Speaker 1

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Speaker 2

Hi and welcome to the Jasmine star show, a space on the podcasting hemisphere that we talk about life business and everything on the in between and I couldn't think of a better episode than starting with something along those lines. Right about here. What you'll hear is an entire episode of the podcast recorded on my iPhone. This is going to be an inside look into my life in my business over the span of a week. Now I will say it's probably not any average week. This is a week in quarantine, it's a week during a worldwide pandemic. It is a week where we are trying to figure out how to number one serve our customers as well, but also serve the need of other businesses and business owners really well too. I kind of sorta debated putting this podcast together because number one, it feels very personal and number two, it wasn't as clean as I like podcasts to be, so let me explain what I mean by clean when it comes to storytelling. There was always a beginning, a middle and an end. In fact, like the best podcast and the best stories follow a very formulaic kind of arc. The arc starts with the protagonist, AKA the hero, AKA the person who's talking and what I like to do and what the arc usually follows is the person starts off with an idea or a thesis or theory and through a process of questions and experiences and conversations is a very different person at the end of the story and what makes podcasts work really well and conversations and stories work really well is understanding the transformation of that person. This also is clearly articulated in blockbuster movies like star Wars and like the gladiator, right? Somebody at the beginning goes through lots of ups and downs and then ends up a different person. I'll be at better at the end. Well, this podcast doesn't follow that arc whatsoever. In fact, I kind of struggled with really sharing a lot of the aspects of what was going on because I wondered would anybody care more? So does this actually help somebody? And I'm going to put it out with the hopes that it does help somebody, that it helps give an inside look into a business navigating a really crazy time in human history. So what you're about to hear are clips and snippets from my personal life. Big crazy things are happening for me right now. And some of them I'm even a little bit embarrassed to talk about and big unexpected twists and turns within my business. I am creating this podcast almost in real time and I hope at some point in the near future I will be able to come back and talk about how things ended, how things fared , and the lessons I learned along the way. So without further ado, you're going to hear a myriad of clips and then you'll hear me come back trying to connect a lot of the dots to bring you in on the journey and let you know we're all in this together.

Speaker 3

If you're listening to this podcast in real time, something you are very familiar with is how we're all looking a little, shall I say, authentic to our true selves during quarantine. And by that I mean in the nicest way possible. JD kind of needs a haircut.

Speaker 4

I think you could totally let me cut your hair, but I don't see how your mom, it can tell your hair better than I can know . Your mom does not cut hair . She hasn't cut your hair since you were 14 she does not get your, I can cut your hair. Just trust me to cut your hair. Just let me cut your hair. I'm offended. I can cut your hair better than your dad. I am offended. You're very rude.

Speaker 3

He didn't let me cut his hair, but I'll forgive him because he is cooking almost all of our meals.

Speaker 5

Yeah. So you're like, I actually want like you've been working all day and usually it's not fun to unpack groceries, but when you haven't been able to go out for like weeks,

Speaker 3

well I'll unpack groceries. Okay. All on Packers or use bait . Just spray them down with some uncle . Okay . We're spraying our groceries down with alcohol because of blessing of Holy water. No, no, no, don't say that. That's totally inappropriate. Okay.

Speaker 5

Oh , we're watching all this down . But um , honestly like I love to cook, but I'm cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner every day . [inaudible] it's kind of made a card and here's the thing, it takes, it takes the magic away. Did I not make you the best breakfast taco today? That was good. Yeah, that was really good actually. It was so good that you should, you should make breakfast, lunch and dinner for two weeks straight.

Speaker 3

And then we each like, I had a salad for lunch and then you had a sandwich. So we're , we're equal.

Speaker 5

Wait, I figured I'll sit here and try to say that. Where are you ? Okay. Listen, for the last three weeks I've been making breakfast, lunch and dinner and yes, yesterday you had a talk. I've had a taco from you then . That's great. And here's the, I would love for you to

Speaker 6

cook every single day. But what I guess my point is cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner for two weeks straight kind of takes the joy out of how much I love to cook. It kind of just makes it more of a, like it's, it's a, it's a thing. It's like before I used to cook and I used to like, I couldn't wait to see , to hear your reaction, like how good is it? And I would want to make amazing food all the time. But now I'm getting to a point where it's just like throw something on a plate and eat it.

Speaker 3

That's not true. Okay. So a couple of days ago, a couple of days ago where is sitting, we were sitting at the table and it's like, okay, but hold on, let's go back. I just, I feel right. But even, even if it's not right ,

Speaker 6

I'd love to , I love, I love cooking. I'm not , it's not taking away the joy.

Speaker 3

Okay. So we're sitting at the , we're sitting at the deck , we're sitting at our dining room table and there's this beautifully piece of like beautiful piece of like grilled fish. And it had like Terragon and dill and there was beautiful vegetable on the side. I don't really remember everything. It was just beautiful. And I was eating this and you said, this is my way of showing coven that it doesn't own me because during this crisis we're eating fresh herbs. It's , you're telling me, you said that cooking is your way to show coven what's up.

Speaker 6

It is. It is. And I feel today, you know, today I feel a little beat up. Like it's , it's , I don't feel like I'm winning today, just today. But you know, it's like it happens. I kind of just, I wish I could just order a pizza or I wish I could go to a restaurant and have dinner, you know? But since we're at home, I'm not doing that .

