Why ‘I Don’t Know’ is the Key to Freedom with Peter Crone

What if everything you’ve ever wanted in life and business was just one mindset shift away? What if I told you the only thing standing between you and success is your subconscious limitations? Friend, today’s episode is a masterclass in rewiring your brain for freedom, success, and abundance. And I couldn’t think of a better person to guide us through this than the one and only Peter Crone.

Peter is a mind architect who helps people reprogram the subconscious patterns keeping them stuck. His work has transformed the lives of top athletes, entrepreneurs, and leaders who want to break free from self-imposed limitations and unlock their extraordinary potential.

In this conversation, we dive deep into:

✔️ Why most entrepreneurs stay stuck in patterns that limit their business growth

✔️ How subconscious beliefs shape our reality (and how to change them)

✔️ The power of embracing ‘I don’t know’—and why uncertainty is your superpower

✔️ How to recognize the subconscious constraints holding you back

✔️ Practical strategies to shift your mindset and unlock new possibilities

This episode isn’t just about business—it’s about who you become in the process of building your dreams. Peter is here to challenge the way you think, and trust me, you’ll never see your mindset the same way again. .

Click play to hear all of this and:

00:00 – The one question that will change the way you approach success

02:05 – Peter shares his personal journey of loss, trauma, and discovering the power of ‘I don’t know’

05:10 – Why most entrepreneurs unconsciously sabotage their success (and how to fix it)

08:26 – How subconscious beliefs shape our business, relationships, and confidence

12:15 – The ‘foundation vs. house’ analogy: How to identify and shift the hidden patterns keeping you stuck

15:45 – Why control is an illusion—and how embracing uncertainty leads to peace

20:30 – The top reasons entrepreneurs stay stuck and how to move past them

25:10 – How to start rewriting your subconscious story today

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Transcript

Jasmine Star 00:00:00  So this is a very different intro. I will just start with exactly how I'm feeling, because this is such a departure from the shows that we normally create here on the Jazmin Starr Show. Today's guest just walked out of my front door and as he departed, he said, hey, I think you're going to need a few days of just rest, relaxation. Please drink a lot of warm drinks like tea and hot water. He's like, you just went through a lot. So today's podcast took a little bit of a departure. It was completely unexpected. And so I want to start this podcast here by saying the intention for this podcast has only ever been to create content for you. And somehow in the course of this conversation, it very much became about me. A lot of personal things were mentioned, a lot of old school belief systems. I already feel like a little, a little, a little tickle in my throat. it was very, very, very much opening. It was eye opening.

Jasmine Star 00:00:56  And so I want you to hear my intention on the front end. The intention is to create shows that help you. I took this opportunity unknowingly and we really used my story. But the goal here was not to make a show about me. I'm hoping my intention was, unexpectedly, that my story somehow you find resonance in it so that you can figure out what's the stories that are going on behind the scenes, that are perhaps stopping you from the thing that you should be stepping into? So I acknowledge it with great humility. It is an honor that you're a part of this conversation. But if you were looking for a lot of straight shooting business applications, it started off that way and then it went happily off the rails. So consider yourself warmed. I hope that this impacts you as much as it did me. Many thanks to Peter Crone. Welcome back to the Jasmine Star Show. I'm going to start with some straight shooter questions. You know how I do. So what would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? It was just purely impossible.

Jasmine Star 00:01:54  How would you act if that success. Everything you wanted was guaranteed. What if I told you that you could have everything you wanted if you let go of just one thing? Okay, so before we get to that answer, I want to introduce you to today's guest, Peter Crone, a brain architect. He helps people step out of what they think is possible and then shows them, shows you something even bigger and better for what's possible in your life. In business. Peter, welcome to the Jasmine Starr Show.

Peter Crone 00:02:23  Thank you. Some thought provoking questions right out of the gate. Absolutely.

Jasmine Star 00:02:26  It's called a hook, Peter. It's not the hook. We want people to stay with you. But before we do that, I really I was listening to an interview and you had said, I'm in the business of helping people see how extraordinary they are. Yeah. You are in a great place because I think many of us as entrepreneurs, as business owners, we believe deep down we believe that there is something in us that is extraordinary.

Jasmine Star 00:02:49  And yet it wars coming to the surface. And so I brought you here to highlight how we can bring out our extraordinary and step into a different version of ourselves in business.

Peter Crone 00:02:59  Great. No pressure.

Jasmine Star 00:03:00  Yeah. We set the bar really low here. Okay. But I will also say, I will also say one thing, that I don't bring people in on book tours or press tours or promo tours. I bring people in who I deeply believe are going to speak to an audience. And before I do that, before I say, who's going to come into the orbit? I want to study you. I want to study what you think of and where that's in alignment. And I will say something unexpected happened. I became wildly receptive when you said that. You don't know. Yeah. And then I started internalizing. Well, I don't know if this is going to work. I don't know if this test will manifest in the way that I want. I don't know if this company will reach the thing that I want.

Jasmine Star 00:03:40  Yeah. Where did you find that strength for you to start saying, I don't know. And how has that changed how you show up?

Peter Crone 00:03:47  I mean, it's sort of pivotal in terms of my own history, my own story, how I became who I am both personally and professionally. I was dating someone, you know, thought I was madly in love as best as I knew at the ripe old age of 28 or whatever. And somebody they moved into with me. We had this beautiful relationship that went over the course of close to a year and a half, and then at the end of it, you know, to cut to the chase, she she left. And so for me, that was kind of devastating and in ways that I didn't fully comprehend at the time, it was really the catalyst for me to be able to reconcile and reveal some of the deep traumas that I've gone through as a kid, because my mom had died when I was seven of cancer, and my dad had gone to work when I was 17, and I was an only child.

Peter Crone 00:04:29  So it was just he and I. He was in a fatal shipping accident, like a major shipping line that went between England and France, England and Belgium. So it was carrying, I think, 14, 1500 people and a couple hundred people died. So it was a major disaster. And he was sadly one of them. He was working as the chief engineer on the boat. So anyway, cut to this relationship where I thought this was sort of, you know, finding the right one and all these romantic connotations of what we thought love was. And so she leaves me, I fall apart. I'm a pretty composed guy. I didn't do anything untoward, but I was calling friends. How do I get it back? And there was a conversation for a couple of weeks between us where I was sort of on the other end of the line, hoping that there might be a change of mind, but there wasn't. And then, for whatever bizarre reasons, you know, the the I now recognize that one of the tendencies of the human brain is to try and figure out what's going to happen all the time, because we're designed to survive.

Peter Crone 00:05:21  Right? So the primordial imperative of every mammal is that we want to make it. We want to know what's going to happen. And so I was having these incessant questions like, where is she? Is she dating someone else? Will I see her again? Will I find love like that ever again? And they will actually literally keep me up at night for a while. And so this went on for a few weeks. And then there was this euphoric sort of satori moment where I had this, you know, call it awakening is sort of the fancy way. But I just had this epiphany and I got the answer to all of those questions. Where is she? Is she dating someone else? Will I see her again? And will I find love like that again? And it was, I don't know. And it was so categorically obvious when it hit me. It was just the truth. Right? So what it did was it mitigated all of the underlying suffering and the angst that was associated with me trying to find out if my future was going to work out.

Peter Crone 00:06:10  But simultaneously, I recognized that I had, you know, in a very basic way, recognize the nature of life, which is uncertainty. And so at that moment, I recognized the futility of the way that we're designed as humans is to try and figure everything out. But we're in a context, in a dimension where we don't know. And so not only did I realize the truth to those questions, which then gave me freedom and cascaded through my physiology like I'd never experienced, it was complete peace because I was okay not knowing.

Jasmine Star 00:06:41  And so so the friction that was there was because you wanted to know. Yeah. And then you acknowledge I don't know. And acknowledging I don't know brings you peace.

Peter Crone 00:06:52  Yes. So the friction is it's a little bit more slippery and it's more part of the subconscious constraints with which I assert we all arrive. Right. So to me.

Jasmine Star 00:07:00  So time out, time out time. Yeah. So listeners were a big we are business owners. We want to do the dang thing.

Jasmine Star 00:07:06  We dwell in the land of data and analytics and quant. And so explain to me. So I've done a lot of work around the conscious, the subconscious. But that kind of some, some time that sounds a little woo woo. Right. For a lot of people. So exactly describe when we say subconscious. Yeah. Explain it to me like I'm five.

