64. Reduce Stress Using the Adversity in Your Life

Abandoned as a single mom of two small kids in New York City, Macarena knows how to use adversity to create opportunity.

Discover some hot tips for reducing stress, using thoughts, emotions, and slowing down your internal engine. Macarena simplifies complex ideas, explaining how our emotions are like different radio stations that influence our energy. 

Join the conversation for insights on developing stress immunity, building self-awareness, and embracing gratitude for a happier life. 

Gain clarity with Macarena's practical guide, and explore the journey towards self-improvement, truth, acceptance, and gratitude.

Transcript

Adam: [00:00:00] Welcome Revolutionary Freedom audience. Today. We are sitting down with Macarena herself, man. It's just saying your name is fun because it's like it's a pop culture sensation. I know that you specialize in using adversity. As an opportunity for growth and transformation. I'd like you to unpack that and see what that means to you 

Macarena: okay, first of all, thank you so much. My name is Macarena, and I am from Uruguay, hence the name. I know here is not, people think is a song, but it really isn't. It's actually, Macarena, when, you know what it means, just so as a note, a side note, it's actually the patron, patron you call it, right? A patron, virgin of science.

Yeah, patron virgin of Seville. That's what Macarena means. Yes, it was made a a song, but I was born before, way before the song. Anyway,

Adam: Is it obnoxious to you? Do you find it obnoxious? What has happened to that? That name, that word?

Macarena: I don't care.

Adam: No, you don't.[00:01:00] 

Macarena: People call me all sorts of things. We think our, we always think that our way is the normal, but in reality, we all from different cultures and different bubbles, so John might not be normal in Uruguay, so it's all good. Anyway, so where were we? Yes. So transformation and why adversity?

Adam: Yeah. Yep.

Macarena: I use, always use as example. So for instance, if I go to the beach. If someone who doesn't know how to swim goes to a beach and it's like a really windy and wavy day, it would be something that person would perceive as adversity, right?

It would be like, oh my god, the worst day of your life. Now, if you are a surf fanatic, you go that same day and it's the best day of your life. So in that same way, we see life and different events that happen to us with the same lens. So it's actually about how we see the world and not what the world gives us. Maybe there are a couple of things that we can all agree that our adversity and that our. messy and are really [00:02:00] difficult to get through. However, most circumstances in life are all about some people might find being a woman is an adversity. Some people might find the color of their skin as an adversity.

Other people might see it as a uniqueness and an opportunity. To be who they can truly be. That's how I see life. And that's how I think I can help others see their own obstacles in their life to, for growth.

So that is A. 

Now B. 

The other aspect of this is I went through my portion of adversity, my, when my kids were four and six years old, my ex decided he wanted to Stay where he was, which was in South Sudan. He works for the, he used to work for the UN. So he was deployed there and he met someone he apparently liked better than me.

I'm 49 years old. This was a model more like a 1980 something model. So I'm a [00:03:00] 1973. I like vintage, don't get me wrong. But apparently other people don't. Anyway, so this happened, and for the next years it was really difficult for me to accept that this was going to be my reality. I was in New York City, with two very young children, by myself, without family.

And I was... I would have to think, okay, so this is going to be the rest of my life. I'm going to have to raise these kids alone. And this is going to be a long ass time, right? And as years went by, I realized that my kids are amazing. I live in a beautiful apartment. I live six blocks away from Central Park.

I run every day. I live in a place where most people come to visit. I have a great group of friends. So I was like, what am I doing? What am I complaining about? I need to like make the shift. Somehow I need to make a, make my life happy with what I have.

Adam: Mmmm.

Macarena: So that's when [00:04:00] I started, thinking, okay, how do other people do this?

Because clearly most people have a way harder life than I do, 90 percent of the world pretty much has doesn't have running water, doesn't have, real problems. I started working I started buying these self help books, and one of them was The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. I said, I'm gonna do every step that this book says to see if this is actually true, if this works. So I started with that, then I was doing, I started doing the work of Byron Katie. Are you familiar with her? She wrote a book that is called Loving What Is. And you know when like you read every page and everything is like oh my god, of course!

Adam: Highlighting the whole book.

Macarena: Yes, exactly.

Adam: It's what's the point?