Speaker 3

Okay. But between me and you listening right now, I'm so happy that he's been cooking so much because I don't like to go out to eat as much as he does. Are you hearing me? I know, I know you don't like to go out. Okay . But let's quickly go. Let's quickly go through the, the, the groceries. We have,

Speaker 6

I'm thinking is I just want to use , see what we have so that your expectations are tempered for the week.

Speaker 3

I really should say that I am quite impressed because we have gluten free four cheese ravioli with organic cubed butternut squash. We have a bone broth, Thai Curry soup with coconut milk and heavy whipping cream and organic cream premium because I feel like we're doing something Thai . Right? Yeah .

Speaker 6

I , I mean coconut milk is always a there [inaudible]

Speaker 3

Oh, and then you , you held up this baby Callie Leni . It's Bibbet troll flair and French and it's fancy and it's just really good. Roasted roasted cauliflower. Indian Curry would be great. And then we have a chef's sampler of very, very fancy mushrooms, organic McCarthy from dosa and trumpet Royale and clamshell and velvet POB me . And we have some Brown rice and some salsa and some, Oh look at this majestic sprouted hummus, cilantro, jalapeno.

Speaker 6

Well, and you know what? And we had , I had that, we don't ever drink juice really? But

Speaker 3

you okay. We don't

Speaker 2

drink juice in the house, but he bought Limeade . I feel like, you know, I mean jet, you know. Thank you. I didn't buy any canned tomato sauce. I just got tomatoes and I just thought, Oh he , you didn't buy canned tomatoes . So he's just gonna whip up some homemade tomato sauce. Well thank you. Thanks for you work. You are a Hunter today. You went and hunted for food. You little provider. You.

Speaker 3

Thank you. I'm American hunting right there. Although JD isn't loving having to cook every meal, we are definitely both enjoying this time with our little family. In addition to building our business, we spend our days making each other laugh, hanging out with our dog polo and finding new ways to keep our daughter smiling despite being inside all day. Do , do this really rather uncertain time that she's blissfully unaware of.

Speaker 7

We have a song for her. It's my song. I'm going to make it . I made it up just for you. It's clothes and shoulders, knees and toes, knees and toes. And so his knees and toes, knees.

Speaker 2

Hey,

Speaker 7

shoulders. Pez cause knees . And

Speaker 3

so during this time , uh , JD and I have been listening to online classes and webinars of people speaking about how they're building their businesses and how they are surviving during a crisis and things that we can prepare. So listening heavily to people who went through the 2008 recession to kind of have like a retrospect and today we are listening as we make lunch to one of those classes today.

Speaker 8

Um, I think a lot of businesses are asking themselves the wrong question. The question that we all reflectively ask ourselves, how do I rebuild my business as fast as possible? I think that's the wrong question. I think the right question to ask is if I were starting my business today, what business would I do? And uh , it's something very cathartic when you allow yourself,

Speaker 3

I mean, shout out to Matt Higgins for that deep advice during this time. JD and I both believe it's important to continue showing up for members of social curator no matter what.

Speaker 2

Alright , I'm going to go live.

Speaker 7

All right . I'm so tired. You are. Yes, but I need a show up. Oh, Hey, we have a sip on. Open the door and on the left there's a little can open up and

Speaker 2

no, I'm not drinking rock star right now. That's, I'm not treating a rock star right now. It is one

Speaker 3

20 in the afternoon. I'm not turning [inaudible] .

Speaker 7

You will show up for this. You'll be like, woo . But that's co-team. I just want to say it . Okay. Are you going to drink it with me? That's a big candidate . I don't know if this stuff expires right? Oh my God, this is disgusting. Yeah , I'll put it in your mouth

Speaker 3

and you're feeding Luna and I'm feeding you

Speaker 7

cough syrup. This is disgusting. That was a girl , Stacy one . The nods. One's a good one. You know . Well, I have some energy to go and do some coaching. No. Okay, so do you want to a ,

Speaker 3

I texted her, but I think I just have to do this on my own. But the minute that you're done feeding her, maybe you can hop on and say it's going to be really short.

Speaker 7

You'll get it. When I ended up getting her , I burp her and then I can do it all myself. Yeah, I mean , I just feel like if you want me to do it, no, I'll get it . I get it. Again, hang on it, although where's our team? But our team is here to support you. Yeah, I know where this was unexpected. I was just going to come in here and share the bonuses. The 70 was on there today this morning, so just ask , does the price bonuses Saturday was on , but everybody was working so hard on getting those bonuses up right now. Like everybody's just completely burnt out. So I don't want to ask and they all want to be working for you. I want to help you.

Speaker 3

No, it's Friday and I feel so bad. Everybody's working so hard and it's, you know, almost ended day , uh , for a tip on the East coast. And I'm like,

Speaker 7

well , we UE , it's almost happy hour for them. They're even more excited.

Speaker 3

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Speaker 2

the PDF and you can copy and paste all this week also felt a little strange because it was my first and hopefully only birthday in quarantine since we can't go out JD and I plan to celebrate it at home. No, but if I don't have a cake, it's not my birthday, but like I don't want a cupcake because I want to see you decorate my cake. I don't want cupcakes. I want a cake. Yes . I literally don't even have a party. We can't go out to a restaurant

Speaker 5

to decorate like 10 cupcakes and it was one cake. It's easy to do one cake.

