Building a Business (and Marriage) with Your Spouse: Behind the Scenes with my Husband, JD

Today’s episode is extra special, friends — I'm sitting down with my husband, best friend, co-founder, and favorite human, JD Delatorre.

After only 20 years together (and nearly that long building businesses side-by-side!), I finally convinced JD to sit behind the mic and share his perspective on what it really looks like to be married to your business partner…and still like each other. 😂

We’re talking about:

How I roped JD into recording this episode (spoiler: a "finger shake" contract was involved!) What it's like to mix marriage and entrepreneurship for two decades The unglamorous but honest dynamics of decision-making, communication, and occasional eye-rolling How our relationship and business roles have evolved, especially after becoming parents The three words JD uses to describe me as a business partner AND a wife (grab tissues — this one got me right in the feels 🥹) This conversation is totally unscripted, a little messy, full of laughter, and packed with real talk about what it takes to not just build a thriving business — but a thriving marriage too.

If you’ve ever wondered how we navigate it all — from finger shakes to 10x dreams — this one’s for you.

Because here’s the truth: Building a business with someone you love is hard. Loving them through it all is even harder. But it’s also the most beautiful journey you can imagine.

Click >>PLAY<< to hear all of this and:

[01:30] The story of the "finger shake" that sealed the deal

[04:00] Why working together has always been all in from the start

[06:00] Three words JD uses to describe me as a business partner

[07:20] The three (different!) words JD uses to describe me as a wife

[10:30] How we balance evolving roles at home and work

[14:45] Why communication and compromise have been our business superpowers

[19:00] A heartfelt moment about growth, patience, and building dreams together

Listen to Related Episodes:

• The Story of Jasmine + JD featuring Amy Porterfield
• Spilling the Tea About My Relationship With JD

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Transcript

Jasmine Star 00:00:00  Welcome to the Jasmin Starr Show, where today I have hands down my most favorite all time guest. This guest is probably going to get ten x the amount of downloads, ten x the amount of views this person is about to blow. This person is about to blow your mind.

Jasmine Star 00:00:17  With the insights that he's going to share.

Jasmine Star 00:00:19  Ladies and gentlemen, I could not be more excited to welcome my husband and.

Jasmine Star 00:00:24  My business partner, JD dilatory. Yes, it's ten x baby.

JD DelaTorre 00:00:30  1010 x. Okay, well, you know, thank you for having me. You're welcome. I feel like we're at home, so I'm like, I'm in my element, but I am very nervous.

Jasmine Star 00:00:39  Yes, we were nervous. And then today I walked. You were getting Luna dressed for the day, and I walked in and I said, I'm so nervous for this podcast. Like, I want to I want to show up. And before I could even finish a sentence, you're like, oh, you're going to show up so nice and you're going to show up like you're going to make the world want to love you.

Jasmine Star 00:00:55  He's like.

Jasmine Star 00:00:55  You should show up how you really are. I was like, wow, bro.

JD DelaTorre 00:00:58  Wow, actually, maybe that was me flirting. Because when you said you were nervous, I kind of got. I was just like, she loves me. She. If I make her nervous. But because what I was really thinking was the lineup that you've had on your podcast recently is just mind blowing. I'm like, I look up to these people too. And all of a sudden when you asked me the other day, I was kind of like, oh, ten x less, ten.

Jasmine Star 00:01:22  X.

JD DelaTorre 00:01:22  No less.

Jasmine Star 00:01:23  Okay. Do you want to you want to start there? Do you want to stop? Like, we could be 100. We could be 100. About why I asked you to be on the podcast, how it happened, how it happened, how it happened.

JD DelaTorre 00:01:31  Yeah. How it happened. We were flying to New York, so we we booked a flight last minute. It was last week on Thursday.

JD DelaTorre 00:01:38  We flew out and we were sitting next to each other. And so Jasmine kind of reaches out over to me and says, hey, I need some help. You said, I need help. And I said, and you said, don't roll your eyes and don't give me an answer. You have to think about it. And whenever she starts with that, I always roll my eyes because it's like it's one of those. It's inevitable. My eyes just automatically roll when she says don't roll your eyes. So I rolled my eyes and I said, ask. And then she said it again, and I said, okay, I'm not gonna roll my eyes again. You have to just tell me. And then she kind of was like, you were hesitant. You didn't want to ask. And that's why I thought it was something pretty big. And you said, can you be on the podcast? And I said, let me think about it. And then I said, I mean, yes. I said yes, but I'll think about it.

JD DelaTorre 00:02:24  So it was kind of like a half. Yes. And, and then you said, thanks so much.

Jasmine Star 00:02:30  And I said.

Jasmine Star 00:02:31  We have to shake on it. We have to shake it. You're like, no, I'm not going to shake it.

JD DelaTorre 00:02:34  Shake on it because I was just, you know, I kind of wanted to work out the details, the fine print. I wanted to talk about the agreement.

Jasmine Star 00:02:39  But then I was sitting in the chair and I was looking at you. I was like, but do you see how, like, do you see how stressed I am? And do you see, like we've had conversations around like how you can help me? I was like, if you do this, you're helping me. Like you're helping me when you do this. And and you're like jazz. Like, I just let me think about it. I said, so that's a yes. What I say is a yes. And I was like, shake my hand, shake my hand, shake my hand.

Jasmine Star 00:02:58  I was like, I'm not gonna stop, shake my hand. And so then you just shake my finger.

JD DelaTorre 00:03:02  Your finger shake? Yes. I grabbed our fingers connected. And that was our finger shake. Yeah. No, that's so, so it's crazy because I did need a discussion. Because I had no idea where we're going to do this. Set up with Max and Aisha and have the whole the whole team. I thought we were going to be in the office by ourselves. You know, the way that we kind of have done it, we've done it once before like that. And so that's how I envisioned it. So I'm glad I didn't see the.

Jasmine Star 00:03:27  End, I didn't I said, okay, do you agree to be on the podcast?

JD DelaTorre 00:03:30  And you go, yeah, I thought yes. Right, right. So that was last Thursday on the flight back home, you said, hey, I was already planning the week. I said, hey, what's the week look like? I have things with Luna that I want to like, kind of accomplish.

JD DelaTorre 00:03:43  And you said, oh yeah, just be ready on Wednesdays. The podcast.

Jasmine Star 00:03:48  I gave you six days.

JD DelaTorre 00:03:49  Notice. I thought it was like a two month, you know, runway or, you know, but yeah. So now here we are. It's Wednesday.

Jasmine Star 00:03:55  I actually think.

JD DelaTorre 00:03:56  That it's been a week from that conversation.

Jasmine Star 00:03:57  This is a perfect description of our relationship. It's. I have an idea. Don't worry. Your eyes. He will inevitably roll his eyes. I will somehow cajole him into doing it. And then you will always be on a shadow of a doubt. Here we are. We'll be married 20 years in September. And there has not been a single idea that you have been. No. You say, let's go.