Macarena: all my notes. So you're like digital anyway. So I started doing that and then I think it was like a year later or even a little bit less, I was speaking with a friend on the phone and I said, what's crazy is that [00:05:00] nothing has changed. I have the same salary, the same job, the same apartment, the same children, the same bicycle, the same everything, but I am so fulfilled with my life.

I no longer dread the weekends that were like, Oh God, I need to take these children to soccer practice. So after that, I thought, okay, so if this is how I feel, it means like other people feel this way too. Maybe for other reasons in their lives, 

Adam: The overall thing that we feel is... That we're unique in it. And I don't mean a special, in a special kind of way, like a unicorn or something. But we're the only one dealing with that. And I know, I've learned about myself.

There's a narcissism in that. Now, we know this comes from conditioning also in different ways. But I want you to take that and just go with that 

Macarena: the reality is that we all go through the same emotions. They're only two emotions, fear and love. Okay. But if we start like breaking it down and we go into, The scale of emotions I think is like 13 [00:06:00] emotions.

 The bottom line was, I thought, okay, so if I feel this way, someone else has to feel the same way.

 That's when I started this journey of thinking, okay, how can I help other people? How can I be supportive of maybe other moms who feel this way?

Or how could I feel, how could I engage in a way where people can relate to my story without, feeling guilty and feeling terrible?

Because when you get to Friday and you go to work and everyone is in your office is saying, yes, it's Friday. And you think, Excuse my French. Shit, it's Friday. I have to spend the entire weekend with these two children alone.

Then you think there's something wrong with me because I should want to be. with my kids every weekend. And I did not feel that way.

Adam: Yeah.

Macarena: And I think this is something very real and that people suffer because of this, because the shame the guilt and the guilty, guilt is actually one of the lowest emotions.

Shame is the lowest so going back to that is, [00:07:00] okay, so how can I actually explore the possibility of helping other people get through whatever they're going through? And then I said, I'm going to use. That exact same book, The Success Principles, to achieve the next goals for the next, however it takes me.

So I signed up for school. I went to college at 45 years old. I did half Ironman triathlons within those three years. I did four, I think. I was still going to work every day. I still had my kids by myself. And I still found the time to actually do all those things because I thought it was so important to me and my kids.

And I study French. So all those things. So when people say, I don't have time, I'm like, honey, really? You have the same 24 hours in a day. Maybe your priorities are different. Maybe you're not, you don't even realize that you're prioritizing things that are not really elevating your emotions, 

Adam: and, you mentioned... It's the way how we see [00:08:00] something isn't necessarily normal or the standard. It's just the way we do where we are and someone else on the other side of the world or next door in the office next to me is seeing it differently. And I love that because I was digging into some of your success stories on your website.

Which I appreciated. There's a handful that people can relate to. And what I noticed that some of these women were saying was you essentially help them with clarity. You help them with simplicity, and every single one of them, I believe mentioned you help them increase their focus in the right areas.

For their own, you help them figure that out because we're dealing with frustration. That's one of the things you and I both work on. Like in my marketing materials, I call it discontentment or frustration. We also see being stuck.

Macarena: Yes. 

Adam: And a lot of us are like, okay, everybody's teaching a lot of life coaches.

We'll deal with these topics, but it's how you're dealing with it. And you have a specialty that is gaining traction and [00:09:00] succeeding for people, giving them the transformation they're looking for by helping them see. Their own focus, or through their own focus, their priorities in a more effective way and their stress is lowering what, do you have a practical thing that you can give or maybe a framework that you can offer for the mom that's going to school car line right now she's going to sports this weekend 

so if we're sitting there, what are some practical things that you can offer to get somebody to start, get, maybe give them a win, a small win right now so that they know that what you're saying can help them in a deeper way when they come after you to follow your stuff.

Macarena: The reality is this. At this precise moment, nothing is wrong. If you're actually in the moment, no matter what you're going through what is happening, your concerns are in the next five minutes. You're thinking about, you're worrying about the future, or you're depressed because what you're thinking about the past.

But in this present moment, everything is okay. So if you can actually, and that's why [00:10:00] meditation is so crucial, because you're able to make that space between each thought.

So that is something that is super useful. 