Peter Crone 00:07:22  Okay.

Peter Crone 00:07:22  So basically we're in a house, you're beautiful home. And this house can only exist because of the foundations this house represents, that which you're aware of, which you can see you're conscious of. Right. So when you go to bed at night and you're lying there and you can't fall asleep, you're thinking about your business, you're in the shower, you're driving to a meeting, you're thinking whatever it is that you're aware of, we can call conscious that is which you can see. The house well, you can't see is what sustains the house, which is beneath the surface. So that's the sub beneath conscious, which to me is pivotal because it's the framework upon which all of your thoughts are generated.

Peter Crone 00:07:57  So why is it that even for an entrepreneur, someone who's disciplined, they're dedicated, they've gone to all the right seminars, they have the right team. Their business isn't quite meeting, you know, the quotas or the budgets or the the returns that they think they justify.

Jasmine Star 00:08:11  Let's go. Yeah. Tell me. Yes.

Peter Crone 00:08:13  Because they will be living in a subconscious pattern that they're oblivious to.

Peter Crone 00:08:16  Ooh.

Peter Crone 00:08:17  And it's the same in relationships. It's the same in health. Why does somebody attract the same kind of partner, male or female or otherwise? That seems to not be available. That seems to be slightly abusive. There seems to be slightly gaslighting. Whatever it is, you're the consistent theme in every arena of your life. So that's where the opportunity is, right? It's not because of the climate, the environment or whatever. It's because of the way that you literally relate to life, because of the woowoo frequency that you live from, based on the constraints that are in your subconscious. So you can't build whatever.

Peter Crone 00:08:46  This is a beautiful 4000 square foot home on top of a 2000 square foot foundation. It's not going to happen. Equally, if you live within the constraints and the fundamental limitations that are I'm not enough. I'm not loved, I'm not worthy, then you can't create an eight nine figure business. It's not going to happen.

Jasmine Star 00:09:03  ladies and gentlemen, Peter Crone. He left no crumbs. The question becomes, are you going to pick up what he is putting down? So for the sake of this conversation, and if you have not left already, you will not be going anywhere. I want to break this down because Peter is generously sharing his wealth of knowledge, and he is one of the top coaches for athletes, for entrepreneurs, for a person who wants to radically change their life. And so for this conversation, I want to break it into from working with wildly successful entrepreneurs. What are the top reasons people get stuck in their business? Second part of the conversation is when an entrepreneur is ready to change.

Jasmine Star 00:09:35  What steps can we do to start moving the constraints? How do we bring the subconscious or foundation into the homes? We start seeing the patterns of why are we attracting the same type of clients? Why are we not landing the other types of clients? Why do we consistently miss our goals? And then lastly, if we possibly can. What does it mean to be truly confident in our business ambitions?

Peter Crone 00:09:55  Let's go okay. Let's go down.

Jasmine Star 00:09:57  So what are the top reasons entrepreneurs. You see this again. What are the patterns that you see. Why are entrepreneurs getting stuck in terms of how you coach people through. What are those common things.

Peter Crone 00:10:08  Yeah I mean obviously most of my work is somewhat customized, but there are going to be trends, right? So you've got to look at the human being, right. If we're looking at performance in any arena, whether I'm working with pro athletes and the best of the best in business or entertainment, I have to first look at who who is the human being, right? You can't optimize performance unless you optimize health, and you can't optimize health until you free your mind.

Peter Crone 00:10:29  Right? That cascade is, to me, paramount. And so most people, whatever it is that their performance is, in this case, a business, a startup, who are they is going to determine the thoughts, the feelings, the actions and the results. Right? That's the cascade of creation. So everybody wants good results, invariably in the arena of expertise or sort of going to a specialist or a teacher of some kind. We tend to talk in the realm of action, right? You can go and see a doctors do this. Don't do that. It's in the realm of behavior. I'm in the realm of subconscious patterns that drive way before that. That's too late down the cascade of creation as far as I'm concerned in my work. Transitory, right. Like quit smoking and da da da. And you might get a little bit healthier or stop eating fats or whatever it is that people say, but it's short lived. You can watch The Biggest Loser on TV, and they've got the greatest environment with trainers and whatever they're doing in the background, and they're pumping them with stuff to help them lose weight.

Peter Crone 00:11:20  They lose a virtually a whole person, £200, but meet them in 4 or 5 years back to where they were. Why? Because they haven't shifted their identity, right? Your personality is the precursor to your personal reality. So if you want to have a different personal reality, aka results, then you have to understand how does that come about? Behavior is a key part of it, but your thoughts and your feelings are going to be the precursor to that. And then the who you are for yourself, meaning the blind spots are what's going to drive all of those thoughts and feelings. So if somebody's stuck to answer your question, it's because they're misidentified with a limitation at the subconscious level. They're not enough. They're not special. They're not important. Their needs don't matter. Whatever it is that arose during the course of their childhood, where they felt that there was something wrong about them, which everybody has, is going to be their biggest limitation. So until you free that and so you free your mind of whatever the constraint is, you can't access your true potential.

Peter Crone 00:12:15  And that's true of everyone. It doesn't mean that you can't have a good business. I've worked with, I don't know, 20 billionaires. It doesn't mean that they're successful as far as I'm concerned. They just have a lot of money. Right? So they might still have, you know, a very dysfunctional relationship, maybe their third marriage. They might have kids who are addicted to God knows what, or a strange they may have all sorts of health conditions. Right? To me, success is much more synonymous with true peace. That's what I'm interested in finding because you find real quick.

Jasmine Star 00:12:41  So I'm always putting myself in the shoes of the listener. Yeah. And so you're identifying things that could be subconscious mind restraints like I'm not good enough. I was never the standout. I'm a constant failure, okay? I let people down.

Peter Crone 00:12:52  I'm worthless.

Jasmine Star 00:12:53  I'm worthless. Okay, so in your experience, do people actually know that narrative or do they have to find it out.

Peter Crone 00:13:00  The.

Peter Crone 00:13:01  Some do, you know, with maturity and sometimes counsel therapy, good friends, people who know how to listen, you know, people will point it out, but invariably they're blind spots.

Peter Crone 00:13:10  Which is why I say from the perspective of compassion, I'm like you. I want to get results. I work with the best of the best. There's no around. Like, you know, it's like I work with Navy Seals and their whole motto is deal with it, right. It's there's no time to feel sorry for yourself in my world. Right. And I'm one of the most loving guys. So we can have compassion. So you can't be held accountable for that which you're oblivious to, is what I tell people. But let's make the unconscious conscious so that you can handle it. Or you.

Jasmine Star 00:13:34  Can. Somebody is listening. Yeah. And they don't have the opportunity to work with Peter Krohn. Yeah. Is there any exercise that we might develop to say, if I don't have that in my sphere, if I don't have somebody to help me call out those blind spots, Is there something that we can start asking yourself to figure out what the blind spot is? Because how do we grow and break past if we can't first identify the constraint?

Peter Crone 00:13:51  It's a great question, and it is a little bit of a conundrum.

Peter Crone 00:13:54  It's going to take a certain amount of discernment, intelligence and usually reflection. But you know, you can start to look at okay, what are the fears? It's a very simple place. Like what is the fear? Because again, like to go back to your initial question of why an entrepreneur is stuck, I would even go to a deeper question of like, well, what is it you're trying to create and why? Right. Because oftentimes, like I discern two different forms of desire. There's reactive and creative forms of wanting. And most people's wanting is reactive, which means it's coming from a place of limitation, scarcity or fear.

Peter Crone 00:14:23  Okay, let's slow down.

Peter Crone 00:14:24  Yeah. So I know I download pretty quick, but I'm appealing to the intelligence of your audience.

Jasmine Star 00:14:27  I absolutely know this. So we create the thing we desperately desire for ourselves typically.

Peter Crone 00:14:35  But it can be from a place of scarcity. Right. So wanting it's got two sides to the same coin. One thing is it creates time, right.

Peter Crone 00:14:44  Because if you want something, you're creating a future. You're saying, I don't have it. So one thing then is now in the realm of space and time. So when people talk about manifestation, which is in the realm of business and especially woo woo and California and all of that. Right. But there's we are manifest as that's all we're doing all the time. It's not that something you just adopt or you don't. If you're living in a world of inadequacy, you are going to manifest a life that reflects that. We just want to be conscious manifests. So one thing based in time is going to have two components to it. Most people's wanting is a reaction to what they don't want. Why does somebody go to the gym at the beginning of the year and they pay their 50 to 300 bucks a month or whatever it is, and they may even sign up for a trainer because they want to get in shape, is invariably a reaction to the fact that their doctor told them they got to lower their cholesterol, they've got to lose weight, they're on borderline diabetic or whatever it is.