JD DelaTorre 00:04:20  That's true. And you always. Every single time. Just do it. Bigger than what's stated up front. It's always a case in point. This is bigger than what was stated.

Jasmine Star 00:04:33  That should say a lot about like, I want to treat you the way that we treat all of our guests.

Jasmine Star 00:04:37  Top notch produce. Make you in a good light. We want to hear your frameworks for life.

JD DelaTorre 00:04:43  Hey, you know, the thing, though, is I don't ever have to say or I never. I've never had been on a podcast. I don't not rehearse or practice or even speak often, so I really don't have anything that's kind of like a hundred times like, I wish there was. That was something I've just oh, I've said this a hundred times, I can just see.

Jasmine Star 00:05:03  I know what you say 100 times.

JD DelaTorre 00:05:04  Oh, don't even go there.

Jasmine Star 00:05:05  Come on. Like what? What do you think I'm going to say?

JD DelaTorre 00:05:07  Why did you leave that on the floor? Come on. I've said that 100 times, but come on. Yeah, that's not fair. People are not gonna get anything out of that. That is not a next idea. So let's see if I have any ideas.

Jasmine Star 00:05:20  So maybe we should. Maybe we should start there. My husband and I, we've been together basically our whole lives.

Jasmine Star 00:05:24  And so when he says, I haven't said something a hundred times, I literally on a weekly.

Jasmine Star 00:05:28  I've said a hundred times, what is that thing on the floor?

JD DelaTorre 00:05:32  Yes, yes, yes. Okay. That's not that's not podcasting talks.

JD DelaTorre 00:05:35  So okay. The podcast.

Jasmine Star 00:05:37  Okay. So I want to make it as easy as possible. And we're not I just want us to talk I want to give people like maybe like a little bit of a look in our lives and in our business, we are co-founders. We have done everything together. We are 50, 50 partners. And then the relationship has changed and the roles that we play. But right now, how would you describe me as a business partner in three words?

JD DelaTorre 00:06:00  Let's see I would. Easy, easy. Hands down is, you're a leader when it comes to a business partner. I feel like you lead. You always want to bring our entire team. You want them to be empowered, but you always want to bring them along.

JD DelaTorre 00:06:16  So you're one of those. Never leave anyone behind. Type of type people. Leaders. So a leader for sure. You're also very fair. I think fairness is is huge for you. It's like a it's just a core principle inside of you that when you get an idea or something comes your way, you don't think about yourself, only you think first of the person that you're going to be interacting with. And then you try to come up with like the best win win, I guess scenario. So you're very fair. And let's see. Oh, you have tenacity. Tenacious. You're tenacious. You just never give up. I have never met anybody who can be get beat up so much and still wake up the next day and do it again and again and again and again and again and again. And that's. I love that about you, Jasmine. I feel like I'm proud of you. I don't know anybody else that's like that. So you're the most relentless, tenacious person I know.

JD DelaTorre 00:07:12  Gangster tears.

JD DelaTorre 00:07:13  Hey, hey, hey.

Jasmine Star 00:07:14  I love those words. Thank you. They feel very true.

JD DelaTorre 00:07:16  Thank you. Okay. So. Okay.

Jasmine Star 00:07:17  Okay, so a little bit of flip side. How would you describe me as a wife in three words.

JD DelaTorre 00:07:22  Ooh, different. Very different. Yeah. I feel like in our house and our as a as a wife, as a, as a, I don't know as a unit that we are of three. I think you're a futurist. I feel like you're always. You take whatever our dreams are. You assess them and then you always are thinking of, okay, so if we want Luna to get involved with being a tennis player, maybe even a champ one of these days, she should probably take tennis classes. And so, right where I'm just like, you know, I'm going to go outside and play with her in the park and we're going to throw some balls around.

Jasmine Star 00:07:52  So like when I bought her all the tennis outfits and the shoes and the balls.

Jasmine Star 00:07:56  Yeah. That's right. That's what makes this a good.

JD DelaTorre 00:07:57  And I love that. Yeah, exactly. So it's like it's it's it's that it's pretty cool to see. A futurist a futurist. I would say you're generous or I would say kind, but in that kindness comes generosity. You're very kind to our family and everyone around us. So our extended family as well. But you're very kind to us because you you always ask, what do you guys want to do? And all you want to do is be around us, which I think is very, very kind. So I think you're very kind and I love you. So just FYI, I just I'm thinking some kind of, It's okay. You're loyal. Fiercely loyal. Yeah. I feel like you are always, always, always, always, always about your family. You always want us to be thought of included. So, yeah. You're pretty awesome, aren't you?

Jasmine Star 00:08:50  Yeah, I was asking. I was I was just starting to.

JD DelaTorre 00:08:52  I think, though, honestly, I think that I just, I know I don't. I'm your. I'm your biggest cheerleader. Me and your mom, and, I just feel like, yeah, I. I love you, man. I like I love those qualities about you. I feel like that's what keeps me always in love with you and excited to to get in your head.

Jasmine Star 00:09:10  And speaking of getting in your head, don't get in your head. I see you getting in your head, okay? Don't get in your head. It's great. All right. Okay. This is the only people who are going to listen to this are people who just want a different insight. Like we don't have to. This is not teaching. Today is a different podcast. So we just do it. We get a document it so that like years.

JD DelaTorre 00:09:23  For all the people that I love actually the people that love you, I think this is this podcast goes out to the people that love Jasmine.

Jasmine Star 00:09:30  It's DJ ThunderCats.

Jasmine Star 00:09:32  This podcast.

Jasmine Star 00:09:33  Is going out to the people who love.

JD DelaTorre 00:09:35  Seriously. Hey, I love them. If they love you, I love them.

Jasmine Star 00:09:37  So I.

JD DelaTorre 00:09:38  Okay, this is.

Jasmine Star 00:09:39  This is the document. We're documenting the document. You're good, you're good. Okay, so.

JD DelaTorre 00:09:43  No more knowledge.

Jasmine Star 00:09:44  yeah. No more. Well, no no, no. Okay. So how would you describe how we first met? Because I think every. Every origin story starts with, oh, maybe I understand or I explain a little bit more. I know why that person is the way that this thing is. And so a lot of the times when we meet people in a professional capacity and then we tell them that we met in high school, and then they see our dynamic, it colors it differently. So how how did you describe how we met?

JD DelaTorre 00:10:06  I we were kids. We were 17 years old. We were it I feel like our first meeting there weren't that many fireworks. I feel like the fireworks came on our first date.

JD DelaTorre 00:10:21  I think our first date was fireworks, but first meeting was completely random. Caught me off guard. I wasn't even. We were at a fundraiser and we were a high school fundraiser. You were in charge of a booth? I think you were. Were you making food?

Jasmine Star 00:10:34  No. the cheerleaders did a routine.

JD DelaTorre 00:10:36  Oh, you were dancing.

