The Joyful Mom Podcast

84: The Layers of grief with Erica McAfee

February 25, 2021 Megan Hillukka
The Joyful Mom Podcast
84: The Layers of grief with Erica McAfee
Show Notes

In this episode, Erica McAfee shared her grief journey, her different layers of grief, and how she used them and got inspired to create a maternal child health company for Black women, the Sisters in Loss.


At the age of 14, She first experienced grief when her father died. For many reasons specific to her own grief journey, her grief didn't fully express itself until the death of her 2 angels. The grief that she had felt before somewhat accumulated. She realized that she needed to face grief. She was able to accept it and process her emotions. 


Episode Pointers:

  • Grief is always there. Grief is with us forever. You need to face grief at some point.
  • If something else traumatic does happen to us like a loss of someone, recognize the feelings that we were feeling at that time and how do we move forward with those feelings so that we can continue on with our life.
  • Some people get stuck in grief, and really have this fog that comes over them. They just need additional help to get and remove that fog.Having trusted confidants, counselors and therapists that can help you move that fog away is so important. 
  • Grief is gonna come and it’s gonna hit us. When it does;
  • Do we recognize it?
  • Do we understand what’s happening?
  • Are we okay to articulate how we feel in those moments?
  • Are we just gonna be mad at the world because of the traumatic thing or the loss that is happening?


You can connect with Erica through the following:



Recommended book :  The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks


If you want more tools to help you, I have a workshop called Stop Talking Start Feeling, it’s a workshop that dives into emotions, what they are, and how you can begin to feel and process them and get them out of your body instead of stuffing them down. It also goes specifically into processing and releasing the emotions of guilt and sadness. You can get access to this workshop and all the extra things I have in there for only $27. Go to www.stoptalkingstartfeeling.com to check it out. 


If you are a grieving mother and looking for others who know the pain of child loss, come join my free Grieving Moms Community Facebook group: www.meganhillukka.com/community