaker 2:There's not like. For me there wouldn't be. Like a certain certain. I mean, I guess there could be a certain like thing that happens or like an event that like. But I know, for me I I'd say, when I want to spend all my time with her, when there isn't anything that I'd rather be without, like when I want to, no matter what party I'm going to, if I'm going to solo sunday, I'm going to the block party, like the homies is like, yeah, we watching the, watching the game, can I bring?
Speaker 2:my girl Everywhere that I'm going. If I want her with me everywhere, then yeah. And of course, when you start to date, you do have some time to talk. We're together all the time. I'm going to go out with the homies, we just stay here, but I'm saying before you get that.
Speaker 3:Well, for me it's like I'm going to say, when she in the trenches with me, like when shit gets real and I see, like like I'm talking about when shit hits the fan and that could be in any way, or like I see that something about showing up when shit gets real and it's like oh okay, noted, no, no, and shit gets real.
Speaker 1:noted no, I didn't mean like noted for me. No, I wasn't trying to say it was noted for me, I'm saying, like you were saying it's noted for you.
Speaker 3:Well, yeah, because I think, like for me it's more so, like I don't care with how much you show up and how we rocking during the good, I want to see when it gets real, like, how do, how do you function? Yeah, because for me I think it's easy. Everybody's in love when it's easy and it's cutesy and it's all happy-go-lucky. But then when shit hits the fan, that's when everybody wait a minute, I ain't signed up for this and they back up and it's like no, bring your ass back, it's what you signed up for, right? So I kind of see more like let's see how you respond.
Speaker 1:That's how I I feel like knowing you, like the way you say that. It's like I'm going to test you on it on purpose. See, None of this truth.
Speaker 3:None of this truth.
Speaker 1:Let's watch the test. Let's watch the test. Alright, we're going to go through some of these datings. I'm gonna switch it up. So I thought this was a. This is to me was like a basic question, but I don't know. So it says, like how long does it take a guy to ask to be a girlfriend from the first time they meet and dating? But I'm like, do we really seriously still ask, like is this a thing that girls have to still be asked to be a girlfriend? Or like like is it just assumed? Like where is it See?
Speaker 2:because I don't think every guy has an answer for this one. I don't. Even if it's not, I'm still kind of I guess I'm just old school with it. I'm still going to ask.
Speaker 1:So you're going to talk the phase, do the talking phase and then, when you're ready, you're gonna be like will you be my girlfriend?
Speaker 2:yeah, but yes, that's what I would do. But I'm saying, even if that's not how everyone does it, it should still be like a verbal thing that both of y'all just understood. I've even heard dudes be like you're my girl now, right. Like how long have you been doing this? I've been. You're the only person that takes a call, you're the only person I take out, you're my girl, now right. And she's like oh, I guess I am your girl, like I'm a girlfriend now. So, even if it's not a question, I think it should be a verbal thing that's communicated for sure, because otherwise y'all just going to be. You could assume that that's how y'all rocking and then you find out that they're doing something else and you're like whoa, I thought you was my girl. She's like whoa, you never even asked me to be your girl.
Speaker 3:You never. Even. Just because you're exclusive doesn't mean that's your girlfriend. No, well, you got a good point. Um, I'll say, oh, I move more, full action, and then we get to the verbal, maybe just to seal the deal. So basically like the same thing, but, like like I said, it also depends on how you start. Because if we just started on the flame, we just messing around, messing around, and then it's like we're starting to do more than messing around, hanging out. Now we're started on the plane, we just messing around, messing around, and then it's like we're starting to do more than messing around, hanging out. Now we're going on dates. Now you stand in my house, I'm staying at your house, and then once you get into, I don't even think meeting friends. Once you get in, family involved and all these other people involved, then it's kind of like cause it's a obvious. But then, like Flix was saying, that might just be what they do, they might just bring everybody around.
Speaker 2:I was about to say for me, I don't care what we do, because, depending on when we meet and when we decide to be exclusive, or whenever we start dating this way, that could flow right into the hot seat. They might be like oh you want to get my family over here, you want to come over for Thanksgiving?
Speaker 2:You're just bringing everybody over. No, I'm not saying I'm bringing everybody, but I'm saying if we've been dating exclusively and the holidays come around, I'm going to want you around. But also, just because you meet my parents and meet my people doesn't mean that you're going to date me.
Speaker 1:I understand that 100%. I'm with that.
Speaker 3:I get that. I know it sounds harsh, but no, you know it's crazy because I knew you were going to say no, it's just a quick no. This was a long time ago, a long long time ago. This was like 10 years ago. This was like 10.
Speaker 1:We have a trust.
Speaker 3:I'm not mad at you. No, you know what's crazy about it. I, we were somewhere out this is back home. We were somewhere and I ran into my mother, not knowing it was like in a store or something. And you know, I'm not a rude person. If you with me, I don't care who it is, I'm gonna introduce hey mom, it's so and so. So I was like hey, mom, this, you know, whatever she's. Oh, my god, I met his mother and I'm like, no, you ran into my mother, you didn't, I didn't bring you to my mama, we just crossed paths. So I had to. I had to clarify that, because she was like, oh, I met his mom, we're in love, and I'm like, no, we're not.
Speaker 1:I don't think. I think I'm like I think this is an interesting conversation because, like I don't bring everyone around, my family like to me, like even dating, like if I date you, there's people I've talked to for like six months at a time and I'm like you've never met my family. You know what I mean. Like I'm not going to let you around, but if I think that there could be something, I'm serious, I'm like I'll bring you around because I feel that family to me is really important and I have to test the waters Because if you don't, if you don't fuck with my family before we even knew what we were doing, like what did I?