Jasmine Star 00:10:37  It was a fundraiser to raise money for, like, needy families during Thanksgiving. And so the cheerleaders were collecting food. And then we did song and dance and.

JD DelaTorre 00:10:44  Same, same, same. Well, we were I was, we were I was in charge of entertainment as well. So I remember being there and my entire family was there, and we Jasmine and I shared a mutual guidance counselor. And so he made he came over to my family and you were right next to him. And so he decided to introduce us. And it was just a quick hello. I wasn't expecting a hey, you know, you guys want to get to know each other.

JD DelaTorre 00:11:09  It was kind of a very nice to meet you. And that's awesome that you're here. And then as we were, I was, I was we I was leaving and my little sister needed a ride home. So I was taking her home and I was walking away going to my car. And I remember you just called my name and you're like, hey, I turned around and I did.

Jasmine Star 00:11:29  I went up to him. Yeah, I went up to him.

JD DelaTorre 00:11:31  So that was that was our first meeting. That was our first meetup. I thought it was very like it was just like, get to know you. So I think the fireworks happened.

Jasmine Star 00:11:40  Okay, we're gonna talk about the first date for a second, because I think that that color is into it. So the mutual We went to different high schools. The counselor introduced us. We were at different schools. I was senior class president and you were ASB vice president. So we were in like council leadership and things like that. And we met and I did go up to him after because I thought to myself, I like I remember it like it was yesterday.

Jasmine Star 00:12:01  I talked to him and I thought to myself, oh my gosh, he's so nice and he's so smart. And I hand it to heaven. So this day my first thought was, he's so charming. He wasn't flirty. It was just like he was so charming. And I was like, I think I'm charmed. So anyways, we go our own ways and I go up to my friends and I said, I think I just met this guy and I, he's so nice and he's cute and my friends. And so at this point in time, I hadn't had a boyfriend in high school. I would go to like like our school dances with my, like, my girlfriends. I was just definitely like a dork. I mean, I was I was fun, I was just dorky. Anyway, it doesn't matter. And so then my friends were like, go and say hi to him, go and say hi to him. So I did something I've never done, but hey, it played off like I went up to one.

Jasmine Star 00:12:42  I approached one guy in my life and snagged that brother. So anyways, I go up to you and I was just like, hey. Like, it's nice to meet you.

JD DelaTorre 00:12:48  I remember I still remember your bangs. You had bangs over the bangs. That was like.

Jasmine Star 00:12:53  I.

JD DelaTorre 00:12:53  Look. I was.

Jasmine Star 00:12:54  Like.

JD DelaTorre 00:12:54  I.

Jasmine Star 00:12:54  Had.

JD DelaTorre 00:12:54  A hard bangs. I had very hard form. And, Yeah, we just said we'd see each other on the field one day when we played, when we were going to go play against your school. I was playing football all the time. And then, unbeknownst to us, our counselor got involved again and asked if we wanted to communicate via letter. Write letters to each other and he would kind of just drive and be our be our correspondent.

Jasmine Star 00:13:16  He was our.

JD DelaTorre 00:13:17  Courier, a courier.

Jasmine Star 00:13:18  Yeah. He would like we would write letters to each other. At first period I would write him a letter, and then I would give it to the counselor, and the counselor would go to his school and give him.

Jasmine Star 00:13:24  Then he'd wait and get a letter, and then the next day the letter would be returned. So we.

JD DelaTorre 00:13:28  Started.

Jasmine Star 00:13:28  Writing letters.

JD DelaTorre 00:13:29  Yeah, we started writing. And then finally I kind of got tired of. I like writing, but I just thought we should talk. I feel like talking would probably get a lot more than a page or two of of of hard thoughts and chemistry.

Jasmine Star 00:13:41  Yeah. What are you doing, exactly?

JD DelaTorre 00:13:43  It's one of those. It was pretty silly, but I'll never forget our first call. I called your house, and I was so nervous because I wanted you to call me for some reason, but I forgot to put my phone number.

Jasmine Star 00:13:54  Of course you do. For some reason. Okay.

JD DelaTorre 00:13:55  I said call me when you get when you get a chance. And I guess I ran out of space. I remember that paper was full, so there was no room for my number anymore. And maybe I just.

Jasmine Star 00:14:04  It was God. It was.

Jasmine Star 00:14:05  God.

Jasmine Star 00:14:06  Like making you call me like a gentleman because.

Jasmine Star 00:14:08  I said I.

Jasmine Star 00:14:08  Didn't have your number. Call me. Here's my phone number. And then.

Jasmine Star 00:14:10  You called.

JD DelaTorre 00:14:11  Me. I just worried because I, I don't know, I just picked up this. Oh, I'm going to speak to your parents or something. I felt like your parents were going to answer the phone. It was back in the day when the landlines were a thing, so I called. But you answered. And I just remember we spoke for hours.

Jasmine Star 00:14:25  Hours. I think it was like four hours.

JD DelaTorre 00:14:26  Yeah. Four hours.

Jasmine Star 00:14:27  Something like four.

JD DelaTorre 00:14:27  Hours. I think your mom actually picked up the phone twice and said, get off the phone. And I respectfully got off the phone after I.

Jasmine Star 00:14:33  Left for four hours.

JD DelaTorre 00:14:34  Yeah, but I it happened again the following day and the following day and the following day. And so that's just how our relationship. I feel like that's how it started. It started as a true friendship. And then so when we did see each other for the first time, our date, do you want to talk about that or are we? I think we're.

Jasmine Star 00:14:49  Good. I think we're.

Jasmine Star 00:14:50  Good. I think we're good at this story. I think we're good at the story. But there's just one detail we have to share. The one detail about the date.

JD DelaTorre 00:14:55  Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:14:56  It was how do you know?

Jasmine Star 00:14:58  How do you know? How do you know what I'm thinking? The one detail. What would you tell me? What is it? What is it? What do you think?

JD DelaTorre 00:15:02  The details. You got serenaded. Yes. Yes.

Jasmine Star 00:15:05  Yeah. Right. Yeah. Yeah.

JD DelaTorre 00:15:06  I feel like. So that first date is crazy. I had never been to a Starbucks and we went to Starbucks where it actually was. Was it.

Jasmine Star 00:15:13  Starbucks? Starbucks? Starbucks? Right.

Jasmine Star 00:15:14  But he had never been to a physical bookstore. He had never been to a Starbucks. And so we go out to we go out on our date and those two things were there. I was just like, I love bookstores. I mean, you guys, I was I.

Jasmine Star 00:15:25  Was.

JD DelaTorre 00:15:25  Like, do you like Starbucks?

Jasmine Star 00:15:26  So I.

Jasmine Star 00:15:27  Acted like I liked Starbucks.

Jasmine Star 00:15:28  Because I was like, oh, let's do.

Jasmine Star 00:15:29  Something.

JD DelaTorre 00:15:29  I got a cup. I remember my hand was hot and you're like, hey, that's what these are, these little tell me what a Java jacket was. That's that what they were called like a little.

