Rich Relationships Refuge with Gil & Renée
Rich Relationships Refuge podcast with Gilbert J and Renée M. Beavers is fantastic because it's the best place to really explore the reality of relationships — the good, the bad, and the painful and confusing.
This podcast helps to illuminate what it means to be intimate with others and what it teaches people about them. It will make you want to strive for a kinder, more fun relationship with others. Many individuals don't have room in their hearts or life for people due to unforgiveness, regret, shame, and uncommunicated expectations. Rich Relationships Refuge is an experience with principles to learn.
There are tools to use with an emphasis on building, repairing, and restoring relationships with individuals and families in a safe community environment that will stand in a world that's falling apart. Gil and Renée are originally from Detroit, Michigan. Their relationship started with Renée rolling the pencil off her desk and Gil picking it up. They never knew such a small act would create a 37-year legacy of love.
Gil and Renée were only 21 when they happily committed to until death do us part. Gil retired from the Air Force, and Renée is a former salon owner who has been an entrepreneur and now an author for over 30 years. They have lived in over 13 cities throughout the United States and Germany. They are proud parents to an amazing and talented daughter,
Aharon (pronounced like Sharon, except with an A). After a family tragedy, they also adopted Renée's little sisters (Carmen and Monique).This couple has helped many other couples establish a new habit of love to strengthen their marriage relationship through their tested relationship tools and principles and as marriage facilitators through the Prepare and Enrich Marriage program. Rich Relationship Refuge with Gil & Renèe podcast is back and ready to move forward and deeper into our relationship strengths and growth areas.
Let's get empty of the pain from our past, unforgiveness, resentment, shame, and uncommunicated expectations. Our mission is to empower singles and couples to experience greater intimacy and fulfillment in their relationship with God, themselves, food, and money. This year our podcast will feature individuals and small business owners regarding their impact in these four areas. Gil and Renèe are looking forward to serving you and your relationships. Remember, you are more than enough! Now let's learn to live like it together! https://www.richrrmarriagementors.com/book-online
Rich Relationships Refuge with Gil & Renée
Pride: The Silent Relationship Killer
RICH RELATIONSHIPS REFUGE
Meet: Gil & Renée
Rich Relationships Refuge podcast with Gilbert J and Renée M. Beavers is fantastic because it's the best place to explore the reality of relationships — the good, the bad, and the painful and confusing. This podcast helps to illuminate what it means to be intimate with others and what it teaches people about them. It will make you want to strive for a kinder, more fun relationship with others., This a place where love flourishes, bonds deepen, and relationships thrive. We're Gil and Renee, authors, and marriage coaches, and we're honored to walk alongside you on your journey towards a rich and fulfilling partnership.
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Welcome to the Rich Relationship Podcast with Gil and Renee, where amazing things happen.
Speaker 2:Our goal is to help build, repair and restore healthy relationships.
Speaker 3:Thank you. Hi, my name is Renee and I'm Gil from the Rich Relationship Podcast, and we were just talking, marcus, thank you so much. I was talking, thank you so much. We appreciate you. See, just like that I could have got upset or had an attitude, but thank you for correcting us. We are so, so, very glad that you're with us today. In relationships and it is called pride, and I was telling the story about us we had a situation in our relationship and our marriage where gil brought to my attention about a new goal that he wanted to implement.
Speaker 1:Hi, I'm nay and I'm gil I know you guys probably see us in the car like why are y'all in the car? Last time we were in the rv, rv and now we're in the van, because we were actually traveling and so. But we noticed there was a time change, yeah. So we actually said you know what? We're not going to make it back, so let's pull over and do it here in our car.
Speaker 3:So we want to make sure that we always keep our word to you all, thanks. So we are talking today about the silent killer in relationships, and that silent killer is pride, and I talked about how that silent killer normally comes with. It's a meal deal. Pride normally comes along with being private and proud, and so we had a situation in our relationship, in our marriage, where last week gil came to me and brought something to my attention about realigning our budget and making some changes in our budget. And when he talked to me about it, I'm like, okay, so the holy spirit, I mean, we just came out of a 21-day prayer and fasting, and so God put it on my heart to physically sit down and write down our budget and so that we can rightly align what our new goal is and what we're going to do.
