Ladder of Success

Exceptional Leadership, with Dr. Jessica Houston

September 26, 2019 Bailey @ BuffaloConsults
Ladder of Success
Exceptional Leadership, with Dr. Jessica Houston
Chapters
1:32
Dr. Houston's purpose and career
2:21
Learning to lead
6:13
Intro to "Exceptional Leadership"
8:19
Benefits of "Exceptional Leadership"
11:20
Building blocks to personal independence
Ladder of Success
Exceptional Leadership, with Dr. Jessica Houston
Sep 26, 2019
Bailey @ BuffaloConsults

Licensed social worker, college professor and consultant - Jessica Houston is the owner of Expecting Victory, a personal and professional development training company that provides proven tools and strategies for growth.

She is also scheduled to speak at American Institute of Constructors' upcoming Constructor Conference.  The organization stresses personal and professional development as well as high ethical standards, so her message is very neatly aligned with AIC's mission.

In this 15 minutes you will learn how she came to do what she does, what her struggles were in learning to be a leader, what she brings to the table with her "Exceptional Leadership" presentation, and how you can benefit from attending.  She also provides very practical advice for anyone looking to take a chance with development or launching of a new venture.

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Licensed social worker, college professor and consultant - Jessica Houston is the owner of Expecting Victory, a personal and professional development training company that provides proven tools and strategies for growth.

She is also scheduled to speak at American Institute of Constructors' upcoming Constructor Conference.  The organization stresses personal and professional development as well as high ethical standards, so her message is very neatly aligned with AIC's mission.

In this 15 minutes you will learn how she came to do what she does, what her struggles were in learning to be a leader, what she brings to the table with her "Exceptional Leadership" presentation, and how you can benefit from attending.  She also provides very practical advice for anyone looking to take a chance with development or launching of a new venture.

Bailey:

Alright, welcome to the first ever Pro Constructor podcast presented by the American Institute of Constructors. Let's call it AIC for short. You can follow the organization on Twitter @ProConstructors or through their website, www.professionalconstructor.org. My nam e's Ba iley; you can also find me on Twitter @BuffaloConsults. AIC's annual conference is coming up soon and this year it's going to be in Philadelphia, November 7th through 10th I believe. If you want info on that conference, you can go to that website, cc2019.org; that's cc2019.org. There' s also a link there to register. Today I'm actually talking to one of the speakers who's scheduled to be at that conference. Dr. Jessica Houston has done so much it's kind of hard to give a summary, so we're just going to jump r ig ht into this. Dr. Houston, I tried to come up with questions or topics to, to steer the conversation, but kind of li ke I ex pected with someone in your field of work with so many accomplishments, this is hard to know where to even start, so let's just start at the beginning. You have two books listed on Amazon, your website expectingvictory.com, you do speakin g engagements, one of which we're about to talk to. You have an eCourse on your website called Unleashing your Brilliance. And I believe we're just kind of scr atch i ng the surface here. So if you could kind of narrow down your purpose, your career, what do you do, in a few sentences, kind of what would that sound like?

Jessica:

Yes, so I am first and foremost, I always have to say that I'm a licensed social worker. I started as a social worker over 15 years ago. So that's where I really got my start. And then I moved into leadership and I also teach part time as a professor of social work. So primarily the topics that I speak on or f oc u sed on include women's empowerment, leadership development, as well as peak per formance.

Bailey:

Very, very interesting. I went through your website, looked at some videos. Obviously, you are extremely passionate about what you do. At what point did you decide this was the direction that you wanted your career to lead?

Jessica:

So, I think with me doing social work for a long time, it really became something that I could literally do in my sleep. But, the challenge came when I was basically thrown into a leadership position. And so being thrown into that position, I wasn't really ready for it. I was unprepared. The person who was my immediate supervisor actually left without much notice and I had to step in, and, and lead. And so I had a lot of ups and downs. I had to learn by trial and error. And once I figured out what I was doing, I thought, "Okay, this is, I really do enjoy it and I want to hel p p eople avoid a lot of the mistakes that I made. " And so I want to help people avoid the pitfalls that I had fallen into during those first couple of years. So I'm extremely passionate about helping others overcome adversity. One of the things that I will share is that I've overcome a lot when it comes to confidence. I had very, very low self confidence. So you can imagine how I felt when I had to become a leader. And then also with me starting the speaking com ponent because I wrote a book first and that was easy because I didn't really have to talk to people. But stepping out and becoming a speaker and getting past, my normal way of being is an introvert and shy. People never believe me when they see me on stage, but I truly am a shy person. And so just getting out of my mold an d g etting confidence, getting courage, and really being able to do what I feel I've been purposed to do. And it's just, it's, I really can't even explain it, but it's just a great feeling to be able to kin da co me out of your shell. I was so shy that when I was in school, I would not even raise my hand if I knew the answer or I would be in a meeting and I would have something to contribute, but I just would not say anything. So I often run across introverts when I speak and they are like, "Oh my goodness, we're so much alike." And I just like to be able to share with them that just because you're shy or just because you are an introvert, that does not mean that you're not equipped to lead. And so I know I went off on a tangent, but...

Bailey:

It's all good. I'm glad you said that cause I was the same way in school and even if I'm sitting in a meeting now, I'm still the same way. Mostly just beause I wa nt t o g et it over with. So usually when I do have an answer it's really short and to the point and let's get this done, and I'm glad you, and I had the same growing pains and le adership too . T he first time I was in charge of other people it was lik e , "N ow what I do? I'm here. Y'all are here. Y'all, go do something." I don't know what to say. So it is a learning curve to it that I think more people need help starting out, but I'm glad you brought up the leadership because you're s chedul ed in a few weeks to speak at the AIC Cons tru ctor Conference about exceptional leadership. I think the title of your presentation is "Exceptional Leadership: Keys to Peak Performance." And without giving that away to people who don't want to pay the registration fee, can you give me a summary of what that presentation entails?