Speaker 2:I don't know, it was a barbecue or something, it was like a get together, depending on, depending on your lifestyle and like what you do, like somebody could meet your parents well before there's anything like that, like for me like the 100th episode, uh, for that you gotta get podcast. We just had the party on friday, yeah, and my parents were supposed to be there. They just had something fucked up and if there was a girl, whoever, like let's say, like I met a girl, yeah, a few months ago. She's like I want to be at the party. I got her there with me. She would meet my parents there. But just because you made my parents too much into knowing the last I don't want to say the last girl, I dated a girl and I think we decided to be exclusive in like early to mid August and we were still dating around the holidays. She was around for Thanksgiving and she was around for Christmas. I'm not saying like I don't ever speak to the girl anymore, girl anymore.
Speaker 1:That's the way it works. Yeah, things interesting, things interesting. All right, I'm gonna ask on that point. So we were in a conversation, me and me and red the other day, and I was talking about the definition, because I really find this really. Somebody said they don't like this definition, they don't like this wording of a high value woman and a high value man. So it's like, what is that like? If you ever hear like I need me a high value man or I need me a high value woman, what would you, what would you describe that? As both or either one.
Speaker 1:I like my opinion or whether I think people do you like that, like, do you think that's a good term?
Speaker 2:I mean for the sake of the conversation and what the people that say what they're looking for, just to put a blanket definition on that type of person that they're looking for. I don't mind it, but just overall, there's certain lines you could determine value by whatever you're going to determine value by.
Speaker 1:Okay. So would you guys say you're high value. Men I like the pause that we have going.
Speaker 3:No, I don't really. I've never I never really gotten into the whole high value man thing. I just always looked at it like I'm a guy who I don't have it all figured out, but I have my stuff put in together, Like I have not all my ducks in a row but I pretty much know where I'm going in life and I have everything set up to how I want it. Because I think the whole high value, high value man and woman I think that just became like an overused. Those were like two overused terms because now all of a sudden everybody thinks because they take care of they, pay their bills, they get a job, they make this amount of money, they take care of the kids, take care of, own a house or a CEO or have an LLC, they're like I'm high value and it's like okay, but that's how you feel. But I guess I never really looked at high value.
Speaker 1:So what's high value?
Speaker 3:I think it depends on what you I think high value.
Speaker 2:It oftentimes does a point.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that too, because they say it's like Even in a lot of those conversations, because I think that time I think maybe Kevin Sands maybe coined that term. Whenever people talk about it, it always started with how much money you make for you. And I'm not mad at like women have to know that they're going to be taken care of and whether it's physically or financially. But I'm not mad at it, but I believe that that's where the term was coined at and cool if that's how people see it, then that's cool. But I mean, like I said, you could determine value in plenty of ways and that's why I paused, because by that definition, like no, I'm not in that tax bracket. So by that definition, no, I wouldn't be a high-value man.
Speaker 2:I think I'm a catch. I don't know. I think I'm a catch. I think I'm a handsome dude that treats women right, that has his hand on a straight line with Ryan, like I have things set up. I know where I'm going in life and I have things set up to get there. I 100% believe I'm a catch.
Speaker 3:But for that definition high value I wouldn't say that I think what he said high value man, it's like top 1%, you got to make like six figures and stuff the definition that, like he said Kevin Sanders put out, it was like making six figures a year.
Speaker 2:It was like your finances, your height it making six figures a year. It was like your finances.
Speaker 3:your height, it was a, it was a few things and like, just by those two, right off the bat, I don't need either one of those. So and I sometimes and I think, and I think that kind of, that kind of soiled, or put a a cloud over dating, because now you have women saying, well, I that I want a man to make six figures, but then this is what an argument Date shops just set up for six-figure men.
Speaker 3:But then that's where the argument came from and a lot of people got upset. Why would a six-figure man or woman want to be with somebody that's not on that level?
Speaker 1:But there's little dating apps where you have to prove your income and they have to prove their income in order to join the app Ooh income and they have to prove their income in order to join the app.
Speaker 2:See, men will.
Speaker 1:What do you think about that? You don't like that. No, I mean that's fine I mean then you're finding people equal to what you're doing, that's what you're doing.
Speaker 2:But to that point, men that make six figures, well, they don't know the fault.
Speaker 1:Women that make six figures oftentimes won't date a man unless he's making that decision. Okay, let's pause on that. One, because that was my next question. One because I want to say I'm going to, I'm going to piggyback on that, because so you're telling me okay. One would you be okay if your woman made more money than you? You're fine with that. I don't see a problem. I know I'm asking no, no so then my question is is why do most men because this is very true why do most men get intimidated by successful women?
Speaker 2:control security control like it's like for me, like and that's why I think I was on on, but I ain't got any podcast talking about this like I don't, I don't lead with anything but my personality. Like I was telling ryan, like like I've been on days with women that I could tell like they just wanted to go on a date with me because they think I'm somebody outside and they wanted to have the Michael Flicks experience which is crazy.
Speaker 1:I'm like what is the Michael Flicks experience? Do you do something special? I was saying like why do people get intimidated by successful women?
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I think you get intimidated when I was saying I don't lead with anything but my personality, and so I'm always going to feel like it's my personality that got me to be a girl like that.
Speaker 2:So, whether my money is up or down, she's going to be here because it was my money that got me here. It was me and it was my charm and it was my charisma and it was how I showed up that day. You know what I mean, and so, to that point, I think people get intimidated by somebody making more money than them when they feel like that person led with that. Or if the person didn't lead with that, if they feel insecure in their bank account or their income. That's like, if you know this is like my whole, like circular point if you know that person is here for you, then it really wouldn't matter how much money you don't want to y'all make now. Of course the other significant other should want you to strive for more, you know. I mean they should be like bringing things to the table and helping you get to a bigger bag.