Speaker 3:And I sat down and I wrote everything down and as a result of doing that, it's something about when you write things down. That's what the Bible says write the vision down to those that run can run with clarity. When you write something down, you can't deny it. It shows you what's going on. And so I said I came back to Gil and I said babe, I said I have really not been a good steward, I have not been wise in the way I have utilized our resources. And he was like no, no, no, no. I said no. I said we have a new goal, so therefore I have to be willing to govern myself and I want to make sure that if we have a goal, that I'm doing what I can do to make that goal come to pass and not be working against it.
Speaker 1:How many times have you had to bring something up to your spouse or your significant other and you knew, or you get a sense or a feeling that it may cause a conflict, and usually money.
Speaker 1:Just what Renee is using for our example, for our story time, as she called it, was a topic that is usually confrontational when it comes to couples and them just having a conversation, and, unfortunately, sometimes it's always from the negative perspective.
Speaker 1:Usually not enough resources, but if God has blessed you enough to where you have enough resources to do all your obligations and all your responsibilities, but then you have a little bit left over. And what we were talking about, and the reason why the conversation came up, was there's this company that has these blue trucks that actually drive around and they drop stuff off into your location and we're not going to say that. And they come to our house very frequently. Yeah, and that is what stimulated the conversation, because not only were they coming every day, when I went to look at the account, it was like bang bang, bang, bang, bang bang. And I was like wow, and even though it wasn't big astronomical purchases it could have been 10, 20, 30, 40 bucks here and there, but they add up y'all when you got a lot of them hitting every day.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and he didn't like yell at me or get mad at me or say you need to stop doing that. He just said I really want us to do some things different this year. And my response was not. My response was okay and instantly I got up and I said, like I said, I wrote everything down, talked about and I accept the responsibility for the fact that I was not being as frugal. And well, I'm always going to be frugal and thrifty, but you can still be frugal and thrifty and still not being a good steward, right. And so that was just something that I thought about.
Speaker 3:In our own life, where pride could have been a big issue, I gave a shout out to someone in our community who shared that they were married before and then they got divorced and they got married to each other.
Speaker 3:That takes humility. It took humility for them to share that openly with us, because we would have never had a way of knowing that. To that couple who shared that, thank you for sharing the fact that, being honest, open and transparent. Thank you for sharing the fact that being hot, yeah, honest, open and transparent. Thank you for being willing to be vulnerable, because sometimes we don't realize when we share our story, we share our struggles, we share our difficulties. It helps us to help other people, and so we don't want you to think that our marriage is perfect and we don't have difficulties and obstacles and hard things going on because we do, which is one of the reasons why we're in the car. But we just want you to know that when we try to live our life, allowing the peace of God and the fruit of the spirit to govern our life, it makes a difference.
Speaker 1:You know one thing that I wanted to bring up in and during this session you know, anytime that you've watched, you probably have said you know what we are always bringing up self-assessment, self-assessment, self-assessment about the questions that we ask or the things that we talk about.
Speaker 1:This is one that's a difficult one to talk about, to do a self-check on, and I thought about it when we said we're going to talk about pride and I was like wait a minute. I thought about it from my own perspective and I think early in our marriage this was something that I struggled with, but not because I thought I knew all the answers to everything. The pride that I had was I didn't think anything was wrong with me when it came to our relationships, our relationship together, like there was no deficiency. Now, if you can call that arrogant or you can call it, I know what I know. Now I know it was prideful, thinking ain't nothing wrong with me, I'm good, I'm good. But if Renee is not telling me I'm good, then more than likely I'm not good in some area in our relationship. And that was something that I talked about or thought about to myself, and I'm talking within the first, let's just say, one to five to seven years where I thought I was doing good as a husband.
Speaker 3:But you never asked me.
Speaker 1:I never asked her, but I also didn't have so much pride internally that I didn't think anything was wrong.
Speaker 3:Thank you. New subscriber.