Speaker 2

I just feel like a cake. Makes it feel like a birthday.

Speaker 5

Fine . Call to Kate . Although you like donuts more. I should just make you a doughnut tower.

Speaker 2

I don't want to done it to her. So can you tell me a little bit about how these two cookies are bad? I feel like you're throwing a bunch of shade because you're just leaving all the sugary things that I like and I don't feel like we need to not have this cake , but , but it's right. It's just principle . Like if you have a piece of cake, it's officially your birthday. Since we decided I will have cake. Oh, how are you? How are you going to decorate the cake? I would like a visual [inaudible]

Speaker 5

Hey, I'm , um , I'm a purist, you know, one of the frosting sprinkles. You're there . You're done. It's good . I just think that, I mean, what do you want? What do you really want? What I feel like if I know what you kind of,

Speaker 2

I feel like I feel like if you, I feel I just want my cake decorated. The amount that you love me. Like I want to look at the cake and be like

Speaker 5

the case. Then I'm not going to be making this cake for about two weeks. I'm going to get an installation. Then that's the case. Don't do that. Never finished .

Speaker 2

Well I can't wait.

Speaker 5

You want that? I mean is that really your standard? That is go crazy like me saying , you know Jasmine fireworks kind of to do , to claim your house like that just shows how much you love. Okay . One frosting. A cake is not this . He was buying you a house. Okay. So to me it's the same thing. What do you want? Do you want to have my cake with me? Yes . It's my first birthday with you. Yes. Any cake it is

Speaker 2

Kate. No . Okay. See she wants cake too.

Speaker 5

Noah. I'm going to put on my mic . I'm going to top it with like the computer and some post it notes. Unicorn. It's going to be like jazz and stuff like fireworks

Speaker 2

to come out of it. A little leprechauns dancing.

Speaker 9

All right , well now that you asked, I mean you should've asked. I mean, I should've been preparing like the row , like it was like the Rose parade. I should've been preparing for this a year ago, but okay,

Speaker 2

we're going to see them then . We'll see. We'll see. Huh? That's right girl. And with that,

Speaker 3

it was my birthday on the essential curator team. We have a tradition that whenever somebody is celebrating their birthday, we all sing on our weekly team meeting. Now, I have to warn you, our team is entirely virtual with members all over the country. And our meetings are held on a video conferencing platform called zoom. This means that with the lag, the birthday song is terrible. Okay? It's terribly awesome. But y'all , it always makes us crack up. It doesn't get old. For my birthday, our team whipped out guitars, noisemakers of violin. Somebody brought out spoons, a JD brought out a pot and a wooden spoon. And of course everybody had their own beautiful vocal chords to serenade me.

Speaker 10

Okay.

Speaker 4

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Speaker 10

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Speaker 2

happy birthday to me. I am working today, had a team meeting the team saying happy birthday. Uh, we're still in quarantine and I have a twin sister and it feels a little bit weird to not spend our birthdays together. Probably the first time in our entire life that we haven't spent it together. So that is taking a little bit of a bittersweet turn to the day. Although J D worked so hard and he made a birthday cake and it is a really cute birthday cake. I think he did a phenomenal job and I converted him because he was like, I think I just want to take a taste of the cake. So in a couple hours we're going to be having a video conferencing call with my family. But I feel like there has been something that we haven't been talking about because it's been my birthday, but I feel like we should be talking about it because it's my birthday and I don't want to avoid conversations just because they're uncomfortable. In fact, this past weekend, one of the things that came to the forefront of my mind is we have to let go of the old to welcome the new. And like that was my birthday thought, but I think it's turning into like a life thought. And here's why. We moved into an apartment about a month ago. I actually shared about that experience a few times on the podcast, but in the past month it's taken a lot more for us to get accustomed to living in such a small space. And uh, in addition to everything that's going on in the world, I got an email from our apartment complex and they said that they will not be letting residents know if somebody had been diagnosed with Corona. And they said it was for privacy concerns. And so I emailed them back and I said, I don't need to know who the person is. I don't need to know where the person, like whether apartment is. But we live in a high rise and there is one door to enter our complex. And there is one elevator that everybody uses in this complex and there's one mail room and that mail room has a touchscreen that everybody touches to get their mail. And once you get your mail, if you have a package from Amazon, there is a key that's left in your box at key that everybody touches to get their content . Like and besides just like the doors, like there is an area where you could take your dogs, like there's a handle to get into that dog area too . I mean I just got really like overwhelmed and I emailed and I said, I don't need to know who this is. Like I don't need to know who's been sick, but I need to know if there's somebody sick in the complex. They emailed and then they decided to set up a meeting with me. So we had a conversation and they said that I should assume that our neighbors have Corona. They said we want you to be taking the proper precautions and we can't reveal identities or even confirmation , but just assume that your neighbors have Corona . And I can't even tell you how I feel about this. And I decided to not record my emotions two days ago because I was being way too emotional and I'm not an emotional person. I like to approach things like logically and empathetically. In fact, in my email I emailed , emailed them and I was like, Hey, I understand this is the first time that we have undergone a pandemic in recent history and this is the first time it's a brand new. It's a brand new high rise. And like they're trying to figure this all out too. So I said, I empathetically, I understand that you are trying to do right by your company, but I think you should also try to do right by the residents. So yesterday and I had a conversation about moving out of the apartment and they think it's kind of crazy and we are revisiting the conversation today and uh, it's my birthday and they think we might drive over to the house that we bought that I jokingly made a video on Instagram talking about like, wow, this house is so crazy and it's gonna take us forever. And like who could ever live in this place and now all of us that in the conversation is taking a very serious turn to how can we live in this place? And it wasn't like how could we live in this place? Question Mark, exclamation point. It was how we can live in this place colon and now we're looking for ways that we could actually live in the house. So, hi , do you want to talk about the house but wait , what are you talking about? I was just having a conversation with my friends on the podcast and I wanted just to be real about, I feel, I think I feel embarrassed that like I talked about building or like going in , fixing up a fixer upper and then moving into an apartment and then feeling like,