Speaker 2:if that's what y'all like, that's the goal and that's the plan yeah but no, no, I think you only get intimidated when you're not comfortable with how much money you're making.
Speaker 3:That's true, and I think it also boils down to control. Some men got to control everything and it feels like if a woman makes more money than me, I can't control her because now she can move. If, as you have some men, they're like I'm going to move the chess pieces, I'm going to control the board, but now she makes more money she had, they feel like she has more control and some men can't handle that. But I think it goes like why are we in this? I'm not in this for money. If you got the money, cool, show me how to get to the money. And I think but that that's, that's based on an individual thing. Like if a woman made more money than me, I'd be like be like cool, they ain't got nothing to do with me but salute.
Speaker 3:But on the cat on the flip side, you're not going to talk to me crazy because you make money than me I don't think it should be a control issue but I'm saying like I think that's part of the intimidation, is more the control, like because sometimes I've heard women with money they do kind of look down on the man because I make more money than you and I'm gonna let it be known, and then it's a vice versa.
Speaker 1:So I feel like I think as a woman, sometimes it's hard because you can present yourself with a certain lifestyle and then your partner couldn't give you that same lifestyle in return. So it's like, okay, like I'm going to date you because you're dope as F, but at the same time, like you can't provide for me the way that I can provide for myself. That's my choice. I'm not saying that's wrong, but like you can't take like if I was like, okay, I want to go eat over here. And you're like I can't afford that. And I'm like but I can't afford that. And so it's like I don't know, like I don't know where I'm going with this, but I know that, like that's a struggle with it and that's fair.
Speaker 2:That's that's what I'm going to say, but I do think in some ways that's fair. But also, I'll just to give the other side if you can provide that for yourself, why does he need to provide that? Why can't he come in and provide the things that you can provide for yourself yourself, like protection, like security, like direction, like stability. You know what I mean. Like if, like that's what I said. Like a man will like, if a man can you mean emotional stability? Yes, yeah, if, if. If a man can afford to eat at whatever restaurant he wants and the woman can't afford to, if he can take himself to eat there by himself, no day yeah and the woman can't take herself to eat there by himself.
Speaker 2:The man will still go, they'll still still take her here. Come with me, women won't do that and it's like most women won't do that. Why do I like?
Speaker 1:and again it's different, because a man is supposed to provide, but again provision doesn't only come to finance I agree with this because I think that's one thing, though, that, like I see, is that women always will be like it's the money, it's the money, it's money and I say this even being raised in the culture that you marry somebody that can take care of you financially. Right, that's what I was taught. I don't agree with that anymore because I'm like there's so many other characteristics that you need to look in a partner to see if they can, like, support you in some avenue. But like I, I get what you're saying. Like I do agree with that, but it is. I also like I'm like, look, if I got it, I'll be like okay, let's let us balance it out like how much.
Speaker 2:And again, if that's the pool you want to swim in and that's the pool you want to swim, I'm not saying you have to say anyone. Yeah, like how much. How much does your dating pool shrink if the man has to have checked all of these boxes to even be considered?
Speaker 1:A lot.
Speaker 2:It shrinks a lot, but the thing is like that's the pool you want to swim in and go ahead. I'm just saying I understand that's the pool you want to swim in yeah, but we were talking about that on the way here.
Speaker 1:The soft girl era.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, because we was like, because we were talking about her mom. I love her mom, mom's great, but like her mom, can be aggressive in sports, highly competitive, very competitive. Like we were at a family function and she was like we doing a plank competition after we ate and she signed me up first. But what I was saying, like she'll be aggressive with everybody, but with her husband, then she's that soft kitty type and um, then she's that soft type and um you were just saying some women can't like go into soft girls some women, they, I don't think some women can, not all women, I'm just saying some few.
Speaker 3:They just want to be them tough, masculine like, and it's like, if you want to do that, that's fine. But kind of like what you were saying, with the money you're shortening the dating pool and I think, whether it's finances, soccer era, you have to look at what the things you will accept and won't accept, because that's going to determine the dating pool.
Speaker 1:But does that go both ways then?
Speaker 3:Yeah. But I think with men I'll say for me, like I said on the podcast, I don't want no aggressive one, not like that, like you're not going to come in here and be all aggressive, yelling and da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da, because I want peace. Most men want a woman Because every time you bring up the soft they're like I'm not submitting. It's not that men just want peace. Most men, especially who work and got a lot going for themselves, it's not about the money, they just want a woman. I mean there's more to it. But it's like if this woman gives me peace, that's 50 points on the board, right there. But like if I got podcast photography school, I got 20 different things going on and this half over here just 50 points on the board, right there. But if I got podcast photography school, I got 20 different things going on and this heffa over here just yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't want to deal with her.
Speaker 1:So what's peace then?
Speaker 3:It depends on the man, because for me maybe it's just conversation, maybe you just being in my presence, maybe it's a little back massage, maybe it's just let me talk to you. Let my presence Maybe it's a little back massage, and maybe it's just let me talk to you, let's ride in the car. I mean, it depends on the man, but I think, like, can I go in there? Yeah, so the soft air peace.