Speaker 1:I didn't think anything was wrong and when I did that and I did that self-check and I was like, oh wow, that's something that I need to really, really focus on and work on when it came to me. So I'm just using that as an example. As Renee just said, we don't have the answers to everything. We're just sharing to you guys what 36 years of marriage can do when you take that journey inward, but also when you're hot with yourself. We want to be hot with our spouse first, honest, open, transparent. But first you have to be hot with yourself. You got to be honest about what's really going on in your life and your shortcomings, and we call them growth areas. You got to be transparent, even in knowing just like I was transparent with myself to say you know what? I have some deficiencies in this area and I need to really focus on those things.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and I think some of the mistakes that we make is I can't tell myself that I'm a good wife. Only Gil can tell me that, so I have to ask him If I want to know if I'm doing well in an area. I have to ask the person that can give me their honest opinion, because I can't tell Gil that he's a good father. I can tell him he's a good husband yeah, I can tell him he's a good friend husband. I can tell him he's a good friend. I can't tell him he's a good employee. And so we have to make sure that we are open enough and that we're humble enough, that we are asking for feedback, that we're open to feedback. Just like Marcus, if I would have not been reading the comments, I would have not known that our volume was down, and so we have to be willing to have checks and balances and be open to correction. I thank you guys. When you guys check our spelling and when you correct us on things, I don't get mad. I'm grateful for you all, because I know that we're a community and we will never reach our full potential just on our own, and so the reason why we say you know, put your comments in there. Let us know where you're coming in from. We want you. One of the reasons this is something you know sidebar A lot of times when you see people you're watching YouTube and they say subscribe to our channel, comment like, share, watch our long content.
Speaker 3:Business and YouTube allows us to share content that encourages and inspires and instructs singles and people in marriage, but it also allows us to eventually be monetized and in order for that to happen, we need you all to watch the long videos, like the people who join us on these lives. Each week, we get a hundred watch hours. This year we need to get to 3000. We already have 1000 watch hours if, because I think a lot of times you say like, but you don't know why so the reason why people are asking you, that is because they are trying to use their gifts and talents and their work as a stream of income.
Speaker 1:And it's no cost to you except your time. You hear us say thank you for your investment in time, because that's exactly what it is. You know, it doesn't cost anything to hit a little button on your screen to say thumbs up, we like this and share with some other people. Even if you don't refer it to someone else, YouTube will look at it and say, hey, maybe other people want to see this and they'll make a suggestion to you. But that's one thing that we just want to bring, as Renee said, as a sidebar. But I'll ask you this question and we were talking about this as we are driving is when it comes to pride, have you ever had and you guys can answer it yourself had a problem admitting when you're wrong? And we were even talking about it? Did you say story time already? Are even talking about? It, did you say story?
Speaker 1:time already. Oh, you can do story time. I got a story time and I'm not calling my wife out, but this is a real life situation that we had and if I say the word, she'll know exactly what I'm talking about he's going to say teal carpet.
Speaker 1:It's a teal carpet, y'all. If you haven't heard this, I'll let her start it out. And this is at the very beginning of our marriage. I would say we were married under 10 years, yeah, yeah, under 10 years, and we have just bought our first house. And you know, when you excited when you get your first house, you just want to do everything. But when you broke, you can't do everything. You got to do it in stages and start thinking about what is it that is important to you. And this is so funny now that we look back at it, because the house was, I want to say, and I remember this, it was a bungalow house back in Detroit, 943 square feet, y'all. Yeah, I said 943 square feet.
Speaker 3:That was our first tiny house, that was a for real tiny house by today. We had three. We had three children and we were the house where everybody else took their kids.
Speaker 1:Oh my Lord, okay, so one bathroom.
Speaker 3:Oh, we sure did. No, we have one in the basement.
Speaker 1:No, we had a toilet in the basement but one bathroom, not her 43 square feet. But Anyway, we were at a stage where we were going to go get carpet and so, renee, we went to the carpet store and Renee said I found the carpet that I want in the entire house. You know, sometimes you break it up and you put it in a living room and bedroom and a little bit different. This is a lesson in pride.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and it's a lesson in just because it's cheap, it doesn't mean it's going to last. And sometimes pride, you know pride will make you stay longer than you were supposed to stay, spend more than you're supposed to spend and go out of your way.