Jasmine Star 00:15:36  I don't know at the time. At the time that was this brand is called like a hot coffee.

JD DelaTorre 00:15:40  In my head because I was just trying to hold his coffee. Trying to be tough, but I was bringing my hand up and you're like, put one of these coats on. So anyways, we went and we sat down and we had coffee. And I'll never forget this two. These two kids came came next to us.

Jasmine Star 00:15:53  No, there was like four.

Jasmine Star 00:15:54  Four.

Jasmine Star 00:15:55  Yeah. It was like a quartet.

JD DelaTorre 00:15:56  I thought it started well, yeah. You're right, it started with two. And then they added on and they just wanted to sing Boys to Men, and they started singing songs to us, and they were super romantic songs.

JD DelaTorre 00:16:06  And I just thought, this is cool. I was we were just saying.

Jasmine Star 00:16:09  They were just.

Jasmine Star 00:16:09  Sitting at the table.

Jasmine Star 00:16:10  Next to us, and they were just like. It was like the whole boys.

Jasmine Star 00:16:12  To men should have.

JD DelaTorre 00:16:13  Gone their phone number.

Jasmine Star 00:16:14  It would have been so cool. I should have got their.

JD DelaTorre 00:16:16  Phone, their contact information and.

Jasmine Star 00:16:17  See what they're up to.

JD DelaTorre 00:16:18  I know it was fun. It was just good. It was just, you know, it was one of those things. I felt like those sparks were in the air. That's when I think the fireworks happened. And, you we can you you want to talk about.

Jasmine Star 00:16:29  No. You,

JD DelaTorre 00:16:30  Because Jasmine always said no, I would never kiss on our first date. I would never kiss on a first date. Okay, but those guys.

Jasmine Star 00:16:35  Who.

JD DelaTorre 00:16:35  Sang. That's why I wish I had the number. I could write them a little letter and say thank you because that was okay. That was it. That was it.

JD DelaTorre 00:16:42  I think that, You you.

Jasmine Star 00:16:44  Hey. Okay.

Jasmine Star 00:16:47  Right now, we're just going to let. We're just keep that in. Our daughter is sitting just off camera. We, at the time of this recording, we have decided to homeschool our daughter. And so while we are working and recording together, she is just off camera, and she just asked her dad for a snack, and so he didn't get one. High maintenance, demanding woman in his life. He got two. So we're just gonna keep rolling with it. We're she's going to be popping in and out as as it is. but as far as, you spilling the tea that we kissed on our first date?

Jasmine Star 00:17:13  Yes, yes.

Jasmine Star 00:17:14  My mom is watching. He's totally lying.

JD DelaTorre 00:17:16  I can't believe it.

Jasmine Star 00:17:17  Come on, Jasmine.

Jasmine Star 00:17:18  When we go back to think about how we first met, the second big decision for us outside of getting married. We dated nine and nine.

Jasmine Star 00:17:27  Plus.

Jasmine Star 00:17:27  Years before we got married, all with good intentions.

Jasmine Star 00:17:30  But like the the next biggest decision after deciding to become boyfriend or girlfriend dating long distance getting married was when we decided to work together.

Jasmine Star 00:17:39  Right?

Jasmine Star 00:17:40  So can you talk about when we made that decision? And like, how did it look? And what were you? What were you? What was your perspective? What were you going through? What were you thinking about?

JD DelaTorre 00:17:48  I think you and I have always been entrepreneurs at heart. Like, we always talk about business. You were going to business school or you were actually. Well, yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:17:57  You you. I have a business degree. Yeah. I went to law.

JD DelaTorre 00:18:00  School business, and then I just. I didn't study business, but that's all I would ever do and talk about. I remember at that time when we were getting married at 25, I thought I was going to have a barbecue truck at, I don't know, like a high end food truck with before food trucks were a thing.

Jasmine Star 00:18:17  Yeah, he was very he was very avant garde.

JD DelaTorre 00:18:19  So. So I was already, you know, thinking about businesses and, I don't know, I just feel like you and I were like, you've been my best friend ever since, you know, high school. And so there goes Luna.

Jasmine Star 00:18:33  Luna.

JD DelaTorre 00:18:34  I just think that, I had a I had a I had a best friend before you. And I just remember, like, we would say, like anything like, hey, do you want to start this thing together? And it would always be something that we just did. And so, like, with you, was so natural, like, hey, do you want to start a business together? And it was never a let me think about it. It was always, of course, what are we going to do?

Jasmine Star 00:18:51  Okay. But let me go back and like let's set the scene. So at the time you are working with this startup telecommunication startup and you were in sales for the startup. Yeah. And it's during that time where I kind of start sorta I'm working part time at my dad's church and I'm building out things.

Jasmine Star 00:19:08  Hi, baby.

Jasmine Star 00:19:09  Oh, God. Thank you.

Jasmine Star 00:19:10  Mama. Gracias, Mia.

Jasmine Star 00:19:11  Luna. Okay.

Jasmine Star 00:19:13  Peekaboo. Thank you. Okay.

Jasmine Star 00:19:17  Thank you.

Luna 00:19:18  You're gonna. I'm gonna say peekaboo.

Jasmine Star 00:19:21  Peekaboo. You should get her a snack.

JD DelaTorre 00:19:24  I think she's good, if you don't mind.

Jasmine Star 00:19:26  No, we're just rolling with it.

Jasmine Star 00:19:27  We're just.

Jasmine Star 00:19:27  Rolling. This is literally doing life and business, and so we're just. We're just. This is what we're going to do.

JD DelaTorre 00:19:32  Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:19:33  And so. Okay.

JD DelaTorre 00:19:34  See you a little bit.

Jasmine Star 00:19:35  We're good. It's fine. You just gotta let it go. You just gotta let it go. You just. I mean, because we're just stopping every five.

JD DelaTorre 00:19:39  Minutes, she'll. We'll just hear.

Jasmine Star 00:19:40  Her.

JD DelaTorre 00:19:41  That's right. Snacks.

Jasmine Star 00:19:42  So yesterday we were setting up the. We were setting up the setup and max our lead videographers. I'm sitting here and he's setting the camera up, and then Luna sits in this chair and she says, welcome to my podcast.

Jasmine Star 00:19:53  And then she goes, oh. And she talks about this orange bike that she has. And then she says, okay, mom, your turn. Yep. And I was just like, okay, okay.

JD DelaTorre 00:20:00  I think she's a natural. I feel I feel like she she's better than me.

Jasmine Star 00:20:04  So. Okay.

JD DelaTorre 00:20:05  So you'll hear her starting a sandwich?

Jasmine Star 00:20:07  Yes. You're going to hear her making sandwiches and sandwiches. You can tell she's a child of the of the OC. It's like she wants pumpkin seeds and she wants almond butter and an apple. And so she's just gonna be floating around the background. We're just. We're just. Yeah. She's surviving and thriving. And. Yes. Do we allow her to use knives? Absolutely. We do. We do. I know we're going to get so much. Yeah, we're gonna get so much. They're a butter knife. They're a butter knife. It's fine, but she's actually very good. She's very good.