Speaker 2:To me, peace is slow motion, gentleness, no real cares or worries. Of course, like in your eyes, you got pictures to watch, close the photo and put away chores to do and stuff like that. But as far as that stuff, again, after time, if you neglect all that stuff, your house is going to be a mess. But peace to me is when I come home. If I don't want to do nothing, I'm not doing nothing. And a part of that not doing anything is I shouldn't have to beef with you or argue with you or have any kind of combative energy with you. Now we're going to have arguments from time to time, but when I come home, it should be tranquil, it should be peace, it should be slow motion, it should be. None of us really have to do anything or worry about anything because we're home. And this is where we should have the majority of life, because we're home and this is where we should have the majority of our people.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and every and I and it was years ago when I spoke about it on the podcast but I feel bad for anybody that doesn't have peace in their house, whether they're single or in a relationship that sucks. Yes, even at the worst, even at the worst of my marriage Like when it was like I don't even know what's going on there was that we wasn't arguing in the house. It wasn't complaining, we was fighting, we wasn't. It was just like all right, we ain't really rocking, so he's gonna be over there, that's not gonna be over here. Where it's a little, it was awkward, but it ain't combative. It's like, as long as we don't trigger anything, we can both have our peace and that was what we both want. That that's what everybody deserves. Whether you're happy, sad, single, divorced, you know everybody deserves peace now.
Speaker 3:Some kids don't know how to do peace, because I've dated women before that It'll be cool. We chill like this, and they would just something in their brain would be like oh, I got to start an argument, but that's what I'm saying. But, like you have people like that, though, where it'd be like we chilling all of a sudden they just come up with this scenario and argument you like, where did that come from?
Speaker 1:yeah, I mean, I'm gonna say it like I don't care, I'm gonna air out my shit right now, but like in the same sense and it's like no, but I'm saying this, I'm gonna put us out there in a second. I'm saying that, like with you, I had to learn my traumas and the fact. Stop doing that. I had to learn in my traumas and the fact that, like I was used to like create, like the piece to me was like wait, I'm not used to this. Like wait, I'm not used to this. Like I was like either the crumbles, like it's gonna fold, I gotta run, I gotta back out.
Speaker 1:Like I couldn't, I couldn't understand that peace mindset, like because I think, in the same way as like women can be, that way men can be the same too. Like men can be just as toxic, I want to like I think men can be just as toxic and in the piece too. That goes back into saying, like the women and the men money situation. Like men, women don't want to be the one having to worry about the bills, making money paid all the time. They want to be your piece, but they got to have the balance too but I also think, equal.
Speaker 3:I think this, though like if we really rock, let's say going back to the money, let's say you make more money than me, but we really rocking with each other, and you see, I'm out here trying to get it I'm not saying it's expected, but it would be nice, you know what, let me show him how to get it 100, but I don't. Vice versa, I don't think some people on both sides think like that. Some do, but some don't. They're like I got it, you need to figure it out. But it's like, because that's the person I'm always like, and just in anybody's general like if I see somebody that's got something going on, I don't want to mooch off them. I'm like, hey, I like what you got going on. How can I get there? Now, if you don't want to tell me, that's fine, I'm going to go figure it out. But now I'm personally going to get it, because now it's like you flaw for that. You could have just told me. But yeah, if you're a team, then y'all should.
Speaker 2:Also, what would and this is not to you, this is just to anyone If you're this high earning, six-figure woman and your man is a school teacher that doesn't make much but he earns a good, decent enough paycheck, loves his job excuse me and loves serving the community, and you know your, your, your, your money covers the mortgage and your money covers most of the stuff in the house. But because all your money is paying for everything, he gets to stack up. So when y'all go on trips, that's on his back. I like that you know what I mean. Like I feel like most, most women wouldn't be open to that.
Speaker 2:Because he's, because your title is this he's just a school teacher. So it's like but does this nigga make you happy? Does he keep you warm at night? Does he help you around the house? Like, does he make you feel complete? Does he make you feel feminine and sexy and all of that stuff? Like, if he checks those boxes, then he just doesn't check the finance box. And again, he's not some bum, he's not some dude like that. Gotta figure out how he's getting money. He has a solid job, he knows exactly where his money's coming from and it's a piece of shit Like that's like that, that never shut no, I think so too.
Speaker 1:I think they do. I think they do, but I think, being somebody on the original like the question on men being intimidated by women that are successful, I think that's a real thing too, though, like I've had so many people like we did get away. No, no, no, it was good, I'm good, I'm glad we got away from the question, but I'm just saying, like I was gonna note that that was like. That is the thing. That's like people think at first they're like, oh, this is cool. Like you do this, you do that, like you do this, oh, that's really cool. And then they watch it and they're like, oh, but you really do do that.
Speaker 2:Like and then it becomes like I don't know. I've had more people that make more money than me.
Speaker 2:I've never had an issue with it so I think that's good in commerce in, like because you know, this is a topic that comes up on different podcasts and different shows and even people that I've spoken to in person.
Speaker 2:The men that I've seen that end up having a problem with it is they feel like the women throw their paycheck in their face and like kind of throw their confidence in their face. Yeah, I got this degree, I graduated from this school and I've done this and I've done that. It's like what do you do? It's like, even if she doesn't verbally say well, what do you do, she's kind of like telling them like I'm up here and you're not up here, and so it's like you may never say it, but you could make a, you could make a man or one could make someone feel inferior with their words. And now again, that could be a fine line because the person that is really successful and makes a lot of money, they could just be living in who they are and whoever they're dating could be internalizing things on their own without anything happening. But I'm just saying a lot of the conversations that I've heard men say that like, yeah, she throws her confidence in my face or she always leads with her paycheck or with her title.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think you said. Yeah, you said it could be said the other way. All right, I'm going to flip it for a minute. I like this question what does being a man mean to you?
Speaker 2:Being a man means being impeccable with your word, being able to defend yourself. I know that sounds like a shallow thing, but I think every nation has a fight to be able to defend themselves. You can't be impeccable with the old word, but you have to defend yourself. Being impeccable with your word, being able to defend yourself. A man respects women I want to say honors and respects women. It's comfortable, just, I don't want to just say getting to it, but a man knows how to get to it and knows how to figure it out. You're going to have low moments where your life don't look the way you want it to look or your bank account don't look the way you want it to look, but a man will always do it.
