Jasmine Star 00:00:00  Welcome to day four of the five day Growth Challenge. We're nearing the end of our celebration with our 500th episode and our fifth anniversary of our podcast. Today, we're going to be talking about something that's that's often overlooked, but it's incredibly powerful. Restarting. Whether it's a project, a routine, or even your mindset, knowing when and how to restore it can make all the difference. And as always, if you leave a review during this challenge, you'll be entered to win $500. So stick around until the end for your action step.

Jasmine Star 00:00:28  I'm going to be sharing my five part restart framework, which I created not just to help you restart, but to stay on track and plan for challenges. Now I'm going to name the first five before diving into each one so that you can follow along. And step one is to remove feelings of shame and self-doubt. Step two is to identify the lessons learned. Step three is to create your restart plan. Step four is to take action and keep going in step five.

Jasmine Star 00:00:56  Well, no, you're going to have to wait and see what the last and final glorious step is. Hey, how's that for a cliffhanger. Okay, so let's start with step number one remove feelings of shame and self-judgment. I want to prioritize this step because of a concept known as emotional readiness. This means being mentally and emotionally prepared to grow from your past experiences, feelings of shame, and self-judgment. Those can absolutely cloud your ability to reflect on what happened. So we have to remove those feelings first. Okay, so what does this really mean? Your feelings can slow. Your feelings can stop your success. Not facts, not talent, not potential, not great feelings. When you feel embarrassed about the past, your mind literally stops you from showing up to fully avoid the potential of shame and self-judgment and embarrassment again. But feelings are fleeting. Feelings change. Just because I'm feeling like people are looking at my second attempt, it doesn't make it true. Just because I feel shame about the past doesn't mean that other people are, in fact, shaming me.

Jasmine Star 00:02:08  So why am I saying this? Because I'm begging you not to index your life based on feelings, and assume that just because you feel it, it makes it true. In fact, more often than not, our feelings are misguided. Instead of letting our emotions push us around, what if we removed them right at the beginning of our restart? Okay, so how do we remove shame and self-judgment? Well, here are three things you can do. First, reclaim your identity. Know that everyone quits something at one point or another. Does that make them all quitters? No. Quitting doesn't define you. It doesn't find your worth and doesn't define your potential. So I want you to disassociate yourself from quitting. And don't let yourself identify as a quitter, because you're simply not one. If you're restarting, I want to invite you to identify yourself as a starter. That is way more true about your current decision. So carefully reclaim your identity. You're not a quitter. You're a starter. Okay. And you know, here's a little bonus tip.

Jasmine Star 00:03:11  If you're just like, I'm not sure I buy this. No problem. Can you make a list of accomplishments, like, you know, or maybe make a list of something that you've started and finished, or if it's something you told yourself you would do and then did it. Write it down. I mean, it could be as simple as like, oh, I made the commitment to organize my pantry. Great. You started it and you finished it. I made the commitment to meet my mom once a month for lunch. Great. You did it. You started it and you continued with it. So put all that out there. Because what I want you to do is start proving to yourself that you can trust yourself. When you follow through with what you said you would do in the past, it's proof that you can do it again in the future. Secondly, I want you to reframe the narrative instead of viewing quitting as a failure. See it as a learning experience or a stepping stone because y'all will know success isn't linear.

Jasmine Star 00:04:04  Maybe there was a lesson you needed to learn. I want you to look back and frame the thing that you call a failure and say, what did I learn from that? What was this lesson? And the third way I recommend for you to remove shame is to talk about what happened. Brené Brown, renowned shame expert. You know, you know I love me some Brené Brown. She says that shame needs three things to grow in our lives secrecy, silence, and judgment. So being open and talking about what happened or why you quit will actually help remove the shame and get started again. So after you finish step one, removing shame and judgment, you're ready to move on to step two, which is to identify the lessons learned. Michael Jordan said, quote, I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games 26 times. I have been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.

