Grief. Avoidance. Funky energies. We’re wrapping up Season 8 with all kinds of feelings in the mix. How do we embrace or transform these feelings as they arise? That’s the pausewerk, and this week we arrive at E, for Exploration.
“Noticing your behavior in that moment is about noticing that moment, which is really powerful. It grounds you in the now.” Akilah encourages us to trust the wisdom that emerges from a pause, and Domari shares a story speaking to this experience.
Domari reminds us that pausewerk is deschooling work. It’s the little moments where we stop to notice ourselves in our environment. But in what ways might this be a privilege? In what ways might this be radically transformative? How can pausewerk shape the way that we treat ourselves and others in community?
Why we pause
We are pausing from colonial habituation. We are pausing from autopilot. We are pausing to give ourselves undivided attention and to identify our needs.
“Definitely deep emotions this week…because I see myself sitting at this intersection where my liberation work is always about being in relationship with, not free from.” - Jonie
Around this gem, Akilah reflects on how it might feel to gather yourself and be in relationship with that emotion, embrace it, and learn to be ok with it.
Domari recalls a moment when she navigated an opportunity to pause and pivot: “I did [it], and I didn’t die.” Jonie (our wonderful Listening Party regular) validated how threatening a pause can feel: “this all can feel like negotiations with our survival sometimes.” Transformation ain’t easy! But we’re embracing the practice with open questions.
Madd Question Askin’ …
In case you missed any episode here you can revisit our P.A.U.S.E acronym:
Episode 244: There is Real Power in the Pause tho!
Episode 245: P for Pain Points: What’s hurting you? What’s hurting them?
Episode 246: Listening Party for “P. is for Pain Points”
Episode 247: A for Absent: What feels missing in your current relationships?
Episode 248: Listening Party Replay for ‘A. is for Absences’
Episode 249: U for Understanding
Episode 250: Listening party for ‘U. for Understanding’
Episode 251: S. for Sorting and Shedding
Episode 252: Listening Party for ‘S. for Sorting and Shedding
Episode 253: E. For Exploration – Seeing What’s Available Right Now
We’ll be away for a while but you will hear from us in-between seasons, so stay tuned with Raising Free People Network for more resources and surprises.
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