Speaker 1:I like that.
Speaker 3:I say one, standing on business, Kind of like what Sleek said, but like standing on business, you know, your word is everything, caring yourself in a positive, respectful way. You, you know, and just walking in your truth. You know.
Speaker 3:Too many times, you know, growing up they always say a man's supposed to be like this, a man supposed to be like that, but then as we get older you're like either it was toxic masculinity or it was something that was masking, like you're acting like this, but behind the scenes you really act like this. So I think it's really just you know, standing on business, walking in your truth, respecting women, having respect for yourself, respect for anybody and, I think, just holding yourself to the highest standard. I it's not about who's the loudest or the biggest, but really just like when I walk into a room, you're like, oh, he's solid and you don't have to. Like I said, you don't have to be the biggest or the tallest. When you walk into a room and it's not even being hey, everybody, I'm here, but when you see him, it's like you know what, I respect him.
Speaker 1:I see them. It's like you know, I'm expecting I don't know. Yeah, I think a lot of people are asking like these really questions, because a lot of them are like, because a lot of people that I work with and then I talk to they're either leaving relationships or they're trying to find a relationship and they're dating. So they were like I want a man's perspective to see, like how does a man really like think, like everything overall? So I'm going to ask you, in this sense, like I look at it, as like I know from a woman's perspective, what the dating scene is like. How do I you know, I haven't been in it lately but like from a man's perspective, as a woman's perspective, everybody's like it's empty as hell, like based in san diego, everybody's like it's crazy, it's empty, there's not, it's not happening in san diego. Like, from a man's perspective, I want, I'm curious because you're in the scene.
Speaker 1:So, with the dating yeah, all right, you know all right. Or do you have dating advice? I don't know everybody's like. How do you find good people?
Speaker 2:you gotta be a good person and also you gotta, you gotta go yep, be a good person. And also you have to, like, go in the spaces that you enjoy with the energy. Like, don't just go to spaces where you think people are going to be, because if you don't like that place, like what are the chances that you're going to meet somebody on the bottom of the energy that you're on? You know what I mean. So, like, if you, I love live music, so I go to lots of black music, a lot of women.
Speaker 2:I don't say a lot, but the women that I've met there have been chill, pretty cool women, and none of them have ended up being my girlfriend. But I don't have anything bad to say about. I don't have anything bad to say about any of these women. They've been cool, stand-up women with their head on straight that make good money and that love music the way I do, and they've cake and solid work. So I you know everybody that's from here and everybody that's been here for a while they always like get the San Diego dating scene and bad rap, which I guess is understandable. Still, I've only been in it for what? About a year and a half, a year and a half, but I haven't had any issues. I really, I really haven't had any issues.
Speaker 1:I go out with the energy and I've gotten out of it.
Speaker 3:What's your dating advice? Kind of like what Flick said. It really depends on where you're looking for these people. If somebody in their 30s and you're looking for somebody to lock it, you're looking for something. Let's say, you're looking for some potential. You're not going to find it in a club while the 22-year-olds hang out. They're just trying to get their freak off drink and have a freak off. So if you go into these places and you're like dang, I can't all these women, they just look at where you're at and it's kind of like you. If you want a more mature, just chill woman, you got to go to the places where they're at. But I think, and you also got to look at what energy do you give, how, when you're talking to a woman, not even how you talk to somebody. Look at how you dress, walt. Look at your whole vibe. What does your vibe say? People get so offended by this, like with clothes, I wear what I want.
Speaker 1:Women do get offended. You can't just I'm gonna say it you can wear what you want.
Speaker 3:That's fine. But at the end of the day you can wear what you want, but you gotta accept whatever comes with that. So if you walking around with your ass out, I'm not saying nobody should touch and feel on you. I don't agree with that. But you can't get mad if that's not fair no, listen, hear me out.
Speaker 3:You see, I just said you can have your ass out if you want to. But if you're looking for a man to take like a serious, like, I'm looking for somebody to be with I'm not talking about a fling the guy that's like serious and I want to, he might see you, but you probably gonna get pooky then. That's just trying to have a little fun, but I'm not saying it's right. And same thing with like guys. If we come in with like a wife beater and we just look dirty, we ain't going to get Halle Berry or Beyonce.
Speaker 1:We might get I think Beyonce was with.
Speaker 2:Jay-Z. Your first example with the window. I'm following you. Your first example. The first example with the women. I'm with you, though your first example with the women was saying how what they dress depends on how dudes don't approach them. When you talk about how men dress, you said we're not going to get the girl that we need. That doesn't necessarily. It's not speaking to how women would approach us depending on how we dress.
Speaker 3:I think okay. So going back to the women, it was basically just saying like and men too. I think it's not just a.
Speaker 1:You're saying fake it till you, make it.
Speaker 3:No, I'm not saying fake it till you make it, but I'm like it goes back to what do you? How do you present yourself? Depending on whatever you're looking for, you kind of got to match what you're looking for. I agree with that Because I'm saying, like I said, back to the club thing, it's rare you're going to find love in the club. But if you keep going to there and you keep wondering why everybody just wants to hit and leave, it's because you're going to the club. And it goes back to the clothes, like okay so, and it's not just women, men wear crazy stuff too. But I'm just saying like you kind of gotta what you want, you kind of gotta put out there for yourself. So if I'm looking for let's just say I'm looking for a classy business woman, then I'm gonna kind of put myself and it's not fake it till you make it, but it's like I want to be in those spaces because I'm not going to find a classy business business woman maybe over here per se.
