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NHC #44 The best way to manage stress is not to reduce or avoid it, here are 3 reasons why

June 09, 2021
Nourish Heal Connect
NHC #44 The best way to manage stress is not to reduce or avoid it, here are 3 reasons why
Show Notes Transcript

Latest research shows that stress is not all bad or harmful for you. The right kind of stress can make you grow smarter, stronger, and learn and grow. It can also inspire you to find meaning in your life and build social connections. 

This is in sharp contrast to what we usually read or hear about stress. This is a topic I cover in details in Week 2 of my course on emotional self care for women called 

 "Boost your emotional health: Build your radical self care practice"

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In this session, I share with you

1:13 All stress is not bad or harmful

1:41 A new definition of "stress" which will help you to see the good in it

3:54 Stress is more harmful in some scenarios than others

5:35 Stress can help you rise to a challenge in your life

6:26 Stress can help you expand your social network

7:14 Stress helps you to learn and grow

7:45 3 reasons why stress is good for you

8:31 It is helpful to acknowledge when you are feeling stressed

9:20 Why you should welcome "stress" and notice the underlying motivation

11:00 Embracing the "good" in stress does not mean ignoring what is harmful

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Latest science reveals that stress and making smarter, stronger, more resilient, even more successful, and helping to learn and grow three reasons why. Change the way you think about stress is going to share with you in this session so make sure that you are at the end, to learn a different way of dealing with stress instead of trying to reduce it or not,

Stress is not bad, all stress is not harmful, of course, chronic stress can be physiological effects on our body in terms of blood sugar levels in terms of inflammation, etc and that's something that actually I apply in my health coaching clients in my private coaching practice to take care of, but not to eliminate stress but to change their relationship with it and this is a particular area that I'm focusing on today. but let's start at the top.

Let's start with what stress is really. And this is a definition that I picked up from a book called "The upside of stress" by author Kate McGonigal and I highly recommend this book if you haven't heard of it. And if you would like to know more about this topic.

So she says stress is what arises when something you care about, let's take right so I want you to think about this definition. So, imagine that you have an upcoming presentation for you know for any work related stuff. And if you were not really interested or if you did not really care about how that presentation goes if you did not really care about how your, you know, performances, or how what others think of you, or how you would like to feel your after doing that presentation. Honestly, you will not be stressed about it right. If you did not care at all if you were indifferent to how the presentation went, you would not be stressed and stressed about this presentation and any other thing that is important to you if because it has some meaning for you.

 That's actually a very different kind of definition, one that is not going to look at stress in terms of being harmful, of course, as I mentioned stress can be harmful in crime, and in particular, chronic stress, but in general, stress is a natural biochemical and physiological response to trigger it helps this helped us to survive over millions of years of evolution so it has, you know it is actually vital for survival.

And if we can find a different way of connecting with stress in our lives if we can reframe the way we think about it, industry without either trying to label it as good as bad. If we can look embrace the good parts about strength, then we can have a very different kind of stress response, we can have a very different relationship, and you can become more resilient to deal with stressful situations in the future.

So stress is more subtle harmful in the following situations are present for example when it feels that, you know it's against your will. The situation instead of course it is, you know it is harmful and you're stressed. In any kind of situation which you don't have control over, of course right against your will, out of your control and utterly, you know, there's no meaning in it right so in all these scenarios of course it is extremely, you know, it can harmful.

And if we don't take some steps to acknowledge it to take care of it. It can also have long lasting impact adverse impact on our bodies but that's not what I'm focusing on today Today I'm focusing on three reasons why, and how stress can be perfect. What are the ways that stress can be good for you?

When we perceive stress to be bad, we avoid it at any cost and what it does is that it impacts our it impacts our ability to take care of, and to take action right to move forward. So instead of completely trying to avoid it in clear, you know, instead of trying to reduce it at any cost by any means.

If we can face it, if I look at it in a different way, it can really change the way you know it can, you can pick meaning, right.