JD DelaTorre 00:20:30  She's good.

Jasmine Star 00:20:30  She's good. JT was with a telecommunication startup.

Jasmine Star 00:20:33  I had just started off with photography and I had been doing this like you were shooting with me, but you were working five days a week with the telecommunication startup, and then on the weekends I was like, hey, can you help me out? And can we shoot together? And it's at this time that the business grows to a certain degree. And then we have a conversation over dinner. And this is when we're living on Guinevere, I think. Right.

JD DelaTorre 00:20:51  Yeah. No, no. Not yet. Well, we were still in. We're still in on Pickering. I think that was. Yes, we were. That's where we started the business.

Jasmine Star 00:20:59  So when we started the business. But when you when you decided to move and and join me.

JD DelaTorre 00:21:03  Yeah. We were at one of your. Okay. Yeah. So I feel like I didn't want to leave. I wanted to see the startup through, actually. So I.

Jasmine Star 00:21:10  Just.

JD DelaTorre 00:21:10  Remember thinking, I want to see this thing through.

JD DelaTorre 00:21:12  I actually feel like there is the startup was one of those companies where it was going to have an exit strategy. I yeah, and it was all happening as planned. And so I thought I would love to be experienced like a full sail, sail and exit and everything. So I thought when that happens, I'll go full time and we'll transition into wedding photography. So for about a year and a half or two, I was just kind of working Monday through Friday. And then on the weekends we were shooting weddings and I loved it. But it was I just remember how I was burning out. I was burning out after about a year. I was just kind of like, okay.

Jasmine Star 00:21:44  Yeah, you're working like seven days a.

JD DelaTorre 00:21:46  Week.

Jasmine Star 00:21:46  A lot. We started taking on a lot, and then I got to a point in the business where I said, I'm going to need more. I need additional support. So it's either I hire somebody.

JD DelaTorre 00:21:54  Or when the weddings work's getting even. Here's the thing.

JD DelaTorre 00:21:57  They weren't big weddings yet, but they were. They were asking us to travel. So we were now flying across the US, which, you know, we're one of the most random cities in the world, in the US. But it was it was it was part of the fun. I thought it was like it's part of the excitement of of our startup.

Jasmine Star 00:22:11  And so then I had asked if you would join the business. Yeah. And so then where is your head at then?

JD DelaTorre 00:22:19  Like, oh, I was excited. I knew that it was going to be it was going to turn into I knew that it was going to turn into a bigger business. I just I knew it was growing.

Jasmine Star 00:22:27  It was why I genuinely like I don't even think that we talk about that. Like, why did you think that?

JD DelaTorre 00:22:32  Because things were in such alignment like, the the momentum, like the you weren't just shooting weddings at this at that point. Now you were being invited to speak and our our, our minds, you and I would just come home after a speaking engagement and would think of all the businesses that we create on top of the speaking and education, and then we could start doing print and magazine and having like a content strategy and then having a content team, and we're just like, none of that stuff happened overnight.

JD DelaTorre 00:23:03  But we were just like, every night. We're just like, whoa, we could build this business into a pretty big business where it can sustain the both of us. And we can actually we might actually build a company. It was like, do you want to build an actual company? And so, yeah, I just got real, real fast.

Jasmine Star 00:23:20  Okay. So that was like our origin story. And so now that people understand how we met, how we decided to become business partners, and then people are pretty familiar, I think, on the podcast, like how we've iterated, like the things that we've done and how we continue to grow. So I want to know right now, after going through all of that, what do you think is the best and what do you think is the worst part of working with me?

JD DelaTorre 00:23:41  Oh, I think it's actually like one of those like it's it's all encompassing. So that's the best part. It's all encompassing. We're always around each other. We get to do life together.

JD DelaTorre 00:23:51  But I think the worst thing also is it's all encompassing, which means it's hard to turn off and have like this. Okay, what are we right now? Are we having are we always business partners? And where is there room for husband and wife relationship to build. And and then if it does build like how much does it get. Like two hours of our, you know, day or does it. How do we treat it. So that gets a lot more attention. And that was really hard because I don't know, I feel like we've been dating for nine years before we got married and then we were married for a couple of years. And so I just felt like it was the new thing for us and it was the new exciting thing. The business was always the new exciting thing. So it always kind of just overpowered our relationship. And it wasn't until a little bit later where we said, we need to have some balance because it was just there was sometimes we just we at different times, I would want the relationship side to, to kind of take precedent and take over, and then you would too.

JD DelaTorre 00:24:52  But it was it was never at the same exact time. So we were always feeling like we were missing each other. So yeah, I feel like that was.

Jasmine Star 00:25:00  And JD is a Pisces and I'm an Aries. And so he's very much like thinker and feeler and love and emotion. Oh yeah. And I'm definitely fire go drive. And I think that the all encompassing nature of.

JD DelaTorre 00:25:13  The business feelings in Three Points.

Jasmine Star 00:25:14  Yeah. I was like, tell me how you're feeling. Keep it limited, short, concise. Let's go. Yeah, yeah. Okay. So on that vein in in your opinion okay. There's not a right or wrong in your opinion. If you could remove one thing about me or from myself, what would it be? To unleash my greatest success. What do you think is in my way? What do you think is in my way?

JD DelaTorre 00:25:37  Oh, that's a big question. That's a huge I don't know. That's a lot. That's a big baby.

Jasmine Star 00:25:43  Come here. Come here.

Jasmine Star 00:25:44  Come here.

JD DelaTorre 00:25:45  Want to hang out with mom?

Jasmine Star 00:25:46  Oh, no. She's me. Wow. We love your snack. Okay, great. Beautiful.

JD DelaTorre 00:25:49  Yummy.

Jasmine Star 00:25:50  Great. We. That's. Enjoy. Enjoy, enjoy. Oh. Thank you. Thank you.

Luna 00:25:57  It's just me.

JD DelaTorre 00:26:00  Okay. That's your third.

Jasmine Star 00:26:01  That's your.

JD DelaTorre 00:26:01  Third breakfast.

Jasmine Star 00:26:02  That's her third breakfast. Our daughter loves to cook for herself. She takes after her dad. Thank God. Thank God that two people in this house. One of them is not me.

JD DelaTorre 00:26:11  She's a she's she critiques now. She actually will probably critique her own food. Yes, yes. okay. So good question.

Jasmine Star 00:26:18  Okay. So part of the reason why I'm.

JD DelaTorre 00:26:19  Asking.

Jasmine Star 00:26:19  This question. I know, I know.

JD DelaTorre 00:26:21  Like I know what's my favorite color.

Jasmine Star 00:26:23  No I know. Okay. So part of the reason why I was asking was because Peter the.