Speaker 2:I agree. I agree, it's all about your presentation and energy. I've said, I've said it on our podcast before, when I first got divorced, like I was sad. I was sex deprived, Like I hadn't had sex in a long time. I was like I'm going to be outside and whoever I bump into that's ready to get it shaking. We don't get it shaking. And I wasn't running into the woman. Yeah, I wasn't.
Speaker 1:I think why were you not running into the?
Speaker 2:woman. I don't give out that energy. I don't present as that guy. I don't present as the guy. That's what I thought I wanted to do, but that's not the energy I give out, that's not the presentation that I give all I, in the three and a half years that I've been seen, 90 to 95% of the women that I've met and exchanged info with and taken on dates have been women around my age, with their head on straight.
Speaker 2:More often than not they're entrepreneurs. If they're not entrepreneurs, they got like really good jobs. They either own or have a really nice condo of their own, driving really dope not only say really dope, but got their own car and it's a nice car, like that's. That's what I've been coming in contact with and I don't do anything special. I dress like you know. Everybody sees how I dress on the show, like I dress my age. I speak the way I speak. I try to smell nice when I'm outside. Yeah, that's just the energy. I don't give off the energy in a dude that's trying to pick up every girl that you see. I get that and so I just I'm attracted to both of them.
Speaker 1:I think it's all about energy. And what you put out there 100, I think it's all about energy once you put out.
Speaker 3:You like sexy red. You're like I'm looking for the hose.
Speaker 1:The hose is gonna come but I also have to say I'm gonna be that person, though, and to say that I have met some really dope people in some really like not serious places, okay, and I'm like and I think, though that still goes back on the energy like it's just who, I think the type of people that I attract. I have met some just really amazing people that I'm like there's no freaking way I've met you in this club or I've met you over here randomly and you're just dope as hell, like. So I mean, I've met cool people in random spots. I think, yeah, like that's it, I don't know, but I do agree with it to some extent too. But I also think that a woman should be able to wear what a woman wants to wear. She can. I mean, I don't know about the bikini up in the club, but you know other than that.
Speaker 1:No, she can wear that. She can wear what like shit.
Speaker 2:I mean the bikini girl ain't going to to touch you. That should never happen. With that, though, okay, if a dude that's got a lot of muscles, if he's out walking around downtown during the summertime with his shirt off, girls are going to say certain things to him.
Speaker 1:Yeah they're going to notice that.
Speaker 2:Girls are going to say certain things to him. Yeah, they're going to notice that If he's in some cargo pants or a Padres jersey, women might still say things, but the things that she says are going to be different. And that's the same thing for women. 100% I get that. If you're out here naked, then who's going to come up to you with the energy like you're naked? Yeah, I get that. No man should ever touch any woman that doesn't want to be touched right.
Speaker 1:Make that very cool. There you go. Yeah, no man, should I agree with that? Okay, we're about done. This is good. I'm liking these questions that everybody sent in. So, all right, I think we're only just a couple more and I want to ask this last couple more that I have. All right, so I think you can tell these are just hurt people that wrote some of these comments.
Speaker 2:I already knew that. I told them on the TikTok.
Speaker 3:I said when we answer these, don't get upset okay, let's talk about this ghosting period.
Speaker 1:Have you ghosted somebody? Have you ghosted somebody? Have you ghosted somebody?
Speaker 3:No, in my younger years, I mean.
Speaker 1:You've never ghosted anyone.
Speaker 2:I have, actually I'm ghosting. It's probably not saying how it sounds. I let it fizzle, I do that too.
Speaker 1:What is wrong with you guys? That's the most jacked up thing.
Speaker 3:It's like an that too. What is wrong with you guys? Like that's so jacked up?
Speaker 1:It's like an internet. It's the most jacked up thing.
Speaker 3:It's like an internet browser, you know what you're saying.
Speaker 1:I let it fizzle and I think that is so jacked up it's like an internet browser. It's like just end the shit. Why you gotta let it fizzle.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, but I guess it depends on.
Speaker 2:It's like I don't really ghost, but I kind of ghost by just letting it fizzle well, no, it's not ghost, because ghost is just like oh, this was really nice, I didn't know what we was doing. Now you're just not talking to me. That's ghosting, fizzle, fizzle is like I don't, this ain't going where I thought it was going to go. So I'm just and I don't want to just not speak to you anymore and be rude, so I'm just not gonna hit you up as frequently. I'm not gonna reply as quickly. Actually for me, honestly, honestly for me, I'm gonna still reply as quickly. It's just my initial hitting you up isn't gonna be the same that is so still like what I'm saying, though, too.
Speaker 3:Though, what about, like? I've been in situations where I try to, I reach out and we're talking and she's dry and she's making one word, yeah? So then I yeah, so then I'm like all right bet. But then I see you, why you stop talking to me, hey big head, why you don't talk to me no more, she's calling you big head Like who's like Randomly.
Speaker 2:You know how they do that to my friend.
Speaker 1:You know how I say it Randomly is calling you big head there are some women out there that do stuff for attention.
Speaker 3:They won't rock with you. And then they see you in the street and now y'all just the best of friends, because they want to let all the girls know. Yeah, he used to talk to me.
Speaker 1:I ain't give him none, that's not what it's about, by the way.
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 1:That's not what it's about. It's about a numbers game. Let everyone know I talk to you. I want to let people know that I can talk to you if I choose to, and then I'm going to talk to that guy over there and I'm going to let him know. I'm going to let them know I can talk to that one too. It's a numbers game.
Speaker 3:So why would we do it? Everybody getting their feelings.
Speaker 1:Who's doing what? You pulling a numbers game?
Speaker 2:Because you guys, do it messy.
Speaker 1:When you guys do a numbers game, because you guys are messy.