And the other thing is also, think about, consider, that your thoughts are not who you are. So if you're worried about whatever it is, it's because you are believing what you're thinking, not the reality. The reality is mother sitting in a car waiting for game to start. That is it. There's no other, there's nothing else happening, right?

Adam: Yep.

Macarena: I'm not saying this is like a one thing solution. Oh, now I have the solution for my life. It's actually simple, but it's not easy because we're like you were saying before, we're so conditioned to the lens that we see our life with. We're so conditioned to our limiting beliefs. We're so conditioned to, to, Do everything that was put in our mind between zero and seven years old.

That's where we're operating from.

Adam: Yep, I saw the 0 to 7 on your website and I'm like, oh, [00:11:00] she's crushing it. Nailing it. The conditionary moment. The conditionary season.

Macarena: Yes. And how come we didn't know this when we had our kids? Right from zero to seven.

Adam: Yeah. Could have spared, I have four. I learned some things for the last two. My first two are like, they have a totally different dad than we had. So I'm sorry, I gave you all my crap between time you were 0 and 7.

This is so critical that I'm just going to even reiterate what you said, just super brief. And that is, we are not our thoughts. We're not, but we, I had a mentor once that taught me don't believe everything you

Macarena: You think, correct.

Adam: But that can be breakthrough providing.

If you let that sit in the moment and stop thinking about those next five minutes and go, okay, how about we start thinking about our thinking?

Macarena: Yes, just observe your thoughts. This is one thing that when people, like for example my friends are like, oh my god, you know what happened? I say, [00:12:00] okay, just practice this tomorrow when you're in the shower. In the morning, just observe your thoughts, let them come and go. Just like when you're at the airport waiting for your suitcase, instead of grabbing the suitcase that doesn't belong to you, let it go.

And just once you are, you practice and practice and you detach yourself from that, those thoughts, then you start observing that it's like, this one, it doesn't really serve me when I look at myself in the mirror and I think, Oh my God, look at all those wrinkles. I'm going to let that one go.

And I'm going to pick up the next one that comes, whatever that is that you feel like you're frustrated or you don't, you are just that you are not what you're thinking. You are the observer of what you're thinking.

Adam: Yeah. And then you can choose what you do with those thoughts. Like when you mentioned looking in the mirror and seeing the fine lines. I know in the last few years, I'm 44 in the last few years I've had a few more pop up. And so when I see those, I order the extra, I get into my regimen and I order extra of my regimen and I get that shipped to the house within the week.

And then I do that. And then I think about them less, I handle it in very [00:13:00] practical ways, but, so that is a wonderful exercise. It costs no money and it almost, it really doesn't cost any time and the realignment of the focus. With intentionality, in that minute, I guarantee you people, what Macarena is telling you to do is going to lower your stress immediately.

Because it's meditative, as you said. This is a, it's a meditative concept, and you don't have to go sit in your closet with your hands in a certain position, breathing deep for five or ten minutes. Which is good, but you don't have to do that. You can do this standing in line somewhere, or sitting in your car somewhere.

Macarena: Yes. Or just your shower, the shower in the

Adam: the shower you're captive.

Macarena: Yes, and also this is what I love the shower moment because usually you're like putting your shampoo on your head, okay? But you're not there. You're thinking about what you're gonna do. We think about do I have milk for my coffee? Do I have, what I'm gonna do?

What I'm gonna eat for lunch? What do I need to do for the kids? How is the meeting gonna go? So you're not present in your [00:14:00] moment. So when you're in the shower, just observe that you're thinking about all those things. You're not actually there. Your body's there, but your mind isn't there. So that is like a fascinating thing.

And then if you want to take it a step further, then you write down those thoughts after you get out of the shower.

Adam: So we're in the shower. We got a big, let's say we have an evaluation today with our director, our boss, our manager. Or there's a big presentation where we're pitching to a client, but there's a highly charged moment in our day coming up that are in our tendency might be to produce a bit of anxiety inside to get into that vibration of worry, of doubt, of fear, which is all driven by fear.

 Now I'm observing my thoughts in the shower and I'm thinking about this day and now I'm already starting to get stressed.

Macarena: Yeah. I've been there.