JD DelaTorre 00:26:27  The if I, if I take the thing or you said one thing that you can take out.

Jasmine Star 00:26:32  Yeah.

JD DelaTorre 00:26:33  Like what do you unlock on unlock like the success in you.

Jasmine Star 00:26:36  Yeah. Like what do you think as a business partner when you look. Because I can look at like a couple people on our team and I'm like, oh, this was just removed. You'd be freaking unstoppable.

JD DelaTorre 00:26:44  Yeah. Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:26:47  Yeah. Hold on. Myanmar. Myanmar.

JD DelaTorre 00:26:49  I, I, I would say if I could remove fear, the fear of being responsible for a team family, the fear of losing what we've built. The fear, the self-doubt. I feel like the fear. So fear encapsulates all these things. Then I think it would unlock something. But at the same time I don't want to take something out that's actually you're working on, like you are actually working on these fears already. So if I could take out fear and replace it with trust, which you are already working on. I would put it. I would put trust in that place so that you could have some self love and self-compassion, things like that.

JD DelaTorre 00:27:32  So I wouldn't want to replace it without filling it with something or, and I and I, and I also don't know if I want to replace it because it's making you who you are today. It's you're actually you're working you're doing the work to try to actually get fear, dispel fear. But it's still it's still a big it's hard to it's hard to.

Jasmine Star 00:27:52  What do you think? Okay. So right before we turn on the cameras, earlier today, we had a recording with a guest by the name of Amy Sangster. And Amy brought in this beautiful Santal 33 or, like, Le Labo candle. And it was so nice. But what she doesn't know was that this morning, JD goes through and he preps the house for our guests and we always light a candle. So guests come over and he lit the candle and he said, Jasmine, as a reminder this candle is going to go out. So make sure and replace it before guests come. And I said yes, yes, yes. I had it in the back of my mind, which is very typical for a relationship.

Jasmine Star 00:28:22  He'll tell me something and I'm like, I got it, I got it, and then I totally don't. So then when Amy comes over, I unwrap this beautiful candle and lo and behold, the candle that had once been lit was out. But it was as if this brand, not as if the brand new candle came at the most perfect time to replace the candle that had gone down. And so then JT got back. He and Luna were out during the day during the recording, and then J.D. got back and he just picked up the candle and he said, this is the most perfect timing. He's like, it's like in life, sometimes a candle has to go completely almost to the bottom before it can be replaced. And when you had said that, all I heard was like this deep, profound trust that you have. Whereas we can be looking at the candle subsiding and you're just like, yes, the perfect candle is finding its way to us. We just got to hope and believe.

Jasmine Star 00:29:13  And I look at the candle, I'm like, oh my God, the limited light that's left.

JD DelaTorre 00:29:16  Like, okay, well candle is next. Which 1 a.m. I gonna grab is yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:29:19  Like Yeah. Like, why haven't I. Why haven't I harboured 18,000 candles? Like the perspective that you have for that trust. And so you say, if I could replace like fear or the responsibility of things and so that you you depend on trust. How does that something that's just about you, like, that's just you that just comes. Is this a practice?

JD DelaTorre 00:29:39  No, no.

Jasmine Star 00:29:40  No, I'm asking because people are going to ask.

JD DelaTorre 00:29:41  Me later. No. The thing is that I look back at all the times that we've been afraid, and those are don't make me cry. But those are the hard. Those were the hardest times of our business. And they happen often. They happen in every season. There's a place where we don't want to walk through, and every time we do, we we realize something so big about ourselves.

JD DelaTorre 00:30:03  And. And every time we go through something so big, we've always appreciate each other even more. So I'm like, it's kind of this sick like thing where like, whoa, actually, the fear brings out so much strength in us, And I think it's beautiful. I think that, yes, I get it. It's painful. So I don't want to minimize, oh, we have each other and that alleviates the pain. No, no, it's very painful. But knowing that, I mean, I just feel like it's the fear doesn't have that much of a sting when you know that it's actually to push you somewhere better and do something. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know. It's not a, it's not a thing that I don't know, I don't, I don't know, I don't know if it's a practice because you're, it's a practice that we've practiced it so many times. We've seen fear so many times. And I just feel like we've seen it enough to think for me to say there's always something better.

JD DelaTorre 00:30:57  And I trust, and I know that we are always taken care of.

Jasmine Star 00:31:00  So that's like perspective shift is you always like beyond a shadow of a doubt. Like, you know, there's something better. And I think that in the back of my mind it's just the question mark. But it's so good right now. Do we know it's better? And I think that that just comes from like a growth mindset and then a protective mindset. I know it's always better. It's always better every single time. It's always been better. Even if it took like, a hell of a ride to get there. Yep, yep. I would just like to point out the crying.

JD DelaTorre 00:31:26  Rachel was crying was no crying. No, those were.

Jasmine Star 00:31:29  Just.

JD DelaTorre 00:31:30  Watery eyes. Those were watery eyes. I get watery eyes a ton. So stop at the Santa Ana winds. You hadn't come on the Santa Ana winds.

Jasmine Star 00:31:39  Blaming the winds. Blaming the winds.

Jasmine Star 00:31:41  Okay, so when you look back at my career, what are the mistakes that I've made that you think that I've learned from the most?

JD DelaTorre 00:31:47  Okay.

JD DelaTorre 00:31:47  Having uncomfortable conversations. I feel like you used to avoid uncomfortable conversations all the time. And it led to loss of business. Not business partners, but business relationships. And, yeah, I feel like when you decided. When we decided. But you you took this first step to just say, I'm going to. Now it's kinder for me to say all the things. And sometimes I'd be like, ooh, that's too much. It's too early. Maybe we should wait and say, make this Have this conversation. I don't like confrontation. So I was always I would always say like, okay, maybe we should hold off on that kind of talk. But you're like, no. If people know exactly my intentions from the get go and they agree, then it's not going to lead to, you know, those mistakes that I think we we fell into in the past. Yeah. And that was a lot of hurt. There was a lot of hurt with you.

Jasmine Star 00:32:35  Know, I mean I by because because I wouldn't have conversations.

Jasmine Star 00:32:39  I think that I really like ruined or really hurt working relationships like with team members because I didn't know how to tell them, like they weren't doing the thing that they were supposed to do or in the way that I wanted. And so I avoided it. And they knew that I was avoiding it, and it created friction between like people that were doing business with it because it created friction with our employees, because I was trying to be nice and be worried about their feelings. And then I would harbor resentment to be like, why is this not happening? Hard conversations around asking for payment from people like you were the person a lot to tell me to like, defend the price that we ask for when I speak. And that was like what I thought was a difficult conversation. And so. Yeah. Yeah, it took me a while to get here.

JD DelaTorre 00:33:17  I just feel like, Now you you you ran with it. I don't think that you ever avoid them anymore. Which I think is great, because the other day you were drafting up an agreement with somebody.