Speaker 3:You may look at you. You can't even be serious with the face guys are messy.
Speaker 1:You guys make a numbers game because you want to make it a point that you got your numbers. You want you want to let people know I got a roster I got people to choose from. No, you do. And if it's not me or your girl or the roster people on it, you want to let people know I got a roster I got people to choose from. No, you do. And if it's not me or your girl or the roster people on it, you want to let your homeboys know that you got a roster. You want people to know you have numbers.
Speaker 3:I graduated from that.
Speaker 2:I will say that is true. I'm throwing my gender at the bus. That is true for most men. I've always been the complete opposite.
Speaker 3:I don't want anybody to know anything about what's happening Because guys will be messy on guys. I've never been this way and I'm pretty sure you ain't been this way. But there's guys that like, if you tell a dude, maybe your homeboy, somebody here, oh yeah, me and her, we do, guys will go test the water, just so they can come back and say you ain't the only one.
Speaker 1:See, and that's what.
Speaker 2:I'm saying you didn't even know about that. I've always just been private. I just don't want, I just never wanted anybody in my business.
Speaker 1:I think girls are sometimes in this part, a little bit more toxic than guys. 100%. I'm going to call my women under the bus and I'm going to say this because at the podcast, I don't care, a lot of us like the game and I say that even in a sense. I even say that in the sense as, like, I am happy. Okay, we can be happy, but at the end of the day, there's still a part that you're like the game was fun, like, yeah, it got messy, but no, it never got messy actually. But the game people like the game like to have choices and and to be able to control the board. I'm going to do that. You want to control the board. It's the game. I'm controlling the board.
Speaker 2:I want to be clear on that. What I'm saying, I agree. I feel like you're saying what I'm thinking. When I control the board for me, I don't want to, ever want, to manipulate anybody. No I don't want to just having the options and having the freedom to explore the world.
Speaker 1:For sure, yeah, I don't know, but that kind of goes around. So you guys fizzle, you don't ghost, no, I wouldn't ghost anybody.
Speaker 2:I wouldn't. If we've been hanging out and spending time and going on dates, I would never just ignore your message or call for you.
Speaker 1:My question is then why not just end it? If you ain't interested anymore? Why not just say, hey, you know what? This was cool, well-lasted, I'm not interested. Why have to do the fizzle? Why not just call it off Like? Why not just be mature about it and call it off?
Speaker 2:I would. Now I'm saying what I have done- oh yeah.
Speaker 3:What I you would just end it yeah, I mean, but yeah, back then time out like an internet problem the way, like how my dating life has been.
Speaker 2:I'm saying so much how my dating life has been.
Speaker 1:I haven't really like alright, we'll play it safe. Alright. I think that is everything. I do have one more, but I'm like I feel like that's gonna take it on a whole nother tangent. So it was just a simple one. It was talking about flirting relationships.
Speaker 2:I don't know who it's talking to why do guys still flirt?
Speaker 1:or what about flirting even though you're in a committed relationship? Flirting while in a relationship period? Why?
Speaker 2:do guys still flirt? Or what about flirting even though you're in a committed relationship? Flirting while in a relationship period? Why? Why do guys? Or why do people? Why?
Speaker 1:do guys. But the question was why do guys?
Speaker 2:Yeah, the question was why do guys flirt Just because we? I'm not I'm guilty of it, but I'm not saying I still do it Sometimes. Guys just want to know that we still got to live for a better time.
Speaker 2:That is such a Like just knowing that, like just knowing that like I got my I know I did it a couple times, even in my marriage I got auctions, no, no, no, I got my wife and I love her Like none of you chickens can get me to do anything to pull me away from my wife. But also, while I'm outside, I do like just flirting a little bit, making you smile a little bit, just you know, like you know, I still feel it, that's true, that's it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and even with that, you gotta be careful, because you don't like, you can't like make a girl laugh, cool Like, but you don't want her like showing all her teeth, because now it just looks like you're making her laugh and smile that big, because now whoever is watching this is like what is this nigga saying to her? Got her laughing and smiling like that.
Speaker 1:You got to wipe that off, so is it okay to flirt while in a relationship?
Speaker 2:I think there is a such thing as harmless flirting to do.
Speaker 1:So you're okay. So if your partner was flirting next to you, you'd be good with that. No, never next to me, but that's what I'm saying. But then that means you're not okay then with it. So you're okay, though, if they're going out and about without you and flirting Like I'm going to go out. Let's say, I go out without Red and I'm just going to go flirt Like just imagine Now. First off, we have all the same circles of people.
Speaker 2:Like, look at me Going out to flirt is one thing.
Speaker 1:No, you don't go out to flirt, but I'm out and I'm going, Like I just happen to flirt, exactly.
Speaker 2:So if I'm at the bar right, and I'm in a relationship, I'm out without my partner and I'm at the bar, people are like, why are you out without your partner? Yeah, yeah, it's crazy for me. I'm a photographer that works.
Speaker 1:No, it should happen.
Speaker 2:Right. So let's say, like I'm at the bar and I'm most of the time when I go to the bar I'm just grabbing water, yeah, so let's say I'm reaching for the napkin, I'm waiting in line. Still, I'm reaching for a napkin.
Speaker 3:I'm like oh excuse baby, baby Sweetheart.
Speaker 1:Reaching across to grab a napkin and say, excuse me, sweetheart. I first would look at him and be like, when the F would you say sweetheart? But I'd also be like, why are you calling her sweetheart?
Speaker 2:But what if, when you met him, he's a photographer that works outside? What if, when you met him, you heard that's what he said? That's like him saying shorty or girl.
