Marriage & Mental Health

Marriage and mental health absolutely affect each other both negatively and positively. Here's my thoughts on it.

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Me, Myself, and You podcast.

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My name is Sara and I'm your host and I'm really glad to have you here today.

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I'm going to be talking a little bit about marriage in mental health.

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I think it's definitely an important topic because they definitely affect each other.

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I actually did talk about this on an Instagram live probably a year and a half ago or so with my friend Dairy and from made in

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mom jeans.

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And I wish I had recorded it or something to save it those darn Instagram lives just to be able to reference back because I

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think there's a lot of valuable conversation there but marriage and mental health absolutely affect each other when you're

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married to someone you're you're there partner, you're their friend your your their person and vice versa.

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So if you struggle with mental health chances are it's going to affect that relationship.

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It's going to affect how you as a a couple function its you know intertwined.

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My husband is very much my support person when it comes to my mental health.

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He has been there from the beginning of my most severe struggles.

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We started dating my junior year of high school and my freshman year of college is when things got really rough for me and in

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total transparency, he was the one that pushed me to get help that pushed.

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Me too.

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You go see a doctor and talk to them about it that knew that what I was experiencing was not normal or something that I needed

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to just deal with and to clarify what I mean by not normal is wasn't something that I should be just trying to deal with on my

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own if that makes sense.

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So he very much is somebody that's good at reading where I'm at and is aware of just my mental health history and kind of how I

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function and win.

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I might be slipping into a more depressive or anxious period of time he's just very aware of that.

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But he's also really good at pushing me out of my comfort zone when he needs to when I need him to he knows when something

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that's causing me anxiety is not something that is causing me anxiety because I don't want to do it and when I'm just anxious

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about it, he knows when to tell me you know what you want this.

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Bad, it's okay.

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Make the make that jump push past that anxiety and do it and he's very much that person for me.

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That being said all of that positive stuff.

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It does cause fights in my marriage not anything super severe of course, but I just you know, when you at least for me, you know

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weird I'm speaking from my experience.

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I can definitely be a little bit of a control freak control freak and can very much be kind of questioning and doubtful and

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untrusting when I'm feeling incredibly anxious.

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So even things as simple as like making sure the front doors Locked I can't necessarily just take his word for the door is

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locked.

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I need to go double check so that I can sleep stuff like that.

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It can also be something more along the lines of like, you know, I wish you wouldn't drive so fast or whatever.

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It can be a number of things that basically, you know, I my anxiety I nitpick and I you know, I worry about things that maybe I

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don't need to worry about is much as I do.

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I can definitely get a little obsessive over.

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When I'm feeling very anxious and that can cause arguments all of that being said ultimately I do think that my struggles with

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mental health have definitely made us stronger as a couple.

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I think they've bonded us more and you know, my husband has his own struggles with a Sleep Disorder.

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So that's a definite like, you know, we both have our struggles and we work through them together, and I think people maybe Of

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mental health too much power in their marriage in terms of letting it destroy it and I don't that might be a strong word.

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Maybe just letting it kind of get in the way of things if relationships and I don't think it has to I think it really can

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strengthen or your relationships and really just Bond you further.

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So I don't know that that's my thoughts on marriage and mental health in my own.

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It's with it.

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Let me know yours.

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If you want to DM me on Instagram or whatever.

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You can find me at @sarastrives as usual.

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I would love if you would subscribe follow this podcast share it with a friend all that good stuff.

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And other than that, I will talk to you again soon.