Peter Crone 00:15:29  So when one thing is based on a reaction, it's never going to really be fulfilled because you're trying to get away from something. So the first thing to distinguish with any business or regardless of business relationship health, any commitment you have in the realm of performance or Result is get clear on. Is this something that I truly want to create, or is it something that I want as a reaction to something I don't want? Okay.

Jasmine Star 00:15:50  Talk to me about what happens when we create from a something of a place of avoidance, like if we create a business or an offer that we don't realize is from a place of avoidance, but we're doing it. So what comes of that?

Peter Crone 00:16:02  You get to be right about the thing you're trying to avoid. Fear breaks its own heart. So if I'm saying I don't want something, that's what I'm being informed by. Therefore, that is the resonance that I'm constantly occupying or predominantly occupying. And so even when I fulfill on the thing that I think I wanted. So, for example, someone might lose weight and that's been their bugaboo for decades, and they finally get to that point.

Peter Crone 00:16:26  They're still going to be informed by the desserts at a dinner party, because they can't have that, even though they've lost the £50 and they see their friends. Oh, no. You know, I put on weight just by looking at cookies. Whatever the narrative, it's still being they're still being defined by it. Right? People who win the lotto. Invariably end up where they were 3 to 5 years later, because they don't know how to manage that sense of self-worth. Right? So your your perspective of not wanting the avoidant energy tends to be the defining energy. So that's why when we're trying to get away from something which also informs the avoidance, right? I don't want to fulfill on the lack of whatever I've had before. Like when I work with a baseball player, he might be one of the greatest in the major leagues. If he's had a if he scuffled through a few games and he hasn't had a hit, he's stepping up to the plate and he's being informed by what he doesn't want to continue, which energetically the fear of, okay, I haven't had a hit for three games.

Peter Crone 00:17:19  I'm over. I'm now going to be his energy is going to be in a state of tension. He's not relaxed like he would be in batting practice or he's shooting the shit or he's super confident. So it's self-fulfilling prophecy, business, sports and anything in life. So it's fulfilling on a future that you see is already being completed, is what's actually going to change the resonance of who you are. That then shifts your thoughts, feelings and actions so that then that becomes self fulfilled. But because people are being informed by the fear of something that equally that cascade still happens.

Jasmine Star 00:17:49  Where do you see this finding in like entrepreneurs that you've worked with? Is the building something essentially because I'm trying to avoid something. Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:17:56  Or compensate or overcome or disprove. Right. You know, like my my my brother, my sister, whatever the story is from childhood was the athlete, the academic. And so I'm going to stick it to them or I'm going to make my parents wrong, or I'm going to show my dad that I'm not a piece of shit.

Peter Crone 00:18:09  You know, these these can be motivators, right? But you said at the beginning about being forceful, right? And I often will have certainly my athletes repeat after me. I say I am.

Peter Crone 00:18:19  Forceful, I am forceful, right.

Peter Crone 00:18:21  And so when you think I am forceful, what is that? And I'm curious with you, particularly because of like the little background we had before, when you think I am forceful, what does that feel like energetically, physiologically.

Peter Crone 00:18:33  It.

Jasmine Star 00:18:33  Feels good.

Peter Crone 00:18:34  Okay.

Jasmine Star 00:18:35  It feels like strength. It feels like power. It feels like I happen to it and it doesn't happen to me.

Peter Crone 00:18:41  Got it. And that's there's going to be my. That would have been my guess. So now let's.

Jasmine Star 00:18:46  See. ladies and gentlemen, Peter and I spoke five minutes before we turn on the camera.

Peter Crone 00:18:49  So this doesn't take me a long time, does it? Take me long to get people's energy? Plus, you said being an Eric. So now.

Peter Crone 00:18:56  If I asked you to say I am powerful.

Peter Crone 00:18:59  Now repeat that I.

Peter Crone 00:19:00  Am powerful, I am.

Jasmine Star 00:19:01  Powerful.

Peter Crone 00:19:02  How does that feel?

Jasmine Star 00:19:03  Incongruous. It doesn't come as natural to me.

Peter Crone 00:19:06  Okay. Got it. Yeah. Wow. Okay.

Jasmine Star 00:19:09  But what does that say about me now?

Peter Crone 00:19:10  Well, I like it.

Jasmine Star 00:19:12  And it doesn't feel off, but it does. I feel I am forceful in a way that I own it and then I am powerful. Is yes, yes. Not yes. Exclamation point.

Peter Crone 00:19:22  Yeah. No, no, I get that. And again, there's no right or wrong. This is all based on interpretation. And you could, you know, take one or the other and have an extraordinary life. For me, the way I look at it energetically is force is really being driven from a place of lack and control.

Peter Crone 00:19:36  Well tell me like.

Jasmine Star 00:19:37  So he clearly knows a lot about me.

Peter Crone 00:19:39  Okay, okay. Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:19:40  Which I would read in your energy. Not as good or bad, but it's just, you know, it's going to be a limitation, right? And it's also going to cascade through.

Peter Crone 00:19:46  Your life.

Peter Crone 00:19:47  Physiologically. And it's going to manifest in all sorts of ways that you take pride in your force, which is part of, ironically, your weakness. Right?

Peter Crone 00:19:56  So we're just we're having a therapy. This is a therapy. This was amazing.

Peter Crone 00:20:01  In front of people.

Peter Crone 00:20:02  This is terrible.

Peter Crone 00:20:03  So yeah. And this is all done with love.

Peter Crone 00:20:05  Right. So absolutely because I care.

Peter Crone 00:20:07  And I also want your listeners to garner from something that's particularly if they're obviously fans of yours, which they will be and they see and they aspire to everything.

Jasmine Star 00:20:14  Yes, I'm very open.

Peter Crone 00:20:15  Which is beautiful. And so that is your strength, right? Is that there's room for improvement. So or education or inspiration.

Peter Crone 00:20:22  So say that.

Jasmine Star 00:20:23  Again that force is a result of lack and want.

Peter Crone 00:20:26  It's a byproduct. Yeah. Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:20:28  So force if you think about it energetically and again I'm open to anyone's interpretation the way I look at it. And I've done this for now three decades with the best of the best in every industry.

Peter Crone 00:20:37  So it's been pretty consistently proved that when we come from a place of force, it's a manipulative energy. It's a dominant energy. It's where we're trying to control. Right? So if someone were to just a layperson, a psychologist on the street might say, oh, yeah, Jasmine Type-A control freak, right? You know, as a general sort of dismissive but not inaccurate statement.

Peter Crone 00:20:56  Right.

Peter Crone 00:20:57  So those qualities tend to be compensatory.

Peter Crone 00:21:01  Absolutely. Right.

Peter Crone 00:21:02  So if we were to dive into and maybe we will expose some of it here, I don't know. We've never.

Peter Crone 00:21:06  Met before. Let's go.

Jasmine Star 00:21:07  Let's go. Rip me open. Yeah I know how you pay. People pay you a lot of money to work one on one. If we turn this podcast into a free therapy session. Yeah. Okay.

Peter Crone 00:21:16  So the forcefulness, which is again, not bad, but it's going to be limited. It's an adaption. Right. So we have maladaptive behaviors. We have adaptive behaviors in the way that we grow up especially from our childhood.

Peter Crone 00:21:28  So I could maybe guess. But you can equally share that some of the things you grew up in and the environment, I don't know if you had siblings. I don't know what your parents are like, to what degree you got attention. You were probably a great student or maybe weren't, and you've compensated. Whatever it is, you've become a force. But that force, what I feel is adaptive but maladaptive. Right?

Peter Crone 00:21:47  You've 100, right? Keep going. Yeah. All of it.

Peter Crone 00:21:51  And so why I'm happy to share this with is you know, I work again, as I said, with multiple billionaires and are the best of the best in sports and entertainment. You know, blessed to get people shout out at concerts and it's amazing, you know, and I feel very fortunate. But what I hear is in you is no matter what you've created and the audience that you have who look up to you and you're inspiring, you're you're limiting yourself because it's built on, you know, the quintessential sand foundation.