JD DelaTorre 00:33:27  And I just remember the the slightest detail was in there. And you, you went back and forth and back and forth, and it was like eight uncomfortable conversations all the way down to the minutia. All and every single time you said everything matters. Yeah. Everything matters. And so this conversation, how did I guess my question to you real quick is how is it not uncomfortable anymore? Or is it not uncomfortable anymore? Or is it still very uncomfortable conversations? But you just feel like.

Jasmine Star 00:33:52  I'll tell you, like it was like it was like a light switch. It was a light switch. It's when we were here, it was at the house. So this probably was like 2021. It was 2021 and it was just a switch. I had this vision of like a cardboard box and on it it said conversation. It was like a black sticker that said conversation, conversation. And then I had this vision of, I get to put a label. It's a green label as good conversation or bad conversation.

Jasmine Star 00:34:18  And it's what I found myself doing was like, oh, I'm saying that this is a good conversation and this is a hard conversation. This is a bad conversation. And actually, that's not the truth. It was only a conversation that I could be saying the same thing and somebody could say, wow, that's such a good conversation. And I'm saying that's such a bad conversation. I started realizing there's no such thing as like a bad conversation or a hard conversation. It's just I want to have a conversation and I'm going to tell you exactly how I feel, and I'm going to be open to hear how you feel. And so instead of saying, oh, this is hard, it's not a hard conversation. We're just having a conversation. Whatever label you would like to apply to it, you can, but that's a decision.

JD DelaTorre 00:34:50  Hey man.

Jasmine Star 00:34:50  That was like 21. Wow, I know.

JD DelaTorre 00:34:53  I love.

Jasmine Star 00:34:53  It. That was a big change.

JD DelaTorre 00:34:54  Okay, okay. So cool.

Jasmine Star 00:34:55  So yeah, I know I know you want to end I just have I have one more, I have one more.

JD DelaTorre 00:34:59  I actually have two more. Finish your questions.

Jasmine Star 00:35:02  Okay okay okay okay okay. No no no.

JD DelaTorre 00:35:04  I think I feel like I'm turning red and I feel like I'm.

Jasmine Star 00:35:07  Fitting.

JD DelaTorre 00:35:08  Do we need a little cheers moment.

Jasmine Star 00:35:10  Okay, okay.

Jasmine Star 00:35:11  Okay. Yes. There it is. Okay. Okay. Okay. He's buying some time. He's buying some. But I'll play along I'll play along. Here we go. Okay.

JD DelaTorre 00:35:18  So here we go. Here we go. I check Mike.

Jasmine Star 00:35:20  Check. How do you define success. And is it different than mine. Then my definition of success.

JD DelaTorre 00:35:25  Oh yeah. It's different.

Jasmine Star 00:35:28  So how do you define it.

JD DelaTorre 00:35:29  You know me I'm a Pisces I love I love peace and flow. And I think that I define success by alignment. I feel like and when I say alignment I don't mean hey tell me what aligns with you and I'll tell you what aligns with me. And then these are our alignments. No, no. Alignment is actually very I think it's tricky.

JD DelaTorre 00:35:46  I think it's it's when your purpose and your desires are expressed to me, and I figure out a way for your purpose and your desires to align with the things. How, how, how can I bring that into alignment? For example, like if I recently, there's a season in my life I'm changing where I'm like, I kind of need. I need relationships because things are changing in our in our home life and everything and business life. And I kind of wanted to meet some people. And so the alignment for you, I feel like you are you're always social. You're you're you have you build a lot of relationships. And so for you to hear more relationships, it's kind of like a, like it's not in alignment with you. Like that's like that seems like I need I need some US time. I need some different, you know, it's it's almost nine days. So how do I align I need to find alignment in that with you. And so I express it to you. And we figured out kind of a way of what that actually looks like, how I can build relationships and still stay in alignment with keeping your private.

JD DelaTorre 00:36:52  Like, you know, you love our our space and our time. And how do I honor that space and time with you and still have bring that alignment piece of building relationships like so?

Jasmine Star 00:37:02  He's being so, so, so nice.

JD DelaTorre 00:37:04  I know I don't want to call you out on highly structured that.

Jasmine Star 00:37:07  I'm.

Jasmine Star 00:37:07  Like, no, no, no, there was no details, honey. No details. We will not be digging into the details of how the deal was structured.

JD DelaTorre 00:37:13  No, it's an agreement. It's not.

Jasmine Star 00:37:15  A deal.

Jasmine Star 00:37:15  Not a deal. It's the agreement. It's an agreement. So my husband, he's not necessarily a high extrovert, but he's definitely like, he's definitely an extrovert.

JD DelaTorre 00:37:23  And I'm an introvert with just, like, an ounce of extrovert in me.

Jasmine Star 00:37:27  So either way, he tips on over to the extrovert side. And I am very, very, very high introvert. So when somebody comes to me after like we are on all the time, not all the time, we're on a lot for the business.

Jasmine Star 00:37:36  And so when he wants to expand into different types of relationships, I had this immediate trepidation. And so when you go back to what success success is, alignment. Success is allowing me and my purpose and the things that light me up to align with your desires and.

JD DelaTorre 00:37:51  Your purpose.

Jasmine Star 00:37:51  And.

JD DelaTorre 00:37:51  What lights you up for you, like your desire and your one of your purpose. This year was last year, and this year you said, I want to build a business with my family, with you guys. I want you guys to be a part of my build when I'm traveling a lot. And I know this is crazy to ask, but is there a way where we could all do it together? We could all travel together.

Jasmine Star 00:38:11  Amigos.

JD DelaTorre 00:38:12  Yeah. And? And that's for me. That's. That's a big. It's almost like a it's a big ask. It's out of alignment of. Well, I have these things with Luna that we have this structure. We have her. And then I thought, okay, how can we how what would it look like to align your desires and your purpose with how we do life? And I thought, okay, can Luna still have all the structure and all the things that she and thrive in this, in this atmosphere and yes, in this environment.

JD DelaTorre 00:38:39  And the answer is yes. So we find alignment. I feel like that's those are the. Yes. Yeah. Luna schooling like, you know, that's a huge alignment piece. We thought she was going to be in school by now. We did and we decided to homeschool her. So we did. That is another piece of alignment. Just means having a conversation about your what your desires and your purpose and then coming together.

Jasmine Star 00:39:01  So you all have been watching this podcast. I mean, listen, if you made it to if you made it to this point in this particular show, there's a there's a very good chance you've seen other one of our shows, because the average watcher is not going to be particularly interested in what it is we're talking about.

JD DelaTorre 00:39:13  However, quick answer.

Jasmine Star 00:39:14  You wanted to know, I didn't I didn't, I didn't, I didn't, I didn't, but you all will know that. Like, I don't have to get into my definition of success for us to know that our definitions are, at the core of them, the same.

JD DelaTorre 00:39:26  What is yours?

Jasmine Star 00:39:27  Well, I know, you know.

JD DelaTorre 00:39:28  I know I feel like I know yours, but in one word.