Speaker 6

but when you ever , what are you embarrassed? You're embarrassed that, that what? That people are gonna want me to let somebody down?

Speaker 2

No, I think, I feel like it was a very blatant mistake and like,

Speaker 6

Oh you're still embarrassed. Like personally embarrassed from like I'm embarrassed from what people are going to think of. Cause I said that.

Speaker 2

No, I think that like, it's a little ironic that now I, like I made, like I made a video of me walking through the house and I added all these gifts, like these gifts of like , okay, there's a scene in dumb and dumber and, and , okay, so this is Nina diamond number where they both start gagging, right? And what's his name? Oh, Jim Carey . And the gift was Jim Carrey like gagging. Right. And so I walked into the house and I put the Jim Carrey GIF of him gagging from dumb and dumber. And I was like, who could ever live here? And now I'm like, we're going to go back and we're going to live in that house because that house feels safer

Speaker 6

gifts . Now let me say it again, like gag together.

Speaker 2

But I feel like our life is like so crazy and I just felt like we were going to have, I felt like we were going to , it wasn't going to calm down. And now I feel embarrassed because it's the, I don't know why I feel embarrassed. I just feel embarrassed. So let's stop talking about why I'm embarrassed and let's start talking about what it lets me deflecting.

Speaker 6

Yeah. Yeah. No , I know you're being embarrassed. I, I get it. I mean, I don't get it, but I , I, I, I hear you

Speaker 2

cause I've been like that since I was a kid. I just get embarrassed about weird stuff.

Speaker 6

Yeah. For me, I just , uh , well nobody could predict, could have predicted what was gonna happen. So , um, it's one of those things where , uh, it's very, very, very disruptive in regards to we have to pick up and move again and I don't mind doing it. I just, I know that with a baby with Luna, it takes away from just how I thought we were going to kind of ease into this next six to seven months. Um,

Speaker 2

so what do you think, like, let's talk about like real quick, like how long do you think before we can move in because what do we want to do? Well, well , you want to go crazy.

Speaker 6

We want to get out of here as soon as possible. I get it. The thing is , um, we could be there in a week, but it would be exactly the way it is now. And I don't think it's pretty level .

Speaker 2

The carpet is older than my parents. Like no,

Speaker 6

I think it's going to take a month to run it to at least just get the floors out, the walls , the walls painted, and then um, you know, a week of moving again.

Speaker 2

Okay. So like five weeks, I think five weeks. Yeah. And I don't, I that you know, that, that like literally that makes me physically ill. I know like we're launching in four weeks. Right. That's why I think , and then we're going to move, you know, and like right after, so we were going to open the doors to social curator and then we, we move. Yes . And I think that makes us crazy.

Speaker 6

I think with you, I want to be, the thing is I'm , I'm usually involved with, you know, things that are going on with the business and all obviously our personal lives. But when it comes to this, I think that the move is gonna take up so much of my bandwidth that

Speaker 2

I'm going to like just, I'm not, I feel bad because I'm not gonna be here for, how about the week of the lunch ? You just, Oh , just check in with construction, but you're not there.

Speaker 6

This is the week where we're , where you want to be moving, right? No, that'd be crazy. Right? You're not doing any of it just ,

Speaker 2

no, but if when we're launching, I don't want to sit in a house full of like boxes eating out of, like to go containers. Right. So we'll move afterwards. Yeah, man. I know. Okay. Well , um, okay, so I think right now preliminary, we think we're going to take up the carpet and we're going to paint the walls. Like that's all we're doing.

Speaker 6

Yes. That's not small. That is a lot. A lot less , a lot to do.

Speaker 2

Well, right. But we had originally thought that we were going to gut the house and put on a new roof.

Speaker 6

Well w w we thought it was going to be a year project and now we're looking at a month. Yes, we're not doing any of the things that we wanted to do, but,

Speaker 2

and like in case people are listening, like in case people are listening, I hope people are listening, but we're going to move from that in like a short time after that so that we can actually start construction chip and Joanna at this point. Like I just feel like I want that

Speaker 5

[inaudible] come in for a week. I know I want to do it. I'll do it. You should be chip call . All my friends listening and all my friends, you're not

Speaker 6

call all my friends and we can't do it together because we'd have to be in six. Eat away from each other.

Speaker 3

I am sad that you're not from Waco, Texas and I'm sad that you're not a Baylor football fan and I am sad you haven't built me the Magnolia silos

Speaker 5

and I'm sad. No, no, no. Joanne's baking abilities. And Joanna Joanna

Speaker 3

toast on Saturday. Was that not the best host [inaudible]

Speaker 2

ever eaten? Go ahead. Say it.