Jasmine Star 00:22:17  Hey, man.

Peter Crone 00:22:18  Tell me something I don't know. Yeah. How do I change it?

Peter Crone 00:22:21  Okay, well, we can do some of it here.

Peter Crone 00:22:23  So this is uncomfortable.

Jasmine Star 00:22:24  I'm literally saying I'm sitting right now. Okay. Let's go. I'm I'm 100% committed. I'm going to do this. And I'm going to answer, even if it makes me wildly uncomfortable.

Peter Crone 00:22:31  Okay. Beautiful.

Peter Crone 00:22:32  Well, I really acknowledge you for that. That means a lot. That and thank you for trusting me in this because again, we haven't met. So the thing to recognize is that there's a huge cost to you emotionally and particularly physiologically, and then eventually in your realm, financially and materially in relation level, when you're coming from a place that isn't truly authentic to your soul, spirit consciousness. Right. So this is ego based control. So the ego from a place of fear, so wanting to be the best, wanting to have the sense of perfectionism, these are qualities that I could see that you've adapted, which they, they work.

Peter Crone 00:23:12  Right. Like, think about just physiologically. Right. I studied exercise physiology and biology at school. So I understand the difference between, say, anaerobic or aerobic systems in the body. Right. And you would have experienced it. And you're smart. You know some of it too. But if we sprint okay, you've got a lot of force, but for a short duration and there's going to be a lot of, you know, lactic acid and there's a cost to that performance. So your current way of functioning. To me is costly. Now, does it get results? For sure. I've got lots of people I've worked with who are complete. So, you know, they're really controlling, really dominant. They're very dismissive. They're not the kind of people you'd want to have around Thanksgiving, but they have successful businesses, but at massive expense. So what the axis for someone like you who genuinely cares, who wants to be open, is to see the expense of the way that you currently function.

Peter Crone 00:23:59  It's not it's not a bad system. It's just not an efficient system. And it's a limited system. One of my favorite distinctions that I realize is with your methodology, you become the best version of your limited self. Damn.

Jasmine Star 00:24:13  I'm so tired of being the best version of my limit. It's all. Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:24:16  And that's what I see a lot of. So it's like I talk about these different dimensions. It's not about improving the space that you're in. It's about busting down walls so that you open up more space to extra possibility. As an analogy, if you were metaphorically like a 600 square foot studio apartment, you would make it beautiful just because of your forcefulness, your eye for detail. You're a mature, exquisite woman. You have elegance. I can see all of these qualities. So you could buy a piece that was maybe used by a couple of bums, and it had carpet mold in the drywall, you know, and a washing machine that doesn't even work. And all the things in Jasmine would come in.

Peter Crone 00:24:52  It would be impeccable by the time you're done with it. Like, you know, pick wood floors from Paris, you know, the walls would be stripped. It would be lead free paint, RH furniture, you know, be like the wolf appliances, whatever. It would be beautiful, but it still be 600ft². So as an analogy, that's what people are doing. So when people are starting to go back to the original question, as entrepreneurs, they're perfecting a limited space.

Jasmine Star 00:25:16  I feel flayed open right now.

Peter Crone 00:25:18  You feel I.

Jasmine Star 00:25:18  Feel flayed open. Okay. I feel like like, you didn't come with a machete. You came with this scalpel. And I'm knowing I'm bleeding out in front of you. And I'm like, oh my God.

Peter Crone 00:25:28  Okay. Whoa.

Jasmine Star 00:25:29  Oh, wow. Yeah, I gotta get it together.

Peter Crone 00:25:32  Peter. No, this is beautiful because.

Peter Crone 00:25:33  This is accessing a part of you that many people maybe don't see. And I really appreciate the vulnerability.

Peter Crone 00:25:39  It's really.

Jasmine Star 00:25:40  So good.

Jasmine Star 00:25:41  And it feels so awkward. It feels very awkward.

Peter Crone 00:25:43  Yeah, but how would you. Okay, so it's a safe space.

Jasmine Star 00:25:46  So, like, screw the rest of the questions. Rather screw the rest of the questions.

Peter Crone 00:25:50  Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:25:50  How do I move from force to power? That is all I want.

Peter Crone 00:25:54  Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:25:54  No, I get it. And I but sit with that for a minute because.

Peter Crone 00:25:57  You can't feel it. I don't want to feel it. You can.

Peter Crone 00:25:59  Because in your voice it broke a little bit. Right. So there's not an intonation of anyone that I work with that I don't notice. So the beauty in that is that you broke a little bit just in your voice. Right. And so that is the knocking down of a drywall in the 600 square foot apartment, which is starting to crumble, which is beautiful. And I really acknowledge you for that because, again, we don't know each other from a hole.

Peter Crone 00:26:18  In, you know.

Peter Crone 00:26:19  So the fact that you're entrusting me with this, it means a lot to me.

Peter Crone 00:26:22  So thank you. Thank you. And I'm sure it will touch your listeners incredibly.

Peter Crone 00:26:26  So I can't.

Jasmine Star 00:26:26  Hold on. We're just going to make space because our my production is bringing me tissue. never know. There will be no tears, honey. There will be no deer.

Peter Crone 00:26:35  Oh, man. Okay.

Peter Crone 00:26:37  I should have warned you.

Peter Crone 00:26:38  I know it's like.

Jasmine Star 00:26:40  Come with a box of tissue. Okay? No, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good.

Peter Crone 00:26:43  Okay. No, you're doing great. So the thing to recognize, first of all, it's beautiful is that there's nothing wrong with the way you have lived your life, but it comes a great expense. And as I said, it's the limited version of you. It's the best version of you. But it's the limited version.

Peter Crone 00:26:56  Okay. Right.

Peter Crone 00:26:57  And so we want to recognize okay, what is it that's really going on beneath the surface. Like what is Jasmine really trying to accomplish. Because it looks like it's exogenous.

Peter Crone 00:27:04  It looks like it's a business. I don't know anything about your business, but it looks like you're trying to do something out in the world. What I would assert is actually all you're really up to. You know, you have a you have a beautiful five year old. If you were to walk into the kitchen and she was snooping around and she sees you and you're like, what are you up to? Right? There's something going on beneath the surface. Yes. So what I see is it's not so much. And this will hopefully resonate with your audience to what you're trying to accomplish outside in the world, but rather, what are you trying to compensate for inside. So what was it that you decided at a young age, or what comes to mind as I've spoken in the film, what is happening courtesy of the language? But what is it that came to mind if you had any recollection from your childhood? Where did this girl, where was it incumbent upon her to be perfect? Where did she feel that she had to get everything right? Where did she film? Maybe she fell short and then she's like, I'm never going to do that again.

Peter Crone 00:27:53  Does any of those kind of resonate?

Jasmine Star 00:27:54  So I'm the eldest of five children from an immigrant family, okay. And I just have always fallen into the like, you will be responsible and you will take care.

Peter Crone 00:28:03  Of people.

Jasmine Star 00:28:04  And you will whatever is put in front of you, you you will do it. Yeah. You will do it.

Peter Crone 00:28:08  Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:28:09  No, just sit with that. Right. Because at one level, that's your badge of honor. And it's really beautiful. And without knowing you, I can only imagine the myriad of things that you've done behind the scenes. You know, out of sight, even from your parents. And the way that you took care of your siblings is really beautiful. And it speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. And I just want to acknowledge that, first of all. But what I also hear is that there's Where's Jasmine's life, right? Where's your life? Because now you're it's you're you're being it's an incumbent upon you that you have to.

Peter Crone 00:28:40  It's in the realm of what I call these insidious killers. There's certain words we use like I have to, I need to, I must. These are words that people use every day not realizing they're creating resistance in their body. So in that world where you're young immigrant family, you're charged with this huge responsibility that should not be a child, regardless of how old you were. But that now means that you have abandoned yourself because you now have the duty, which, as I said, it's it's it's a it's mandatory, right? There's no choice anymore. And when we lose choice, we lose freedom. So you've done it for so long decades at this point. So it's become, like I said, it's your pride. It's your badge of honor, which is beautiful because you obviously care. And you probably did things for your siblings that hopefully they're still acknowledging you for in the way that you maybe even saved their life. I don't know, but it's now become your greatest obstacle because you're still being informed by what you have to do, what you should do, what you must do, what you need to.

