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I couldn't dream this big. So why?"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":594.42,"endTime":598.95,"body":"Why is it at this point that I seem"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":594.42,"endTime":598.95,"body":"to be at a point far bigger than my"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":598.95,"endTime":601.83,"body":"imagination could ever have"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":598.95,"endTime":601.83,"body":"imagined? And I think to myself,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":601.83,"endTime":606.6,"body":"when is enough enough? When will"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":601.83,"endTime":606.6,"body":"I get out of the comparison trap?"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":606.6,"endTime":609.33,"body":"And all of a sudden I started realizing"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":606.6,"endTime":609.33,"body":"the minute I stopped comparing myself"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":610.26,"endTime":611.85,"body":"about four or five years ago, I was like,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":611.88,"endTime":616.56,"body":"I'm gonna make the active decision"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":611.88,"endTime":616.56,"body":"to stop comparing myself. And the"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":616.56,"endTime":621.51,"body":"minute I stopped comparing myself, I"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":616.56,"endTime":621.51,"body":"opened up time, I opened up energy,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":622.02,"endTime":625.32,"body":"I started receiving things."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":622.02,"endTime":625.32,"body":"I talked to myself nicer."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":625.47,"endTime":630.24,"body":"I started reaching my goals faster"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":625.47,"endTime":630.24,"body":"because I wasn't wasting any time or"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":630.24,"endTime":634.56,"body":"energy or bandwidth worrying about why"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":630.24,"endTime":634.56,"body":"somebody else had something I didn't"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":634.57,"endTime":637.71,"body":"have. 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I don't know about you,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":645.93,"endTime":650.04,"body":"but I'm gonna let you borrow what I"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":645.93,"endTime":650.04,"body":"nama stayed myself through in yoga."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":651.42,"endTime":653.79,"body":"I am enjoying the journey."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":654.96,"endTime":657.42,"body":"I am not focused on the destination."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":659.01,"endTime":661.47,"body":"I am learning how to play the game."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":662.37,"endTime":666.66,"body":"I am not focusing on how to win"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":662.37,"endTime":666.66,"body":"the game because let's be real."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":666.99,"endTime":669.48,"body":"Simon Sinek had this conversation"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":666.99,"endTime":669.48,"body":"and he posed this question,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":669.72,"endTime":674.64,"body":"how do you win the game of"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":669.72,"endTime":674.64,"body":"business? Is it the most money?"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":675.15,"endTime":677.97,"body":"Well, if we're speaking"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":675.15,"endTime":677.97,"body":"historically every year,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":677.98,"endTime":681.45,"body":"people are making more and more money."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":677.98,"endTime":681.45,"body":"So the person who was the most successful"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":681.45,"endTime":682.56,"body":"in 2019,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":682.77,"endTime":686.94,"body":"are they no longer a success"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":682.77,"endTime":686.94,"body":"because somebody in 2024"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":686.94,"endTime":689.31,"body":"did or were they a success?"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":689.76,"endTime":692.31,"body":"How does one win at business in general?"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":692.79,"endTime":697.29,"body":"Is it the most toys is the most"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":692.79,"endTime":697.29,"body":"money, most buildings, most employees,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":697.5,"endTime":701.43,"body":"most profit, most social fol, what"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":697.5,"endTime":701.43,"body":"is it? And at the end of the day,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":701.46,"endTime":703.65,"body":"you cannot win the game of business."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":704.73,"endTime":709.29,"body":"You could play it really well"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":704.73,"endTime":709.29,"body":"because the game is circular."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":709.59,"endTime":711.09,"body":"The game goes on."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":711.72,"endTime":716.08,"body":"So if we know that us pursuing our dreams"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":711.72,"endTime":716.08,"body":"and us having this desire to start a"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":716.08,"endTime":719.32,"body":"business and us realizing that"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":716.08,"endTime":719.32,"body":"it's a journey and it's a game,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":719.35,"endTime":723.34,"body":"how might we enjoy the journey?"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":719.35,"endTime":723.34,"body":"How might we enjoy the game?"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":724.33,"endTime":726.76,"body":"Gratitude. That's it."