The Self Care Life with Sara Miller

Self Care isn't Selfish

November 08, 2020 Sara Miller
The Self Care Life with Sara Miller
Self Care isn't Selfish
Show Notes Transcript

Self care is a lot of things. But it isn't selfish.

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Welcome to the me myself and you podcast.

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My name is Sara and I'm your host and I'm glad to have you here again today.

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I'm going to be talking about why and just reminding you why self-care isn't selfish.

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I think hopefully this has been hammered into your brains by now.

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I know for me personally, I have had a hard time A lot of times with things words like it logically, I understand this.

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But it takes me a while to emotionally get there and sometimes I need to hear it 20 million times.

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So hopefully that sounded a little Canadian I think but okay.

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Well, I'm just going to talk through this a little bit self-care is not selfish.

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It is absolutely a necessary part of life.

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I do see people in my life that don't practice self-care and it's damaging.

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It's not good not take care of yourself because self care is a lot of things self-care isn't just bubble baths and face masks.

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That's not my oh my go to although those things can be as I've ranted about that before.

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It's not just that it's setting healthy boundaries with people with work with all kinds of things.

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It is getting enough sleep.

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It's drinking water.

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It's literally taking a shower or brushing your teeth or basic hygiene practices even taking the time to like Use the bathroom

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or make your bed super simple tasks can be self care things that help you feel like you have your head screwed on straight.

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Maybe that is eating something green once a day or going for a walk for 10 minutes, or maybe it's taking a nap.

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Maybe it's literally just going okay.

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I'm supposed to work 40 hours a week and trying to stick to those 40 hours so that you're not having an unhealthy work-life

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balance.

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There's so many boundaries and healthy habits and things that are hands down one of the most important parts of self-care and if

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you ever heard somebody say, oh, yeah.

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Well, I just need to jump through the shower or I need to sign off for the day because I've gone over time or whatever.

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Do you think that they're selfish?

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No because it's not selfish.

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It's self-care its setting healthy boundaries.

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It's doing the things that you need to take care of.

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Or you that are just for you because ultimately you cannot pour from an empty cup and you cannot function.

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Well, when you're not taking care of yourself self-care isn't about being selfish.

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It's taking care of you so that you can flourish and so that you can help the people in your life flourish because you can't do

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what you need to do in your life.

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If you're not taking care of you first.

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Does that resonate?

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Hope it does you have to pause and breathe and take care of you so that you can perform better.

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Does that make sense?

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If I am working 60 hours a week and never taking time for myself.

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Am I going to be at my best self at work?

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No, because I'm not getting enough rest time.

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I'm not able to take care of things.

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So my I'm distracted about other life things and I'm overwhelmed and tired and rundown.

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It's important to take care of you to Able to do well overall.

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It's important to be doing self-care things so that you can take care of other people if you need to if that's your thing and

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that may not be the best example only because I don't think that you taking care of yourself should be primarily so that you can

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take care of other people I think taking care of you is important because it's showing love to yourself and you're going to be a

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lot happier.

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If you're loving yourself.

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I feel like sometimes when I'm talking Going through this stuff.

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I it really like resonates with me.

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Even though I'm the one saying it's like oh crap.

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Yeah, but it's just so important to take care of you because if you really are not taking care of you.

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What's the point if you're not happy if you're not healthy.

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What are you doing?

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Yeah, sometimes you got to just do things to stay afloat.

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I get that for sure.

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There's a lot of times where you're going through those phases where you just have to work like a dog and You're just

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overwhelmed and all of that but I think there's still small things you can do with that point that are self care.

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You can still pause to drink water or make a doctor's appointment or eat something green simple stuff that are still self-care

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things.

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It's so important and it's absolutely the foundation for good mental health.

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