Peter Crone 00:29:37  And in that realm, there's no freedom of choice. Does that make sense? Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:29:42  100%.

Peter Crone 00:29:43  And it's also if you really can tap into it and you're a woman, so hopefully you can. What is it like if you just tap into your body thinking about decades of having to do a certain thing that wasn't your choice, the mandatory energy, the superimposition of pressure and responsibility that wasn't yours to have. What does that feel like in your body?

Jasmine Star 00:30:02  An anvil?

Peter Crone 00:30:03  Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:30:03  Heavy, right? And typically the word is exhausting. Right. So your system and you probably take impeccable care of yourself. But if I were to look at all of your blood works and all of your stuff, maybe not now, but not far away, 5 or 10 years. Regardless of how well you take care of yourself, we would see the results of that in your physiology, right? Adrenals and whatever else. Stomach, all of those things. Right? So we don't have to go there, but your physiology has to, you know, it keeps score.

Peter Crone 00:30:35  You know, there's a book about that, right? But it's like the energetics of what you're doing on a psychological and emotional level have to be stored in the body no matter what we do to offset it. And that's okay. But I'm excited that we're having this conversation, because now I can hopefully introduce you to my main product, which is freedom, right? So if Jasmine can break free, then your physiology can do what it does naturally, which is constantly rejuvenate itself without any impediment to, you know, health and vitality. Right.

Peter Crone 00:31:01  So if I.

Jasmine Star 00:31:02  Go back and I do a quick check in. Yeah, you had said to sit and be with it. And so while you're talking, I just kept on telling myself, like to be with it, to feel to feel everything that you're saying. And I feel it deeply. And there hasn't been a single thing that I have disagreed with. It's just it was like you just saw my inner side and you turn it inside out and you read it.

Jasmine Star 00:31:21  Yeah. So you read my charts and you see it exactly for what it is. But my default is to do. Yeah. My default is action. And so if I took time to sit through, like you had said, is to sit through our thoughts, feelings, and I immediately go to action. Okay, fine. I immediately want to do something to change from force into power. Yes. And so I'm highly coachable. So what I want Peter to do is tell me what to do. And I'm afraid that you're going to tell me there's not much we can do. We have to be. And I'm like, Good.

Peter Crone 00:31:54  God, yeah.

Peter Crone 00:31:54  Good God, I can't do that. Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:31:57  No, I can't.

Peter Crone 00:31:58  Do it yet.

Jasmine Star 00:31:58  I can't do it yet.

Peter Crone 00:31:59  I can't do it. All I've known is doing. Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:32:02  And it's a beautiful attribute that you've developed. And look, I without knowing the the ins and outs of your life professionally or personally, I have no doubt that you've accomplished tons.

Peter Crone 00:32:10  And it's beautiful, but it is in the realm of perspective, not action. Right. So meaning I'm not going to just say, like, you know, some sort of spiritual guru, like, okay, just be, you know, and just your being is enough. Like, okay, there's a certain degree of philosophical Application to that. But, you know, you're a woman of action.

Peter Crone 00:32:27  So.

Peter Crone 00:32:28  So I am going to give you the opportunity to act, but it's from a different place. Right? So when you live in the world of you have to, you must, you should. What does that feel like?

Jasmine Star 00:32:40  Heavy. It feels like I'm dragging something. I actually explained to my husband and business partner that I turned to him and I said, I am tired of pulling. Yes, I want to be pulled. I feel like I'm ready to be pulled. I feel like there's the different version of me who's calling to me, I feel it. So we have this conversation.

Jasmine Star 00:32:58  I had this conversation with my husband earlier this week and I'm like, oh my God, what is happening? Like it's literally like, just let go. Like be open to being pulled. Yeah. And I've just always been so much of a control freak that I pull and I'm tired of pulling better.

Peter Crone 00:33:10  It's exhausting.

Peter Crone 00:33:11  Like as it is. And I see it and it's really beautiful that you can be here with me in this energy and for your listeners, because I promise you especially, you know, I'm going to guess you skew predominantly female and they're, you know, probably mothers too, but they also want to build a business and they're bad and it's beautiful. But what I see with women like yourself is that you're doing such a disservice to the beautiful feminine that you are, which is more in the nurturance, you know, which is more in the creative and the ethereal. And it doesn't mean you have to walk around and be woowoo and, you know, palo santo your house every day, but you know you can still be about but from a place of really nurturing you.

Peter Crone 00:33:47  Right? Okay.

Peter Crone 00:33:48  Love includes you. And so the dragging the heavy, the things that you describe is because you're still playing the role of that little girl who thinks it's incumbent upon her to take care of everything. Right. That's really the main prison that you're living in is, it's if I were to categorize it in some of the terminology I use, it's all up to Jasmine. Does that hit like does that resonate. So what is it like to live in a world where the way it occurs to you because it's your reality. And we'll discuss that in a minute. The way it occurs to you is it's all and all is everything, right. It's taking care of your siblings. It's now husband and other daughter business podcast. All. It's all up to you. What's it like to look at now? A little bit removed from your own life and go, Holy. I live like everything is up to you.

Jasmine Star 00:34:34  Yeah. It's sad. Yeah, because I know deep down it's not. Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:34:39  And I think it does a disservice to the people and the team that I have, of course. And so I think that I sell myself a story, I don't know, to push me into greater action and to do more. Yeah. And I don't think it serves anybody.

Peter Crone 00:34:49  What does it do in the realm of allowing people to contribute to you?

Jasmine Star 00:34:54  It's funny, before you came, I was having a conversation with our video crew and we were talking about love languages, and she had said something in passing that had said something along the lines it's your love language is correlative to the thing that you didn't have. Growing up and so my love language is acts of service. And most of the time I believe that or she had said the reason why that's probably your highest love language is because you didn't get help or you didn't know how to ask for help. Yeah. And so you.

Peter Crone 00:35:24  Desperately.

Jasmine Star 00:35:24  And so I don't know how to I don't know how to ask for help because I don't know what help I need.

Jasmine Star 00:35:31  And so I'm very verbal. And I if I ask you something, it's very specific, Peter. And if I don't, if I just say help me and somebody says how I'd be like, I don't know, right? And so then there's two of us who are lost. And I'm like, that's just not the world in which I dwell.

Peter Crone 00:35:42  No, of.

Peter Crone 00:35:42  Course. And that's all everything you're saying is all going to be past reference, right? So you don't know how to communicate from a different place. So even that is more evidence to sustain the ego that's confined. Right. Because there might come a time where tomorrow or after this conversation, you do know what to ask. And even if you don't know what to ask, it's okay because they could give you a hug or say, I love you.

Jasmine Star 00:36:01  I don't.

Peter Crone 00:36:02  Know. Yeah, and it's okay, I don't know. Do you.

Peter Crone 00:36:04  See? And so it doesn't have to be an immediate, impetuous result or action that is associated with the fact that you know what I'm feeling right now.

Peter Crone 00:36:14  Oh, honey, I get that. That's okay. Do you see? For you to give yourself a respite, to just be with an emotion for a minute, as opposed to think that it's something to resolve, an action that has to be taken, taken, or something that you have to do. Right. So there's this very forceful, very masculine energy, right? Again, none of us is bad. We have all of the qualities. I have a lot of feminine. I make my own skin moisturizers and things.

Peter Crone 00:36:36  You do have great skin.

Peter Crone 00:36:39  Thank you. But I think for you and I see this a lot with these very successful, driven women. You know, the masculine has just come on line too much and particularly being Aries. And now that I get a little semblance of what your childhood was like, that it's all incumbent upon you to take care of your entire family, your siblings, at least. You know, you start to see, oh wow, the conditioning is such that there's just no what you're about to do.

Peter Crone 00:37:01  Room for you to breathe, to see that right there. It's so beautiful, right? Because it's so subtle. But if you had and I don't know your medical history, if you had any kind of dis ease in your system right now, your body's starting to heal right in front of me, right? That seems like magic, but it's really beautiful because when you get out of the state of dis ease, the absence of ease, the carrying, the anvil, that's the state of disease, right? There's the absence of peace, which means you have to be in sympathetic mode, fight or flight, which means that you're dumping cortisol, norepinephrine, adrenaline into your system. There's no repair, there's no digestion. But in that moment where you let go of something, that's the letting go. It's not letting go of the millionth project that you're trying to take on. It's the letting go of energetically thinking that it's all incumbent upon you to do everything. You're literally letting go of the ultimate addiction which is to our identity.