Speaker 1:Take you longer than you want to go.
Speaker 3:Take you longer than you want to go, and so I wanted this carpet, and the carpet that I wanted was teal.
Speaker 1:The color teal, y'all.
Speaker 3:And the carpet was really cheap carpet. They were going to do the whole house and it was going to be $1,000, and it was $100 a month for 12 months, zero interest, and it was like, renee, that's not a good idea.
Speaker 1:Now the whole house, y'all did y'all hear that. How much again? $1,000. A thousand dollars, and that's including carpet padding and insulation yeah, a thousand bucks y'all.
Speaker 3:If it sounds so good to be true, it is too good to be true and so I was like, babe, this may not be a good idea, but I wanted what I wanted and that's what pride does I wasn't open to listening and I pouted and I turned away and gil was like Got upset y'all.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was mad, and we'll do. And I have to say, at that stage in our relationship I was so prideful in the sense remember I said earlier that I didn't think anything was wrong I just said you know what, all right, I'm just going to let it go, I'm just going to sweep it under the rug, I'm not going to talk about it, I'm not going to really voice my opinion, I'm not going to push back, so to speak, and say why we shouldn't get this. I said one sentence, I gave it, and I said it may not be the best idea. And then I left it at that. And then she kept going on, and on, and on, and I said, fine, fine, you know us guys, we just want peace more than anything else.
Speaker 3:I just said, fine, got the carpet. And how long did it last? Three months, three months, that's right, because we had kids and a dog and everybody else's kids and it looked horrible.
Speaker 1:And y'all know, in Detroit it's snowy and rainy and muddy, and you bring it into the house on a really, really light-colored carpet, you know what's going to happen. Yeah, you get dirt and slag marks. And we tried cleaning this thing because we were cleaning it monthly. But then it got. She got. Renee got so frustrated with it instead of saying it took her a little while, but then she finally came and said her pride diminished.
Speaker 3:No, first I took it up.
Speaker 1:This is what I hear, continuing with story time. So after those few months goes by, I wake up in the middle of the night to this ripping sound. I mean like midnight, one o'clock in the morning, renee is with a utility knife moving furniture and ripping up carpet. I mean literally slicing it up with a utility knife and pulling it up. And why did you do that?
Speaker 3:Because I realized that he was right and I should have listened and I said, baby, from now on I am going to listen to you because you think about things that I don't think about. And that was the beginning of me learning that we're different. Think about and that was the beginning of me learning that we're different and I have to be willing to submit to our differences and and and realize that he's going to see things that I don't see. And so from that so we call that the, the um, the, the teal carpet experience, because that was the first time I really realized if I would have just listened to him. And so then I got to the point that I would say, hey, babe, what would you think?
Speaker 1:But the one thing that came to mind for the going back to the carpet just for one second was Proverbs 16. Eight Pride cometh before the fall, or the tear up or the cut up or the rip up or anything like that, and that was just something that just like I used the example and the cut up or the rip up or anything like that, and that was just something that just like I used the example, and I wasn't putting Renee on blast or anything, but that was something that we had talked about as we were talking about this subject matter. That that came to my mind from and she even shared it. She brought it up as far as as a lesson that we've learned individually from a pride experience about what happens when you don't do or you don't self-govern.
Speaker 3:Or you don't consult the other person that this decision is going to affect and so I see someone.
Speaker 1:Oh, brianna, hey, Brianna coming from.
Speaker 3:Dallas, thanks, thank you, we're so glad you're here.
Speaker 1:Four years. That's right. We just invest in. Thank you for joining us.
Speaker 3:Okay, but go ahead what I want to ask. I want to ask the question to you all what are some of the ways that pride shows up in your relationship and your communication? I'm going to give you an example. We can talk about some of the ways that pride shows up. Well, I don't like what you said about the budget. Why, why are you? Why are you? Why are you talking to me about that? I, I didn't do anything wrong. So pride shows up when, when you're, when something is brought to you, pride makes you you defensive. Or if he's telling me something oh, I'm sorry you feel that way.