Adam: how can I stop that? And what is something that I can put? Okay, so I'm observing my thought. What's a second practical item that I can do?

Not just to not worry, but to actually strengthen myself. And we're going to get to it because you're big on being [00:15:00] real. Because one of the things that I teach in my pillars too is you gain your power from your authenticity.

That means walking in the trueness of yourself. And this doesn't mean. Being aggressive and bullying people around and saying whatever you think without a filter, without judgment, that's stupid, but also not compromising yourself. So I want to be who I am. I want to go into this situation that I'm seeing as stressful today.

How do I walk in there with more calmness and more power? What is something I can actually do?

Macarena: You mean like instead of being all stressed out, you're in the shower

Adam: Yes, we'll just stick with a focus. A stressful meeting at work that we have a history of being stressed about.

Macarena: I

Adam: we're repeating that again,

Macarena: okay, I would say number one, just observe why you're stressed out. What brings you to this place of anxiety? And it could be number one, if you actually start with a why, Then you ask again, why, again, why, again, why, until you actually get to the core of why you're really stressed out. And once you get down, you don't even [00:16:00] have to do the exercise.

I'm going to tell you the answer is you're afraid. Like you said, you're afraid of either success or failure. And that is based on what either perhaps you didn't practice enough. So you weren't, you're not prepared for the meeting, but if you are prepared,

Adam: I'm sorry, real quick, I want to point this out. So there, there's a basis of being fearful of the outcome.

Macarena: correct. Which is the future.

Adam: Yes, this is a huge piece of awareness. That's why you're not living in the moment. You're anticipating something. You're using your imagination inappropriately.

You're assigning worry to the future that hasn't occurred yet, which means you're about to create it anyway. I wanted to point that out, because that's really powerful in terms of raising awareness and eliminating some of these blind spots. Please continue. Thank

Macarena: of the things we worry about never happen. Basically, you're worrying for nothing. And because you're afraid of either being [00:17:00] successful or failure.

Adam: I want to tell you, I teased my mother probably more than once, but I ask how'd the thing go after you were worried for a month? It's been a month since we talked about this.

The thing happened. How did it go? Oh my gosh, it went great. It went fine. It was amazing. And I'm like, this is what I've learned to say to these people, including my mother. Good thing you're worried because obviously that's what made it work. Give me a break

Macarena: Yes. And I have to say, these concepts are also, I understand how sometimes these things can sound condescending. Because if you're worried about paying your rent, and you're worried about where your kid is going to go to college, and you're worried like real, real... First world problems, then it is a concern.

I agree. And I don't think I'm not saying it is an easy way to actually in one day, you're going to get there. But think about this also. It took you from 0 to 7 to put, to program your mind, and then from 7 to 40, whatever years you are, to [00:18:00] keep compounding over and over these concepts. So it's not going to go away in one day 

what will happen though, if you keep practicing, and you are, and you realize that you are not your thoughts, and you are, and you question what you're thinking, That is an aha moment. That can actually change your life, like you said, in one second, because from that moment on, you will never let one thought go unfiltered, 

so you are gonna have like a strainer for spaghetti, but instead of spaghetti, it's gonna be for your thoughts. So that is gonna be really tight, and you're not gonna let any of those thoughts get through, that are gonna invade your life, and then take over, and then everything is tragic, when actually Nothing happened, the meeting went great, and if you didn't, next time prepare better, because it all, everything requires

Adam: about practical. Yeah, exactly. Talk about being practical. If the preparation is there. It's just going to eliminate.

Macarena: have nothing to worry about.

Adam: That's it. It's just going to flow. You're going to flow as my wife's been trying to get me to understand more and more. When [00:19:00] you're in the moment, that's how you can flow and it has nothing zero to do with external circumstances.

Macarena: It's if you are an athlete, maybe this, people can relate to this, if you want to run a marathon, are you going to wake up one day and be like, I'm going to run a marathon today, I haven't run since 10th grade, but today's the day. How do you think that's going to go? If you practice and you train, and this is why people, it's so difficult for people to see that everything requires practice.

We are able to speak about this concept this easily because I've been talking about these concepts for years and I've been reading. Every single night. I don't at night when I go to bed, I go to bed, and I learn, and I keep reading, and I didn't understand something, I go back to the book, and I read again, and I underline it, and I have no more this bit that I keep writing, and writing.