Peter Crone 00:37:52  It's letting go of the jasmine who thinks she has to do everything. It's the death of a version of you. Does that make sense?

Peter Crone 00:38:00  Very much.

Peter Crone 00:38:00  That's the beauty of this work. I don't solve problems. I dissolve them. Dissolving your relationship, which is maladaptive. It's disease oriented, and it's inefficient in the way that you think everything is incumbent upon you. That's one component for sure. It's the biggest.

Jasmine Star 00:38:17  1 In 2022, I download a word of the year. So in 2023 it was rebirth. 2024 it was independence. I'm not doing it on my own, but doing it my own way. And in 2025, the word is flow. Okay. And so I feel that everything you've said about the previous version of me. Yeah, that is the death of me. Yeah. And I am so stubborn that the death of me has taken me two years. And I know that it's supposed to be the flow of me stepping into it, because the thing I'm building is a holding company, and I keep on telling myself, I think that I am in the way of it, because I keep on thinking that I have to do.

Jasmine Star 00:38:57  And how can I do more when I'm already feeling like I'm doing the most? And what I have to let go of is I have to ask for help. I have to say, I don't know, and then I have to depend on others to do the thing. Like the big vision is there, Peter. I am the resistance.

Peter Crone 00:39:12  Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:39:12  That's okay. And how do I get out of that?

Peter Crone 00:39:15  Yeah, well, we're doing it right now, and I know there's a little bit of impetuosity and patience with people of your disposition. So that's going to be part of your lesson, right? To the words that I had to as part of my, I would say, the final sort of tears of me getting to the place I was with the components of trust and patience. Right. Which is for somebody who's driven that, you know, that Kryptonite. So for you to recognize, okay, if everything's up to you, it's everything is your responsibility. And there's a new definition of responsibility I'm going to leave you with before I leave, because right now it's again, it's very dysfunctional.

Peter Crone 00:39:48  So if it's all up to you, the reason that you have this, like this death like grip on behavior and everything, but also the awareness which is great in the intelligence to recognize you are quote unquote the biggest obstacle, which, by the way, you know, shocker to everyone. You are your own obstacle, right? But you just have a pretty big solid wall if it's all up to you, what is one of the fears that's going to be associated with that?

Peter Crone 00:40:11  If everything oh.

Jasmine Star 00:40:12  My trigger is letting people down.

Peter Crone 00:40:14  Yes. So put that in lay terms. Letting people down would be what?

Jasmine Star 00:40:18  I feel like the talent on this team is remarkable, and I think that they can go anywhere, Peter. They can go anywhere. And they have bought into this dream, and they've bought into a belief that it's going to be very big. Yeah. And I feel like if for some reason I don't execute on that, I feel like I've let them down and I feel like if squandered their best years.

Jasmine Star 00:40:35  Yeah. To be somewhere else.

Peter Crone 00:40:37  So so let's take it. Because all of this is being framed by a little girl who's charged with something that made her fundamentally very scared. two primary emotions that we all have hurt or scared. Hurt is associated with our history. Scared is about our future. They both coexist. The degree to which we've been hurt is usually the degree to which being scared. So that little girl was very scared when she was charged with taking care of these siblings at a very young age in a foreign environment, you know, if you're in immigrants, right? I'm guessing that will happen. So what, letting down? What would that look like to a little girl like you? Don't say, I don't want to let down my parents, right?

Jasmine Star 00:41:13  I don't want to let down my siblings. I felt like I wanted to keep him safe.

Peter Crone 00:41:16  Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:41:17  So this adds to the significance of your death like grip. Because keeping them safe has got what associated with it.

Jasmine Star 00:41:26  Life and.

Peter Crone 00:41:26  Death.

Peter Crone 00:41:27  No big deal, right?

Peter Crone 00:41:28  Right, right. For a child. Right. Right, right.

Peter Crone 00:41:31  So life and death is now collapsed with your condition response that it's all up to you. There's a lot at stake now. So letting people down could also be termed what that you could do harm. Could do harm.

Peter Crone 00:41:46  Yeah. Death to.

Jasmine Star 00:41:46  Their dream, which to me is very synonymous with like a death to one's.

Peter Crone 00:41:49  Life. It is.

Peter Crone 00:41:50  But unbeknownst yourself. That's what you're.

Peter Crone 00:41:52  Doing. I know.

Peter Crone 00:41:53  Right? Although now it's becoming very evident. So doing harm is in lay terms for the sake of leading the witness a little bit here. Doing anything wrong?

Peter Crone 00:42:04  Yeah, yeah.

Peter Crone 00:42:07  So now you live in a world like, just consider who you be for yourself. Until this conversation is, it's all up to you. And because it's all up to you, you can't do anything wrong. So now if you collapse those, you've got the anvil of I. It's all up to me now.

Peter Crone 00:42:20  And. And I can't do anything wrong. There's no room for mistakes for Jasmine. Do you see that? That is your reality. That's literally. It's not a belief. It's how the world occurs to you. And rightly so, based on how you were introduced to that responsibility. So it's all up to you. And you can't make a mistake. You can't. What's it like to live in that?

Peter Crone 00:42:40  Terrifying. Exhausting. Brutal. Brutal.

Peter Crone 00:42:43  It's really brutal for someone with your intelligence and the size of your heart and the aspirations you have and the potential that is just sitting there dormant. You're literally. And you've done such an incredible job of managing this in a state of terror, but you've developed all these maladaptive, incredible capacities on the surface, the way you put yourself together again, not knowing the details of your life. But I can imagine. And again, there's a nice breath. Right? You're starting to.

Peter Crone 00:43:11  See the system trying.

Jasmine Star 00:43:12  To regulate the nervous system right now.

Peter Crone 00:43:14  Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:43:14  For people who are not watching the video, I am taking the world's biggest breaths because I feel like the anxiety is shooting up. And I know that there is not a lion that's about to maul me. No, this is not life and death.

Peter Crone 00:43:26  No, quite the opposite. You might be in the safest, most loving space you could ever be, and your systems recognize it. So albeit you say the anxiety is shooting up, I would also say it's shooting out. It's leaving your body. Right? Because you're realizing what was previously why I said at the beginning, you can't be held accountable for that which you're oblivious to, which is why compassion comes in. You're an extraordinary woman again. I've known you for like, half an hour, 45 minutes. I don't need to know the details, but I can see the absolute angst and the tightness of your whole nervous system based on what was charged to a little girl, that was not her responsibility to have. So there's only compassion for me, but there's also the inclination and the desire to help you step out of that so that you can live a life of complete freedom.

Peter Crone 00:44:07  That's my commitment.

Peter Crone 00:44:08  Wow.

Peter Crone 00:44:08  Okay, we're getting there, baby said.

Peter Crone 00:44:10  I know, trust and patience. Trust and patience and.

Jasmine Star 00:44:12  Trust in patients.

Peter Crone 00:44:13  Trust me.

Peter Crone 00:44:14  Okay, so we're getting to the main prisons. It's all up to you if it's all up to you, especially at a young age where lives are at stake, then you have no room for mistakes. Now you start to see again how exhausting it is because you you literally in the way that you relate to life, you can't do anything wrong. So what are some of the ways that you've compensated? Because it's all compensatory for the fact that you think you can't do something wrong? What are some of your behavioral traits?

Peter Crone 00:44:40  I overwork.

Jasmine Star 00:44:41  Yeah. I chess out every scenario so that I feel like I'm prepared for anything that comes my way.

Peter Crone 00:44:48  You could.

Peter Crone 00:44:48  Work for the Secret.

Peter Crone 00:44:49  Service. Yeah, absolutely.

Jasmine Star 00:44:50  Absolutely. I will.

Jasmine Star 00:44:53  Have.

Jasmine Star 00:44:53  Plan B, and I will plan C and plan D. Yeah. And so I feel like I work four times as hard to be prepared.

Jasmine Star 00:45:01  Yeah. And pivot and drive myself even more.

Peter Crone 00:45:04  Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:45:06  Now as you say those words, do you see the cost to you of living that way?

Peter Crone 00:45:09  Well, I think.

Jasmine Star 00:45:10  Mostly Live.

Peter Crone 00:45:11  The cost of.

Jasmine Star 00:45:12  My husband and daughter.

