Peter and Pamela spoke from Colossians 3:18-19.
The world says that there is no difference in men and women, and that women can do everything men can do, and men can do everything women can do.
It's not true
Men and women are different.
This does not make one superior to the other.
Both are created in gods image gen 1:26-8
Both are heirs of eternal life gal3:28-9
This is the same in marriage.
There may be some different functions, but there is no hierarchy.
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.
Colossians 3:18-19 ESV
Men - scribble out the line about your wives submitting, that was not written for you.
Women - scribble out the line about your husbands being harsh, that was not written for you.
Headship.
Does not denote superiority.
Headship.
Does not denote superiority.
Headship is about judgement.
For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church.
Ephesians 5:22-23 NLT
Adam judged for eve's sin
Husband will be judged for the household.
Christ for the church
Key is
And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Eph 5:21
Historical context.
for in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
Galatians 3:26-28 ESV
Women not being in subjection was radical.
Women leading all the decisions was becoming a cultural turning, and Paul is making sure that there is some balance here.
Complementarianism does not suggest hierarchy, but that the differences are good and work together for good.
It says submit, not obey
Respect the leadership of your husband
Equally men, respect and cherish your wife.
Taking a dominant position does not do that
Conclusion
Equal, but different. Husband and wife complementing each other