Jasmine Star 00:39:32  Well, how do you in one word, how would you describe my version of success?

JD DelaTorre 00:39:35  I actually do. Can you do that?

Jasmine Star 00:39:37  I can't, I can't in one word. Okay, okay. What I will say was at the core of what we want, our success is what JD will say was the alignment and flow. But what it boiled down to is like doing it together. And I think at the core of my version of success, even though it might be a different outward manifestation, it is still and always can we do it together? And I think that at the core of us like that, our success, if we're doing it together and you fulfilled in purposeful in one way, and I feel successful and purposeful and fulfilled in another. So the last question.

JD DelaTorre 00:40:06  Okay.

Jasmine Star 00:40:06  This is, like a time capsule question.

JD DelaTorre 00:40:10  Hey. Thank you. I want to say thank you to whoever still listening because I'm like, man, you're gonna stay till the last question.

JD DelaTorre 00:40:18  Yes. Can I? Yeah. Reach out to.

Jasmine Star 00:40:21  Me. Oh, yes. Yeah. Okay. So, you can definitely send JT an.

JD DelaTorre 00:40:27  Instagram or something.

Jasmine Star 00:40:29  Yes.

Jasmine Star 00:40:30  that is so my husband right there. That's so my husband. My husband is such a giver that, like, even if you just casually passed him in the street, like, we were in New York last week and we had passed, why am I bringing it to the story? You're going to hate me for the story because you always get embarrassed when they say nice things about you.

JD DelaTorre 00:40:44  Okay, well, hey, relax.

Jasmine Star 00:40:46  It was really nice. It was really nice. So we passed by this gentleman. And listen, passing by people in need in New York, unfortunately, is a lot more common than we would ever like to admit. And so it's like late one night and we're walking down the street and this gentleman asks us for money, and we didn't. I didn't have anything. We just had our phones as we're walking.

Jasmine Star 00:41:01  And then he's like patting his pockets and he's like, I just feel so bad. And I said, well, we just we didn't have any money. And so then JD continues to pack his pockets and he finds in a very small pocket, like $20. By this point in time, we're about a block and a half away. And so JD says stay right here. And he runs a block and a half to give this guy like $20.

JD DelaTorre 00:41:19  You know.

Jasmine Star 00:41:20  Hold on. The reason why I'm saying this is because you give everything. You give whatever you have to other people. And so now that people I know, you're embarrassed. You're embarrassed, you're okay.

JD DelaTorre 00:41:29  Okay, okay. I always like those things to be secret, but I just remember when I did that, I left you in New York at night. I remember running back to you thinking, what did I just do, leave you to leave? I left you.

Jasmine Star 00:41:39  I was kind of in, like.

JD DelaTorre 00:41:40  A.

Jasmine Star 00:41:40  Spicy area.

Jasmine Star 00:41:40  I was like, kind of like an area. It's like, you know, he was like. He went. He left. You left me to go do something nice.

JD DelaTorre 00:41:46  Yeah.

Jasmine Star 00:41:46  That was that was awful. So if I got clocked, yeah, you'd be like, man, I didn't do anything.

Jasmine Star 00:41:51  Okay, okay, okay. This is the last question. If you could describe where we're where we are and who will be ten years from now, what do you imagine.

JD DelaTorre 00:41:59  Which is going to be ten years old or. That's a girl just ten years older? I'm hoping Luna will be 15. I see us bless you. Luna. There she goes. I see us being supportive of of her dream. Whatever she's at, I had. I have a feeling that's the age where parents become taxi drivers. And I think that. Yeah, I know, I know, this is such a basic question answer for. It's just going to be I think I'm going to I, I look forward to being in support of whatever her dreams are.

JD DelaTorre 00:42:29  Probably driving her around. I see us, gosh, business has been so beautiful that I just see us still dreaming. I think that we're having conversations with really cool people, having breakthrough ideas. And I'm, I don't know, I, I, I hope we're in a place of service. I just, I in 15 years, I want to be helping people build their dream still or build their businesses. I want to travel for work as we work or even just travel for pleasure. That's great too. I want our families to do what we're doing now. Travel together, work together. Just want to be around each other. If I get that in ten years from now, that's the best. That's the dream. That's the dream.

Jasmine Star 00:43:14  So you're the dream.

JD DelaTorre 00:43:16  What do you want in ten years? No, just one thing.

Jasmine Star 00:43:19  No.

Jasmine Star 00:43:19  I know what you're doing. One thing. And I know what you're doing right now.

Jasmine Star 00:43:21  I know.

Jasmine Star 00:43:22  Hold on. Hold on. I'm going to.

Jasmine Star 00:43:23  I'm going to stop because I'm not doing right now. He feels very uncomfortable because he feels like he didn't land the plane that he wanted to. And so you're just like, what do you want in ten years so that I can land the plane and I'm not landing the plane? You did a fantastic job, and we just did it. All we did, all we did it was for documentation. That's it. That's it. We did it so that we could.

JD DelaTorre 00:43:41  No. I want to.

Jasmine Star 00:43:42  Listen.

JD DelaTorre 00:43:42  To our story. That means in ten years, we're going to.

Jasmine Star 00:43:43  Listen to this, right? That's right. And so then when we are traveling, and, God willing, when we are healthy and when we get to show for our daughter and we get to build this out, and maybe by then she's playing on a professional tennis team, maybe we're doing the world circuit.

JD DelaTorre 00:43:56  She's in a book club. She wants to go travel to, and we're going to say, let's go to the book club.

Jasmine Star 00:44:01  I ain't that rich. Folks, you get the opposite. Here I am, I'm like, she's like the future Venus and Serena. We got to get her her. We got to get her her her Nike contract. Like, let's go, let's go.

JD DelaTorre 00:44:12  You know, I'm down with that. I would love it. But that's what honestly, Jasmine, I think that you you come on. You would support her if she wanted to go.

Jasmine Star 00:44:20  Yes. But listen, if she wants to go to anime conferences, we're going to start an anime conference on her own. If she wants to be a book club, we're going to build her a library. Let's go, let's go. Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for watching and listening. I want to say thank you.

JD DelaTorre 00:44:31  Thank.

Jasmine Star 00:44:32  You, thank you, thank you for doing this.

JD DelaTorre 00:44:34  What's the time?

Jasmine Star 00:44:34  What's the time? We sat on the.

JD DelaTorre 00:44:36  Airplane.

Jasmine Star 00:44:37  And I got, I got, I got, I got a finger, I got a finger shake agreement to do this.

Jasmine Star 00:44:41  I asked for help and you pulled through majorly. And more than anything, I think of all my podcasts that I will do in 2025. This one is going to matter the most to me in ten years, because we'll get a look back and say.

JD DelaTorre 00:44:51  Yeah, you brought it in, you put it in the.

Jasmine Star 00:44:52  Capsule guy, this guy, this guy. Thank you for watching and listening to the Jasmine guys.