I practice because I want to know, because I want to show people how they can make changes, but also be knowledgeable of what I'm talking about. So when you have a question and come to me and say, but when you talk about [00:20:00] gratitude two months ago and the vibration of the frequency of the emotion, what did you mean?

I can actually tell you what I mean, because I practice and I learn and I keep doing it. And this is something that is fundamental for people to feel secure and to feel confident. Practice. Practice. Practice. Embody the person you want to become and practice that.

Adam: When you mention the frequency of this emotion or that emotion, I want to just give a little note to someone who might be listening who doesn't have an acquaintance with these ideas. They're not too familiar. There's... Most of us understand that if we worry enough, we can actually make ourselves sick.

Most of us understand, and I know that even my parents in their generation as baby boomers, they... They know that the old joke was you're going to give yourself an ulcer, Fred.

Macarena: Yes.

Adam: Because you're worried all the time. So you're going to give yourself an ulcer. Okay, so if that can [00:21:00] happen, how is that happening?

And at the biological level, it's because of these frequencies. If you want to talk a little bit about that. So please don't talk over our heads. I'm a third grader today. Talk to me like a third grader understanding this.

Macarena: Gotcha. Thank you for that, for bringing it down to earth. You know how sometimes you go to somebody's house, you're invited to a barbecue, and then you meet these guys, and you're talking, you're having a beer, yada, everything is great, and then there's this guy standing there who you feel like, I don't dig that vibe, it's like something is off, right?

So that is So you know that there's an energy there that is like bottom line zero, first grade. There's an energy there that you, there's something that it doesn't match, right? think okay, maybe it's a bad date, but the, you can feel the energy of that person. Okay, why is that? This is what maybe most of us are not aware of. You, I, this phone, this bottle, this everything [00:22:00] is made out of atoms, right?

So what's an atom? Is, okay, a circle, let's say, right? And then, which is 99. 9999 percent energy or information. So that's what you and I are. And this bottle and this pen is all made out of atoms, which means what? That the matter and the matter are never touching. It's only the energy that's touching. 

So that's exactly where we are. We are energy, so we are like atoms, and that is always moving. And what happens is like, as those are

Adam: the vibration, right?

Macarena: correct, so as they move, instead of saying they're moving or they're dancing, we call them they're vibrating, right? So what happens is once you have these thoughts, let's say, I'm going to think, okay, I'm really upset because because I have this meeting, or you know what, I'm just really upset because I got fired today.

Okay, so that thought triggers [00:23:00] an emotion in us. That emotion is, makes us as human vibrate at a certain frequency. Vibration is measured in frequency, right? The same way you have, okay, let me finish this. That's one way. Different emotions, if you actually think about that when you are sad, when you felt shame, or when you felt happy, when you felt joy, and when you feel gratitude, you can, you think about those emotions, you can actually think Oh, when I feel shame, I am really like this and I'm like vibrating really low.

When I feel gratitude, it's like the world is coming for me,

Adam: We say it every day, even if we have a drink or two. Some of us, it takes a few more than that. But then we say, I have a buzz.

Macarena: Yes,

Adam: So it might be a little bit different, but there's a buzzing, right? When we're really excited about something, there's a buzzing. Wedding day, for most people, buzzing.

Macarena: Yes. Okay. So you're like, [00:24:00] you're vibrating really high. Now, what happens when we were talking about trying to vibrate at that frequency constantly is because, and that's what we will talk about, like positive thinking and how to use all that. Why is that? Because it's important. You know how you listen to the radio, let's say, forget about like the all the modern stuff, the radio in your car and you are like, you are trying to find that frequency to tune into 100.

3, right? If you are not there, you won't be able to hear that song. If you're not at that frequency, at that, right? So it's the same with the energy. If I am vibrating at shame and you're vibrating at gratitude, this is not, we're not going to find each other. We're not going to be able to make that energy match. So what happens is when we talk about, you speak about prayer, I speak about manifesting. What does that mean? It means like you, [00:25:00] gratitude is one of the highest emotions. So gratitude and joy.

Adam: You know what I call it in my material?

Macarena: what?