Speaker 1:Say that again. I'm sorry you feel the way you feel.
Speaker 3:Yeah. So there's different ways and we're going to put it in notes different ways that pride is sneaking into our relationships and you don't realize that it's causing you to drift apart. And so the reason why we're talking about it because if we don't get a grip on pride, if we don't become aware of how it slips into our relationships, we'll drift further and further apart. And I really believe that everyone says it's sex and money, but no, pride is at the root of most of the reasons why people get divorced. People can't go back. And you go back and ask for forgiveness. You have to be willing to humble yourself. And so, after I sat down and looked at the budget that the other night and I went to Gil and I said, babe, I am going to do better, this is what I'm going to do, not just oh, I'm sorry, no, this is what I'm going to do, this is the plan of actions. I wrote everything down. I said OK. So I said no, I'm not upset. I understand. I said, if we say we have this goal, we have to learn Another thing that pride doesn't like to do.
Speaker 3:Pride does not like to delay gratification. Pride wants what it wants when it wants it. How much you can't have it all. You know you can't say that you want to. You know, have this big goal you want to accomplish and you're not willing to give up anything for that to happen. It shouldn't just be Gil's responsibility to make sacrifices and delay gratification.
Speaker 1:We both have to do that and I want to bring back something that you said when we came up and we started talking about just the finances.
Speaker 1:This is an indicator of how you know that you may be operating. A little pride is if, when something, someone, brings something up to your attention, you flip the script and you flip it back around on them and come up with justification and reasons why you did what you did or responded the way you responded. And then that's called, we call it we said this before in another episode that's whipping out your blame thrower, right, yes, I said blame thrower Just like a flame thrower. You whip out your blame thrower and start blaming everybody in different situations and different circumstances, for why you did what you did or why you responded the way you responded in this particular situation, and that is not going to be beneficial to the relationship at all. So if you find yourself defensive and retaliating and blaming others, that's walking in pride. But just like what Renee did when it came to, when she sat down and did some assessment in her own, checked her, look at her spending and said you know what? Oh, I need to reel that in a little bit.
Speaker 1:That's called. That's the. The counter to pride is humility. If you have to be humble enough to say you know what, I got that wrong, I'm going to fix it. And this is how I'm going to fix it. If you bring that to your significant other, your spouse, with your own plan of action, because if they tell you you need to fix that, guess what you're going to do Blame thrower, or you're going to start defending what you did again, right, so ultimately, I have to be, I have to control and govern myself. Yes.
Speaker 3:I'm not coming. I said this before. Whenever I go to God about you, God always tells me about the other person. And so we need to be trying to figure out. What do I need to do different? When you bring something to my attention, I need to say, OK, he's telling me what he needs, so what can I do to give him that, versus making him feel like something is wrong because he asked me a legitimate question and so just like I don't know.
Speaker 3:someone saying in this person the person that we need to be bringing to these our times together is us. Yes, another way that you know that you're operating in pride if everything you hear oh yeah, she needs to hear that.
Speaker 1:Or somebody else comes to mind.
Speaker 3:Or he needs to hear that, when you're listening to this and when we're all coming together, this is a time for me to look at Renee and for Gil to look at Gil. It's not for me to look at Gil and say, well, gil needs to do, and for Gil to look at Gil. It's not for me to look at Gil and say what Gil needs to do, because throughout the whole Bible, the only control God gives us is self-control. The only person I'm ever going to be able to control and the only person I'm going to ever be able to help, and the only person I'm ever going to be able to change is me. And so it's just important that we realize that we have become a very prideful generation, and it's easier for us to look at the other person versus looking at the reflection in the mirror and saying, hey, I need to do something different.
Speaker 1:And I appreciate Z and I want to say Zion. I don't want to butcher the name, I'm just going to say Z. When you just put, I was just reading your post while Rene just said that, and the scripture that came up to my mind from the Bible was Proverbs 12, 12, 1. It talks about anytime you love knowledge and discipline. That is the fear. Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid. That's what the Bible says in Proverbs 12. Check it out.