Jessica:

Yes, so this presentation is very interactive and engaging. So I hate going to boring presentations. As a licensed social worker, I maintain my license, so I'm required to go to trainings. I'm required to go to conferences and I don't want to be that person. So first of all, what you're gonna get is you're gonna have fun, you're gonn a get to interact with your peers. I'm not just going to stand up and and lecture you the entire time. It's also going to be very much hands on. So, I cover self-awareness, I cover emotional intelligence, I cover communication skills, and I really also cover how to handle offense in the workplace, how to handle conflict in the workplace, because that is one of the areas that a lot of people have to deal with on a day to day basis. They go to work and you might have someone that you just don't get along with or you you don't see eye to eye with. And I really show them how to work through those types of issues

Bailey:

And you're going to be dealing with a crowd of construction professionals, so I guarantee everybody in the room has had that particular issue there. So what kind of reception do you get normally when you've given this presentation?

Jessica:

I get a lot of great feedback and it's very practical. It's something that you can walk away with and you can go back and, and apply it in your day to day life and even in your personal life, because I believe that emotional intelligence is so important, because you can just fly off the handle and end up somewhere you really didn't want to be because you did not take the time to think things through. So, yeah.

Bailey:

So real quick question. When you g iven this presentation to groups in the past, are you able to walk in the room and k ind of spot weaknesses that the group has that you can key in on? Or do you get the fe edback f rom them at the end? I mean, what do pe ople say that benefits them about your presentations?

Jessica:

Yes, so I always have people come up to me and say, "I've heard things as far as this has been life changing." So I'm always, and I guess it doesn't matter how many times I hear it, It always, i t just, it impacts me when I hear this. They say, "You know, this has been life changing for me. You have really shown me how to come out of my shell," and I make it fun. So, um , but a lot of the weaknesses have been individuals who are afraid to take initiative. And so you can't be a peak performer or you can't even ascend into a leadership position if you're afraid to take initiative, if you're afraid to share your ideas, if you're afraid to say, "Hey, I would love to help you with that, but I really have something else that I have to get done." So a lot of times I'll run across individuals who are helpers and givers like I am and they find themselves not getting what they need to get done done because they are afraid to say "I can't help you." And I run into that a lot. Individuals who, they don't set boundaries, they don't prioritize. Everything is urgent when everything is not really urgent. And, if you're the kind of person that, if someone sends you an email and you have to check it right then and you have to answer the question right then and you have to get them to do cument that they want right then, the n ot her things that are probably more important are goi ng to be pushed back. And so that's just one of those productivity things that you have to get into place as well as systems. And I don't want to get into that, but there are j ust things that you have to have in place if you want to be a peak performer.

Bailey:

Now, I feel like you're talking directly to me on that one, but I'm sure, I'm sure there's others that will be there that are just like me in that regard. We love getting things done to a, to a detriment at some point. So I'm glad you said that. You also have your "Accelerated Success" coaching program. I'm looking on your website again. I don't think I've ever tried to discourage anybody from starting a business or even just improving themselves where they are. When someone wants to go into that route of personal development, business founding, whatever, what's the number one roadblock that you see people having trouble with when they try to come to your coaching program?

Jessica:

So one of the blocks people have had has been confidence and feeling like they want to do it, but they just feel like they don't have the skill, they don't have the resources, or "Who would want to listen to me?" I've had a lot of people who have big dreams of doing business o r writing a book or becoming a speaker or a coach, but there's just something in them saying, "I just don't know if I can do it." And I will share with them that I been there and I would go to conferences and look at speakers and say, "Wow, I don't think I could ever do that." But when I took the time to try to do it at least, and the more I did it, the more I found that, "Oh, I'm actually better at this than I thought," but I never would have known that I could do it had I not tried it. So what I like to encourage people to do is "Stop talking about it," which is what I usually will say. "Stop talking about it and make a move." Even if it's just as simple as writing out what you would like to do, making a phone call or if you're shy, going to a conference and actually network with people and not hide in the corner. So I think a lot of times people are just dealing with um, wha t t hey feel are inadequacies.

Bailey:

This is great. I know everyone that goes to AIC's conference in particular is going to get a lot out of your presentation. But, if someone is interested in learning more about you and what you do, what is the best way for them to reach out to you directly?

Jessica:

Yeah , so they can visit my website at expectingvictory.com. They can also send me an email at [email protected] com.

Bailey:

Awesome. With that, we'll call it a wrap. Jessica, thank you so much for your time. I a l most feel like I should be paying you for this one because I've got a paper full of notes I took for myself on the re, s o it's been great. I can't thank you enough. You're awesome.

Jessica:

Thank you and thank you for having me.

Bailey:

All right, my pleasure. Alright, there you have it. Once again, that was Dr. Jessica Houston. She will be one of the keynote speakers at the upcoming Constructor Conference in Philadelphia, November 7 through November 10. Check out the website, cc2019.org to learn more about that conference. To know more about AIC, American Institute of Constructors, and what they do, the website for that is professionalconstructor.org. Once again, I'm Bailey. If you're listening, you're awesome, thank you so much. Be sure to tell your friends, all of them if you want, and until next time, take care.

Dr. Houston's purpose and career
Learning to lead
Intro to "Exceptional Leadership"
Benefits of "Exceptional Leadership"
Building blocks to personal independence