The Self Care Life with Sara Miller

Overcoming Anxiety Driven Fears

October 29, 2020 Sara Miller
The Self Care Life with Sara Miller
Overcoming Anxiety Driven Fears
Show Notes Transcript

Let's get past the anxiety-driven fear that is keeping you from the things you want to do.

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Welcome to the Me, Myself, and You podcast.

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My name is Sara and I'm your host and I'm glad to have you here and happy almost Halloween today seemed like a good day to talk

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about fear since we're creeping up on Halloween this weekend.

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So I wanted to talk a little bit about getting past those like anxiety driven fears and what I mean when I say anxiety driven

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fears is fears that are not reasonable and Are holding you back from doing things you want to do?

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So and don't get me wrong.

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I don't want to Discount your fears and make it sound like oh you're being unreasonable that sort of thing.

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But I guess I don't know how to define it beyond that because I think you know, there's something to be said about legitimate

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fears, but there's also something to be said about something that you're just anxious about it because you are thinking all the

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worst-case scenarios, even though you want to do it so badly.

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Examples of that might be applying for a job personally for my current full-time job.

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I was absolutely terrified to apply for it because I was too scared to deal with the possibility of not getting it again.

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And that's definitely realistic and reasonable fear.

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I guess it was something that I was scared and it was holding me back from being able to apply for it and you know, my husband

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pushed me and guess what I got the job and I love it.

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It I love my team.

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It's great.

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Another example might be being on someone's podcast.

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Maybe you're terrified to talk to a stranger or even just an acquaintance and like have to try to sound like an expert or

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whatever those kinds of things where it's like, you know, you want to do it so badly, but you're just so anxious about it.

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So I guess I want to talk about how to kind of get past that how to get over that little hump and it's not easy and it's not

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This is not necessarily a perfect system and you know, maybe it doesn't work this way for you.

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Maybe you do something else to get over those humps.

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But this is what I find to be most effective for me and the pattern I definitely see in my life when I do get over it and do get

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past those anxiety during fears compare why you want to do it to why you're scared.

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Why do you want it and why are you scared?

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So I think is similar to a pros and cons.

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List, you're just comparing.

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What are the possible positive outcomes?

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Why do I want to do this?

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So badly and what am I scared of and you know really quantify that and CEO, you know what these things that I want so badly

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outweigh these fears next talk it out for me.

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This always always always involves talking it out with my husband.

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I do not do this well, Well on my own if I'm truly anxious about doing something I want to do.

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I usually have to talk it out with him extensively and just like what I said talking about why I want to do it and what I'm

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scared of is very much something.

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He walks me through I know in my marriage and mental health episode.

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I mentioned, you know, he's very much my support person and this is one way he does that is talking me through and past that

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anxiety and pushing me and supporting me and that way And you know, if you don't have a spouse or significant other that you

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want to talk it out with maybe it's a friend.

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Maybe it's your dog.

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Just talk it out.

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Maybe you know how if you don't have a dog talk to a stuffed animal talk to yourself in the mirror.

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I don't know just verbalize it and get those words out to try to really come to terms with it.

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I think that's really helpful in bringing those thoughts to reality and bringing yourself back down to reality and really like

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like what's the word bringing you back down to earth?

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I guess see ya.

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Next you have to amp yourself up amp yourself up to do it.

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Maybe it's deep breaths or a little dance party or something like that for me A lot of times if it has to do with me like having

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to press a button or send an email or whatever Ella have everything written and ready to go and then I'll sit there and talk it

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out and try to get myself amped up and then just do it.

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Countdown if you need to count down, but just get yourself to a spot where you feel good and do it.

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I don't know if that helps.

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I really hope it does if you liked this episode subscribe follow all that stuff share it with a friend may be other than that.

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I will talk to you again soon.