Speaker 5

It was pretty good day. Best toast. You know, I'll give you the best toast award.

Speaker 2

Okay. So, well , um ,

Speaker 6

I just think it's um, yeah, it's time to get mentally prepared again. You know, it took us, I took me, I think I will a couple of just, just to get around the last move I just eased in and then three days after I eased in , I think we got the news that we wanted to get out of here. So, okay, well let's just , uh, let's take it one day at a time. And

Speaker 2

this morning, this morning you asked, Oh, you know what? What do you think I got for your birthday? And then I said, I have no idea. But then what did, what did I ask you for? I said, what ? What did I ask you for? What did you want? Yeah, like what? I said, this is what I want from you for my birthday. What did I say? You don't even remember. So you wanted a cake.

Speaker 5

Okay, I'll get that too . What else?

Speaker 2

Oh my gosh. What else did you say? You went to jazz . I remember I said I wanted you to pray over me 30 times a day. You have 20 times left. 28 more prayers. Yes, cause I need prayer. I'm going crazy like I think I need your prayers.

Speaker 6

It's 12 2228 I have lots of time from,

Speaker 5

I need you praying over me every 30 minutes. Pray right now that I don't go crazy.

Speaker 6

No. That should have ease and flow with your podcast. At least at least I pray . God give you a steady cyst , a steady mind, and a peaceful mind.

Speaker 5

Amen. Prayer number three 27 to go. Yup .

Speaker 3

So needless to say, we tabled that conversation for now and hopped on a zoom call with my family. My family has a tradition that on each of our birthdays we say our favorite memory with the person whose birthday it is. So in this call you get to hear our favorite memories that my loved ones share with me in my twin sister during our first birthday that we've ever spent apart.

Speaker 5

Well , I did make a cake today, so I kind of look at,

Speaker 11

look at this, look at this tape .

Speaker 12

Oh God , we have to ,

Speaker 11

did y'all get any , like when we, when we seen you have to blow through zoom and blow it out with me.

Speaker 12

You guys, I think it's , I'm selling emotional . This is my first birthday without my family and I tried to explain that to Matt and just get a little sad. It's just, you know, when you have a certain thing in your head, I just missed it and like I told Matt that I was going to go surprise mom and dad and they realize that like I don't want to contaminate my mom and dad and I don't want to contaminate my husband and he's asthmatic and my mom says medic and sorry, but I just really mislaid family . I know baby baby . I told you we're going to have a party girl when all this is over. When I have a party , I make [inaudible] I big party. We'll come over here. Whatever you want. Mom . [inaudible]

Speaker 11

I would just like to say, Bianca, thank you for crying tears that don't ever come to my eyes because I feel sad, but I feel it on the inside. So thank you for putting it on the outside and thank you . Thank you mom for just rallying all of us to always stick together and thank you Sebastian for throwing confetti.

Speaker 12

So if you're wearing a sweatshirt,

Speaker 11

yeah, Zoe, give him a shout out from like 19 1995

Speaker 12

doing the nice white shirt. I'm memory's real quick since you guys are talking about how so different you are. I was thinking about my memories of going to Bianca and my favorite memories thus far is um , Bianca coming at like the day before I was giving birth and she did my hair and she made me soup and maybe also , and then once they took their Jasmine showed up. So it was like this weird paradox that Bianca was there in the beginning and Jasmine was there literally at the end and I felt so loved from my sisters. Oh my God. I remember you guys coming to me at that day before and asking me, mama , we are ABC, we're going to be doing the Dixon . My characters were total Dan . And I go, Oh, but I don't even know who these characters are. And I was up till one two three o'clock in the morning. So I knew a stinking , I don't even know how it just came to my head. And you know that you know that you know your costumes or the best costume mama out of high school? Yes, there were fights up Ty stone . Then I saw by Dan . Do you remember that you put, you got wire hangers in the dry cleaners and you made them into a [inaudible] circle around our actual parents. Absolutely. I mean Jasmine, do you remember that mom?

Speaker 11

Just in case I didn't, you have probably will have reminded me 87 times. So thank you for silver means .

Speaker 12

Appreciate it. Appreciate it. Well, I'm so happy. I'm so happy that I'm expressing appreciation on my birthday for all of your hard work. But

Speaker 11

no, I should probably express appreciation for you going through C-section on our birthday. So not only did you go through C-section and they had to, so your stomach years later you had to sew us costumes. Still sewing girl still sewing

Speaker 12

stinking Jasmine or yes . [inaudible] born in their own shadow .

Speaker 11

Um , I think one of my fondest memory was when Bianca

Speaker 12

kicked me off the soccer team. Okay . Maybe be a better soccer player because of it . Zoe. Um, I I

Speaker 11

first I was hurt but she got us , she got , she got us the first place. So that's all that matters.

