Getting Your Sh*t Together

How guilt and shame impacts your life

• Cynthia • Season 1 • Episode 8

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What's in this episode?
Time to jump back into our little series around addiction and the behaviors, thoughts and feelings that may be manifested because of it. Today's episode is around the lovely guilt and shame. NOTE: they are not the same! However, they can wreck the ever loving sh*t out of you, if left unchecked. Let's examine shall we?

If you'd like to check out the other eps that fall under this series, please see below:
When do you have a problem?
You have a problem and need support, where to go? 

Guilt and shame sounds like such a sh*t show, yes?
Well, it can be, if you don't address it. We all have felt both guilt and shame, if you come from a household more on the dysfunctional side -- I bet you felt it early. I know I did.  How do you tell the difference, this is how I keep it straight.

  • Guilt: applies to something outside of myself. What I did to another person and how I feel about that equates to guilt.
  • Shame: applies to how I view myself. If I consider myself a slob that is unlovable. That's a story I'm telling myself, which amps up my need to self destruct or act out.

How to break out of it, fam?
There is no one way or easy answer. Self awareness is key but the bigger piece to me is learning self compassion. I plan to dive so deep into this but something that saved my life AND sense of self was reading a book by Kristen Neff called "Self Compassion: the proven power of being kind to yourself." WHEN I SAY IT WAS LIFE CHANGING -- it was no lie but plenty of tears were shed in the process. Learning to speak kindly and loving to yourself will go a long way when it comes to alleviating your shame and being able to accept, grow and rectify (if you can) your feelings around guilt. Check, It. Out. 

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