First, let me get in dive into the three reasons why stress can be good for you.

So the first thing is that it helps you to rise to the challenge. So good stress, or as scientists call us, that seems to become more focused, it's you to have a heightened sense of awareness and mobilize energy to deal with the situation at hand. So think about, you know, any, any situation where if you're faced with any kind of maybe not, you know, major kind of danger but any kind of a kind of system trigger like this presentation.

It also because of the changes that take place, physiologically inside of your body, you will become more focused you can concentrate better you can have a heightened sense of awareness of how to deal with the situation. That's good. So that's the good part about it.

The second part of this is, it enhances courage, and it guides you to reach out to others connect other social networks, and ask for help, to even give support as a community,  as a species. So this is where stress can help you to the second reason why stress can be good for you, which helps you to connect with others, in your social network

The third reason why stress is good for you, it provides you an opportunity to learn and grow from any particular situation. So what happens is that as you love him as you basically can get connected with yourself, get to know your strengths, deal with a stressful situation, and learn from it you grow from those challenges, and in turn, become more resilient in dealing with stressful situations in the future.

So these are the three main reasons that I shared with you why stress. The first one is that stress in particular stress helps you to become more focused and rise to the challenge, right, it can help you to get prepared to deal with any stressful situation.

The second point was that stress helps you to connect with others, expand your social network and also support others when required.

And the third reason that I shared with you is that stress helps you to, to learn, and helps you to become more resilient to deal with such issues in the future so that you know there are things that you can.

So the first thing that you can do is to acknowledge the stress that you're facing right now that you know that all stress is not bad, you don't. You don't have to run away from it you don't have to avoid it at any cost. Instead, if you can find something that is meaningful that you can learn from it. The first step is to acknowledge the stress when you're experiencing it right, Simply allow yourself to notice what is happening and how it is affecting your body so notice any tightness in your chest in your belly, or your hands getting clammy, or wet.

You know what, what can we see your head throbbing so what happens exactly happens when you feel stressed, that's the first thing that you can use it's acknowledging instead of completely trying to avoid it.

The second thing that you do the second item that you can take is to welcome the stress by recognizing that it's a response to something that you care about right. What can you connect to have motivation behind this stressful trigger or stressful situation, what is at stake here, why is this so important to you, why is, for example, the same if I take the same example, the presentation that we know you are worried about or you're stressed about why does it have.

Why does it have so much importance? Why is it important that you do well in that right there can be so many different reasons but just connecting to those underlying reasons underlying motivation can help you to transform your relationship to that stressful situation to that strength.

And the third thing is to use that nervous energy right when again, when you're feeling stressed about something and suppose, for example, again if you talk about the upcoming presentation. As an example, you will even notice that you have this nervous energy that makes you restless. So maybe you can make use of that energy in a constructive manner inside to again wasting energy trying to get out of that mess or trying to sort of reducing, you can make use of energy to do something else, or maybe you know, just improve upon your presentation of just what should I say she got the energy by doing some exercise, maybe go for a walk.

So there are so many different ways of making use of that energy but in a constructive manner. Right. And in something that reflects your goals and values and what you want to achieve. The important takeaway here is that seeing the good in stress does not mean that you need to sort of giving up the awareness that stress can be harmful like in certain situations it can certainly be harmful.

If you let it go on for too long, if you don't take steps to deal with it right here and it continues in your life, it becomes chronic it can certainly have harmful effects. But just by learning to embrace the good parts of stress by not avoiding it completely, not completely but to reduce it at any cost whatsoever, and really transform your relationship and to manage you to become, as I mentioned the three reasons.

If you liked what I have to say make sure that you sign up for my brand new upcoming course on emotional self-care for women it's called

Boost your emotional health : Build your radical self care practice

I will be discussing, stress management, and how you can transform stress, you know, step by step manner through guided meditations, exercises and workbooks. 

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