Jasmine Star 00:05:03  Oh. End quote. Michael Jordan is Michael Jordan because he learned lessons from his failures. One of the best ways to identify lessons, in my opinion, is to reflect while journaling. And I know it might sound cliche, but I don't care. I journal every single day, every day. But I can say this with confidence because I journal just for 5 to 10 minutes. Like it is not anything fancy. It is not anything extensive. It's a practice I use to develop mental strength, but quite literally writing down my pressure point, my pitfall, my quitting, and then in real time, changing the narrative. Man, it's a game changer. I'm forcing myself to see what good can come from the decision, or the amazing lessons I've learned, or how I'm better because of what happened. You know, journaling is simple, but it's not easy. So I'm going to share with you some prompts that I would use if I were trying to dissect the lessons learned from quitting something. Okay, here we go.

Jasmine Star 00:06:02  Just three questions. Just three questions that will serve as a great way to journal for 5 or 10 minutes. Number one, what were the circumstances that led to my decision to quit? Number two. What were the consequences of my decision? Both positive and negative. What have I learned from this experience and how has it shaped me? After writing the answers to these prompts, take some time to reflect on your responses. Notice any patterns or emotions that led to quitting. Notice what made you feel overwhelmed? What led you to being burned out? Maybe it's an improper allocation of resources. Anything. Just list the stuff and when you're done for each pattern or motion, ask yourself, how can I prevent this from derailing me again in the future? Write these down. Okay, so what you're doing is you're journaling. You're seeing what not to do. You're seeing how to prevent it in the future. And now you have a nice little framework. Okay, I'm gonna move on to step three. And that is to create your restart plan.

Jasmine Star 00:07:01  This should consist of five things your objectives, your timeline, your rituals and routines, your contingency plan, your rewards and your support system. So step three has some points if you're following along and taking notes. Now, this is going to help you prioritize your tasks, your deadlines, and stay accountable to your commitment. So let's break down each of these using an example. Let's say you started a podcast and you quit, and now you want to restart your podcast. Cool. First, I want you to define your objectives. You're going to want to lean into why you are creating. What could restarting make it possible for you in your business? Like why are you doing it? Get very clear on what you hope to accomplish by restarting right? When you have your podcast, what is your goal? Is it to increase sales? Enhance customer experience? Growing your brand awareness. When you know why, it helps you stick to your plan. Okay, so for example, you're starting your podcast. Your goal might be to reestablish your presence in the podcasting space.

Jasmine Star 00:08:03  Oh, maybe it's to attract a larger audience, or to have a self-made resource to send to your audience members who ask you questions. Then it's time to move on to your timeline. You'll need to develop a schedule that outlines the steps you're going to need to take to relaunch your project. An important step here is to set deadlines for each task. I want you to deconstruct the bigger projects into smaller, trackable steps that will keep you on track. That will remove overwhelm, yes, and build your confidence to find you in a forward momentum for restarting a podcast, you know? This is the example we're going to use. This could look like reverse engineering a plan from your relaunch date. So if you want to relaunch the show by June 30th, you're going to want to create content by, you know, have a plan ready by the 1st of May. And then you're going to want to record episodes by May 7th. And then you're going to want to get the episodes edited by May 14th. So you're going to be setting a timeline.

Jasmine Star 00:08:56  Setting these achievable, smaller deadlines will keep you accountable for taking action and help you stay on track for achieving your goals. After you have your objectives and your timeline, you can move on to creating your rituals and routines. I know I sound so mean. You're like girl, you live in California. I know I cannot stress this enough. The less the brain needs to think about doing something, the less likely it's going to try to talk you out of doing it. When you establish daily or weekly rituals that support your restarting efforts, you'll begin to enjoy and look forward to the process, and your motivation won't be dependent on the outcome. This is super important, okay? For example, when restarting a podcast, you might designate Monday mornings for brainstorming and planning upcoming episode topics. The ritual could be sitting outside, drinking your coffee and listening to the birds chirp. Creating this ritual around the task is going to help you build the habit and stay consistent.

Jasmine Star 00:09:55  Restarting isn't the sign of failure. It's a sign of growth.

Jasmine Star 00:09:59  And it's about giving yourself permission to begin again, to become stronger and wiser. Your action step for today is to commit to one thing you're going to restart. And don't forget leaving. Review during this challenge enters you for a chance to win $500. And tomorrow is our final day. We're going to be talking about embracing a new identity. I can't wait to wrap up this journey with you. I'll see you then.