Speaker 12

Mmm . Yup . Um , I love when I threw out , uh , Jasmine's back. That was a good one. Um, that was those, those [inaudible]

Speaker 11

you guys just, I mean, just throw your busy schedules. You always make time to , um, to give back to the family and always help us with whatever we need. So , um, I can't wait to celebrate you and have you guys that the views are we . Thank you. They ,

Speaker 12

Oh my favorite memory of thee is when he was working at church and Montebello and I went with, went with dad and her and then she told me she got in trouble because I was being a breath. She tried sending me home and I went to the bathroom, beat myself up and I told her somebody jumped me so I could stay. Oh my God. I remember that. I went to the bathroom and I was like, I will like this. I was like pulling my shirt. I was like , somebody beat me up at the bus stop. Oh my God. I remember that stuff all this day. All this day at church longer. Yeah , I did it so I could offer it for a little. We're a little bit, but then I saw it was like he's walking normal. He's way too excited and he wasn't like crying or anything, you know? Oh dude , that's good. My favorite memory of JV is when she drove her back in the bathroom and she's walking with , does he put too much salt in the Mac and cheese?

Speaker 11

Y'all need to stop with my cooking story

Speaker 10

or let me , I spend the night at your house because you got this face , then you blow it up. I remember her face got big like , like the guy from, Hey ,

Speaker 12

well , um, I love how I go to Jasmine's house and she always, we always do something fun. Like we're barbecue. It shouldn't be facials or watch sports. And it's always about like, well, I want to do, or what boxing, what you eat is you paid for my session, three of the girls . Oh, I have plenty. I have , I'm , I'm very sad and I'm thinking I'm very sad. It's this stuff. It's very sad how time has flown and I know you , yeah, it's a lot of them. But I think the one that stands out right now is when we didn't have any money. And uh, I took, I took Jasmine and Bianca and Alex and we were told you were going to go to the beach. We're going to go to a park at the beach and we're going to have a picnic. And I deliberately draws , I drove through Harbor Boulevard and you guys were seeing this knee land . We got this land. I wish we can go away in there and then I made a right exaggerated turnip or let's go in there right now and you go dad, we're going to Disneyland. Come on. I don't know if you guys remember that. That was a momentous, it was in Boston, my heart. And so as I hear you all look up Tina , two kids here. I have three out there and I and I and I have three husbands that their grandchildren. I'm just so overwhelmed. I'm not angry, I'm just overwhelmed. That's all. You know, it's just overwhelmed with uh , with blessings and kindness and news and I see everything. Everything is very sad. I wish we can spend time together and that's it. So I can't wait for this madness to add in that we can all gather together and have fellowship and, and a and hug and see our children

Speaker 11

before we sing happy birthday. I just wanted to share like the memory that sticks out to me from Bianca is when we're in high school together and she decided to run for class president and she was so excited and the family worked so hard to be like this Brown girl is going to do it and we like pumped up a mummy . We made the paper pencils , our card . Okay mom taking credit again. But we made signs and we printed out mailers and we like painted her name and Bianca got to school and I went to class and I walked out and I didn't see any of her signs anywhere and I marched up to her being so angry and I said, where are your signs? There you go. Jasmine and Bianca replied, she's like, well I put up a few but I'm just embarrassed. And I grabbed, I grabbed like hundreds , I think it was in a box of papers with Bianca's face on them. It was her soccer picture and it said vote for Bianca. And I said, give me those papers and every three feet long, right out of high school, there was a picture and a sign in like billboards. And I said, [inaudible] , when do you hear me? You're gonna win. The last thing I do, I am gonna make you win. And what happened next ? You were a winner then and you are still a winner today. I love you. Happy birthday. It's not a favorite memory. More than that .

Speaker 12

Oh , am I going to cry?

Speaker 11

Oh, come on Jasmine. [inaudible] it's Bianca. Um , [inaudible]

Speaker 12

I just love being able to travel and I realized like some of my favorite memories are just so we got to do fun things together. Not like we got to use this family

Speaker 7

like me probably as a family when we were in need .

Speaker 12

And you've ordered mussels, you didn't like them, but you said muscles as you were eating it out of the ball. And how we went to that grant and spawns and Sebastian and we like stayed up all night on the sleeping in the train station.

Speaker 13

We've got up Jasmine and which I was super mad as we were doing that hike and she wanted to plant me and then punch you at the same time. And we were just [inaudible] .

Speaker 12

Yeah, you're just what ?

Speaker 13

Yeah, she might even like, she was mad at Bianca for like laughing and mad at me for beyond Bianca side . [inaudible]

Speaker 12

is that whole trip that all three of us got to take. It was just so special and so beautiful. I'm grateful for my family.

Speaker 7

You guys a lot named grateful for you.

Speaker 12

Wait for this thing to hit .

Speaker 11

So choose going to light the candles and we're going to sing happy birthday. And Bianca, I'll hold the , the , the , I'll hold the cake up to you and you have to blow in it. Okay . Okay.

Speaker 12

Okay.

Speaker 4

They they to you?

Speaker 12

One, two, three. Oh my God , this is so good.

Speaker 3

Bravo on your first gluten-free funfetti cake. Hmm .

