With COVID-19 still prominent as ever, people are missing milestones or experiencing them much differently than they expected... And it's okay to grieve those missed moments.
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With COVID-19 still prominent as ever, people are missing milestones or experiencing them much differently than they expected... And it's okay to grieve those missed moments.
Here's where you can find me:
Blog - https://sarastrives.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarastrives/
Intro and Outro Music:
Summer Vibes by Simon More https://soundcloud.com/user-73416670
Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0
Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/_summer-vibes
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/FTUkaPnYdLU
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Welcome to the My, Myself, and You podcast.
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My name is Sara and I'm your host and I'm really glad to have you here today to chat.
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I wanted to talk to you a little bit about grieving missed Milestones because of covid-19.
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I feel like that's been probably one of the most challenging things for people in this whole quarantine is the big Milestones
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that have been so different were amidst entirely because of covid because of social.
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Thing because of restrictions to keep people safe that's been tough.
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I mean there's missed baby showers weddings all of those types of things.
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I personally missed out on having an in-person baby shower I gave birth.
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I have a three-month-old now, which is crazy.
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I can't believe how fast he's grown.
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But there's a lot that's just been different.
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I personally wasn't able to have a regular baby shower because of covid I ended up having a virtual one and it was absolutely
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Ali amazing still we did like a livestream type thing.
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We had this whole website with games.
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My husband worked really hard on the technical side to try to still make it cool and special and my mother-in-law and and law
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did so much to just make it still feel really special and like a baby shower.
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That was definitely a cool experience for me.
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But I definitely understand how frustrating it is to miss those Milestones of things for example for my A son meeting his
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grandparents.
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That was so hard because we were so cautious with him.
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We didn't let anybody hold him until he was seven weeks old and even then they've had to wear masks and still we're still doing
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that having our parents wear masks and siblings wear masks when they're holding him just out of Extreme Caution because there's
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so little we know about covid but that's been tough and I guess I just want to remind you that it's okay to be sad.
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Add about this.
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It's okay to be sad that your Milestones are different that maybe you've had to put your wedding off or you've had a I think
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they're calling them micro weddings or socially distance weddings that are just different and it's okay to be sad that it's not
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what you imagined.
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It's okay to grieve those moments.
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Well, it's okay to be sad.
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I really want you to try to make the most of it try to look at the positives that have come from this time for me.
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It's given me so much more time at home.
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With my baby and so much more time with my husband that was such a gift to be able to be home for the last trimester for one did
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not have to put on real pants.
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I mean by the last month or so I was just wearing my husband's gym shorts around the house because it was just the only
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comfortable thing and one pair of maternity like pajama pants that I really liked but that was such a great blessing that I was
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able to be home for that and that I was able to to stay home from work that I'm still home from work and just working from home
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instead with my baby home.
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I'm not away from him all day in the same way.
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You know, I'm focused on work.
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I'm not necessarily spending a bunch of time with him, but he's around, you know, another positive and granted this isn't
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something that I went through or that I've experienced but it could be having a more intimate wedding.
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If you're more of an introvert maybe having that more small micro intimate wedding is something that Really cool for you?
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Maybe it makes it all the more special because it just less people and just more enjoying that small group of people that is so
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so important to you.
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It's also more time to rest, you know, especially postpartum.
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It is given it gave me a lot more time to rest but it's also just more time to rest in general and to not be commuting and
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running around like a chicken with your head cut off to take kids to school or to do whatever it is.
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You would normally be running around doing And you just have a little more time to breathe and I won't say that you just have
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tons and tons more time.
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But I think that you're able to spend your time differently and not waste time on things like that freaking commute man commutes
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or a nightmare.
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Not that that's the only reason that it's good.
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But you know, that's just something that has definitely come of it.
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It's been good and maybe if you're not in the head space to feel positive and to think of those positive things that have come
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Of missing these Milestones that have come from being stuck in quarantine.
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It's okay.
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It's okay to still feel sad and to still grieve and to be in those feelings.
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It's okay to feel so that's just a reminder.
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I guess to be okay with feeling those feelings and to work through them.
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I think it is important to work through them at some point and get to those spots where it's like, well, you know, this part was
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really great and try to enjoy those pieces of it.
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So yeah, I think That's it.
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So definitely give me a follow on Instagram.
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