No Box Thinking ® with Dinah Liversidge

Give your imposter notice to vacate the premises

May 05, 2020 Dinah Liversidge
No Box Thinking ® with Dinah Liversidge
Give your imposter notice to vacate the premises
Show Notes Transcript

If you''re ready to challenge the voice in your head that undermines every step forward you want to take, I'd love to share my top tips with you on how to start creating new, positive ways to tell that imposter to move on.

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Give your imposter notice to vacate the premises by diner Liversidge , imagine if you decided that from today you were giving that imposter in your head 30 days notice to move on or be moved out. Imagine deciding that you were going to tell that imposter, the one that holds you back, talks you out of opportunities or change and makes you doubt your proven abilities that you were calling time on the negative nonsense and giving your track record some credit. Imagine your imposter does not believe in your credibility, the reputation that you have established by doing what you say you will do. When you say you will do it, you know you are good at that, right? Yet, when the imposter starts undermining your credibility, you are ready to accept that you are rubbish at it. Your imposter does not believe you deserve to get that promotion. Despite all the years of graft and learning that you've put in. That means so many people at your place of work now ask you for help. It's impossible to get everything done in a normal day so you work longer and longer hours. Your imposter wants you to understand that this blog doesn't apply to you. Seriously. This voice has moved in and been the main voice in your self-talk for so long that you'll believe anything it tells you. Almost anything you tell yourself provided is negative. Of course, I ask again, can you imagine how it would be to break this cycle? Well, you can. Yes, you absolutely can. You just have to decide that this is a habit that you are ready to replace in your life with a new positive behavior to take its place still with me. Great. Then here are my first three steps to tackling the imposter, and I'd love you to take these three steps starting right now. Number one, acknowledge that you do this self-talk imposter thing and commit to being more aware of how often you do it and what you tend to say to yourself. Simply acknowledging this is something that you do is a big step in challenging your behavior pattern. Call yourself out on it. Number two, stop being angry with your imposter and instead acknowledge that in reality, that voice is often about fear or shame or both. And getting angry with yourself is not helping. Try noticing what it is that makes you feel the need to undermine your strengths and successes and reassure yourself you've got things covered. Number three, ask for help from a friend who has your back. You already know who this person is. It's that colleague or friend who's always telling you to stop putting yourself down or to go for things because you are more capable than you think you are. Ask them to help you challenge your pattern of behavior. Get brave and tell them you are dealing with the voice that stops you taking chances or going for that promotion. I guarantee they will be delighted to cheer you on. These first three steps will get you challenging your language and also being more aware of how often the imposter voice is taking charge. Rather than being reassured, perhaps you can ask yourself what you are getting out of allowing that voice to stop you. What do you get out of listening to that imposter? I'd love to know how you get on.