Peter Crone 00:45:13  That's okay. Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:45:15  But that's where this is. Where it really hits the road, right? Is that you really care? I get how much you care, but you're driven by the other dysfunctional part of that, which is worry. I care more than anyone I know. Heart centered anatomically in the middle of my chest. You live in your head, which is all.

Peter Crone 00:45:32  About.

Peter Crone 00:45:33  Self-preservation, pure survival. It's all worry. None of your fault. So there's nothing to feel guilty about any of this. This is beautiful. This is probably going to touch more people than you've ever touched, is my guess.

Peter Crone 00:45:43  I know I have to.

Jasmine Star 00:45:44  Tell myself, like, I feel like a.

Peter Crone 00:45:46  I feel very selfish. Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:45:48  And I feel like I had prepared for this interview to help other people, and I'm totally using it for me.

Jasmine Star 00:45:52  And so my apologies to people who are watching, but I'm going to believe I have to believe, Peter, that somebody else is going to see it. And there it's going to resonate with them. Because what I want to do is I just want to quit and be like, hey, Peter, I'll pay you for this. Like, put me on your schedule in 2027 whenever you have an opening, I'll pay for this. But what I want to do is I want to stand in the batter's box, and I want to get a hit, and I'm not going to leave the batter's box until I get a hit because I want to change. Dang it. Oh, God, this is so awkward.

Peter Crone 00:46:19  Oh my God.

Peter Crone 00:46:20  This is beautiful. And really, I really I see you, right? And whilst you think that you're being selfish, I would absolutely guarantee as somebody who's done this for decades, this might be the most selfless thing you've ever done because all of your previous behaviors were selfish, unbeknownst to you, because you were actually trying to survive your own limitations.

Peter Crone 00:46:42  That's all about you.

Peter Crone 00:46:44  Okay.

Peter Crone 00:46:45  So this actually is selflessness because you're giving other people a listening watching right now the opportunity to see their own cages, their own prisons that they've been living in under the guise of I'm a great wife, I'm a great mother, I'm a great business person or whatever it is. But really, they're usually adaptations to our own feelings of inadequacy that really is about us. We get to constantly be right about where we are, right? shortfall. So really for me, I say, you know, being right is the poor man's version of self-worth. You get that. So you get to be right about, in this case, these two really what I call linguistic fortresses because they're just prisons of your own language, but you are trapped in the idea that it's all up to you. And as a result, just beneath that is you. You just you cannot make a mistake. So the compensations are, as you said, you work hard. You've got all these strategies.

Peter Crone 00:47:35  Plan B, you're a perfectionist. You're a control freak. These I promise you our quality as of right now, everybody listening is like, Holy shit, that's.

Peter Crone 00:47:42  Me, okay?

Peter Crone 00:47:43  And that's why this is a gift, okay? Because that's why they are stuck as entrepreneurs. To go back to the original question, that's why they're not maximizing their returns and not getting the investments that they wanted to be realized in the way that they anticipated, because they're living in a prison of their own unknowing, and you're exposing yours, which vicariously lets them see theirs. Okay, okay. So less awkward. Okay.

Peter Crone 00:48:05  A lot.

Jasmine Star 00:48:05  Less. Thank you.

Peter Crone 00:48:06  Yeah. And there's going to be other sort of co-actors in this script of the prison that Jasmine's lived in. But. So let's look at the first one. When you live in the world of it's all up to You. We've talked about how that feels. It's heavy or dragging. You've even talked to your husband recently that you're feeling like you're, you know, you want to step into this version that's allowing.

Peter Crone 00:48:23  So the time is perfect in this conversation, because we're going from a place where you're trying to avoid something, to allow something. You're trying to avoid anything going wrong, which is when you look at it as a mother, as a woman, first of all, just using basic intelligence. It's such an asinine way to live. It doesn't even make sense. You know, I'm I mean, I think I'm one of the smartest people I know and I all the time because I'm okay with it. Right? That's my humanity. So for you to recognize you're living in a world that not only is un logical, it's actually futile because it can't be fulfilled. Right? And again, it's all come down to subjective what is wrong? What is right. Okay. But still you're human, right? And especially now as a mother. And she's young enough as this beautiful daughter that, you know, you want to give her the the gift that is her humanity, right? That is compassion for self.

Peter Crone 00:49:12  That is love. Otherwise she's going to grow up into mini me. And you're going to see a kid who is on Adderall in high school, who's going to college but can't keep up and has got anxiety disorders because she's trying to be like a mom and get everything perfect. Right. Just being a little bit more sort of categorical friend to friend, like, you know, pull your head out of your. Yeah. Because I get how much you care. Yeah. And as we saw with the tears how much this is impacting your husband and your daughter. So this is going to be a gift not only to them but to everyone listening. So let's look at the first prison. We can understand. You were charged with this responsibility and this responsibility to complete on what I promise, which is to redefine it. Your responsibility is the old form of responsibility. It has got guilt and shame associated with it. Right. You're responsible that energy. Right. And so what that child heard is responsibility. If you've got if you do something wrong, there's consequences and it's your fault.

Peter Crone 00:50:04  Right? Do you see that responsibility that I talk about is much more. It incorporates the essence of why we incarnated without getting too esoteric responsibility is that I'm 100% responsible for my life, but not from a place of guilt or shame, but from accountability, because I'm a man of honor. And if I say I'm going to do something and I don't do it, I'm responsible. Not I'm a bad guy. But I just didn't complete on what I said. Do you see the difference? So in this conversation, you're actually now going to become responsible, but you're going to become responsible for what you've been up to, as I said earlier, which is you've been pretending that it's all up to you and that you can't make mistakes. And it is a lie because it's not only completely futile, it's completely, as I said before, you can't complete on those, right? So where were you? Where were you born?

Peter Crone 00:50:49  California. In California. Okay. California.

Peter Crone 00:50:51  So if I were to cut you open.

Peter Crone 00:50:52  This is an exercise. I take people out and you can only answer yes or no. Okay. Am I going to find a physical manufacturing label? Pick your material, wood, metal or plastic inside of you that says Jasmine, born in California. It's all up to her. No, I'm not right. And yet it defines your life, so it exists somewhere. So where does it all up to? You exist. If it's not part of your physiology or your hardware, where does it exist?

Peter Crone 00:51:13  My mind. Yeah it does.

Peter Crone 00:51:14  And then in the mind, what are these things made up of? And again, you don't get to be biologically and specific here. It's all up to me is what words.

Peter Crone 00:51:23  It's words.

Peter Crone 00:51:24  It's literally words. So if it's just words in your mind, the thing is you've got history. You've got decades of evidence. So that's why it's got the gravity. But I'm breaking that down. It's just words. It's up to me in your mind. Is it therefore a categoric truth in the universe that it's all up to you? No, it's not, is it? Now sit with that.

Peter Crone 00:51:48  You've been living in a lie through no fault of your own. So that's the old responsibility that you believe beyond belief. It's who you are. It's all up to you. That's how you relate to life. Do you see that? But it's a lie. That's the good news. So now this is all new. And I tell people, I'm introducing you to a world that you're not familiar. So it might take a minute, but you're smart and you're paying attention. I really appreciate that. And the absence, the absence I dissolve don't solve the it's up to me is gone. And again, it's going to be unfamiliar. What might be possible in the way you would feel if it's not all up to you, how might you feel?

Jasmine Star 00:52:23  I'm free that I'm a part of a team. That it's something bigger, that the eye becomes we. And that makes me very excited.

Peter Crone 00:52:31  Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:52:32  Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:52:33  It's different. Very, very. We're just.

Peter Crone 00:52:35  Knocking down a couple of walls in the 600 square foot.

Peter Crone 00:52:37  Apartment.

Jasmine Star 00:52:38  Maybe. Let's go to 4000. That's good.

Peter Crone 00:52:41  40,000.

Jasmine Star 00:52:41  That's right.

Peter Crone 00:52:42  You know, for me, it's like living in this world of abundance, which is waiting. Somebody said to me the other day, a very astute woman, she's done a lot of work, and she's a single mom of two beautiful kids. And she we've got to connect recently, have some beautiful dialogue about some of these different ways of actually looking at the human experience. And she's very astute. But where one area she's struggled with is finances. And she said, you know, I'm really embodying my feminine. I'm softening. I'm allowing all of these beautiful qualities, she said. And I'm really excited to create abundance. Sounds amazing, doesn't it? Yes, I said, but you can't, because abundance is what we're interested in is not creating abundance, but making you available to it. that might trigger a couple of your entrepreneurs, right? Because you're most people are trying to get something which, again, is reinforcing what they don't have.