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":727.66,"endTime":732.58,"body":"Gratitude is taking the deep"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":727.66,"endTime":732.58,"body":"realization and this momentous moment"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":733.21,"endTime":737.56,"body":"that we are the 1% of the 1% of the"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":737.56,"endTime":742.09,"body":"1% in this great world"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":737.56,"endTime":742.09,"body":"who gets to choose to do"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":742.09,"endTime":744.91,"body":"something might not be easy,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":745.96,"endTime":749.95,"body":"and it might not be simple, and"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":745.96,"endTime":749.95,"body":"it might not be fast. In fact,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":749.98,"endTime":754.66,"body":"it will probably be the hardest thing"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":749.98,"endTime":754.66,"body":"you will ever do in your professional"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":754.66,"endTime":756.4,"body":"life. It might be."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":757.63,"endTime":760.6,"body":"But having a business is a luxury"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":762.19,"endTime":766.66,"body":"building in a place or economy that"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":762.19,"endTime":766.66,"body":"empowers you to change your life."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":766.69,"endTime":768.88,"body":"Legacy is luxury."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":769.75,"endTime":774.7,"body":"Gratitude keeps you in the place"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":769.75,"endTime":774.7,"body":"of what I have is enough for now."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":775.0,"endTime":777.76,"body":"And if I cannot appreciate"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":775.0,"endTime":777.76,"body":"what I have now,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":777.88,"endTime":782.83,"body":"how can I ever appreciate the things I"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":777.88,"endTime":782.83,"body":"want in the future? Gratitude my friends,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":782.86,"endTime":783.88,"body":"is a gangster."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":784.3,"endTime":789.1,"body":"Gratitude makes you unmissable with"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":784.3,"endTime":789.1,"body":"because when you focus on what you"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":789.1,"endTime":793.21,"body":"have, it becomes exactly"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":789.1,"endTime":793.21,"body":"what it is you need."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":794.77,"endTime":799.03,"body":"What you have is enough for now."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":799.72,"endTime":804.55,"body":"And if you so choose"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":799.72,"endTime":804.55,"body":"to pursue more and want"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":804.55,"endTime":809.53,"body":"more and get more and support"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":804.55,"endTime":809.53,"body":"others and make this world a"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":809.53,"endTime":813.31,"body":"better place, and be an"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":809.53,"endTime":813.31,"body":"example that you wish you had,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":813.49,"endTime":817.81,"body":"and share the information you wish you"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":813.49,"endTime":817.81,"body":"knew and have conversations with other"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":817.82,"endTime":820.51,"body":"people who don't seem like"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":817.82,"endTime":820.51,"body":"they're worthy of your time,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":820.51,"endTime":823.96,"body":"and yet you make time for them. When you"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":820.51,"endTime":823.96,"body":"go out of the way to the person who's"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":823.96,"endTime":825.79,"body":"sitting in the corner of the room,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":825.88,"endTime":829.3,"body":"when you go out of the way to talk to"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":825.88,"endTime":829.3,"body":"the person who hasn't said much in a"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":829.3,"endTime":829.87,"body":"while,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":829.87,"endTime":834.37,"body":"when you go out of the way to ensure that"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":829.87,"endTime":834.37,"body":"this game of business that you play is"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":834.37,"endTime":836.41,"body":"benefited when more"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":834.37,"endTime":836.41,"body":"people are in the game,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":837.85,"endTime":841.81,"body":"can we not express gratitude that we are"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":837.85,"endTime":841.81,"body":"in the position to do things that other"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":841.81,"endTime":846.67,"body":"people have not had the courage to do"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":841.81,"endTime":846.67,"body":"that haven't had the wherewithal to do"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":846.88,"endTime":850.42,"body":"that haven't had the"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":846.88,"endTime":850.42,"body":"opportunity to do friends?"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":850.42,"endTime":853.3,"body":"I am here to tell you that my"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":850.42,"endTime":853.3,"body":"father is an immigrant from Mexico,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":853.3,"endTime":857.26,"body":"and he has had a dream his"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":853.3,"endTime":857.26,"body":"whole life to start a business."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":858.22,"endTime":861.88,"body":"My father dreams of a taco stand."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":862.6,"endTime":863.86,"body":"And let me tell you, my dad,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":863.86,"endTime":868.39,"body":"my dad can make some epic tacos. My dad"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":863.86,"endTime":868.39,"body":"can make a taco that puts all tacos to"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":868.4,"endTime":869.65,"body":"shame. I will tell you."