Adam: the holy grail of human emotion.

Macarena: Okay, yes.

Adam: I like Indiana Jones. True.

Macarena: Okay. Who doesn't? He was so sexy.

Adam: Yeah, he's got a new one coming out. Did you see this? He's 117 years old.

Macarena: He's like 82.

Adam: is the man. He's the man.

Macarena: Anyway so what happens is, so when you want to manifest something into your life, you have to vibrate it.

At the frequency that those Adams are vibrating. Is it money? Then you have to vibrate at that level. Otherwise you will never be able to tune into that frequency

Adam: And this is attracts like, right?

Macarena: Correct. Yes.

You mentioned something narcissistic and that is a topic that I'm fascinated by and I

Adam: I relate.

Macarena: because I but I Why what do you mean?

Adam: Cause I have narcissistic tendencies strongly and I'm working on those too.

Macarena: Okay. This is something, I don't know. I'm going to go back to [00:26:00] whatever I was going to say. The problem with first of all, using the word lightly is, I think, a problem in society right now. Because people are like, this guy is a jerk and you call him a narcissist. These are two very different personalities.

Adam: I should be careful about using the actual psychological term of narcissism when I'm having a podcast that I'm hosting and want people to come back.

Macarena: No, I think if that's the, I think, first of all, we shouldn't call ourselves things that we don't want to be

Adam: Yeah.

Macarena: because words have energy and whatever we

Adam: and death.

Macarena: what we keep saying and saying, then we become, so I would steer away from that aspect. At the same time, also, if you think, if one thinks one has narcissistic traits, Certain ones are normal to have because we're all human in spite of our shadow.

However, on a certain extent, if you are, if you don't have empathy, if you can't relate to people being in pain, if you if you are almost Machiavellian, [00:27:00] then I would worry, but people who are that way usually don't realize. So it's like an oxymoron there. So that's one thing. On a different note, if we, if you, whoever is listening, is attracted to people who have those tendencies, we, our relationships are mirrors of who we are. So when I went through this, because I did a true narcissist for a year and a half, and it was one of the most painful experiences of my life.

The reason why I say this, it wasn't because what he, the way he treated me, it was the way I allowed. him to treat me. That's what was painful to me. And so I was always trying to think, okay, but if we are relationships, which I truly believe our relationships in our life are a mirror of who we are, then what does that mean to me?

What is this trying to tell? What is life trying to tell me? Is this wrong? I know it's like over and then I finally realized. Self esteem is not like, Oh, I have big self esteem. [00:28:00] No, we have like different pillars of self esteem. And in this, yes. So in this aspect, my self esteem is low.

And that's how I, that's why I mirror with his, because narcissists are actually have very low self esteem. They pretend they're grandiose and all this, but the reality is like very empty. shallow people. So that is

Adam: I'm glad you brought, I'm sorry, I'm glad you brought this up, because I noticed that you didn't laugh, and I meant to make a joke using the word, and I still said the word, and I'm like, hearing you discuss it it is a serious thing. Because it's significant psychosis. Yes. And I was a nurse for 10 years and I've seen these behaviors and I've seen how damaging it is.

We've all probably known one, whether we knew it or not, or been treated and victimized by them. So you're absolutely right. I need to be more responsible with that word as much as I play around. So

Macarena: Yeah. Mostly for yourself, because if you don't want to become that, then, just find a [00:29:00] different, and like, why use self, demeaning word to describe yourself, when you're actually doing, so those are things that just to have in the back of my mind, I think we all do it.

And we all think it's like, Oh, I'm just gonna I, we're going to defect this because I'm, I'm trying to be funny and people want people to like, we'll do it, but yeah. 

Adam: That's it. Okay, good. Now, I know that we're nearing a wrap up, but I think that there would be an opportunity 

I love the idea that you're teaching about questioning thoughts. This is one of the there's no better way to begin increasing your awareness and shining light into the blind spots that we have that are keeping us held back from these areas. In terms of today, where do you want them to follow 

Macarena: I'm on Instagram mainly my profile is I am real. 73.

Adam: I A M. I am real,

Macarena: I am real 73. 

