Overcoming Anxiety Driven Fears

Let's get past the anxiety-driven fear that is keeping you from the things you want to do.

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Me, Myself, and You podcast.

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My name is Sara and I'm your host and I'm glad to have you here and happy almost Halloween today seemed like a good day to talk

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about fear since we're creeping up on Halloween this weekend.

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So I wanted to talk a little bit about getting past those like anxiety driven fears and what I mean when I say anxiety driven

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fears is fears that are not reasonable and Are holding you back from doing things you want to do?

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So and don't get me wrong.

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I don't want to Discount your fears and make it sound like oh you're being unreasonable that sort of thing.

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But I guess I don't know how to define it beyond that because I think you know, there's something to be said about legitimate

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fears, but there's also something to be said about something that you're just anxious about it because you are thinking all the

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worst-case scenarios, even though you want to do it so badly.

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Examples of that might be applying for a job personally for my current full-time job.

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I was absolutely terrified to apply for it because I was too scared to deal with the possibility of not getting it again.

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And that's definitely realistic and reasonable fear.

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I guess it was something that I was scared and it was holding me back from being able to apply for it and you know, my husband

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pushed me and guess what I got the job and I love it.

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It I love my team.

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It's great.

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Another example might be being on someone's podcast.

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Maybe you're terrified to talk to a stranger or even just an acquaintance and like have to try to sound like an expert or

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whatever those kinds of things where it's like, you know, you want to do it so badly, but you're just so anxious about it.

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So I guess I want to talk about how to kind of get past that how to get over that little hump and it's not easy and it's not

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This is not necessarily a perfect system and you know, maybe it doesn't work this way for you.

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Maybe you do something else to get over those humps.

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But this is what I find to be most effective for me and the pattern I definitely see in my life when I do get over it and do get

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past those anxiety during fears compare why you want to do it to why you're scared.

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Why do you want it and why are you scared?

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So I think is similar to a pros and cons.

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List, you're just comparing.

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What are the possible positive outcomes?

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Why do I want to do this?

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So badly and what am I scared of and you know really quantify that and CEO, you know what these things that I want so badly

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outweigh these fears next talk it out for me.

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This always always always involves talking it out with my husband.

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I do not do this well, Well on my own if I'm truly anxious about doing something I want to do.

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I usually have to talk it out with him extensively and just like what I said talking about why I want to do it and what I'm

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scared of is very much something.

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He walks me through I know in my marriage and mental health episode.

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I mentioned, you know, he's very much my support person and this is one way he does that is talking me through and past that

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anxiety and pushing me and supporting me and that way And you know, if you don't have a spouse or significant other that you

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want to talk it out with maybe it's a friend.

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Maybe it's your dog.

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Just talk it out.

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Maybe you know how if you don't have a dog talk to a stuffed animal talk to yourself in the mirror.

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I don't know just verbalize it and get those words out to try to really come to terms with it.

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I think that's really helpful in bringing those thoughts to reality and bringing yourself back down to reality and really like

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like what's the word bringing you back down to earth?

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I guess see ya.

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Next you have to amp yourself up amp yourself up to do it.

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Maybe it's deep breaths or a little dance party or something like that for me A lot of times if it has to do with me like having

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to press a button or send an email or whatever Ella have everything written and ready to go and then I'll sit there and talk it

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out and try to get myself amped up and then just do it.

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Countdown if you need to count down, but just get yourself to a spot where you feel good and do it.

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I don't know if that helps.

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I really hope it does if you liked this episode subscribe follow all that stuff share it with a friend may be other than that.

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I will talk to you again soon.