Speaker 1:That's not our words. That's exactly what you're talking about, because all we're trying to do is share the years of experience to the next generation or the people who are following us or following after us, to plant those seeds. I keep saying it over and over every week. I try to say it. That's what we want to do is plant the seeds, and these aren't our seeds. All we're doing is sharing with you the Bible, biblical principles that we've learned and we've engrafted into our spirits and into our relationship. That is going to pay dividends to you. So, hopefully, as you listen to it don't listen to us as us checking you or like we feel like we're walking in pride, but we're trying to say hey, this is how it showed up in me yes, absolutely.
Speaker 1:We're using ourselves as an example to say, yes, I continue to struggle with these things on a daily basis. The Bible also says work out your own soul salvation, because this is a daily walk. This is things that you're going to have to continuously think about and regurgitate to yourself if you want to manifest the success in your life and in your relationships regurgitate to yourself if you want to manifest the success in your life and in your relationships.
Speaker 3:And I think so many times people talk about the problem and they're always talking about the next generation.
Speaker 3:Well, we feel that we want to be a part of the solution and we feel that how can we expect for someone to know what to do if no one ever tells them? So we want to make sure that we're giving you examples and scriptures and help you to see yourself in the story, as well as to see the biblical principle. But so many times people say, well, life doesn't come with instructions. Life does come with instructions. The Bible gives you clear instructions on how to do everything, but so many times we just don't know how to apply it. And so the reason why we and this is from the book our marital code to Oneness, you know, right now we're talking to our married couples and even our singles, who want to learn and get the insight of what it looks like to have a healthy, god-honored relationship.
Speaker 3:This is from one of the chapters in the book about the code breaker, because we talked about building your working in your marriage, working on your marriage. We talked about the foundation of what are you building on? Love or fear? We talked about, um, uh, what is the framework? You know what keeps it together trust, identity and empathy.
Speaker 3:And then, um, this week was supposed to be about salvation. We're going to do that next week because we felt that we'd rather talk about the code breaker, um, which is pride and so. And so we just want you guys to be aware of it, because so many times we don't realize that it's those, the Bible says, it's the small foxes, that destroy the vine. And so in the notes, we give you like a little check for you to check yourself, to check your pride, to make sure that in a situation where you can present yourself in humility or in pride, I had a situation today where I was talking to someone and Gil was like Renee, you need to be the kind you. It's so natural for us to operate from our anger and from our frustration.
Speaker 3:You guys know I've said I'm a direct communicator, I'm a pioneer, and all of those can be strengths but they can also be hindrances. So I have to allow him to tell me babe, reel it back in, Calm down, Don't get in your emotions. Share the facts. And so we have to be. The only way we're ever going to be the best version of ourselves is by being open to someone saying, hey, that's not okay.
Speaker 1:Right. And one thing that and she wrote something down here and I was looking at one of the notes that here, when it talks about pride the opposite of when you actually are walking in pride this is something. How you can gauge and put that thing in check is to serve others selflessly. We talked about that before, maybe a couple of weeks ago, about being selfless. Well, when you serve others selfless, that means because pride will do the opposite. Pride will say it's about me. You'll put yourself ahead of anything and anybody.
Speaker 1:When it comes to something, just like Renee with the teal carpet or something that I may be doing in our relationship, thinking about what I want versus what's best for us as a whole, you know that's one thing that we have to think about is am I putting the others that are important in my life ahead of the things that I want, desire and feel I deserve? And if that's happening, that should be a gauge for you to say, hmm, let me look at pride in myself and see, am I doing something that is triggering that? Or it could be something from the past that you just feel like you deserve, and there's nothing wrong with those things. But when it becomes a driving factor and a driving force in your life.
Speaker 3:you have to get that Read some of those examples of what pride sounds like, what it looks like and how it presents itself.