Adam: I love it because you don't get a lot of women, even the authentic ones, that put their birth year into their [00:30:00] handles. And I think it's awesome. I'm like, yeah, that's really cool. I stopped a long time ago worrying about, you don't ask a woman her age. I'm like, dude, I'm over 40. I'm asking her anything I want.

Macarena: exactly.

Adam: So I don't

Macarena: Also yeah.

Adam: This is awesome. I believe, Is there something, do you Is there a certain resource, cause we're gonna put your website in the show notes. Is there a resource that you would recommend that would compliment this conversation that we've just had the best?

That they could download, or...

Macarena: Yes, that's a great question. Thank you. So I have one that is called, it's a guide to, when you're thinking, okay, I'm stuck in my life. There's certain things that I don't like, but I don't know where to begin to actually take action after the shower. Then you go on my site and it's called three steps to clarity.

And that gives you an exercise that you can do, where it's going to open your mind to thinking, okay, this is the aspect of my life that I would like to concentrate on for the next three or four weeks. And I'm going to work on this. So it gives you an idea of [00:31:00] where you are at the moment. Because I also think that most times when we're in that situation, you think, I want to make more money.

I want to get a new boyfriend. I want to buy a new car. I want all these things. So you know what, instead, I'm just going to binge on love is blind on Netflix all weekend because that's too much to do. So instead,

Adam: what happens.

Macarena: Because you're like overwhelmed with all the things. So instead, go on, you can go on my website, download the guide.

It's super easy to do, but it's going to give you an awareness of all the things that you actually do have going for you. And all the things that you're like, Oh, actually, I was much better than I thought I was. And start that path of growth.

Adam: Awesome. I love that because singular focus helps us get focused results, right? We've heard it before. And I know for a fact because I've vetted the success stories that this is a superpower for you for the listener that you're offering the listener. It's simple. You [00:32:00] take your time. You give, you said you mentioned three or four weeks of one focus.

It took us 25, 35, 50 years to get wherever we are. In the body and the mind and the results that we have, we need to be patient. Let ourselves be patient with moving at a reasonable pace for ourself and then work on one thing, work on one thing until that thing is okay, wow. Because when you do, you'll get a victory out of that one thing if you do it and you're diligently, right?

And then you'll want to go Macarena. What's the second thing? Oh my gosh, a month ago I started this. It's been three and a half weeks. This is really exciting. This breakthrough, just like your clients. And from there, it's okay, what's the next thing? And then you build this habit, build a muscle. By working through these things, you're building habits and muscle through adversity.

We lift weights to get the resistance, so the muscle builds. This is the exact same way what you've described. And this is a simple outline, while we also talked about more ethereal things that are out in the air a bit with frequency. [00:33:00] There's a good mix of both worlds here. And I just appreciate your time, your insight.

You have a story of overcoming where you can have empathy with people and your humility is refreshing and you know You don't have all this nasty attitude like a regular old new yorker and i'm teasing. That was a new york joke I just wanted to see you laugh. I wanted to see if one of my jokes could get you going so not all the best jokes and the references that I make but Anyway, i'm looking forward to this.

All the resources are in the show notes guys As we get ready to leave here, I want to ask, put you on the spot that I didn't prep you for. I never prep anybody for this 

as we're on our way out, what are three words or three simple ideas of the things that drive you to do what you do every day.

Macarena: I'm going to say truth, acceptance, and gratitude.

Adam: TAG, that's your acronym. Truth, Acceptance, Gratitude. Do you see that, can you tell through the [00:34:00] screen what that word says on my throat? Can you see there's a tattoo there?

Macarena: Yeah.

Adam: It says truth.

Macarena: Yeah.

Adam: I didn't plan it when I first got it, but I realized from my heart through my mouth is where the truth flows.

Macarena: Yes. Yes.

Adam: cool? Yeah.

Macarena: That is cool.

Adam: that truth is number one for me as well, and people can keep listening to my other things to find out the other two, but this was about your hour, the light that you're spreading to the world. And I love how you're doing it. I love the colors.

I love the compass. And I don't think we're done, but it's been a pleasure. Macarena.

Macarena: Thank you so much.

Adam: Yes. All right. Revolutionary freedom. Go get her stuff, download it, begin observing your thoughts, take a shower and begin your breakthrough.