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":870.34,"endTime":874.96,"body":"And he has this dream of opening Pancho"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":870.34,"endTime":874.96,"body":"leans in Los Angeles, California."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":876.01,"endTime":878.83,"body":"My dad is in his seventies. And"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":876.01,"endTime":878.83,"body":"the likelihood of that happening,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":878.98,"endTime":881.56,"body":"though not impossible, may not be likely."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":882.61,"endTime":887.41,"body":"And so when he sees his children being"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":882.61,"endTime":887.41,"body":"able to do something that he wished he"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":887.41,"endTime":888.243,"body":"did,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":888.58,"endTime":893.54,"body":"he reminds me of how proud he is"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":888.58,"endTime":893.54,"body":"and reminds me that he took jobs"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":893.54,"endTime":897.53,"body":"that he did not like, so that his"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":893.54,"endTime":897.53,"body":"children would never have to do that."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":897.8,"endTime":901.19,"body":"My father took four, sometimes"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":897.8,"endTime":901.19,"body":"five jobs at one time,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":902.15,"endTime":906.77,"body":"so that he gave me the"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":902.15,"endTime":906.77,"body":"luxury of building upon his"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":906.77,"endTime":908.9,"body":"shoulders and upon his legacy."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":909.5,"endTime":913.4,"body":"So let us not forget the people who have"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":909.5,"endTime":913.4,"body":"gone before us that have given us this"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":913.4,"endTime":916.1,"body":"luxury to do what it is we do."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":916.91,"endTime":919.88,"body":"How do we stop comparing ourselves?"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":916.91,"endTime":919.88,"body":"Number one,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":920.18,"endTime":924.56,"body":"we make the active decision"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":920.18,"endTime":924.56,"body":"to simply decide, I will stop."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":925.4,"endTime":929.27,"body":"Number two, we will remind ourselves"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":925.4,"endTime":929.27,"body":"that this is an active journey."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":929.27,"endTime":932.45,"body":"And though we are tempted to look at"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":929.27,"endTime":932.45,"body":"what other people are doing or what they"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":932.45,"endTime":936.83,"body":"have or the results that we"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":932.45,"endTime":936.83,"body":"too desire, we say in our time,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":937.04,"endTime":941.54,"body":"because if I do not quit, I cannot lose."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":942.86,"endTime":947.72,"body":"Let's quote my Alex Hermo that I"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":942.86,"endTime":947.72,"body":"remind myself often. And number three,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":948.02,"endTime":952.43,"body":"we express gratitude for us"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":948.02,"endTime":952.43,"body":"being able to do the dang thing"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":952.64,"endTime":955.52,"body":"we so desperately wanted to do."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":956.63,"endTime":960.59,"body":"For those of you who are"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":956.63,"endTime":960.59,"body":"interested, y'all big, big,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":960.65,"endTime":963.59,"body":"big fan of having these"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":960.65,"endTime":963.59,"body":"types of conversations."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":963.59,"endTime":967.88,"body":"It is always an honor and a privilege"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":963.59,"endTime":967.88,"body":"to be able to do so and have"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":967.88,"endTime":970.46,"body":"conversations y'all. My"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":967.88,"endTime":970.46,"body":"name is Jasmine Starr."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":970.46,"endTime":973.55,"body":"I am on all social"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":970.46,"endTime":973.55,"body":"platforms at Jasmine Star."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":973.55,"endTime":978.17,"body":"It is an honor and a privilege for the"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":973.55,"endTime":978.17,"body":"people who listen to the Jasmine Star"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":978.17,"endTime":978.74,"body":"Show."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":978.74,"endTime":982.73,"body":"It is a podcast that reaches out to"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":978.74,"endTime":982.73,"body":"people so that we can build a community of"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":982.73,"endTime":985.01,"body":"people who are willing to, yes,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":985.01,"endTime":989.39,"body":"be resilient and get up after"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":985.01,"endTime":989.39,"body":"we've been knocked down. And yes,"},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":989.6,"endTime":994.07,"body":"choose gratitude instead of comparison."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":989.6,"endTime":994.07,"body":"I hope you have a beautiful day. Thanks."},{"speaker":"Now here's the beauty bed of 5","startTime":994.13,"endTime":995.09,"body":"Blessings. Bye."}]}