Speaker 12

That's good. Thank you. Okay, so , so it's a two layer cake with frosting in the middle and creamy frosting over top. Okay. So here's something that is weird. A little dry. People like to, it is a little on the dry side, but the thought is just so lovely. Okay, so here's no, no, no. I've made a gluten free cake before. Okay, so most people enjoy cake with milk. I like it with orange juice. Nope . I have some. Is that weird? Oh my God. You are literally my Romeo. You are a modern day Rico suave. You ever done ? I cannot believe Jay with sweets . Oh my God. Fresh squeezed orange juice with my birthday cake. I can't drink. I can't drink. I can't drink milk. I can't drink milk . This is the worst tasting Mick . That's the worst combination. It's like tart and sweet almost. It's good. Thank you. I'm like rotten. My birthday cake is

Speaker 3

lovely. Listen , thank you. Nice cold glass of milk. My orange juice is just fine. Thank you. After my birthday was over, later that week, we decided to revisit the decision of whether or not to move into our fixer-upper . The problem is we can't actually move into the house for a few weeks because it has a spesticity, which is the reason why we moved into the apartment in the first place to bring everybody up to speed. This house was built in the early 1950s and no work has been done to this house like ever from the popcorn ceilings to the carpet in the bathrooms to the toilets that I'm not even lying are like eight inches off the ground. Like I didn't even know they made toilets that low. There's a lot of refurbishing we have to do because our social worker has to approve the house where our lives until our adoption is finalized. So we moved into the apartment because we knew the apartment would be approved, but we didn't anticipate coven did come and really delay the entire process. And we really just want to have a place that feels like home and raise our daughter. So we're scurrying to make sure that we can move into the house, that it's approved in a timely fashion. So at minimum we can't move in for a few weeks, which just so happens to be right in the middle of our live lunch for social curator.

Speaker 14

Really light , lightweight .

Speaker 9

Wait , wait . That wasn't the attention . I think that the walls would have to be a little bit gray.

Speaker 2

Well, I don't want to be in the world's gray . I didn't really feel like everything else should be wait . Well , because it's so dark.

Speaker 9

No, no. Like the light almost white. Gray. No, like white gray.

Speaker 2

How about we can select like two walls in the house to be a light gray. Everything else needs to be white. There's no windows in the house. So we've officially made the decision. We've officially made the decision to move

Speaker 9

well to move. Yeah. No, not yet.

Speaker 2

When will we officially make that decision?

Speaker 14

Mmm ,

Speaker 2

it's a really long pause for launch week . So you are, you're saying that we're okay ,

Speaker 9

we're going to move on the house, get it all prepped up, but it doesn't mean we're going to move in. I don't think it needs to like if , um ,

Speaker 2

no, but are we moving?

Speaker 9

Depends if, if the whole covert thing kind of dies off, which I don't think, I don't, I that I think there's a high, probably we're moving out probably 80, 90%. I have a 10% hope that the covert thing clears up in the next month and a half. And I don't think it's going to happen, but if it does, we stay here

Speaker 2

and then we immediately start on construction on the house. But if we don't feel like the contractors are going to like take us on and stay on and

Speaker 9

yeah, or you know what actually if we move out guaranteed 100%, if we appoint 100%, say we're gonna move out, then um, it means we're not doing anything to the house when to live in it that way for about a year . And, you know, I feel like that gives us knowing, you know, knowing in advance what you were gonna w what that our life looks like. It gives me some type of like solid, like just like , um, peace of mind.

Speaker 2

Do you think it's a little ironic that we literally got rid of all of our furniture to fit into a tiny apartment and then we're going to move into a house and it's going to be empty for a year.

Speaker 9

I'm a minimalist. I like [inaudible] .

Speaker 3

Okay. You always find the silver lining. I'm sitting there like, our house is going to be empty and you're like, I love it.

Speaker 9

You know , as long as it doesn't look like there's bean bags , like a bachelor house, you know, for a couch.

Speaker 3

We don't even have a couch. You know, we don't even have a couch. Two nice chairs here that we , as long as nobody else comes over, you and I have a chair.

Speaker 9

Well, here's the thing, it's really not one of those come over houses. It's almost like a, if we want people to come over

Speaker 3

Bri , it's BYOC bring your own chair. You said bring your own couch. I just said chair.

Speaker 9

It's one of those things where , um , if people are able to come over to our house because Kobe clears up, then we can, you know, we've, we're , we can make do , we can go to the backyard or we can just find a nice little restaurant and we'd go eat out, you know? But if covert is the way that it is now, when people can come over anyway, we have nothing to worry about. Yeah .

Speaker 3

I just feel like we're trying to plan for a lunch and a move at the same time. I keep on bringing that up. Are you tired? Is it the same song? I keep on seeing?

Speaker 9

Yeah. I feel like we're going to do the lunch here at the apartment, so we're going to be fine. We shouldn't be focused on the move. You shouldn't be focused on the move at all. You're [inaudible] your mind. It should be zero on the move. Don't worry about the move. Like you are just staying in your lane and technically for you, it's right when you're done with the lunch. A week later

Speaker 7

you will be transplanted at that point. Okay. Yeah.

Speaker 9

Yeah . You should not be. I mean you're, you're, you're waking up every day nervous and you're getting even stomach pains cause you're so stressed out. So what I'm saying is that's not even your arena anyway. You're not gonna move a , a single thing. You know someone's, I wanna we're gonna make sure that there's people to help.

Speaker 3

Did you really bring up my stomach pain right now? Yeah. You've been stressing out with this stomach pain, but it just felt like very vulnerable. Okay. I have an unsettled stuff.

Speaker 9

No, no, not that kind of stomach pain. I'd be like, it's the kind of stomach pain where you call the ambulance because you're in so much pain. So I don't want that happening

Speaker 3

and it's just stress because I want to help. I don't want anybody to feel like they're just taking on too much and I feel like you're taking on a whole bunch. And so I want to be like, how do I take on the launch and how do I help you and how do I be a mom? And like ,

Speaker 9

just worry about the lunch. You're, you're, you're, you're already at your , no matter what, you can get rid of being a mom. So you're going to be a mom no matter what the move, you don't have to do just be a mom.