Speaker 1:I mean, that's different. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I'm saying like I'm not trying to let me take the sweetheart off. I'm saying, excuse me, real quick, let me grab his napkin, yeah. And we strike up a conversation and I'm just a charming guy, I'm here, I you laugh a little bit. She's got some jokes, she makes me laugh. We flirted, but it was harmless. We didn't exchange info, I didn't ask her name, we caught her quick. So you're saying it's fine If it's harmless. Yeah, if you know that's what your partner does and you trust him with that. I'm not saying I'd be all that cool with it, but I'm saying I do think flirting can be harmless.
Speaker 1:Flick's a single guys.
Speaker 3:Ryan, go ahead you flirt in a committed relationship. I just stay out of it because I don't, like, you know, I feel like I'm not going to test water, that I ain't about to jump in, so what I said. So that's me, though, because I'm like I know me, not saying I would do something, something, but I know how my accent, how I move it's, uh, it can, it magnetizes, especially on, like the mic what do I do when people come up to you and flirt with you?
Speaker 1:what do I do? You look at them. No, besides that, oh what? I just let it go. I laugh at it.
Speaker 3:But then she also knows that I just laugh like that's you. Because on the MC side I say stuff but I've never Like I know where I can take it and I've never taken it there. It's just something that gets the movement going Right.
Speaker 1:Here's the question Can I flirt then? Am I allowed to flirt in this relationship with who I want to flirt with? That wasn't the question. So you're asking the question could I go out? If I'm out and I'm going to flirt, could I flirt? You're not there, it's harmless. I'm going to go flirt with who I want to flirt with. Hey, do you See that? You do you. Is you're going to go? Do the same?
Speaker 3:Hey.
Speaker 1:See you're taking Tick for Tack. That's okay, no.
Speaker 2:I know I'm a charismatic guy but honestly, up until my divorce and people telling me that I never considered myself a charming guy but plenty of people told me that I never consented myself a charming guy.
Speaker 2:But plenty of people telling me like I never like I realized I was dating, like we've been out, I'm not there. We was at a farmer's market one time. I was like a couple like things. We have two guys in food. That's my ice cream, whatever he's doing, tossed apart.
Speaker 2:And you know I'm talking to everybody. I'm not the third or fourth booth we was at. I I'm out somewhere. I'm like, oh, how much is this? I'm talking to her and the lady's like hey, I made her laugh and this and that this is where I'll be. I've been outside with her a bunch and she was like I never noticed how charming you are. I said I don't have to keep my eye on you as flirting when you're just being charming. But even you're like I don't go out my house like I'm gonna click on the charm. Now I know if I'm around like a girl, I'm like, oh, she looks good, she's giving me some energy. You know how to turn it on. But I'm just saying like just naturally walking out the door, I'm just who I am and I'm totally I think I'm the same.
Speaker 1:I think I'm pretty charming, I think. For the part, I get a lot of people talking to me. I'm like, oh, I didn't realize I wasn't trying to lead in that direction, but you obviously are trying to take it in that direction. So I think you're just friendly.
Speaker 3:It's my accent that gets me in trouble.
Speaker 1:Your accent does get you in trouble.
Speaker 3:Because a lot of times I really don't be on that. Like I remember, like something.
Speaker 2:I got to tell you I'm sorry to cut you off my experience in San Diego. Light-skinned dudes with accents come out here and they do all right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you know, but then I caught a lot of hell. But then I caught a lot of hell because light-skinned country, and then it goes to what's your Zodiac sign? I'm like, why are we asking about that?
Speaker 1:So, leo, I'm country. And then it goes to what's your zodiac sign? I'm like why are we asking about that? So, leo, I'm a walking red flag.
Speaker 3:I was a walking red flag to a lot of women. Why are you telling me that like? No, we could, yeah, but I'm just saying, like, going back to the accent thing, something is simple that hey, how you doing, I'm not like, damn girl, how you doing, how you doing. But if people have looked at it like I remember I was in the um where was that?
Speaker 3:I asked a woman how she was doing, but it wasn't in the sense of I'm trying to talk to you. I can't remember what it was, but this lady literally looked at me because I'm married and I'm like, first off, that's very aggressive and, second off, I am not trying to get at you. When you asked how I was doing, I said I have everybody how, see, but I feel like, too, at this point I don't care. I'm like I talk how I talk, but I try to put up some type of barrier to let you know like this is how I talk. But my accent has definitely gotten me not in some situations, but it's been like, oh, he wants me and it's like I don't want you yeah, I'm gonna.
Speaker 2:I'm not tapering anything down like again, like when I'm not saying like there's, like you, around a woman, or some women too, like you know how to turn the charm on, but it's nah, I'm gonna be mean, yeah there's some people.
Speaker 3:they just want you to talk to them so they can shoot you down, which is weird. It hurts you. No, it's true, I've talked to women.
Speaker 1:Some women are like you know what? Can you come over here and talk to?
Speaker 3:me. Do you think I'm weird? That's horrible. I know what I'm talking about. I've been around some women, not to me, but I've talked to. Maybe they just talk to women, but I've talked to some women and they literally want the attention. They want you to come in just so they can shoot you down. That actually did happen to me, not here in San Diego, but in another place. I forgot where I was. Literally I'm getting the googly eyes all night. What's up? Then I go over there and I'm like hey, say you looking at me? Uh-uh, what was?
Speaker 1:this I'm just looking at you.
Speaker 3:I said so you might be a little different because I want to get your podcast canceled, so we're just going to call it different. Said she might be a little different because I was like you've been looking at me all night, now I come over here and now you're like I ain't interested in you.
Speaker 1:I'm the only person next to you.
Speaker 3:There wasn't nobody over there.
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Speaker 2:That's fun. Thanks for having us on.
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