Peter Crone 00:53:31  Yes.

Peter Crone 00:53:31  So you you are surrounded by sounds like extraordinary people. Certainly the people I've met here today. And I'm sure your husband and daughter had just exquisite. They all love you, I love you and I've only just met you. Right? I'm a very loving guy, but you're an amazing person, you know, so you can allow those people around you to actually now truly contribute to you because you become available in the absence of thinking, it's all up to you. and beyond the people in your life you get to without sounding too esoteric, let life contribute to you. Which is what I would assert is the intuitive sense of you're now allowing something to come to you. That's where life is trying to contribute to you. You've got this little old shack called your ego. You're pushing so hard up against the door and like, I've got this and there's this world of abundance that's waiting to come to you. In the absence of you thinking it's all up to you to take care of it. How's that sound?

Jasmine Star 00:54:22  I mean.

Peter Crone 00:54:23  Are still spritzing.

Jasmine Star 00:54:26  I feel good. Yeah, I feel so good. And I will not apologize, because what comes up, I think being the eldest and being responsible as well, I have to make sure that everybody else has the same feeling. And so I hope that everybody else has the same feeling. And in case you don't. The good news is that Peter is very accessible. We'll turn this into a business component now. Peter Crone. Com I have to say that because I want to point people to a place that they might be able to find a little piece of this for themselves. And one thing that really hit is abundance is yeah, and I'm ready and willing to make it available to me. I'm tired of holding up the door on my 400 square foot beautiful studio apartment, but I'm ready for the 40,000 square foot.

Peter Crone 00:55:14  Palatial estate right there that is available to us all. Thank you.

Peter Crone 00:55:18  I'm not quite done with you.

Peter Crone 00:55:19  That's okay if you're okay for a little.

Peter Crone 00:55:21  Bit of time, because it's important to.

Peter Crone 00:55:22  Me. Things coming.

Jasmine Star 00:55:23  Back. All right, let's go, Peter.

Peter Crone 00:55:25  Let's go. I don't want.

Peter Crone 00:55:25  To leave you hanging. And more importantly, for your audience, too, because I like to complete these things as a man of integrity.

Peter Crone 00:55:30  Thank you.

Peter Crone 00:55:31  So that means a lot to me that I don't want to kind of do this open heart surgery in front of everybody and then just kind of leave a few parts open and hanging on the operating table. Okay? Okay. So okay, in the absence of the it's up to you. You got the sense of freedom. That's why I call my product freedom, right. So you get to be free of you, the version of you that was previously the obstacle to everything that is waiting there for you to enjoy. Right? So that's the freedom from it's not up to you. You get that categorically right. It's not up to you. And the difference is from the insidious killers of I have to, I should. It's up to you.

Peter Crone 00:56:02  You still can choose. I love to take care of people. I love to create. I love to be active. Right? That now it's got a different resonance about it. Right before it was no choice. And now it's choice. So real freedom is about choice. Oh, that makes sense. Very much so. Now you're still going to be about it. It's all going to be active and you're still going to have some of this, what I call karmic momentum, meaning some of your old habits is still going to sometimes want to kick in. And it's like, oh, we got to take care of this. And it's like, oh, hang on a minute, I can just kick back. I don't have to. Yes, but I'd like to. Right. So that's a different world. So the other one I still want to address, because that really was in the realm of life or death. It's very heavy. Is it true? Again, cut you open. Am I going to find a manufacturer? There's a Jasmine born in California.

Peter Crone 00:56:42  She can't do anything wrong. Yeah, no. Where does it exist?

Peter Crone 00:56:46  My mind.

Peter Crone 00:56:46  And what is it made up of?

Peter Crone 00:56:48  Words.

Peter Crone 00:56:48  Totally words. So really get this, folks. Everybody at home, you're being stopped by sound. I just get that. That's really profound. Your whole world, from physiology to what have you been through in relationships? Not just an amazing husband, past boyfriends where you had to be the perfect girlfriend. I can only imagine the way you showed up for all the men in your life, the way that you have to show up all of this in your life, with your current family and your daughter and your business. And it's exhausting, right? There's no room for error in your world and all of that. The impact, the effects, the exhaustion is based on words. And that's why I love what I get to do. Because you're being stopped by sound. It's up to me. No it's not. You can't do anything wrong. So if it's in your mind, in words, is it true as an absolute truth? You can't do anything wrong.

Peter Crone 00:57:39  No, no. What does that feel like?

Jasmine Star 00:57:42  Great. Because I think what I visualize right now is I can't do anything wrong. And they picture an eyedropper that points something in and that dissolves the whole thing. And visually, just being able to break it apart, yeah, allows me to think and feel it viscerally different in my body.

Peter Crone 00:57:56  Yeah.

Peter Crone 00:57:57  You get now to give yourself the permission, which is ironically, always there as part of being human. To just be human and wrong is a subjective conversation. There's a kid out there right now who's breaking a window somewhere in Newport Beach because he saw a handbag. We could say that's wrong or it's even bad, or he's a criminal. But if you knew his genetics and his upbringing and he had a single parent who was an addict and he only found some sort of belonging in a gang, and now he has to pay his way. And, you know, it doesn't make it right, but it's not wrong. We can have compassion. And if he gets caught, he'll go to juvenile prison for a minute or whatever.

Peter Crone 00:58:30  But it just softens the whole world of judgment that we live in, right? We can start to be more compassionate, starting with ourselves. And you haven't had much room for that, if any? No. And I hope after today you will not only have more love for yourself, but as a result, be more available to love from others, which also, by your own intention, actually allows you to love others more authentically. Because there's going to be days where you don't feel like doing everything, but because you've so conditioned yourself to show up, you do. But it's okay for you to be human. It's okay for you to just be Jasmine. And that's a gift to everybody. Because in doing that, you also give them permission to have their off days. It's okay. And that's what the world needs more of. The world doesn't need more entrepreneurs who are willing to do the work of anybody else, as far as I'm concerned. The world needs more people who understand what it is to live from true freedom, true love, and a true sense of possibility.

Jasmine Star 00:59:28  Thank you. Just drop the mic.

Jasmine Star 00:59:30  Peter Krohn, thank you.

Peter Crone 00:59:33  Didn't expect that today, did you?

Peter Crone 00:59:35  Not at all.

Jasmine Star 00:59:36  And you know, it's crazy because I test things out, and I plan and prepare. And so it felt like I was extraordinarily caught off guard. Yeah. I was not prepared. And I think that the only way I would be able to hear it so clearly was because I was wildly unprepared.

Peter Crone 00:59:51  Yeah. Because otherwise your.

Peter Crone 00:59:52  Ability to prepare a second to none and you would have not been available, which is why I'm so grateful that it unfolded.

Peter Crone 00:59:58  This way. I am so.

Jasmine Star 01:00:01  Grateful for you. I am so grateful for you.

Peter Crone 01:00:04  So now what becomes possible again? I'm introducing you to a world that you're not familiar with, which is really the name of my business is 2.0. What? I'm introducing people to a new space where we can actually inspire the realization of a new type of human being. Like, that's how grandiose I think. It's not from a place of limitation which gives fear, suffering, disease and dysfunction.

Peter Crone 01:00:22  That's the world we live in. This is a world of freedom, love, possibility, vitality and harmony. Completely different. So stepping into that, you're just dipping your toe into this new paradigm. What what might life look like? Or how would you feel just walking around as a woman?

Jasmine Star 01:00:38  Unstoppable.

Peter Crone 01:00:39  Yeah, I actually would feel powerful. Very powerful.

Peter Crone 01:00:44  Okay. That gave me chills.

Peter Crone 01:00:46  It gave me chills, too.

Peter Crone 01:00:47  Yeah, that's different than forceful, isn't it? Now you can see the the pride, which was so well founded and being forceful was a disservice to the extraordinary woman you are when you're just being you and powerful.

Jasmine Star 01:00:57  And here I thought I wasn't going to cry again. ladies and gentlemen, Peter chrome.com. Please follow him on Instagram on LinkedIn. He does have a freedom platform and he wouldn't talk about it himself. It is a membership where he has hours and hours and hours of research. It's $29 a month at the time of this recording. And so you can get all that information on Peter crone.com.

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