Speaker 3

But what about being a wife

Speaker 9

and D this isn't , you can't take these things like you act like, like you're not something if you're not doing stuff .

Speaker 3

No , no, no. That was, that was, that was a, that was a cue for you to say you're amazing.

Speaker 9

An amazing way. Here's the thing, you, that's title you can't ever remove. You can say like, Oh, I'm not being a wife right now. Are you saying a good wife? You're always a good wife. You're an amazing wife. But you said, what about being a wife?

Speaker 3

It's not one of those categories where you can be like, I'm gonna check that off. I don't want to be an average wife. I want to be the best way. Yeah. With so much going on in my personal life that I can't control, I decided to dive head first into business discussions in plan for our upcoming social curator launch. Our launch manager, Jade and I needed to nail down what we call our launch map. Now a launch map is a timeline and a framework for what we're going to do to actually launch and in that we discuss what videos will produce emails. We'll set send an in that we'll talk about what videos will produce, what emails we'll send, what bonuses to give in a lot more. So you are going to get a sneak peek in front row seat onto what that actually looks like. I had

Speaker 11

sent a message to the ads team about creating three videos. I think that, I think it's a stretch, but Nikki also asked me to create a video for the may issue, so that was another video that I wasn't expecting to create, which is fine. I think we can bang them out, but just in case I don't hear back from the ads team, I would like to start laying the framework for each of the videos. If we had to guess which videos would be absolutely necessary. We usually do two versions of a webinar invite and we usually do two versions of like multiple videos, like I'm only doing three period and then I have to decide am I doing these horizontal or am I doing them vertical? I just totally got an idea. What if the videos that I make are just for IgE TV and then instead of me making a horizontal video to put as an add on to Facebook, what if I just go live on Facebook for a short amount of time and then add like photos to it and make that be the video. Like instead of me trying to like edit it like perfectly on my iPhone, I just saved my I-phones for IGT V which looks better on that platform and then I just create a, you know, a three minute live and then I could do, I could test like two to three minute lives and of the three that I do the best performing one, we can then turn that into the ad. That takes all to heck of a lot of pressure off me. Like that's fricking , I like it, but I don't know if we have enough time to test it for the ad scene. Let's talk to them tomorrow about that,

Speaker 3

I guess. Yeah, I'm not sure what you mean by test . You just mean like what do you mean? Like what's, what is the measure

Speaker 11

but like organic, organic reach, so if do like, let's just say I decided to do the week, like the week before webinars or maybe like 10 days before the webinars. I do three days of alive . I go live every single day for two to four minutes, but the way that I started off the location that I'm in, the slides that I use that however people respond the best of that. Then you've tested it to see how we got organic and then we turn it into an ad the same way. I would have produced a video to turn it into an ad. [inaudible] .

Speaker 7

Yeah, that works for me. I guess I feel like I get what you're saying. Different backgrounds, different slides against . In my mind, it's like the time of day, the day of the week. All of that's going to like matter with what actually performs better, but I mean we, we got to work with what we can work with. So yeah, I think you'll kill two birds with one stone that way.

Speaker 11

Okay. From the video that worked the best, the one that we turned to the Facebook live that we turned into an ad that will be uploaded to LinkedIn as a formal invite to people own LinkedIn. And then we'll have just like , um , a shout out on Twitter because we're going to get that, that video from Facebook, upload it to YouTube and we upload it to YouTube. That's the link we'll use on Twitter. And then the video will be organically uploaded on LinkedIn. Now the good thing about this is because we're testing videos on each of the three days, we know that this content will be staggered on the other platforms just by virtue that we recorded them three days earlier. So we can upload two if I record. Okay, so let's get specific. If I record on the 20th the 21st and the 22nd we can upload LinkedIn and Twitter on the 23rd [inaudible] and YouTube on the 23rd but we can do them at different times too if that's just easiest.

Speaker 7

I hate to like keep putting everything on you, but like who else? I mean is this something that page can go in? Like after you've posted all three of them and she's going to decipher which one to use or do you want to do that?

Speaker 11

Um, actually I want page and I did do it together so I can walk page through what I'm looking for and then maybe I can create a video or maybe assign her to create a video of that conversation just in case it becomes a future piece that we could cite . Like, Hey, get into Jasmine's head about figuring out which content gets into an ad so that I don't have to have the same conversation with multiple people. But if that doesn't work, no big deal. I mean we're all like, Oh , we're running around like we're on fire right now. So friend , there you have it. How we're really doing during coven 19 bad news is everywhere. And even without trying, our minds can be clouded with pitch black thoughts creeping in from social, from news

Speaker 3

headlines, from basically anywhere you look. But if you can gaze far beyond the darkness, I believe that our eyes will begin to focus on the light. And if you can't find the light, I believe that we can be the light. We can exude hope and positivity. We can find ways to help others. We can find ways to take the little we have and share it with others. I hope you join me in that process and finding that perpetual silver lining, even in the darkest of clouds. So thank you as always, for listening to the Jasmine star show today. And this is my reminder to you, sweet, beautiful, amazing friend to please continue to shine.

Speaker 1

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