Speaker 1:I want what I. You said it earlier and it can't kind of register with me when you say I want what I want, when I want it. We were talking about something. I had been. There was something that I wanted for a lot of years, you know, and we talked about it from the past for the RV. I wanted a new RV and what I kept saying was I work hard, I do my job, I give selflessly. You notice how I'm giving myself credit for the good behaviors and the good things that I'm doing and I feel like I deserve it. Well, that made me go ooh. When you get to the point where you feel like you deserve anything, I don't care if it's something big or something small, that's that, that entitlement, when you feel like you are entitled to certain things just because you are who you are Pride.
Speaker 3:And another thing is well, well, I'm better than them. Well, I'm not. I'm doing better than them. Comparing yourself to someone else is another really big indicator of pride, because, at the end of the day, comparing yourself to someone else is going to always make you look better, because we always have a tendency to find someone who is below where we are, versus trying to, and the Lord showed me that. He said I need you to be better than me. Then you can say I'm the gauge.
Speaker 3:God is the gauge, not people around you, because, guess what? We're all human, we're all flawed, and so we need to make sure that the Bible and God is our standard and not other people.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so we wanted to just come on. We have some another appointment that we have to take, so we won't be able to stick around for this whole hour, but we wanted to just stop where we were going, what we were doing, to say you know what? We made a commitment to come on here and talk about the things that are whether it's in the book or what's going on in our regular life to drop seeds to help you guys and to just give you examples of things that have resonated with us. As we say, we just reverse engineered the things that have been pluses and minuses when it comes to relationship and building the healthy marriages and successful relationships that you may desire, and give you some things to think about or even challenges that you may be like, oh, I need to work on that or, hey, I'm doing good in that area. That's what these are all about. So, when we come to you guys on these Saturdays, for all those who chime and I see the thumbs up and all that we really appreciate you guys.
Speaker 1:We really appreciate you guys leaving comments, and even Renee and I have been well, renee, more than me and I'm working on that Always responding to the comments. Renee answers a lot, but I've been trying to jump in there y'all, so it's both of us. So we appreciate you guys. We just wanted to come on and say thank you. We appreciate y'all. We, we appreciate you guys. We just wanted to come on and say thank you. We appreciate y'all.
Speaker 3:We're looking at the comments. We appreciate you, z. Yeah, we appreciate you. We appreciate you all for watching and being a part of this community, because we know that you only keep what you give away If we don't ever share the areas where we struggle and where we felt, where we fallen. And guess what? We're still 36 years later we're still falling, we're still stumbling, we're still getting up again, and so it's understanding that you're going to fall.
Speaker 3:Another really big indicator of pride is the fear of failure. Guess what? The only way you're ever going to learn how to do something is by failing. So don't be afraid to fail. Don't be afraid to say, hey, I missed it yesterday, can you forgive me? I want to try this again. Every single day is a new opportunity to have a new relationship. Don't let a day go by where you don't make sure to people that you love, that they know it, that you tell them, that you show them, because tomorrow is not promised to us. We have to make sure we only have today. Gil always says at the end of the day, all the points go back to zero and everything that you did good today is gone and you have to start doing it all over again tomorrow.
Speaker 1:Yes, absolutely, and practice that gratitude. So that's what it's all about.
Speaker 3:Being grateful, serving others, making sure that you, you're looking at yourself and saying you know what. What can I do to help someone who can't pay me back? You know what? What can I do to help someone who can't pay me back? Yes, and doing something good for someone without letting someone know is another great way for you to operate in gratitude and humility. And so, if pride is the secret killer, what brings life and what destroys pride is humility and gratitude.
Speaker 1:So, if you don't take nothing else away from this humility, and gratitude.
Speaker 3:It's a superpower.
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Speaker 1:share your comments Um Zyla Z Z we definitely want to help.
Speaker 3:Please send us an email help at richrelationshiprefugecom. We would love to help, to serve you and help you to really get a grip on what God wants for you, for your marriage. And, uh, if you guys have questions you have questions you don't want to share in this platform please send it to help at richrelationshiprefugecom. We will respond to you. We're praying for you. We want to see you guys be your best self, and so gratitude and humility.
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